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pa. You know what song this is? Anyone recognize this song? How about I sing a few words for you? Calling to the calling show. Call into the calling show. You got to call into the calling show. To call into the calling show. This is called scat, by the way. Beep beep beep. [Music] Yeah, I'm live. You asking you if I'm live because I'm beat boopping. What? Mal is here with her baby. Okay, ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, children of all ages, welcome to the Thursday night call-in show where we call in and we have a show and we do it on Thursday nights. Thursday night, also known as La Shishi, the sixth night of the week. Hi, Ka. Looks very interested in what's going on. Um, so what do I want to tell you? I have a headache. So, actually, is it possible? Could one of the PAs get me three Advil? Yes. Okay. And I know that's a lot of Advil, but that's how much I need. I need three Advil cuz I weigh a lot. And in order for it to affect me, I need three of them. That's You guys know how much I weigh? A lot. David Gogggins used to weigh 300 lb. Danny became uh ultramarathon runner. I also used to weigh 300 lb, but I never I didn't yet become an ultramarathon runner. Anyways, we're going to drink some Gatorade. electrolytes. Um was working out today. I um was working out today. I got into my car. My son had been driving my car and he put the seat up forward and I had to scoot the seat back. And that was my workout. Beep B. Thank you so much. You're famous. Now you're internet famous. We're going to take three Advil. I want to ask you something about Advil. You know, I think I was like in my 20s before I realized that the drug name of Advil is ibuprofen. Is that how you say it? Ibuprofen. Cuz I What do you say? Ibuprofen, right? >> What do you say? Ibuprofen. I brew ibuprofen. That's even wronger than what I was saying. It's I say ibuprofen. Ibuprofen. Isn't that what everyone says? Ibuprofen. What? Yeah. Well, no. There's not a there's not an R. An ibuprofen. It's ibuprofen. But no one says ibuprofen. Everyone says ibuprofen. I wonder if it was a pisher who started that. You know how they say like keigle instead of kougal? So someone like gave a paleer an Advil and he's like he's like what's this? They said they they said it's ibuprofen. ibuprofen. ibuprofen. Then he should have said ibuprofen. I abbuprofen. But you want to know the truth? I didn't even know that Advil was ibuprofen and that Tylenol was acetaminophen until I was in my 40s. I didn't know how to pronounce ibuprofen until I was in my 20s, but I didn't know it was Advil. I knew it was one of the headache medicines, but I wasn't sure which one. It wasn't until I was in my 40s that I got it straight and memorized it, committed it to memory. Tylenol is acetaminophen. Advil is ibuprofen. Now, the reason we talk all this silliness at the beginning of the show is for a few reasons. One is to loosen you up. It's called milsa. Loosens you up. The other reason is if you want to scare people away because yes, we want to scare people away, not scare them. We're not trying to uh jump scare, not trying to scare you, but we're going to get into some deep discussions. And we don't just want anyone coming along for the deep discussions. So, what we do is we do a lot a lot of silliness. And the people can't tolerate the silliness, they get repelled. They got turned off and they and they ditch. They leave. The white stripes taught me about acetaminophen. White stripes taught me about acetaminophen. Not sure the reference. Think it's like a heavy metal reference, but I don't know it. Not not aware of it. Just reading I'm reading the chat for the people are going to watch the replay going like be confused. I'm reading the chat right now. Okay, ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, children of all ages. [Music] I got to Google it. White stripes says a rock duo. I rock duo. Okay. Okay. Cedophen. You see the medicine? You have no faith in medicine. Okay. I just I Googled it. I wasn't familiar with it. Okay. Great. Um, yeah. So, I want to just mention a little product placement. We do have a uh campaign going on. We've had it going on now for 10 weeks. Can you believe that? [Music] 10 weeks ago we started a 48 hour campaign. Rabbi, how's your brother doing? Creative Judaism. You're talking about my brother David. Well, he just had a birthday a couple weeks ago. How old is he? I'm 51, so he's 44. Um, he's good. You should go check out his YouTube. Could we post uh a link to his YouTube channel, Creative Judaism? Maybe even let me see if YouTube will let me tag him. Creative. Let's see. Anyways, that's his channel. I just [Music] You got to call into the calling show. Got to call into the calling show. Okay. Do you see that link that I just posted? Okay. What's that noise? It was you. You see that? No. Uh, you see that? See that link? charity.comst. That's our campaign. So, listen. We're trying to finish this off. It's been going on for 10 weeks. 