Mental Health Crisis Meets Our Beautiful World

welcome to another episode of positivity I'm going to start by saying that I'm not a mental health professional I uh just a passionate guy kidish grew up kidish still am kidish enjoying my life um but I have a gift from Hashem that I enjoy to share I'm not shy to share I enjoy when people see my content I enjoy when I can help people I enjoy to hear feedback from people that I helped by simply bringing awareness to certain topics that nobody wants to share so um here we are sitting at a podcast and this was highly requested by a lot of people to talk about mental health or mental health problems or the results of sit situations that happen or come out because of mental health so first let's Define mental health okay for every boy or girl for every man or woman watching this what is mental health so I actually looked up I Googled it cuz I know for myself my opinion of it but I I researched it and in the dictionary when you look up the word mental health it comes up a person's condition with regard to their physical and emotional well-being so there is not the mental health itself is not a bad word it's not a curse it's not a symptom mental health itself is the emotional being there's a person that has a good mental health and there's a person that has a bad mental health it depends on their psychological level which is in the brain and their emotional level which is in their body their feelings how they feel and and one drives another thoughts Drive the feelings feelings Drive thoughts now what happens to many people in life and why we see a mental health problem is some are born with it they're born with a certain condition in in there or a certain personality um that dictates the their well-being their psychological State and their emotional state um and some become conditioned to these circumstances whether they have a rough childhood or they have a traumatic event or something happens to them that conditions the this person that he has a uh he or she has an issue a problem so for example if you load up a truck and this truck can carry um let's say it can carry 5,000 lb right so it can now drive with a two 5,000 lbs for about two days 3 days maybe even a week but if you put on to the truck 10,000 lb it might be able to carry it for a while but after a day or two there's a big chance that the truck will break down and stay at the side of the road now this applies to our lives as well there's a certain amount that every human being can handle when it comes to stress or anxiety or uncertainty in their life abuse pain there's a certain amount that a person can handle after that comes what we all know as a common word a breakdown a nervous breakdown a mental breakdown a snap there are so many words that people use or throw around um and sometimes the word is Miss used to make fun of somebody that person sned that person had a mental breakdown is just words that people throw around but okay for the sake of the conversation let's explain what what does this kind of breakdown mean and to explain to you and that you can understand that there are many people including yourself that you have mental breakdowns you just don't even know how to define them you don't exactly know how to tune into them and you weren't you you didn't even know until now probably that mental breakdowns can actually be a very healthy thing um just because little babies have every day they have a mental breakdown their mental state breaks down into different things as they grow um older so mental breakdowns can be a very healthy thing but what's a bad mental breakdown a bad mental breakdown is when somebody suffers and struggles for long enough and they can't carry the weight so they break down and they're at the side of the road and struggling and this is unfortunately what happens to many people and some of the stories that are happening within our own Community um and some people know the story some people don't know there's different variations but that it doesn't really matter but this is unfortunately what happened to those people they suffered they struggled and and I'm not pinpointing exactly what happened it's none of my business but this is usually what happens all those people curious and worrying and afraid that this might happen to them um or they they're like wow there's evil in the world how do I prevent myself from being that evil the answer is everything that has a cause and effect and the effect of years of sadness or fighting or depression or stuff like that is is the mental breakdown is the bad things that happen but the cause of it all the cause of all of these things that happen is things that are preventable so what are the causes to these things what caused this problem let's not focus on the problem let's not focus on the effect let's focus on the cause of the problem which is something that we can control a lot more okay and that brings me to the number one thing if you are struggling in life the first thing you should be aware of is that there's help available speak up camera got overheated and I put up an umbrella hopefully it's going to be better now all for you for the clly room so I said speak to a professional and hope it doesn't fall on my head speak to a professional about what you're feeling about your problems there is professional help the ram says and I read it this y of in the moment magazine just like a person goes to a doctor when they have a physical problem in their body so they should go to a doctor when they have a na is problem which means something is not okay with their Nish it's not a a physical problem it's something that they feel uh um that they're they're not okay they're not enjoying life or whatever that is um I can say from my experience I've gone for the past year to therapy and I feel like a different person I constantly have challenges I constantly still have struggles but I have somebody that I can talk to that understands me that can process those things um on a day-to-day basis so there is a lot of professional help there's different versions different types different sit as different prices but there is professional help out there and even if there is a stigma about it or you're afraid of it or it's today's Days you can do it so conveniently from your home through zoom on your phone on a tablet computer whatever you don't have to go somewhere you don't have to meet somebody you don't have to be afraid there's uh I I understand the doubt a little bit around it but there is professional help out there that the moment you feel a little bit overwhelmed or you feel that you're not okay and you feel any kind of feeling that you don't enjoy that feeling whether it's feeling scared or anxious or depressed or shame or anger or resentment or or you're addicted to something or whatever it is there is professional help out there and and and those people can truly truly help you and turn your life around okay so I think that that's that's um it's very important for people to to be aware of the professional help out there because a lot of lives can be saved by it a lot of you can just even enjoy your life better and more from wherever you are right now and I think that that will be tremendous um another thing is is to take care of ourselves meaning that today certain patterns that people have in their life is so far off from what a normal happy healthy life should look like whether it's an addiction to a phone or an addiction to to to seeking outside validation or it's people that are not eating healthy or not exercising all these things compile to something that creates mental health problems okay so I said it in a video yesterday I heard this from Dr Jordan Peterson one of the biggest psychologists in the world at least I think he has the biggest following he said that 50% of his patients the people that come visit him he sends them home for a simple good meal and for a night of sleep 50% of people all they need is a regular sleep