Living With Emunah (Part 307) - Are you Faithful to Hashem?

good morning Boer to may it be a Boer to may we hear boros toos we should hear good news from Israel and around the world may the hostages come home May our soldiers have a sweeping Victory and return to their families I want to thank our generous and win sponsors for the year Dr davella Morgan memory of Rabbi Dr Brian galet and in memory of Bella's mother Dr Ellen chanler we remain very very grateful to the Morgans this morning Shar is also sponsored by pay and prosper Bol in commemoration of her father's yite leester Greenberg alaza Ben mayor dedicated by the Missori bid and families in commemoration of the schan of Shana masi sh Rael who was a beloved member of our community for many years passed away recently she was uh eager to learn always wanted to grow and by Rachel and Alex cats dear friends of Yim whose recently married son Isaac is drafting to the IDF today so we're incredibly proud of him we wish him well cats is our Incredible family who are changing Israel and the world voluntarily doing tremendous things at k and passing that Spirit onto their children he should be safe and secure and uh mem successful in all that he does okay so as always we'll start with a little bit of amuna Correspondence and then we'll get back into the learning that we were doing I love the emails please keep them coming those stories strengthen me and through our sheer and being able to share them I hope that they strengthen others the feedback we get they strengthen others as well the fact that we are applying so first I want to share um last week we spoke about the tighter the grip the tighter you hold something then the less successful you are and the looser the grip then the better you do so when you go through life and you're filled with angst and worry and you're holding on tight tight to everything everything has to work out exactly the way you want the way you drew it up the way you planned it and tight tight tight then you're just going to cause yourself physical mental spiritual um being unhealthy and problems and I gave the example it's here this week so I can't talk about it that's the rule but I gave the example a drummer the the tighter that you hold the drumsticks the more poorly you play in in sports the tighter you hold the bat or the golf club the less successful you'll be in making contact and hitting where you want to go so um shelle BR shared with me Mrs shelle BR shared with me another beautiful application and insight of this idea in we say we say like arrows in the hand of a warrior so are the children of our youth our attitude towards our relationship with our children are like the arrows in the hand of the Archard it's a beautiful kutar on this which is kater says on this P before we get to her interpretation kater says you know the the Archer has the bow and arrow and you pull the arrow towards you the tighter you pull it towards you the closer you hold it towards you when you let go and release it the straighter it goes and the farther it will travel and the same is true with our children the closer we hold them towards us the tighter we pull them towards us the hold closer we hold them when we let go the further they'll go and the more in line the more on the path they will they will remain so says the K that's the but she wants to suggest that like arrows if you hold the bow too loose the arrows will fall to the ground if you hold it too tight you're gonna overshoot the target if you're holding it too tight you're never going to possibly be able to aim and hit the target so you have to hold it just right just like with children don't hold them too tight but you also can't be too Loosey Goosey you got to be just right like the Three Bears you got to get it just right when it comes to children and that's how they'll fly that's how they'll flourish that's how they're going to go very far in life so as we're going through our lives and the things that we do don't hold on too tight don't hold on too tight just like the musician and just like the athlete you got to have the right grip you have to have the right grip you have to have the right grip and go to work you can't be too loose and sitting on your couch at home and think God's going to drop off a brown paper bag filled with cash you got to go to work but don't be holding on so tight when you go to work the grip is so tight it's all up to me and if I don't make it no noasa my success and my failures we take our initiative we do our thing we make our effort and then we let go un let God and then we submit and surrender and then the rest is up to him so don't hold on to I go to the airport I was on time I made the plans they were reasonable they were responsible I did everything I could and then the rest is up to him don't hold on too tight don't grip too tight got another email from kib near in Northern Israel thank you so much for living withun here blah blah blah a few months ago you spoke about a survey which showed that students thought their parents cared more about them getting good grades than being kind and the research suggested that parents ask their children every night at the dinner table what is something kind or helpful they did today remember that we shared a research from Harvard that if you ask students if you ask children what are your parents care more about your grades your performance or your kindness your character what do they care more about and overwhelmingly children reported