10 weeks. Okay. But now we're almost done. Um, you see, it's a $600,000 campaigns for our yearly budget. Um, we're at 578,534 and everything's doubled. It's matched by matchers. So, that means that we really only need um, let me can somebody do the math? Can somebody please do the math? 600,000 minus 578,534. Okay, I'm going to write it actually in the thing. 5,78 534. Okay. So, please subtract 600,000 minus 534. Okay. Equals how much does that equal? Does anyone know? You like my song? Yeah. It's the theme song of the call-in show. Goes like this. Call into the callin show. You got to call into the call show. Call into the call show. Call to the call show. That's how it goes. And then I do a little scat. Beep b. Did anyone do the math? Okay, I'm going to have to do it myself. Beep beep. Five. What was the number? 578. equals 21466. Okay. / two because it's matched. It's double. Okay. So, here's the real thing. Beep beep beep [Music] beep. We are $10,733 short of our goal because everything gets matched. It's all doubled. You think we could finish it tonight? I think we could. But you guys got to dig deep. You got to dig deep and do a recurring donation. Like if you do like $18 recurring, $18 a month recurring for 12 months, that's a lot of money. That all adds up and we could all be done. We'll be out of here. We finished with this fundraising and I won't have to fund raise from you guys for another um 9 and 1/2 months. Why do I say that? Cuz I would like to say another 12 months, but this campaign has been going on for two and a half months. So, what can I do? It's going to be, you know what I'm saying? We have our first caller on the line. All right. Fine. So, let's have our first caller. Hello. Caller number one, are you on the line? Are you with us? >> We have to unmute it. >> Hold on. You didn't Hold on. This is not working. You didn't >> on the other side of the call. You don't know that there's voice that tells you that you just got unmuted. One second. One second. You What did you not do? You didn't You didn't do the Hold on. This is not my thing. This is not my normal thing to do. Okay, now it should be connected. All right. Are you there? Hello. Hello. Hello. >> Welcome to the call. So, can you hear me? >> Yes. I hear you. Amazing. Amazing. Okay. Fine. First of all, I have a question for you. Caller number one, anonymous caller number one. Do you know the Colin Show song? >> Yes. >> Do you think you could sing it? >> Um, yeah. Can I get some uh ac capella? No, I'm kidding. Uh, calling to the call show. >> Oh, wow. >> It's been stuck in my head all week. That's we we actually we uh consulted with uh >> Yeah. Tell me who you consulted with. >> Consulted. >> No, we consulted with um some evil scientists to develop to devise an earwig. An earwig is a colloquialism for a tune that you get caught in your brain. You can't get it out. So we consulted with some evil scientists and we said please devise for us the most annoyingly unforgettable little jingle and we scientifically derived that that tune would be >> yeah once you get it in your brain it will leave >> can I share some actual science about that quickly >> oh you have some real signs about that yes but I don't like the underhand implication that my science wasn't real science, but go ahead. >> No, no, no, no. Sorry. Um, that was not my backhanded compliment. No. Um, basically, first of all, the story of the guys who did the subway jingle, $5 foot long, isn't is a brilliant story. I >> actually don't even know. You tell the whole story. >> Oh, yeah. No, they got they got signed like they got signed to do like commercial. They're commercial musicians, they're called. They make music for commercials, whatever. >> Jingles. Jingles. >> They they jingles are more brands. But I mean, even like a just back like even elevator music, these guys, they're professional musicians, but they're not, >> you know, they're not rock and roll stars. So, >> I believe the story goes that these guys of like here's >> they're not like Yeah. Jack and Me White. Yeah. the the they're um they as a idea of like here's an idea of something that we're thinking along these lines. Do you like it? And it was the $5 furong song like the what they used to pitch the customer ended up being the hit. So that was cool. But >> and those guys $5 foot long was like a >> you know you know the $5 foot