Daf Yomi Kiddushin Daf 2 by R’ Eli Stefansky

good morning round boys welcome welcome to all the guests I myself was away in Hustler just got back last night so welcome to me it's great to be back but I want to welcome this is a number that you can't take lightly it's uh it's unbelievable 1 200 new people joining the daf today [Music] thank you one thousand two hundred and one he's just joining oh we got you we got you we got you covered the in those 1200 it's not all new there's about 300 people that recommitted and I have to give a tremendous issue kayak to all the mustache first of all welcome to the family you'll see that it's not just another daf it's umacher you feel part of something people go out of the way to help you but it's the people from the daf that went out and got other people to join whether they set up booths they made phone calls people realized what it means to bring another person to Torah and [Music] I hope that people continue to do it and today is not too late you can still call somebody talk to someone convince him to join for tire up I have to give a big issue while I was away the staff the people behind the scenes Joseph biliac who edited urim through the night thank you we had Mark Ashkenazi in New York who was doing all the behind the scene Tech stuff and then he went there to Israel so I just want to tell you a story of the way people are dedicated to this year of Remy Cohen asked that he'd be woken up every single morning at 3 30 in the morning which coincided with the share in Chicago for two weeks so I woke him up we'd wake him up and say yeah I'm doing and he got on and he did it but that's not it this Friday I called him up I said you know I'm starting sheer soon who's gonna do it and it's going to be Shabbos and he's like I just got out of surgery he came out of stomach surgery on Friday without telling me and he insisted to do it but other people got on and but he was there the nurse said he's crazy but that's the dedication that we have so much we have Gary Ben Moshe that was on many times many many people behind the scenes that worked so if you notice there's something very new in the basement as you walk in you'll see the brand new cheers [Music] these exact cheers I was in negotiation with the company and was over twenty thousand dollars and a belski from New York walked in here one day he says you know I sell cheers I do cheers I want to donate to Cheers it's no coincidence that today the very first day that we're using these chairs basically is the same day okay the island was here I have to say there was an oil on every day I heard how many people were here you can see on the back of every chair there's a hey you know what maybe I didn't do this but we'll do it for him first of all look at these look at these beautiful chairs oh okay so it's the same day rabbi's side that his own son over half a year ago sent him money because he wanted to dedicate himself so the Father and Son both dedicated similar amounts to mdy it's aggression oh you know what I have a picture of them actually let me show you real quickly that's a belski on the left mati belski donated kidujin in the center in the Sano belski no I'm kidding signal Gans on the right for doing everything what I don't know what that is so oh zebby the brother you're right this is Evie um I want to talk about usually when we started masecta go through different ideas and different but boys here can't believe it after surgery again in person [Applause] I decided today we're gonna do only one concept one one idea about that and because we have so many new mistatives we have over 1200 people and as I was speaking destroy me from Muncie he was giving me updates and he said in the last five minutes seven more people were at it and every every 10 minutes the numbers kept on growing because it's crunch time right now so I don't know what the numbers are right now but those 1200 people you hear knows that the daf is going to change your life it's going to give you consistency in your life it's going to make you a better person so he's out there to get you when we identify the number one reason how he gets you to fall off the bandwagon and we could conquer that reason then we could beat him and this Rabbi Sai is the number one antidote today Sahara and it is as follows let me just show you here a um a little bit of a thing this was uh this is just a billboard in New York mdy media you started conditioning Shiva now finish with Rebellion that was one of the answers going around but there's another one and that is Skip now catch up later let me explain [Music] the idea is that a person who starts to dive and starts strong it's natural to miss a daf there's a simcha or this is the opposite of a simha you go on vacation sometimes you forget to bring your gemara you miss a daf you miss two three that the trick is that the Atara has it's very simple he tells you you got to make it off you can't make a cm how are you gonna make a scene with a hole you have a hole you gotta be perfectionist and then what happens is you're on your own pace and before you know it you're down for death you're in the whole Seven daf Ten daf and then you sets it the idea is skip now catch up later if you listen to this idea don't be Ibraham because we had people here they told me I'm different and I'm gonna catch up until this very day they're trying to catch up and they haven't caught up but if you skip you're missing three dots just go where everybody else is find out where the dive is holding you go there eventually you'll make it up you know why because by the end of the merciful you're going to say wait a minute what about mycium shops comes you'll make up a daf here you make up there that is the answer I'm telling you if you listen to this you'll still be on board when we finish Shas razor Hashem so let's see that one more time oh here we go I hope that's not what happens with you guys but it even it happens some people even miss that bass skip now catch up later everybody said many of you have seen this video just came out two days ago and if you have seen it I ask you Michaela but there's a little bit of a Twist at