Daf Yomi Kesubos Daf 3 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] i apologize i'm a little under the weather last night was unreal unreal final count final count 1 650 people showed up last night it's unbelievable so colin kavod we're here with a very small crowd the organizers so thank you for the host thank you for the organizer last night what's your guy's name again tower oh that's right great harry and bobby tawil you always tripped me up with that name can you send me the uh yeah okay thanks so we're here in deal new jersey and um it's before shabbat trying to copyright another sheer matsushabus we're going to be in lakewood live in lakewood and bizrat hashem on sunday toronto monday toronto a quick share and then off to israel we go it was a unbelievable event great speakers iriben shushan flew in from los angeles really killed it with his speech and um everybody was messing with the kid of hashem people walked away inspired hopefully that inspiration lasts them through them we should get together for great occasions i don't want to not talk about the other ceo i don't i really didn't get many pictures yet from other scenes there was a beautiful scene in her map at chamesh where benny the famous benny the butcher he put together a mess of seoum i know there's a seal in london here i i think i have it here but let's let's just read this here's a picture of an incredible piece of art that the guys got together and got me and they displayed it right there at the seam it's basically it means a lot to me because it's all the characters of messages all the baldwin brothers and different things that happened throughout themselves all on one mural it was beautiful and here's the email from a kid i needed to write to you actually says father what a huge impact the scene on obama's had on me and my seven-year-old son we're traveling from toronto by the way there were a number of people that literally traveled eight hours from toronto in the car to get here just for the seam not to talk about robbie husky rosenberg i think that's his name who traveled in all the way from brazil for the scene many different it was incredible i needed to write to you what a huge impact was it we traveled from toronto they had a wedding in lakewood and it was our good fortune that the mdycm in new jersey have in that way great i took my boy to see him bottom line is his seven-year-old was so inspired by the scene he decided he's starting to the beginning of chasse he opened up himself and started stagging away here's his he was driving home to toronto and so it was jeff a walled beautiful here somebody if you're wondering what happened to all the centerpieces on the tables at the seam here's an answer steven roth says i'm going to miss ivana so i created a man cave shrine to your vomits at work if you take a look he has one two three four five six seven centerpieces in his house that's where they are he took one of each here's the potato head and the baldwin brothers great a little physic and good memories will help me ride the waves loaf like rebbe mayer oh it's going to ride the waves of mayor gevalde here i don't know if i this is one line from the speech it's a little off but this is what we have we're on the road listen to this robot you say here we so it'll be go cool i cannot wait when the cm ashas comes around because i want to see the look on the face of the a good representative when they go up to met life and my life is i'm sorry but mdy already booked us oh my god you're amazing i am so honored and privileged to be here i i do have to that's unbelievable unbelievable so this is this is in london in london july 11th and as i said lakewood and toronto here we come this month shabbos if you didn't sign up there's already 200 people that signed up in lakewood so be there last night one of the sponsors i didn't mention i want to mention is sponsored and today is her yard side maurice ecco edna the pirate bass remote shimano levi for your sponsorship they just gave us a victorian english muscle so it's beautiful thanks for being a great supporter of mdy when i met you tonight at the scene you asked me to write you i'm not going to say his name he asked me be ilam shame while still at a spiritual high from tonight's incredible scene thank you for the supposed to share with the deaf me and my family my wife is so supportive she literally pushed me to go to the seam why i didn't want to go on my own is a bomb kasha the scene was such a kiddish hashem and covered a tire to learn sing and dance with them from all over the world and from very many backgrounds it was a celebration similar to hassan of a huge family along with sincere wish of everyone to celebrate with you something like that it was it was so personal yeah communal at the same time mdy is truly a family just today on our last day of vamas they got to learn with a kid get schmack to sit down and learn with him finger in the vlogmas as we know yavamas was a bruiser ivamus was a bruiser i like that some people thought it was i thought it was fun in fact i'm pretty certain that would have i would have crashed and burned during yevamas if not for you and mdy and the iron lady learning with you does that mean he's farting