they answered they care much more about my grades academically how well I do you used to say could you get into an Ivy League school but today what would send their child to an IV League school so we don't that's no longer I don't know if it ever should have been but it certainly is no longer a a standard so uh so many children answered sadly that their parent cares more about their grades their academic performance then their character and then their kindness and then the researchers which I'm not a enormous uh reader of research but seems to me to be unusual concluded by not only sharing their research and their data but by making a suggestion is that common Mrs MOS do they do that make suggestions yeah you delete that you edit that out of the Journal of uh New England Journal of Medicine but but these researchers got it in and their conclusion was at the dinner table every night don't just ask what'd you get on your math test how'd you do in school today did you get any grades back but ask did you do something kind for someone else today did you do something nice for someone else today so we shared all this several months ago so the author of this email says you suggested that we also ask our kids every night when is the moment today that you were thankful to Hashem or looking back can realize when Hashem was helping you in other words what we talk about what we speak about is what communicates what we prioritize what we care about so if you talk about the stock market or you talk about the sports results or you talk about your grades or you talk about money or material things or possessions then our children understandably conclude those are my parents' priorities that's what matters to them that's how they measure my success but if you talk about character and kindness if you talk about and you talk about Hashem you talk about gratitude then children will feel that's how I was raised on an attitude of gratitude that's what matters that's what matters most so we suggested and I'm always encouraging endorsing trying to remind ourselves to use our family hash WhatsApp group to post the stories that inevitably invariably happen to all of us every day where you can feel hasem in our lives so the author of the email says just like we learn and we and we Dar it up we Daren up the emails too we read the email and then we we learn it together so uh we try to ask these two questions every night and our children excitedly say time for dinner questions and see who can share the most stories a few weeks ago I took my seven-year-old daughter to the shopping center to buy some clothing for her and pick a pizza up to bring home in Israel Pizza Huts kosher it was at night and as we got next to our car I dropped the car key and we couldn't find it initially eventually after a minute I found it behind the back tire I picked it up and said to my daughter thank God we found it she said much to my pleasant surprise that when the key fell and we initially couldn't find it she asked Hashem to help us find it I told her how happy I was that she recognized in the moment that we needed hashem's help may we bring all of the May Hashem bring all of us the help that we need what was his point is if that's what you talk about so then that's how the child thinks in that moment that's what they say and that's what they and that's what they think about and that's what they want I was playing with my grandson on on Sunday and he had a little wand and I said AR what are you what are you wishing for what are you hoping for for the wand he said I want to make you really tall Zeta so you can go up to sh and pull down the basa mikdash and put it in my backyard so I told his parents who happen to be pretty good parents I clearly where does a child get that from that there's a b mikdash that it's upstairs that we have to bring it down okay the part about his backyard maybe needs some work but you know what do our children believe or think about and what do they wish for when they wave a wand what they hear what they hear from their parents it's not rocket science it's not rocket science we say we say in we say in Hal we just sang it throughout PES we just saides I believe because because I speak about it what we speak about we believe we practice we do we create that energy around us so when we speak about Amun and hasem and he's here and I feel him and there's a plan and will make sense and we'll come to understand and he's holding us up and I can lean on him and he's supporting us and it's all part of a bigger picture so when we speak I believe because I speak about because I say that is all part of that is all part of what we do okay those were a couple of emails to get it started and back to our Li for today so we are learning re incredible sa by Shapiro and we were distinguishing to start between Ms and amuna Ms is the truth and the truth doesn't care about your feelings the truth doesn't care about how you behave and how you act and whether you fulfill it or whether you do it the truth is the truth whether you subscribe to gravity or not it will knock you down no one cares whether you've studied and understand the physics of gravity your relationship with gravity is unimportant to and doesn't have an impact on whether gravity exists gravity exists gravity is a truth gravity has a pull gravity is effective whether you understand it think about it care about it feel about it talk about it live with it or not hashem's existence doesn't depend on you knowing he