Living With Emunah (Part 309) - All Talk Until it is Action

okay good morning good morning BTO may be a dayos may we hear good news May the hostages come home may we have a sweeping victory over our enemies may we hear only only good things want to thank our series sponsors for the Amun Dr zavi and Bella Morgan in memory of Dr Brian galin in memory of Bella's mother Dr Ellen shanzer remain tremendously grateful to the Morgans for their generosity for their sponsorship and for all those who sponsor on a regular basis this morning our learning should also be young girl from our community is having a procedure this morning should go well and smoothly and should lead to her having a continued and Speedy please God as always we share a couple of am emails before we dive into the before we dive into the learning itself get back into the msun examining the truth that doesn't care about your feelings and then your feelings that care about the truth that it works in both directions but first a couple of inspiring emails couple inspiring emails I have to tell you that I went to New York for a wedding this week and the flights were so smooth I had no story I would say it's disappointing but I promise you it wasn't I would love to never have another story from flying again it went smoothly and it went well which was really wonderful which was wonderful hello Rabbi Gober thank you for blah blah blah even though this a few weeks old I decided to share after hearing the recent sheer where in the context of an airport story you talked about the caling feeling we achieve when we accept that we are in hashem's hands I want to share with you how amuna got me through the night of the Iranian missile strike this is obviously from someone in Israel and we share as we do every week and this is really a support group it's not a sheer and we're really working on and encouraging one another and working on ourselves to condition ourselves that whatever the circumstance whatever life throws our way whatever happens whatever we confront whatever we Face whatever we're going through that we have the strength and that we have the tools and the tools to be able to understand we're in hashem's hands to surrender to submit to do all the work and take all the initiative we can and afterwards to let go and to let God and that Hashem will carry us wherever and whatever is meant to be that's easy when the hardest thing that's happening is your flight is delayed it's harder when an enemy country that's sworn to eliminate you and eliminate your entire people from the map is shooting 300 missiles in your direction it's a lot harder to surrender and fall to the hands and the Embrace of Hashem and to say that everything he does is for a reason and will be good my husband and I were blessed to be able to make alah two years ago with our children I've never really struggled with anxiety before but after October 7th I had some intense anxiety when I felt Paralyzed by fear and unable to eat or sleep this is by the way the unspoken part of what's going on in Israel we are focused understandably on the heroic soldiers fighting on the front lines and going into Gaza we're glued to the news today tragically we woke up to the worst words in the English Lang language cleared for publication three more soldiers who were killed in Gaza and a booby trapped home in Rafa three young handsome beautiful pure Jewish Souls who now are sitting next to the in the place where Kos and those who die in kesem go directly to but the unspoken part about what's going on in Israel is how about the millions of people suffering and struggling with PTSD with anxiety as the letter writer the author of this email says that I never had anxiety and now I can't eat or sleep well me going with my children because I knew I needed to be president and supportive for them even when I felt like falling apart inside though the last seven months have been incredibly difficult for all of am and especially those of us living here in Israel the anxiety I initially felt has been replaced by determination determination to support our people and our to live life here in Israel in a way that shows our enemies they cannot defeat the Jewish Spirit people in Israel heroically incredibly have been channeling what should be fear and anxiety and worry and uncertainty and panic into determination fierce fierce determination resolve and tenacity it is an incredible and a beautiful thing to see and if you haven't been to Israel you should be thinking about and planning when is your next trip must be on your agenda even if it can't be for a year or two or five but you have to be thinking always about when am I going next because that energy is in the air that even seven months in is still there fast forward to Mo shabas April 13th around 10 p.m. we started getting messages that all educational activities would be canceled the following day due to the chance of a strike from Iran now when I lived up north school got canceled because of snow and since we live here down South School sometimes gets canceled because of a hurricane we've never had school cancelled because the forecast are missiles coming from an enemy tomorrow just put that in perspective just think about that for a moment everyone is so worried about civilians and innocent people talking about entire country targeted entire country men women and children elderly and infirm school getting cancelled why because the forecast is missiles from the sky high probability it's mindboggling I felt the anxiety beginning to creep in again an hour later it was confirmed Iran had indeed launched at that point 100 missiles towards Israel I've never experienced such a bizarre moment in my life what do you do with