Daf Yomi Kesubos Daf 7 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Laughter] i'm back i'm loving every second of it it's unbelievable [Music] so in case you haven't been following this year mati the let me just tell give you a quick synopsis of what uh we went through i was in chicago for five days i hope i keep on forgetting one place you'll you'll have to remind me i was in chicago for five days from there we went to [Music] baltimore baltimore it was a beautiful time i bought an official through a great party with steaks the whole thing it's gevaldic it's over 200 people there from baltimore we went to the five towns some guys uh not basements so much it was a dining room there's supposed to be five people ended up like 30 40 people showed up all these neighbors and then the neighbors told other people so that was a little bit of a bazaar then we went to deal there's a little shear on friday morning deal on chavez i spoke in some shows there so they put up a sign in the show that i'm coming 600 people showed up for shaolin show this it's crazy okay then that monte chabez who went to lakewood lakewood new jersey that was probably the biggest shocker for me oh i forgot about the cm see it was thursday night thursday night somebody said i i don't know we have to look into this that it might have been the largest year in the last hundreds of years of people learning gemara together in one room it was close to 2 000 people in that room they all had a gemara open we're all learning a gemara shirt that was obviously insane muslims was a lake with 450 people packed into a show that was crazy sunday morning what was it sunday morning toronto sunday was toronto that was unbelievable beautiful it was in somebody's house the whole thing that was 200 250 people in his backyard in a big beautiful tent the shield was in his dining room and then monday again was in that guy's house so probably like 40 50 people showed up and here i am so it was worth every second it was very very tiring but worth every second garrison membership was with me the entire time drove around it was it was valid so now that we're on a high i heard that the seoum here in betcham was out of this world the food was amazing i don't know i have to speak to some more people benny [Applause] and that was different to you i have to get pictures the schwa on the pictures to see them i got some pictures from london but that's about it i don't know if you if you sent me pictures please and again this crazy amount of emails um very very good ones and i don't even know where to start we're gonna have to skip around there you stroll graven says i parked behind this guy and in the woodburn chill 8 min daff by the way over a thousand show malaysian from van and where you from bordeaux park sit over here right over here this is where the guests look we have this ready for you come sit nazi over a thousand fifteen new guys joined the share for ksubis not including all the people that dropped off the bandwagon and you vomit and came back this sadik right over here sid well i'm showing you this picture because he was in a coma from covid for four months i believe something like that and he's just coming back to himself this was the tenth in toronto oh this is a long uh you don't have to show it on the screen maybe but it's a very very long letter but this letter i'll show you what happened to me after i wrote i read this letter on the plane this letter is a bit harder to write but i need to tell you thank you i've been doing that with you for reviewing he's completing uvamis he's on top of the world only days from completing the hardest himself complicating himself in shots he hasn't missed a day in over 200 days the alarm would go off at seven before you did the dive but now he gets up by himself at 5 30. he's very excited about doing the daf then this last month's shabbos happened my life got a bit more complicated i spent saturday night with my daughter had an emergency crisis things will never be the same he says the week leading up to the scene i found myself struggling to keep up what used to take a one and a half hours to complete took three and four hours i'm not sure how much i remember minutes later my morning routine goes on and on during the serum ravanchushan gave an amazing hold on man i think i have to read this one but i would spend most of the daff in tears i was the only time during my long days i would have to myself and reflect on what was going on i struggled but finished i made my way to see him during the scene rav ben shushan gave an amazing speech which was inspiring for everyone there and even my young son who said about his speech that even the exception to the comment made during my father's speech my father-in-law said if you haven't heard he said if there's four types of speeches long and bad is very bad long and good is bad short and bad is bad is good is is uh i don't know what short and good is good so he says this is an exception to the rule he knows long and good but is very good okay he's choking back tears listening to the thing the next day i watched zoom he needed a break the fear was just too much of a commitment for everything that's going on in my day this