Daf Yomi Gittin Daf 81 by R’ Eli Stefansky

go atsai good afternoon boys I just want to start off this year with this particular um video hey so I'm here in the headbox and Coney Island Avenue getting my hat uh touched up and I'm speaking to uh Benny and I'm asking about the I see on their door over here they have and he goes well no I do it myself I I learn and and uh and I said you gotta really try this stuff so I said would you bring if I give you a gamer will you do it I keep an extra gumar in my car just in case and I just had the washing right now so I said you don't have to wait for the next stop but you can start it now right right away thank you thank you very much all right recruiting I forgot his name sorry he's a big recruiter so I messaged Jimmy leafman this morning I said no so how's it going how many people do you get so cabal you can't see it some of the some of my charts made it onto PowerPoint some I have to do off my computer didn't make it on and I don't want to touch anything because what happened was a friend benzeb I think he set up uh so nicely for the hope and his modem he came here about 11 o'clock in the morning maybe even earlier to set up because you know showers literally five minutes before Liz mentioned he said just push this in this button problem is that some of the charts I did afterwards didn't make it on so I'm going to read them from here hopefully I don't have many charts for learning so as I text shimmy leafman this is what I get back thank you for your message we are closed for the summer holidays with limited phone access I'm not making this up this is what it says if it's an emergency for example you want to join Duffy I mean I promise you it says it the you know Joseph could show it or want to buy extender will be able to reply when we can have a great day so you're right he writes back I brought back so far Ben Rose Arya Zeb hassle you heal steps key and Anonymous that's four people below is Ellie goldschwitz work he recruited a new mdy recruit Moishe Khan and he brought back the variety something like that okay dear belly males Anonymous mentioned online I remember this in this year for the past four weeks and I've been enjoying it very much I went to Yeshiva through seventh grade and I'm going to Seoul conservative for most of my life she goes to conservative show somehow I'm able to follow the share I'm planning to get my own set of talents as a supplement we have lived in a small relatively non-jewish City from cities for many years so practice has been difficult and at times I can feel my belief waning a bit we recently went there to straw that's when he writes Eric this role where we visit a family I was born there and also had a marvelous from Shabbat New saline with our best friend zumir Aliyah since I returned I've been learning every day and I believe it's truly helping me sorry for all the information but I feel a connection finally another test has been put before us our first grandchild is due November and we just found out that he has a severe cognitive heart defect as a doctor understand what was going on it was ratasha and the problem can be repaired in summary continue the great work please put up a prayer for our unborn grandson if you ever have the time drop me an email all right should be born healthy parents and his grandparents what do we have here this I can't show because I don't have a picture so we'll go straight into the let me just see what we have here go straight into the the um sponsors the coil sponsored by Anonymous from Lakewood we're still waiting for the sponsor from Lakewood for his brother-in-law to show up once in a while here would be nice yeah that I'm able to thank you for everything that I have the Paris was beloved race number five number one snow who actually he filmed something that I really really appreciate and I like I like the way I showed it to my wife yesterday and she cried so I'm gonna show it's gonna come out it's a personal story that happened to me and the very very interesting thing I think I think it's interesting for me at least that for her she cried hindi's Mother Mary and the second day brain intact Unleash Your photographer should deserve the last solution to prevent success in all my Endeavors start of the month for complete report said don't forget to bring your friends I know you're pushing it off another data just pick up the phone and make a few phone calls who's that all right so what do you have that's me great let me know when I forget to put the uh the chart back on there and we're holding today that hey aleph by the mishna Michele Le garage this is what a guy wrote a get his wife and he didn't give it to her but [Music] um what's going on if a guy just writes again doesn't even give it to his wife is something called I hope it's up here so first of all we know from the pausing I'll stand up there sorry so this apostle that says a regular coin cannot marry a divorcee even his own divorcing if he divorces his wife foreign so we're gonna see that's called something by the name of rayach it's like again it smells like again it's not again but it's not proper for a coin to be married to a woman like that so bashami says no way what do you mean forget about writing it even if you gave the get off tonight you gave her again he's made a condition play last night she's not possible foreign because we pass can light be solo so eventually I'll get it but keep on going abandon this keep on reminding me we possible that the record is not a concern right now what happens please teach us yes [Music] what if there's a rumor who so there's a rumor that he wrote her again and there she is serving him dinner so there was a myself and the reason why I like this mice is because you know a lot of leads fishing dial them you don't have so many movies every day at least they say but rebellious was a typical