that moment when you know there are aund of powerful weapons heading in your direction to destroy you but it will be a few hours till they arrive the closest we can come is the cone of uncertainty and the hurricane and tracking it and will it will it not hit when is it coming the WhatsApp chat were exploding with questions and concern who's going to sleep in the Mad should we put our that we just cleaned out of the Mad back into it in case we need Provisions for a while do we wake our kids to put them in the Mad where there's only room for one mattress or wait until we need to move them should we try to go to sleep in order to save energy if this goes on for a while would we even be safe in a regular Mada or with these missiles something we' never seen before the uncertainty was terrifying I was sure I would not sleep all night for a while I busied myself with checking the news the worst thing to do when you're feeling anxiety setting up the mama taking out unnecessary items and adding more water and food and blankets we decided not to wake the children but made a contingency plan of who would grab which kid to run to the mama in the middle of the night if needed my husband fell asleep at around 12:30 then the house was quiet just me alone with my thoughts in the anxiety I finally sat down to DAV started saying to hel but felt like I needed to do something else so I just started to talk to Hashem I DAV that he should save us and keep us safe and then and then I had a Moment of clarity where the amuna took over and pushed the anxiety out for good I realized I had done everything I could and that our brave Army was doing everything it could and the rest was in his hands I said and now she bolds it Hashem we've done everything we can if you've decided this is how it's going to end for me I have a few things I want to thank you for before it's too late thank you for my husband who's the single brightest light in my life thank you for the incredible to have been the mother to four children in Hara raising them has been the biggest honor of my life thank you for helping us realize the dream of moving to and living here in erel and thank you for giving me parents who supported me and made me who I am I've had more than a good life and this is what you've given me and it's all going to end soon I thank you for all of it something about saying those words feeling them and meaning them brought me an incredible calm damuna was not my prayer to keep us safe though I meant that prayer fervently damuna was in this last F there was more of a conversation where I truly felt that my life my children's lives our people's lives were in hashem's hands and I was fully ready to accept it when I finished talking to hashm around 1:30 a.m. I got into bed I said the full which has lines that have never felt so powerful and meaningful as they did that night let me fall asleep in peace and let me wake up in peace not be afraid of the fear of night gain my enemies are coming upon me but hasem you are my protection and my shield we say this every night we say this every night whether it's a hurricane or a tornado or a winter storm or 300 missiles and drones we say it every night but for her it took on more meaning that night and I'm sure every night since then with no trace of anxiety I fell asleep when it next opened my eyes it was 6:00 am the sun was up I heard birds chirping my family and I were all alive and it slept through the night because we're located in central Israel we had not even had any Sirens I can't describe the Gratitude I felt to wake up in the morning after what I thought might be our last night I felt like saying Hal indeed it felt the whole country was singing Hal that morning a week before pesak we truly experienced a shim a night of protection I pray that the amuna that got me and got us all through that night will get us through the rest of this war that we should have peaceful days ahead thank you for your words of wisdom and guidance wow what a powerful email why do I shareed I share all the emails because they're so much better than anything I have to say but also because they are examples and we grow the most when we read biographies or we hear actual practical examples here is a woman who's facing the end possibly of her family and she says the moment I was able to choose to surrender and to submit the moment I let go and let God the moment I recognized I did everything I could and there was nothing more and I just fall and collapse into hashem's hands fell asleep and I woke up and the amazing thing was all over Israel that next morning you know what the people did they went for coffee they played on the playground my sister texted in her WhatsApp group our family WhatsApp group she went to get her nails done she looked out coffee shop was full the playground was full Israel is the only country in the world that at night you brace for 300 missiles that could destroy you maybe with nuclear weapons and in the morning you have a cup of coffee and you go to the playground and you go on and it's almost as if no one's talking about it everyone just moved on it is a miracle that is H worthy it is a miracle that is y establish a day forever in perpetuity of the miracle of the cooperation of Saudi Arabia injured all the countries that cooperated they shot them all out of the sky nobody was injured or hurt and then the man who pressed the button went down in a helicopter accident a couple weeks later is this not like miger like could you write a better script he pushed a button to launch 300 missiles enemies cooperated with us to blast them out of the sky and nobody was hurt the country went back to normal the next morning and the man who launched them went down