Daf Yomi Bava Basra Daf 144 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] know my [Music] oh know [Music] he [Applause] [Music] know Love Is Sing [Music] good [Music] [Applause] welcome what do we got oh Manchester live in Manchester wow that's a nice crowd David oh wave you have to wave to your father maybe he'll see you zoom to zoom what a oh there's even more here he is okay gal we have mayor Plank with us all the way from Toronto very nice Steve say really what's your name Jeffrey Ruben fromon London Jeffrey ruin from henden London and that's your son welcome welcome who else do we have here sign somebody uping shabas much you allow to sign people up on shabas kidding galic working to get more and more people we have with us of course M we have G in the house he made a on and since in the par when out of his way and he gave every guest a full tongue so aan should we uh go on spread it around I don't know if they're going to be able to oh the ice cream the ice cream the milk and this also boys what is this these are the Angels what is this for remember when Abu gave the Angels the tongue and Ugo augo yeah ah very nice very nice you're Valic I can't wait for next par show okay Rai so we have here the famous are coming to the shabbaton I don't want to hear any excuses no beyond my skill Che this out all right so V has a has something to tell the here so people have been messaging me and asking me what does the mdy shabat tone look like the great Sim that we're going to be what does it look like can you like Define it can you can you box it into one word and give it to us clear what does it look like and the answer is yeah oh yeah I could goes like this I'm Bubba 2017 BB 2017 Bubba Basra now if you do the math the exact gatria of Dain du Castel Grand Vin is M the rebelli stefansky now the ti of the math doesn't work out I hear have aim with us until it will work out that my friends is going to be our shabbaton we'll see you then that's he said that's that's shabbaton okay can't wait for a speech is unreal the speech was Mish I actually asked him and agreed to redo the entire speech and recorded after sh he said yeah yeah and that didn't work out but I'm looking for this Bo 2024 and this is how a POS undergo surgery with local anesthesia photo taken by the anesthesiologist there's a yid doing the da during surgery and this is somebody doing the da while he checks out uh people in the store he's checking people out he's a cashier register I guess I love the idea of shabas of for a variety of reasons the shaton in Connecticut isn't in the cars but my wife had an alter alternative idea would there be interest in a similar program in Israel yes how much are you willing to pay how much do you need per person no we don't need anything we just don't want to come out of pocket $100,000 you willing to pay $1,000 a person you'll give 10% of that okay okay so now we only have to raise 90 give all think of how beautiful be in a country where the walls between the shift is can appear so thick MD can bring us together around Ty I know the the logistics can be substantial but I think we could do something amazing and with sponsor we could even do it in a beautiful way that could be accessible for both Hebrew and English speakers without breaking the bank there are many hotels and similar options that can house large numbers of people have the ballrooms to host and Inspire Mal please let me know if this something I can help to make possible aiber see the thing is I mean the gets together and does the here in mdy they're a little spoiled because I spoiled them in the beginning we used to do and now everybody's like what could mdy do for me what what I gotta actually pay to come for shavas nah it's 100 she no can guy's driving three beautiful brand new cars I can't afford it you know the see we have seeum guys don't come sometimes like why don't you come it's 100 she 100 she it's 100 she for an entire you kidding me I'm not making fun if you don't have money but I know what this guy is driving okay if the guy NE can't afford I I I get it this guy could fight so if D gets together and you could speak to Benny he's thinking about it he's looking at different options but the options are expensive and people have ideas they want to throw ideas at him galic we'll take it Ellie Victor learning he's one of the biggest mdy fans there are Ellie Victor learning the D with 2-year-old nephew he gave me he wrote me a whole letter I think I read it here once mom is a whole letter there alansy earlier this week we got it from shiv for my husband as I reflected upon the past few years when my husband was sickly and often housebound I realize what a sign significant impact your daily Shear has has had on him me and everyone that cross paths with my husband he listened to you on the computer every day and then hacked about what he learned with every new one and everyone who called or visited yesir made the focus of his hour day with about learning as opposed to all of his aches and pains I just wanted to thank you for the joy interaction and focus that permeated our home because of what and how you teach Hashem should B you with infinite it may continue giving you shear until the coming of M when my husband will eagerly join up with you again Mrs schy Miller wife here is rabi Miller um at a picture that we took in B Park this is a long time time ago this is all the way in the beginning when we got together we had a small group in bar Park back when you had a beard I have a beer twice a year my friend during in the nine