long >> I think. >> Yeah. It was like5 $5 $5 for along the subway, right? So that was just like, hey, we want to do this idea of like a uh >> like the US I don't know the US anthem. Yeah. Same exam. Yeah. It was just an example of like here's what we want to do. Like one word and then two words and then the three words and then the full sentence at Subway. >> Mhm. They weren't serious. They were just showing an example. >> Yeah. >> Template. Yeah. And it and Exactly. And then they said, "No, let's really >> And it worked." And that's it. They got paid. It wasn't like, "Oh, we're going to steal your idea that you gave to us for free." They like actually got paid and it was a lot of success. >> But the the intention behind it was just shallow. But that wasn't the science. The science that I wanted to share was >> that um songs that get stuck in our head and actually this might lead into my question. Wow. Wow. Look at that setup. So songs that get stuck in our head. >> Yeah. He's very good at what he does. Um, >> don't tell him though. The the >> You might get to his head. >> When When you have like an unfinished loop. >> Yeah. Oh. >> Um, when you have an unfinished loop. >> Can I just see me right now? >> No. No. I I I like to watch, but but I'm not cuz it right now. Please tell me why I'm doing what I'm doing right now. What am I doing and why am I >> why am I doing >> myself? >> Tell me what I'm doing and why I'm doing it. Okay. Thank you. Go ahead. Yes. So the the the frustration of anticipated payoff. Go ahead. >> No, no, no. Come back. Come back. >> Sorry, I had to I had to mute myself to go look at the camera. Not so the so basically I I don't I don't know if they know exactly why we are the way we are but but I think it's that we naturally want to solve problems >> like human beings have a tendency to finish things >> yes >> or want to finish things like I mean ask my boss and he'll roll his eyes and say you show me what you've ever finished but >> but that's different story. But but I think we're problem solvers by nature and an unfinished song. >> Yes. >> Is like the should be the easiest thing to finish. Like all you got to do is listen to the last 10 seconds, but a good jingle >> leaves you wanting more. But yeah, and and and specifically calling to the callin show because it's like what which call show? What are we going to talk about? What's going to happen if you call in? I got no information over here. So, I need the rest of the fall. >> Yeah, it's really it it sounds like it's going to explain things to you and it explains nothing. >> But I thought you were talking about musically it leaves you hanging. Yeah. So, no. So, similar similar thing like it it's forget the data, forget the the words also in music in general. I'm sure it applies to an instrumental song as well. Um, you know, I'm not going to pretend like I understand music theory, but I'm sure there's some sort of, you know, beginning, middle, and end to a well put together song. And if you if you get caught into the flow of or whatever the artist was intending, I'm sure it leaves you hanging too if you stop in middle. >> But you this is your theory or you learned this somewhere? >> No. So I know that the I know that the trick like the Reddit trick for getting songs stuck like songs that are stuck in your head out of your head is to finish the song. Just go listen to the whole song and if you finish it you you um I'm sure there's some neuroscientist that come did on the thr. Yeah. Do I want to know? >> Well, tell me afterwards. You know about cats and laser pointers. >> Mhm. >> You know that cats enjoy chasing pointers. >> You know about that cats >> even though they'll never catch them. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Right. Okay. So, cats are predators, apex predators, and they like to chase and catch little things. So, they like to chase laser pointers. Now, I want to tell you something. dogs. You can make a dog permanently uh neurotic by playing laser pointer with it because they never get the satisfaction of catching it and they can't let it go. >> Right. Dogs need to kill and cats need to hunt. >> So, right. I think I think cats are hunting just for the fun of it. >> But, >> Right. They just need to hunt. They just want something. They need the They need to flex that muscle. Dogs are looking to solve a >> You mentioned the the Reddit trick for getting the jingle out of your head. So, I I think I saw I think this was on Reddit. Somebody said that his his uncle had like a really expensive dog. I think it was like a like a a border collie or something like that. One of these really beautiful smart dogs. Anyways, he did a laser pointer on it and it