Daf Yomi Bava Basra Daf 145 by R’ Eli Stefansky

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this in the future this is a serious comment not intended to be shared publicly but purely for the sake of addressing the issue with appreciation admiration for all that you do yesterday people voted for B I know but I'm sensitive to that too I purposely don't go and and talk about Democrats and Republicans because we do have many Democrats to watch this year so no we have to be mindful for all types of people if it if especially that we have a lot of lot of and there's a lot of that are Mo on these things so that's why you'll notice a lot of our people wonder like why are you blurring out faces of cartoons or whatever sometimes we blur it out yesterday we had a a nice um cartoon uh like a a video and before this year I asked you tell me here if I could show it he said no you can't show it but then I showed it after she and the whole she said no you could show it fine just show it to the Americans whatever so we'll show it but different people have different things I don't know what the the potato because it's pregnancy so they told me I got to I got to be careful with but otherwise we could show stuff Ellie Victor learning the D I mean the gamar talks about pregnancy I say the word pregnant 100 times but and he said the same kids are watching I don't say it what so they they don't learn that part they don't learn that part what you Ellie Victor learning the do right it says it in the to but you don't have to depict it in a picture Ellie Victor learning the da with his two-year-old nephew did I show this showed it yeah it's K to show twice um I don't know I that's a few days later so I'm going to read this since the beginning of Bas yes is keeping me on track learning to every day not you're going to love this regarding this morning shear and the joke that was made that didn't go down well in this in this case to C to watch you have the strength and turn around away from the joke at the same time the big and responsibility comes with but also not forgetting that someone was hurt you sensitivity to others and how you handle situation special to see for him really yeah very it was very hard for you you threw you off the game completely threw me off for over a day completely and you just kept on going what am I going to do stop watch out all follow is nakak and I was thinking of you then and now thank you for everything it's a nice very nice email thank you for everything your T jokes and most of all the sensitivity teach by example um this we did already Okay so we're just going to jump in because we have a huge first of all a huge deficit we weren't able to finish the da yesterday the the Israelis were coming in and they were pushing in we and we weren't even that much overtime but it was a long D yesterday and a long D today and I'm hoping that I could get somewhere today but if not we have some shorter D coming up on Tuesday Wednesday the the sa and Speedy return of all the host respond you giving up her husband for the cloud for year filled with say unbelievable news for us over 75% of the rooms are already sold and they are going nicely and we will be sold out this year without any issues without a lot a lot of people are asking for discounts and I said from day one we would love to give discounts the room the actual cost us over thou cost us over $1,000 a person we lose money on every single person we try not to come out that's why the sponsors are just for the basic they're not to sponsor people so there was there were a few people that asked us if they could sponsor some people specifically and obviously if somebody wants a sponsor you always have a sad that sponsors we had people that sponsored that 16-year-old that that they came from things like that if somebody has a specific thing or once let's say give $2,000 for we could divide it give uh breaks for certain people or tell us how you want to do it but we're getting literally on the hour another email could could I have a discount could I have a free room I really love it I can't afford it meanwhile we we're trying to keep the cost as low as possible we even have people that work for us in mdy and we're not really paying for people to come tickets and rooms and that sort of thing we want to keep the the cost as low as possible so thank you for the understanding but right in your room the from his grateful family is having surgery today so he's not here he's going to surgery he should have he had a lot of pain like some stomach issue I forgot what it was like the spleen I don't know what something gallbladder reell the whole MD staff to to make so enjoyable for so many did we do the mission last night we went fast through it so we can go through it real quickly why not if we're ready so this is It's a fascinating Su that applies here in Isel more than in America or in other countries and the more we discussed it during the Hebrew she the more I got to know a lot of different stuff it's called and that is for instance there was a guy here in the sheer that uh he was in KY with the spy and the Spy invited him to his son's bris he went to the bris and the guy comes back after to the K and he's not speaking to him he didn't speak to him for a year because he didn't give him a gift it's a very serious issue with them they if they expect and it's a gar it's a mish they go like the mishna if you come to a you're expected to give x amount if you come to a serious money here I I translated it in in in English where was this there there's like a real thing here it's not a joke here in general this is the thing in general uh in the secular Community if you go to a wedding you're expected to give anywhere between 600 and 800 Che per person so if you go as a couple you give 1,600 shekel yeah really and then it keeps on going that if you live the National Religious