days but yeah the speed return of all the hostages andal from his grateful family by Zachs to my father gal I think I know what that is if that's the one that's the guy that uh we had this the the yaka story in the Mira those who don't know he wrote me goes as long as you bring more people to say any story you want it's fine you could even make them upis I don't know if he said that oh thank you he always reminds me tonight actually it's today is the Kish um yard site and I have a lot of I mean R's connection to I read his book the book about him The Arts Book many many years ago and it made a tremendous impression on me when I was 15 years old and my brother's name is also didn't have children but he has the famous he wrote probably more than anyone that you could think of on every topic in the possible from to to the the timeline and everything in between today and happy birthday to is extraord happy birthday my father yard Rebellion the St to make ony so many art of the month we said that okay do I have to open up here what no my first gor I've ever learned first gor you ever learned let's See's I usually don't like to open up gifts live cuz sometimes it's embarrassing what is this all different types of wood mentioned in the ah mention these are 10 of Lebanon Cedar smells good Pine oh I like this so we can use this in sheer that's a nice gift thank you very much I like it I have to remember to use this add it to my uh it doesn't even take up a lot of room that's smart little pieces of ah what is this Myrtle wow that's how you mean they they unroll it it's not that wide the tree very cool okay to remember to use this remember it's always brought down nice gift thoughtful I like that we're holding by the we'll just talk about the Mish for a moment pays if a person left older and younger children with very young children that can't take care of themselves and the older children they what we didn't say the mishna oh okay so say the mishna beautiful I I'm confused between the Hebrew and the English great so if you just came today if this is your very first time we starting a brand person left older ones that can take care of themselves younger ones who cannot if the the older ones took the property and now the property gains and has profits the profits must be shared with all the even the younger ones the gar will explain where do they get the money from it depends did they get the money from their own pocket that'll be different if they got the money to vest from The Inheritance okay then it's half and half it goes to the younger ones as well but if they made a condition look this is what we we have we want to take a portion of that work it on our own and not worry about the younger then it goes to themselves the is GNA explain this is a woman not every woman but a woman who has a yha she's a yish there's two ways that could happen we'll see in the Gar so if she's a yish and there are orphans involved and she takes care of the property and it makes profit the same thing like she must share the prophets with the youngsters but if she says she stipulates and she says look I'm going to go in there I'm going to take care of business but it's for myself I cannot worry and plan things for other people I'm doing for for myself as is going to explain by a woman it's different women those days certainly they didn't go out and plow Fields And if she's doing it she's doing it for her own benefits because she wants to live she's not worrying about the right now so she stipulates she said specifically this what my husband left over and I'm going to take care of it for myself goes to herself says theor here let me ask a question for the not a lot of the Israelis got this one guy got it but he he learned the gamar earlier so if you learned the gamar earlier don't answer if you go ahead and give your friend a gift it says right it's a you're not supposed to take gifts let's say you went you gave him a gift are you areah is the r or a what is it is it a Min what exactly happen when you give your friend a gift anybody D don't even try to answer okay stop next I'm used to shutting you up over here now I got to go that way now Hill's gonna try to answer no anybody else besides D somebody sh guys over there how you doing do anybody you have an answer it looks like you know hello it's not that complicated it's very simple actually anybody it's a Mitzvah why is it a Mitzvah where's it say the no doing that's what I was looking for that's why I told him to be quiet when you give somebody a gift gave me a gift he gave me a gift now more than because it's going to help learn have aack in it but giving a gift to another human being anything give a candy think about it g is used to be the candy man I don't know if he still is on it's just every kid you give a bag of whatever it is or it might be the opposite for the dentist fine whatever theah yeah it's a Mitzvah not a joke okay how do I know this because it's in the mishna coming up the son of who's the son of RA seems like because I know that R's father was R so over here it seems like R had a son y so either he was far and he named his fa his son the same name as his father and this fire will bring a ride from here that's okay or his father's nter I don't know exactly or maybe it's it's like who was it Theus he got up there he uh they asked him the name but he was he was thinking and learning so he thought that the the M was asking for his name he was spacing out so he said his name I forgot what his name is Yehuda or something and so it came out that the son's name