Daf Yomi Kesubos Daf 74 by R’ Eli Stefansky

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me yesterday somebody is really good at getting people he said well it's volume three there's no such thing it's one of the most cash maxthomas sectors we ever had and you tell people about it doesn't matter where you start who cares doesn't have to be the beginning of darwin in the middle of volume three we're starting volume three joining daf join daffyoyemi.com and growthishear.com oh now yourself [Music] that is if you're new to the show you've never been to this year you go to there you get your freaking mara and if you're part of the sheer and you bring somebody you go to growthisher.com and you get one of these unbelievable art scrolls red or blue for you yeah since you never brought a person to share i will sign your gemara who do you bring okay your boy sai we're holding the omir alef like seven lines from the top we had a beautiful mclaren is going to go over today where mcclay is between let me see if i have it here ravenchamul okay it says like this if somebody was makadish a woman gave her kidushin on condition that she doesn't have any nadarum and then he went ahead and consummated the marriage after the condition but he didn't mention anything during the chuppah and then raf says she needs a get schmuel says she doesn't need to get so badly says because we're talking about that the question is whether the bia was coining her yes he made it tonight but then he did be on so perhaps he just ignored the fact that he made it tonight rabb on the other hand doesn't like that let's see if we have rabba oh rabbit holds that according to everybody so another again abaya says the homach like it says if adam oyster be lostness or another must be lost and if since he had b afterwards perhaps he ignored the whole the whole so she needs to get rabbit says no according to everybody oh he said be lost lose he's very immaculate on his honest tonight he made it deny the fact so what happened was according to rabbo let's see if i have the here what happened was it was two steps first he's makavicher with the tonight that you don't have any nadarum then he divorced her and then the same person got married to the same woman but there's a divorce in between the second time around he never mentioned anything about medaram and that's the macholicus do we assume that this person cares about nadar because two years ago when he married her he said something about nadar or he doesn't care anymore okay the bottom line is that in one woman without a divorce in between if it's only step one not step one two and three according to rabba you don't need to get you don't need to get why again according to rabbit everybody holds that ain't we don't say another must-have for carrot we say i said be lost it's nothing it's beer means nothing and therefore you don't need to get because there's a fly he made it nigh you don't have any nadar we find out she has another ah there's a beer there he lost according to everybody the only time we have a much like is if he got divorced in between that changes it a little bit maybe he changed his mind he calmed down he got older he got more mature he already knows this woman she has an issue with nidarim okay ignore it we're gonna get married anyways or no raf says no since last year when he married her he said you don't have nadarum so we have to assume that now also when he's marrying her he doesn't want her to have an adaram and therefore it's a proud okay says the gemara is now based on rabbi well now we're talking about rabbi again rava says in one woman not this this chart because this chart is like one woman with two with two marriages it's like two women the gemara says it's like a story of getting married to two people one one case one woman is if he made a condition in the kidusian he's going to get engaged to this woman on condition that she doesn't have any nadaram ubal the real call according to everybody why because according to everybody the b is nothing he doesn't intend to be mikado with the bill and therefore according to everybody here nokia douching you don't need to get a say so if you notice four lines early it says and now we're rev somebody else it's his nephew his nephew the son of his sister asked him a question it says khalidsa okay it's one of those days i need to bring a proud the guy wears a shoe what happened was oh there's a couple and the husband died without children the couple the guy died and he didn't have any children so the brother has to either either marry the sister-in-law or she removes his shoe khalito if it's khalitse mutase it's a trickery they did a trick here in the halita it's a good it's a good it's a kosher khalita it's considered khalifa she can get married to whoever she wants what does it mean what does it mean um you trick her you say the opposite of the truth you say if you tell the guy the guy is in the shogun he says he wants to beat me up and he doesn't want to do khalito she looks at him she says there's no way i'm marrying this brother-in-law i know him i've been around him many times in shabasana not marrying this guy no way so they tell them a trick they say listen if she removes your shoe and she spits at you she becomes your wife no it's a trick if there's a problem with one of these people i love your t-shirt if there's a problem with one of these people come here come here a second get over here for