Mazel Tov! It's A Girl! - Rabbi Yakov Zev Smith

Malaysia Sunday is supposed to start to shoot him again today's topic is good to be back and today we'll start with a very interesting and challenging sugier a group of questions that I've been collecting over the years regarding Taco like you said like we said the question when someone is so you could have a baby girl and the various questions that come up amongst them we had a Shiloh where someone 's father passed away his father's name is borrow could he give his daughter Baraka naming after the father when do you give the name right away the first outlining Shabbos the second Shabbos does he have to get an Alia and host of other questions and we had an interesting question where someone had many many boys for the birth of a girl so it could be that this Sugi is connected all the shouts they really won but let's try to go in order we'll organize it in order of the way it happens and hopefully one question will lead to the other the first question someone has by the birth of a girl is is there any Baraka to be said we all know the camaron in when someone has a baby boy he makes the brachatoiva native says even if he doesn't actually see the sun he could be out of town but the mere fact that he has a positive he has a good news that his wife had a baby boy you make the broken native but if you know the Lawson both in it seems that the brother is said when a baby boy is born that seems to imply on the birth of a girl there is no name now I must mention girls have many many miles as we'll see but as the rajva and I in Zion explains that the brochovatova native is the fact that someone has a son as the Los Angeles there's a special Mile in having a son the son takes care of the ongoings in the house he helps the father walk when he gets older he's there for the Kura in other words girls have many miles don't get me wrong but there's a special brochatoifa native it's good for me and good for my wife and that said only on a boy the implication is on the birth of a girl there is no broker to be said and the emphasis there's no mention in about a name for a baby girl more so the rashbam one of the Signum in Paris is he points out that the passages when when Leia was born but small dinner you look at the plastic there's no mention of Haider because there is no idea when a girl is born points out something incredible and he says that really when a girl is born it's a great uh but lay was born after her brothers were born the Milo of a Bastille she could take care of her brothers Leia was born later there was no I'm sorry Dina Dina was born later there was no reason for this but be that as it may there is no Makar in Gomorrah to make a break on the birth of a girl and indeed in the beginning of race on a boy but there's no broker said on the birth of a girl and the truth is that a girl is not a matter and a new type of Shiloh they had girls and times at the camera why is there no mention of any broker however as Yutaka asked there is a different way of looking at it if you buy a new towel that says there are more you make it and if you have a new daughter especially when you see your your daughter and as early as the rav and say the beer has he says if you see your newborn daughter you're allowed to make a broken on the birth of a girl but narrowly push it that the first time you see your daughter you're making sure the migora is not worse than you're seeing a friend that you didn't see in a long time the Mr Brewer in race car face you've got May again says that and he mentions a prima Gotham but I must be honest as a primary points out the Prima Gotham says you're making you see your child for the first time could be the dream of God I was talking about when you see the Sun for the first time is the one that is known that on the birth of a girl you make a shekiano the native also says but he says maybe a Brock has not said so let's be clear the image Libre definitely holding making sure on the birth of a girl and the rap seems to say that and that's why I saw this based on the rav you make a shekiano and when you see your daughter for the first time that was the meaning of the the mooncatcher involved when his daughter was born all except this is on the birth of a girl I saw a very nice letter from he wished the talmouth and the birth of a girl Immanuel foreign so we could see definitely that minute I wise I mentioned in tomorrow morning because it's so push it doesn't have to be fair tomorrow speaks about buying a new purchase seeing a friend pause it you make on the birth of a girl ramisu also says the fact Mr Brewer says narrowly poshit had it been a machlaikus he should have mentioned something so I must tell you that that's why many do make a sergiano on the birth of a girl that's the Mr Brewer twice when moisha says that but don't make them on the birth of a boy so certainly there's no broker set on a girl that likha Slimer and filler have gimbal horror 42 he says Dominic is not like it's like we could say hello on the birth of every child the same applies rather to a mother if you go with the Mr Brewer's sack that the man makes the serriano I've added that the woman the mother also makes a sheikhian my story is a true story someone did not make did not see the baby after birth and right after his wife was resting so he decided he's going