the end that maybe you don't know and if you haven't seen it it's good night to see it now and I'll explain everything when I finish it's uh three minute video so here you go you ready hi I'm Ellie stefanski and I'd like to share with you a very personal story we moved 30 straw and as soon as we got to Earth's roll we had a personal family crisis which took me out of learning for literally two years there were days upon days which I didn't even open up a safer on March 13 2016 I heard that the fioimi is starting and I said to myself enough with the excuses let's get back into the daf let's start it up let's go so after dropping off my children right here in school I looked over and I see this meditation world I said this is a gevalica place to start that fioni I walked into the basement dish and I couldn't believe my eyes a hundred and fifty talking and learning stagging away and there's almost not a seat to be found so I went up and down the aisles until I found a seat and I opened up my circus Michelle is dropping the cleaners asthma which they drop him right back to the Yeshiva days and so I came back for another day and another day I all of a sudden realized out of the 150 people sitting in the basement only 10 people were learning dafyami and I happened to sit directly in the center of that I turned to the fellow next to me and I asked him a question which I thought was a bomb question in milliseconds he answered it just like that and I said wow you're right so I went back to the drawing board I thought okay let me come up with something bigger and stronger and so I turned them and I said hey what about this and once again brushes it off after a few days I realized that this fellow next to me is a huge huge diamond hockham and I have a lot to learn from him so I asked them you have time to learn with me maybe without hesitation he said sure let's learn and so for the past almost seven and a half years we hardly missed a day that day March 13 2016 is the day that my life made a 180. I realized that an hour a day wasn't going to cut it so I added 20 minutes and after a few weeks I saw that wasn't enough so I had another 20 minutes eventually I was learning full-time with encouragement of my unbelievable habrusa ready Kramer I started giving a sheer a synopsis of all seven daf of that week on Thursday nights and after a few years I started giving the sheer that which is today America is and the rest is history thank you I'm just a regular typical balabas who's Duffy consistency has changed the trajectory of my life if I can do it I promise you you can do it as well in just a few days is starting all over again it's one of everybody's favorite shots please I encourage you to join us you'll get a free gamara you'll get a new life starting now [Music] that means today thank you today is [Music] yeah yeah yeah yeah [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] yeah [Music] yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah [Music] relax bring out the schnapps we got we got a package so first of all our voice is literally if you look at your sha set we did 10 volumes and we have 10 volumes to go there's another thing it's big big I'm not going to say anything I don't want to call anybody out on the first day of condition but it's big think about it if you know somebody that needs a uh how do I know it I just made it up but it probably is it's brought down in the spot him and Gabriel if gethin is this Gula for get married okay whatever so yeah yeah big wedding so yeah okay you're all invited yeah by the way just two other small things that if you notice I don't I didn't go through every tices and shots but I'm assuming that is brought down more often proudly than any other masecta enticevest Etc even though it only consists of three percent of shots so if you learn yourself this condition which is only 80 Days you'll basically if you're new to dafyami You'll almost inquire acquire this unbelievable habit because it takes about 90 days to acquire a good habit 80 Days that's 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everybody every one of these words is going to be discussed in the gemara why does it say Isha not her ish why I say nickness not miss Kardashians why I say instead of why I say everywhere because Torah every word is precise and that's the way it goes and usually in the beginning of the sector we have a very technical daf and this is one of them but we're going to learn a lot of beautiful Allah's on the way happens to be that the Lord says that one should be mechaddish a woman with a ring ham and the first one is because she is kind of herself meaning the woman is nikna she becomes author to the whole world in three ways and she acquires herself back that she's motive to everybody in two ways nickname you take money or something of the value of money and you give it to the woman in front of Adam and you say why do we do a ring because Ronaldo says that's the minute why first of all we do a ring without a stone because if there's a stone we don't know the value and she might have dust on the stone so a simple ring but as long as she knows it's golden has value but why ring says that you give her a ring because if you gave her something else it's not with her a ring is with her to remind her on a daily basis that she's makudish to this man the coin assassins star is the same thing as cassav in other words it doesn't have the value of any value at all doesn't it just a piece of paper but it saysly and you give it to her in front of Adam relations happens to be that it's awesome said it's awesome you get Marcus if you do it it's pizzas but that's one of the ways of Kenya because how much value now there's a there's a needine could you give actual cash to a woman I read them conditionally in 200 bucks so this is actually this needle is going back to the time of the gemara when passive was cast it was real silver real gold that says that you could use money what about an hour days where the money has zero value it's just something that they used to have gold in the bank today not even that could you cannot so it is a Shiloh people discuss it but I found