Community Live in Central areas like Gan they 700,000 the ultra Orthodox Community is lower between 4 and 500 ker or less even it depends on what community so if you go to now if you if you tell a person if you tell a sity that you're going to his wedding and he and he calls a cater and and he even if you don't show up the wedding you have to send him that 1600 shekel if not you're in big big trouble as we going to go see the gar that if you give somebody a gift at a wedding you're you're you must reciprocate and if you don't you can go to bz and take it out in B this this is not so this is a older we went off the d a little bit and a lot of becoming ashkanazi these days they go to wedd no I'm askanazi I don't I don't give I don't know you're talking about but that's how it is now because the ultra Orthodox communities there four or five weddings a week so they don't expect you to give a th000 sheel to each thing so it's a little and the weddings cost less it says over here whole explanation it goes by the amount now if you go to a wedding it's really really fancy you're expected to give more the people know how much is a is a meal it's 700 minimum that's how it goes so says the mishna that if a father yov sends his son ruin to a wedding and says go and give them a check and then ruing gets married he didn't pay for it his father Yakov gave him the check and Yakov dies now he's supposed to get a check back now the M says he doesn't really get the check cuz his father gave the check so it's really the whole estate that that cheer in check we the is g to be a little bit in the so they means they went to a wedding they wor a they were a Grooms man they were they they made the unhappy and they took the check from the father then when it came time to reciprocate to the the ruing guy got married then then the check goes to all the sons not only to the guy that delivered the check not to ruin himself but to all his brothers you go to and say I went to somebody's wedding I gave him a gift and he came to my wedding he didn't give me back a gift but if you send a gift you cannot get it out of you give somebody a gift it's remember it's as the but we have a contradiction says in theing it says if yov told ruen go deliver go to this wedding make the guy happy deliver this thousand sheele check when that guy Zulan gets when when ruven gets married Zin has to return the favor and give a thousand sheele check who's the Thousand she go to goes to Ru we have a contradiction in the Mish says it goes to all the brothers because it came out of the father's checkbook and over here it says it comes back to him so we have three answers for this the continues if the father was the one that was the and he received if the father is the one that wanted a time reive now the father has to give back here's another there that a lot of you might say whoa a father owes somebody money why does he owe somebody money because the father was a he received the gift and when the the guy that gave him the gift gets married the father is going to have to return the Thousand shek are the son's responsible like 50 years ago 50 years ago it's a of the father so here says the the says that's the why they yeah sometimes we said if this if this real estate so there's a real she to the real estate we're not talking about a real real she yes you could take it out in bzen but it's a it's out there there's a and the children should pay it so it says if somebody sent a gift to the father now the father has to return the favor have to pay it out of the estate when that guy gets married so anyways we have a contradiction Our Miss says that a check that comes in doesn't go to the son that delivered it it goes to all the brothers and the Bri says it goes to the son that delivered it so we have to say that our mishna is actually not talking about that the father sent the check rather the father received and now the question is when that guy it's the reverse case it's the second case of the braa Once Upon a Time the father received a check now the father owes money to a certain if he gets married the father died and the got married so who has to pay for that for that C's uh wedding gift all the together that's what our Miss is talking about is to change the wording around a little bit in the mishna or I shouldn't say the wording the simple meaning of the M because when you read the M it seems like the father sent a check out and you're telling me know the father is trying to receive a check now and who I'm sorry the the father sent the check out once upon a time and now we're receiving a check the saying no the father received the check and now the question is who does he have to pay who has to pay when the guy that received the check now saying it's all the says but that's not a good why it says in the Mna they went out to went out to he gave a check from his father's checkbook instead of you have to say let me see if I have it here I just did it very very simple sorry it's not Yoshi instead of reading M that they went out and they were no somebody was they were on the receiving end in other words they receiv received checks before the father died now they owe checks to the people that gave it to them and the question is where does that money come from it comes from everybody together just this is a technical thing how to read it and how do you see it in the mishna don't worry about it it's going to be over in a minute seems like that it's the check is coming to them not that they have to take out a check when the time comes to pay back then all the have to pay okay again we have a contradiction our mission says that when Ruben goes out and gives a check from his father's checkbook when a check comes in you have to divide it between all the and the says no Ruben gets to keep it says the yes that's exactly how it is why when the father picks one of his 10 Sons it says ruin