electrician Golem which you didn't you didn't hear any questions or any kind of stuff like that but in this story it's a it's a little different than usual they came to him with a a terrible story that a coyan was married to his wife for 10 years and they didn't have children she decided to divorce her ten years he wanted to have children I don't know if everybody's knowing like that today maybe there's a few different things divorcism sure enough three months later he finds out that she was pregnant what are you gonna do okay he can't remarry her he's okay he felt terrible his his wife is pregnant with this kid what does he do so leash have told him go to the castle that's the story there's a few versions of the story one was like called be father go to the Christ the castle and he meets somebody there he says did your parents ever tell you that you're adopted that's the story it turns out that he's adopted and he got mad you know the story there's all sorts of variations yeah variations but but the story over here is that they're not really divorced but there's a big rumor that the divorce that something's going on so it's an interesting lotion because first it says stay safe but the second letter it says before you make her get divorced you need to check it out you need to investigate and what are we investigating for so it's not so popular in other words there is a child to say she has to get divorced but on the side not investigate the word money there's a concept called we're gonna watch the rumors business has the right to scream out and say tell people enough of the rumors we don't want to hear from it nobody's allowed to talk about it anymore they could quash it so there's a Shiloh can you do it or not it says let's see if this came out oh so this for whatever reason came out and I see that I didn't change it to death pay out of although I might think it's payout oh you don't see it at all yeah okay sorry no yeah you got to remind me that way now now it's that way Tyler anyways because I found this I had a I had a Nace over here that I uh I knew that Yoshi did it I wasn't sure I knew that I thought it was within the last week I said let me just go back and I went back to iron hey was it iron hey I forgot already I went back I made a quick calculation of Tannersville I remember is that boom so that was the first chart because otherwise it would take me five minutes to find it local bottom just to show that shmuel where schmoss wasn't her dog we could get familiar rather than sewer on the bottom she wasn't ironed on top eventually we'll come to us so says you're talking about is there's no such thing as getting rid of a call telling people don't don't talk anymore elodie Carl and Cena Siva so maybe the question is sometimes maybe even an hour of vernacular we say he wrote again for his wife to his wife I don't know if I'm obvious like that but it means he gave against his wife he wrote against his wife no maybe he could say it in English sometimes there's such a thing such a long it's a Shiloh when a person says Siva he wrote again do you use it instead of the word giving thank you some places they say wrote a get and it means give it get but at the end of the day it could also mean to write a get maybe meant to write again so what's the suffering why there's a big rumor the Cayenne wrote a gift for his wife well some places they call writing giving oh the big rumor that he divorced his wife well no maybe in this place it's it's writing is writing I mean sometimes it's writing sometimes it's giving but why why is why is that a rumor that he divorces why [Music] maybe in this place that's what that's the norm is the call giving writing Dominos maybe that's what they meant so there's a rumor that he divorced his wife if a woman is married like in this case she married to the queen for 26 years and then they said you know uh let's separate let's get divorce let's just see maybe shoot world news has lousy whatever I shouldn't say anything but it said the prime minister of Canada married for however today they they they're separate right it's not the marriage who knows how long they're getting divorced but it's rumor that they're getting divorced and there's no rumors after a person is married the rumor is if he was mcadister not mechanic before marriage this whole before but not after you're right rumors are not gonna hurt us and make the first guy get divorced what's gonna happen is if her husband died and then she marries another Kayan does she have to lead the second guy why because the rules that she was divorced from the first guy the war rumors that you'd got divorced doesn't make you leave your first marriage because it's a call after you got married but once you have the rumor she can't she can't be married to the second guy says if she has to get divorced from the second coin so that means that she got divorced from the first client and everything in between the rumors that happened in 1996 and when her husband died in 23 all the kids that were born in between they're gonna say well the she was already divorced says anymore no that's not the the concern that people are not gonna make stuff up like that they'll say the divorce happened all the way at the tail end of the marriage of before he died and therefore she has to leave the second guy but everything with the first guys intact foreign review though boy rash located look see that the first Generations were very different than the last ones those are showing him I we have this hello that it is just the rumor that she's divorced you have to you can't be with the husband anymore is married to a woman and he wrote a get right and but what about our last Generations a woman whose captured so a woman who could eat truma and became a zyno what does it means I know that she had relations with the good against her will also it doesn't matter unfortunately