what does that mean he picked the bad eye and out of all the women learning with you is a game changer you have rekindled the schmuck in my learning but he's saying ishmael and all these shivers so he's probably not inspired me to make it fun and look forward to learning with my kids because i told you tonight you've changed my life have a great job just keep inspiring us all and i'll keep in touch anonymous okay let's see what we got here oh i thought i um okay you know what there are sponsors and this is kyle sponsor and there's only sponsor i did not put it on here we're on the road we're under the weather you'll have to bear with me all right the good news for everybody is there are no charts because there's no screen here so you're not going to see charts don't worry about it and i'm on the road charts will come back and then eventually hashem i don't think what's the shabbos zak daily mark we're here all the way in the bottom of basement base and it's five lines from the bottom remember we said about the guy who gave his wife a get and he said if i don't come back a certain amount of time there should be a get and he goes to catch the boat and he sees that the clock is ticking it's almost 30 days and the boat is not going anywhere or the boat sailed off he missed the boat and he's screaming from the other side and he said i'm here i'm here but you're not here you're physically not there allah is that it's a get he can scream as much as he wants so you see from here that even if there is not his fault or it is his fault maybe a little bit not his fault it's still a get sigmar says perhaps there's no rye from a boat when a guy misses a boat it's so common to miss boats and to miss rides and to be late that that's not considered a highness like similar to a person getting sick biking the boy last night asked me he should have stuck that in as a condition hey if i missed the boat it's not a get evil absolutely he lost out el rava smarter than afghan combat so rob is saying his own spark again rover started off the sookie saying that when it comes to get even a highness doesn't help him to get is again itself a guy says i'm going to give you this get if i don't come back in 30 days and he has a terrible um how do you say earnest in english what is right bonus if he has a oins or onus then it doesn't work it doesn't help to be the battle to get says well i'll tell you why in the environment today we're going to see the exact opposite the rubber says that a highness does ruin because if you're going to say that if this is a anus it's not a get zimlin delay on us sometimes there's no awareness in other words the husband decided he had enough of his wife he's not coming back no anna's there's no emergency nothing happened he's not sick he knows exactly what's going on the sovereign donors now she is starting to be mahm now we're talking about somebody who's super machmer super from ultra from from where she doesn't have to because unluckily she's divorced he gave her a get he says if i don't come back you're divorced he didn't come back it was his phone but she's gonna say but maybe i have to be concerned that maybe he got some sort of disease he's in the hospital and he couldn't get to me um so i'm not saying that she is a terrible person but i want to give you a few examples of people that went above and beyond where they probably shouldn't have there was about trouble that comes into yeshiva and his hands are burnt so what happened he said oh i learned they're supposed to burn your fingernails well yeah after you cut them off now when they're stuck to your fingers so that's one guy there's another guy he was in the process of garros and they said listen you're not a gary yet so what we think you should do is you should take your keys from your house and walk around so the ravi said wait a minute that's not a good idea this is a roof so the guerrilla says no no i don't know i don't go by the a roof so for me it's carrying and therefore this is makal shabbas and therefore it's okay there's guys in all different all different levels fine there's another bad one but here's here's a guy that a guy came over to him and said you're jewish yeah okay i'm going to kill you she says wait a minute you're going to kill me i got to make a bra so the guy thought that he said some sort of hiji bhiji omen he turned around and ran away so the jew says where are you going have sex have sex so sometimes when it comes to being super machmer and super froome it's not a great thing over here you have a lot of she can get married she decided she's not going to get married so we have to be concerned about a woman like that as well um now doesn't mean like a terrible woman it just means somebody's not on that level of hummus if you tell me that if there's a highness this is almost counterintuitive you tell me that if there's an anus gita it's not a get zim she's going to say okay there's a real highness there is an emergency the armored loyanist shall think that there's knowings and she'll go get married now we're going to make it a get we're going to say it's a get even though it's not a get and her children are going to become observed as the gemara how's that apostle me immediately right have