is not about adaptability i accepted this because this guy is having some big struggle in his life now so here's the next page no one could understand what i was going through i accepted this friday afternoon and i got out of the mother's day it's a long one okay so he started listening this year it wasn't even 10 minutes that went by he started reading a letter from a member who was struggling with my exact situation i think he's doing something else i have listened to almost 800 of your she room and this topic has never once been brought up not in gemara letters or sponsors but here i was just giving up and this letter reached out and grabbed me and told me i am strong enough i broke down and started crying you always comment that when you learn about rosh hashanah before the show no sucks before suggest was shouting that's a joke it's hashem giving you a hug well in this moment i felt like a giant beer hug but i felt strong so i guess he was learning something else he's needed a break so he started doing another gemara and then this letter that i never read had to do with him you see that's why i read these letters so uh this is you didn't understand because you're still whatever in america there's always light on the other side you don't feel strong enough to see it right now and the mdy family is there even anonymously with the support and help you stand back when you're ready to stay down thank you for your share for giving me the strength to keep going i have to come visit you in rbs nobody will claw listen i didn't read the whole thing to you guys anonymous but this is my reaction when i read his letters i'm just showing you i had tears in my eyes and we'll go right there i don't know if we can read any more because we're late it's one here's the guy with the basketball again okay i'll have to go somewhere else oh this this i'll just read this this is greetings from your loyal talmud the chicken guy i want to thank you and share the fact that friday july 8th dave stark soon completed exactly one year since i came on board the family train would start asuka on the 9th of july last year as a guy who barely even learned since yeshiva completing the entire year of learning gemara raboy side i thought i said this i'm not maybe i should okay i'll give you a quick peek i met a guy i'm not going to say his name because maybe i'll be featured later on somewhere in kosher acad who did i forget what it's called irani it's a sans cloisenberg program that you take off a hair on a thousand african mario gemara rashii texas he took two fares a thousand dollars a thousand different maraschitosis got married didn't open up a safer in 18 years 18 years and now he's one of the biggest members of mdy i'll tell you his name a different time but that's one of these things akarsatov thousands others idaho waldman the chicken guy you mentioned over harris the other day as a fantastic local leader which he is we also want to give a shout out this is in london to ire davis gabriel emmanuel schlemmer lightner will do so much in the background alone to keep this ever going attach the photo of me and my boys in mondays london see them there's a lot more pictures to come but i'll show you this one so he says like this the baldwin brothers and co-wise were auctioned off they they had the the life-size cutouts of all the cartoons and here he is he bought two of them and here he is with his sons giveaway stuff okay the coil sponsored this month just make sure that these words in hebrew are straight was just the lack of families like new jersey because toyota is the best gula pirates of haiti's last day then the white family wow it's already a month shim shin ben micholim doves or croin all the broccoli and shaman should have an alia as the supposed to have our children because slaves healthy and happy and ocean loves them by michael vegeta in the commemoration of this week's 10th year side of joseph zeal of the miami community by charlie wassertale in honor of his wife's first year site night of tamils this one is backwards they also you'll see edna bass i know i'm goodman so now goodman is uh an attorney in toronto in the middle of share somehow i was schmoozing with gary gary told him you see this cord that goes down so we have this piece that's a wi-fi piece that connects to the computer what i do here goes up to the booth over there and somebody lent us one and he needed it back so gary mentioned him the guy in middle shear left went to the store and bought one for thirteen hundred dollars canadian it's thirteen hundred bucks but what he said is that what cost him more than thirteen hundred bucks was the three hours it took him to buy it and not not build in his practice so you should have to know goodman and people like him that are givers but the question is where is it it's in germany with the rest of my luggage and my gemara my big tomorrow okay i know i'm good with this just for sun my luggage is stuck in germany somewhere for somebody who's joining sal as a lone soldier goodman force limited the aquaman sorry for our children grandchildren if i'm jaffee in memory of my father youtube's been coming yakko rabbi come on no what's going on here the rules are there's