got all neurotic and it was like freaking out for days and finally they had to >> do the laser pointer and then throw a physical little like a red jelly bean or something on the floor at the same spot and let the dog catch the jelly bean and eat it so he could finally get resolution. >> That's That's actually very cool. That's >> Yeah. Good job. Whoever figured that out. Yeah. >> Yeah, it makes sense. >> Makes a lot of sense. So >> anyway, jingles are really talk about it, >> but yeah. So I wanted to ask really. So I I and it's not like I I have nothing to say about him, bad or good, but the the guy that wrote the big the book, The Body Keeps the Score, >> which is, you know, it's I judge people based on their books in their house. like I like to do that as an activity >> and when I see that book it's like >> I'm proud of you but also >> show me where you where it worked on I'm happy you attempted to get some help but like for real but >> so if you go into someone's house and they have the body keeps the score >> you just I usually know who they are right I'm not Stranger songs. I'm looking at their collection. But but my really whatever. So he said something this week that triggered a lot of people. >> Who said the body score guy? >> The guy. Yeah. Vander. Yeah. I don't know. >> Vander. >> Weird European name. >> Bessel. Yeah. Yeah. >> Bessel. Vander. >> Yeah. Um, so he he uh listen ben like should we give him the benefit of the doubt or should we should we call him a loser? I don't know. But >> what did he say? >> But he basically without a conference like a he said that as a kid growing up in wherever he was getting bombed in World War II. >> Yeah. um not not to be confused with other psychologists who had trauma from being born in World War Europe, but um he basically said he compared it to like the kids in Gaza growing up in Gaza right now. >> Okay. >> And and the audience took that to mean that he was calling the IDF Nazis. >> Okay. Um, so they got triggered and and he kind of got quasi cancelled and he got kicked out of this retreat which he was like a longstanding speaker etc. So he was just in the news this week and and it got me thinking like what really really really what is from a person's avoid perspective from Toya's perspective from synthesis perspective >> what's the take on I assume the body does keep the score I like I believe in the science of that the physiological stuff >> yeah so all right yeah this is this is a this is a interesting path path toward the the question. Okay. So, you don't want to talk about the you probably you you just it's just interesting your conversational style. You broached upon probably the most controversial hot button issue in the world right now. But that wasn't even your point. You just kind of like threw it out there on YouTube live and then you just keep strolling. Okay. All right. >> Well, yeah. If people want to get triggered, I think people are entitled to feel however they want to feel. That's not the point. I I'm wondering if that's like you're doing like a Nor McDonald thing right now and being like ultra >> I love Norm, but that was not my >> No, because you're talking about tri getting triggered and you're intentionally bringing up something that will literally trigger everyone in the world right now one way or the other. Like you just you hit all the hot button words. You even said Nazis. It's like you're hitting all the trigger words that will like if it is indeed true that the body keeps the score, right? You just push all of those neurological trigger points and then >> I'm figured >> by the way what's with this Basel Vanderult guy like Okay. Sure. Sure. You are very see and you're saying this is not calculated in any way on your part. >> I don't know. It's actually funny because I had a conversation with someone this week and he told me that someone I had met had given him a house report like oh I met your friend and whatever. So I I laughed and I said that's surprising cuz usually I trigger everybody. I meet like I trigger everyone >> intentionally >> and no not intentionally. I just people tell me like, "Ellie, you need to shut your mouth sometimes." >> Okay, you just broke your head over here, by the way. >> I'm okay with that. It's anyone who knows who I am recognize my voice and my style of speech. So, >> okay, >> that cat is out the bag. >> Yeah, >> exactly. So, yeah. So, it's very hard. Something I'm working on other people thinking before I speak. go through life unintentionally triggering people and you find out only later people tell you, "Hey, by the way, do you know you're triggering that guy?" >> No, I don't know. >> Oh, no. My closest dearest friend, >> right? Forget