Daf Yomi Bava Basra Daf 131 by R’ Eli Stefansky

[Music] good morning [Music] ra I was walking here and it started to rain it's like a little dreary outside you know it's great rain was dreary and all of a sudden a light came into the the first time ever schy Rosenberg is here wo SCH rosmer gives every single day hours of his day to why he always ask me not to mention his name so I'm not going to mention his name now I mean he's s b a guy who gives and gives every if anybody ever receiv received the gamarra and there's thousands of you who know who you are SCH Rosenberg is the one that dealt with it sent it shipped it wrote the emails back the forth the all back in the day it was during yamus I was in Switzerland I think and that's he taught me how to do a lot of the um Powerpoint stuff a lot of the he has a lot of skills a very successful person has he runs all these different shows and different things around the world massive you know um right shows like conferences and stuff like that and he spends hours every day giving back to MD finally I get to see him in person here I mean I met him 100 times but here in live it at the headquarters MD wife first how many years are you with us since ra ra he's going on the cruiser Bo he'll be there so last night I read an email but it was such a email that I have to say it again it's Sunday I'm not going to read it I'm just going to tell you the the synopsis of it because some of you haven't been here last night and uh you might not have heard it and I have to do kazara who was unbelievable I say the story all the time about a woman who came over to me at the shabbaton last year to me and my wife and she she described how she had a dream she had to learn a rabbi came to her in a dream she wasn't so religious and he said you have to learn B she had no idea what it was and the rabbi explained to her something called CH something called B they just did a seal she went online she looked it up and she found that was sheer and she became a lot more observant and she said but my husband he's stuck in this right over here and I brought him to the Shabbat home and I brought my daughter to the Shabbat I want him to see I want him to feel and she said she she plays the sheer loud that maybe the the toyra is going to penetrate him he's standing there looking like this he wrote me a beautiful email last night oh well shabas wrote me email that when I started doing the Hebrew Shear he deci said okay because he's is's really Israeli they live in Connecticut but he's Israeli and uh every day he feels a change every single day where he turned the corner he says and basically he spent a shabas by thead Yin IM and to the point they became such friends that he decided to send his daughter to the camp she was there for a week and ran away I was once yeah but he said it m made an impact the wives are best friends now Etc tremendous very moving and he described the shabat how the shabat gave him a jolt of energy of Y of he saw how people are enjoying themselves and learning to all at the same time um I just want to show this this is the sponsorships that we have so far we have a brand new sponsor right over here um these Anonymous as I said are I know them these are not madeup stuff uh they were both on our trip to Europe uh $20,000 each uh the new uh sponsor is this guy right over here this guy this is what happens he went to Yosi kin to sell him faucets and Ne he got stuck he went to the tried to sell the wrong guy no he sold the right guy because he bought from him but he gave $5,000 towards uh the shabbaton who's on Zoom hi you're live on sheer this is look who's sitting next to me anyway said he doesn't want to open up the uh the the registration until he has $100,000 worth of sponsor so it looks like he should be able to open up any minute now and uh we wish him a lot of with that it's a very hard thing to registration I'm only reading one email from our very dear friend Yehuda geman dear reell over my past 35 years in Yehuda comes to the she every single day and he sits right over there I don't want to ruin the end of the email but he sits right over there over my past 35 years in AR I've starred that at least four times and I've dropped off each time after some serious encouragement I.E harassing from Yeshua eron price oh Yeshua ER price let me tell you something and I have to say this we had our very very first youth minion here in the base marage on with the of the of the the whole thing not a single advertisement went out not a single piece of paper Nothing by the time diving was over we had 80 people here 80 people and uh I said if we open the menu it has to be one rule one rule which is what I learned from Nicks in uh in Miami no talking and it's doable I learned from Nick that you could do it with it doesn't matter what crowd the most modern crowd in the world you could do it you seea guys they have a little bit of a problem I see when they come to our they like like shooing here there I I I got up between before first they knew they knew this is the rule but I I I spoke for two minutes just about why we did the minion and how I really on and everybody should because but we understand that sometimes guys need some extra sleep so we uh we're going with it it's controversial as long we going to try to make which we did we made we're on unfortunately people are going to have to do at home explained it to them one rule told him about Nicks explain to them how my son who's was a bit of a schoer during daving loves Nicks you can't I'm asking that not one word not one word was uttered here during the not one the the minion of the older people should learn from this minion they should learn not one word there a good CH afterwards Good Vibes and re price from back in the day he was here being M of things ran got I realized how much I missed the guy gave every single person that came in and gave him a big fat hug so got coffee remember he used to go around