no schmoozing during chair no you guys forgot okay effie is wagon half li nish mas freda berg no first name okay i got it what silky white version who's this sadik hi weinberg i'm from borough park who else ah what's that guy what's your name a brownie is it a brownie from right next new york and you we know from your dad i'm a life and dad who else what's your name joe sharp love the name from you brought me a guy who the guy standing up over there why is he standing all these seats are empty the the regulars aren't there come in come sit down who else get out of here you couldn't tell us you're like face my test brother hi gary nice to meet you too manly coach come sit next to me come get over here i know you we moving met already we're trying to get you for years finally okay the mystery boy says i'm having a know from subus it's unbelievable no starting today for the first time rolling of zion without brand not really for you it's brand new rebellion so we had a whole shiloh if beerus could be on shabbos this is he also smothered why because at the end of the day if you look over here that musket pocket so you go green green green you get to that bottom you get the green you get this motor because it's macauco or they were baking a toyo they knew how to do it without today we're not became but it's still mother we will see that we pass we have another technical problem [Music] boston mama's liking all day like four years ago you sit right over there that's fine today you're in the back valak sivaksu basal it's awesome to live with your wife without aksuba and if you're on shabbos with your wife for the very first time was it tsuba omalu there's a trick exactly how this trick works so you could give your kala something that's worth more than a tuba let's say if you can see this you give her striable you give her a hustle watch you give her something that that has chavis the whole point is that she has to have mirrors that she has to be willing and not being worried that she's not going to have aksuba i'm going to see a very interesting thing and if she doesn't have this mirror's dash and she doesn't feel comfortable that she if you divorce her you're going to give her something now she doesn't have that star then the beer becomes bilasnus you believe it it's unbelievable you could change just with your mindset you could change something into us when the yiddin the either we're running away from the arabs in the old city before right then before the israelis got the old city back with the kota the whole thing so we had those years that the jews didn't live there in old city they ran away they left everything in their houses over there in the old city so they came to katamon the rav told them the first when they came they said you have to do you have to be maxfus metalton to your wife you don't have xuber your subaru's left over there you have to give the make sure that your wives have i had to do their kiss so there's a story you could just write up a star but this is a if it's shabbos you can't write anything be makvis methaltern so it's a miso there's such a thing as being mattfish metallic if it works on shabbos how do you give how do you make a kenyan mitzvah is it neither in the reshowing them exactly says victorian another madonna that says it's mother and chavez with guffey himself had been shown in shamans review so rav said it's now what does that mean both of them are going to say in the name of raf papi and rav papa or papa says the name robo so we permit you to do all sorts of haburus including this type of khaburo but we don't have that kind of head there shabbos you know so this is mugmur a little bit the one on the left what do you want from me anyway it's a picture of a bathroom sprayer and what they call incense basically they their clothes didn't smell very good after you know a lot of people only had one or two garments so they used to give a little something to it they smoke it up smoking today could be something similar or this spritzer you know like in the bathroom to automatically go that's mugmur some sort of smell but we're talking about through fire so if you're like incense you want to make you want to smoke onion if you let uh uh make make some manganese with a fire why from the same story that you're telling me me it's like a miguel not a miguel but since you could do it you know in a way that it's a muther so you let it do it in a way in all ways have fire light of fire and yantef to cook so i should be able to light a fire so i could have good smelling clothes this is in other words all the melaka's for all people not everybody smokes not everybody has this good nobody only funakim says rash you need good smelling clothing normal people walk around with the smelly stuff but all human beings need to eat so mellow shrito things that have to do with eating that's the whole fish mma law i'm gonna allow since i allowed you to do a habura for shrita i'm a lot of you to do khabur in a person sorry by the way lutsoyra twices points out right away lesser means for eating then it goes in very interesting if you look like in the middle of this he says vanilla ri that taking your kid on a little spatir a little teal take him