strange. >> You triggering me? I don't know. I just want to chat about Bessel Vanderulka. I wasn't trying to >> Wasn't trying to rile anybody up. Wasn't trying to ruffle any feathers. I just wanted to talk about Bessel Vanderulk. >> I didn't I didn't mean to get anybody's >> It happens to be I have a very hard time relating to the the physiological relationship between how you feel in your head and how you feel in your body. Um so maybe that's where the insensitivity comes from, but that's a different >> Have you ever been speeding >> in a car? Do you do you do you have a driver's license? Do you drive? >> What if I told you my driver's license was suspended because of No, I'm kidding. It's not suspended. >> But But I can I can I tell you I I came to a very I was in Have you ever driven on the highway in Denver in like the rural up the mountain type highways? >> I I don't know if precisely in Denver, but yeah, I know that Colorado Yeah, that like So I was there I was there a few months ago. There's a then they have three-lane highways and when the right lane exits instead of there being instead of the exit becoming a new fourth lane it it takes away one lane for a few hundred yards before the entrance of the the lane comes back. >> So all the nervous nellies in the right lane that are gripping the wheel afraid to go out of their comfort zone to the speed limit are in the right lane. and all the control freaks who are also a different form of anxiety but need to project their version of reality on everyone else in the left lane. >> Yeah. >> So I'm stuck behind a guy and I'm white knuckling the wheel trying to get to the top of the mountain before sunset. >> Finally I get around this guy trying >> before sunset. Was it head of Shabas? >> No. No. I was there for a conference and I just wanted to get I wanted to see the sunset. I live in a flat place, so I just wanted to see the stars for 5 minutes. >> So, you were speeding drive >> in the dark. >> You were speeding because you wanted to experience a sunset. >> Yeah. On top of a mountain. >> At the top of a mountain. That's poetic. Now, I don't know where your story is headed, but you get pulled over and the cop says, "Where were you heading to?" >> I did not. I did not get Thank God. Got to get to the top of the mountain to see the sunset. Man, >> that's worse. >> I got pulled over on in a Tesla and the cops said, "Do you know how fast?" Have you ever driven one of those? >> Stoner voice, by the way. That was >> try to get to the top of the mountain. >> Stoned, but that's not me. >> No. A guy who's speeding to try to get to the top of a mountain to see a sunset. >> Yeah. Yes. In Colorado, >> I would judge him like you judge someone with a vessel van. I' if I pulled over a guy and he said, "I'm trying to get to the top of the mountain. You see the shunts yet?" >> But that's Have you ever You know where that voice comes from? >> Um Yeah. That's what's it called? That's um >> No, you don't. >> Come on. The two guys. What's their name? >> Oh, no you don't. >> No, I don't know. No, you don't know. >> You don't know. There's no way it is the two guys. >> What is it? >> I'll tell you. I'll be so blown away if you know what that is. >> Hold on. Hold on. It's >> They're now they're older. They're like literally in their late 60s or 70s. They have a huge weed empire from this >> from this. Yeah. Just from this just from this bit. >> Yes. >> Come on. Come on. Like I want to say it's it's lit it's literally it's not but it's Divas and Buttad in real life. Like it's literally them too. I don't remember. Whatever. I don't. My father knows. I blank. But I do knowank. >> So, should I tell you what? >> I know. I know. I just I'm not googling it. No. Everyone in the comments is already saying it at this point. Like, >> okay. It's Chichin Chong. >> Don't say it and I'll remember it in a minute. >> Chong. Chichin Chong. >> Yeah. So, yes. Chich. >> We will not get on to where the beasty boy is. Not Chichin Chong. >> Okay. But yeah. So, so, so yeah, but why did you ask me if I was ever caught speeding? If I was speeding. >> Oh, cuz you said you have >> Okay. You have a hard time um understanding how the body would be affected by your mental or emotional state. So, I just wanted to know how >> No, not understanding sirens or >> relating. >> Oh, of course. Yeah. >> What happens? Yeah, you I'm right now I'm 50. Come on. I'm I'm on YouTube live. Yeah. >> Right. There's a physical reaction. There's a physiological reaction. So, I don't know what you mean by you don't relate to the idea of >> No, I'm talking about like daily anxiety. >> You were driving down the middle lane and judging the control. >> So, I'm in the nervous