giving coffee you remember that yeah I remember that also I went I when I remembered that I ran down my four flight of Ste to know I'm fixed I said you remember yesu impress used to bring coffee to each and every person we used to have back in the day used to refill anyway so my you could ask no I'm who's not here but that's what happened I ran you ran all down all your four flight of stairs to tell me that I said yeah anyway um so he says like this a little bit of a rassing from Yeshua price and some additional hazing at the last I joined MD for B and that's when the fomo started fear of missing out and I understood I tried to explain this email in in Hebrew just say fomo it's also in Hebrew F happens when what you may be missing out on is to the person I don't experience fomo regarding not being in the current presidential election because it's just not to me but I haven't missed ads these last 1,300 days because you help me understand that finishing sh is to me so despite the many long trips I've made to Texas to help my parents despite my children's weddings grandkids bris I haven't missed a DA because I know that I'm Aid who can finish ass so thank you very much for me my wife my kids my grandkids PS I know you're not great with names so just to remind you I'm the short guy with a great beard who's been sitting about one and a half meters on your left hand these last 1300 mornings and we've lived across the street from each other since you made Aliyah [Applause] no it's a good thing you reminded me seriously I was like who's you agreement oh that guy okay you should finish together he goes he goes he tells me all the time he goes to Texas there's not a single over there nothing right where you go garish no but the da the da he never misses a day show he sent me pictures in stadiums over there what there was bull fighting whatever it is they doing taxes the rodeo no rodeo in the rodeo he's learning the D all right here's the question if you if a person's father remarries do you have a aim on his new wife huh yes yes why not she's not your mom what's your name again remind me your name says it says s s there's a special em he's right it adds also the father's wife oh oh oh we're going to get there what about the oldest boy in the family you younger boy you to everybody knows that one because the always pulls that trick out but as we're going to see there's a very nice between the two the the father's wife is only when the father's alive because the the the comes through the father it's to be it's to honor the Father the brother has nothing to do with the father so let's say the father tells you do not honor this son you don't listen to him to honor the brother older brother okay sponsors thank you jumped it the for the safe and speed return of all the hostages familyid Jersey because is the best should have a year from his family and his family for the art forell the whole staff to continue to make so enjoyable for so many thank you again I have a a new energy now where were you all these year don't tell me this the first time in in five years this the first time you every time I was here you were out that's what it was last that's right your son's wedding yeah huh in the back he is where where's the I don't see him what are you doing over there why are you hiding ah you were upstairs you're looking at the thing okay sh how you doing you still live in awesome [Music] this is what we're talking about talking about says and remember we passing this re passing like him even that if a father decides to give all to one son even if he uses the language of yha it works he he's you don't have to do it in the of Matana you can do it in the of yusha so asked a question is it also talking about a father that's 100% healthy or perhaps the guy is on his last dying breath and he says it and that's the only way it works maybe it's a guy that's died he's a guy that's giving a what does that mean so the explains here's the maybe the T said that day the day that he's giving the that's when he has the right to give it a day before no it has to be be the says that's when you give you the gave a special to a guy this m is dying in the last breath he doesn't have to write it down his his his words mean a lot so that's the day you could do it maybe perhaps the t is telling you that a healthy person doesn't have the right just to give it over to his he wants to give it great do it as a gift not as only works on that day baby perhaps no it also works with a healthy guy so what the gar is going to do here is very very simple gar is going to give us a case of where you see that a healthy guy a guy on the day of his wedding of his wedding he's getting married can't be any healthier than that he's getting married although we had with that was a crazy story yeah I'm just thinking he came here was inspired everybody like a week after he got married he detected that he has the ma and he went through chemo and everything and he sent us pictures of him do doing the D he didn't miss a day didn't miss a day now he's healthy this year this year he got anyway a guy's healthy like an ax gets married he's a 20-year old what could be wrong gets married and on the day his he writes to his kids that he doesn't have yet that he's going to give them a yusha he he writes in theba I'm going to give my sons yusha the the properties that that I get from my wife I'm going to give it to yusha so you see that a person who's healthy gives a yusha that's the whole R the only thing is that we are going to go into the into that whole story The gar is going to dissect it and it's going to be a sug but that's the r for now not to lose focus of what's going on here we're trying to figure out can a healthy person give a yha to his to his kids when he's healthy the answer is yes you see that a writes to the kala in the giving to the Future kids that are not even here says this Mna this story that you just told me that writes in his to his to