very very interesting I don't know if lilim knows this that in Yemen and timan the minute was to give a cup of wine with the ring inside the wine give it to her she drank from it the ring inside and they explained because the ring is something that lasts forever supposed to last forever so give her something value to last forever but you also want to give her something that she has another second that was a minute not recommended my swallow might have a stickle problem dinner how much a dinner you can give apruta which is a nominal amount the smallest amount that we that has value of puta happens to be a dinner is 192 times a pruter in other words according to basilla you can be mikadish 192 women with bechami's amount as it says how do we even know that you can do a shower brutal value from the ever delivery we learn the Kami Bruto 's points out also that a dinner everybody knew how much dinner is but how much is a fruit though or maybe we passed it like be silo an eighth of the Italian Issa Atma she could acquire herself to marry somebody else beget with a get we just finished getting Uber and with the death of her husband she acquires herself the famous story with the Rubik Cube of Edgar he was trying to giving somebody to give a get and the individual refused to get so he told him the mission says that a woman could acquire herself in two ways with a get and Mrs you choose so you guys said I'll see you later he walked out of the best then and dropped dead that's the mice a famous Miser about nickname so before we go here let's go here so it goes like this is a process in which you have two brothers two Bowman Brothers was looking to have one of them here today and we're gonna do something terrible with them soon it's not him mamish we gotta get away from that actually start over is the situation you have two brothers and one of the brothers married a woman let's call her the five Towner and they didn't have children and one of the brothers Ruben went bye-bye so shiman the other brother who's always Usher to marry his sister-in-law and if they have children she's offered to him in this situation they could do either yibum or halitza I have the khalisa shoe why not let's use it it's the actual shoe so the yavam guy wears the shoe she removes it from him spits goes through the whole process or their zebum that relations and that's the only way to be kaina ayovama now Rashi points out that there's a concept called mimer this we have for the new people let's see if you want if you weren't watching this year yesterday so getting that sadik all the way at the end it took me 18 minutes but I went through the Musa when we started only to have something all the Italians about a hundred Musa game it was like 11 seconds of music go through and it's a tremendous Hazard it gives you what's right what's brero what's get kirayak Musa all these things you go through the home stuff don't want shots could die maybe to look at it so we'll start here mimer is the concept that when you have Brothers that ivama fell to them in our case there was one brother but if you have let's say multiple Brothers one of the brothers went and gave the ivama hidushan he gives her money that's called mimer it's kiduche de rabbana it says in the mission there's only one way to acquire ivame that's through Bia but there is another way through money mimer especially but he doesn't he's not really Kinder all he does is he makes it also for the other brothers to marry her but he cannot inherit her Etc and if he does do mimer then for that mimer you would require a get to get out of it and the khalitza you would be required to do because she's still in Obama so you need both khalid's gonna get I evolvement Against there's multiple Brothers they all have to die so now the gemara goes into the language of the mishnah so we're going to skip the first word we're going to get to the first word Aisha why not ish a little later but the second word nakedness sounds like buying there's a Hassan yes versus Shiva what should I be makhaven my wife the receiver didn't like it like what are you hacking right now just be mikadish he's told him and you have to understand he wasn't trying to put down or he said what are you when you buy tomatoes now he wasn't comparing a woman to tomatoes he was saying the same way that you don't you know when you go to the store in China like but we're gonna see that's not like that it's not a Kenyan like oh I acquired her she's my shift we're talking about conditioner to answer her to the rest of the world says again [Music] interesting that the first parakeet conduction is it's exactly 40 daf in fact in the art scroll it's the next volume in the art scroll so that first mission uses a lotion of kadushan the the themselves should be called uhm Ed we use the logic in the second parrot over here we're using lotion of Kenya why is it foreign so yesterday I was actually on a plane until the evening and I just want to show you real quickly behind the scenes usually we don't do this on the first day but why not I thought it was interesting this is the napkin I had the piece of paper I had so I drew this and then I said okay but I got internet and I sent this to Yoshi okay ignore the word yibon that was from my my other thing that I was doing nickname so here here goes so he took that and put it put it in here it says Russian King you know why because how do you acquire a woman one of the ways is with passive how do you know you could acquire a woman with kessef you could acquire uh tomato with question how do you know that you could acquire a woman with kessef because we had a famous XXX and what does the word means opinion and therefore we use the lotion of Kenyan so okay it's a few steps here it says Kenyan because one of the things is cursive how do you know you can do KSF through xero Shava and Alexander is what and means Kenyan okay we'll have some questions I'm going to answer them in a second um this happens to be probably the most asked question in history on how am I going to make paranasa what's going to be Castleman how do you know that inkidution you can use casaph maybe you have to use a star