to the park is he says thought it was interesting has to be something that's equal with all human beings eating is equal but samim is only in phonak the revelation is what about venison deer which i mentioned the other day very interesting review because it says you know how to serve dear at a wedding but i don't think i ever ate deer but there is culture not only the culture it's very kosher because you can't really mess up on deer there's not a lot of mother under there there's no there's no but the air is not something that all human people eat all human beings eat so much because it's not something that everybody eats if there's food gala i don't know what this food that not everybody eats what are you grossed out over there just from the word you must be really literish so i'm saying it's a food that not everybody eats it's a category of need even gal is in the category of food we're not going to each type of food potato chips yes gala not uh cow yes dear not no food is one category salmon is its own category nobody not nobody but it's very few people neep something between beerus and beerus and shabbos chef so let's mother for a woman and chap is also the chef so it's awesome yakova so going back and forth this one says smother this says also ask the gemara stamp now we're going into the word um explains rashi that to say something is awesome you don't make a rule anybody could say it's awesome if you're not 100 sure you're passing awesome but to say that something is muthur you have to use the seiko you have to use the isvara you have to learn it from somebody beforehand so that's a rule to say something's muther is the rule to say something is awesome it's not a rule it's just mahmur so could you apply the word rule to something that's awesome in yes you could she said that she's going to become a zero for seven years if her son comes back from war unharmed so sure enough he came back from war unharmed so she kept her zeros exactly how a woman is in the zero she her hair was longer okay and she couldn't drink wine in those days she's a queen those days all people used to drink wine all the time water was was dangerous to drink for the most part they drank wine not to drink wine for seven years it's a big deal so she's all excited she didn't drink wine for seven years as a queen you can imagine everybody's drinking she's not drinking she comes tired to throw and they still say listen you gotta start all over again why because one of the things another thing can't do can't become tommy lemays but has thomas mace so he said you aren't making the zeros start all over again so but it's a herua hirua they ruled i it's it's a homura yeah you see you can use the word they ruled even in the israelis you have the spinal cord not the spine the cord that runs down the spine that sends the messages all the the nervous system if it has a little bit of a cut in it most of it is caught then it's a trefoil nickel little hole higher rabbit so here you see that in history you could use the word okay that love is not like that it's motler what do i have here yeah either because it's calcula or bhagavata toyo and the mr brings down that one should not be mahmur and those who are not to be boiled it's a very interesting concept very interesting twice brings it sort of the last last places on the bottom this sudo let's say hassan wasn't able two weeks later beerus i know he has to throw a party now the marshall says one should never go to such a party it's mama you can't you can't you can't refrain from hirorum it's also because of japan huh says the peacekeeper whose yard said it is tomorrow he says everybody should go to the sudo it's in the zarya there he talks about it and everybody goes to such a thing but what's very interesting is that this suit that could be two three weeks later you say the bracha simcha the mourinho when chrysler all gets together and then they get married get married the bach baskins that if this is mixed sitting in hasana inaudible fine by my son's wedding there's no no mixed city but there was a table there of non-jews that were sitting around there in the men's section so somebody went over them and they got very mad at them they said get out of here so the guy came in he said we went we tried nicely they didn't want to go so i walked over them i said you know i'm the father of the room i have a table for you the exact same table on the other side and they were just looking at me so then i pulled out one of my stick i said listen we're not going to be able to do justin copeland and the box says you have to if you sit here i won't be able to do something with mine so they looked at me to go ah okay nice and shy they got up and they walked to the other side my mom like i learned that from my friend with that with that mindset that i had to go to milk i told the cop i have to go to milk and the guy goes ah okay yeah fine we're holding by like three lines from where it becomes wide operable omarov says rav we're going to new sugar now if you're spacing out until now this is brand new tsukiteksubis mata you can start listening now monty said he's not going to learn until i'm back in the mixed marriage she doesn't care where i am i can be