Daf Yomi Kiddushin Daf 40 by R’ Eli Stefansky

Mordecai Simmons [Music] became a Hassan oh yeah wow he's more excited than have some shots you saw yesterday [Applause] unbelievable [Music] songs all right welcome to all the guests from alaikum what's your name [Music] yasi Sobo I have a friend you'll see someone by the way and this is not here where you from kids your name new song what's your name is welcome Wells over there welcome what's your name [Music] so I know you Avada oh right in front of you another one John where are you from also Barbara monsie from you also Brothers so you're not a guest but you're off you're back what's going on with you you're here you're here to stay okay Great Rebellion since you seem to welcome suggestions no no not this one I gotta go all the way back sorry so first of all I'm going to start off with the monthly donors here are the new ones David's stepping off 18 Joel Gordon 30. Yeshua Pirates 30 eliachier 36 Norm Rifleman 18 Anonymous person 52 Irish style is 30. Michael weitzner 18. hillebron 30 Jordan Stern back 18 Sean sax zero I don't know what that means Steve Melnick it's a mistake Steve Melnick 10. sure sharfman 52 Dr Alan listhouse 300th so I went on today and I put in 300 that was the highest one today no no first of all I didn't get any confirmation in the email because I guess I didn't put my email in but it's there well we'll have to prove it we'll have to prove it I did it this morning it's after this list came out Ryan Weissman 200. Dr alanista has once donated twenty thousand dollars towards the service I remember what it was mcgilla one of those from Lakewood then I know I'm from Passaic maybe it's somebody else high-wise in 200. mdy mdy 18 that's all mdy gave is 18. Sean Lerner 30 joino wise 207 the second one is the second is a mistake Ariel Camino Cameo of kaimov 36 is 570 people that give monthly it's a tremendous a tremendous cause to bring people to Torah what better time to do it than now during a series blitzing my name is Drago I'm definitely not someone you think learns at that but I've been here since brochus three and a half years ago towards the end of getting I started slacking really my mom sent me your WhatsApp group chat and I joined my first impression was wow this guy is way too yes for me I tried to keep an open mind you believe it some people think I'm too yeshivish and then there's people that think I'm too modernish okay whatever that's its own thing everyone my first impression was yeah but I try to keep an open mind that after the second half I must say due to your charismatic nature I just can't stop watching if see the last thing I watched before I go to sleep or what I watch on my commute to work right now I'm not in position to donate for business Instagram I will be soon since I don't want to be a freeloader you're a boy's eye there's freeloaders that's people that give it's two types of people givers and freeloaders yes freeloaders I have time I can donate and I'm good with AI maybe I can share some of Yoshi's burden or anything else beautiful I'm impressed I'm located in New Jersey let me know the thing I love most is that you keep it real thank you best regards dragon all right but Shiva says and this is something we're going to be learning hopefully today so I like this Ezra I'm solemn my roshiva says a few times a year time can I get coulomb that's it it's equal to all the 612 remaining Mitzvahs he often says that one word of Torah is more than two years of wearing filling how this 365 days in a year the kids if you take off all the Young Thug husband there's 590 days in two years that you wear tilling we see that one word 613 of Torah is worth more than two years of filling hope this makes sense as himself uh so yesterday we had the bronze sitting right over there I didn't like introduce them because he's here A bunch of times already but I I forgot to say the tremendous his kids his kids went out and bought my son a bar Mitzi present what do they buy a very thick book about the history of dafyami with pictures beautiful pictures of Ramesh appear going all the way back all the newspaper articles and that's what I'm reading now and I'm fascinated by it just all these ideas and he talks about it's not about the dove it's about the yomi and he says you should give a dollar a day and like wow it's unbelievable like he came up with these cops way before us how many chapters are there oh talking about me this is another book that has chapters about me we're not going to go into it right now the ribness cerebral book just came out I'm not going to ask me to read a certain chapter I know this is talking about it and I refused so you could read that chapter it's in the new book and art scroll coming out so it came out already yeah all right okay oh yeah I wanted you to read it yeah I'm not gonna I'm not going to read it you know you read it you read it you read it I'm not reading in no way listen there's a limit to gaiva the certain when you're straight out about Guyver [Music] okay so I'm gonna I'm gonna read it because our other app is such an honor of that we