deliver the check then ruin gets the check back then he he receives the check when it comes back when the father just makes an announcement to all his sons says somebody go to the wedding deliver a che and it happens to be that Ruben decided to go to the wedding and deliver the check then when the check comes in Ruben doesn't get it because the father is being very general and all the get the he he wasn't Mish he didn't say who should go deliver it so therefore all the get the check when it comes back in but when it's father is very specific he said I want you to deliver it that means the father wants him to receive the check back say when it comes back it goes back specifically to that son but if his father said anybody could deliver it and have it to be Ru delivered it then it goes back to all and the third shot is so let me just show you real quickly here's the Y okay so it goes like this it's very important the on the right side he's getting married so ruin is going to give him a gift okay here he goes ruen gives him a gift now all the way in the right owes ruven a gift if ruven gets married ruven gets married and he NE goes bye-bye so his wife has to have from now the is that Shimon inherits everything that ruin owns Shimon takes over he fits in to Ruben shoes takes over again I don't wanted to we Ai and I and a bunch of people we did a barbecue in in a um army base in an army base and there was a a there who I've never seen this before never seen it after who looked super super from she was wearing a long dress in in green MIM and a and a and a TI and she had a M16 and and whatever we with her and she told us that her husband is also serving in the Army and that is iy Dick's wife he was just killed so we have a picture of her and the whole kiter she's sitting shiv right now now I don't think they have children and uh this would be a case ofit but I don't think he has a brother I think iy I think that's his name he's a Ben unfortunately but here's a case young couple not having children the husband dies shim if there's a brother the brother takes over everything that the that young guy has now you all know the answer to this but think for 10 seconds or two seconds this this gift that the guy all the way under the right owes ruen and he comes after the L and he pays up a gift is shim entitled to that gift shim gets everything that Ruben has why not persp effective assets it's anything that comes in afterwards shim doesn't get like a and therefore shim is not going that's all that's the over here so don't confuse it it's not a contradiction we're talking about what our mission is talking about this case of just to remind the perspective now here I should have shown you here so the gift goes to who shim and Ley the other it's divided between all Brothers shim doesn't have a special over that GI why because as we say let me just show you again what is there's a father and there's three brothers and there's four sports cards how many sports cars does the the get father dies he gets two and each brother gets one but if the father's lottery ticket wins after Thea then that you split up evenly each brother gets 3 Million Ne and therefore in our case the the the shim guy or whatever the yam's name is he does not cheer in it's like a lottery ticket that comes after the funeral but there's a major question here major major question check this out Mr does he have to give a gift to Ru he's not around he gives gifts at weddings he doesn't give gifts St if Ruben gave him a gift great guess what if Ruben dies right after he gave him the gift the doesn't have to pay back why does thean have to give a gift in this case because Ruben did get married but what about all the chevas maybe he died so that's what the gar is going to discuss here and that's basically the Su today if you're available to perform just the other party is not there to perform do you have to pay or not for instance let's say a woman receives K and then the husband drops dead does she have to return the K to the's family she got she received gift she so she could say listen I'm ready I'm ready to get married he didn't show up that's his problem why should I give back that's a question we're going to learn today she could say I want to be with the give me a the top words of that's question number one another thing we're going to learn today is do we view the the Ring of K the money of K as sinking lost forever once you give it to a woman you'll never see it again ever you give her a $50,000 ring that moment you give it to her you'll never see it again I don't care what happens she could run away you could run away she could die you could die it doesn't matter you're never getting it back that's a concept called that's another concept and may God bless the family and the new Widow oh by the way you need to return the ring you received are you sure and finally we're going to see about gifts today we give gifts watches this in this neighborhood a terrible thing this kid got married and after right afterwards a few weeks later whatever divorced so he came to he says listen the gave me back whatever set of I gave him could you do you have something could you buy it off me or something like I said of course of course I need yeah I need a here I bought off him it's here in this basement right now but don't look around that look it's it's a people have it men was telling me about how many rings come back all now in our generation it's no it's like every every every two weeks you hear another story used to be there's one kid in the whole school that the parents get divorced today it's like there's one kid in the whole school the parents didn't get divorce it's like so what do you do with the ring it's a it's a thing every time it's expensive $10,000 now the ring afterwards you're going to give it back to the he's going to give you half the money what do you do who deserves