it yet you're telling me that the torah tells us this is not a gift went ahead and took a document that doesn't work when natara doesn't work and they said it does work and you're allowing this woman you're telling me that it's a good get only mr rabbana rabon said it works when the tire says it doesn't work so now she's going to go get married in have that ability to have the ability to take a document that you hear this here is the document that the target says is not a get we're going to make it again how could they do that it doesn't work you just made an asian citizen how could ham tell you a married woman is not married that's what they're doing so iguara says the famous line i said many times ashas they have the right to do it how called them in college they go back 20 years the day of the wedding they go back to that moment and they say because you said and everybody says hareya kudesh you're saying as you're putting the ring on you're saying that you're going to be your wife with whatever however want you to be so they go back into that time retroactively and they know your marriage they take away the ring from you they say it's not yours it's not a good kid they go back so now what happened you lived without kidushin for the last 20 years so she was never asian ordinary bashi and think about always ask this question and always answers the same answer hey now the culture mccaskill right we have this involvement also i believe 10 of the colleges reconcile because you would be uh that's great if you use money so it works that's a great trick but what you know the first mission including that a person can be mechanical a woman with three ways kesev star and beer now how exactly if it's a monetary thing they could take away your money have your best in health care they have the right to go into your property take your property away but how can they know relations they made that the relations that he had with his wife and his kind with beer it was just no it wasn't a my second ocean and therefore they would never marry them and they're married she's not asian that and so therefore they're saying they get is a get it's not that it's a get it means that they were never married now we're going back to what we learned yesterday so if you look at in the middle of the basement base this is that a highness doesn't help the husband if he has an emergency he got sick the the boat whatever it is it doesn't work forget it doesn't and all again the the condition will continue going on we don't care that he has zoienes ikeda and some say the exact opposite so 180. um does work so now we have freebies maybe 2 4 6 8 10 12 14 16 18 lines of freebie if you listen to the yesterday's share it's going to be word for word what we learned yesterday but instead yesterday the gemara was saying let's bring araya that a highness it doesn't work anymore said well it's not a good raya and now we're going to ask a question from the same right it's a question so you see that holds that if a person has an emergency a holiness it annuls the get it's me battle to get messy if a person says this is your gut how's his wife if they don't come back as explained yesterday they used to go on business trips and they had to make sure that their their wives don't fall leave them they don't want their wives to marry the brother-in-law for whatever reason so they would give her a conditional get if i don't come back in 12 months that means something bad happened to me you're divorced um and he died within 12 months ain't again it's not a get why because you cannot give a woman again after death may suddenly get seems like it's only because he died haha but if he had an emergency he got sick emergency is not the right word what's the right word no nasal your author how do you how do you say inis in english extenuating circumstances okay extenuous circumstances it's too high for the potential to say because it says the word mace that he died the more says no it could have actually said hollow which was a bigger even if he got sick forget about the crazy tragedy of death even if he got sick it knocks the get off it's not a get the goofy commercial but i wanted to tell you kiddish then get me the reason again after that that's exactly what it says over there yesterday's gemara elaborated maybe a little bit more mara yesterday it also elaborated a lot more it just says it in three words that yesterday we learned that if the get has a date we go by the date even though he died we say wait a minute when did he die he died in november the get was written in january then that means he wanted to get to happen in january that's why there's a date and we go backwards like that okay that's what rabbi saying would say [Music] is a key word macho means retroactive it the get should work from today if i don't come back in 12 months so if i don't come back in 12 months when does the get what is it when does it take effect today today when i write it i want to give it um and he dies within 12 months i raised there get why why all the sun is a good guess because it's retroactive it works retroactive now this is an incredible you reshaw me you might not know about this i'll tell you a big hadith yourself he says yes it's a good