we have to do it for him Ellie gave gives the death daily that is watched by thousands of years across the globe what is it called so though my father is he says was one rep he admired went out of his way to visit on a regular basis that was the witness around the story very short very short because I wanted because you're such an honor I wanted to make it short okay so during one of the visits the rep is holding me I'm just going to skip around a little and he said this child is going to go up to become one of the girlier door so then you said obviously my father a great time was happy to hear from this from the rebbe and he used to remind me of this a few years after I was married you were living in Chicago and you started going to work you said how am I going to become a girl though right I'm just paraphrasing myself over here how could it become a godliff I left Kayla became about the boss yet today decades later I could say the rebbe understood that one day I would have this of establishing what has become the largest here in the world and wow and wow look at me look at me three colors look at this I mean I don't know maybe I don't know if I should say that maybe I should say you are a girl I'm in contact with thousands of Youth on a daily basis through the teller I teach it seems to me this is what they're up you meant when he uttered those cryptic words all those years ago page 326 in the remnancer I never saw those I said wow I hope I didn't say that [Laughter] it is what it is hold on this is a perfect time to say tree love for my kids this person right over here it says on top I I didn't erase his emails so don't look at it so much Alex at something it says on the it says Netflix cancellation and they ask you why did you cancel he writes because my money's going to mdy instead [Applause] nice to show you it's in there Sim Rosenberg hey rebelly stop mockingjas I love this this is this is typical typical it used to be typical stop marketing anybody heard me mac I was bringing awareness not mocking it's it's not like cooler it's if you don't know history the holy Bach wasem in this generation before he had a walk through the gehennim for that if you know the story so I'm saying I'm trying to tell him history he's telling me history okay but by now it's a hundred percent cautious today became 100 that passing the tire I'm just paraphrasing like nothing does that passing the Torah is not important to us today I think that the only guy with Fox have over hasidum bar Hashem is the only guy that he says it's the only Guyver they have nothing else wherever they go they say is that's the guy of Elizabeth so if you worry about is it eraser think about holstam we're worried about it [Music] this guy very weak Hatter very weekend by the way I really enjoy the sheer keep it up so no seriously he brings in half Stam which is my stomach is to the right side I didn't learn it yet but it's probably also the rising somewhere but I that eat Hall of Stam I'm not proud of it and I know that I'm sorry and I'm hoping for the day that I'll be Miss Gathering myself and I won't need that those uh half Stam chocolates and Haagen-Dazs ice cream whenever you correct and the fact that I shave I don't don't say oh it's I understand where I'm at and I'm not holding on the madrigue yet I want to be there but to say about it is just means you're ignorant and you don't know what's going on so you need to be aware I'm just making you a weird Sadiq there's a is there Isa and it's coolest and you want to take the coolest and use it is fine and I don't think that the single closet that's watching is going to change I just want awareness so you understand the history you should understand the history there's a passing the Torah and something changed since that position and now somebody sent me last night from Los Angeles sent me this beautiful clip it's a very long I'm not going to share with you this is oh it's already 7 30. I see Mindy looking at his clock we're gonna go but I need to show once we're in it let me just show a clip from her value yourself son little negative and he goes like this here's some value Maybe they are not allowed of course because of the subhanahu communities they followed the hotel but even the hotel of uh um as I said 90 of the rabbi didn't accept and the the rabbis that said it is allowed themselves they said because it was high enough it was almost before never for them they didn't have food to eat but now now we have many many things as well when we can keep of course we have to follow it 100 percent and therefore they're asking us also in our time they have to follow it and I want to tell you okay um it goes on and on but I'm happy that I've never heard anybody speak about it like this and I'm just happy there's somebody else that at least okay I got another email that marking why you next because I said that joke over there I got another email this day today they're mocking women this woman went on the dive She Was preparing her daily daf and she decided to go on and I made a joke about women and how could I dare do it and her her nephew