Megillas Rus: Chapter 2 - Understanding the Need to Separate Genders Requires Daas Torah

this torah class is brought to you by torahanytime.com okay good morning rabbi we're learning today say for us we are continuing our cedar and we're in paraguay's pasuk teslav um we just learned uh dalit that boyas told her at meal time eat from the lachem and dip your pitay bachomets and the mama explained the difference between lesem and tas lechem is the loaf pass is the slice that has been sliced off from the loaf let's remind ourselves that there was very clear instructions from boyas to ross and that is ruth said she's going to collect after the koitzerim and boya says to russ he says i want you staying not with the men with the ex with the females in other words bhaya says well you may think in a working environment it's okay no the genders must be separated not like in this country where there's no separation anywhere anymore but gender doesn't be separated even during avoida he says when they're harvesting follow the we the female harvesters the hen follow the females i told the males that sivi says i told the boys don't touch you okay and remember that because even though russ was a big sadequest but let me explain something very clearly to you very important and that is you could be a big saddik but your mind may not necessarily be in tune with that's tyra yet and just because a person went to yeshiva for many years they may not understand the concept of gender separation and we're going to see she may not have got it how could such a thing be she was a big sadeka she very nice big sadequest it takes time to be acclimated you know sometimes the rabbi gets up and speaks about people what do you think is happening nobody's looking yeah that's what you think that's how you think nobody's looking people it takes time for the human mind to appreciate the concept of separation we're going to see even though boy gives very clear instructions she may not have gotten it okay this is going to be thank you that speaks about her character but her background was totally different in other words right so the fact that we said ladies does not cover background yeah correct correct okay so rabbi so we're impossible that talk on the locket she gets up to collect like it's not lamar his attendance saying even among the stalks she could collect valois and do not shame her here interesting the targum translates omarim differently than he did before if you remember last week we learned um that what did amara mean what did amaram mean what no my room meant something else last week um the stalks where did we have that there it says there he says it's uh the tai cha of the word amaram is shivlim here the tai chi of it is what here interesting they come as limits versus she went up to collect stocks and he says off right by talking about the locket and gambin the targum translates as the bundles so apparently it's not always so clear what the word amare meant here means alumaio the bundles before amend the stalks of the bundles but anyway maybe you could deduce from here that at the beginning she was only able to collect from things that maybe fell or lose you know well here is quality stuff now he's saying to the naram let us go and collect the better stuff yeah don't uh don't tell her no no that's not the question is what is the word amara mean beforehand the targum translates it as shubalaya here he translates it as alumai so the problem says like this it's relating what does it mean she got up to collect obviously if she's collecting she got up what's the emphasis on getting up to collect the answer is she didn't wait for the simon why not the answer is because women are not part of azima so from the um it's considered promiscuous it's considered uh considered slightly lewd for women to participate in the simon in other words when men do the demon the women are not part of the zeman they could answer but they're not part of the ziman the take of what why not they could yes why is that not but they're not part of the count they're not part of the count they're not but they're not participants of the active candidate the take of kamalaki so she got up quickly to make the to collect even if she collects among the bundles don't go to look after her employee ganva is a oymer if she she didn't steal something this would have shame her kinect that you're suspecting as a gun in other words yes in her mind she's collecting only lekka but if she goes and takes other bundles which are not like it don't stop her oh i love this puzzle this album this is my favorite piece of temple drop for her from the small bundles like forget in other words allowed to take shikha purposely forget drop things on the floor but only from the small bundles from the small bundles otherwise it can't be a show i mean you can't like accidentally drop a huge bundle you don't accidentally forget a huge bundle a smaller bundle you could actually forget where are you making it go through this charade just give it to her give her my pun up we'll see we'll see forsake it so this mat this plastic is a pellet without them album you can't understand it forget it and leave it it's a double ocean why forget it and leave it you want water to leave it and then forget it what are these two things charles tushall allah forget it and leave it what's the hawaka with shikha