Living With Emunah (Part 237) - Nourish the Soul for Happiness

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all who need have a speedy complete and painless refuha shleima okay we are beyond we are learning ravichamya morgenstern we uh finished one section but we're still on the topic of simcha we have a little bit left on the area because there's always more work to be done in the area of simcha we're never done on the area of simchas 162. every one of us every person everyone is capable of feeling of entering a place of simcha with hashem is mankoshi even if you're going through a difficult time a difficult circumstance even when all is not flowing freely it's not simple life is not comfortable even when one is enduring challenges and struggles that doesn't have to prevent or block us from being able to enter a mindset in a place of happiness and of joy i've given you and i could give you more examples of people who in the hardest and worst of circumstances nevertheless persevered endured and remained determined that they would not allow their environment or their circumstance to decide their demeanor their mentality and therefore their quality of life but they remain determined to be in control to be disciplined to not give it away but to hold on to it to make ourselves happy as we've said countless times over the last many months we've been studying about simcha simha joy is not an emotion it is a decision it is the way we wake up in the morning is the way we go to sleep at night that doesn't mean that there aren't many things that try to rob us of our simcha there aren't many things that try to deplete us that don't try to challenge us i'm not suggesting it's easy to be basimha in a doctor's office when you're waiting for a result it's easy to be basically certainly you should not be the person who's sitting shiva mourning or grieving there are of course outlying circumstances where we're not in that moment but the default of our life should be that no matter what's happening we're moving to a new apartment it's stressful we can't find a new apartment to move to it's extremely stressful we have whatever other challenges going on in our life it's strange it's stressful it's anxiety ridden have to pack the kids at night it's very late shovel breaks are ending you have to wake up someone has to wake up at three o'clock in the morning to drive them to the airport it's stressful it's a hypothetical it's purely hypotheticals it's very stressful so what therefore what be robbed of your happiness and your joy and your simchash have no patience be snapping at each other be miserable be sad be pessimistic be negative be hyper critical is that going to help it's not going to make the night go any longer it won't make you feel more well rested it won't make the apartment listing come up or be available to you it won't mean you don't have to pack and move all it does is compound our problems and our challenges and it leaves us with so little energy sadness and pessimism and negativity depletes us of energy and happiness and joy and smiles they energize us they give us what we need in order to be able to get through to the other side of whatever challenge that we're facing so cesaro chimer that's when most it's easy to be happy when you're dancing at your simra it's easy to be happy if you heard you won the lottery it's easy to be happy when all is going well it's easy to be happy when the dangerous doctor report turns out to be a big nothing it's easy to have a skip in your step when things are going well but when it's monkoshi it's a challenging time that's what really reveals our character it reveals who we are can we be determined and can we maintain the decision to be happy no matter what's going on how do we get there how do we do it and again i say this each time as well that somebody we're not talking about clinical depression anxiety that needs to be treated learning living with ammuna may help but it's not the only answer it's not the answer we're talking about general so we do it the because is that our sense of simcha simcha is the compass through which you can calibrate or measure how your ammuna how your neshama is doing people with the great simcha have a healthy neshama and people who are sad and depressed and anxious the neshama is challenged why is that the nishama the measure sadness is when the clip of the situa is employing here kabbalistic terms kabbalistic themes the notion of the klippa klippa means the shell the fruit inside the shell the exterior on the outside kalipa if you learn tanya you study much about clipas noga and clipa klippa are the forces or the energies that cause us to struggle that try to confuse that try to distract they are the voice of self-sabotage so one of the biggest influences or impacts of that clipa of that negative energy or shell is atsvas sadness sadness when you're down when you're out we all know that feeling many had it during corona because it was overwhelming and you just couldn't get yourself started in the day and even when there was time and there was no excuse it was still hard to start because it was just the general sadness it's the impact and the influence of the clipper so like every eight sahara that confronts us we have to overcome it we have to overwhelm it we have to combat it and we have to fight it with a sense of simcha which comes from being determined you have to be determined nobody wants to exercise nobody wants to necessarily daven nobody wants to wake up in the morning nobody wants to eat right all the things in life that are best for us which include eating right and and exercising a healthy life and a healthy lifestyle which include being patient not angry never raising our voice or lashing out but communicating all the things we're fighting we have to fight our instinct and intuition our nature and natural inclination is to lash out or is to eat unhealthy or it's to be lethargic and to to stay in bed or to not move around we