get but when could this woman get married her husband gave her a get in january he died six months later it's a good get why because he gotta get he gave the get in january but what are you stipulating to get if i don't come back in 12 months you know what the usami says you're not going to believe this she cannot get married for 12 months because what if he does come back oh but he died ah the xiaomi says what if comes and he pops out of his grave and he comes back home so you have to wait 12 months so there's a whole thing is it what yeah okay that's a real thing yeah that's that's yeah but there's always a shiloh these are the these different questions is amazing does a person become a new person and uh okay fine that's your shaman anyway he says says my love it says that if he died within 12 months it's a get in other words the worst of the worst what's the word again extenuating circumstances could you think about an ex extenuating circumstance more than death there's nothing more that people try to avoid death as much as possible so certainly if there's a lesser situation covered it certainly should be a get says now in this case it's only death why do they neglected when it comes to death the whole point of the get is because he doesn't want her to fall to evil fight says let me prove that what like what rob is saying in the second lesson of rava that uh inis extenuating circumstance annulls again ruins the get mahdi the story with the boat a guy came he missed his boat literally missed his boat he's screaming from the other bank hey i'm here i'm here tell my wife we're not divorced it doesn't matter he's divorced he gave her a guess divorce he came at the end of 30 days and he missed the boat screaming i'm here i'm here. he didn't show up that's not considered showing up so you see over there that works maybe it's not a good value you see maybe perhaps okay okay buddy oh my gosh maybe hold on somebody's they're all calling me i don't know why they're calling me why is avi coming out as you call me tell avi that i'm in the middle of recording here okay maybe he doesn't see maybe he's trying to say that something's wrong with youtube what he wants to come here okay but uh he could call the saddle or somebody else no it says gemara where are we giving the boy last new year will they ask this is the same spoiler we had before again mama's freebies the whole soogie is a freebie missing a boat is not enough in accentuating circumstance it's not such a highness you know that you're going to miss the boat come earlier do whatever you need to do not to miss the boat coming down with coming down with the disease is a problem keeping the body laid last nightly asthmy without shay are you calling avi somebody call avi coming ask you this he keeps on calling me okay this idea that a woman has to get married only on a wednesday right that's the first mistake could only get married if she never got married before only on wednesday so now this comes to answer the question everybody had so why did i get married on a sunday you know why do you get married on a tuesday it's the day tuesday is a great day why you're in china that is only a beside on monday and thursday but beforehand where the best then assembles every single day like in our days each and every year every day besides what happened in the past why are you telling me such a lot oh by the way that is only in our days but a thousand years ago well we need to know what's in the future not what it was in the past today is ezra like in those days where they assembled every day each and everyone so woman can get married every day as the gemara hobo indonesia yesterday we discussed the idea of shaktu what does shakta mean and we're going to see another type of shock delved into it and they they they established rules to help the women to help people that what the trial sorry that's the answer but what's the question shakthu means that we gave them three days to prepare the the khasana three days sunday monday tuesday wednesday so how could you tell me that the best assembles on a sunday you can get married on a friday what what happened to the three days of preparing the wedding how could you get married on a tuesday you only have sunday and monday march the three years he worked really hard he brought extra help in he got a refrigerator he did whatever he has to do and he made it work okay that's wow again i don't have it sponsored by moji horn in honor of robert medetsky the best basketball player that ever lived and sponsored by nissano in honor of red not murad brad naka she's right over here sadik sitting over there she's going for last night my shock too now the kumar is asking where do we get this din and we're asking questions about this that oh this shock do how could you get married on a on a on a sunday on a monday why is it such an important allah where do we come up with this is it uh is it name that came up with this where did you come up with it by the way a riddle now nobody's going to get this one this doesn't really apply really but what day do you think would be oscar to get married only in america but not in arizona what day of the week it would be a problem to get married on but only in america that problem