one of his children to his children that that goes like okay so we needed to say that because we're asking it's according to we just asked the whole question according to does it apply even when a person is healthy the answer is yes here here's it's not so it says in the this if he didn't write it in the he forgot to write it it's still it still works the is there there's certain things that you're supposed to write in the and if you don't write them it doesn't matter we do it for you bezan takes care of thisai without you regardless whether you're right or not this is one of them so what are you writing here here let's just show you here it works like this the husband had two wives and he had children from both wives now here in it's very popular CLE young couple gets married so the the parents get together and they buy an apartment for the the young couple so half the apartment is really owned by the wife half the apartment is owned by [Music] the by the the and the Kal half half and half now a lot of people go out of the well everybody goes out of the way this a this is a big tremendous chunk of cash it's don't matter half a million dollars today who knows what so a person is fearful I'm going to give my daughter a half a million dollar apartment and what happens what happens this apartment who who who gets it if it if it stays in my family great but this schri she married has another wife I don't want my apartment that I gave her to go to this these other kids that I don't even know and I don't care and I we they actually fight with each other these Step Brothers why why should I give them something didn't want this to happen wanted a father to give to his daughter openly without any issues so what they did is they said whatever goes to that wife goes to her children that's it the other children don't inherit that even if this is what happens check this out actually let me go to the real one this is I asked Kobe to change it this morning Kobe is the Hebrew editor he's up the whole night I guess I saw that he was playing around that I said hey I got a problem here fix it for me because I don't think Yoshi was up then I hope it works let's see this is the father he gives his daughter real estate and then sh passes on so now who inherits that the husband now the husband goes bye-bye what should happen now to her it should go that way it should be half and half because the husband inherited her and now all kids should share in her real estate that she got from her father we don't want that so we say no X the the the other kids get everything her kids get everything plus they get the 200 of theba that the father ownes it all goes to them the 200 is also not divided great so now let's look at the L we have this case clear the issue is that it says a lan of if he didn't write in the male children the that we're going to have together means now why does it say yusha it could have also said gift Amana yusha is a strong L it's a hard L it's it's a bad L really to to to give somebody a yusha while he's alive right we discussed this it's not something you really want to do the best way is to give gifts not not yusha when a person is alive when a person dies person he's alive now he's writing more than the portion that they have with the brothers right the guys on the left he has to give that real estate to those Sons even though he didn't write it in the why because whether you like it or not bz are going to do a condition here a without asking you it's better if you right in the but you don't have to oh now stop stop if we stop right over here we have our R that's the end of the Su and that is the end of the the is done with that that what it says here that according to even if a person uses a of it works when the guy is nice and healthy he doesn't have to be on his dying last breath so now the wants to know what's going on here this is a re wrote exactly when this happened maybe before he wrote it he maybe before he compiled them as it doesn't say it says YB means a YB means a gift in fact we have to change it as a gift and then we're going to see rebi says whoa I shouldn't have said that I was a baby for saying it it was very babyish of me and then maybe rebbi says no no no there is a good reason why it says the word yusha I was acting childish there's a story with famous story with he got up and gave a big D we know everybody knows the brought in but what people don't realize all the time what a great was he like the in L and he gave a big L and a guy in the audience asked him a question and he said afterwards this is what was going through his mind he says if I stop my speech right now and I get off the stage then people might say that everything I said about mus is also not maybe maybe they could poke a hole in the muser too look they Pok a hole in my speech maybe they could poke a hole in the whole idea of of learning mus Etc I could push him off and tell him a bunch of bone and different things that are not 100% many of us had that in especially whatever the guy just throws you something you know that he doesn't know what he's talking about he knows that he doesn't know what he's talking about but hey he got out of it okay it happens sometimes I could he said I I could have answered him 10 different things and and he was Big B Kish he could have flown through this and then confused the guy real good but you know what it's not 100% Ms it's not Ms so he walked off the stage he walked off in middle of his speech he said I'm sorry good Kasha goodbye it's Godless says rebi you know what I messed up messed up why why did I bother him why did I say oh you got to change the word it's not yusha it's a mat this that this this is the first time on this D going to be a second time where somebody [Music] has the the sons of this woman when the father promised them that he's going to give them the real estate they cannot take something that the father already sold to already by somebody else but