have to fight that it takes determination to fight that at least it does for me doesn't there are those weird people that it comes naturally to exercise and eat right and never raise their voice they're weird and obnoxious people miserable to have around you have to overcome that misery and be determined that despite them despite how easy it is for them that you and we are going to be determined we're going to enter a place and a mindset of happiness it's a choice it's not an emotion we're going to be determined we're going to be determined so the animal inside us it's that same place it's the balatanya talks about as to many others again the dual worlds we live in simultaneously there's the animal soul made us like an animal he fashioned us like an animal there's the nephesh which is our lower soul that we share in common with an animal with an instinct and an impulse and a drive and temptation but above that we have a neshama and there's the nephesh the lowly animal soul in us that acts like an animal thinks like an animal that that behaves like an animal lives like an animal but above it we have the neshama that says don't be an animal don't live in a pigsty don't eat like an animal don't act like an animal don't be a nephesh be in the shama be in a shama what's your neshama and the shama is a piece of god there's a piece of god literally inside each and every one of us and the peace of god inside each and every one of us says you got this that peace of god inside us says you've got this you can do this how does god know we can do this why does he have faith in us because there's a piece of him in us he designed us he gave us our genetics not only from our parents and grandparents who empowered us and enabled us to get it because they got it and got a lot more than what we have to confront but there's a piece of god among the dna that we have from our own parents and grandparents we have the dna of the almighty himself we are achilles and that means that we have the strength we can do it we've got this if we are determined that we make the decision to be we can have that simcha have that so the same voice inside us that says eat that sleep in yell and lash out be impatient that voice comes from the nephesh bahamas that comes from the animal lower soul it's the animal in us it's the lowliness in us it's the base and crude in us but we have something much more is that the soul is that all that we want to be i have to tell you you look around this world and you're increasingly seeing as much progress and advance that we have technologically as much progress and advance that we have medically as much as the world is rapidly acceleratedly moving forward in so many ways we are regressing and moving backwards when it comes to the soul when it comes to morality the world around us increasingly is not nourishing and expressing its godly soul a quest and a yearning for holiness but rather the definition of life is all about happiness as jews we don't live for happiness we live for holiness when you live for holiness you end up being very happy when you live for happiness you're unholy and unhappy but the world around us is thinks the soul determinant measure dress act define do go whatever makes you happy whatever makes you happy its relationship to the truth doesn't matter its relationship to to striving for something more or great it doesn't matter a relationship to what god wants or expects doesn't matter the world around us is increasingly becoming a place of of nephesh which means that even more we have to fight to not be nephesh but to be nishamah even more we have to fight to be nishamah in a world that is nephesh is when that lower animal soul inside us is trying to drag us down and make us sad and unhappy and pessimistic and critical take off we have to immediately with determination and with strength and perseverance we have to enter a place of simcha no animal soul i'm not giving in i'm not giving in to you i'm not giving into that voice because i know how miserable it feels on the other end of it i know how i feel after i act out i know how i feel after i disappoint myself and others i know how i feel when i'm not the best version of myself so i'm not listening i'm not indulging but i'm determined because so how do you get there it's very simple there's an anchor in our life it's called torah it's called torah the message the messaging torah study of torah the living of torah a passionate enthusiastic energized ongoing conversation with hashem i don't know how you could live basement if you don't have music playing in your house all the time we have speakers in our house the only battle is who gets to determine the playlist people have it on their phones there's a battle who's got the best playlist but other than the three weeks in sphero there's music playing 24 6 in our home you walk into the house there's music that greets you on your way out of the house there's music that escorts you out you're having dinner you're cooking you're doing homework you're preparing you're folding laundry there's music that's playing i'm proud and several schools have told me they've imitated and copied when you walk up to the boca raton synagogue there's music playing it's music playing you're going to walk through that threshold you're going to cross those doors to come and have a conversation with hashem you can't do it when you're sad or miserable or running or rushing you've got to do it with a skip in your step you got to do with a little talent a little dance we should have some dancing in the lobby before and after dominic you got it you gotta have a little skip in your step you gotta have a little dance when you wake up and you've gotta skip in your step when you have a simha you could take on whatever you have to confront that day when you're slow and you're dragging and you're down and you're out you can't take on the simplest of tax tasks when you're out of it and you've got nothing left in the tank you