it not deserves so listen if they're already married it's a whole different child you have to go speak to your we're talking about before the marriage but it's not so POS because in the time of the G it was like marriage AR his marriage it's like a it's a big step you need a divorce so that's today's [Music] say the guy Mr shim over here he does not receive the gift he has to split it with his brother because it's it's perspective assets I like the way they said it so what the has to pay the gift let him say give me a I'll dance for seven days then we'll talk about a gift why should I pay up a gift today so that's a big question didn't we learn in a place that a gives back the money you should give it back if that's a minute this this has a lot of it's like it's the same same it's like a lot of words don't get nervous it's these Concepts that we just spoke about the minute to give it back not the minute to give back does it get lost forever not if she's the cause of the problem then there's a sh is there not a if he's the cause of the problem he's backing out of the or he died you don't have to give back the ring give me a husband I'm ready to perform I'm ready to be a he disappeared on me why should I suffer why can't we use the same logic where Mr guy all the way on the right says to everybody it's not my fault that ruin died if you could bring me a ruin I'll be happy to it'll be the my greatest pleasure to come to his wedding and dance with him and give him a gift but he's gone I'm not to give gifts to the family of somebody that gave me a gift and there wasn't even a wedding I want to eat a meal I want to have a s we're going to see you wouldn't believe on B if somebody made a very weak wedding in Corona coron a wedding 10 15 people he was one of the guests and he gave a gift now when he got married he made a fancy wedding the guy that received the gift of the corona wedding could say no no no I'm not giving you you a a gift your wedding is too nice for me the reverse of course you could say you went to a beautiful wedding no so you went to a beautiful wedding and then you come to a smaller wedding said that that we all understand listen the reason why I gave you a thousand shekels because it was a great meal it's beautiful 10piece band the whole thing singers from this flowers from Holland now you're making me a little wedding in your basement I'm going to give you the same gift no that we understand I don't but the reverse even if the WD is nicer no no it has to be the same level as me so that we understand has to be the same level so certainly if there's no wedding at all as the gar why should I give a gift no no no there was a wedding there was he was there at every single he made it leic so now he owes him a gift because he was there for the there for but there's no he he wasn't able to give him the gift so now who does he give the gift to he's ready to deliver gift the died so now he has to give it to the brothers now we understand by the way I saw with my own eyes because I never saw this but in Middle Shear they started showing me I said this people are sending invitations today with the bit information with their bank account information in the invitation by the way here's my bank account information and just deposit your deposits here Registries we know like okay you can go on Amazon this is what I like without any here's my bank account M they showed it to to me I said I said I heard about it what I heard about I just got invitation yesterday the guy pulls out his phone use it to me said yeah okay says it's a very interesting question I'm available here it's it's not my fault that this guy died why should I give back gifts person got engaged but in the time of the engages engages with a ring they say don't bring any rise from here it's a big whether or not an Engaged woman gets a let's just say that this was a deal that he made if something happens if we break the engagement I'm giving you in a place so first of all she gets her 200 what about the ring if the Min is to give it back you give it back says you don't give it back somebody made it I don't even know his name he said not every time you see when they talk about do they call him they call him re they call him this why so he said very nicely that every time in that says next to it says why try to take away once so the it's just somebody that knows this this story he sent me where it says okay but I'm saying another place so it says to show no he's the not you now listen to this we just said says that it goes by the what ises say that it goes by the minute so they're saying the exact same thing we must say and of course every time this is the typical style in the gar perhaps they're arguing about our arguments about could I say give me my husband and I'll be happy with him but unfortunately he's not around say no it's a different so what we just have to understand like this if you get engage get get what is it talking about he's the one that took back the but if she died so then if she died it goes by the but only because she died he no why Tama says this concept I'm ready to be a Kala you want to back out you pay me he argues says we don't say that concept it doesn't matter who dies there is no concept called I'm ready it doesn't matter if you're ready didn't work out give back the the money if that's the minut in the place see we have this do we say says no it's another that we never knew about perhaps you could say that's not the maybe something else maybe everybody agrees that you could say such a thing I'm ready to be a I want my money if he dies everybody agrees that she's ready to be a c she gets the money you could say such a thing even in the case even if she dies she gets to keep the K perhaps that's why in Hebrew means to to drown does the money of K drown in other words give a woman a ring say forever and ever the the the logic is