Nellies. >> I'm a left lane driver, right? In this case, I'm a left. Are you hurt in the left lane? >> Projecting. Yeah. Projecting my control, right? The the noticellaries in the right lane are afraid of >> of of their anxiety limits them and and forces them to go below their comfort zone. And left lane anxiety is forget you're 65 mph. I got to go 80. I got to get there when I want to get there. I got to control the world around me. >> Right? And the guy in the middle lane is living his best life. There's no stress. He's calm. He's driving with his knee while he's listening to music and talking to his kids in the back seat >> while he's going through. He's picking out a nice classical and eating a sandwich. >> Not Not only eating a sandwich, he is building a deli sandwich. He's shmearing mayonnaise. >> He's throwing the mayo with his teeth. Yes. Could you have me a pickle? I think they're in the ziploc baggy over there. >> All right. Right. >> So, I'm So, I'm in the left lane stuck. Right. But, so after the three lanes, well, really happened before. It happened when I was in one lane in the national park. And every time I try to go around this guy, or it wasn't in the national park yet, but every time I try to go around this guy, I couldn't. Another car was coming the opposite direction. Finally, I get around him. I pull over to like off the highway to the last literally the last gas station before like Radiator Springs like that show that movie Cars. Yeah. >> It was like that's where I was and I pull up the red light. >> I was in the movie Cars movie >> and this guy pulls up right next to me. >> There was an anthropomorphic car man. It was a tow truck. >> They were there were they at the gas station they had Mater. They had they had anyway. Okay. So, I'm at the red light and this guy that I spent 15 minutes trying to get around pulls up right next to me. >> No, no. The guy with the sandwich, >> right? >> Yeah. >> He finished his sandwich. He fluffs his hands. Right. So, it's So, on my way back, I realized like, okay, fine. >> If you literally So, it's But if you sit in the middle lane at the end of the day, it's a safer, >> it's a more comfortable experience. There's no liability. You're not speeding and you're going the speed limit. You're going the speed of traffic and you're going to get there at the same time as everybody else. >> Mhm. >> So there's no need to there's no need to speed. >> That's deep. It's a great V. >> But u but that wasn't my point. That wasn't Yeah, it is a cool It is. Anyway, it was a cool point. Okay. I think you have your high hopes. >> That wasn't my real. Yeah. But I want to know I want to know the truth. H how how what is what is the what is the alterba's response to when you physically feel the way you feel in a moment? How like do you is it your nasha Bahamas? Is it your sahara? Is it >> okay? So now we're getting >> do you engage with it? Do you ignore it? That's what I want to know. Like >> Okay, so let's back up here. You want to talk about the what? the body's response to anxiety in the context of what Tanya or Kabad says about is that I'm trying to like interpret here. Maybe Mar is a good angle like that story that that that that we all grew up on about the spy and >> yeah, no one listening to this knows that story, but that's great to talk in cryptic shorthand. >> So say the story. It's a good story. I'm sorry. I'm not I can't be the one to say the story. >> There was a named Misha Misles who was a polyglot. He spoke many languages and as such he was able to be hired by uh the French army during the Napoleonic wars. But he was actually spying for the Russians uh because his reba the alterba the first rebad was very vehemently opposed to Napoleon. Um, as an aside, many of the Alterb's colleagues, the other kidic masters were very in favor of Napoleon because they felt that he would give the Jews in Europe equal rights. The Alterba said that he would do that, but that it would be it would cause assimilation. So, it was better that the Zar should continue to uh to rule. At any rate, so uh this this uh adherent of the alterba named Reba Misels, he became a spy for Napoleon against Napoleon for Thesar. And he was in the war room looking at some maps, memorizing the maps, and he was listening to the general's plans. And as he was looking at the the maps, all of a sudden Napoleon himself came into the room and he said, "This guy is a spy." Now, he didn't know for sure he was a spy or not, but what he used to do is he used to he thought someone might be a spy. He would accuse them of being a spy. And then what he did is he put his hand Napoleon put his hand on this guy's heart to feel his heart to feel if it