is it is a potter from my sir when an onion gets shikha does it only have to give my sir no no once only get it's possible from some source but it's not shikha it's a facade it's a fake so they're gonna be marshall her they're gonna they're gonna make believe they forgot it she's gonna pick it up it's temple she's kai misa so we have a big problem here you you want to put on a charade as if you're giving sadaka but it's not shikha the azaftem after you make believe you forgot it be mascara if you're masked or something it's potter eyes that's the meaning over here says them album so she whatever she collects don't yell at her after talaq then even if it's uh against the uva in other words this was a general command in other words whatever she takes looks the other way is she allowed to take will she she is she's a nanny she's a guerrilla she's a guillorist the irs is like an uneven she doesn't have relatives she'd be authorized to take the shikha even if she you know sometimes in ani once you're taking like a chicken pea though the chaparraine things should like it so even if she does that he's saying look the other way is no no but there it's not like it was heft or anything it it designated for sure so what a difference between shifter and payoff in terms of yeah but it wasn't real shikha he was saying purposely drop it so she'll think it shikha but if it's not really shikha it's not it's not a puppet right that was a trick over here was the half okay what what what are they doing for uh for for uh for us that they wouldn't be doing for others i mean literally deliberately forgetting in other words normally why would they drop what does he have with this girl what's what's up with her she has a hug she's going to marry her he has a hug yeah i mean rashi said he noticed her in her unusual kahma he noticed in her unusual sneeze we're going to see he has an avua that malchus dog is going to come from her so the question is so nu if he has a hunch go over to her and say uh no let's um you know he's gonna do it why do they have to be masculine you mean what i'm saying are they the ones who are right he's the one who is the one i mean he should be mascara over here he's giving them rashoos to be masquerade now could you give someone rashes to be masked or something why does he have to go through uh hoops with perry why do you give him your shoes no because because she's gonna be embarrassed in his mind she's not gonna she doesn't he doesn't really think she's gonna take stuff that doesn't belong to her so she'll take shikha so he's telling them forget it once they forget it he's telling them to master it can you appoint the slayer to be masked or something um well they're his employees they have an obligation to protect his property so could you appoint someone to mask or something they're not fulfilling their their one thing it's not possible you could point weather somebody could do bitter hummus for you and even maybe not but sad that you can is because it's not really yours anyway it's only i think it's not pasha that you could appoint someone to be for you no but since the torah takes it out of your show it's because it's astor bahana the mail it's not yours what are we talking about um [Applause] says very clearly you can't afford to shout to him after so how can you tell the pilot to be masquerade he's going to answer is it possible that the poland somehow got paid in portion of what it is they work and he was kind of implying to them i want you to make after what it is that normally would be yours so this way they would have to be able to do their own healthcare because it was really theirs and he makes a deal with them later on you know and i'll reinvest maybe maybe there is a there is this far that if you pay somebody and they become a payout which is by the way why how much comets works in other words how could you appoint the rub to sell your promise for you the shallow is very nice you have comments now right so let's say you sell the comments let's say you have hummus now so you get you authorize erupt to sell your comments but presumably you're going to be buying more comments after you authorize the rov and in other words how could the rav how could you authorize a rav to sell hummus you don't even own yet the answer is that's why you give the rough money and then the rub becomes your pile and yad so the shiloh is now over here if they're being paid could they be massacre the possessions i don't know the answer to that i don't know okay writer possibility but she collected in the field until the evening what does it mean what does that mean what do you what do you have over there she she thrashed it yeah in other words she beat out all the all the mites all the all the uh chaff and all the refuse she beat it out why she's going to be carrying it home she doesn't want to have extra burden okay and the pasta continues it was a fa of barley now what is the significance of an afa well rabbi sai we learned a number of times a very special formula it's called what black six four six three remember this yeah yeah there are six bam in a log they're a load in a cav they're six cars in a saw they're three saw in an apha how many there how many eggs are you can do four hundred how many eggs in the neighborhood how many cave in the neifer there are six eggs right we know um the the the oimer they