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Hoverham just turns out to be a giant.
What does he do? Does he lash back? Does
he say my fault? How is this my fault?
He could say something mean. He could
say something hurtful like, "Well, you
should have thought of that before you
told me to take Hagar. And you know,
your personality is not so great either.
I'm not really a big fan of your
parents." He hears her and he says to
himself,
"Okay, I could be defensive, but what
does Sarah really need right now? What
is she really saying when she's saying
that it's my fault? Is there some way
that indirectly I have some kind of
responsibility that I could take in
this? We as the readers, we know exactly
what Sarah means. She doesn't mean
Abraham did something. She just is
feeling so humiliated. No children. Her
maidervant is treating her with all this
sass.
She doesn't feel
like Aram is helping her, like he's on
her side. She doesn't know. Maybe he's
kind of seeing Hagar as like the new
lady of the home. She doesn't know whose
team is he on. Abraham says himself, she
doesn't know if I'm fundamentally
backing her and loyal to her. So what
does he say? He sees not the words, but
the underlying emotion in her pain. What
does she need? She needs my support and
my backing. She doesn't need my insults
when she's already down. So what does he
say? Okay. He says nothing harsh. He
says, okay, she's your maidervant.
You have my my full support and backing
to discipline her as you see fit. I
trust your judgment. you have my
support. And you know, if you think it's
just a one-time thing that Aram is like
a hero in this department, I think we
could look at this week's calming
portion and see again when Sarah
confronts him saying she doesn't want
Ishmael to be around with Isaac.
He doesn't lash back at her. He doesn't
love it. He could say to her, "Oh,
you're just jealous that I have two
sons." He could say a million things. He
pauses. He prays. He asks Hashem for
guidance and then responds. Like it
seems so simple, but as we can see from
other biblical giants and heroes and I
imagine from our own lives as well, it's
really hard. [music]