exists he will exist whether you've studied the Bible codes or not he will exist whether you've gone through the Discovery program or not that's the EMS it is simply POS the EMS it is the truth that is fact it is undeniable if a person studies with an open mind if a person analyzes the evidence you will see overwhelmingly as much evidence there is for anything else there is evidence that Hashem exists that there is a first cause that there is a source of all that that the world didn't come into disorder didn't turn into order without a designer without a Creator it's common sense to believe he exists it's common sense as has been said many times it takes more faith to be an atheist than it does to be a believer takes more faith to be an atheist you have to really really lean in and believe and want to because it justifies some life or lifestyle that he doesn't exist takes more faith to be an atheist or agnostic than it does to be a believer because it's common sense if you open your eyes and you know that every time you see disorder turn to order there's a Creator if you see paint on a canvas there was a painter not some of the new paintings I don't mean what do they call that abstract I don't know I'm not knocking it I know it sells for a lot of money that same grandson who wants to wave the wand can produce the same types of paintings he doesn't bring in the same amount of money I don't get it I'm sure it's only because I'm an ignorant boor I'm not criticizing any I don't get it but when you see a painting that looks like something and makes sense you know somebody didn't knock over and spill over paint on a canvas you know there was a painter when you see a sculpture that resembles something you know there was a sculpture when you see a building you know a hurricane didn't just blow through Home Depot and it resulted in those materials coming together to be the building you know there was an architect and you know there was a builder in every other area of our life when you open a book you know that nobody knocked over ink on a page and it turns into this book these letters these words these sentences you know there's an author in every area of our life when disorder or chaos turn to order we know it's common sense it's obvious that there is an author a sculptor an architect a painter a builder and yet we live this life and in this world with the complexity of the human body and the world and the cosmos and the universe and that the Earth is the exact distance from the Sun for it to exist a little bit closer we would explode in a ball of fire a little bit further we would freeze and couldn't exist and is exactly the distance we need to be we look at all that we say yeah yeah but maybe it just came to be it was just a coincidence maybe it just happened the Big Bang blew up and here we are we don't apply that logic anywhere else in our life the common sense conclusion is that there is a Creator it takes more faith to be an atheist than to be a believer that's the EMS it's the EMS plain and simple there is an EMS there is a Creator there is a first cause he's intimately involved and aware of and intervenes in our lives all that's the MS amuna is do you live it do you apply it do you execute on it do you manifest it when things in life are going wonderfully do we realize that's from him when things in life could be a little bit better do we understand and lean in and realize it's not random it's not chance we're not just victims of nature that he's in charge and he's in control in this world there's a bigger something going on there's something more happening that there is a world to come and an afterlife and an immortality and Eternity and it's not just about the here and now that's and our relationship to the MS isap developed us with the idea of being a building a bias in the being reliable and trustworthy being faithful being sturdy and stable and all this we've said until now we are up to the second paragraph on page of page 21 Faith gives a foundation a house for the MS for the for the facts to be able to reside oh makes a space but that space that space where the truth lives has to be reliable and dependable you can't blow at the wind you can't fluctuate you can't be in and out you can't be you can't be some times and not other times you can't be like I married you when I'm home but not when I'm on a business trip I'm in love with you when you do the nice things to me but when I don't like you then bet all bets are off like if you're in it that's the vow that we take we originated the vow by the way it's called the Cuba The Pledge the promisees the giving the receiving of the Ring all of that are the commitment the Covenant the promise that we make to one another under a and what it means is in good times and bad times in sickness and in health it means that we're in it we're in it for the long haul we're in it together and it won't always be easy and it won't always be pleasant and it won't be pleasurable and you won't always be behaving the way I want you to be behave that does means I'm still not going anywhere I'm still committed that's what it means we also have a Mitzvah of divorce when it's appropriate I'm not suggesting that we don't but the institution of marriage is to build a bias reliable dependable constant consistent that's what it means when you're a parent the commitment the Covenant to have a child to have a child we're living in a crazy time around the world there's a population crisis here in America too