if I if I'm right they have to change the word from yha to to gift if the father said I'm giving you you this house as a gift so it's their house so if the father went ahead and sold it to somebody they should go ahead and and grab it from them it's theirs it was a gift I was wrong is right should have said and so the just finishes up the who is the one that says you all to take from one one son give to another son decide who you want to give it to even in it's the whole story happened with a very healthy guy at his wedding so you see that a healthy guy could give away in a of yusha because even rebi said it doesn't have to say Matana it has to say yusha there's a big difference again why is there a difference get to the a little bit of a in the just to remember because there's a difference because whether or not the could grab it if the father went ahead and sold it well if it says yusha they cannot grab it it's done finished the father can do whatever he wants I'm giving to you as yusha yusha means I can do whatever I want with this real estate right now and if I sell it too bad on on the they don't they can't go after it because washa yusha happens afterwards and it didn't happen yet but if it's a gift I'm giving you a gift and then he goes and he sells it so then the Y can go ahead and take it so says REI it says yusha over here in the it says yha to tell us that they cannot go after estate that was sold okay we see that a father could give a yha when he's alive and healthy that's all so that's done we're not going to go back on that the only thing is we might want to discuss this word yusha and I have a problem what's the difference why the Reb say I have said this word I should have said that word there's no difference in any word why let's say let's say you read it that the father's giving a gift let's say you read the father's giving you I have a problem what's not in the world what's not in the world right now the kids the real estate is here the people that are getting the real estate are not in existence yet they just got married tonight so so what are you telling me to give who's the people that are receiving the gift are not alive yet they might be alive in 20 years not now you could sell something that doesn't exist yet that's because the person that you're selling it to is around it doesn't work to a person that's not in the world so obviously we're forced to say there's a concept called he he and that fixes a lot of problems how so bz could do whatever they want andz so I cannot sell something that doesn't that that the people that I'm giving to don't exist but bz will take it forcefully from whoever it is and give it to them why did re have to change from to to go back no Matana yha there's no difference how you say it at the end of the day we're going to have to rely on bz we're going to have to rely in something very extreme called hefer Bez and hefer they take from this guy give it to this person so there's zero difference what Lan is written in auba you could write uh Mickey Mouse you could write yusha you could write Matana it doesn't make a difference it's bz in at that are doing it they're enacting something called aai and they use a thing called hez he they take from whoever the father sold or didn't sell they take this piece of property and give it to the Y that's it huh I don't think Mickey Mouse would work why not it says it doesn't matter what it says some sort of giving yeah but the gar says you don't need any l no that's the mishna the mishna says even if he missed the whole sentence we do it for him here it says it in the gar he forgot to write it I'm just I'm exaggerating with Mickey Mouse you want to start fighting with me about the word I'll fight you about it okay so let's go I say even if you wrote Mickey Mouse go ask a rabbi the point is it doesn't matter what he writes there you don't have to write anything bz are doing it for you says the I hear you good maybe this is what the is answering maybe you're to the it doesn't it does matter what you're right why says no you're wrong why would re or whoever wrote the mishna why would they write the word yusha if it doesn't make a difference why would he write it he wrote the word yusha to show you know there is a difference he could it's easier to say I'm giving you a gift from the fact that he wrote Mickey mous or whatever he wrote a different word oh there is meaning to that word see I'm right you're 100% right well not 100 you're 1% right but you're right you are right you're saying good so from the fact that the mishna used the word Yus and not you see that there is meaning to that word and it gives no no no I'm wrong now he takes it back the other day we had Raa got up and he said he put his microphone a speaker his T he said what I said is a mistake we have rebi who says I'm I'm I'm I'm the I made a mistake I'm not not just made a mistake I'm childish use a how say also today twice one made a mistake it's it's hard you don't find it so often that a r gets up boy say I made a mistake last week I passed him like this I made a mistake it's I'm not a r and I make mistakes every day and I'm used to it oh another says if a person forgot these words in the he didn't write that the girls I love this SL the girls that will that you'll have from me I'll do you a huge favor I'll let those girls that you had for me not my kids your kids that I happen to be the father of I let them stay in my house and they'll actually I'll support them from my own for my for my money what happens if a person doesn't support you don't have to support your kids after I don't remember age six eight whatever you wanted six age six you don't what if a person doesn't doesn't so first first you take money from him what if he doesn't have money shaming it's a big thing now in New York shaming a guy doesn't give a get you do shaming you go to in front of his house you go to his workplace he shame him until people give get him because