Daf Yomi Bava Basra Daf 116 by R’ Eli Stefansky

oh [Music] no oh [Music] no oh no no [Music] know [Music] oh oh no I oh no I of the [Music] let me hear you no talking sit down and sing [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] I might have to [Music] stand why is there empty chair over there [Music] [Applause] I don't know maybe you guys are too far away I can't hear you welcome welcome to the first mdy official sua till now was always in my house we have to thank Elia from the Hebrew sh who built the SOA and all the people that are involved Dave sharfman who put up all the electronics I have Remy Cohen [Applause] Gary so thank you for coming basem tomorrow morning 10 o'clock breakfast by the famous chef atanar right in the Suka come on time otherwise you might not have a seat praise AEM next year we be in the Su of the let's see what we have here today so I'm going to read an email when you receive this we are wishing you a good a good or good I'm writing this email for two reasons it's a it's actually uh an emotional email in a way to express both mine and my father-in-law ZD and the accessibility provides people to connect with hem to be a big my wife and I moved to B Birmingham Alabama Alabama two and a half years ago to pursue building our family the reason my wife was born without a uterus and fairly rare condition known as MRK at the time we moved there were only four programs F transplants across the United States we were accepted to program in biringham needless to say the Jewish infrastructure is not the same as the place we came from I'm from Toronto and my wife's from Miami Beach we put our medical school studies in in our on whole to pursue this goal a goal each and every Jewish couple has my wife received transplant the week of pares a very auspicious time as it contains in it the prior to this and since then though I've been admiring my father-in-law Danny Gordon of North Miami Beach for the past three and a half years since Su B has been an active participant in learning the da with mdy regardless how busy his schedule is with this restaurants he always makes the time to learn the da oftentimes finding gar on on the front counter of Kwak one of his two restaurants in North Miami Beach when the ru came to Florida to see him last January my put me on the phone to get a br from the r it's interesting when I put this email in I didn't realize be talking about bras from a it's in today's da and I could ask I personally today people asked me for bras last night the r in the gave a whole speech in middle of the speech he threw me under the bus because I mentioned to him this REM I want to mention and he said that should ask me for bras he didn't realize how much I really despise it maybe did and he did it on purpose I don't know and my question is am I to give people BRS when they come to me and I don't like it I really don't it makes me very uncomfortable inside am I or not so that's a question we're going to see today so he pushed the N side from time in Yesa which happened to be down the street from him why I went to T 12 years ago I have AAR that has accompanied me as I moved through various cities and stages of my education finally I decided to dive in when the dve got to Kin I'm proud to say that even though I've missed I'm still on Pace with the and being to learn has been my reincorporated into my schedule DA has been a strong anchor in place where in many ways it is a desert but regardless of where we are physically in the world we know that there's no seula like that of the to my wife and I welcomed the baby girl into this world last week we named her to express our to for answering our as a testament to the Moa needed and acquired on the road of any and allus we encounter in life may we continue to share in this year thank you reell for being a vehicle for us and so many others to connect with May the bless you to continue to have the strength to do all that you do sincerely Cory Cayman Birmingham Alabama and Danny Gordon North Miami Beach here he is when I ned him to start the da he asked for br I said okay but what about the da so here he is should today sponsored the is the speed return of all theages and strength belly the lck family Lakewood New Jersey because is the best thanks forer Al and two donation all right we take donations the staff to Makey so many wow do you see him okay bunch of guys ready now I have a crazy question for the it's a based on a true story that happened in Europe there's a guy that was dying on chabas Mish dying and I'm asking the question like this let's say you have a makob who he has a unbelievable track record 95% track record whoever he gives a broa to was healed 95% of the time there's a guy who's dying on chabas are you you allow to be to go ask him for you know for 90 if you go to the hospital it's only 70% chance he's going to be healed you go to the for 95% you let it go to him on chavas to get a br what do you say you say no anybody say yes I'm not going to throw you out of the Suk if you're wrong even if you're andus what do you say liby what do you say you have no idea what the question was the question anybody say yes anybody say no most people say no why no it say what yeah maybe so you say yes Kam K bringing right from the kameha okay we are five lines from the top of so the story is as follows we know the story of to repeat it it's a very sad story inel there was a a man from Ley who was married to a PES some form of a wife half a wife Kaz and she ran away from him and he wanted to turn he went all the way to her father's house and when he was there the father held him up for a little bit and then he left and he got stuck at Night by a a Ley encampment and nobody sorry bmen and nobody invited him in no finally an old man brought him in and M is like what happened with light the people came knocking the door send out the guy so instead of sending him out they sent