the only who are offsetting that and helping are the Jewish people and among the Jewish people I'm talking about the observant Jewish community and the more observant the more you're helping the population Challenge and we doav for those who want to add to the population they should have success andas and and be blessed with beautiful healthy children but the world today is concluded ah I don't want to have children you have a you have a crisis when people die at a faster rate than children are being born that creates a population crisis it's happening around the globe it's happening here in America you know where it's not happening in Israel it's not happening in in Israel but that's a topic for another time but why are people concluding I don't want to have children why some are concluding they think nobly they look around this world and say I'm going to bring children into this world this backwards upside down deeply Disturbed world of Lies world of selfishness world of corruption world of immorality world of moral depravity I'm going to bring children into this world forget about about it and maybe it's understandable in fact so understandable there was a period of our history where people felt that too who thought that in MIT none other than Moshe rabenu Aon haken Miram anavia their father felt that he looked around Egypt and he said this persecution this oppression this anti-Semitism this hatred this war to the South to the north Iran forget it not bringing children into this world it's a reasonable conclusion thank God thank God Miriam came along and said you know PO is just killing the males you're killing the females too and we know the mirrors and beautified ourselves and attracted their husbands and the and the Merit of righteous women we are still here which is always the case because Judaism is a gender bias religion it is a bias against men it's always promoting and praising women and always knocking the men I'm not joking I'm serious happens to be true if you study the Torah and you study you'll see many many many many many more praiseworthy things about women than of men many more compliments of women of than of men and many more criticism of men than women but all that is for another time so thank God the the women saved the day but today we're back in that place where some people others and I don't know the statistics but I would guess the majority of people not having children why because you know they're annoying they're difficult they could be a pain they're inconvenient they don't always cry when it's convenient for you they don't need the diaper change when it's convenient for you when they're potty training they don't need the bathroom when it's convenient for you they're expensive have you noticed how expensive they are food diapers let alone Jewish Education they're expensive so if you live a life which is all about your happiness happiness and your pleasure and your freedom and your time and your and you you you children sort of interfere they get in the way they get in the way of that they get in the way of that so it's easier to not have children and there's a major population challenge in this world today we we we're living in a backwards world and someone was in touch with me and I hope to work with them on legislation about we live in a world where insurance and the government pay for birth control but they don't pay for fertility treatments and we wonder why we have a population in terms of what we what we popularize and promote and what we pay for it is unbelievably expensive to need fertility treatments it's something that is no less of a condition I don't say that with any judgment or to make someone feel bad but it's no less than a condition than other health issues that insurance all pays for it is absurd it is absurd if you prioritize continuity and population growth then it is a given that insurance and that government subsidizes what's necessary to help a population that needs to be corrected and needs to be corrected immediately so when parents have a child what are they saying to that child you know I'll wake up in the middle of the night for you when I feel like it I'll be your parent when you're when you're compliant when you're honoring and respect but when you have you're on your own you know when you're not on the path that I want you to be if you're figuring things out for yourself then I'm no longer your parent I disown you no when you become a parent nobody tells this to people because there's no training there's no degree there's no license there's no test you have to pass and there are many maybe who shouldn't be but when you become a parent you're making a promise a commitment a covenant to be n to that child you are a parent 247 for the rest of your life hopefully they become an adult and graduate and grow up but you're always that parent worrying caring loving maybe funding but I don't know if they they graduate that they go off the payroll at some point I'm told so at some you're always you're always that you're always that parent that's a covenant that's what it means to be a namon that's what it means to be a namon so what is amuna amuna is amuna is not oh I believe that there is a Hashem that's not amuna that's the EMS the MS doesn't need your amuna the MS says Shapiro is the MS says there's a God that's a truth that's a fact that's a reality like gravity now what's your relationship with hasem are you do you have amuna means the same way in my home my commitment to my