in a fluke helicopter accident a couple weeks later it's a yff it should be a Yanti it's a cause for Halo it's amazing but how does a country get through it and still rank as one of the happiest places on Earth one of the happiest places on Earth Israel and the happiness index always comes up in the top 10 far ahead by the way of America and elsewhere it's unbelievable one more email then we get back in dear R Ephraim well I first intended to reach out and share with impact your amuna has had in my life I know from other letter writers anything positive written about you you'll skip so instead of stearing out your sh have strengthened my amuna I want to share with you my youngest son's story instead of sharing my how your sh have strengthened my amuna through this war the death of my father and my son getting injured as aumn he's 100% better a miracle story and of itself I want to share my youngest son's story I don't want to say his name I don't want to give away too many details but he's a 20-year-old hezer boy learning Ina until PES he's always looking to grow and found y online sharing it with me he believes wholeheartedly that with his tah learning has really prepared him for the next stage which is being drafted into the army the thing is though that W has a combat profile he's also an upand cominging singer who writes his own music and has been performing together with his brother both in Israel and in the USA his genre of music can only be described as Love Letters to Hashem and I clicked on a few of his songs and they are exactly that really really beautiful unless you think like some other people who reach out to me who are aspiring songwriters who say check it out and there are six listens five their mother and one their father I clicked on his YouTube on this song he had over 100,000 his songs are songs of thanks are songs that Express only hasem can help us in times of Darkness there's a status in the Army called working artist where one can ask to receive a day job not a combat job and have flexibility to continue to work as an artist very few people get awarded this status after October 7th my son didn't want to request it since he felt his should be as a combat Soldier but his father and I felt that his music is also spreading a message of love and amm through music recognizing hm is always in charge is a different kind of that most people cannot achieve he decided he would put in the request and then let go and let God I want to be clear by the way I didn't make up that expression comes from the Comm recovery community and Recovery world people say to me all the time I love when you say like I didn't make it up I can't take credit for it I'm a big believer in attribution om bash om it's not my own and neither is almost anything else I ever say I would love to end this email I would love to end this email why am I reading this email I would love to end this email with and he got the status so he could continue working growing as a m musician sharing message of amuna and love of hasem but alas that is not how life Works he was drafted into a combat unit two weeks ago he's 100% shelling with that since he let go and let God and decid Hashem decided his fate his amuna continues to strengthen me there are other avenues we could have gone down to try again but he refused to do so please know the impact of the sheir is touching many people different countries blah blah blah blah keep all of our soldiers safe may the G come may continue to give the to continue to spread his Torah the best part about this email was the subject line you want to hear the subject line Amir spoiler alert no airport or tied in a bow and a happy ending spoiler alert so but those are the most powerful emails I find because the email was not and then we used the connection and then it turned out and then a musician dropped out and they needed him and then it all worked out then it all worked out out because it's impressive to have amuna when it all works out it's impressive after the fact to C and hasem I fell into his hands and he held me tight and everything was okay it's impressive but that's not the highest amuna the highest amuna is when it doesn't highest amuna is when it doesn't have that happy ending at the end when he didn't get drafted into the group he wanted and he ended up a combat Soldier nonetheless and still there's auna that that's where I'm meant to be like we saw in last week's letter of the girl that couldn't decide stay in Israel go back to America came back to America America and she was where Hashem needed and wanted her to be so she could be there for her friend who was going through that illness sometimes we understand and we discover other times it remains a mystery but as long as we let go and let God then we know where we are is where we're meant to be where we arrive and where we come is where he's sending us that we are never stranded we're never stuck like theab rebba told those those women those rabbitson in in England you're never stuck you're where you're meant to be you're never stuck just figure out why am I here why am I here why is this delayed why is this cancelled why am I put into this unit why am I right now where I am Jew is never stuck a Jew is exactly where they are meant to be and they have to ask themselves in that moment and from that place and with what they're going through what am I meant to do now who am I meant to be how am I meant to live what difference am I meant to make what am I meant to do with where I am because we're never stuck we're never ever stuck as long as we have as long as we have hem okay so we continue we're back in the wonderful sa for collection of the classes he gave on the Y on the 13 principles of