watches okay so it's it's not it's not been a good week for me all right so let's learn something here we are sponsors I have a boy that also and we only have a very short daf today it's not very long just to Sleepless at 9 30 today the this the I skipped it yesterday lack of Liberty families living in Jersey coasters are the best singular Paris for the test return normal and my family are you sure you also Professor normal you change that you messed it up okay let's say it again as this horse that he should have a reek until 120. for the success of the children Iran Orel and Eden on his 45th ascara for everyone Feinberg in honor of 50 of shots yesterday I'm a test but I go with David feinbergson for the first time for my father Jerry Joseph and Mary um Ellie Friedman another my engagement to dino weltman Simmons and the art our artist has covered and been mysterious she did one piece Mama's under crazy uh um whatever two o'clock in the morning with fever and everything he did one piece for us AI we are holding I have no idea somewhere in Limitless right oh so it's like six lines from the bottom of Limitless Romney by Toby by RAV kisna Romi raftuvi barav raftovi asked a contradiction by kissing to Robert nah it says in our mission this is the sugya that explains us why why we learned that why do we learn Tyra I hope we get to it says in our mission if you do one Mitzvah they do good to you so Smash Mouth you have to do a Mitzvah notified there if a person sits and doesn't do another noise without doing anything so you don't have to do a Mitzvah even if you don't do a mitsui gets hot song three lines from the bottom or you could start from the beginning listen to this says if a person has a baby right in front of him and he doesn't do that Vera listen to this lotion there's no greater Mitzvah in the world than one controlling his Yates or not doing an Avera you hear this Rashi we have to say it again this is the greatest Mitzvah ever okay yes that's what Rashi just said here if you have an Avett right in front of you you want to say the shinhara yeah and you don't say it greatest Mitzvah ever the New York explains it's oh so we'll see in a second uh with a good uh High position of authority she invited him to do navera Omar Milsa he said like the Shema Shem or maybe he said kishovic his whole body became disgusting so she did a counter kishov to make witchcraft to make him healthy she wanted him orac he ran away jumped into a bath house this was not summer bathans even if two people walked in there a film they would be damaged in other words a very dangerous place in my zikim foreign [Music] was walking in the dark at night you notice myself you're from South Africa also she sees uh a big bad guy coming towards her and immediately she started thinking like and said if you have it sorry you think about hey just think it she thought it started and the guy went right by her but yeah yeah man they called her in for Testimony this guy was a murderer and they found out that she was there and whatever with the video I don't know what the story was she came in she testified so they asked her if you're such a murderer how come he didn't touch you they asked him this guy he said what do you mean when she was coming towards me she had two bodyguards I couldn't I wasn't gonna start up with her think about it I have these noisy cases of that famous myself Maybe [Music] I didn't maybe you he's from South Africa here's the Maison hear the mice he also from South Africa older myself okay yes look the two South Africans behind you too call that ball no that's gonna say it was my mother okay okay what do you mean how did you maybe you had a terrible what type of memo with olive maybe you had an Australian with erva and you ran away and then a club also explains that a person who acts media it's me to connect with me though when you go against to go with the guitar and you're able to to control it who does above and beyond Teva and gives you special Nissan and shmira Etc foreign they do is is word of people that acted like each other like yes also another person in very high position Rashi says that she was able to kill him had he not listened to her she would kill him or my laws my heart is weak I can't right now is there something he's pushing you off a little bit or Malay it could divide Tommy I have a piece of trays in the fridge I can make I could do it for I could cook up a meal for you or my law might not give me enough a few times I had the I don't know if it's an opportunity I spoke to younger baham they said listen I already go to the movie theater so I'm really such a shake it I might as well be Mahal Chavez or that's a i somebody literally told me that in New York but here in the neighborhood I already did this in this interview so I might as well just go off completely it's not true guys they're showing one thing it's one thing or very saying if I'm already gonna foreign so she lights up the fire command she puts the steak inside the oven he jumps into the to the to the to the oven armor lay my high what are you doing if I'm going to be over with