spouse to my commitment to my children is that this is a covenant this is a bris this is a promise this is a contract this is a vow God I make a promise and a commitment and a covenant and a vow to you I'm in it I'm here for the Long Haul I'm here not only when it's convenient not only when it's comfortable not only when I understand it not only when I appreciate it not only when it's Gish to be a yid I'm in it when it's SCH design to be Aid I'm in it not only when it's fun and energized and enthusiastic and it all makes sense and we're celebrating in the Sim and it's amazing I'm also in it when it's inconvenient and it's a pain and I don't know where you are or why you do this and how hard this is I'm practicing I'm still there I'm still there next paragraph Torah tells us Yehuda the great Yehuda the son of yobu goes and has Children air and Onan and a place why was it called kiv this place why does it have its name kiv K what do Kaz mean a deceiver a deceiver because that is the place where they ceased to have children we call Sheer another name for lies and distortions and untruth is is a lie a distortion a corruption is Everlasting truth is immutable immutable truth is impenetrable truth is not flexible truth is forever sheer is sheer is fleeting sheer doesn't have a leg to stand on she is lies and Corruption and untruth both something that's not reliable not Dependable not consistent not predictable is a lie is not truth truth is it's reliable it's reliable you know what the MS say if you and I make up to meet at a certain time if you're if you show up on time if you're punctual you're reliable and you may show up you may not show up you may be on time you may be late you may follow through you may drop the ball you're not n on then you're not neon what kind of a relationship is that what kind of a relationship a lot of a lot of relationships fail and falter and struggle because the other party one party or both parties are not n yeah maybe follow through Maybe not maybe show up Maybe not maybe can lean on Maybe not maybe can trust and confide maybe not that's not n the core the basis of of amuna is consistency constancy reliability dependability can can I predict will you be there can I set my watch to it such such water in that case in that in that category that criteria it's not reliable because if it won't always be there it's not reliable so all of this is's way of of brilliantly and this was his specialty taking words and reducing them to their to their root to their core in order to be able to open the m to really understand what they mean so before this and we've been studying Yuna now for many years and hundreds and hundreds of sh and we go Amun is Faith oh what's amuna it's faith that God exists no it's not his existence doesn't depend on you amuna is take the MS that God exists and amuna is our same thing in marriage did you build the B you have an anniversary coming up you go out and you have beautiful conversation and you evaluate and reflect and say are we to one another what does that mean are we how nice is the card how many roses how much chocolate how big a piece of jewelry that's what determines the whether it's a in the end that is not the definition of back at the and the vort and the and the and the we have a lot of celebrations that go around the wedding at each of them someone said you build a good now your 10th anniversary 20th anniversary your 50th Anniversary here's a here's homework celebrating your 50th Anniversary look back did we fulfill are we fulfilling building a bias well what does that mean did we pay tuition what does that mean did we go on vacations did we buy gifts did we remember each other's birthdays and did we commemorate anniversaries that's not bias those are all nice the cherry on top but that's not bias bias War we reliable and dependable were we consistent did we show up could we confide could we trust were we trustworthy to one another that's a bi and the same is true with Hashem the m is the fact that he exists good now let's evaluate and look at your day are you NE to his existence is your day faithful to the knowledge that he exists is your day faithful to that knowledge you know they say I've showed this previously in other context people say a lot of things about what they prioritize what they value care about this and I care about that and this is important to me and that matters to me so there's two ways to find out whether that's true give me your credit card statement and give me your calendar and now we'll see whether what you say you care about you care about our credit card statement our bank account statement doesn't lie you say you care about staka okay let's see what percentage of your income you give to staka let's see how you spend your moneyy money and what you spend your money on because your finances don't lie what we spend our money on material things possessions experiences people things growth activity wealth Wellness what do you spend your money on and your calendar oh I'm my family when I love and spending time and taking care and learning and grow okay let's let's look at your calendar for the last month and let's see how you spent your time let's open your screen report from your phone telling us your apps and social media and streaming services and let's see how you spend your time they don't lie that's why we're scared to look at them because we don't want to be honest with ourselves and have that look in the mirror to check our our bank statement