in america he needs me live okay here i am here we go brano suggested we have to do chevy broncos the six brokers plus boy ray free high golfing i just for you monty i want to do a public service announcement i've been to many many casas because i was a caterer probably more classes than anybody in this room do yourself a favor do not give that uncle the can read hebrew don't give him that long brah give him your chair hadam two words great not the long one the other thing is i'm begging you i'm begging you don't give the self-appointed cousin that long brock also [Music] i'm begging can't do it anymore can't i did i miss you but nothing was like toronto i wasn't even trying to be fun and they're laughing and laughing 10 minutes all right is fascinating and think about this because it's very applicable today unfortunately if a woman happens had relations for whatever reason and she marries a divorcee let's say there's no chevy bronx so if you ever go to a place and they say the casa de cala they don't want chevy brothers they run away they're going gear you might know the reason there's no chevy breakfast for abula with a divorcee next let's see it inside loi casio can be uh so the question is if they're both married before but the man it's not just both it means he's literally married but the woman it means boolah if they were both married before then there's nothing as the gemara valencianas what if they were both married before there's no sheriff's at all it's the key word it means chevy bracos how do you know that chevy brokers needs 10 people she was already abula i don't know if she's in a sewer because she was a guy then but she's definitely and of course boy as we know had i forgot already how many kids 36 50 something i don't know a lot of how many thirty thirty ah right she says it yeah schlossian installation bonus right she says correct not thirty six and at fifty sixty four point okay this is one day does i mean one suitor one day that's something else and they're shining so there's enough community in one day and seven days somebody just wrote me an email david dimbert from chicago said that he feels bad he wanted to write to me earlier but he wrote yeah here it is again on the word chakra he said shaktu might be his own vart velocin a almond and almonds they're the only or one of the only trees that they the the fruit comes out before the leaves he's trying to say that you're supposed to give the meal do meal before you get married you do it pre okay i hold drastically you must be happy with your new wife three days wednesday thursday friday evening shiva if he was never married it's seven days okay so we have a problem there's three days of simcha one day of bracha which one is it sigmar says it's not a contradiction it's both during those three days you're a boy's side when you say three days of simcha you say simply but what does it mean you don't go to work you have to make your wife happy this is allah you can't go to work this is israel by the way this is he has a story he has to close his door or maybe somebody could keep it open for him but he's not going to go to work he's not allowed to do stock market he's not almost like like kalama he can't do malacha shyla if he's allowed to do laundry huston cannot do he has to he has to be busy with his wife the bracha and the simcha are independent of each other either one day of brachas three days a simcha or seven days of brachas and three days of simcoe the simcha is for the kaala she needs to be so she gets three days if she was already married before she only gets three days now the chevy brachas has to do with the simcha of the hassan so if either one of them was never married he has special simcha and that makes it seven days of chevy brachas you hear several broccoli has to do with the chassis so if his wife was never married even though he was married or he was never married even though she was married through seven days but the simcha par not the braga part the singha has to do with her simcha and mela if she was married before she gets three days of simply masonic turning by sponsored by martial horn i forgot to print it up in honor of robin mendetsky the best jewish basketball player and by nassano in honor of miranda kash for introducing him to mdy mace rashid sticks in here we're going to get to the suggest you say brachas for absolutely someone who's never married seven well amano someone was married one day my life i feel like this is the bachelor it seems like even though she's an almana but he never was never married if both of them were never married then it's one day the main rules here the lucky absolute the bots from shiva there's no such thing as a woman who's not married that gets less than seven days of problems gets at least one day now if she married and uh somebody was never married then into the different former ravenclan only university i don't know this idea they need 10 people here something has to do with the womb so something has to do with the womb the shadow bronchus is with how do i know that the babies in the stomachs that the babies in the stomach saw outside of the stomach the stomach became transparent thank you and they were able to see out what