to go to the nursery make a break on his daughter he had to figure out exactly which was his daughter it looks like me looks like my father my spirit now people have these demians he made this and then he was told he made a break on the wrong baby so was he is so I think there's a beautiful Naf Kamina because if he made a toiva native you could say without seeing it or seeing the wrong baby and it would be yoitzen but is fundamentally different it's a so it makes sense and you have to make a second and I found it very briefly says he made a bracha on the wrong baby about the Esther Peterborough now if someone had a twins he had a boy and a girl and he sees both of them it's pretty Mustafa to say he should make a taiva native and include the girl because don't forget the brochana girl is so if you're seeing both you could say they're native and that would include the girl as well I found the tourists who led this line but dying down to the biggest if he hears about the birth of twins boy and a girl he can make on this on the survey and include the girl now that he says I die in Sergey and I understand why because you don't find the toiva native on the the news of a birth of a girl but our case I think makes more sense he can make a type of native on both when he sees both and this may avoid Silas if you have a person that's twin girls when he sees both of them covers both just like one type of native covers twin boys what's a little more challenging when a person has a first granddaughter is there any brother to be said so the embassy is the safer see them in tough soft meme gimmel who was he heard about his inical being born his son son and he was so happy he made a toiva native only for the father and he and then someone asked him how do you make it over mate if it's not your son he says anybody that has a baby I'm happy I make it over native that's designated for the birth of a son and um he's making the unreal however the beginning of race is only for a child that's for a grandchild and it seems from this themus of Mr burum that on an ago there's no broker to be said however and here we wonder let's say someone had his first granddaughter and he sees his first granddaughter that's not worse than the mysterious of the first time he sees his daughter if in fact he's very happy with the birth of a granddaughter is on the benefit of a son who helps the father walk and brings him and I did see her upstairs he says on a granddaughter you don't make a broken even on the daughter is that if indeed someone has a great simcha when he sees the birth of a he sees the newborn granddaughter it's legara from any other new perch that he makes himself when he saw his first granddaughter this is called he asked them to bring two wines and he made an entire native on the wine then he patted the granddaughter the point is every child is a source of great broken and it should be acknowledged in any way is there on the aviya Ben to get an Aliyah so pass this why get an Aliyah but there are two reasons why the Avia bash should get an Ali and this is important there's a minig but it's really based on Allah that the first time the woman after childbirth leaves the home she should go to a shoe and quote here a double shepherdusha now let me explain that a little better La Maison there is for the first three days even after the childbirth she still suck on him when necessary so just like after every second of this shouldn't it be that women after childbirth make a grandma and that's the meaning of sardin and that's the meaning of shalayim a woman after childbirth stands in the essence and she calls out the broker of glamel and ten men that are there answer what they have to answer it's not the minute in I never figured out you know why Eric's wrote yes sir it's not they say because it's not sneer stick but I think eritrealism so it needs more of a hezboah but whatever the case is there's definitely a reason to make goemo after childbirth but Dominic Elise is not to dalid that really she should be saying some type of but she doesn't but we do the second best thing the husband gets an Aliyah the wife answers and that's Bim coimb goyimo like the pasta can tell him that's the Terrace now the way if you learn it carefully he says to say I mean also besides saying but the icker is that the goemo the the Aliyah of the husband is a attempt to be a glamor and that's where the seraphim and explains that when the husband knows the wife is in shul after childbirth he gets an Aaliyah to be the vehicle of hargoimo and she answers appropriately now sometimes it's not child because in a shoe there might be a big so at least she hears and she ends the same box many people have the minute they bring a minion to the Yolanda's house on the toy Shabbos and they have a burger and she says her response says if this even this is too hard let the husband go to school and get her Liam even if she's not there and then she could be yoitzu with his Aliyah but I think it's kadai to mentioned because women do make an effort to go to school after later and they don't know why they're going they're not going only to go out the first time to advise double civic education that's one minute but more importantly there's a minute when they go to school to answer some type of who and that would be a Bim coimb of the goaimum solemiso we could