can't so much as fold the laundry make a cup of coffee but when you wake up with a sense of simcha with a smile on your face you slept two and a half hours no problem it's not a problem take on the day pass out some point in it but take on the day i got it so how do you do that torah can't be a day that goes by that there's torah that doesn't ground us and center us and remind us what matters what's important who's in charge who's in control you've got to nourish the best of us otherwise you're not alive you ever have a point in the day of a given day where you're dragging you're tired you can't concentrate and then you realize i haven't eaten anything today so of course i'm out of it because the body needs nourishment in order to have energy so if you didn't eat anything you didn't drink anything i think there's all kinds of studies how how absolutely dehydrated we are today we don't drink nearly what we need to and we're all walking around we're a nation that is dehydrated so when you're dehydrated you're dizzy you're distracted you're unfocused and you realize i've got it you know i gotta drink a couple things of water i gotta eat something hopefully healthy in order to be able to have the nourishment to have the energy to be my best self if that's true physically materially it's also true spiritually i can't be my best self spiritually if i haven't nourished myself what are the recipes that nourish us spiritually torah tv those are the three pillars the world exists on those are the three sources of nourishment for us torah sitting here today listening to a moon shirt yesterday there was a parshashir forget me there are a billion shiram online you could listen to in any language at any hour of the day you could watch you could listen torah nourishes us like a smackdown a great insight something you hear and say ah that reminds me that calibrates i'm back feel avoda i lose myself and torah grounds me it reminds me of my priorities it calibrates my compass it is an exercise in humility i'm not in charge i'm not in control i'm not meant to be an animal i don't live for happiness i live for holiness good now i'm reminded and we're pathetic so we need to be reminded we start our day so we set out our day then we interrupt our day with minha and then we end our day reflecting on the day you can do it once a month you can do it once a year but we need much more in order to be because we forget between chakras and minecraft we forget between minecraft we forget between marv and by the time we dive in we forgot there was a god we forgot that we're responsible to him we forgot that we live for holiness not happiness so we dive in three times a day in order to remind ourselves and give me them you want to feel alive nothing makes you feel as alive as when you give and do for others have you ever been there for someone have you ever been there have you helped and no matter how tired you are you find energy you're alive it makes us feel alive not getting but giving makes us feel alive you know when you come home from the mall because you went to buy things because you thought you'd take care of your misery by shopping so you may have some new things but first of all when the credit card bill comes you'll be more miserable not less and second of all it wears off very quickly when you put the shoes in your closet next to the other 400 pair your misery returns very quickly but if instead of going to the mall to buy something for yourself you bought a gift for someone no one ever thinks of someone who feels invisible somebody who's shut in somebody who feels ignored and you bought them something for no reason at all instead of coming home and lining your closet you brought someone something to put in theirs that's a positive feeling that will last forever you will be energized and you'll feel fantastic these are the three things that nourish our soul not the animal soul but nourishes the animal soul the cape cod potato chips that's what nourishes the animal soul and other such delicious things and nourishes the animal soul it feels good in the moment and it quickly is gone not from your hips or waistline but from the pleasure that you had from it but what nourishes not the nephesh but the neshama it's there forever well it's mirror music put on music in the car put on music in the house put on music with whatever you're doing silence is sadness music a little something visbodus and comfort in our own skin to be in conversation with hashem i posted recently that if you never talk to god outside of shul you won't be able to talk to him inside it if you never talk to god without the sinner you'll never be able to talk to him with it anyone who struggles with davening the struggle begins not once you get in trouble and open the sitter the struggle is because you never talk to him outside of shul without the sitter the sitter is the fallback our rabbi zanche dole instituted because they said you know what's going to happen life is busy lights gets in the way you're not gonna have time make time you're never gonna come daven so we've got to ensure that you dive and so we'll institutionalize it three times a day and here's the template hear the words but that's not the real deal the real deal are the conversations we have in between in between the sitter in between shul do you talk to him in the car in the kitchen the boardroom in the operating room do we talk to him about everything going on in our life beforehand to ask him for help afterwards thank him objective protest if there's something we feel that's going wrong by engaging and involving ourselves in spirituality by nourishing the soul is how we are able to rise out and above sadness we're sad when we think all there is is the here and now we're sad when we think all there is is today we're sad when we think all there is is my body but the moment we realize i am a soul that has a body who i am eternally is my soul is my helicopter that's the real me is my soul when we