out to pesh and they mistreated her the entire night until she died he opens up the door in the morning and he finds her body over there she's dead dying he chopped her up into a bunch of pieces and sent out pieces to every shave it and clly Israel and said look what they did to my wife to my pish clly Isel said whoever did this to her give them over and they refused to give them over and for that they decided that they're going to go to war and wipe out sh bmen it took them a little bit it was couple hundred thousand people against forgot already how much 26,000 maybe and it took them three tries but at the final try they wiped everybody off all the women all the children besides 600 people that ran away the 600 that ran away when it was all over they had nobody to marry they got them 400 women from from a bunch of ISS that didn't want to go to war they wiped those isels out and then they got another 200 they had enough wives the problem is that all of shavid bmen is now down to 600 people so 600 people had tremendous amount of property and if they married a woman which obviously they're allowed to and that woman inherits them let's say there's no children that woman is going to inherit a tremendous amount of property and she might marry somebody from is and if that happen the property will move away from into another shaven so they made a deal they made a new typically speaking when you have three brothers as you can see on the screen over here you have three brothers each brother gets 33.3% if one of the brothers dies then the daughter inherits just like her father she gets 33% now they decided they made a new thing that the daughter does not inherit anything because she might bring her yusha to another shavit and therefore if her father dies she gets zero and the rest of the brothers that are in the shav they get the rest of the Yus here goes that thear is going to say at the end that this this is we don't have another T that says this himself doesn't hold like this that's at the end if a person only has anybody in this room only have girls according to hasem is upset at somebody who doesn't have sons even if he had sons and they were nifter upset him upet maybe he did something that I don't know I didn't I didn't want to embarrass you guys stop as long I'm not calling you it's doie today why because a daughter doesn't continue the name sake doesn't continue right you ever thought about it I don't want to like rub it in now so that's the problem it's a problem now luckily there are those who argue it says by us see we have the here yeah we have the famous what it like all the other so this interesting is a of the day that is going to punish the Sinners it's a day of ever of C okay Now we move on we don't M move on but it's the same [Music] thing I think if you're you this if you don't wear a jacket toing it means you don't have but there's another way to D it if you don't don't have a replacement you don't have a a boy as a replacement we don't know what it means you don't have a replacement so it could be one of two things could be either you don't have a boy or it can mean that you don't have a talid so says the gar we don't know who says what if you don't leave over a talmid you don't leave over a talmid then that means you don't have your and says it means you don't have your sh because you don't have a son tal I say this all the time interesting that says that a person's just like he's to give 10% of his money to he's to give to give 10% of his time to other people to teach other people T so may that's if you don't what time is it I see the Israelis starting to show up what ah we have time okay so yeah yeah yeah so maybe that's theat you don't give 10% of your time it means you don't have that's why you don't have a talet you don't have you're supposed to listen to supposed to listen to and give up some time for other people if I could prove one out of the two that says that if you don't have a means you don't have that means is the one that says you don't have a son so this is the famous garer he would tell you go to a sha house let's say a was killed or something you go to their to the house and you say you see this tooth or a bone According to some with his tooth this is he would say about himself this is my 10th son that I buried you tell people look like the Cen bbba he buried 11 of his children and a wife and he came and he reestablished himself in America became a rebba in did the the L hospital I heard yob sha Bar's brother told me during Shear he says as he was doing the the death march he said if I survive this B I'll open up a hospital in and he used to be a lot of people when people had sarus to think about 11 children 11 would go with this bat and say see this they say it's a tooth because a tooth is not m t it was a bone it's very problematic you see this tooth this is the tooth of my my 10th sonim says a terrible thing that his 10th son is baby fell into a Boiling Pot of water and when they found the baby there's nothing left of him just that one bone which also reminded me of myself when I was 10 two years old I climbed onto the countertop and I was curious to see what's inside that device that my mother was making coffee with every shabas so I took off the cover and I poured it on myself I thought that was a good idea ended up in the hospital for two weeks with my hands tied I don't have any scars maybe mental scars trauma I don't know you never know so how would go around and tell people look at this bone look at this bone if he lost his if somebody doesn't have sons is it's a Simon that he's not a good guy that he has he has a problem with his then he wouldn't go and expose himself he wouldn't deliberately he wouldn't go and and show off oh I lost 10 Sons that's a terrible thing so it's a that he holds that just because you don't have sons it's not a bad thing it's a person that doesn't have that's bad I hope you guys