monty mountain new york what's going on with the hit got a hat up there gary vrange he hasn't he needs a zishe comes every day he came last night he comes all the time needs a hat already i'm paying for it i know that it's private property i'll pay for it [Music] you have to redo that just join us on camera i'm not masking [Music] wow at this time this time it's not going to reach there's no way twice it's going to ring [Applause] you don't know the smiles everybody here knows besides you we're learning the song industry no san who if he gives her kidus and she said hare atomic and the goes back and forth what if she gives and he says what if he gives and she says so the regulation she says no ah okay so here we go vengeance gavin who valerie if one of them doesn't have havana in the khalita no good benjamin he villainous kevin who he didn't have kavanaugh no good khalid sasula both of them have to understand that what they're doing when he when she removes the shoe from his foot it's a khalitza they're getting divorced here so to speak not getting married that amras khalid you're telling me that if you fool him and he thinks that what what's going on here is he makanda sure you think that's a good khalita no way you can't fool a guy like that so hello what does it mean in a case that he understands what he's doing is he's not going to be with her ever again they're divorcing each other they're cutting their their what's the word they're they're killing the zika here there's no bond anymore but they promised him a couple of bucks and he's doing it because of the money alma so here's the question finally the nephew asked the question what happened there was a mysore he permitted her to remove the shoe and there was a spitting going on and therefore he's basically being michael whatever tonight he had he said he doesn't want to do he doesn't want to do khalifa unless he gets two hundred but now he did a mice he allowed it without getting the money so he's michael so asked the nephew since he was a mice of beer and if he's michael then what then she should require a get why are you telling me that there's no get according to rabba this should be a get if there's action taken like khalitsa like beer that means there's a [Music] here not this one or even oh it says an apostle like this there's a whole power shot i you have to look in the parachute this is just russian problem but basically benegaline roove and they didn't want to come in there just roll they wanted they had a lot of sheep a lot of cattle they wanted to remain where there's a lot of grass the grass was greener on the other side the grass is greener on the other side very good so they told mushroom oh we don't want to come so much foreign said okay first it was very upset hashem this that then they made a deal with them he said if you come and fight with clydius roll then we'll let you stay there and and so it says like this if you accept this deal great then lloyd has a possible gimbal and if you don't then not great in other words you see from here a few conditions that when you make a deal with somebody make it lie you have to repeat it you have to say if yes and if not for instance we're coming up on circus so right next door by the prusiam these are like you know the original the gronix whatever the prusian they they bring like two three boxes of asteroid game last year there's two boxes like made literally fifty times fifties trying them all types yemenite and moroccan and big ones and so on and they give you the boxes and they say on condition that it's a matano i'm not i'm giving it to you as a gift but you have to give it back and if you don't give it back to me then it's not going to be a matano so they say the the they make it tonight but they go over the removing and then you go and you shake all 50 of these triggers fine that's how at night works says the gemaro so i'll tell you what the problem is by jalitso the problem is not the problem is that there's no tonight at all when it comes to khalito snapchat that he's michael you're you're learning that they made a deal with the guy he said if you do khalifa we're going to give you 200. why because he allowed the khalifa to occur no that's not what happened there's no night at all because when you make it tonight in khalita it doesn't even begin you can't say ducaliza and i'll make a condition i'll give you a million dollars it doesn't work at all why because it's not like type in a governing ruin every night in the world has to be like the original night in the torah by god removing over there mushroom they do xyz you give them they very are they so this is but guess what have it awesome it's a good tonight have it right now or anything else in the torah that you cannot perform like over there it's not at night now halita must be performed by the husband by the of them and the obama the obama removes the shoe from the foot of the oven you can't put another person instead of him it has to be his shoe his foot it has to be the ibama just like the obama you can't say she can't send her mother to do it it has to be her so too it has to be him as the gimbal of so you cannot use this and there is a tonight in bia how do you know this is 9 beer because we learned last night what was the lotion over here you know something like that it's not the exact lesson but okay who's father how do you know but you weren't there no no i said he wasn't there last night i'm just