of that it's done in the he's doing up here by the by the word of the law word of the law will shame you him no I just I'm guilty of it all like I'm babysitting my children my wife taught me you're not babysitting they're your children what babysitting your children babysit is some somebody from the outside is babysitting does a mother babysit her children no mother takes care of her children it's not babysitting it's your children over here the gamar says like me I'll show my wife this gamar those girls that you that I had with you I don't know who they are exactly those girl your girls your girls I let stay I'll let them stay in my house I'm going to take her kids to school her kids to school hello that worked by the way that worked for three years of two years however long it took at the end she said no no no go to she okay he's going all those guys that have an excuse that they have to take kids to school learn from Benny comes to tushi room at night and in the morning and when he has to leave he leaves qu to 8 okay say the g don't ask me everybody come here come here for a second come here come inside as I was coming into sh today he said I I want to ask you a real question I have to leave early do I come to shear and uh it's embarrassing to get up for for you or it's not covered for you that I should leave in Middle should I leave now I said no of course you leave in the middle I know that our good friend Uncle Phil doesn't like it but no I hold you come for 20 minutes it's better than zero minutes Hill when he comes late I get Hana from it I know that he's up till 4 in the morning and and he comes in the in 10 minutes what's wrong it's galing that's the way to do it it doesn't mean you should leave when you don't have to but that was a good one this good say it we'll give it to you A lot of people thought about doing it that would be funny if everybody got up and left and here I am by myself oh yeah they they all planned it once yeah I do remember Tak but it wasn't [Laughter] funny how do you get everybody together to do that of work okay Factor was doing it guy forgot to write in that if the girls involved here that he's the father of course they could stay in the house and they'll be supported for my money until somebody will marry them what's if you forget to write that in you have to do it anyways doesn't matter if you WR it or not oh it's say something very interesting do you remember yesterday we had all that if a guy has two Fields I'll show you I'll try to remind you something like this right this was from yesterday not yesterday two days ago two days ago two people two Fields remember I'm giving I'm giving away two two fields to two people one is a yusha one is a l Matana we said but at the end of the day at the end end of the day the bottom line was that if you give two people two fields in two different languages one you say I'll give you a yusha one you say I'll give you Matana if it's boom it works that's that according to everybody we have to remember that there was no if was you set it together boom so says this is also similar case over here I'm giving a gift to the girls I'm giving a to the boys so it's and anytime I give two things to two different people with two different languages will also agree since it was within the same sentence it works so then okay so then we have to remember just to stick in so what's theere over here so then why the re change his language if it doesn't matter what language you use yusha Matana it works so then why the RAB say oh I I shouldn't have changed back it should stay it should say What's the difference what it says over there by the way3 it's crazy this idea of I mean it's just you do it every day it's a little bit at a time but the time flies 130 days ago is the see him who told you so we're saying that this is was one sentence the sons mat for the daughters one sentence it works who told you maybe he's 100 years apart they first said the girls get a Matana or they said first that the son should get yusha then 100 years later they said in a different B the girl get who told you to put the two things together in one sentence and if it's then it works maybe it's not and it makes a big difference if if what you use the famous not but there's a thing called where the went why is it called different rash usually says because they they sat like like a Vineyard not in a circle that's that's different sheet though it was straight sanedrin did sit in a circle they asked these different questions fine sponsor is not not a middle car that it says in the that the sons are going to get a yusha and the girls are going to getus which is Matana and we make we make a comparison that the son that the daughters are like the sons just like the sons you have to wait until the father dies for them to get a yha you don't get AA when the person's alive obviously the father has to be dead in order to get support now how could you learn one from the other it was given in one bz okay makes sense so you can learn one from the other it was given by the same people and they did one similar to the other that's how you can learn the girls from the boys that the father has to be de in order to get but if it's like you're saying that it happened 100 years apart how you going to learn the girls from the boys was done in different that's not a good maybe did happen 100 years apart talk the second want to do it exactly like the first B to becking the girls like the boys in the same exact way why so you don't ask questions later generations say how come this is different than this how come it works this way not that way so they made everything uniform so you don't have a r that it was done in one maybe and the Tak was the same just as a as a thing for K theba he once said that before the war people would try to finish and finish and he finds that now he came to America says he asked people new you want to learn everybody says no it's too hard it's too hard