our faith I'll also dedicate today Shear my mother's birthday so happy birthday to my mom tried calling her I didn't reach her but I left her a voice and I said mom so happy you were born because otherwise I wouldn't have been so happy birthday and she thought that was a brilliant analysis she did not think that was a brilliant analysis but I am happy I am happy okay and I want to wish ma to Emily agan who I failed on chabas to mention in celebrating the incredible job Matan did how we study Yuna together every Wednesday so a big Ma and he did a great job and you're doing a great job passing on that amuna to him okay back inside reuna anything else I have to we're on page page ah we left off on the Z and male masculine and feminine why Ms and amuna so until now what we've seen developed the difference between Ms and amuna Ms is the fact that hem exists I don't need proof I don't need evidence Hashem exists whether you examine the proof and evidence or not he doesn't need you to believe in him for him to be real he's real that's a fact that's a truth and it doesn't need or rely on you that's Ms what's amuna amuna is implementing executing is when you're in the different unit than you want it to be in when the flight didn't occur when you have to go to sleep and the missiles are not maybe they'll be shot like could you imagine a greater torture imagine the news just want to let you know they're on their way here's the ETA according to ways they're gonna be here could you imagine it's better not to know and then you'll find out when it's time to go into the mama when the sirens about to go off they had to had spend the whole night they've been launched here's the ETA here's when they're going to arrive that's is there he doesn't need you that's a fact that's a truth is when we put it into practice that's what he's been developing the notion of mosha is trustworthy and faithful and reliable Anda is can we rely on you are you Dependable are you sturdy are you steady can we lean on you that's amuna amuna is taking the truth the MS of God's existence and amuna is turning it into being faithful to that truth there are all kinds of truths that we're not faithful to it's true that sugar is bad for you but are you faithful to that truth it's true tell the smoker smoker can read all of the data smoker can read all of the evidence that smoking is bad for you will kill you but are you faithful to that truth to that data to that evidence so hashem's existence is Ms emuna is how faithful are we to the truth of his existence is it something we leave in sh something we leave in the sitter when I open the sitter I dve and you're there but then when I go to gym and to work then when I'm driving on the road with my road rage then when I'm in the supermarket long the line is long then I'm not faithful to the very thing that I pledged and promised in the morning and is how faithful how reliable how consistent how constant how steady how sturdy am I to the MS to that truth that's what we've been discussing so the second paragraph on top of now this difference this dichotomy of emuna is captured in the form of the word in English you don't have masculine and feminine but in Hebrew you do we have different ways of formulating words different ways so like I don't know for me at my age I'm embarrassed to be admitting this I'm ashamed to be admitting this I still struggle with numbers masculine feminine when do you use each when do you use which I got to go back to an OP to figure that out I'm embarrassed and ashamed to admit that at my age but it makes Hebrew complicated which is the masculine which is the feminine how do you count and so on so these words MS the word Ms truth is formulated grammatically in the masculine why because truth is cognitive is intellectual is in the mind now does that mean women aren't intellectual or smart or cognitive no it doesn't mean that women may be smarter than men but it means it means and here's a truth here's an MS that is getting blurred and erased in this world maybe I'll canceled for saying this but that'll just accelerate my alah so here goes anyway Ms Ms is z I'll tell you a truth that's not safe to say anymore there's a difference between men and women he said it there's a difference between men and women anatomically physiologically there's a difference there's a difference women conceive women can carry a baby women give birth and women can feed that child and Men no matter how jealous no matter how much they want or crave to know that feeling which women will laugh at cynically and say haha you don't trust me but men may say no matter how badly they want it they can't have it it's simply not the way the universe was designed there's different anatomies between men and women and even if surgically a person attempts to change that Anatomy the reality of the chromosomes on the anatomy are there differences between men and women and what's true physically is true metaphysically there are different energies and there are different predispositions and there are different emotional makeups between men and women and it's not a Jewish concept or some right-wing or fanatic concept someone made a lot of money off of their Book Men Are from Mars and women are from Venus because they're from two different planets from two different planets and if you don't believe then just try if you're a woman to live with a man try if you're a man to live with a woman it's the most rewarding and amazing and fulfilling a happy and a wonderful marriage that you complement each other but you need to learn to navigate those differences those assumptions those predispositions those Love Languages those needs those wants there are fundamental differences are there