very simple if there's a case where a person gives a Kala a ring and he could get it back it could bring to big problems people say there was never an engagement look he already G he gave back the ring that means it was some it was a mistake and then he might go and and marry her sister I don't know what's going to happen some issues with the sister so we make a once you give a ring end the story you'll never see it again it's a side kind of thing does it drown it didn't drown you get your ring back you'll never get your ring back as but doesn't fit in so much to it says how is there a minute to give it back if the the ring drowned and we're making AA they can never give it back what do you mean there's a minute to give it back it's against oh so now we're going to a third thing that we never discussed what about gifts what what do they give today box that's what they give nice a Mana I got a man after yeah you're right I got a man from did [Music] I we're supposed to get him no we never get him h no I'm saying watch sh same stuff that we got back in the day 30 years ago nothing changed less okay less is good we're trying to go down on the expenses I did I that's what I did the big one that's what I did I did that 30 years ago I told my father-in-law I want an art school shot he look what do you like he didn't say son a leather covered specific yeah my son-in-law got a mfta that's right no no no he didn't get a leather cover he got a fulla that's 17 in the two giant valley here we have him over here all that that's what he got um no you have to give something that you're going to use who uses those big giant besides there's a guy in the his big giant Shas rual son-in-law you got to be practical got a guitar what umbrellas that is M zie got guitar he doesn't wear a watch said he said he wants a guitar instead of a watch give me a guitar that's so interesting wow okay listen got to be practical huh you can buy 50 bucks the what the MP the big ones so you the yellow cover oh the yellow P $50 the whole sh that's what people should give for their now we're trying to save money here give the one with the yellow covers the red binding fat each page was this thick but the words didn't like look very good oh that's what he has you can't read it the words are no comes to certainly when it comes to gifts you got a and and the couple never got married whatever and a lot of people give stuff back SAR key card if somebody gave a giant um loaf of silver what do you call it a a bar thank you a bar is silver a bar because a k is a is a bread so I said loaf mayor in addition to the bar of silver the I don't know how much is a bar of silver $10,000 let just throw out a number how much is it gold so be a bar Sil in addition to that you have to give the $3 $4,000 that's one you chop the bar you take a big chunk out of it you're takeing $3,000 off of it and three qus of it you give back here take the rest back we have a beautiful chart to explain this but let's first before we get to we're going to get back to this the is going to repeat it again so we'll do it over there but what is going on here we have going on here why is she deserving of this she died once she dies there's no if the husband dies she gets if she dies you're not giving her so the husband died why should she give back any of the bar silver why not because of the that we're saying all entire time by the way so let's get there she's ready to be married so why should she give you back any bar of silver she was and therefore she has to give back the bar she did it willingly Miss she doesn't get anything we we we we punish her she doesn't get a it was against her will Mr sh she doesn't have to get divorced if the husband doesn't want her and he wants to divorce her that's his problem he has to give the go but she's allowed to stay married we have to come to the case where she's not stay married which is not willingly she was married to they must get divorced but this is the question whether or not the ring stays with her forever the ring drowned in other words he'll never get it back so it's the same like we had before do we say that the ring is gone forever remember says yes therefore she gets her ring and she gets not true you don't the the ring is not locked in Forever comes and says I don't know I don't know if the passing like your May so it's a suff what happens when you have a ring that's in a suff what do you do therefore the part only the we divide in half so we have two cases here where the money of K is 20 and the money is 30 so it goes very simple here we go say very very simple do the math together with me this is this is even pich could understand this was 20 20 * 4 equals 80 Z we're talking about Z now so forget about we're not doing any math 80 Z was the kushan so she's holding on right now she has 80 Z in her hand she's uh divorce so herba we're talking about a case where theba is only 100 so total 100 she deserves really 180 but the thing is that the K we said according to we don't know if that looks like so what do we do divide in half so her kushan money is only 40 not 80 so how much does she deserve 140 and how much does she have in her hand 80 so how much does he owe her 60 so it goes like this total we have 180 that's how much he she's owed kin and and Cuba the problem is that she has to give back her husband 40 because this's a suff so the total is 140 how much does she have in her hand 80 so how much does he have to add he has to add 60 and the story and the total will be 14 40 so that's why the says he has to give her 30 Hales 60 now let's just do the next case real quickly the is 120 how much of that does she get really because we have a suff 60 the is 100 so total 120 plus 100 equals 220 she has to give back 60 because 120 is a suff give back 60 we have a 160 thing she deserves 160 but she already has in her hand 120 how much does he owe her 40 40 