I'm G how can I learn and he said that it says in he says is like is is like un of like a nothing you're you're you're you're like a worm he says oh that are going to say oh we're worms we're not worthy we can't finish how can we learn how can we finish so he instituted this thing called because of that which is the forefather of what we have today which is I don't know I'm sure it's still going but what's more popular today I think is D they say that took I know my father-in-law back in the day was doing so he took the he said oh this is a great idea to get people and in fact he got thousands of people to learn it's unbelievable because one person and me and I want to be like H okay I don't want to be like him I want to do something like him yeah he was your inspiration he's still my inspiration because our k mdy k is based on we took a I took you told him told him that yeah I told him many times that you he get because you follow was your inspiration I hope to meet him one day I try to meet him once and I don't know he wiggle his way out of it so maybe he'll set up a just say him anyway the yeah the we took over K we learned in this K and they were learning but when I when I took it over I said yeah we'll take it over but they have to do disal test and in fact that's what this past week 1750 da that means you could tell people the same people in the CL before a guy Jacobs regular kishan like everybody else now he did a 1750 no it's because of the CL who one day 50 years ago said you know what in America they could also know sh regular people could know sh it's just it's an attitude when you say no I'm not worthy everybody I'm going to know I'm going to do a test in 1750 death yes you could do it if you put your mind to it you could do it now do sponsers it's fancy today turning of the da bich bovich family he knows them by the end of the 30 days bichi bichi family this is the one of the best sponsors of all time the name is a little hard once I get it'll be Glenn esterson dedicated to gilad Jacob Israel thank you for bringing the D into my life what's BH but doesn't past but what he ah back back he's saying thank you to the guy that brought D into my life I love ital these are one of two best sponsors we ever had oh no not to give a to anybody else but the short and great what happened we have like this that M yeah a guy forgot to write that he's giving the's to his sons the doesn't matter anymore now it doesn't have to go according to could go even to we said but rebi said that the word yusha is very important I wanted to say no it's it doesn't say yusha it says Matana no there is a need for the word yusha you know why to tell me that these Sons cannot go after property that was sold because if it would say the other word Matana would make a huge to be able to go after easy so if I ask you if a father in his lifetime gives everything away to his high school friend does it work yes if he gives everything away to his wife does it work says the gar it doesn't work we have to understand what's going on here what he tried to do is he tried to make her in charge responsible and a tropus he doesn't want to mess his kids up and not give them anything so why do he give it to his wife because he wants his sons to respect her now the the says an interesting l in here not exactly sure but because of this idea that you don't have to respect your father's wife after he dies so now there's a big issue seems to say not like that a little bit but again while the father was alive you were respecting her the stepmother but now the father's dead so she's concerned that you're going to disrespect her so he's very smart he puts all your money in her hands now you need her for money oh now you talk with covic it's all about the dollar so he gained everything now what does it mean up DRS she's going to decide how much money you get every week what your allowances it's not that she's going to divvy up the the real estate that that not but for the time being they need a certain allowance she decides how much and where sorry what no no they have no it seems like not seems like not because he uses a Lo of not like that what heish but there wouldn't be a need I'm saying you're might be right but it wouldn't be because a regular mother you m her who's notab your own mother after father want your own mother mess with money no they're not messing her over with money this is about their money she she's controlling their money okay everybody understands that if he gives everything over to theopus it's obvious he didn't try to give everything to the to the oldest kid he tried to make him in charge that he should be in charge why once again this this concept that he's supposed to be so this would be a right to against me here you're supposed to anyway so okay he wants them to continue this cover huh I'm not being it seems like you but I think that the is talking about a step one what about a younger child gives everything to the youngest kid is he trying to make him even this this little guy he gives him everything yeah it's only it's not to give it's he's in charge now this guy's in charge of his brothers he's Tres says now to read this is a little complicated but very simple what's going on here there's two extremes it's very simple says the G if I give everything to the son the son is going to be in up troubles that way you're already established doesn't matter the oldest son the youngest son even a son in a crib he's he's a tropus and it's very simple that if I give it to my high school friend it's a Matana that's it I didn't leave any to the kids I get everything to my friend so that's in other words the two extremes so says but what about the middle the middle ground there's two extremes two very simple things I give it to one son every 100% to one son I'm not going to mess my kids over not giving them what I meant to say is he's in Happ Tres I give everything to my best friend he's not in Happ Tres he got