doesn't exist in israel no no every week every week you say sunday why sunday very good remission feinstein says it's a problem to get married on a sunday we we love sundays it's the hottest day to get married when i was a kid it was the the hottest day beautiful says the host i'm not going to even try to say your name again bobby's bobby but what's your last name again come on get with the program guys smith stefanski you know i'm just kidding okay so says bobby that some days you ate them it's their holiday says for moisture you shouldn't get married on a sunday but there's a troll you don't have that problem it's not their holiday on sunday in israel says the gemara now the gamer goes through again a little bit of a freebie here maybe about sula this is the mrv what is a a version of a woman who never got married before gets married on a wednesday shim hail tennis if he couldn't find him how do you masturbate imagine now a person doesn't find sulim as we discussed yesterday somebody came over to me today in rad's house and he said you know what i liked i liked about yeshir that you said right away in the mishnah how it applies to da fiomi that if you have an inspiration you're supposed to take that inspiration and go with it immediately like we saw on the mission if you are inspired to do the daf you start right now you don't start tomorrow even if it's the middle of musa a guy has a taina he's concerned that his wife was mazana go to bed immediately because otherwise he might relax and he won't go and he'll be living in looked into it and they said that the the daughters of israel they should have a beautiful wedding it's not just the wedding in those days the hassan went prepared all the chevy brachas everything you see from the gumaras it was very interesting people used to bring their own food to weddings it's not like today we have the caterers the fancy caterers and 500 guests or a thousand guests or whatever you guys invite it's you know 10 20 30 people it's not a big deal three days of the class and working a little bit and next or with so listen to this i just want to tell you a few halakhas very very interesting stuff again i'm not a rabbi i don't passkin this is not allah myself but i'm just saying over things that i've read in safarim and you could take it to your own thing like don't get married on a sunday don't take it literally ask your local rabbi so [Music] hey there's a needham whether or not a wedding sooda is it the eraser or the rabbana the actual suit is the ricer it might be their eyes but they say that a wedding meal must be nicer than a yantef meal and this is important let's say in artists raw rather i'm giving musa now to the israelis rather than giving that yeah i don't know if you ever went to wedding but a very oily piece of schnitzel is that what you serve at your yantas meal most people serve meat at yantev so then it should be at least meat you know talking about schnitzel just remembered the guy goes to the waiter he says why are you putting your fingers on my schnitzel this guy goes what you want it to fall on the floor again so but but the pseudo if whatever you do on yante the should be even nicer to the point that this is invite less people to your wedding provide if you don't have money for meat so then go less on the amount of guests go higher on the type of food because it's more important to have good meat good food than even on yante so the wedding is very important now i'm not saying here to go against the takanas and oh said that you should go crazy and get the no it should be within reason but meat i didn't say you know the smorgasbords and all that stuff i'm not i'm not going into that even i'm just saying now very interesting because we're talking about the chassis is preparing who pays for the wedding in our days usually the kawa right official mostly most of the time and the khasi i don't know by the spartan is something in america called flop the photographer the the the music and the whatever where did that come from so listen to this amazing remotion feinstein he says that since the hussein has to pay for the meal but in our days we get the calorie pay for it so he says you're not going to believe he's not going to knock your socks off if a person gets divorced and he thinks he's going to get away with just giving his wife the minimum suba some people said it's a thousand five hundred dollars three thousand dollars nothing major you're in for surprise you must pay your back the entire twenty thousand dollars at the wedding cost because it's your bill not her bill she came in and gave you a gift at the wedding you must pay for it sister masha feinstein i just wanted to tell you that shocker again you could go ask your local rabbi fine says the gimbal but this is interesting right because we keep on seeing the house and the hustle and then the the hussain should do the meal and takes him three days etcetera um and when the danger came into glycerol nagoya i'm literally specialising to fool the enemy instead of getting married on wednesday they get married on tuesday now this is very interesting now monday is really bad because now you only have one day but tuesday is a half at sorrow you get two days of appearance