firing him oh [Music] oh here we go harini bayalei and he does the condition she your tables you see that there's a condition in bia but beer cannot be done through so isn't that a cash on what you just said says the gemaro [Music] are all have a hackish to each other and just like kesem and star you do through and it works with a tnai so b also works with this now even though you can't do it with ashley omar ravula baraba omarullo omar so now let's go this a second okay let's do a sticker hazard here what's the whole mahlix raven shmuel in a case kitchenaid the contestant he's makatisher but he said on condition i'm giving you conducion i'm getting engaged aeroson on condition you don't have any nadar and then a year later they got married he never mentioned it again they got married they didn't mention anything about nadar according to rav you need to get according to you don't need to get what's is so we have three ways to explain the much like this abbaya says that the mechalica says whether or not other might be lost because there was beer afterwards maybe that bia made a request even though there was a so for that kidushin you have to get divorced what about xuba what about suba you don't get suba okay rabbit says no so if you look over here like every every macholicus you have the extremes according to rabbah according to everybody oh you should be lost a person doesn't care about isabella he cares about his tonight he made a condition with a woman that's it i'm sticking to my guns i want to make sure you don't have any nadarum i there's b afterwards i don't care about the beer according to bellazar and that's what we're discussing right now the exact opposite he's on the other extreme everybody agrees that ain't nothing to be lost so you have to say that is something else what's the math like it's according to this is the machine raven is in a case where there's no beer he married her but that's not like draft says you need to get more says not and then the middle case is exactly you have machias two extremes and this middle case is that only according to rav ain't nothing and according so the three sheet is here let's see inside now we're learning the third one um again we're going shasta's cutting going through conducion here a person lent money to a woman and then he tells her you know what i'll be michael you a million dollars that i gave you last week on condition that you marry me not a good condition why because you have to give a woman something and milva when i give you a loan it's not in the world anymore it's for you to to spend she already spent it she bought property with it whatever you can't be mechanical woman with air with a hive there's no my muscles to it nothing to it so i'm a cottage bernoullva he tells her harey had me kudashiously on condition that your mother that i might call you the million dollar loan and she says okay let's get married and then he had bia that's exactly what we learned last night no very similar case that does a person intend with his first bill does he say well maybe this conduction that it did wasn't so ayai i don't know hilka kadush and i didn't learn myself excludation so i don't know that i'm a kaddish bemilva doesn't work so just on the on the on in case that it didn't work let the first beer be a beel the shampoo dushan typically b is not the same condition you have to have intent for conducion so this guy had intent for conducion or maybe not we don't know we don't know what his intent was we do know one thing there's b afterwards altonai on condition you don't have any nadarum and she lied she has nadarum again he gave her less than a proto he gave her one penny i don't know how much to prove this today let's say it's 25 cents in america the quarter or something like that he gives her 10 cents ubal and then there's beer srihar menu get says you notice over here what's divrijak called divre alcohol means even according to shmuel very good even according to in other words you must say that reblazer holds that according to everybody rav and shmuel adam oyster so because he doesn't do his be a business and he gave her 10 cents instead of a quarter so then when he was boiler he had kavanagh the shame kidushin another even according to schmol so then you have to understand what the mahlik is in our case where he made a tanai and then it was kindness stomped and that's what they say says that the shot is he was kindness and he didn't even he wasn't boiled at that point there's three cases here right tonight and have a kind of repository he comes along and says only in the third case only in that case you need to get why al does he explain no now what that when a person everybody knows that you can't be a mechanical woman with a dying it has to be something substantial so mellow when he goes ahead and later on and this beer he has kavanaugh to be mikado but not everybody knows that a regular person go ask any guy that didn't learn this soggy ask him said i gave a woman a million dollars and then i told her ahmed you is that good enough to be makato most people say yeah why not you gave her a million dollars no to know that it's not considered giving something that you have to be a big lamb you have to know stuff and mma law he doesn't have kavanaugh to be mikado with the next beer and the same thing with the other case at night he doesn't know that love is of tonight but everybody knows every little kid knows you need a