you I'm gonna go into Gahanna so are you allowed to kill yourself not to be over with a guy so it's a whole need done here but one thing is certain River was a very famous person and if a famous person gets caught doing such an act there's no greater Hashem that people learn from your deeds and they do the same thing they're going to do the same mice they're going to be over any student so for that you could look how you kill yourself as we're going to see other mices people kill themselves not to believe I would have know that it's so horrible the famous Rap God he was very very poor says later but we had a different Studio we arrived I forgot what Ralph told him to do he said you should sell something really I don't remember Trey sells something something with meat I think I forgot what it was it was very very important so the last breera he sold bags for women he put himself in a bad position again another matroniso came and propositioned him she invited him on my law Hazel you know what uh let me get dressed here let me look good sorry we can offer me iguero Lara he went up to the roof jumped off the roof I'll say Leo cabling it's a very interesting lotion because he jumped off the roof so how long does it take to get from the roof to the bottom it takes a second so to get an obvious second to get there flaps his wings but then he always says right but it's only a second for him right okay but you should know he came from four 400 Pirates away foreign because I was there so I don't want to go for you but it's a second based on on if it took you a second to get from here to here okay okay you know what caused me love and you saw how did I become involved with this woman because she bought a bag for me and I'm selling bags to women I should have another job I should be selling things to men but I don't have a choice I'm poor so he gave him a bunch of golden coins and set him free this is the famous Rap God romiley Robert asks this is every morning with a different variation this is the mishnah the first mission inceptus Paya is right here just we say it a little different based on a Bryce so it's not a hundred percent what are the things you eat in this world but you also get in the next world peace between two people and I looked it up again this morning based on the rambam it doesn't mean tamatoya like I always thought is the highest tamatory equals all the misses together can I get coulombs foreign it's the same regardless of message yeah you're right it should have been in there but we so usually my Italian goes on a different route here is which is a mute only these oh my brother you're right it's not supposed to be in the mission why Ravi the Asbury explains it to me Halo this isn't that are you good automatically what do you mean you're a static that's not good um when you do good club Ishmael and also with his children that's a good side if you are a tadiq and that's bad to the other people like what's a good muscle I don't have good massage but you know the guy that puts on his towels and whips the guy next to him or the guy that doesn't makes everybody wait for him or the guy that damage at the doorway it was myself one of us by the doorway and there's no ear then you know what they're gonna she went over to me said he whispered in his ear during so this is you're doing a tit kiss but at the same time you're hurting somebody I don't know if that's these are all good things right what correct I know I just had to stick it in there yeah but we're not even looking for example it's not really the real challenge I had to stick it in come on oh there's a there's a Sadiq that does only clubishamaya it does between him and Hashem and doesn't do for the tibur so Mela we're talking about you look at can is between him and the Ruben he's not doing anything so that that's why it's not involved it's not in the mission the mission is talking about things keep it out of aim is helping another individual's father all these things okay uh also says there's such a thing if he's a bad rusher he kills people he steals from people so not only is he doing against hurting human beings he's a Russian it's none of your business he's not doing it to me he's what's between him and Hashem he eats trafe that's between the Hashem so he's a Russia but not a Russian rap is that Russia you have the principal and you also have the dividends you have parents in other words in addition to what you deserve because your boyfriend gives even more avarius the Karen Baylor parents if a person doesn't have very talks or Shannara so he gets a Zeds for that but not more money that has long-term effect such as if an important person doesn't have Vera people learn from him and that has payrolls it has dividends in the in the Avera the very continues of payroll is yeah okay I'm not going to mention the story it's not a good one it's not I have a friend that did a terrible he went off the Derek and did a terrible thing that it's a it helps people continue going off to Derek and then he became about chuva and now he doesn't know what to do with his life he's in such a turmoil he