London Yud Beis Tamuz Farbrengen with Rabbi Hershel Rader

visiting yerushalayim but we asked him to come to paprika in yeshiva so he says he came to the yeshiva he said and he stands up to bring him like this he says i'm not the person to speak about that says but i was there for the time of this darkest refuge and the story what happened i can that i can tell you so damn russian gave me a topic to speak about the struggle for inclusive judaism so i assume you want to assume that the reason for this topic to get it right it's the never says in a sick about the friday rebecca says that came only to upgrade fathom straightens matt okay i'm going to get to a letter that my father received from the river about your base thomas except then nearer the air i really wanted to tell you a little bit about my personal story as guy said i've been involved in a number of different communities but i started off in a place called solihull solihole is outside birmingham the people there if you tell them they're from birmingham they get very upset they they consider them they're much more special they we don't live in birmingham live in sally hollows and these people most of the yidden who lived in sully house moved away from birmingham that was too jewish for them they didn't want to be in that communities they moved to a place where there was no community very special people and after a while they decided they could make their own community which they did they made it the beginning of the 1960s they started meeting at a hall and davening your kipper then once a month and eventually 1977 i remember the placo wall on the shore 97 they built themselves for sure and they started happening every shabbos so rabbi shmuel arkis in birmingham and he sees this as an opportunity it's an opportunity to bring in a younger man bringing a laboratory and he can be the love of this community so he calls me up i just finished learning a colonel he calls me up he says i've got an offer for you he says i i want you to come to birmingham you can do pullers in the house building a big kabat house and also i want you to become the love of the community in solihull okay sounds good i want you to come out we'll spend a few days together you'll come here you'll see him you'll meet the people then he calls me up again he says i've got a better idea i spoke with them you can count for the young lady you can come to russia kipper you can be the rabbi which is very nice and i'm getting prepared for that then i get another phone call from him he says there's a problem what's the problem the problem is the shule doesn't have a makita so the men sit on both sides and the women sit right up the middle up to the women and there's no muslims or anything there's a rope between the men's sexual women's section so i said that that's a problem so he says to me i built them a makita but they don't like it they don't want to miss itself and they tell me also that the chief rabbi jacobits came here and he consecrated the shore and we didn't have a market so why my old son of nina pakitsa so at my i spent rosh hashanah and you'll keep it at 7 17 crown heights and then i get another phone call for him listen you can come out and we'll start it slowly you'll do portals in birmingham and and you become the director of education we've got to fading you around there fader come out for a few days i went out when i went to birmingham i went out to i went with him to the university of cambridge and i met with the bella button there for sure we got on together so i went back to new york i had another hot sauce in new jersey and i wrote to the rabbit i wrote to the devil what should i do which i go here should i go there i didn't get an answer wait a week you can get an answer i went to rabbi khadika says give me a copy of your settle so i made a copy of the settle i put it in an envelope rabbit hole writes on it on [Music] i didn't get an answer i didn't get an answer i didn't get an answer one week two weeks three weeks i'm already giving up on both of these ideas then about a month later i get a call i get an answer and it says that ever has put a circle around the word anglia which is in the title and put a line to the side and he writes adifos i've written in my letter i've got no preference only i'd be [ __ ] i've got no preference whether i go here or there i'll go wherever it tells me to go and whatever wrote by the site i diffuse england and go doing it so i came here anyway i started getting involved with the community and i was running the radar and i'm still insuring meeting people and they say to me okay we get on together we'll put up in the pizza so we had directors from the land of destiny it's how high the machita should be how it should be made the first three would have got to be opaque you can't see through the top part you can see through but it's got to be a division so you can't pass things through and also i was concerned because there's a letter from the but it ever says that america has to be at least six foot high before there was igris kurdish there were other swarms of letters from the river about alaka and in one of these letters that over says that the future has to be at least six foot high so the best thing is saying it's gonna be five foot three and that ever says it's gonna be six foot high so i i discussed it with rabbi studak and i discussed other things i was concerned about and he told me what to write so i wrote i sent him i wrote it over what's going on i sent him the sack from the best in and i had another question that i realized that it's not possible in this community to have a minion in short on shabbos if people don't get in the car it's not going to happen it's not you've got ten yen who live near the shore and are going to come to shore and there's other people going to come there's no there's no many unless people drive to shore so rama sadak said to me write to the river like this write to the river should it be should it be prevent me taking this position because of the situation so that doesn't have to say anything it ever doesn't say anything obviously it's not america you know you're not asking the number to come out and say yes you can do it it's just if it doesn't say anything it's okay never didn't say anything wrong at all and everything aren't addressed that point at all so so the people say right we're gonna build and and he didn't have any problem with the suck with the best in even though it's nine nine inches less than what he wrote in the letter so i'm all set they're building me a magician i'm going to go there this is the second russian already that i'm going to go there so a few weeks before i get a call from the president of the community just i like to meet with you and my house with the chairman of the show and we'll talk about things come to the shore first and then we'll go to my house so i go to the short first i meet them there and they built a meshita but what they've done is they haven't built the homework they've got the first three foot which is made of wool of wood because they're businessmen look i'll meet you halfway