was Yehuda B Yehuda and uh they went they ask and said you know if it it was because he was thinking learning you don't have a better name than that and just leave it as is so the grandson of said in the name of his grandfather this this that you have to split with the the older boys the 20-y olds go in they plow they do all this work well they didn't really do that much work because if they did a lot of work things changed so we're going to say that what happened was if they took money from the yusha and they hir workers and they do whatever then they have to divide everything equally because they did what they made a few phone calls but they use the money from the but if they use their own private funds and with their own private money they went and they they made uh improvements in the land thank you then the prophet goes themselves ask what even if the father only left over Wells of water you still have to divide it but why you must protect the water in order for the water the water source to be valuable somebody has to protect it so there's work that went into it you see that even if you watch the water here we have a nice picture here this is how you give you give the artist you say go give me something watching the waters in his mind a Well turns into a water balloon with a guy with a machine gun okay fine it's not in the it's very close fine it just remind me every time because D he dressed up you guys remember what cume you're just going to re reuse the same costume just different colors you come with the water balloon nobody know what you're talking about okay different colors repurpose the old costume so if you have to protect it you have to be Sher so the the youngster shouldn't get anything it's very easy to watch the whole point is when the youngsters can't plow they can't they don't know how to do things in the field so they're completely out of it it's 100% of the older ones great so then the older ones get to keep it but anything that a youngster could do you just stand there and make sure that animals don't jump in or that people don't steal then they participate in all the profets if they say straight out this is what Daddy left us and we are going to take a piece and do the do everything our own and we want our own prophets the prophets for themselves says's father left him money now I'm gonna ask a question if you were here on Friday do not answer but this one even D can answer this is worth 10 and a half th000 mdy points who was RAF safra's partner same raaf did Isa and we had it in you're thinking huh I hold off huh was it the guy he no he decided to sell without telling that guy says he I don't remember a snake there I didn't come up with this question this is the Bowzer told me this of course it was okay just 10 half th000 points nobody got it you would have had 10 and half thousand points you could get zero on the merch website with that so raaf goes and he made a business with the money that his father left him over maybe with the maybe not and his brother said listen y and he said no so take us to so he said an amazing thing he says doesn't owe you anything why because is a huge obviously since he doesn't get up from his gar he's learning all day long he doesn't waste the second so if he goes to the field and works he's not working for somebody else he's working just to that has a little bit to eat and that's it he doesn't have to give you anything again say he doesn't leave his learning to work for other people so I'm going to say something I said this a while ago it's a it's very aggressive and very to the left if everybody's over here I want to say something over here I said before nobody even sent me an email but so I'm warning you I'm doing this just to push some some buttons schack maybe somebody will think in the center kind of I'm throwing this out there why in the world do we work so much we work work work why we work because we want to be able to give to our children really and to give a lot of and this that we're busy buying our children Apartments helping them out classes this that but this got me thinking he doesn't leave his learning could mean I'm serious about this it could mean own kids it can mean the the people you give to you think to yourself why do you learn so so little so little because you are working your for other people who says that you have to be so into getting every one of your kids in an apartment and setting them up this maybe they should set themselves up I don't know maybe I'm throwing this out I'm going this way you want to take it to the centers to say okay so maybe don't work 10 hours a day work eight hours a day but those extra all that extra time that you're working to support yourself you know that you don't need all that yeah you could do you can get away little Bread Butter you already have an apartment so why you working all that because you're setting your kids up so you on your own account so I'm saying is you should people should be learning your own you got to learn from the own and don't don't count on anybody learning for your n cuz probably nobody will they will take those garas at to sha house and usually they don't learn it so if you want to have a nice account up there do it on your own and stop being so not saying stop completely you know what I'm saying think about it just a little bit Bas me open day besides in shabas but start this shabas it was open actually and a few people came in yes yeah say could be don't don't be like that guy from uh what's his name the mag that says the so he learned from me that