ham on that means how much is nasirus how many eggs in an eight five six four six three is 432 and a tenth of that is 43.2 which is the way to remember it is khala is the gematria 43 right khala is 43. you need 43.22 how do you get the challahs like this khala is 43 and then the 0.2 there's another part of the mnemonic i'm not i'm not remembering right now but how many kavin and afa 18 how many carve in a core how many quarters in america how many carbon occur i think there's 30 kavana core okay now here's the formula the formula goes like this that peya excuse me in a field that's it's four kav per core that means four 72 carbon man basically a field of a core produces four cave of liquid usually typically so if she collected an afa and an afa is 18 kav that's four and a half times the core so basically that means the field of values is four and a half core okay that's what the album says look impossible says them album she did not take anything she did not take small bundles or she collected all she took was like it liked she did not collect the bundles yes they left there on first exactly she wouldn't take it she only took what was in the field um she collected till the evening in other words the emphasis in like is like this she gathered what basada in the field itself no bundles so how did she get so much because she worked until the evening she wants to be able to carry to the city the latissa and not carry the bundles and not carry the stalks and the refuse by hiki for him that is elected that is produced from when it makes four and a half core kamacho kosovo xiaomi the pale like the xiaomi page says the sheer nephilia dalit the shear of of what it takes to fall is for a cav per core okay possible 432 right so a quarter is 432 right 432 eggs volumes right that's a lot of eggs i mean put that in it and she's got to count even with the you know taking off all the chests she still had 432 beta a volume of yes correct that's a one big heavy uh so what's the volume of an egg now lackhead is when something drops two stalks that drop ounces look at the standard well it depends on the noise whether the egg is today the egg is got smaller okay fatisa she carried it she came to the city that and her daughter-in-law is what she collected thank you kamarisa her mother-in-law is what she collected she took it out she gave it to her isa that which was extra misawa from her being satiated in other words boyas gave her a lot of stuff besides the luck at when they sat down to eat he gave her the lechem and as the album explained by yitzbadla kali he passed her all kinds of nuts and all kinds of treats so she had a lot of stuff with her says this is not usual for a person to collect so much like out in one day the noise of lazanne besides that shanna he gave her a master misawa what she left was left over from being satiated so she came back with a big you know uh package a big doggy bag where did you collect today and what did you do she thought maybe she stole it two questions number one you have a lot of luck yet today where did you collect all this lacking and number two there's no way this is all that get you must have worked for somebody couldn't part of it well you must have worked for somebody maybe our bundles that are forgotten so who did you work for whoever has showed you special attention should be blessed she told her mother-in-law the one who i worked for huh she didn't work for anybody she told her mother-in-law the one she worked for that toymer and she said [Applause] the name of the man that i worked for him today is by us doesn't really mean i worked for him but cc i did email with him so what does this mean there's strange elections i mean uh work for she said from the food that you have given to her to me that she gave to her martial alicta benuanim you must not have just collect like it from iraq you must have done some type of work this must be your payment but shave in other words there are two things going on here an unusually large collection of latket and extra stuff so who would you collect the lackett from and who did you work for where'd you get the other stuff from in the fields they don't give out nuts to the animal maybe they make them nuts but they don't give our nuts she said what she did for him listen to this she tells her mother you know what i did kihua my law he told her that if that because she did kindness to her mother-in-law and because she converted you know that's why he finds favor and his that's why she finds favor in his eyes boy has told her you know i like you number one your to your mother-in-law number two your conversion that's why i gave her to eat kid here's the here's the big kids to a god of israel the fact that russ did said to nami and that she converted it was to him as if she did a favor to him a god w of somebody even though he benefit doesn't benefit from it it's like he personally benefited from that's the key illusion it's as if he did a um a good favor it's like you did um something pleasant to him the dava taught it's only good in his eyes upir she explained the name of the man chad verme next who values what i did like i did to him huh who's shaifek israel he's the the judge he's the god of this was as if he received something from me directly so it's a beautiful thought that the way the mountains ring the is that i didn't work for anybody but