this is their attitude and if it works out well then we'll we'll build the other half or the rest of it so i said to them i don't feel particularly good about this i mean i feel that it's so bad to behave but so i said to them gentlemen we've reached an impasse you know this is not i can't do less than this okay you know but i've been there about seven eight about eight months i haven't been done i was living in birmingham i haven't been dabbling there or anything i wouldn't want to unless i'm sorry i wouldn't move there unless they unless okay so the idea i would go there for rosh hashanah and then we're going to build this we didn't live but yeah so we said well they said well we can't do more than this okay so this is this is the situation so i wrote to the level what what should i do now what shall i do now you know they i can't accept half of the pizza number five before telling me at the time there's nothing either a half a million i got an answer i haven't put the whole answer i've written down when i remember i remember pretty clearly the things that are relevant to what i want to say first of all says to me harry potter harbor for birmingham you've done good work in birmingham the gun is and you started in the foundation of yiddish guy in solidar and then he says to me like this that will arouse in the opposition because you there's always going to be an opposition to any rabbi there's people there that vehemently didn't want a babbage baby which is a very unusual thing in those days you can count the numbers at the bottom you don't need a whole hand to count so don't get involved in any flakers that can be maola and attach your name in the opposition regis shown itself and a feeling of victory yes [Music] the whole country and the river underlined the words shall call her medina you can always answer how does you always say it's uh yeah i'm not allowed to do this but don't get involved in that argument what are you going to do look out of the effort effort you'll be carrying one person at a time until they will be the majority of the community [Music] you don't need everybody on your side i mean i'm adding this myself like [ __ ] audi roxy there so you don't need the whole whole you don't need everybody you need to have the regula then he says like this says obviously you don't give a happy design which is awesome that's why i'm always calling you up to make sure things just seem strange to you that they're they're really allowed okay and he says say safe yesterday and at the end you'll be much a very powerful outfit it's like a a manual step-by-step guide how to be successful in this situation and that's what i did so i continued there with the educational things i did i could do whatever i did in birmingham i used to go every week to meet people and to be my parents and the characters put on to film just at that time but just sort of to get them feeling good about the idea of having me there having a fruit rob over there and what happened was there was a change there was a change in the channel there was a new chairman all the person he didn't know the whole story i went over to him i explained it to him and he says i like you and in the end i built the rest of the fujitsu i don't know if anybody you you were there once you probably remember nikki suffering was [Music] and we moved there it took a year and a year and two thirds okay until we moved up finally for rosh hashanah the third russia shot so we didn't miss the first one we missed the same we made it there so so that is the answer which i got and that for me was a lesson for my whole life you talk about inclusive judaism there's a few things the first thing is don't get involved in an argument with someone that's going to make them feel they want the argument and they certainly don't want to lose the argument either don't kid yourself you may care of each person each person is an effort effort each person is an individual and you have to show them that they are valued as an individual in this city which i got in the beginning whatever speaks about doing the the friedrich whatever would do a favor but gash meats his way of being mccarron people are bringing out the the the peninsula eating them was doing that door type of encashments and we see this every schneider sees this sees it very very very clearly what makes somebody like you what makes somebody want to be closer to you it's what you do for them a few years ago i had my auntie was the mitzvah so my my brother-in-law ruth matzo came over from france it was telling me that a long time in the 1960s a group of students went from france to the river and they went in with question a list of questions and one of the questions was why is it that your hair sitting has got to picture you in their house not just one picture many pictures right in fact the ever asked the same question of my father when my father prepared the challenge there's a book called challenge which my parents produced green books so if you look at it the last page of the book the last item the last picture is a picture of the river putting the crown on the sacred torah on youtube so my father had my parents were going to see this they had the proofs for the book and yule christie comes in the office and he's got this picture it's a famous picture that i was putting the crown on top on top of the safer parrot my father is going to have that that's perfect that's what we need to finish the book and he said give it to me and he taped it on there and they went in they handed them handed candidate for whatever and i was looking look through it quickly and he says i see there's a picture of me at the end of the book i'm sure there's a picture i know that sees a picture of me at the beginning and i know there must be a picture in the middle too i'm sure there's a picture of me in the middle won't people say there's too much forever so my father thought he's going to be clever and he says i thought that's what the babbage was that ever in the beginning that happened in the middle of the ramp at the end and the river became very very serious and he says now i'm only 70 years old and he said exactly how many years it was since the outer river khabar is that much old so this is the question these students from france they answered under this question how come all your casinos pictures here in the house it doesn't look it doesn't look good you know to these these people found it strange so whoever told me that they'd ever answer them like this he said they have a picture of me because i don't know the exact words because of what i do for them they they love me if they have a love for me it's because of the care which i showed to them the love which i showed to them the iron dove suffering used to have a picture of pencil shelter in his house i remember going to this house that picture pence's shutterstock was in his office what's up okay why because he's a person that did something for him it's a person that had a profound effect on him but changed his life you have pictures of people you love in your home people that do something for you give you something