have tell them do you have tell them you better start working on that because the girl the boy thing is how about you you have tell them you don't have you better you don't want to be you know you don't want to kind of thing you want to go with yeah yeah if you bring some the you ever brought somebody M why that also not after all these years no no no no no you you from all people you better start quickly you only have girls what are you going to do you want to go like today today stand outside with a sign do something quickly no sponsoring your m is not enough you got to bring somebody knew so it's obvious holds that that the lack of a of a boy is not a problem it must be it's a lack of obviously 1 plus one equals two even P understands this says this and he has somebody that argues with him so obviously is the one that says if you don't have a son you don't have y [Music] never went to sh house why he's too busy learning you don't you don't go do other things there's other people that could be he was busy learning but when somebody died without a son then he would go be if that person died without a son because he wasn't a good person he wouldn't be says so let me show you this p is very important to see the if you look at this you have to see the first words it says it's a contradiction it says don't don't cry for the dead and a second later it says he should cry oh is do not cry for the dead but if somebody leaves this world without a namesake without a continuation person like that you have to cry must be the for somebody dies without a son so must be is the one that says that a person that dies without AAL he doesn't have now says one thing says the opposite but the problem is is the one that used to show his tooth of the son in other words words he he's saying that it's not such a bad thing to die without Sons so comes out like this holds like that dying without a son is not a sign that he doesn't have what's a problem the problem is dying without a tment so who says dying without a son is a problem that's the the rebi re who's re oh we saw with also good point but always qu one of his but good point Rabbi look at this the in the same uses a of for death and a of what's the and the contradiction why the had a son at least one he had many so therefore it doesn't say since he didn't have a son by so it says as he did have a son Generations later he still had son no no no when he had had a son just like him he had so if you have a son just like you that's the perfect way to go that's leaving literally not just the name sake but you're leaving somebody like yourself so he only laid down he didn't die I'm sure there people in this room this whole neighborhood is full of the to be poor is a very very terrible thing it's worse than many many other it's worse than 50 50 how do we know was saying y y is a hand we know that there was 10 and that was so that one finger is 10 so five fingers is 50 50 his friend said said you were chosen with these 50 over being poor because being poor is worse than the 50 the best thing is to to accept something if you have complaints the that it gives you then you lost out when a person has whatever it is you take it you say I I understand IEM did this for a reason oh here it goes RAB listen to this especially in our generation people go to rabam all the time I tell them what are you going to Rotom sit down open up learn some so what's this thing going to the r going to a re going to the is it where where's it brought down what's the inion there's a guy there's a kid in my Su 17 18 year old a son of one of my good friends and he was saying that it's a a whole thing so I knew I just learned the what do you mean it's a what does it say in the if you have a sick person in your house you should go to and the will di for him there are those who learn actually that it's two two things that it says there you should go to and you yourself in the name of that it doesn't say you should go to a and ask for it says you should go to a it says because sometimes a sadic might think that he's such a sadic that he's actually helping the and he forgets that it's the you go to is smart enough to know it's not him and when a person knows that it's not him then he has a greater chance of Ding and helping this interesting thing desler says that the only time it works it's interesting is if you m yourself to that sadic that's what he says like a thing you know that kind of thing that's why you shouldn't come ask me unless you yourself to me that's one thing but I have some other reasons too so there's a where a guy was dying and the dying of of that you're allowed to do to write a to the B the and go on and get a from him because this is kuger was Furious he said we got to fire this dying immediately he cannot passing anymore and his reason is that you could only be M shabas for something that's a natural way of healing through doctors and Medicine anything that's a nce and I think everybody here was m to this pretty much anything that's nce and and Caba it's also to be and he says it's a very strong Lo even if the is as great as who's known throughout with his unbelievable Miracles cannot go to him he can't be but at the end of the story it's brought down in the back of the M it says at the end of the story you're going to love this the b z was so concerned that this dying would be over and whoever was over that he D extra extra hard and was healed and it says that the bov was very upset also that they did this bov said it was also for them to do okay now I got to show you this this is phenomenal stuff A lot of people are familiar with this but I think it's K to go over this Mish almost word for word find he says I want to explain why a lot of people come to ra like myself and they ask me for for bras for all sorts of problems for for for people a whole thing for for for children I do what they want and I I give them bras even though