least of proof they have to give a ring you have to give something substantial and therefore because he didn't give her something substantial be i said there's a story like this they didn't know what to do exactly they said okay let's do again this comes to exclude the titan it says right we learned this very extensively where are you vamas we learn esposo asura if the woman wasn't forced this consent then she lost it to her husband only if she was fourth han esposa mutaris but if she was four she's muted to her husband she had relations with somebody else but she was forced however and we learned this also shava bishon espos and mutters there's one case where a woman wasn't forced she's married to a man hear this she's married and then she goes on her own will with another man and she doesn't become us to her original husband how's that possible it's a trick question there there was a night in the condition husband number one says i'm being a catholic let's get married on condition you do a thousand jumping jacks and she went ahead and she didn't do the thousand drumming that but they were married for five years they had children together everything's great and it turns out that when the the time comes and goes she didn't do her thousand jumping jacks what happens she was never married to this guy what no because you have to have kavanaugh that's what we're talking about that's mom as we're talking about you have to have cavanaugh shafila but um that's my miss what we're talking about what happens to the beer even though she has children she's carrying children on her shoulders over here talks about so places says if you look over here like uh 15 lines down he says just means she doesn't want him anymore doesn't mean what she says with her mouth i am in mine you my mind is just means i don't want to be married to him very interesting she could marry anybody she wants she can marry the second guy and if she wants you to marry the first guy because typically if you're married to reuven and then you get divorced and you have a relationship with another man shimon you can't go back to ruvin in this case she's never married to ruben so she can marry anybody she wants she comes back to reuben it says let's show my life and let's get married the kids and i'm zero no they're just out of wedlock it's not there oh you mean does she have to wait three months of course he has to wait three months why not doesn't matter but we have to know where the father is that's a different problem okay exactly that's the least of her problems sponsor in honor of yankee batman in honor of my uncle rebecca pressman the presser who wants a hummus here and never happened it probably will never happen as is for you're filled with mazel broken i mean longer than what not that what he did it's all mcgill yeah oh yeah we have more time it says like this simchas empire you see i want to do it because we don't have time a woman has these conditions these these nadarum that she made the husband said i'm only marrying on condition that you don't have any nadarum so what does she do she goes to and looks at her and says how do you know what does he tell her had you known that some guy would come over to you and say i want to marry a condition that you didn't have any darwin would you have made that nether no you want to marry that guy okay so then retroactively i'm annulling all the nadarim [Music] if she has let's say here i have a i have a picture of a mum i thought this is a gesh mom because large ears is a moment so if it wags like that it's and if the doctor takes care of it and chops them off what's that dashes that's just why so the marijuana says like this is there was never another he tells her had you known that this guy wants to marry without nadarim you would have made it no so that means that the first second that she made the nether was never even kao it's retroactively annulled the roy faye inaudible a doctor could only heal from here on out but she still had a mom when he told her there's no you can't have a mom i'm not gonna get engaged if you have movement and she had a boom then so it's not it's not at all it's very interesting because we're standing here right before rosh hashanah it comes out beautiful when a person makes a net there and goes to rav what happens it's annulled me kara same thing with chuva when a person does truman on avera then mrs sharma at least says when you do chuva it's as if it never happened you erase it completely it's retroactively not there you allow the stuff i saw just the interesting thing here it's unfortunately miguel and myself sometimes if a single girl had relations with somebody ishmael to tell her hassan is it like a mom because we're talking about mum a person has a mum and he says you don't have a moment even if he doesn't say you don't have one when he finds today as mum it it could it could ruin the conducion this if the hassan knew what happened then maybe it's not a good conducion it's not a good condition he never had intent to be makadish bibi or whatever so what do you do they asked this question to remission feinstein a lot of them are dealing with this question where merchandise are very very important he says he must tell her but he says do not tell she must tell him sorry she must tell him and he says please don't do it on the first date make sure that it's at a time that the guy is ready to get engaged at that point you say listen something