it doesn't matter since she was forced she can't eat room anymore this amazing thing that even in those days the guy wasn't wouldn't go as far as a real snooze if there's anything less than reals knows real relations then she's not awesome he might have touched her but not not knows and touching Alone says the gemara is not a problem for for to be to call her a Zion to tell you candy truma that's not an issue what's Allah so he made a picture here I resent because it says places says uh which places I saw it in the small places because they they took nine [Music] just because he pressed on her chest that's that doesn't make her possible that's touching Touch by Alma is not is not uh is today you have to say that for reals but in those days I guess they had different morals different they went with different rules well I'm thinking now out loud what about shmuel's daughter he was Miss Anna with her otherwise they had the bar Rojo begotten but he was uh okay another thing look at the previous generations compared to ours there is so once again we have another so the positive is like this and you can see the positive soon but foreign that food that doesn't go through the front door the main entrance the grand entrance is not true Allah in other words if I bring the food through the back door through the Skylight whatever it is it's in my house today I didn't bring it through the front door I am Potter is interesting I didn't die okay positive from chromosomizers says I am there are tracks they would bring it through the front door you see that that sack full of fruit there is uh say that in those days didn't try to avoid the Mitzvah they wanted to be my kind of avoiding the Mitzvah is counter-intuitive the whole point I'm just throwing this out I'm not I don't know if this is the real shot but to give meisters to help yourself to become wealthier I said a big ho-hum and you go and you have a trick and you bring it in and you climb over the wall this way that way you're possible okay very good yeah you avoided the midsole the idea is to to do the mitzvah a lot of people think that doing the mitzvah takes away from you the opposite doing the Mitzvah gives you so I mean I guess the question is what's what's your relationship like are you doing it to be yaita you're doing it to to check it off okay I did my subscribe next so I'm sorry for Paula's daughter to take his compata and so on the button if she could please do it it's no problem she comes back with a with the kapata and the buttons on and he looked at he said am I right to assume that you didn't do it they told the guy did to do it she said yeah you know I don't know because right next to the button was slightly torn and I figured if I would have told you if you would have done it you would have seen that little tear you would have said okay not only the button I'm gonna do a few more stitches and Stitch off the compata that's not how the help looked at it that was the button is the button oh foreign [Music] once you bring it into the Courtyard but you brought it through the door of the courtyard euros all right says the mishna oh did I show this one I think you showed this one yeah okay so you have to pay attention there it's literally divorced her he's not thinking about divorce he divorced her thing about this uh the boy a person divorces his wife it could be amazing he divorces his wife and they're at a shopping service somewhere in a hotel she says it's much a shame to to rent two rooms we used to be married yesterday while she went through okay we're just going to like two friends they know each other but the divorced so now what if I love my email I'm just saying I was trying to say it wasn't like uh they're trying to to be bad they just happened to be in a place and they think there's a moment just to waste of money 500 000 a night of us let's save the guy money face shot me I remember Aiden treat him gonna get Cheney we're celebrating you saw me say you don't need another yet and we still say you need another yet what's what it must I soon this whole thing is talking about when they got married when they were already married they got divorced when they already married married it was erosion plus and soon not just the ring not just engaged um say that you don't need to get a place you ain't Levi gospel ain't living because I suppose the concept that the couples not used to each other if they're used to each other so we're concerned that perhaps that relations if they're not used to each other then we don't have that concern all right is when they're Adam that saw relations foreign [Music] so this is very interesting I made a stickle mistake today I wanted to like literally going to call her and ask him I I could share with you it doesn't make it if let's say this is a unmarried couple from unmarried God they're relations they're not married that happened so it all of a sudden hit me that maybe since ain't otherwise knows such a thing he doesn't want to be mizana anything is listen anyways we're gonna get married one day I somebody told this to me once so that's why I was thinking it somebody managed told me these words not only for such an avario because anyways I'm gonna marry that person so it's not kimina so much I'm not gonna go into what he said because there's nothing soon isn't that neither who knows but just the idea I mean he's gonna so doesn't that make it in other words if you lots of he doesn't know so he's not being magazine he wants to be married wants to be married to then maybe it's sure and then they break up that also happens and then she gets mad at somebody else is she Asia says the answer is no her no because over here we're talking about this idea that she becomes through beers only when this ate them is [Music] so hold on make sure Chinese new oh right so which I may say otherwise a person doesn't have a problem he's