exceptions of course there are of course there are that means are men taller than women yes statistically men are taller than women are the women of the WNBA taller than almost all men yes the fact that there are exceptions to a rule doesn't negate or undermine the rule so statistically there's a reality in a rule that men are taller than women are there outlier women that are taller than most men absolutely so there are qualities that are masculine qualities or qualities that are feminine qualities are there men who have that femininity Are there women who have more of that masculinity absolutely there are outliers and exceptions to those rules and there's nothing wrong with it nothing wrong with it but on the whole that doesn't take away from the rule and the way that Hashem designed the universe and now is not the time to get into this in length but it's a Torah tells us that created Adam Anda male and female he created them because unlike what we're taught thata was taken extracted from Adam's Rib that's not true Mish tells us explicitly that Adam and kava were born together United as one androgynous figure half man half woman and then Hashem divided them in two he originally created them as and the gar tells us that we have to the torah's rules are in order to protect and Preserve ve the boundaries of those important differences for the world to exist and be a healthy place there has to be that balance and that equilibrium there has to be a protection of masculinity and femininity and when they get blurred and Blended when we no longer live those differences when each is imitating or competing with the other then the world is out of whack it's out of balance there is a balance between those forces and those energies those predispositions that design and that make makeup and it's true says the masculinity and feminity are true in the human species it's true in the entire Animal Kingdom it's even true in botony and plant life in ways that are far beyond me to explain but there are plants masculine feminine every component of this world Hashem created a parallel of masculine and feminine and we need the healthy interaction and integration and respect and boundaries of the two in order for the world to be in balance and when we pretend that there are no differences and erase differences and blur differences we're doing a horrific disservice and we are introducing horrific and almost irreparable dysfunction and that's the reality that we're seeing in our world today that for some reason thinks it's woke when they're really asleep at reality to introduce an race that's not the point of the orer this is not why you come for living with amuna but it's an important background to this and it's important for us to not be defensive or apologetic of apologetic there are different roles and different energies neither is Superior or better than another and we need the combination of them both and there's nothing wrong by the way that's not to say that men don't have and shouldn't be in touch with their femininity they have or women shouldn't be in touch with the masculine energy they have every human being every tellim has part of both we're not denying that question is which does it have more What proportion what ratio which is the predisposition and on the whole the gender differences are critically critically important we need that we need mothers and we need fathers we need husbands we need wives we need feminine leadership and masculine leadership we need a world that is gaining from and drawing on and learning from both and not deleting or erasing or blurring them so back to our regular schedule class Ms is zahar and what's zahar zahar is more cognitive more intellectual less emotional less intuitive so it's wonderful to have access to all the truth and all the facts in the world but if you don't how to apply it and you don't know how to live it and you don't know how to implement it you need a vessel you need a house you need a vehicle to take all that truth all those facts all that reality and to put it into practice to manifest it to bring it into reality and that's what women the feminine energy specializes in is taking truths and turning them into implemented reality to take something that's pie in the sky and theoretical and up there and say yeah but we got to get to school but it's carpool but we got to have something to eat but you know we've got to have a chabas and we got to implement we got to put it into practice we got to make it a reality and that's why suggests Ms is L on Z and amuna is L Ona women don't have MS of course they do and men don't have amuna of course they do but when we talk about their different roles and their contributions again which all science and research backs those scientists who have the courage to be willing to today share what their research concludes because it takes courage today that just to share the science and the research it concludes exactly the same thing of the contribution of these different energies our rabbis revealed to us another idea from the power and the strength of what adds in addition to Ms don't forget you could caffeinate with cavana you could order the cups Happ to send them to you I start every day with a caffeinate with cavana this is my second coffee of the day than you and I promise you every day since we made this cup every day without fail the very fact that these words are on the cup make me pause and stop that is probably the I have more kavana on than any other day any other bra throughout the day we make a 100 bras a day we studi that together I'm working on the other 99 but this one because it's right in your face and you pour that coffee and you need it so badly to wake up you're waking up