and our screen sh screen report because we don't want to look at it but it tells the truth and the question is are you n on to what you claim to care about and the calendar and your bank statement will answer that question are you so that's amuna amuna is let's look back at your day did you panic were you anxious were you afraid did you lose your cool and get angry and give into your ego were you filled with Envy were you inflated with arrogance so the you might have started your day with the statement of EMS that there's Hashem but you weren't very neon to it but if we look at your day and we say you know what this didn't go right but I was calm cool and clect because I knew there was AEM so I didn't worry I knew that it was all part of an adventure we'd see how it turned out next and then this thing happened but I said you know Hashem I'm not envious of what they have because I know you have enough to give both of us and you give me exactly what I need can we see that your day reveals and reflects that you were there was to the that you believed in the beginning of the day if you don't live a life of dependability and consistency and reliability you come late you're not pun ual your word is not your bond you're a person who says you care about this but you don't actually follow through you don't show up you don't get it done you don't do it you say this is a truth that you believe in but you don't demonstrate it you're not demonstrating that you believe it whether it's a commitment to your family or to Hashem in your life so you may not have violated the explicit the verse PK says distance yourself from lies but you still you're also not you're not a aul you're not vessel that can receive that can house that can host the MS en you are not honoring the Covenant of the truth can only reside in a trustworthy faithful person the truth can only reside in a trustworthy faithful person don't just say the truth demonstrate and live and be that vehicle and instrument of the truth I'll give you another application of this another metaphor right now which is so painful for us as we're watching and hearing and living it how many people politicians elected officials prominent people of influence they're saying all the right things about Israel or about fighting anti-Semitism or about what's going on on campuses they make this statement they make this polies political post they they're saying all the right things that's lovely it's nice it's easy to say the right things are you demonstrating it are you demonstrating it you can't one day at a holocaust museum talk about never again and anti-Semitism and being not wavering or equivocal and the next day withhold weapons that Israel needs to stop those who want to wipe them off the face of the Earth you can't say that's the EMS I'm grateful that you posted the Ms and by the way I don't mean to minimize it those who are willing to share and write and post and make statements of the MS good it's important and we should write letters and thank them and encourage them keep saying the EMS that's only half the equation the MS is lovely are youto the MS do you demonstrate that Ms the next day to demonstrate it with amuna the next day so our frustration with certain people right now is hashem's frustration with us it's lovely she they go to the Amun they wake up every day and they DAV they say the EM that there's AEM and you believe in me but are you demonstrating it are you demonstrating it the rest of the day that's the amuna we can't just offer lip service to Hashem it has to be put into practice we have to demonstrate it where the rubber meets the road something doesn't go our way we're going through a hard time we're tempted to be anxious we're tempted to be envious we're tempted to inflate with arrogance we're tempted to get angry take that deep breath and stop and say one second I affirmed the EMS this morning now I got to live with the amuna and show up now I got to show up now I got to demonstrate it keep my cool and my calm lean in and realize he's got a plan now I've got to not get envious not get angry not be filled with arrogance now is my moment to be true to be faithful to what I say I believe how can I be faithful to what I say I believe faithful to what I say I I believe right stop posting about standing with the Jews and stand with the Jews don't post don't make statements don't make speeches just stand with us just stand with us a real Covenant means it's immutable it's permanent it's unbendable doesn't blow at the wind bris BL the word bris the word covenant in the Torah the tarum the tarum the Aramaic translation taes translates the word bris as kayama you know what kayama means lasting permanent here to stay only with faithfulness and trustworthiness and consistency and Covenant only then can the MS last can the MS last there are tragic tragic tragic divorces where the EMS is that that couple are love and their soulmates but they just can't be faithful to one another I don't mean infidelity I just mean respect communication conflict resolution it's tragic there are people that the emses their each other's Basher that's the EMS they compliment each other beautifully it's the EMS they belong together it's the EMS but they just struggle to be NE to that EMS they can't get it together they can't figure it out they can't get aligned and be faithful in honoring this Covenant so it's true in so many areas of our lives and it's true with Hashem the EMS is he exists the EMS is he's real the