just being mizana but we still say hey not the most to be lost so so it's kid douching you need to get that's the whole problem what happened he met his wife and Lee boy gospel here I had I'll just show you this it's a combination of two things it's really for later but the two things going on first of all Libra gospel in other words he's very used though second of all a person doesn't want to be misana so yeah he divorced me yesterday we sent himself I'm not going to be a museum so maybe she requires another get that's right but it's only when they eat them they witnessed this but if there's no Witnesses agree that if nobody saw any Miser there's no reason ah but what if the guy himself is money that's I'm not so sure now whether the game itself is mighty that's what he did uh no no he's more than relations he's minor yeah I'm unfortunately he's minded that he had relations and then they broke up is this woman a problem of his age that's all I want to know I want to know what's the maybe we have to do something about it maybe if they stuck you give me a kitten hello well why not the question is why because maybe you have to people not just the same maybe there's a different maybe this trigger this is and there's some issues but I think issues and condition is the same the same that is just like a relationship a real I want to have a real relationship with this person not Samsung maybe that's condition I don't know that's what I want to find out fine maybe it's not the place to talk about it you could erase it is in sodium but what about Marty again this thing is I don't know if it's working this air conditioning thing it is so why is it 75 okay um what about our mission it says that everybody admits that from the engagement you don't need another get Shane leave a gospel because he's not used to it but if you're telling me that does witnesses to the actual if a person you know if we have a Concepts a person is not mizana and they witnessed him having a relation so then he was not missing it doesn't matter if she's engaged or married the whole difference between engage in married is Libra gospel not liberal gospel did they have a relation not a relation because he's not used to it is used but he was saying we witnessed them together so who cares if they used to not that's already over that's a that's partial that they were together now the question is what was going on in their minds was it [Music] that our mission is talking about there's no Witnesses that they saw and we just said that the missions that they didn't see because it goes according to different times we are not explaining the mission like that but that's how everybody can explain what you explained before that nobody witnessed it might please so what's the show and what do they argue says uh two witnesses saw them going into a room but there's no they didn't know what happened behind doors do we say question is do you say the witnesses that saw them going in but didn't see anything else do we say it's obvious that it's B and that's enough I'm so sorry I mean yes it is enough I mean I brought down from Rabbi fine uh who was saying I didn't say his name but not say his name he's talking about a big Shiloh with the Russian community so so the guy he got married in Russia but then he got divorced maybe in a secular divorce and then she went ahead and she got married she said she said yeah but she's never if you saw a Jewish couple going into their house together so that's witnesses that the that that is okay fine so over here this is where Rashi says we have a theory of these two things they're used to each other the the and the fact that they used to be merits you know each other as well and the facts then you say this idea that it's the that it's as if we have witnesses I mentioned this before also that the xiaomi says that according to what we're going to learn that according to be shama you can't divorce your wife unless you know that she's mizano according to be so you can divorce your wife if she burnt the eggs the Topsail so according to be shaman therefore he is he hates her she was Madonna she hates her so you don't say hey no he was upsetting her for a minute because everyone says there's no testimony says he said is I very interesting stuff there's a concept called again didn't want didn't want a coyan to be upset at his wife and on the spur of the moment without him thinking too much divorces her in a second and then he can't do anything about it can't take it back so what do they do they decided to make something cool to get me closer first of all it requires three items second of all you have to do something like this you're right I don't know hold on you guys see this not really so go like this I should have brought something else but okay I'll use no all this okay we'll just do it like this yeah like this okay they write a line let's say one line it could be two lines then they fold it we're gonna make a fan out of the gift okay fold it right over here now check this out I didn't do this last time I'll do it now what's up okay take a needle and a thread and you sew it and you're like this you see how long it takes it's a whole process meanwhile the coin is coming down and uh he has to find three of them only two guys showed up and uh the kids are you get the idea every fold you have to episode yeah every full day after saw now I shouldn't have okay now where's my pen through the pen oh here it is this is uh the guy Donald Trump okay now you don't fold it over here so you fold it like a little bit more maybe like that and then once you do this fold then you come back like this okay now it's very important right over here on top of here he writes Ben or have a going okay then he writes then he's continues sewing right but I'm not gonna sew because I'm not a big Soul you get the idea this is sewing here sewing here and then you