say that there is nov on the on the husband to get Aliyah per se but it's a way of having a goaimo for the wife now La Mesa if he comes the next morning after the baby's born and Thursday once in a Leah he doesn't have to get it there's no reason to get a Leah when she's not there that's push it the magnifram does say in the end of Race pay base that the woman the the husband of the letters that comes to shul has Kadima even over yard site now today that wouldn't happen I mean yard sites think that they have they dominate the Alias but basically that's how much of a husband when the wife is in shul he's in a certain sense more than even a ball yard site there's also a minute that 40 days after Zach was born or 80 days after the cave is Born the husband is because that's a time when the woman would have to bring a carbon he said that the only time the husband gets in Aaliyah is on Shabbos but during the week eating of the wife is there there's no reason to get an Aliyah now he has an interesting that the only time this Ali and the husband is on Shabbos and he says why he says let's talk at the school of an Aliyah just getting an Aliyah the school is after the Aliyah they're making and he gives money Ah that's the real school so he says during the week the Thomas there's no given to Dhaka if there's no tadaka forget about the Aliyah so that's interesting that when you hear a school there's always meaning to it and there's the greatest School is the husband makes a pledge to give tadaka the villator of his wife and the new baby of course in all of these The Cloud of all club and based on the Magnum foreign if someone else wants it then and he's getting upset then just be mavata it's never worth fighting for any minute even a Mitzvah the Morgan's lotion and it's great that I was sure Mitzvah and certainly not to fight for a minute the very often a a person davins and a big best magic and there are a few uh through husbands that their wife had a baby and they want to give a name so the minute is that he they go up to the toy room and after someone else to live they're making Mr bear and they give a name so again the name giving of a girl does not require an Aliyah it's more more of a glamor for the wife the big question is when do you give the name so there are four choices Monday Thursday afternoon so this is a quiet event but to make a long story short there are many good Island that felt you give the name as soon as possible as saying that when you give a name your mom's Israel on the child so why wait you don't live in Hashem without a name but they were definitely that held that name for a girl is given as soon as possible you have mice and evidence and that was the opinion of the stapler as soon as possible don't leave an ashama without a name now the embassies you look into Torah somebody says this as well they gave a name after the baby was born they didn't wait for laning they didn't give by laning it's the father's option of giving a name so one minute is to give the name as soon as possible but as we know many insisted on waiting for Shabbos why Shabbos so on a simple level you have a good piece of cake you put away for Shabbos based on the tour and race members but it's probably deeper than that and basically when a name is given we'll soon see this based on the drisha that's when the child the girl gets into summer just like by a bris K that the father says by the briss that by the bris and the name the child gets finished so by a girl there's no bris she gets you when she gets her name no when's the best time to bring in the shambakaisha and Shabbos of Shabbos especially if it's near the safetyra the veld says where Macbeth never to help give advice to a father what name to give why because when the father gives a name there's no what's the best time that the father hopes to hopes but there's a very important lotion I want to read because we're going to use as we proceed the time I'm in Hogan Ahmed Shins and he says that this is Mitzvah to make a kiddish when the name for a girl is given kibon is and that's like the queer Shame by a boy so therefore in other words the giving of the name for a girl is like the creation by a boy and will soon use that appreciation of the kriya shame now some also add that we have to be Matthias from this girl's name when else do you have an opportunity you know when the boys Bar Mitzvah you make it by Mitzvah you give an Alia this Pearson for the name all the time but when is there piercing for the girl's name so if you're doing it at least do it the best time with the biggest island and that Shabbos now the the there is a minute some weight insist on waiting at least three days before giving a name I saw the the Betina he says wait three days and give it even on Monday and Thursday I mean usually typically that's a Thursday but before three days outside is like the kid is live on before three days some wait five days that was the meaning of someone explains but there is a minute taka and this Stalin is to give it the second Shabbos now the post of the husband is that you have to wait at least eight days to pass by you have to go through a Shabbos so the first Shabbos is not is that the right day and you want to wait for Shabbos so make it the second chance some also add that McMorrow says the first few days the first seven days The Eighth Day