physically and you're waking up spiritually CAF with kavana we talked about what that means as well I don't make money I'm not selling I'm not in sales mode I don't make money off of it but you can make Mitzvah off of it so feel free to order it or not or just put up a sign next on top of your carig or your espresso whatever your coffee snob drip fancy way of making coffee however you do it which I'm sure is so much better and nobody else makes coffee like that put a little note next to it caffeinate with cavana on that someone sent me an email with a picture in their home of their coffee station with a big caffeinate with cavana they printed their own sign do it your way not looking to make money looking to help inspire all of us to have more kavana anyway whoever answers with all of their effort the gates of will be open for them what is the key what is the code what will open the doors to G in the Garden of Eden answering aain with all your effort it's amazing you don't have to memorize the code there's no key there's no credit card machine you know how you get into ganen what opens the gate to ganen you want a glimpse you want a window you want to see in you know what opens the doors answering a says rash perish rash when you hear someone else make a and you answer aen we spoke about this on sh the power of aain power of aain is even greater than making the A and am answering aain in our homes in our lives with our co-workers with our friends you're meeting for lunch you're meeting for coffee you have a tinina you have a claim on somebody who mumbled their BR who swallowed their braa faster than their food say say it out loud I want to I want to be able to answer I would have thought what's the reward for answering AO what does aain it's from amuna ditto I believe I affirm I agree I'm bringing down his energy I'm announcing I'm faithful I'm faithful to that truth to this fact I'm part of the club I'm on the team I'm in I'm cheering aain aain we have a few DieHard Ranger fans in our Sho by a few I mean anyone who cares about hockey in our sh who's not from Canada so I wasn't here I was at a wedding but on Sunday I can't tell how many people sent me the picture of at m a father son a son who flew in I love this father son who were at M in their Rangers jersey at the game very happy Rangers won in overtime very excited about it so why do they wear that to some people were very excited somebody wrote To Me didn't have on my bingo card today so and so and his son at M in the Rangers jerseys four billion degrees outside and in the hockey in the hockey jersey why why do you wear the hockey jersey why do people wear that Jersey they say I'm a fan I'm a I'm rooting for this team my happiness like Don't Go Near the hockey fan if they lost Don't Go Near him last night sorry for what your home must have been like last night right don't the Panther fans so so uh why why do you wear the hat why do you wear the Jersey why do you wear the team logo because I'm on team I'm rooting I'm a fan I'm all in I'm emotionally invested I'm emotionally connected when you say aain you just put on the biggest Hashem Jersey I'm on team Hashem I'm wearing his logo I'm rooting for him I believe in his brand you're putting on the big am on Hashem hat right like the whole thank you Hashem movement magnets the bumper stickers that's that's the logo that's what we should be wearing that's what we should be cheering for that's what we're rooting on so notes you'd think you answer you're wearing the Hashem Jersey to M you're wearing the Hashem Jersey to Publix you're wearing the Hashem Jersey to work you'd think you'd think you'd think that you get entrance to ganen what do you mean just the doors are open Shar what do you learn that the doors need to be unlocked what does that mean about the gates that they're normally locked they're normally closed if you need a password or key a code in order to unlock them what does that tell you that ordinarily they are locked we don't have a right we're not entitled we don't have a license to get in we can't go in the normally locked why do you lock something because you're shutting people out so we're normally on the outside we're normally Outsiders we're normally locked out we're normally shut out and the key that we need is how do you understand this the MS the truth is proportionate to how much a person understands it the truth is the truth it's sitting up in a book it's in a library it's on a shelf it's floating in the air it's a truth that doesn't care about your feelings it's a truth there's an absolute truth it is a non-negotiable truth it is a non- deniable truth it is a truth it's a truth but how much you have a relationship to the truth is relative to how much you understand it how much you put into it how much time you spend on it how bright you are smart you are how well it will explain to you but when you implement that truth when you live that truth you've now you've now surpassed you just went over the comprehension so when something is a truth how much you grasp it intellectually is dependent on how much you understand it but when you take that same truth and it's not a function of trying to grasp it intellectually but you're trying to live it in implement it then when you live it and you're faithful to it you put it into practice now your relationship with that truth just went flying right fast the intellectual understanding you had of it is that clear do you understand that mean the MS is the truth that's out there how much do I understand it depends on how much I spend time on it well how capable I am of understanding it and I might be at a very low level but if I take that truth and now I live it and now I implement it and now I