live with and i feel that sense of my soul when i nourish that soul i support that soul i indulge the soul not the body thank you so much thank you very much that is how we rise out of sadness that is how we rise out of sadness when we caffeinate with kavanagh i think we're going to do a merch store i'll tell you why because we're finally producing our notebooks alana here today i don't see her but alana our amazing designer everybody should use her for whatever projects you need simcha's or company corporate business but alana landau so we are producing our notebooks on the cover madani thank you for the new day turn the page so that every day every day a new page a new page so yesterday i was sad yesterday i didn't live up to this potential yesterday i was down and out yesterday i starved my soul because i was too busy indulging the body no problem turn the page it's a new page hashem thank you that i have a new day i was thinking this morning i don't know how it is that i'm 47 years old and i never thought about this before but rosh today for the first time in my life i thought rosh chodesh is rosh hadash it's a new mindset every new month every rashko dishes a rosh hadash you have the opportunity whatever my mindset was last month whatever friction or tension was in my life last month maybe a spouse or children a friend or my job whatever challenge whatever attitude whatever sadness or negativity it was last month it's rosh chodesh it's a rosh hadash put on a new head a new kepi a new start a new mindset a new outlook so rosh chodesh it's a rosh hadash it's a dafghadash turn the page every day you wake up you could turn the page in the middle you don't have to wait to go to sleep and wake up to turn the page you're allowed to turn the page in the middle of the day but every day turn the page it's a new start the challenges the problems of yesterday we do not have to take them into today they do not have to come with us wherever we go there are some challenges we wish we could let go of but they follow us it's not the challenge that we're letting go of those we're not in control of often bless you we're often not in control of the challenge that follows us what we are in control of is how we react how we feel how we deal with it and that we can change that we could change so what's the answer says richard meyer it's all about the soul when you ignore neglect the soul when the soul is malnourished and dehydrated they can't help but feel sadness they can't help but give out it can't help but be anxious when the soul is nourished the soul comes alive and the soul is vibrant the soul is dynamic and the soul when we know we have a soul when we nourish it and it's healthy it's energized then we can make the decision and the determination to be whatever was holding you back whatever you were imprisoning yourself whatever negativity was pushing away those around you it's rosh chodesh it's a rosh hadash it's a new day it's a new month put on that smile and nourish that soul and yotse me at us climb up and out of that sadness the strength that we have so i started telling you we're going to be able to caffeinate with kavanagh and our notebook turn the page and our tumblr and our on the beam ads gonna get rich it's gonna be amazing we're gonna retire retire off for our merch if we break even i'll be happy i'm not looking to retire the strength that we have and that we need in order to feel joy is the kawakama is our thoughtfulness is our mindfulness is our mindfulness tahinu by the way i'm being joyful and happy being able to live with a smile being determined that no matter what no matter what i i'm not going to let that rob me or deplete me of my joy for life that is an incredibly attractive quality if you want to be attractive to others you want to be attractive to the person who you care the most to be attractive too so much better than botox it's better than plastic surgery it's better than makeup artists it's better than it's better than anything simcha sachim is an enormously and incredibly attractive quality a smile and a joy for life because you know what ends up happening when you're happy and you're joyful you don't lift yourself you lift everyone around you it's infectious and it's contagious so when you're the beneficiary of being around a happy person and you find yourself now more happy happier as a result you're attracted and you're drawn to the person who brought out the happiness in you you'll be a more attractive friend to your friends a more attractive spouse a parent who's more admired and loved and if you're in shidduchim if you you should want to have a simcha put that on the top of your resume forget what seminar you went to what yeshiva you're learning in just writing big bold letters on the top of the resume i have simcha here are my references they'll tell you i have some here's the picture it'll testify when you're calling to ask questions don't ask the nourish guidance to say do they have a simple saccharine are they an anxious depressed miserable negative fabulous person or do they have a smile are they joyful are they generally again i'm not asking are they singing and dancing at their grandfather's funeral but generally speaking is there a simcha generally speaking is there a joy for life so how do we achieve that what do we need for that says richard meyer mindfulness mindfulness this bonus you see if we're not able to control our mind and center our thoughts if we're not present and conscientious and conscious in our day then we'll go to the worst place in our heads in our minds we'll just be drawn there and drag there we'll just find ourselves there in the worst place with the worst thoughts how do we overcome it and how do we navigate it is when we have a mindfulness when we're in control of it we control our thoughts we have the capacity for mindfulness and we choose to focus on the fact that i don't live in a world of randomness and chance i don't have to worry and i shouldn't