EMS is he's true and the EMS is that none of that needs you that's all true whether you believe it or not say it or not but what does need you is to live it to demonstrate it to incorporate it to to practice it to perform it in our lives another distinction between Ms ands and and EM a fact is true while you're thinking about it but the moment you stop thinking about it the thought dissipates disappears The Thought goes away so while you're studying about gravity I'm thinking about gravity and you're focused on gravity so that Ms of gravity is front and center in your mind but the moment you moved on and it's no longer part of your mindfulness Consciousness M it disappears not not the truth of it truth of it remains but its role in your life so the strong feeling and relationship with and sharp impact of that truth is only impactful while you're focused on concentrating thinking about the truth so the MS doesn't have a Kev the MS that truth that fact that sits on a book that sits on Ivy tower that sits in a study hole that sits in Academia so when you're studying it it's impacting you but when you close the book you put it back on the Shelf when you're no longer talking about it and studying it it no longer is directly connected it's not Kev it's not fixed in your life how do you keep it from being in a book on a shelf in an ivory Tower by developing the amuna the relationship with that Ms so there's an MS there's a truth and then I need to have a relationship with that truth a relationship with that truth and that's where Amun comes in them you say good right now fantastic I'm on fire you know we're about to have our planning meetings we have them every year they're amazing our staff get together two three days off campus we reflect and review the whole year that was we plan and we dream we Vision the year that will be and we take notes on it and they're the MS they're the MS of what we want to achieve problem is often they stay in a Google doc somewhere it's like every strategic plan not every most organizations companies they engage the consultant they spend a gazillion dollars the Strategic plan usually at the end tells you what you knew even before you started just put it in fancy uh binder and you know what that happens with that binder in many cases it sits on a shelf collecting dust because it contains the EMS who you are where you should go next what you should do what needs to be implemented what needs to be developed what needs to evolve but the relationship with that Ms unless you unless you execute unless you perform unless you demonstrate unless you apply it just sits up there collecting dust so the EMS is that there's asem and we review that Ms all the time every time we DAV we're reviewing the MS the facts the truths the axioms the fundamentals of our faith we're reviewing it we said that was the purpose of the Seder to develop that curriculum and some people recite review that curriculum daily if you look in the sitter at the end of shakas you'll findik the 13 principles of our faith fath those are all the MS these are the principles and the facts of our faith fantastic you've recited it you read it good now do you put the sitter on the Shelf to collect dust until or do you execute do you live to manifest do you perform do you engage that's the Yuna that's what's fixed so the fact is not fixed because I'm not it's not impacting me all day goes back on the Shelf but the faithfulness to that fact that is what's impacting me so on our an we sit and we talk what do I love what do I admire why did we first connect good but in between anniversaries do you take out the garbage are you responsive do you meet the needs do you speak respectfully do you honor are you a good listener the fact the truth that that's not Keva that's not something fixed and permanent and consistent that goes in and out but the amuna the the the faithfulness and trustworthiness relationship with that fact that that is the amuna and that's what is encouraging us in our relationship with Hashem amuna is not a belief that hem exists amuna is good what are you doing about it and that's part of our mission is to the end of every day when we're thinking about as as really successful people do how did I spend my day did I meet my goals how is my time allocated did I live up to what I said I wanted to do and who I wanted to be and one of the questions in that reflection and evaluation at the end of each day or week or month or quarter however you want to do it is was I faithful to what I said these were my strategic plan for myself this is my mission statement for me for my family for my life am I faithful to what I claim to care about let me look at my bank statement let me look at my schedule let me look at my screen time let me look at my relationships around me let me look at my connection with Hashem am I faithful to what I claim to be my priorities my values my ideals my ideology am I faithful to it because the EMS is the starting point but it also could be a quick dead end unless the amuna comes and you put it into practice so wishing everyone day filled with MS and amuna we should not only know the truth we should live the truth be faithful to the truth demonstrate the truth and be able to measure and see the truth in our lives should be a day filled with tremendous tonight the RAB of stot he was just here this past chabas and sadly today twice there were already sirens and Rockets to stot back at it we'll have that conversation with him tonight