you take off an hour or two a day and he started giving a sharing yish and then he took off the whole day now he doesn't work at all zero B knew I went to visit him what's his name I forgot his name read you know what I'm talking about I'm not telling people to do that I'm just saying to think about that idea maybe half hour less every day now what business does this woman have in the yusha here she's not part of it why is she even planting things on in a yha field we're talking about a woman who's helping the assignment why because she she herself inherited how did she inherit so either her husband put her in the inheritance or it goes like this whoa It's Working fast do you guys see that let do it again yakob he has two sons Ruben and shim Ruben has two sons and shim only has a daughter okay now Ruben and shim go bye-bye then goes yov so yakov's property is inherited by who by ruven's children and by shim's child which is a woman she gets the full yusha that we learned so now she is splitting yusha with these and she's taking care of it for them they're young she feels bad for them it goes through through the fathers through Ruben and shim she gets half they get half and she's busy with that with that property so she if she works it then they get to share in it unless she tells them straight out I'm not working for you says certainly she has to split it why not it's not her way it's not a woman's way to go work for other people or to work period so if she's already working on the farm it's something strange she's doing for herself it's as if she said straight out I'm not working for the I'm doing for myself she could only take it for herself if she said it specifically she said specifically Go's you know I know sh kamansi he went to sim Camp right Sim whatever it's called what's it called Camp Sim kids that go there they're very proud of it it's good for you're a person that cares about other people person that cares about sick people it's not so comfortable to deal with them it's there's pride in it when this lady happens to be in right now she needs a desperately she's an Al she tells people look look look on my resume I took care of the I'm a good person it's good for her people like it so you think that she's all for herself selfish this is an incredible that the says at the end it's one of the only three in the entire that almost don't make sense but it's hard to put logic into it and it's a good thing you guys are here tonight because this could save you a lot of money so let's say AI you have a extra apartment somewhere and a Shia from C Sim he gets married so he say you know what he you can use my apartment until the other one gets is ready okay sit there year two years you know what happens it becomes Shas automatically boom no questions asked why you didn't make a Kenyon you didn't sign it over nothing then I have to ask you for permission it becomes say that's what the gar says there's a couple ways out of it the easiest way out of it is to leave something in the house a bottle of wine a picture on the wall something but if you give him an empty house like in D just plain walls be careful don't tell me I didn't I didn't warn you I'm warning you right now L an apartment there here here's a picture it's not mamish like this but let's say he gets married in a wedding hall this is the wedding hall whatever he goes over there he's C to the whole place says so those days obviously they didn't it's not wedding halls 10 people a little like you know 4x4 they made a little wedding there everybody bring the different garas if I I remember once learning I don't remember now anymore maybe it's time I made it up but let's just say people brought their own food or no it seems like from the gar head that they used to serve nice food but everybody had a little roll and a little sardine and but that room becomes the there's a few stipulations here so it's not sh this can't be sh has to be the has to be he's marrying a woman who it has to be that it's your son's first wife and it's the first marriage so this works usually by now the also adds that it's also when the father has a place to live in that City he has his own house and there's nothing in the house as we're going to see in a second the walls are be so the says if it's a TW story that we understand by ourselves it doesn't get the second floor it only gets one floor what if this house also includes a little you know perola whatever it's called pergola in Hebrew how in Hebrew I'm all confused what about if it looks like this and the wedding was in the Inner Room bottom you see over here bottom room the the wedding was in the Inner Room does he get the outer room also so we have a question we have a question on one is inside the other to get to the inner on you have to walk through the OU take take we have a question on all this said okay here here I have a there's a la over there there's a few bunch of things there over here it says you don't get the house why not I thought that if you give your son a house and he's a and it's his first marriage blah blah blah blah blah the whole thing he gets the house no his father uses it for storage so he doesn't get the house the father leaves one burden there he has a pet parakeet and it's in the house he doesn't get the house you know like you want your son to come in after the smell what do you leave him leave him like fried fish in the pan so if you leave him that then that means the house is not his did this and he married off his son you think that these things are new to our generation they