exhibit it and now I demonstrate it now my relationship with that truth it is so much higher and so much deeper and so much better than whatever I was trying to achieve intellectually you create a reality of being faithful to that truth a reality of being faithful to that truth when you demonstrate a truth you have a closer relationship with it than when you're understanding and analyzing it demonstrate it put it into practice put it into practice I've told the story many times I love the story I've told the story many times about the the father who needed a ride from the airport he calls the son before Uber taxies weren't so convenient he says could you put me up I'm flying in I need you pick me up the airport he says ABA dad I love you I love you so much but I just can't he says okay I appreciate that but pick me up at the airport says you're the greatest father that ever lived you don't know know how much I love you you can't imagine how much I appreciate you I so badly wish I could but I can't say okay I yeah I appreciate that but I need you to pick me up at the airport there's no word to describe the love I have for you it's the greatest love no son has ever loved a father like I love you and if I could I would I just can't and the father exasperated said listen love me less and pick me up at the airport love me less and pick me up at the airport and that's a great motto for life love me less and pick me up at the airport the MS of Love don't talk about it don't describe it don't analyze it don't look for synonyms for it don't measure it the MS of Love leave there the amuna of putting it into practice demonstrating exhibiting it put it in when the rubber meets the road the proof is in the pudding action it's all words until it's action it's all words until it's action people talk talk talk talk talk going to I will I want to I do talk talk talk talk talk talk and more tell us in say little and do much let your actions do the talking say little and do much say little and do much because people talk all day long and they produce a lot of hot air and that's what's really destroying the environment all the the environment is being brought down by the hot air of the people who are they talk a lot and they do little don't talk talk is cheap talk is cheap talk is cheap it's just words until it's action in every therapy session between every marriage and every parent and children and every negotiation and every business partner and everything that's coming down every therapist should have framed on their wall it's all talk until its action action demonstrate exhibit perform show up do this week's Hashem says action walk it's all talk how much you believe in me how much you love me how much you accept Torah and MIT it's all talk until start walking start walking the walk it's all talk until you start walking the walk that's the opening of our what do we call Jewish law thank you what do we call Jewish law why because that's how you're demonstrating that's the Amun in the MS I love you know how many people have told me through the years Rabbi I'm not religious that I don't observe but I believe in Hashem you don't even know you don't even understand you wouldn't believe how much I believe in Hashem nobody believes in Hashem like I believe in hasem I just believe in him in my way I do it in my way I live in my way I perform my exhibit my way and the answer is that Ms is wonderful it's great you believe in him you surrender to him you accept it's fantastic but you know what it's all talk until it's action here's what he says he's asking he's needing it's like say I love my wife like no one's ever loved you can't imagine there's no words in the dictionary there's nothing there's nothing that can capture and describe the love I have but she says that you never listen to anything she asks you never do anything the way she wants you never follow through anything you promise her that's not important I love her like you've never heard love buy her cards and and I and I write her poems and I give her chocolates right what it's all talk until it's action Ms is the talk and the talk is also important it's also important but the talk is all talk until it's action Ms is the talk amuna is the action what opens the door to ganen not the MS what opens the door to ganen and by the way you know what gan aen is a happy marriage you know what ganen is a good relationship with your children that's also ganen and you know what it will open the door to those Gan aens if you put it into action it's all talk till it's action love me less and take out the garbage love me less do your homework and go to bed love me less and put your put your plate in the sink or wash the plates that are in the sink love me less and pick up the dry cleaning love me less and come home when you said you were going to come home love me less and it's all EMS it's all words it's all talk until it's amuna until you're faithful to what you're saying you have to demonstrate you're being faithful we are being faithful to what we say that opens the door to Gan Aiden ganen of marriage the ganen of children the ganen what will open the door to a ganen relationship around us is Amun if we're faithful to what we say we believe it's not just words it's not just talk it's not just Ms but we're making it amuna we're making it amuna as well okay this is a good place to stop I think so we'll stop here and let's go out and take the Ms and make it amuna put into practice in addition to the MS we also the you still need the MS you have to the action but we still need to talk part of the talk is please remain so we can finish all saer please have in mind undergoing a procedure this morning and our brothers and sisters in Israel