everything and I messed over my kids but the question [Music] is what's mat so arusa means in the time of the gar they used to do an engagement they would give the herf M get engaged so she became the thing is that he doesn't want his kids to respect her she's not around even she he doesn't care if they respect her or not so if he gives her all the yusha then it wasn't to be an tropus it was to be to give her a gift what about a divorce yeah why would why would he give us divorce oh obviously why would he give her not to be an apat tropus he gave her a gift why oh so there's a medra somewhere a gar somewhere that we searched for it we couldn't find it but it's there we'll find it one day we'll find it today there was a guy who he got up for theed and he said Mas we looked intus already couldn't find it there the wind started blowing and it started to rain immediately so whoever there was over there R whoever it was asked him what how are you says I don't know just a simple guy say no no what do you do it turned out that his ex came to him for money and he had on her now most people don't like their ex that much it's not a common thing so this guy didn't like her but he went above and beyond and he gave somebody he didn't like money so now he's causing his kids to hate him also no no no no I'm just telling you what mat is you see this idea that sometimes people give an ex mat person need needs a specific thing that to give everything you have but it happens happens it everything let's say it happen I don't understand something let's say it happened you ask me why invite the case there's no reason to put it in I I can show you V let's write a sa called v v cases and I'll show you that this is one of the nonv cases this the whole sh is full of V what if what if a guy decides to give everything to his his divorce it happens maybe he liked her maybe has you know how many people you know [Music] um rovski right before he's in the ex came and and they they remarried and she took care of him until he died this people that have K here's here's the thing you know let me ask you something this is very serious this is very important why do people get divorced and later on they have K they have Kata I'll tell you Mish this is M people get divorced I think I don't know I'm not a psychologist they get divorced because 10% of what that other person does Mish makes them crazy drives them crazy so they focus on the 10% and they they can't they can't they can 10% so they get divorced and then after they get divorced they say wait a minute what about the 90% they forget about the 10% and the 90% becomes they're missing the 90% she's good cook good this Good Wife good everything okay 10% so they forget about the 10% they want the 90% that's what happened there he got divorced so you know what I messed up got divorced let me give her everything I have it's possible I'm saying it's possible before you get divorced think about the other 90% okay so here's a here's here the thing I had a good had good sha good sha listen to this you're going to like this if you get this Shila I'll give you credit for the other one is also 20 points no you get to then I'll I'll consider what you said before about the you have it's a great casha but thear is all about funny cases so here's a guy a lady gets the she gets second second marriage right you know how these second marriages go a lot of times but the the second guy that she married took a liking to her son he learned with him MN is teaching him this that and then they got divorced she divorced twice now but this guy kept up with this boy he liked him so he kept on learning with him and one day he's about to get married so the mother says you can't invite him to the to my I don't want this guy he's my ex I don't want him at the wedding he says what do you mean I learn with him every day what what should this boy do his oh and therefore what ignore the mother the RAB comes first I think right yes so now I have to respect what he just said before say Zin that he goes to he invites him to the wedding you fight on the mother all right let's go let's go is coming know you know case the what gave money to the you gave money to the G all money or a little bit of money that's the you can give a little money give all your money now your kids are going to hit your guts for all time because you give money for the ex like listen to this unbelievable you mean this morning listen listen I heard a here let's say a father goes off the D if the father goes off the D he he he comes baptizes himself he goes off the D you don't have to be him but let's say the mother goes off to d a mother goes off in other words your mother goes to her because of the father she's still married to yeah I know people like that you have a problem with that I know people like that yeah s comes because of the father so it's tremendous if the father goes off there you don't have him but if the mother goes over there you have her because of the father and that's why he gives her money after get div so I just did this is very very simple we did the first two on top a guy says I'm giving everything to my R to Mya so they get it as a gift what about the bottom three uh if there's a daughter and sons and he gives every 100% to the daughter was he trying to make her Happ trus or he's trying to make her or give her a gift what about if he gives it to his own wife when there's Brothers the US should go to the brothers what if he gives it his wife when he has other Sons so says so this is the chart the bottom three no they don't get a mat they are in the top two is a so he switches the before it says and over it says everything yes so the only thing so check take a look if you want to make it very simple take a look at the chart look what happens one thing changed the the center one those three they get a gift the bottom two they don't get a gift they tropus have a wonderful day it's beautiful thank you for coming for