he valued myself so much that it was as if he did it was done imai to him before that boaz felt right away when he saw her that he was going to marry her so couldn't you say that he was doing all of this because he wanted to find favor in her eyes in order to be able to marry her not well i mean he had her own contradiction he didn't um he didn't tell her that she doesn't know that no but he felt it right he's not letting on anything because um actually in her presence he makes no attempt to curry favor with her nuts he just says look we're eating here here's some cashews well you tell me you want to marry a girl you say oh you know i don't know if give handing her peanuts is exactly the what'd you give her you just gave her peanuts a loaf of bread nice to meet you oh i see you're hungry here's a loaf of bread i mean i'm not sure if any should have ever really kicked off that way with a loaf of bread i don't know and he told her they told her to stay away from the men look boyas is no youngster here he's over 100 years old either well he's a smart man but okay let's see you'll see why nothing official has been offered he's not proposing in any way to her we'll see why again she's a guillories you're allowed to marry guilleres is the jewel adam marry guilleres no you're not not right away you have to wait how long do you have to wait three more months three months you have to wait half hannah she just converted on the way to she just converted when she came yeah but her husband was dead for a while it doesn't matter like converse you gotta wait three months but if she comes and the beginning of what what do we have at the end of parikh aleph [Music] and it now we're talking here at kellogg's here you gotta wait three months until anything's offered otherwise there's gonna be questions oh you waited three months really what was what was that what was happening before then could you do everything before no no you can't do anything nothing you can't talk to her no no you can't i don't you can't court her certainly not him now he's the goddess people can be suspicious why aren't you not allowed to court with not having any conducion or are you out of court after three months he's he's the purpose of the he wants he's rising above any suspicion he's waiting okay now what's what's nami's uh reaction about toimer nami says to her daughter-in-law first thing is thank god that he did not forsake his husset yeah with the living and with the dead who did not forsake his kindness i thought it was going on god what's going on thank god that boyas did not forsake his said for the living unto the dead vladimir he's related to us this man miguel he is from our redeemers he's not the redeemer he's one of says the man is not a fool he really she realizes that if her dawn lord came with such a big goodie bag must be the bias was looking out for them because they're related and he must have set it up but not only is he doing to the living but he's doing with the dead here we have it for the first time he obviously wants to do hesed with the dead who's the dead machline was the husband of ross macklin died without children there are two aspects to the ebon number one to marry the deceased wife this way we're going to see the deceased is at unrest if the if he dies without children until somehow he's able to produce children through the vehicle of his wife that's the that's a mitzvah the other thing is machlaine has fields and there's a monetary aspect of ibm and that is the closer relative would redeem and buy those fields so when russ was married to maklong she was a moavia so can you say that this even would be how my freya because after she was a gay ras why would you michael because at the time that michonne passed away there was no issue of you putting here because she wasn't so so lucha does not apply but the ramban writes in hamish and maybe we'll discuss this more wednesday and whatever we learn that affects once they share try to forget for wednesday but the ramban writes that the concept of evil applies and that is even if it's not the deceased brother but it was considered a mitzvah for a relative to marry the deceased wife let's for example yehudah marrying tamar yehuda was really marrying his son's wife that's not yibum but it's an element of evil it's the concept of evil and here also what's el emel what's bayasa's relation to machline think we're brothers they look back at the first rashi the first round the first rashi in russ first cousins not the first rashi yeah i don't have that you don't have her what that's aleph oh in other words had four sons who were they they were they were elimelech and they were salman the father of plenty of the father of nami so boyas and macklin were first cousins nami no nami's father was boys father's brother because salma bias his father was nami's first cousin his father nami's father is his father we're brothers so they're first cousins right cousins salmo in boyas's father was nami's father's brother to their cousins okay so they're their first cousins so mclaughlin is first cousins okay so um uh pasta uh the middle of the album so he did not forsake his kindness with the living and he did not forsake his cons with the dead varela corresponding to what she said that she didn't forsake he didn't forsake his custody with the living kikari vladimir by this whole redeem