instead of three but not a month they only get one day to perfect but at the end of the day then it's okay says now the first what's lil shabbas by the way i just because i made an announcement that i just saw when i originally moved there that's how the whole sheer started i was giving a synopsis on the fiome all seven daf in one shot and i advertised i said come to my house lil shabbas lil shishi sorry lil shishi and they'll be challenged and kogo and sushi so everything was great and then also on friday nights people started knocking at my door like yeah it's like we're here for the chunt like what are you talking about you said little shishi it's friday night it's like no lil shishi means thursday night oh okay he got us there so anyways lel shishi means thursday night because in the jewish calendar the day starts at the night so friday lil shishi the night of friday means the night before so therefore lil shabbas what's lel chavez doesn't mean matsuyamas it means friday night so you got to get the hudson and kyle away from each other we're going to see because the first time is a wound and that's also in chavez it's also to create a wound where this bloodlet my sakana now what's going on here what's with the game element anises the heart egg if it's a second of death that if you get married on wednesday they will kill you it's the fascists don't you don't get married on wednesday if they're going to kill you listen to this crazy thing that happened the decree if this is the first time you're getting married to baal hegemon you must go with the ruler first the ruler got first dibs on every column now what's interesting it seems like it wasn't so much for his taiva as much as he wanted to get rid of the halacha that you get married on a wednesday he said if you're going to get married on a wednesday i'm coming in first so therefore they said it's okay to get married on a tuesday says but then why does it say allah says from the the period of time that it became dangerous well it's not dangerous we're talking about it is sir we're not talking about a life in that situation it's a very uncomfortable situation that she has to be with a guy first but it's not life and death he's forcing her so she's not miss or anything says it's noise the muslims you hear this they are i'll tell you the famous story i said this a number of times we'll say it again for the new guys by the kozaks this kozak took this jewish girl and she realized what's about to happen so she said you know i want to teach you a trick our religion we have a thing that we say one verse and we become immune to swords you could try to stab me it's not going to go through my my my skin it was impossible she says try it it's okay so take this sword put it aim it at my heart okay so now watch i'm going to say this verse and you're going to try to stab me and when he killed her but nice israel the titanic we had this throughout the generations they were moist in their fish to kill themselves maybe how luckily they didn't have to but it's okay yes to in these situations if they want to to be moisture nephesh not to be with this russia now why did they do that it was based on a mistake they thought that if he's going to be with her she's going to be used to her husband now it is true that a woman who willingly willfully goes with another man she's also to her husband but if it's behind us if it's forcefully she didn't take an active role in it then she doesn't have to but they didn't know that now texas talks about why is this not uh why don't we have the the idea of joharik valley alvarez the three averis every kid in school knows you can't kill somebody if somebody puts a gun to your head to kill somebody in a lotto aveda zara and gila arrives so why is this not guilty rice she's again she's engaged engaged in those days is complete it's she's kidus not engaged like in our days so how's she allowed says tyson is a big difference between a man and a woman a man any time he's with a woman he takes an active role he's active a woman she could be passive and in this case she's passive if she's active that's a different story but one if she's passive then she doesn't have to give up her life if the guy is the guy is being madness it says the morrow should the muslim television it's called the sakhana because they give up their lives for it as the gemara i don't understand the literature but they should get up control and say if this ever happens to you this head mind tries to grab you don't kill yourself for it you don't have to says the gemara we can't do that it could protect you're going to have the women on the flip side they're going to say well the rabbi said don't give don't give your life up that means the rabbis said it's okay so now they're going to be actively involved in it and actively is also says um you also have a quietus who be does become us her to her husband even if it's if she's passive says mario villa akri let us uproot the whole wednesday why do we why do we even have it this is zero avid of the butler with the canter there are bon and we can make zero loyal ocarina of great mice here we'll have to leave it for a different time certain things the zera is going this terrible decree like bar hashem