be down and out and i shouldn't be negative and i shouldn't be sad because everything that happens is for a reason everything that happens is organized and orchestrated it's curated and choreographed from above it's all from hashem along for the ride see what happens next child i'm his son or his daughter and he loves me he loves me with no limits he loves me in a boundless way who bobote be and he trusts i trust him he trusts in me i'm hashem's child he has an unconditional love for me he has expectations of me but he loves me he wants what's best for me he's rooting for me he's protecting me so why shouldn't i be basimha why wouldn't i be bisimra it's possible continuing my hypothetical situation that one of those children going to camp was being driven to the airport in the middle of the night was concerned abba we're late we're running late what's going to be we're going to miss and everyone's going to be there before and it's possible that abba said to her hypothetically would i let you be late when i let you miss this flight would i let you be the last one there so everyone's waiting and it's uncomfortable i'm here i'm i've got your back just sit in the passenger seat come along for the ride i'm going to get you there on time you're good to go i'm your father i love you and i've got you covered and let's go i'll be fine and that was exactly what happened that was exactly what happened hashem if we lowly bus or bedam if we human beings who don't control everything because khas shown god forbid there was an accident in traffic or something happened that was wrong got a flat tire and then we were late and then the hypothetical person missed their flight or was embarrassed then no matter how hard about tried abba failed because he's our father he doesn't fail he doesn't fail what he says to us is relax i got your back i told this child you'll be packed and you'll be ready you do your part and i'll get you there you have to do i can't i can't wait i can't get you out of bed i'm not getting you dressed you have to do what you need to do but if you do what you need to do i will get you there hashem says the same thing to us you've got to do what you need to do get up get dressed get adam you do what you need to do and i'll get you there i'm the pilot's in the passenger seat you do what you need to do and i'm going to get you there hashem says to us exactly what we say to our children just relax don't worry i got your back stick with me divekas devek glue stick with me i've told you countless times the mesh of drinks that vacus what does it mean to cling to god cleavage vacuous what does it mean vegas is devek and modern hebrew means glue hashem says stick with me just stick with me you do what you need to do you get up you get dressed you get ready and then i'll drive i'm the pilot i'll take you where you need to be i'll take you where you need to go and god more than i says don't worry because i am completely in control and when a person has that mindfulness a person is determined to think in that way it's going to compound itself the more that we train ourselves to think in that way it's going to be notice i said to this kid put on your earpods listen to something be happy i told you you don't have to think about it you don't have to worry don't spend one more moment don't spend one more morsel of energy i got it now you could be baseball because i'm worrying because i've got it i'm driving just let go and let god if we let go and let god if we sit in that passenger seat we say i've done everything i could and should i've taken my initiative i've done what i need to hashem this is great now because you've done everything come along for the ride live life curious for what hashem has next in store for us when you're curious you're basement when you're worried and anxious you're miserable to be around so it's our decision which do you want to be curious i'm so curious we flew back last week my leo the call is waking up early i'm so proud of her she's here we flew back on friday morning it's pretty gutsy arguably foolish with what's going on in flights these days and the cancellations and the challenges what could do the wedding wednesday night got to give the other side one shot of abraham's thursday night we came back friday morning so many things could have gone wrong there's many people on different flights and we could have all ended up here with the whole shabbat shabby rock has planned stuck in new york there were a lot of things that could have gone wrong and there were a lot of people anxious and worrying about it but you know we did what we needed to do booked our flights we planned to the earliest flight of the day the least likely to be killed now you just be curious so you can either spend the entire two weeks leading up to the wedding and flying back anxious and nervous and worried and miserable or you could say hashem i'm so curious i can't wait to find out how this works out so exciting such an exciting chapter can't wait to wake up that friday morning and find out what did you have him plan what was in store my parents flight from florida new york for the wedding was cancelled but hashem they were able to get on a different flight different airline it was a great adventure that they had i feel bad it was them i would have preferred it to be me who had to do that in venture but you could either have the attitude that life is an adventure hashem you're taking us on an adventure through life and i'm so curious what you have next curious do i make the how does the what's the next chapter of the book i can't wait to find out how the story ends did i make the flight that i have to go on a new flight we have to drive and figure out all together different plan so curious you could live life with a sense of curiosity to the mystery that is hashem but the knowledge that however it ends is the way it was meant to be and for our best that's why you can be curious because it's for your best so curious how