of the Mila it's inappropriate that everybody's happy and and the mother's not happy because she's underwent childbirth so wait actually eight days before you give a name for the girl but then you can't give before Shabbos so it's always going to be coming out the second Shabbos I saw a number of of poison discuss let's say the child is born Shabbos morning after davening so if you hold you up to have three or five days you can't give it but many of them said Shabbos is the right day even if the child was born that day you could eat you should even give it Shabbos minha don't wait till a Monday or Thursday a child was born on Sunday and Thursdays so you have three days you have five days in fact but it's yomptive the right choice those that insist you have to only give a name on Chavez would not give any of because many has its own mindless so that will lead to many of that particular kahila some will wait for Shabbos and not give it on YouTube and some will give it on yam because yum has the qualities the Mindless of Shabbos it reminds me of kittislavana you know you ever think about kids levana some do it right away some way three days seven days as I enslame him Shabbos so giving your name is the same approach and the ick is you follow your own minute and then you know you're doing the right thing I had a Shyla where a younger man had a baby and as many was to give it the first Monday or Thursday which is Thursday he told me his father who knew that the girls be named after his father's mother wanted very much to be by the creation and the creation would be Thursday he couldn't be there should he give the name on Shabbos so the father could be there I said what's the child you know midnight Thursday versus Shabbos and mini but keep it off another the point is there's no Issa in giving a name different than your minute it's a mini but then again keep it up is much more than a minute ago sometimes the wife wants to to be by the name and she can't be there on Monday and Thursday but she will try to make it there for Shabbos you know like everything else you have to have Seiko and and a good dosage of what the message so it had a bit and Issa so you can't play around with the student but each minute has a Macarena so basically do you a minute unless there's another consideration then you have to know what to do the point is and this important to mention it's not just you're giving a name let me quote the lotion of the darisha and you're a day at the end of he says there that when there's a Hassan and a newborn baby Dominic then was the Hassan went to the baby's house and they there they gave the name and then why and I'm quoting his lotion because is like a democrine Christian and just like the Mila goes before Samaya so too giving a girl's name goes before summer have to go to the baby's house and then they go to their simcha so the dream shall Allah is writing that the creation of a girl is like the creation of a boy which of course gives it much more significant that's very similar to what we said earlier from the Moraga but moisten even as a dalcoof base also says this he says that the creation was always done the kadusha that's why you do it by the safetyram and therefore we have to appreciate that unique of giving a name is I'll tell an interesting story when my daughter was born so we gave the name Thursday in the Yeshiva so right before David and someone told me you know he told me about this drisha and he says go Esra come to give the name to your daughter so I didn't think twice maybe I should have so I don't know what I promise that maybe because she would give the name he says me usually it's the guy by his job but if you want I'll do it I think my daughter's the only one that has a name given by rafam but lamisa I figured out later that it wasn't it's not done it wasn't done I'll tell you very simply why could dial them as it is are overburdened with trying to learn fundraising consider conditions and and Santa Claus another another thing to keep them busy forget it you know they'll be flying their Trail for Christian for a girl so it's just not the right thing I did it but Barcelona learned from me my palm got it once told me that's why you never started giving the haircuts for three-year-olds it's not busy enough as it is but to start this I will learn a word so the mice this is the minig but again those that have Dominic that the Autumn Godzilla gives the name it's very much makes sense so this is interesting if you look in the city it seems to be a little mixed up I'll explain what I mean because two different objectives mixed up and then you make the pledge which goes back to the Mission Bay Area so Maisha says why not do one thing at a time he wrote a different Nursery first you make the full mission because that's typical you make you give a pledge then he added throughout planet first of all he divided it and also he left out the garlic so Maisha does it if you want you could add yes in now that was nice because our girls today learn a lot in the letter says our men against distress because our many gives that girl say every morning they have a sister and therefore it's appropriate to say the God love the toy room one or the other or both nevermindisha then explains the problem he has with the regular it's two thoughts that are combined but of course follows their