happened to the clothing i guess if the stomach could become transparent certainly the clothing clothing they saw and that's why they were able to say the shira vida from king lemak okay so they saw through the stomach what's in the car what have to do with the womb wu means we're talking about a hassan that has to do with the womb alice give a car revolve right it says in the department of mine what parishes does that report this week's parish in america so we we the whole rush we had in in in the ivamus that the toyota says we can't marry in amounting in a mojave they didn't come they didn't give us of course i thought they didn't have they didn't give us bread and water but why is that a direction you could marry in mayavis because russ was is coming to tell you they have to make a broccoli broccolis so then why did baez look for 10 tamit you don't look for 10 times ten men that's it because he was giving drushes and learning he was darshaning that you're permitted to marry a woman vidalia whatever you need why ten obviously it's a bracha you're talking about the chevy broccoli marrying rose because it's smoother i'm not i'm not i'm doing something against aloha against apostles rashi over here says honorable he's from baghdad other places he says that he was a professional in that agatito pokevision vampire get me ten people i want to say in front of them hamazaki luber kano if you somebody says here take this i want to give it to your baby that's not born yet so you see that you need temp you need a lot of people you need asara to say aloha over let you become famous okay fine he said it in front of 10 but we don't passing like that review the mayor have a baseliners very interesting in those days they used to do kidushin who's a russian you'd give her a ring arias for a year i'll see you in a year from now so when he gives her the ring do you say a whole sheriff yes or no that's a shy layer so if you don't look in the art scroll and you read this it says in yehuda they had yehud and the yihad sometimes led to bia some say that there's they they actually did it on purpose what's going on here but you did the the hasidim say oh it's like the litvax they they they dated too much and lee boy gaspa and the melo you have to say so what's the problem if you miss she's a sewer to you and bill mama is a problem it's a big problem how do you do this so say brachas you know what's going on here you're going to say chevy bronchus in case so the article brings down an unbelievable xiaomi and the usami says we learned the sugiya and explains what the suggest was remember that it was a crazy decree that the game said that every kaala has to be with the ruler first what's going on she says because yehuda killed aesop you shall this is your child it's not a an acharyan do you show him he says you the kill day so so edom had in a comma in yehuda for generations was in a comma because they killed their leader their ruler so we were concerned that yehuda was concerned that the woman will get used to it so okay my sister was nivel to the heck my mother was an evil to the egg mine so that they'll almost give themselves up midas it has to show them that a woman should give herself ledaz to a guy because that's mama's then she'll become awesome their husband so they said that you have to be messy with your husband even if you hold it there's mama's beer there or even if you all there's no beer let's say there's nothing going on but at least she got very involved with her hussein to the point that you'll never want to be with the guy shall never do it berats and it will always be to take away that that little shemets of rotten that's what the the usami says unbelievable because every time i learned this before i saw the article i was like what's going on it's like it's a passionate you know they were they were not doing they weren't good people what the whole class was and over here you have to even make brachas in case the niksha no but afk they did it with daft because of this terrible zero elegant kilo so before we down anybody we have to really look into it deeply to see what was going on you could say the bracha of the shadow bronchus in by the harassing and especially breakers erasing by the kidushi because here is in my mavar what do you say robin barado viravar avado tavayam schmidter of me borkat hashem us based on him who stick in here the word llano with [Music] which we do is because it's like a regular bracha if there's one topic you only make hashem if you make lululu whatever you just say when there's two topics in abraham then you say they finish off what's a good example kiddush what's the second topic in kiddush this is another topic so we say mandolin is so rashi says something incredible i would if somebody told me this shot by himself i probably would laugh at him but she says it right she says that just like kiddush has two topics and in our bracha we have the ian of kidusian which is similar to kiddush we say because they said there's actually two topics in the bracket that's why you say but rashid says no there's only one topic it's just similar to kiddush and kiddush has two topics so therefore you make bhagavad-gita have a wonderful day you