how do you know money works it's actually very interesting that money would work so this could be somebody in Chicago asking to do this so I'll do it for him there are other places and shots that use this zeroshava and actually these others when it comes in in Hulen I think it was one of himself as we we had it had to do with corbanas okay who gave him certain words it's not for us to decide these words we can't decide these are special words Hashem said you take this word and you compare it to that word and put the two words together whatever you have over here you have over here so since we have the word is when it comes to marrying a woman it says he takes a man takes a woman foreign so just like when you buy a field you use money so too and you but when you acquire a wife you can use money I'm gonna tell you sooner because that's going to explain it a lot deeper when I understand what this is it's not tomatoes and the word means now let me ask you a question very simple question the places all the way in the bottom asks if Kenyan so why does it says what if they go to another word we're learning from so use the word why are you going to word of Kenyan this is because of the second part the coin is atsma you can't say if you're going to use a word of the safe is gonna have to say also word and there is no a woman doesn't acquire herself by purchasing yourself back from her husband if her husband dies she becomes independent to marry anybody else she's not acquiring so the coin assassin she acquires herself but she doesn't she's not doing a king and she's not looking at herself foreign Navi the first positive obviously isn't homish so we start off with the person Comics but this is a better possible for us because it says straight out so there is no how do you buy a field with kassef so therefore it says in the mishna taniqueness that's why I use the lotion thickness now basically sponsored by the MD white there's a bunch of people that got together and they said they want to do Taylor and our mdy family to join us to heal him.amindav.com next Wednesday so now we're not going to talk on an Aboriginal but if that's such a proper word for kadushan so how come the second peric doesn't say also used over there lotion of King that might be even more appropriate for us and it's called kedushan we might listen to rabanon when you marry a woman she becomes Usher to the whole world as if you're taking this object and you say this object is no one else could use it if you use it so to a woman and think about the lotion that we say what does Lee mean because of me because of me you're my kudus and also to the entire world is talking about the first word of the mission is why does it talk about the woman talk about the man just like what's the most question just like in the second peric it talks about the man so over here also it should be talking about the man foreign one of the two ways is when the husband dies and that when the husband dies the love you come back and he does nothing he has no say in the matter he has no say he can say oh I'm about to make you acquire Yourself by my death in a minute that's if I would use the Lawson that the man is kind of I think you can just walk over the woman and we call you back similar to where we find about karkha ibum us so think that every condition is to teach you that the woman has a full say over here you need her dads you need a rot sign and if not it's not kiddushan oh okay I hear are you saying so this is foreign yeah so the ballroom here in the neighborhood were trying to press someone here that they learned so you start asking them questions that's that and they only learned a few Daft that's man and they weren't doing so well on the on the test so they decided to flip the the questions and they asked him and said it says nigamora that you can acquire um how do you know how do you know that you can't maybe you could what does it say in the tire the mishna says saying uh you see that only by yiboom maybe this okay so Rashi on the side if you look at Rashi and liquidity Rashi says he brings it brings the Russian environment it seems from the possible so she goes and she becomes to somebody else another man you need a rotten then he brings another rash here from definitely you need her Das the thing is they're a bit of eager that's the question we know that Locker is to Louis Vuitton if you force somebody at good point to sell you something it's considered a good a good Canyon so if you force a woman and you give her money here you take the ring enforce her at gunpoint why don't you say Louis Vuittons Venus Veena I think it's more for the answer than the question because when you force somebody to sell you a house let's say you give the guy a million dollars at gunpoint and he agrees to save his life and he gives you over the house well he gave him the value of the house you gave him over here when it comes to condition you see you kind of a woman with a proof though what is what's this proof that that's not a value she has a far far greater value even in the even the slave market that's not her value so it just goes to show that kedution is a mice opinion it's just a way to acquire a wife but it doesn't mean you're buying her you're not purchasing her that's what I'm saying it has nothing to do with tomatoes this is a whole different thing you're being makotisher making her also through the whole world it's a mice a Kenyan and the mice a canyon is with a brutal there's nothing to do with the value next word okay so we're gonna work for word over here he uses a Lush in the Keva it's counterintuitive as an American I have a very difficult time always with Israelis um you think with the hey Nick that's the that's the makeover but it's not so why am I here now why should it says points out the whole tire basically talks in Los Angeles so why are we changing from the norm it says right three ways you could acquire a wife the way to go maybe this is why they say off the Derek because we have a path we have a way I know people don't like that so it's old lotion but we have a Derek what is the Dare her boy say what's our Direction says in a second