or 40 160 many time the to give back give it back this is talking about in one place in the entire bu called what about the rest of if it's a which is a gift says by the way the word and that we had before are two different words they both refer to gifts but may is stronger May it's something that's inside the like going talking about again in the they we'll give you extra gifts the actual subba am is $3,000 we promise $50,000 we get divorced different gift but that's that's already part of the gifts gifts that come with theba that are written in it doesn't matter if she dies he dies or he takes it back the gifts of that are in the you return them as we said the is going to explain here the the the the ring that we call doesn't go back but she took it back then even the goes back this how we pass so if you notic before the line before says that's the gifts go back and here is also why we want to make sure that nobody has any confusion here she was Once Upon a Time engaged they broke the engagement but the engagement was a good engagement there therefore you can never marry your sister don't worry about it nobody's going to be confused give her make her give back the ring and everybody knows she's the divorc SE says it's a joke it's a mistake it's not true a is a people might not know they see that she came back to the store returned the ring that means there's never K the fact that you know that there's a get you know not everybody knows the divorced oh so here it goes we're going to a lighter gar you go to a wedding give a gift you get married you could sue in to get a gift there's five first of all you go to when is the when when do you owe another gift only when The Giver of the gift gets married before that there's no there's no lean or anything the if you decide to go to the wedding and add to it he gave you a thousand shek you want to be large and give him 2,000 that's okay rib you took a loan and you just paid more sh by the way what's your name from Brother no way his brother you're the younger brother very good we love rabitz so why is he not sitting next to you RAB places says so we know that when shita comes shita comes there's a loan the loan is erased so RAB said think for a second how come the loan is not erased over here you went to somebody's wedding gave him $1,000 now he owes you $1,000 if you get married how come when comes it doesn't erase it huh it's not a real loan it's not a real loan but you ow I can go to bz and and demand it what do you say you couldn't claim it oh cuz you can't claim it yet so therefore what so we have to say it in the in the P it says like this is gonna say in a second so let's wait for the to get there doesn't take two parts in it why because we said already it's what was the word perspective it's not in His Hands goes 3 each one why could you claim it in it's like alone oh if it's like alone how come there's no ribbers why are you giving extra says if he wants he could just match it so why do he give extra because he's happy he's in a good mood not because he owes him more there's no up they didn't make up beforehand oh I'm going to give you a th000 you're going to pay back when I get married 1,200 that's ribus no here's a th000 when I get married you pay back 1,000 it looks like I know doesn't matter but we know everybody understands everybody knows that you went to a wedding you gave more it's not rivus you you had a you had a great time rivus is so everything you do is rib yeah we had we had the other day a person gets a loan there's certain things that are not ribbers we had a guy had a loan and at at this less not less I didn't it can't be less I know I know believe I also saw that I I think it means from what he gave less I don't think he can give back less I don't know if he can pay back I'm not sure that makes if you could pay back less I wasn't sure if you could pay back less that we'll see later fine that's that's in a second how come when comes it doesn't erase the because the says means don't press him like re said you can't you're not pressing the guy now you can't press him to pay until you get married oh but you're not married yet only when you get married you can go to bz but before you get married there's no pressing so no pressing there's no only gets rid of things that are pressing for instance like he just said if there's a loan for 10 years so when sh Comes This sh comes you're not pressing at this so this is not going to erase it it's the following that's going to erase it perspective doesn't take two parts in here's the oh sponsors correct thank you turning of The Da bichi family and Glenn esterson dedicated to Gad Jacob Israel thank you for bringing the into my life so here's the rule of you're in the city all these things you know oh how come you didn't invite me and this and that are you allowed to be upset said this is the right here if you're in the city why don't you show up to the wedding you heard the bells ringing that there a wedding you should have came and if you didn't hear the bells should have notified you so what happens if the should have notified you and he didn't notify you he didn't send you it happens every that I did so far I forgot somebody super important everyone I don't know if it's just me but you know there's I cannot believe I forgot that guy he's like you know he he's not on the list and you didn't you went through everything you went you try you try and then what do you do and he's brus you ask him to me it happened to you too it happens NE it happens and why me why did you forget me I thought I'm your best friend it happens to the best friends is you could have you could be upset says be upset up to a point but that doesn't get you out of your obligation you still owe the money for the sh pay up be upset but pay the's friends they said you bring a you eat a in other words you have to pay for your meal the average