the soul of the dead so it doesn't get wiped out but um she said he's from our redeemers there is another rust the moabite said he even said to me imhano aureum ashar lee tibakin stick to my boys adam kilo until i finish ishali wait a second this is rewriting history he said stick to the girls she's repeating stick to the guys i russ is given a name over here rosa mayavia really i didn't know that she's from my old you're kidding me i mean how many we know that um [Applause] the answer is you know you could tell somebody you could teach them to wear assistance every day you could teach anthony you could teach them time but teach them to stay away from women from a right wing ultra orthodox what are you talking about that's not they didn't do that when i grew up there everyone was together it takes a long time to understand that she's a tadekas she's a great grandmother daughter mella she doesn't have the das toyo you have to understand that rabbi said take a look in positive aleph and therefore what name do we give her virus so she didn't get the u-bomb thing yeah but i mean other places the the megillah refers there are drugs why right now because here's the only time where her moabites ideas are manifest her background is coming in so so interesting um in the last possible nami told her that this man is our redeemer right and she makes nothing of that she doesn't know what i mean she doesn't know what give him this that's not part of the crash course in conversion boom and you know what and if you're husband so he says like this he figured that just meant the boys he she didn't pick up on the nuance you could have a girl who um she may not know anything but if she grew up in a in a from house she'll know what it means she'll get it when you tell her with the narrow soy she'll get it she if she wouldn't have been a maya or she would have happened she would have understood with them and being diver boyas she would have in other words what's wrong saying here nami in the last passage said blessed blessed is that man you know god bless him basically why he was nice with us with the living and he was nice with the dead so what we're saying in this passage she's basically concurring with what nami just said yeah he is a nice guy why because he told me to stick around until the end of the harvest so now nami breaks the news to her heroes you ain't getting what i'm telling you i don't just mean he's a nice guy and he's going to get a lot more nuts and cashews and almonds from him he has more to offer you than roasted peanuts really not rose says yeah nami says hang out with the girls don't hang out with the guys because if you hang out with the guys you're going to end up marrying one of those guys and let nobody harm you in other words he's breaking that she's breaking the news to her that you know what this guy might want to marry you like you understand shalom rm it wouldn't be good to stick around the boys rakim hana or sakuya's rice but rather with the harvesters that toimer and she said toy bt it's good my daughter kisetiam na roi sub ratsu limer loyam na aarov you hear the difference there's a difference between the word na roi sub and of the hain shalayiff gobaha if somebody if somebody um acts inappropriate in another field they're going to come to suspect you so the parrot ends that back so she hangs around the girls add kaloy's kitsira sawyer until the end of the barley season when the wheat season they start primarily nami tells her that uh that then now you know game time even though she spent a lot of time in the field with the lat lasses of boyas that rock because she would only hang out in the fields as much time as she needed to gather kamacho kosova back benares once she finished the day's work she didn't hang out with them it was the love she had for her mother-in-law which love conquers all let's say do one more passing in paragumo so now the three months are over so now nomi realizes you know it's now or never right we're in overtime now now's the chance she says to her name is her mother-in-law hello behold i request for you tranquility that it should be good for you what does mean security who's he's done the stone well we had this one one time earlier um we had nami tells russia um it says like this in other words go find tranquility tranquility is the language of marriage however depends who you ask but that's how it's supposed to be marriage is tranquility it's peace of mind however it's not always good how's that possible it could be tranquil tranquility just means you've come to a certain destination you've arrived however it's not always a good destination because what if the husband is not charming so he's giving her a bracha she's giving she's giving her advice and now i am responsible to seek respite for you the heinous that you should have a husband like it said earlier but i want it to be not only menuha but also sometimes you will find rest in the house of your husband won't be good in bylaw build imbala ability sharma tara in other words i want it to be good for you spiritually like i'll say that a woman who marries a moisten what's a medicine a tax collector sheriff's kishware moisture she gets involved in the sin i want this not only to be good emotionally but good spiritually as well rabbi you've just experienced another torah class brought to you by torahanytime.com