Love

one of the most greatest emotions that we are also familiar with the most powerful is what we call love a The Power of Love is something that brings an affection and an affinity between two people in such an extreme extent as shirim describes in a dramatic extent between and and we know man and his wife the incredible amount of love can bring person as the ram writes in the end of chuva to constantly be thinking about that person and always have them on on their mind however we have to pay notice that suddenly when a person goes to a stage of living together with that person on a consistent basis when you become oh so familiar with that person when you change from strangers to very close uh to close relatives when you become so close to each other the Pizzaz that was originally there the original excitement all that glorified connection that was there seems to become a little bit less what happens is the level of respect that you used to have for one each other sometimes becomes a little bit distilled suddenly you start realizing there's a little bit of a of a rut that happens of a lack of closeness as a result of that the respect and the awe that was originally in the beginning of the relationships comes to be that way and that's why and beaut and the beauty of our religion disclaims about the idea of going ahead and and separating for certain periods of time we hold that there are certain times that we have to have t to make sure that the relationship stays fresh that even though we're living together but we live an arms distance apart sometimes in order to make sure that that freshness is always there in the level of Arison when they're just betrothed there's a tremendous affection towards one another when they become in the same House suddenly the closeness leads sometimes to too much of a closeness in which a person doesn't appreciate and that's a problem a person has to know how to love at the same time as you have a fear and appreciation what we call for the other person what is this all coming to tell us this is coming to explain an incredible thing that happened in par in in par because we know during the time of the when the Mish was made it was the closest time between us and we now moved together in a house the Mish was there we now got married 10 10 crowns were given on that day it was a fantastic day and that day when we built this incredible affiliation we became married the the whole song of sh came at that time there was an H that came L was a fantastic time so why why why why does n of all times have to be killed at this stage they were killed for some event that had happened in the past or a number of different sins that are mentioned in kazal of why they were killed but why today why in this day of days this day of such Sim this day of connection did they have to go so it says this because the idea is that yes is reminding us there's a closeness between us I love you very much and there's a closest for the to want to be there but remember we have to stay in arms apart the AA has to be equipped with the era don't get too close that what it means Kadesh they became the symbol to remember that yes even in the time when we're yearning to get a closest to Hashem when we're yearning for that relationship but just remember and don't forget that with that yearning remember that is where he is remember the respect that needs to be had in the midbar because of their closeness that was so much they ended up complaining for food complaining for water cuz anyways it's my spouse you're responsible for me the closeness came to such an extent that they didn't appreciate the year they didn't have the fear that was appropriated for the for what was supposed to be and that's why K picked these two these two Kos these twoim to be able to do it and it's no coincidence you know what their sin was according to if you look at the common denominator about what it is they overdid their love their a zar the a come from a fiery passion of AEM it was a love that came from wanting to get closer and closer to Hashem therefore they had no boundaries and said don't overdo it you have to know that yes there's a passion there's a connection there's a relationship but everything has to have boundaries that's how it is in our religion that yes but we don't believe in an unbridled romance which has no has no limitations it has to come with a certain with a certain muzzle with a certain limitation in the right place on ouri on our CI was the same thing they came with a in front of they came in front of to try to get us close to him and that's why to warn again and again to mosu don't tell tell them not to go up onto the mountain tell them mosu says as Rashi points out I told them I told them already he said I said tell them and don't ask questions tell them again because when the has developed this beauty this connection this relationship this this connection that we have with is there then the love gets to a a state where there's no limitations and you don't want to see limitations and that's dangerous over there you already have to know take a step back just like with a spouse sometimes you need to take a step back you have to have that passion that love but always try to keep it a little bit sometimes with just a little bit of an aring the betrothal instead of the nin to be able to not separate shom but to be able to know that there are times for yes and times for no to be able to know that yes things without a limit end up ruining the passion it takes away theh that's the A and that was the Zar that came in this para we should have the to be able to make such a tremendous connection with the and with our spouse