it ends where you can be anxious and miserable and worried and then you've just lost all the blessing that you have all the blessing that you have that choice is entirely up to us how do we want to live who do we want to be what do we want the quality of our life to be we could have that simcha we could have that sense of simcha so the two points today the vichymer taught us is that number one number one it comes from nourishing the neshama our sense of simcha is directly proportional to how healthy our neshama is if we spend our life and our day nourishing and nurturing and indulging the body and neglecting the summer we're going to be miserable we're going to be sad again this is a world we're living in today i'll end by telling you this is fascinating israel broke the top 10 in the un's happiness index of happiest countries in the world surrounded by enemies people firing rockets indiscriminately stabbing people in the street and they're one of the top happiest countries in the world america america so far advanced in every measure prosperous in every measure even during a recession more prosperous than almost any other country in the world is low down on the list and so are so many other western countries why why i think part of it you know if you're in israel you you are born knowing that you have to be of service to the people you're going to go into an army or little me you're sitting and learning torah and contributing to the world in that way but you're raised even the most secular person in israel is raised knowing that there's a jewish people they're worth fighting for and protecting they're worth putting your life on the line for and that when you hit 17 years old you're going to put your life on hold you're not going to college you're not drawing of joining a fraternity you're not partying like all your peers instead you're going to be doing shmirah putting your life on the line when you live life being of service and giving and doing then you find happiness and when you live in a world that says now you don't see doshirulumi no army you don't sit and learn torah go party and have fun go experiment and experience go indulge you have misery misery unhappiness when you live life for you you're unhappy and miserable when you live life for a purpose and for a mission and to be of service then you find happiness you find happiness the answers all around us not only in our ancient tradition the answer is around us empirically and measurably we see it so when you live life and you wake up in the morning you say hashem i'm here for you i'm on a mission and i'm here to serve you and be of service to your other children you have such a happy day when you live life and you say what can i take out of this day what's in it for me in this day how can i be happy today you're going to be so miserable the statistics bear this truth the antidepressants in this country their all-time record highs and and the solution is not only pharmaceutical for many it is and that's important and it's 100 legitimate but it's much more it's a mindset i've appealed to people in elected positions that i know that this country desperately needs introduced some sense of service of service maybe you get tax credit maybe get college reduction if you spend part of a year a year in service will be a national service we have to raise young people and we can do it within our own community we can't control the laws of the land but we do in our own community that notion of being of service it's not only about do i have the latest iphone and i got my license can i have my own beamer now and when did i go to the mall and buy the next clothing and when do i get the next sushi platter but what are you doing for others what are we doing for the community to raise our children some are going to do by sitting and learning by being anchors of total learning some are going to do by volunteering there's there's countless ways that we can but are we modeling and are we demanding of our young people you want them to be happy in life then teach them from the start that the source of happiness is not getting its giving it's being of service it's due it's fulfilling hashem's will for us it's giving them it's making hashem nothing makes you happier again i already told you my age today but i'm closing in on that half century mark i got a little while ago i still think i'm in my early 40s but there's still nothing more joyful in the world after johan telling me that it was a great russia that when my mother or father say you give us nachas there's nothing better in the world nothing better in the world it's an amazing feeling my grandson is not yet three says zeida do i give you nachas give you nachas it's the sweetest sweetest delicious thing in the world there's nothing there's nothing better in the world when your parent no matter what age you are says you give me nachas wow that's amazing that's neiman marcus nordstrom's lord and taylor macy's bloomingdale's combined you give me nachos what a feeling if we give hashem it's the best feeling in the world so that's when we measure our day you want to be basimha make choices and live a life that you're giving him not you that's our mission so number one was nourished in the shama don't just indulge the body and number two was mindfulness don't let life happen to you be mindful and intentional and conscious and present and thoughtful of bringing hashem back into our day and when we do a little coffee helps with this gives you a little joy caffeinate with kavanaugh everyone put on your dash put on your new head your new mind your new mindset your new attitude put on that smile turn up that music i'm wishing everyone a day that's filled with simcha so now we go behind the bhima with david safir uh safir and the yuda geber two great jewish historians uh young guys write articles every week from space and have a shame on this podcast fantastic conversation 9pm until next time stay happy stay healthy stay holy