happened it was mamish i was i was convinced and it was mamas i would never do something like that it was a one-time thing on that you could lie how many times we see it says in the price we have a contradiction in the bryce and we need to resolve the contradiction on the one hand we made enough community between and a royfee if it's a mum or another you could a null you could pretend it never happened a mummy can't pretend it never happened the fact is it's there yes she had plastic surgery to repair the nose the ears whatever it is the eyes but at the end of the day she had an issue once upon a time but now we're saying that there's no difference between and in other words another and no difference between a mom ain't no mukudeshas even from another on my raw inaudible cashew summer girls i guess rabbit over here because we're going to have another soon yeah let me see because on amid aleph i didn't pay attention to that but i'm pretty sure it's just rubber there two four six eight ten lines down from madol oh my rabble loy cashier it's not literal doesn't mean he wants his wife to be embarrassed in bed it just means he doesn't care a man doesn't mind if his wife goes to bed and spills the beans in front of a bunch of rabbis and says she made this and this nether or perhaps no person is very embarrassed he rather not marry this woman than her coming from the very same i made this crazy nether i don't even know what but it's crazy enough and the rabbit shouldn't hear about it it's a bizarre is basically right to as bad as it means he doesn't care movement horrible domar let me just see who it is rebel lazar sorry um ain't nothing a person even even if they could be okay though the netherlands doesn't want her to say it in bethlehem where did we have this much like this a person divorces his wife because she hasn't adored him lawyer can found out that she was either let's say on asia's ish shamrock so one of the reasons rashi says is very important because what happens if he could take her back he still has a shot at it so later on he's going to find out that it was a rush of marusha one of the neighbors he made a rumor about his wife that she was over our nation she's going to say i would never divorce her if i would have known that it's this russia that did it i would never divorce her i want her back but guess what she already married somebody else and he has three kids with that man he's going to make him i'm now so we make it we make a thing if you ever divorce your wife because of the shamrah you can never have her back i don't care it was a mistake it was a sham it was a false doesn't matter same thing with another we'll just read this even though they take it out or blaser the email call nether show the boy robin if the nether was done in front of 10 people rob him lawyer you cannot take her back the gamer is going to explain why loyola dubois if the the congregation doesn't know about it you don't have to appeal no yeah then himself could take care of it what does it mean it's inundated right says what are the nadarum that a husband could take care of and get rid of if it's painful for him or it's dwarf shabbat lavena intimacy so those kind of things they didn't sorry [Music] the this sort of meaning what is circling that uh the the is not to the nether really in fact it shouldn't it shouldn't be a problem but the only reason why it's a problem is because of a case of anything because at the end of the day he can't say oh if i would have known i would have gone to the right he can't say that why because now he holds that a person doesn't go to haha he doesn't have that excuse oh if i would have known i could have gone to the hockham town all or nothing i would have done that and then i wouldn't have divorced her and she wouldn't have gotten married to the second guy and she wouldn't have those children and then i'm now the mom there no you don't say that why because nobody wants to bring his wife to the haka he holds a design to bring your wife okay so the only reason why it's awesome is because of a case that where he doesn't have to go to hakama he do it himself and he doesn't have that excuse my time in the review why is review to say that if it was done in front of 10 people you can't you can't uh you can't take her back the sieve top of hey company they're talking about the giving them they light the chrysler and they said that we are gated we came from a very distant place but turns out that there are a bunch of liars but once chrysler swarted them they made them the the the the the water carriers and the wood choppers okay but it says over there the comma okay so it's in front of whatever we'll see what it is the camera rabbit how many ram is uh because it says in the past here yours the least of the of many is to rabbim is shloisha it's talking about here the case of azava how do we know how many days of a woman sees damn for three days straight she becomes a zova godola how do we know that from this from this passage yamim huh no oh you mean no but how many is many people in front of a rabbit it happened in front of rabbit where's rabbit three is you need ten people because it says is talking about the miraculous and we know by raglan they would start out with how many miraculous boys 12 but two of them don't count shoe and color don't count so we have 10 so we know that 8 is 10. and over here it says fine we'll stop right over here boys i have a wonderful day you