medic is there an Indian to give a kiddish after the kriya sashem but now we see that maybe a kiddish for a girl is also appropriate since the creation is like the kriyashem by a bris I can't say it's exactly like a bris but there's a good reason to make a a Kiddush but what's interesting is found them a car for giving a kidish based on a dogum revolver on the page every day at the end of kufayenchez Wonders is because the baby was saved from the leader later could be a dangerous situation so it's sort of like a foreign she's also safe from the child's birth so crying says maybe that's the source of a kiddish that we that's like the girl shalom but the Kasha is if it's supposed to be like a Shalom why not make the kiddish at night like a beautiful place because really it's also after the giving of the name so shabba's day is more appropriate than Friday night so the kiddish is first of all for the creation but it's also a High doll that the child survived the childbirth so it's really two purposes insisted that if that's the case that it's together with the kriya shame it only makes sense to give a kid this after the creation some people give a name one Shabbos and make a kiddish when convenient Weeks Later tobacco says but it could be the kid this is like we said that's like a form of of a Shalom the caver that the child survived but Lamaze it's certainly more reasonable that the kiddies should be the same time after the queers Hashem also some in fact aired that just like the suit as pigeon I've been lafarsome the Mitzi pigeona Ben this should be a sudha the first and the girl's name because there's no other chance she doesn't get Elias mitzvah the debitina Rob in fact gimbal says it should be a kiddish and during the week something maybe something to mock the greatness of the kriyas Hashem there's someone that I know who had a few older girls daughter singles over 30. and I remember like yesterday a number of years ago he heard a quote from the style plum that sometimes a girl can't find the sugar because the father didn't make a kid is when she was born and didn't get the braco yes so this father decided that he he has to make a kiddish so he unfortunately his daughters are quite embarrassed but he had girls over 30 that are kiddies for their birth 30 years earlier so it left an impression obviously but I'm going to tell you everybody said I have a friend of mine he's better related to the stipulum and he wrote to abhayam kanyevsky this goes back around 20 years ago is this story true to start with disciples said so I wrote down the exact lotion of hayam responds to my friend I saw my own Eyes Crying responded so I'm crying himself found the source for them but he didn't make a kidish so why do I say this I still hear other young people say oh I had to make a kid is my daughter I gotta make kids now don't worry about that that's not the problem this type never said this like many other things that that you know officially bismoint now La Mesa I'm not saying this diaper was against making a kidish Brian didn't make a kid this but one thing probably of Stipe would not be happy when when the kid is gets out of hand it becomes a lavish of fear you know it's something that people give new meaning to the word as if it has to be some type of an elaborative fear the money that's used for kids can be used to help you know poor people and many other needs and but there is and when someone comes on we have to the suit after the kiddish I can't look at food so that's a bit and also a terrible Brazilian to his wife she made suda he's not eating it so obviously a kid it has to be you know like we say ing it has to be staring back in the tubes warns about making an elaborate kiddish besides that it creates an eye in horror it's connected the the really the purpose of the Kiddush I once got a beautiful invitation to a bar mitzvah I'll never forget it they had the written in big letters that's a wonderful mini you know the focus on the trila rabba but the kidisha rabba pot we could skip the rabbit pot we all know the word has nothing to do with a big kid this rabbit is short a challenging question Can it can you name a girl after a man the muscle true story The someone's father's name was Baruch and he had a girl he was afraid he wouldn't have a boy can he name his daughter Dina was soon so the embassy is there is a hey he the cloud wonders how we could have which we do have a name shared by boys and girls the Marshall the name Joanna is sometimes used for a girl simcha is a girl's name his daughter was named simcha is giving boys and girls so they might kill wonders maybe that's a problem together have one name for both maybe that's a violation that is okay then I saw an amazing he says he gave him information he collected 30 places that there was names shared by both boys and girls but he shows list exactly the exactly besides join us and Alta so that doesn't seem to be a problem of LA ilbash but there's an interesting problem I wouldn't I wouldn't have thought of this but when I learned I want to share with you and that is adjusting a name name like I said giving a girl bracha after this why not the embassies there's a famous was named after the Baba so you see so why not so here we see an interesting thing meaning Israel the stapler gave his daughter I think she's still alive yes if in fact