but without dilemma so because it says and it says so it says of so this is uh you saw it in jazz it's it's something that we need to know what's a zov azov is a man who has an emission it's not Carrie it looks very different it comes from a disease and the Torah tells us so first of all a few Allah once we're talking about might as well learn the halachas properly quickly if a man sees one emission he's like about Carrie he can go to the mix of that day and nighttime is already tar but if he has two emissions and those two emissions could be in the same day there could be one long one which is considered two or in two separate days then it becomes azov a full-fledged zov and he has to wait seven clean days if he has three emissions even the same day three different days then I don't know what just happened to the screen then if he has three emissions then he becomes azov also has to wait seven days but on the eighth day he must bring her body so the only difference between the Zab who sees twice and three times is whether or not he has to bring a card fine now it says in the Apostle is that these emissions must come naturally from a disease if a person eats too much jumps too much we even had in the gemara like in Yeshiva we thought it was funny when you know our friend wasn't looking we went behind him we gave him a big whack in the back you know ah walked around with a broken back for a week this schmuck was funny if you do that to somebody and that that could cause Ziva he's not considered as of so it says like this as of seven ways to test to see if it's a Ziva from his body or from another source so over there nismeva should say he said there is when you go to war one will come to you and you'll run away in the the clawless run away in seven different ways asking tomorrow wait a minute you can jump into Hassan you're telling me boys we should go Toro to share with you this last month I went on a little bit of a speaking to people and I'm I'm happy to hear from other people I posted as a question I'll ask people do you wear children every day most people said of course of course a few people told me not not really okay fine you wait till 11 yeah so why don't you learn tiger today isn't and here's the question isn't tired just as important as filling maybe even more important so some people say what if I only have one minute to live what should I do we're fill in or learn I said learn no maybe they're right I don't know but it's at least a question what do you do but nobody would ever have a minute to go on a trip and I put on film in the morning at least for a minute put it on take it off so how come they could go by without learning tyro that's why we have that feeling that consistency and the day goes by another shop it's not a young Dev every single day we learn Torah and what does it say here what's out with Dara how do you know for guys after there if he's Shabbos he doesn't put on film no that's not what it says Torah okay we're talking about the Derek of Torah foreign [Laughter] [Music] restores our soul if you see somebody that his soul is unrestored the death restore his soul to me ma is so he said in Los Angeles is the it's common that a man goes to war not a woman says over here we're talking about the woman so we use the Lord second prayer we're talking about the man the darkest literally Sorry by by the Ziva the direction is because a woman it doesn't matter if somebody bangs around the back doesn't matter how much food and by the way here just just show you real quickly when it comes to Ziva Ziva by a woman is very different the cycle woman has his 18-day cycle will see himself it's neither seven days of Nida everything after those seven days the 11 days afterwards are part of the Ziva if she sees damn there she's a Zava it's a different everything than a man she becomes also to her husband a man is not us as his wife if he's up he's just tummy you got me corbones Etc foreign so a woman it doesn't matter why she acquired the Ziva so there's no checking solution about it even if it happened she's still talking tom because the Derek is only for the man to check himself not a woman says you're telling me the reason why we use Allah is because of the word so listening say the word which is now we could say and again what's bothering because the whole Torah talks in Russian soccer like that so why over here are we changing it because one of the three ways is BR and B is is called away says you said one out of three but you didn't address all three so because one of them is called Dara says it's because of that one two because of having relations with this woman so because it leads to it so that's the that's the main one and it's called it's Derek Los Angeles say that a man acquires a woman should say that a woman is given to the man to look at her what's Allah taken to the man I hope for the most part men are looking to get married to the women they they approach the woman they look vendark and why is that says the gemara mashallah says an amazing thing here that the Teva that we have that it's normal and natural even by the guy the man goes he's the one that initiates it's because it all starts from other mauritian other maurician lost something he lost one of his bones what bone did he lose wrong I know you're gonna say brib everybody says rib tail but it's not the real okay Salah is not the rib stamina foreign loses something the man the zachar lost one of his bones he goes and he searches for it he has a natural tendency to search for it he's constantly searching for to and listen to this I think that's why it happens to be that when a person gets married he's mashed on himself he completes himself he finds what was missing for him in a different way but maybe that it's part of him he's looking for that part and when a person gets married he's mashed himself when he's unmarried he's not a shoveling but isn't it and it says shiver himself in the cave up Zohar sorry why do you say dragon which is the Derek the way what causes the Ziva the mainland is here too much eating let's see have a wonderful day don't forget it's not too late to call your friends oh yeah