there's another thing which it says over here in this city but very important to him was was the pueblo yeah what you actually do my son's army sent me a picture he says he says you know the story you always tell there's a joke i'm going to tell you the joke in a minute he says he says did i ever turn it off for bragging he found it in a brain contraption lambert was the nervous tells this story he said i say [Music] shabbos at the get out of russia became shabbos this young rabbi had to have to make a drawshot automatically given as a vertebrating dragon shabbos so he decided he's going to speak about keeping shabbos he's a common suing the president from shore so the president of the shore came to him on heart and gaza and he said to him they'll feel bad they feel like they've been picked up the shouts as you come them straight in the showers when the second shabbos came i think of all three what should i speak about the ville star kazakhstan sagan and joshua you always said russia so what shall i speak about often the president kazakhstan the president which will said to him there's a lot of talking but nobody says what you should actually do and the friday that ever says what are you actually going to do got a letter here that ever sent to my parents it says by the grace of god second of thomas five seven two seven this is nineteen sixty seven this is the long time ago and something just brought myself will tell you how many years 1967 about 55 years okay okay so the number says speaks to enough from the he says i was particularly gratified to note also of your good decision with regard to the education of your children this is not less not less gratified am i to read about your activities in connection with the lebanese house and he says we have now entered the particularly auspicious month the month of thomas the anniversary of the liberation of my father-in-law of saintly memory the history of which is undoubtedly familiar to you and he says i trust you will suitably observe this coming anniversary on the 12th and 13th thomas and derive lastly inspiration from it the obvious lesson which we must draw from it is this if a jew can accomplish so much for yiddish guy despite overwhelming odds and obstacles how much must each and every one of us try to do our share being fortunate in living under infinitely better circumstances with complete freedom of action to strengthen and spread torah yiddishkai the river's point is a very simple very strong point of vietnam could do everything he did in russia in the soviet union with every with all the obstacles and terrible persecution and rahman islam threat of death then then exile what about us no one is threatening us it's not it's not as good as it used to be in this country but it's still pretty good we have tremendous opportunities over here i'm now the rabbi in brighton i get up every morning i thank god for you who the pink who came and took over in sully hell so i don't feel that they're not losing out they've got another babish rabbi and the rabbi in brighton and we're right now we're building a new shul and we're also building a mikvah this is the first will be the first time in 15 16 years that the community in brighton there's thousands of years in there will have had a microwave and it's going to be a a dick it's going to be a beautiful hopefully and you said that understand the phrase [Music] you know i said to somebody recently i said sorry i've sweated blood for this picture we can't do this we can't do this we're doing it and and i i'm going tomorrow they're going to pull the last concrete the wall the the floor which goes between the bertha and to the actual couple and the rest of it is all born already so it's in it's set in concrete if there's an earthquake it's going to happen so it was my birthday a few months ago road certainly and then another personal clue and before i send off the settle i put it in following the equal sign that's what i do i'm not telling you more than that so i i open it up over here that's the end of the letter i put back the beginning of the letter it says and then it says answer to you asking for a broker in a clubhouse referring to the person written this letter is already written in a possible where it says was seeing as this this person wrote this letter is basic in bringing guido levine's role through the idiom before us and he goes on explaining explain this so this is it's a long it's a letter i'm not gonna go through the whole letter basically what he's saying he's saying to the person that wrote this letter seeing as you are asic in the building of a mixture you'll get the prophet so i i read this it was quite you know to me it felt this is my personal feeling i felt like that everyone was speaking to me again that's how i felt we have the mikvah was designed by rather mayor posen who was originally here in london but he can't come here because of the cover he couldn't come he's 99 of this guy and he does plans on his computer from because it's it's an amazing thing in fact he told me that when he went to buy the program for the computer they didn't want to sell it to him because he was too old moved out and use it but he and he this and he's back emailing backwards forwards but he can't he wasn't able to come here so we brought down a younger man i really really love you guys so rush curling envisions here in stanford his name is anshul anybody here knows him and he's he's really good and he's involved in all the mclaughs which they're building here in stanford hill now he's involved in and he's he's he's really good at this and also he's good at speaking to the goings the builders and the architects whenever he's a nice guy and he smiles at them and whatever he asks them to do they seem to read it so i was speaking to him i said really you know we'd like to give you something you've come here six seven times already want to give you something for your work say says i said how much do you what thomas do you want so he says to me whenever you give me he'll be fine you know i do it for the mitzvah it's a mitzvah and whatever you give me will be fine he says you're giving your whole life to this i just give a little bit of my time one thing i can tell you is that if for the three you could ever see whatever says then frieza could ever say seems very clear to me we can learn from this youth-based thomas to gimbal talents we can learn if a person is prepared for themselves not everybody can dedicate their whole life the whole day and i can tell you something else that you're up on him most of the time doing things which are really nothing to do with what you really want to do but if we dedicate that qualitatively we dedicate ourselves to the levels work to be accounted for effort effort whatever they type whatever type they are whether they're this type the middle massacre or the other type the other end of the spectrum then safe safe in the end we will be and if we do that if we do what the level wants then we will be given to the prophets which is waiting to give us [Music] oh yeah [Music] crazy [Music] [Laughter] [Music] here [Music]