used to do it back in the day also they would hang their shoes in the house he left one cup of oil there and that was enough to tell his son dream on I'm not giving you this house there are three things in that the made it it's like it doesn't really fit into any other that we know we know they have to make a Kenyon and to give somebody a piece of property has to make aaka and AAR the what do you mean he was there after the becomes his what's a in it so this son gets the house why because as the says here let me see if there's a nicer one yes he did it nicer it's a terrible thing for a to Dave did you leave the the video that he showed I said I in the Hebrew I said like reminds me of this bardak thing because we had the Effie from bardak we had him and his uh his partner come here for year and uh the following day when I was learning the Su was I thought about that new piece that they have it's G piece it's koser it's it's the whole piece about in the world and how the this is pushing the other guy to give more money more money one of the thing I'll just tell you one of the lines they so as I'm saying it they found it online and threw it in CU I said you know I don't know if it's okay one of the lines is like this goes to the at the V and he says listen I hear you give a she at night he goes no I don't he goes no come on you do I heard you do he says no he says but what am I going to write I have to write that I mean a you know like what am i g to call you the mag so he turns it around to him he says and what are you what are you so he he goes no okay okay fine you know you want to call me going okay anyways no what happened over there is that all the way I think I told you this the guy put a lot of money on the side and all this was able to put together with all his money after he wasted it on flowers and then this and then that he got like this here in somewhere you know the video you see the pipes the sewage pipes and and a bunch of garbage cans in front of the door they're moving the things away and they come in and the H is like oh no and he says what's the problem and like the camera turns to the to the cabinets and and it's mud on the cabinets everything disgusting he goes yes like what's the like what is the problem what go and he's throwing he's throwing he thinks with the is gonna cover up the problem anyway he had a beer on Friday to see it maybe also will throw in a piece or two down where it is they shouldn't do say on the thing copyright we said this what's the second thing that doesn't make sense we all remember this a person writes I want to give everything I ow to my wife you think she would inherit everything instead of inheriting everything what does she inherit zero nothing not even one cup of coke nothing G he made her how does this make sense he said I'm giv you everything to my wife is if it works on he understood this is what he wants this is we we'll just show the uh the we know the famous the guy in the middle lent money to the Mal the let money to the oh you don't see it because whatever G hello oh he's not even up there look at that I'm not joking he's not even up there okay so the wow listen it's nice and quiet tonight we can't complain the the guy in the middle Mr schi lends money to the malva the malva lends money to Thea now the Mala tells the L you know what instead of you paying me pay the third guy but how does that work there's no kenon the didn't make a Ken with the Mal there's nothing going on it just words how does it work if he said in front of three people it works without a so that's also big turning of the dich family that includes all of you Glen ERS dedicated Jacob Israel thank you for bringing the into my life so what's going on here is as you can see a little bit in the a little bit in you have to make sense of what's going on here basically the king smart guy he wants to collect taxes how's he going to do it so he makes somebody every month he takes another guy says okay you're you're in charge of the taxes for this uh location you for collecting taxes I'll give you $20,000 who's not going to do it so he works really hard he makes $20,000 it's a big to be the collector the king doesn't care it's $20,000 but he put it in his pocket half a million dollars every month somebody else has that's now the King goes to this house why because he owes the father of the house he owes him that favor it's his turn but the father just died yesterday so instead of taking the father he takes the son so the son is going to say oh I should get $20,000 no no no no no no no $20,000 belongs to the state why because it's the state that the king wanted to appoint to collect the taxes it's not you you're not special it's because of your father somebody came to me after this year and said okay that so that's similar to if I get a job because I don't know different things think about how it could apply to today they you split it with this state now a brand new nothing to do with the first line in the Mish and R one of the boys before they divided the yush he got sick he needed medication he needed certain stuff so he went and he he took from could he take from the or not no he has to pay for it on his own so now thear just explains what I said before talking about the king told you to be to do this job so he's getting all this payment is because of his father not because of himself he has to split with the Y same thing if one of the brothers was appointed because he's part of this household that they came for the household so one guy in this house is going to benefit and