our days we don't have it the decree is going to go but the takan of the rabban was there beforehand so we're not going to be are you kidding at the call of duty a very interesting thing also a shocker i'm only here to shock you guys rebecca wasserman in tough static there was a also like sort of a decree like today a lot of countries are trying to get rid of shrita and that sort of thing so the government came up and they said listen in order to do srita you have to electric shock the animal first and then checked it the president said you can't do that it's awesome to do so far that if a person is in the hospital and he only has two choices kosher shrita from an animal that was electrocuted electric get him a little shocked beforehand which is pretty decent but the pisces is not good or hazard treyf he says eat hazard tref why because we don't wanna khashog lose the idea of shrita if you institute and said it's okay then people for generations are going to forget about it it's going to become a normal thing yes shocked animal chef we have to say no we do he doesn't eat pig that's a sacrifice again i'm not passing you here you're just saying things over well you says i think the guy is an idiot the guy sees there's no weddings in six years on wednesday she's going to start showing up on a tuesday where are they what's going on here says the gemara oh mistake also together with that idea that it's not exactly clear that that's 100 but i've seen it around that he wants to get rid of the takaras that's what he really wants to do he's kind of happy that it's not on a tuesday that's not on a wednesday that'll move to a tuesday but nonetheless listen he's about taiva so maybe i'll show up on a tuesday he's lazy he does if you take all the weddings and put them on a wednesday so he knows if he shows up to town on a wednesday he's going to get at least one wedding or something's going to happen if he doesn't know what day it is it might be a tuesday might be a monday he's not going to travel all the way out there for suffolk even about time it doesn't go around first off yeah by the way just as a quick uh tie into the daf as we said before sometimes people have you know mitzvah a really strong mitzvah that it's we always have this like a guy we had that i'm putting on yum kipper what was it irvine kipper the guy in the chair he decided to leave share and go collect money and i i gave him some muscle i said come on you don't you don't cancel daf for zakah he said well all these poor people and then he ended up making crazy amount of money people sent him money from all over the world like a hundred times more than he ever would have made before but the idea of you know we have a fierce and affirmative in order to break that fierce you have to think very very strongly is that at solid call that important is that havarium call whatever that question you're doing is there's somebody else that could do it maybe instead of you and that's you know you tie it into this that that mitzvah is going to be miss battle but this idea of daffy i mean never is bottle it's forever and khashogg if you get used to the thing of cancelling and canceling you might cancel out a mitzvah that's there forever and every day says we learned that on monday is not a time to get married but if he doesn't have a choice then he could says my illness what exactly we're talking about elaine muhammad if we're talking about the instant that we're talking about until now hasn't gone it's a kind of carelessness so you're talking about the hegemony you're talking about the ruler or whatever you're talking about but you started calling it in the beginning you called it a sakhana and we explained why it's a sakana because the woman might give up her life for it great so then why are you switching language why all of a sudden now you're calling it a highness so it can't be that ruler that we're talking about it says the word nago and also became mother it's mutter or it's the minute means it's strong it's solid and now we're saying oh it's after the fact it's okay so we're concerned that if the guy comes with his entire army and all his troops he might eat us out of town he might eat up the whole wedding he says he does have khalif if he's coming and going he's coming on a monday and he's just passing by he'll be out of there the reactive so so get married on wednesday what are you what are you doing no he's coming and he's staying for a while why do you get married on a monday get married on tuesday you still have more time to prepare this day we're very familiar with the secret service when the president united states goes anywhere let's say it goes to israel the secret service is there 90 days in advance at least they're there they're checking they're looking you know that they even weld the manholes in the street it's it's preparation not one day not two days it's months they need to see where the guys could shoot from and where they can't shoot the whole thing over here also when this monster he comes he sends his dudes at least one day in advance and melo coming on a tuesday that's why you have to get married real quickly on a monday have a wonderful day have a great shabbos thank you for having me great day you