the stapler were told someone to name a girl elisheva after the khazainish you look at elishev it has most most of the letters are from arvamushaya so I could definitely say it's done to give names for boys if the girl or vice verse that I saw him that basically to give a name of a girl after a man might be more of a problem why let is a problem what's wrong with so first of all you're taking a man's name and putting it to a girl that's I rather because he says the name of a girl after a man did not have children for many years so he went to a grocery Eid and he looked at the grace he looked at the Cavite and he says have a Boy Child oh oh I see oh the name is khaya the wife his wife is how could two boys having a child apparently when you name after a a man it has somewhat of a man remaining in the name and he can't have a child so this God will change the name the woman's name from Kaya to a different name and they had many children so in the bris office it's not a good idea to name a girl after a man because maybe she can't be modeled now again this is way out of my range but the police can say it is so what I was thinking you saw the state if there was a Macbook could be it's totally in a different fascinating we had the child more than once where a baby was born and before the before the bris Jose there was nifta and the question was the brisk goes before the kafura is a taco Snapfish so if it's taka takas and nephesh that borrow that that this bracha is getting the nashama then I could understand why it's a problem of having children assumed it's not a taco so what's the problem maybe that's the Italian has a nice discussion we could say the following what the cinema did gave Hana that's not a problem that's Marlon because to give a girl after a man has two problems but there's more of a concern giving a girl after after a man then fakert the next question which happens pretty often they decide they'll give the girl after [Music] what happened a few years later they have a boy now can you give this boy you already gave the name bracha to his sister we don't give two birds what one name pernison this and he quoted that says maybe you shouldn't give you ready game now I think the same Shiloh if giving a name that takas nishama so one name per nifta so Brock is enough Barack doesn't work but he says it's a different name but he had a different head Elias and aliasri but Baruch maybe Now is better than bracha so again it's questionable if you're allowed to do that so basically it's a Suffolk if you allow to give a boy after you gave a girl the name after that typically by girls there's another issue to mention and that is what the stipler quotes the cousin is and it's a number of swarim that be careful don't give a girl a name that shall be embarrassed when she gets older now again we're boys we don't understand this so well but there are many Yiddish names that girls are simply embarrassed from now the stapler in Arkansas has a list I'm not going to read the list because many many of us have those names but the stapler felt in there to throw to give Yiddish names is already a No-No because yeah this was not used especially in vinay Brack so much and it's embarrassing and he felt always changed the Yiddish name to Allah so disciple was not too in favor of giving Yiddish names I know some got a from her name was babcia and she left and said well don't name any baby after me I had enough problems when I was growing up and I'm nothing with the name baptism don't get me wrong but that was I keep it of her aim this is keep it aim true but then again a child has to live with the name so from adult perspective what's wrong it's a Yiddish name my Baba had it then let's keep it off that's nice but you have to think from a child's perspective I was receiving together with someone who his name and Yeshiva they called him Davey why his brothers his parents called them Barrel so once he asked him you know what's reactive two different names she says no we I was always called Barrow I came to Yeshiva and the younger grades I forgot which grade maybe second or third grade punked his Rabbi when he gave a martial of a story who was this muscle Barrel jumped off the roof and Barrel was making trouble and barrels dying and barrels uh never mind she couldn't take it because he's so Barrel as me so this child in the younger grade I think it was second or third grade on his own changed his name David look how sensitive a young child is you know that's why her baby have to try to find a different name than calling you know ruvane and shiman because there's always moving in the class but the point is giving a name the child will be embarrassed with is not a good idea and other ground said the same thing now La maisa Kiba name is so try to adjust the name you know there are ways of changing the name to make it more user-friendly but the staple again had a problem with you this name the child will be embarrassed but if you have a Shyla ask someone that understands that child's age you have to know the age and know when indeed it will be embarrassing and we can say last but not least what I think is the most challenging question is someone had a number of boys didn't have a girl yet is it right is he allowed to Daven that the brother seems to give him a a girl is that the right thing API so the embassy is that