did something stupid when he was young and now he's really really from and he writes for him and this but sometimes you have you do something that has payrolls continues in in Mitzvahs and in a various foreign Park he's the one that came over to me first with this lotion he came over introduced me to khasid he said this is this one this is my eye they look a little older than you know they had white beards he said no I brought the guy that brought them so this is my 9 o'clock that's Paris that's when you have a good thought you're thinking oh I'm Gonna Learn chess and even you have an audience you know he's wrong because I've saved his regardless those who thought about his name asked he had something occur and he couldn't do the midst of it I saw and he didn't do it because Barbara was going to treat it as if he did it so this we think we know what this is why is there a time that he is we'll see doesn't as a general rule doesn't consider it as if he did it you want to do that Vera you want to become Travis and you weren't so he's not going to be tired if I see it in the heart doesn't listen to it the the Paris of the thoughts is a pre if it's that he falls through with it oh that's the word it follows through he had him up showing him how Shabbos five minutes later than he is I'm going to go to a bad place and at then he never ends up going so then he doesn't get a punishment for them we're gonna see later it almost seems like it's because he's the chuva what if he didn't go to the bad plays because he missed the bus is that awesome let's see let's continue a few lines voices basis in their hearts we had this person yesterday when it comes like corn blue set that is saying that I don't believe in you you you go against something dessert you believe it you go with it is that hummer Dominos by heart person doesn't have hair over and over it becomes like that the problem is that it becomes so simple thing that I'll do it over and over without even thinking about it and therefore what Rabbi saying let's say a person talks a lot of and he thinks about talking Russian horror and he doesn't he gets in a very thinking about the LA Shannara why because he it's so much to him all the time alone is also for him foreign public he should do it if he can in a private place is my name this is a very very famous gamara um a person sees that he can't control so you should go to a place that nobody knows him should wear dark clothes and cover yourself on your face says Rashi that itself will bring you into Sahara down you're not you're not wearing your fancy suit with your tie you're wearing simple black clothes and he said then he should go to a place and and do what he what he wants to do and this then he thinks that he can do whatever he wants it's not like that but uh there's a miser that uh another guy in the coyote told me this is a famous thing that uh a guy sitting in a stadium watching uh they call it football we call it soccer because he's watching a game in the stadium and a guy comes over and says I'm wearing a leather jacket I'm wearing the captain what do you mean how did you hop that uh that I'm part of milha he says no no when you sat down with your leather jacket you went like this okay I'll go upon him you should do a bit thinner don't don't don't do it right so say so the obvious question is we always say that a god of gosling don't do batena what are you gonna do I various dress is that any one if you don't care about the urban it's better that you shouldn't have been born you shouldn't look at the rainbow which whatever the reason is it has some resemblance or I shouldn't even use those words and it's whatever it is you don't look at the the rainbow you shouldn't like stare at it or you shouldn't take more dresses you think that virtual is not watching you you're in your private room at the rabbit that's a that's a that's a that's kilo you don't believe in everybody like cashier holiday today if a person could control himself and he goes into the room that's a brow if a person cannot control himself then he should go to plays with his noiator now it seems from this gemara that this is something called that he can't control himself yes there's something called that you can't control himself but a person is still going to get an onus for bringing himself to that position I'm not controlling himself who told you to look at this who did they go here who told you let's say with ref Kyle who told him to work with women whatever the situation is you come to a point where ah I can't I can't control you're right at that point you can't control it doesn't mean you're gonna be absolved of that Vera because you put yourself in that position to to not be able to record but what you should do and that point is then do it also I'm not a hundred percent uh you know if you have something to say about it I would love to hear but a lot of people think that if you go in public with the yamaka and you pick your nose that's and it's possible that that's not I think I believe kill Hashem is when you teach other people that it's okay to do a various when you