and a healthy meal so yes sleeping and a healthy meal is crucial crucial crucial to for for for your mental health so that you don't get a mental health problem somebody wrote to me on Whatsapp from one of the of who said that who said that thear knows that are he the easiest for him to get us is when we are either not rested well or when we didn't eat well so he tries to make us fail when it comes to these simple essential things in our life but let's let's not allow that I know for myself I created an extremely healthy diet I created a very healthy sleeping schedule I I created a very healthy routine with my phone when I use it and when I don't and all these things helped me tremendously that now that's not to say that I don't have challenges I believe that I still have a lot of challenges and this week specifically was very difficult for me with the whole summer coming up and all that expectations everybody has different expectations even as a child you have you you transition from school to Camp day camp sleep away camp going Upstate a bungalow a different house a different energy different people I think it's a it's an interesting week but for me with all the tools that I have all the things that I learned and and the kind of personality that I built even though I was in a lot of pain I was still able to see see above it to see beyond it to see to to to to see it from an outside perspective and understand what's happening what's going through so that I can just feel those feelings and be in touch with it and understand it and then choose for myself to not get depressed by these things um I use also journaling as a very helpful tool I journal every single day I write down what am I feeling today what am I thinking if I can't take control of my own thoughts and feelings then then who is what is I'm just thinking anything and everything I I don't think that that's I don't think that that's cool for anybody you know and talk about the opposite side of it once you have control over your thoughts and your feelings then you can do anything you can achieve anything you only allow the happy positive thoughts and positive feelings feelings of love thoughts of of deserving thoughts of of of of who you really are what you're really capable of so it's very important to take control of our our thoughts and feelings and the only way to do that is by taking proper action in our day-to-day life as I listed a few um what else do I have so the the the the the outcome of this conversation is I've shared with you the information about what what mental health means and what a crisis means I shared with you some simple tricks that you can do but most most of all this conversation is to bring awareness and that awareness is number one if you are struggling in any kind of way right now no matter what that is whether it's with a parent with a sibling with a kid with health issues with money issues with happiness issues whatever that is first and foremost I am very very sorry for you and I don't know what you feel like the only thing I know is how I feel when I feel really bad and I know that it really really sucks it's a really really painful experience and it's really really uncomfortable but one thing I can tell you even though you are alone with your specific experience you're not alone in general I'm also suffering I'm also struggling I also work hard on myself to enjoy life and to be the best kind of version of myself and so are many others according to the messages the hundreds of messages that I get every single day people are struggling so understand and know for sure that you are not alone and whatever you are struggling with is something that someone probably experienced something a little bit similar not not exactly like you but a little bit similar somebody has went through what you're going through right now or somebody has experience with what what what this is for most people when they experience the first time something with their mental health meaning they they they're not comfortable let's just call it that so that the people that are not used to the word mental health don't get triggered if you're feeling not comfortable there's somebody that knows what that condition is called there's somebody that knows how you can get out of that so the first thing that I'm doing right here is creating an awareness for mental health and hopefully this will get implemented into our school systems because our some of our teachers and I'm I'm very grateful for all of them but they themselves didn't always know what mental health even means or what the proper way of help is a generation before us did not know about therapy therapy the the therapy itself is is something that's still new and developing and people are figuring figuring it out better but an awareness has to be made there's people there are kids there are adults that are struggling and this is an awareness that I'm bringing out right now when everybody goes to schul Friday night they can say Ellie Weber said an awareness about mental health because it's important CU people are dying so maybe let's save some lives perhaps right and I don't think that it's my job to do it but I'm one person that's struggling that's here to speak out that's the only value that I can bring to you a person that is willing to talk I don't know I'm I'm not a professional I'm not licensed I'm not I don't have a I'm not a coach I'm not a therapist I'm not a rabbi I'm not a teacher nobody asked you to listen to this if you ask me what right do you have to speak about our situations what right what right I'm a consumer I'm I'm I'm one person within this community that is just experiencing life and wants to share about it and wants to help others by just simply feeling validated so I'm I'm glad that we made the awareness and I hope that the awareness came out the right way there's one more thing that I want to share is that let's all talk to our friends let's all talk to other people let's check in on one another your own brother and sister can be the one struggling and you don't know about it because you didn't allow them you didn't hold the space for them when was the last time you called a random friend and checked in with him not the one that you told to every day and you know that he's okay but a friend that perhaps nobody calls them you don't know if your one phone call in the morning telling them just good morning hi I'm thinking about you can save their life you don't know we don't know who's struggling right now but a lot of people are struggling that's the fact that's the fact a lot of people are struggling and with a simple hello a simple reach out a simple asking your friend and allowing them to speak not just asking them for the purpose of getting over with the conversation ask them how are you really really feeling today you can truly truly save a life so I hope that this this small conversation was valuable for you I hope you take out something from this and I hope that you feel validated for who you are you seek happiness or the help or the life that you really deserve and I hope that you can make a little effort to check in on your best friends or your friends or or even a random stranger on the street or a neighbor that nobody calls or checks in with and to tell them hi because you might just save not only your own life but you might just save somebody else's life thank you so much for listening if you enjoyed this you can listen to many other of the podcasts that I have recorded uh Solo or with guests um you can if you want to connect with me on Whatsapp I'm going to put the link in the description Please Subscribe and follow um wherever you're listening to this um leave a like leave a comment I'm going to try to answer questions if you have questions about what's happening I will answer it in the comment section or maybe I'll make a follow-up uh podcast to answer um some of the questions that you might 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