in the in the brick samay which is of course by the Zoya there is a line the say of Lee Benin please give me sons that will do your roxan now I know it's in parentheses but many say that so obviously there's a mile in having a son over a daughter also who said you have a right to ask the version of what child you want to but then again his title was I was not behind them it's approval you have to have a Zucker in the cave in other words if it's a convenience it's not so positive but he wants to have the Mitzvah of peruvu so this is really brings us to a more fundamental question and that is is there any Myla of a boy over a girl and this is we all know before after 40 days the more says in brackets for the gender of a girl because it's already a done deal it's a Fearless job we're talking about before 40 days before conception so I think this has to be addressed because people unfortunately don't have the right attitude every child is precious I saw a quote from a goddam but I've done them from a child boy girl makes no difference to child every hair and every nail is precious you know when I hear people saying oh and another boy another girl I want to tell them just visit a childless couple or as an older single and tell them your quote problems you'll get a good sock or two so every child is precious every hair and every nail of a child is precious but you look in the Ghazal you might get mixed messages about what's a preference every day we all say men says that a boy is better than a girl is not really a riot because that's really the sun's function as moral and moral but basically there's a gamar in three places and this is not worthy base hey yes which many boys chapter their sisters uh you know what was do we us that we have girls now today with the sugar crisis I've had a son is easy to marry off and I gotta found the rambam and agueres he writes that when you get a daughter your hair turns white until you find the receiver so it seems that there is a of Christ the times of the rambam as well says when a person has a daughter he doesn't sleep at night maybe she'll do a various maybe that it's harder to raise a girl the kids up I saw this taka and just in one of the cadmain is now I don't mean to say that as as truth LA maisa but that's what one of the combined him say regarding this question but then again we know the more needed says the women have a been in your savior says the morale explains because women by Nature have more of a year of samayam then manate did you ever wonder when we get an Alia they call us up Pliny Ben Pliny when someone is sick and needs a Yeshua they say his mother's name why is because you're better off if you need trust them with your mother because every man has two various that are sometimes unavoidable bitultaira and zero lavatola which women don't have said hazal felt that when you need you're better off going with your mother than your father are you talking about big people but the point is that you know Lamar says [Music] seems to feel that it's more of us to go with the mother than the father plus we know the famous and what's better Raya than Miriam was the oldest of the children and because her brothers were aarona Maisha Barbarian once had a talmud that had two girls in a row says oh you are a London you have a Sim in more book to have good children because they're cheated at two two is a semen movie Zion he's pointed out the Gamora says he says but that's not a cement because Simon bracha when you have a girl first and the truth is now A Time certainly raising a girl is easy and raising a boy but they're a cloud it's not my fetish the Gomorrah says about the greatness of a boy said that lady girls are better Swiss although they had good Sons but his sons-in-law an attack is sword in the safe and mega give us says he had a another girl and came to our Meister mice notice he wasn't too happy with another girl so much says as Emerson because if you have a boy you have to raise a boy hopefully one day he'll become that big time but this road ahead of you if you have a daughter it's easier to raise her so what do you care if someone else will raise your son alone it's easy to raise a daughter than a son wonderful Sons alone should start counting out the sons of they were great people but didn't come close to the greatness of rubber and in other words if you have a daughter and you work with her carefully you'll be zayaka to a wonderful son-in-law the only difference is that you'll have an easier job with the daughter will have a hard job raising that either then I saw a little challenging at first in the same as the car in the Parks had only one daughter as We Know and he said people were disappointed that they only had a girl not a boy so he says I wrote them back he wrote the letter to them and he said that we have children as a Schlage and the truth is he writes and his times is 80 plus years ago it's harder to raise a girl then then there is a boy and I'm happy that I have a bigger challenge than other people that's the way he justified having a girl now this was inconsistent with what we said but the embassy is when this happened over 80 years ago was before the basic archives and then taka people told me that it was much harder to raise a girl a boy had Yeshiva girl had nothing but I did see from the same he had three girls in a row