was beating the way a guilty person who's just been accused the way that their heart beats and Mammis was able to control himself because the alterb is one of his primary teachings it's actually originally from the holy zohar is that the brain rules over the heart and he was able to rule his heart and and that's a famous story. I always think it's interesting that people when they tell that story you say it's a famous kabad story what they failed to point out is that normally when we speak about and Tanya if you learn a basic Tanya lesson learn about the brain rules over the heart what we mean by brain rules over the heart is that you can intellectually choose to exert your free choice and to behave in a way that is that that is counter to your emotions. Meaning you can have an emotional desire, an attraction to something, but if it's prohibited according to Torah law, you can use your mind to control yourself, to curb your impulse, uh meaning to not act on it. But in this story, it actually is described something very different. It's not just to um resist an emotion, not to give into an emotion, but it was actually to cause himself to not even have that emotion. You understand the difference? One is a person who has an emotion, but he denies it expression as a behavior. Here, he didn't even allow himself to have the emotion. um which is much deeper much deeper and people don't when people tell that story I don't think they often uh highlight the precise mechanics of what that story depicts at any rate. Yes. So what what what's really the question here? >> Tell me. You don't have by the way you don't have to have a question. You could say I just wanted to chat, you know. >> I want to talk smack. Yeah, that's fair. That's true. I made an excuse. But but no, for real, I'll tell you I'll tell you something that I read years ago and I couldn't find for a long time. I I still maybe with TGT I can find it. Basically, there's a scientist in Australia who has a theory and hopefully he proves it by now because I've been repeating it too much, but he has a theory that the way we all see the world and this we know is through uh our own filters of reality. >> Every experience we experience >> tell me about it. Right. So, every add layer I don't know. I don't know. No, stop. For real. So, so, so years ago. >> You know who Yahoo Serious is? >> But, >> no, >> no. I don't know. I mean, you'd have to be my age to know who Yahoo Sirius is. He was famous for about 6 months in the 80s. >> Oh, he's actually Australian. Nice. >> Wow. He's 72. Good for him. >> Um Oh, and he played a scientist. That's crazy. No. So this guy, so a lot of people made fun of him because he's he sounds nuts like when you hear him talk, but basically he's a he's some sort of brain scientist. And he was looking at how um autistic the autistic brain has a very hard time connecting points, connecting dots and and and using past experiences to to engage in with the world in the future. Where a neurotypical brain knows when it tease a tomato, it remembers that it doesn't like tomato. So it doesn't try the tomato again for the 50th time. The autistic brain sees a tomato >> and eats the tomato. >> I'm not saying a tomato of eating the tomato, he's like, "Oh man, I totally forgot. >> I forgot. I don't like tomatoes. Why am I doing this to myself again?" >> That's basically his theory. So that's no his theory is that be his theory is that a g a true genius >> yahoo >> what separates him from everybody else >> played Einstein >> is the ability >> genius >> no so this guy this scientist basically wants to know if the what made Mozart Mozart was his ability to not be limited by the pattern recognition that a normal person develops and their and then limits their abilities by by reacting instead of >> instead of acting and and by by the authorba if you can change the way that you see the world it changes the way you react. So I want to know if it's all the same language, if the the practical avoid of changing the way my body feels >> is by changing the way I see the world. >> Wow. Wow. But I mean just as aside the the scientist in Australia, what he was doing was he was shocking people and testing them and seeing that after shocking them in certain parts of their brain, they were able to solve problems more efficiently and strategic problems more efficiently because they weren't limited by their reactive part of the calculation like system one, system two, and muscle memory and all that behavioral science where you Most mistakes are made when we rely on our our uh um what's the word for like not impulse but like when we rely on the things that we are good at and consistently do >> almost like muscle