get this great job he has to split with the brothers doesn't seem fair right he's doing all the work but he has to split with his brothers because this special job is because of the house and not because of himself if he only landed his job because of all the brothers of course he has to divide with the brothers he's the smartest one the reason why he landed the job is because he's so brilliant his IQ has 170 IQ no it's the household that caused it okay so they picked him because he's a little smarter but it's the [Music] house one of the brothers took a large sum of my to go to yes or to go to university now he's out of the house now he's he's in Yesa who's going to support him what do you mean who's going to support him we have a bunch of money all the kids in the house are getting paid they're going to support him if you stay in the house we'll pay we'll give you we'll support you does anybody think that makes sense if you're not you only get supported if you're in the house if you go out of the house you go to Yesa you go to college no more as what's the difference where you are the state has money to pay for support you pay for support this is where it is I don't know if I should show or no we don't have that much [Music] time in they have these signs people from different if you donate money they make these signs he's collecting the [Music] we're showing movies now it's a Shar with movies [Music] there's anyway you idea I love the beard M the beard the Frack the okay anyway if we already stopped what's what's your name all the way in the back corner what's your name you were here before a little bit how what's your name from wait a minute I didn't read emails today I did ah no because I got an email because we had a guy in that seat and I messed up a stickle a few days ago and a guy wrote me a very nice email to to no seriously that's that's not a good seat for me it's like I'm not going to stop asking people what their name is from that seat but a guy wrote a nice very cuz I was I was a mess for for 24 hours and your name you yeah you also here before you're here every day for the last two years I got it [Music] okay what's the difference where [Music] is there a concept called economies of scale you all know what that is economy a scale no no I made that up if you know what it is raise your hand that's it kind of a scale basically if you think about it I'm not a scientist I don't know I think I I think missar if somebody has six kids and then he adds a seventh kid it's not that much money it's not that he already has a house he already has the car he he's paying electric he's already has the air a few his wife throws in another pul into the thing it's not the end of the world it's not that much more what incre marginal f increase marginal cost I thought I was being fancy it kind of just scale increase the marginal cost call whatever you want you get the idea so what are you leaving the house now you're starting all over I have to support you now in yes Shiva you have to you need a bed now you need a Dr and a whole thing and it's it's a lot of money that we're not paying for so the says okay very good but he's still still going to cost you money when he's home so whatever that is pay says how you going to figure it out okay but it's something so give him a $100 a month you don't want to give him a th give him 100 but why zero zero doesn't make sense you do have to give him that amount that it would cost to have him at home means he decides to go to another country and he goes to Manhattan you know how much rent is over there you know how much the food cost that we're not giving you stay with us be like us that's fine you have to you have to spend your own money says if he became sick on purpose then the estate doesn't have to pay for it he came down with the state has to pay for it how he get sick on purpose the famous everything is from brings the fam that's referring to the people and the way they're born if they're tall strong Rich this that okay but all disease comes from AEM besides colds and fever here we have the famous picture this guy you can't claim oh what I didn't show you this ah okayy he used to get a cold if you sat next to open window for 5 minutes he got a cold he was very very sensitive and they sent him to siir Siberia siir in Hebrew Siberia so when he got there he said until now it was in my hands I could stay away from a window I could take care wear three coats the whole thing take care of my body now I'm in Siberia I can't do anything you take care of me he says he writes about himself he writes that for the three years he was in Siberia he did get sick even once not even once so you could you could think I I didn't want to say this in the Hebrew I was thinking back and forth and I thought about on chavas I know this thing called but I say you know what if it give somebody a little so on Friday I didn't say it now I'm going to say it because nobody's really listening I know that the story could be true because I've been saying sheer for 5 years straight every single day and I used to get sick like everybody else I I had the flu once I was in bed I couldn't moved for 3 Days literally you know what I mean like a serious flu poo po poo you say poo po poo works I remember I strained my neck I couldn't I was I you know how like sometimes you wake up like this you can't what happened slept in the wrong way different things like I all I I I couldn't wear my lenses I couldn't see for five years straight I tell the re listen I'm giving Shear take care of me to say you