meal is one Z doesn't seem like a lot of money actually a HK is 200 Z so maybe it's not it's pretty nice money you come you eat you eat a meal of get a nice meal a four a four meal so you pay half every person would get it's very interesting way that used to work you're a a cool guy you come to the wedding they start serving you more than other people and you got to pay up based on that there's a I don't want to say this here that they yelled at some guy yelled at yesterday there's a certain type of uh group of people let's just say like grin let's just say that's the thing so they announc at the wedding PL gave 500 she to like at a they they put the peer pressure on Al gave a th she and they go through the whole list they put you on the spot that's another way some people put it in the invitation here's my bit and some people they call you out at a wedding now the guys from America say it's not true in our community we don't do it I I believe it every every Community with their no I'm serious I could just see like oh he got a tremendous double portion and double dessert pay up got that's what it says they serve you differently as you're as as you are when you go to a wedding you want to be the least you can be you come in no no no no y no y please not not it's going to cost you big time you get yum you you have to pay double as is turn around also you might be why is he laughing you what I'm saying yeah yeah yeah I saw I told you I saw with my own eyes I saw it cost you you get that song it cost you I I'll say this m but just to understand I saw with my own eyes a younger rebba came with the whole fur thing and he had aab next to him I see the whole the shmooing by the dooro I said oh this is going to be good I see the guy go he goes straight to the band so I followed he says from the from har guy says I'm sorry he says no no he's coming in you got to do y gu says no so he runs back to him I'm I saw this smoing back forth how should he do it he comes back to the band but he's coming in the the guy says I don't know who he is I'm sorry I can't I can't I just did it was at the wedding they did a whole thing for him before he wouldn't come in and finally came in and there's no y was very sad so I'm thinking in in the gar time is the opposite the gab comes in he says don't you dare play yum him don't you dare he's not a he's not big he's not big the guy says no I have to play yum I have to play y him so he goes back and then the say but tell him I'm not I'm just a small time small time I have a small minion he goes back to the bat no we're playing it's a whole different story re you got to take it off so the re he has he takes out of his suas da type of bage pulls up the fur puts on the regular one then he walks in they don't play they know not to no you know I told you what they play every I don't know why every I go to they're playing the same song every time I walk a guy comes in he he made a beautiful big wedding in our generation we could we'll talk about it in 40 years there was a time when everybody didn't go to 10 people and the was in the backyard and we didn't go to Minion and for a whole year PES we're going to talk about it it's not we went through trauma but we all went through the trauma so we can't even brag about it so if you made a giant big wedding and you're trying to make some nice little in the backyard he could tell him I I if you want I'll I I'll give you back a gift if you make a beautiful wedding well I'm not going to do a wedding with a one piece band and that I had a whole thing 45 piece band this is one for one whether you understand it or not he got married to AB and now the guy that wants the favor return he's marrying an Alman it's a smaller type of wedding it's it's it's a little toned down it's not like the first time marriage he went to him was a second wedding now this is a he's coming back and he says look I'm getting married for the first time if it's your second wedding then I'll come then I'll give you a gift this is crazy don't tell your wife about this one this this guy's mji he's marrying two women but he figures you know might as well just kill two birds with one stone they both walk around them by the they both hate each other it's story but listen I'm not giving you a gift it has to match the wedding my wedding your wedding have to match if you get married again for the third time to one woman then we'll talk a little bit of good so we're catching up a guy that's very wealthy with um he has a lot of belongings after pumi this is more like he has a lot of animals so nowadays would be cars his beautiful cars everybody knows that he's a wealthy Guy this is like of Our Generation a guy that he goes and he he gives Dres everywhere and it just comes out it's beautiful stories everybody sees him he's bar a guy that's constantly doing business he every day he changes money he sells special oil every day he comes up with a great his his is more hidden he has gold that's that's hidden K is hidden it's measured he only has a certain amount that's a guy that repeats over things that he heard everybody needs the one who sells wheat that is is something that explains everything and everybody needs that might all the life of a of a poer is bad that's a person who learns Gar so very very interesting rajam here where is it I don't even know where it is oh check this out says he kills himself person that learns he's in it's it's it's hard to understand it's bad takes a tremendous amount of energy and it's the calls it which safer ends with this he's always good he's always happy learns a person who who cuts Stones he'll be sad with it when he chops wood you Su the opposite will be warmed up by it you learn you don't come up with any Mas you have a lot of contradictions you don't know but people that learn you'll warm yourself up with the let's finish over here boai have a wonderful day [Music]