I know I'm not worthy and I don't have enough to and I don't have and I'm sure people that know me are surprised that people ask me for bras now I don't push people away he says I don't tell them to go out to other people I know other people say go to other abam they're better than me I don't do that now it's he says that if somebody asks you to D for them every single person's to for that person for that to for them so certainly if you're a so that's that okay but there's some unbelievable things here so he says and I love this line he says if I tell people that I'm not a big enough God to give bras then they're going to say oh not only is he a God but he's also an on of so M can't say that and he says and IM he takes it he breaks it down to Pieces he says but you know people think I'm a because I wrote a lot of and I'm a he says but if you think about it to be a you have to be a like the time the I'm certainly not on that level besides we're hundreds and hundreds of years after the time of the the end of the gamar so and everybody knows that every generation you're less and less and less he was talking about that generation that not this generation K he says but the people that come and ask him for bras I think this is what he's saying all at the end they're doing the right thing because they're thear says the to go to and for that reason because they think that they're doing the right thing they're doing what said to do because in the of their in the words of is going to accept even my and that's why anybody that people think he's a and that's why they're asking for for them now get to me so I'm passing right now on the spot that this doesn't apply obviously because everybody knows not a I give a Shear so they tell me well you have he doesn't say that doesn't talk about says you have to be however there's a concept of if you give a then you and for those two reasons I did CH and people that come to me now I give them BR but anybody that's listening I'm asking you don't bother me I'm telling you that it bothers me it gives me atile every time so if you like me don't ask me if if it's m necessary I'll be you I can't be no I'm not a n of I'll tell you why I'm not a n of because already spoke about it and he already me beforehand so I can't use that stick so yeah but thank you and oh and on top of that you have to be Mis battle yourself to me so think twice before you want to ask AB it's great I'm going to tell Adler sometimes he he walks up the stairs before y to ask for bro no no no last night after the speech so I'm going to tell him okay I'll give you but you have to be misb to me and if he says I'm misb say okay stop going to whatever I have to remind me to do it uh where are we oh we're in middle of a word here no we said when the king is upset he sends the of death and it says you go to the to ask and to DAV and like said a of that generation of he goes in he says maybe every generation has says no no no we had a rule that whoever is first whoever's first in the he's before his own descendants like a grandfather is before the the father of the dead person is before the brothers of the dead person so has two questions here here we have a gal Shard very very simple the guy all the way in the bottom died and his grandfather is still alive the guy all way in the bottom has an uncle and the question is who's first for yusha the grandfather or the uncle and his son in the inheritance of the grandson as the if would die which he did a would inherit him not right we said a father comes maybe tell them that we there's too much noise that this wall doesn't separate ER yeah so in this case a comes before is so why because isal the guy this the guy in the center the guy where it says the guy with the Hamburg the tall hat he only comes because of the grandfather on top he's only there because of him what was thinking when he asked the question he was busy with another question says the he's busy with another question and therefore he didn't he was he was too t what happened oh he he did what the family [Music] M filled with somebody told my wife yesterday I think it was me but somebody was standing there I said you know somebody SP somebody says every day that in your whatever BR for you so the person standing they said oh we thought you watched the shear every day so she said I only heard one Shear or something you know since he started or the ones on vacation when I was in the same hotel room whatever another question so here's the second question right here the grandfather all the way on top and the brother of the one that died the one that died is all the way in the bottom does the grandfather all in top get it or the brother gets it what do you guys say huh everybody's saying something else galic the grandfather you say that's because no that's because you didn't come to the shear uh you listened okay so let's see if you're right says like you said that the grandfather is first why he is that everybody comes through him but says the gar it's not true it seems like it's interesting seems like the a made a mistake here very rare because they bring as the but in fact is like like we know no you're right that we go when you have a grandfather you go to his children but when there's a father involved over here there's a father y the guy in the middle the guy in the middle you have to stop by him and go down from him you don't go to the Next Generation just like you don't climb six Generations up and go down you go one at a time one generation at a time so says you're wrong that's how he passing in fact that makes sense was alive the guy in the center in the green you see where it says he's laying sideways if he was alive he would get the before his own father all the way in the top even though is dead then inherits it and it goes down to have a call whatever you want tomorrow morning at 10 o' about 10 minutes after shakas right here shakas is at 8:30 e