open it up you can see one two over here then they're right over here uh Chicago it goes like this fold it this way and then this way kids are it's not so nice over here but it looks like this on the side it's a fan when you open it up you see the wording one two three and then over here is one egg over here is another egg oh here's another Aid and keep on going now the minimum folds are three this is minimum you keep on going this already has four Folds yeah and the idea is to mess them up to make him work harder to sit there and he had the guys to sew and so meanwhile Believe It or Not people calm down after a few minutes maybe the whole price takes an hour two hours to find three of them but he's not so embarrassing from okay now what happens what happens if over here it's signed and over it's not signed over here it's signed in other words it's missing one of the signatures what is that called get uh I just wrote that you need three a them you have to fold it and you have to sew it and if you're missing one it's called the getkier a bald get and that's the whole mission here foreign I'm just trying to to waste time I'm trying to make him crazy so get another person you found the effort in the street you live in the street you found your cousin cousin your father your father doesn't matter which you see a bigger side Rabbi said maybe I don't know if you see it from here but it's it is so nevertheless the worst thing in the world is to do nothing to sit and stare at the at the sun to watch YouTube and Netflix that's the worst thing it's better to bring a caravan than to have blank blank is the worst yeah even Heaven go out go on vacation I don't know what of course you should be learning Claire doing misses I don't know what the worst is to steer to manage nothing into this world to lie in bed that's the worst that's blank that's correct there are bananas [Music] no if he's your relative he's your father but he's cautious everywhere else then he could sign but not Evan not a god of amazing what is it what's called uh of Korea some uh one of these kitten that has more folds than Witnesses what yeah zero should be doing great better than me we're concerned that he said specifically I want all of you to be the witnesses one of them is missing yes what's wrong with the slave this is had a slave sign there oh they're gonna say this guy is already not a slave anymore look at him foreign [Music] to him in a business and they walked outside of the business and one looks at least oh I forgot the the lock to save so this looks and he says what's the problem we're both standing here I don't understand okay but amazing because I'm here in Chicago so I'm reminded of myself and I could be a silly story I don't remember exactly probably yeah that in Midwest Conference Center when I used to be in Canada there every single wedding did I say this myself recently every single wedding there was something stolen usually from the youth room from the Kawa like from jewelry this is very upsetting and Cal comes after the wedding and something's missing so I did a stake yeah basically I left the suitcase with a bunch of money and I photocopied all the money and I watched the suitcase on a video camera was it was very far from where I was sure enough I see one of my employees one of the women the cleaners she went without like I don't know how she knows she just went to the suit and she opened it up without looking around she stuck around and took the money and walked away I saw it on my video so I ran down and by the time I got to her she didn't have the money on her I called my wife I called the manager of the the place was it was a of the whole building over there she was a Woman They searched her up at nothing so it turns out the bottom line is that I threatened her and I said I'm gonna Deport her the whole thing and I showed her the video and I showed her that it's like there's not even a question she stole so basically her mother we held her over there her mother had the money on her she gave it she passed it off to her mother when she was off camera and they went home and they brought back an entire suitcase of all the neighbors that they did for the past few months it was cell phones and stuff we didn't even knows or a woman that she brought she sold the costume jewelry she stole all of it a whole kids you know a lot of good mices are going over anyway sorry where am I hello so you say that a gasoline not Hello evidence the problem is people might say so if I said this before erase the real problem is that people are going to say that this slave was released the problem with the gun of is people say the truth are you using him to say the truth is whatever it is foreign [Music] whether or not the evidence of the Gosling is good enough says yes but once you get to the minimum threefolds to wait in the recall they must name all of Ella curve and Evan are no good over there is wait a minute when this create them three equals two every get in the world needs to weigh them so what are you what are you doing three four because it's a special call the get cause you need three eight so um it should be obvious that three you can't have a car or you have to be real good at them because three equals two we have six of them so everybody understands that six is because you have seven folds you need six yeah I mean six folds you need to say that but it's all because again but three is the minimum so three should be like two you should a curve should be good [Music] Korea foreign [Music] in other words the third guy always has to be kosher according to everybody but it says a relative how do you tell me that the third one that needs to be cultured when it's Israel to me kosher you really have to be good it's a different word culture the boys I have a wonderful day a wonderful week a wonderful Shabbos depending on what country you're in