don't get sick I said it's and hard to say it but I don't think I got sick in fire I got a little bit I had I had a little bit of Corona I think I have to push through it and give Shear during it but not like huh stroke but then nothing came out in the in the MRIs what else they go sling in the speech let's call it nothing major thank you that's the ri nothing happened okay yeah I gotta say this because we're talking about to the so this week's par real quick we only have two minutes they're coming in already this week's par d and d and d for and what happened nothing nothing happened light this is just my own har because I I kept on thinking about it it says that he asked the it doesn't say he's a nudj no but come on again and again you see this idea of like keep on pushing don't don't take over an answer the the Mal said no we're not coming again again until they okay fine they gave in Hashem said stop enough no no but maybe this this but the bottom line is just I got to say this because some people get discouraged you do and D and and didn't listen to them so what do you do a lot of people D doesn't listen so that you have to say when Waxman got killed the famous l i I heard this from a bunch of people na waxman's mother got up and she said everybody ding thousands of people ding for my son they should be saved he was terrorist they grabbed him and they batched up the rescue and she said I know the so how come hasm didn't listen cuz sometimes a father says no sometimes he says no but what happened to all the FAS they didn't go to waste they didn't go to waste those FAS go somewhere else you die for this has says no this is not for you yeah I want money I want no you're not getting money but your daughter is going to get a great the take your from here and put it over here so don't be discouraged any I need to show you this over here he says that when a lion attacks a person or you have a robbery at home that's from person that jumps off a bridge and commits suicide that's not from he goes into the whole thing says the mishna we got to do this no we're Mish behind it's starting to come in if you live in Isel you know all about this mishna it's it's a shocking thing I didn't know that much about it I looked into it it's a real thing if you're spy you know exactly what I'm talking about if you go to spy wedding you must pay must pay at least 500 sheel here it is it tells you if you're that you get mamish you get off the hook a lot but if you're like a regular if you're it's between 600 to 800 shekele it is mandatory if you don't per person you come a couple you have to give, 1600 sheo you go to three weddings in a week you're broke if your it goes down to four 500 she per person if your is three 253 There are rules and regulations the this is I I found it online what's his name what huh must be true it is true as people as SP they'll tell you a lot of SP them are becoming ashkanazi for the wedding nights now thein that you are to pay back so if somebody comes to your wedding and gives you a $1,000 check if you're spity you must pay that back and he could sue you in bz and that's what AR is talking about so us as not us this a lot of SP in the room have no idea what's going on here they come you stingy guys come to a wedding you don't give a gift garnished the they pay up big time if if the brothers were sent by the father to give a check let's say brother number one the there's a wedding in the family the father says here take a thousand shekele check go to that wedding give it to them now when the b ruing gets married he's the guy that delivered the check so the the the GU that received a thousand che check what's he going to do he's going to give a thousand checkel back but to who who wrote the check the initial check was the father yeah let's start over Steve SEL is my son 20 years old no no you're not in this story you're 20 years younger I give you a check here take this and give this tan he's getting married okay now I'm not going to say that I went bye-bye but let's just say you're getting married now he has to return the favor no no no not so fast the Brothers here you have to share with your brothers because it came from me I have other Sons besides you what's going on here am I this to to the to the whole estate so when the gets married the one that gave the delivered the ini the initial check he deserves a check back no no no no he has to divide with all his brothers why because that check came from the father and this is something you collect in bzden we're going to see a bunch ofas about it there's no ribus on it but it could be collected in bz if you just give your friend a gift that you cannot go and ask from bzen happens to be that the villain holds you actually owe a person a favor back if he gives you a favor you owe him back you can't sue be owe it that's what said before it's to give a gift to somebody else yeah so whoever sponsored let's just say you all Americans out of here but there's a guy from the Hebrew Shear that sponsored pizza for the Hebrew guys the guy from the Hebrew sh hint guy from the Hebrew on Thursday sponsored CH for the Hebrew guys last week they participate they give back they don't wait for mdy to give them I'm just throwing it out there so you guys could also some somebody could step up and say hey I'm donating pizza for on Friday night like uh what's his name Einhorn this for everybody or like him tongue tongue for everybody so says the are we there should we stop here we can't stop here how many how long is this sh going for have a wonderful evening