when you teach people about a very Hashem stealing baraben that's close because he's saying okay I steal you could also steal but acting weird acting like going like this that I don't know is a closer huh yeah a various a virus okay but that's in the in the gather of a very talk about feeling you're talking about this what do these rats say no right but picking your nose that's what I'm saying when you pick your nose is you represent something correct for picking your nose you don't have manners you don't have uh whatever okay that's what I'm saying I'm not 100 sure I think we have to be like between an Avera and me having a a torn shirt and looking like a slum is that Hashem okay huh everybody's arguing with me so you might be right okay fine we'll talk about it different time foreign [Music] we have one minute and it's more than enough time for this sponsored followers and in honor of my uncle Rebecca and Pressman I believe that he'll be happy with that lotion because we only have one minute left yeah how you should view Mitzvahs if you view yourself that you're not that good like they say about people listen to him that he used to do every day and he used to say Israel mayor yes yes today for two minutes or whatever 10 seconds and he says okay so what am I I'm 50 50. and then he he played this whole game of customer NFS and sometimes he did a leviath himself and go to the point is a person should always think I'm 50 50. now if I if I'm gonna learn this daf gamara now I'll be able to to tip the scale this way if I do this in this video I'm gonna be able to this guy this way it's a way to view your life is great it'll tip the scale that way we'll see in a second one Avera is all it takes one misses all takes one hat could destroy tremendous amount of good destroys so he says this is a better way to look at it it says you are the world we're all on the ship sailing to the same exact place and if you think for a second that you're on the ship and you can make a giant hole in the bottom of your room and it's not gonna affect everybody else so you have a big mistake you make a hole water comes in brings down the entire ship is you're bringing the Whole World Cup scores you you're one Mitzvah could could decide the whole world you bring everybody down you're not just bring yourself down that's what you have to think he says what's the biggest Hazard a person could do Rabbi well the first thing a person can do for himself is become a Tamil by because you bring go to the whole world how do we know this the rinion it says that uh it's kadai to teach people one thing not to be quite from that what if a person thinks that doesn't do good for me then he's a kaifer this is why because Apostle says by his time that a question would save the entire time so you see that if you don't believe that you're kaifer you understand that so if you bring yourself to Torah yourself you bring good to the world that's the biggest cousin you bring to the world and to yourself to your family the world you bring somebody else that's also a very nice thing very very good tap tap thing yeah his father says entire life and at the last day of his life he Rebels against the Republic showing us he loses everything foreign they're not going to discuss what he did why does he lose everything when he does Juan aveiro when he does he's rebelling against it should be at least 50 50. um when a person has about what he did before says that this is the concept of a Taurus when a person is there what does he do he says everything I said before is off it's retroactive so he says unbelievable lotion akirus when you have an Akira you you uproot your will then it's like you on did your mice and did he have I thought about myself I just hopped today I once did a tremendous thing for someone I went and then I shot myself for somebody and what happens when you do a lot of concern for somebody usually what does the guy do back smacks you in the face usually this guy he after all this I meet him I said I heard you uh made a bar mitzvah he says yeah I said so why don't you invite me now I was actually very happy he didn't because I don't have time for that but he says what do you mean you didn't give me this year like you gave me the year before like are you so you went home I was like wow what a shame I ever dealt with this guy what uh what a jerk like all this time that I spent with this guy and not not in the smallest soccer nice and Mama's made a mistake I erased everything when you say that guy because he's not there that's it there was a very famous uh politician here in there Joshua let's just say let's say one of the airports was named after him so as he died guys get off the Army and so even if there was a mitzving what he did even if he was yeah that's what he said yeah let those women off what a shame so I'm saying if he if you Circle to that source of letting those guys learning Yeshiva whatever you race it all right are we stopping here unfortunately [Music] supported too you guys can come at 9 30 I'll be here at 10 o'clock position the boys I have a wonderful day a wonderful Shabbos