and then his wife had a baby girl fourth girl so he wrote he said a beautiful shot but he said that it's easier to raise a girl than to raise a boy so he's happy with four girls so the mice it seems that it's in certain sense easier to raise a girl so we have mixed messages in fact says voracious is ashrebas so here you have you know mixed messages girls or boys but I think the mascana is like I told you earlier yeah the horror yeah the negla we have to be given it's an area writes what seemed to be a meaning in those days it was a ridiculous meaning that when someone had a girl they would they would be right with him moms make fun of him so he says how could you do that boy or girl is me please and the boys giving children you're being Malik on whatever Islam did you're unhappy with a girl or a boy at the brainstorm decision and he and he writes very strongly it's easier to have a girl and why they're giving up the defense to someone that had a girl every child is an Africa voice so here there's a there's a word from the morale's brother and safe and he says he says basically boys have many more Mitzvahs and they should be they should it should be Nico that they are boys they're running to learn they're running to to Daven sometimes you have a boy that's doing Vibes of things he's combing his hair looking in the mirror worrying about his clothing he says that's the shot voice he's a boy but he's not running too short he's running to buy a new suit and comic is here and looking in the mirror he says but you complain about the brothers complaining girl boy it can't be Oiler than me so one of the gave us what are you complaining about what the voice of did so basically that's the way morale's brother not going oilam Tai chigamot then I saw another shot also carved to the MS what stack of Shot bass Pliny Le Pliny why not play or Bass planet when you have a good son the phone doesn't stop ringing oh a girl well she has to have her money and this and that so really the girl sudok is really not who she is whose daughter she is BAS Pliny so he said is because you better get your act together you better start behaving being a nice person make a few dollars learn shots and post him otherwise your daughter's name the chance so he says it's what was to me I have a daughter because now I have to behave every child is good can a person Daven for a daughter so I looked into this um he had a number of boys in a row and then he also needed he wanted a girl for the midst of approval so yesterday for the birth of a girl so he says understand the city says so he says if you want skip that line then I saw in a wonderful safer the noise Israel with the same response if you want leave out that part of the film but I was a little disappointed because both said don't change what the city says but can you add your own filler for a girl maybe talk about it maybe just for convenience don't give the branch limits but here's someone that wants to have them it's approval so I was thinking a possible right here but it's not really a Raya from from um that you should not that after 40 days of already conception you can't have them for the child lavush I'm you could dive in for for a boy and the Thriller will help oh so you see you later the average agenda that's only Ariah the Davin for a boy and that's not okay this desire already says we we say but we didn't yet see a Raya Brewery a lot of Daven for a girl so again I'm leaving it to people smarter than I am but certainly if someone's diving girl just for a personal preference leave it to the binderella if you want to dive and and you will for the birth of a girl full of Mitzvah it might be an idea davins for a girl if that's what's better for me leave it to their body slam their kids that we should make them talk to you okay we'll do the second quickly every child is that's Cloud one but there are certain Allah's boys and girls differently said for a girl for a boy for a girl many make shahriano many don't a mother if the meaning of the father makes so does the the mother as well if we made on the wrong girl so start again the broccoli on twins that you see twins boy and girl you could make a tiger and Pat to the girl and avoid the Asylum but if the woman is in in in in in so the man's Aliyah is her grandma and she should answer the minimo you have she has to hear about who an answer or some divership you could do some when to give a name some give it the first opportunity somebody three days five days second Shabbos the it is if there's a different consideration let that be the macriya significance of Korea Shem for a girl is like korechem of a boy we don't give good doylem to do it but it's definitely a special hashibos there are different destroys about what the creation is look in the siddha or look around the kid should be a modest that they only give a kiddish when the girl the name was was given not Weeks Later has two problems naming a girl after a boy naming for bracha is less of an issue some do both we can we do we do give names boys girls vice versa that's the meaning some have as well we don't give a name that the child will be embarrassed with there's a Mila of both boys and girls both deserves if someone really wants to keep my Mitzvah perhaps he's allowed to dive in for agenda but basically leave 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