memory that's where we make mistakes but when you're when you when you're forced to think cuz it's a new equation >> right >> it's you don't make mistakes >> right you get lulled into that like hypnotic trance but that's also like the flow state. That's where you're like your most brilliant. >> Flow state is where you have both systems engaged. So that's why walking and talking helps and and listening to music that you know already allows you to focus cuz if you engage your system one, your system two is free to run wild. But if your system one is overwhelmed like have you ever done this experiment on yourself? If you walk slowly, you can talk and do math. But if you start moving a little quicker, jogging, it becomes harder to think. And if you run like if you if you ran a full sprint right now and tried to do a a basic math problem, you might have to stop and think sprint, I would not be able to do 2 plus two. >> Right. Right. Because and that's the point is that because but if you get system one, which is I'm totally blanking. It's but we all know what it is. It's just like the muscle. It's just the the an like animals have it. It's it's automatic. Like a deer is born, it knows how to walk, right? It's it's that deer, they just start walking. They just they drop out and they just walk away. What's with that? >> But it's that's that's almost like >> why do nature versus nurture >> long to learn how to walk? because that's already I don't know. God God made us complicated. God made us dependent on our mothers. >> Sorry, Bambi. Um but no, so but I wanted for real. Don't let me don't enable my ADD. Like you're >> I'm not enabling your ADD. I think I am egging on your ADD. I'm having a field day with >> I'm happy if you're enjoying. So, but but I want to know. So, for real, I want to I want to I want to know like I have like I we we have a son Kanara and it's almost his upsh. >> Okay. and and he's amazing and everything that I teach him he picks up like a sponge >> to the point where he's already a better dude than me. So the the >> like I want the one thing that I wish we took more seriously maybe and I'll blame the schools but before we go to bed we don't really think about our day. We don't think about the mistakes we made, the things that we did right, the things we did wrong, how we felt, how we reacted, did we think before we spoke. Did I say something and hurt someone else's feelings? Did someone else say something that and I didn't stand up for myself and communicate how I felt? Those are all things that are not hard to to practice if you have someone to guide you. >> You're talking about a >> spiritual inventory. >> So, are you saying that you do a spiritual inventory with your almost three-year-old son? >> No, but I but I would like to start in some capacity so that when he's my age, he is a gangster. Like he like I think you there won't be any trauma if you heal it all before you go to bed. And I think that's the point of of Krishma in the sitter, not saying and going to sleep. >> Yeah. >> But but I I maybe maybe we weren't taught the tools or I was spacing out when we were taught how to do it. Uh, >> okay. >> I think that you like >> I I'm just I'm listening to you now and I'm wondering why the Bessel Vander Culk was necessary. >> Oh, it wasn't necessary. It I mean because I wanted to make fun of him for triggering a bunch of people at a trauma retreat to be honest. >> So that's what you should all of a sudden all of a sudden I don't feel so bad anymore. should have said, "Hey, get a load of this." A guy goes to a trauma. >> I did in the emails a bunch. Oh, that's I didn't read your email, but you should have said it like that. Like a real borch belt comedian. Hey, get a load of this. A guy went to a a guy was a keynote speaker at a trauma convention and he triggered everybody in the place. >> But I'm bummed. >> Yeah. Yeah. And he's still been there every year for 20 years. But um Nice. I I heard that. But um yeah, and it's also whatever. I'm not going to make fun of the people for getting triggered, but there there's humor in that, too. [Music] >> Yes. >> The last time you did that, you asked the the nice the nice caller if you could do that. >> I wanted to trigger you. I wanted other people force you to have a physiological response. I wanted to cause you distress >> reaction. >> I wanted to cause you distress finally grasp this concept. >> And now the body keeps the score. And now every time you you're walking down the street, you're going to anticipate suddenly abruptly hearing an air horn. I'm not. The air horn's cool. I'm a big fan. >> You like the air horn? >> Yeah. Yeah, absolutely. Um, no. So, but it reminded me Oh, so that's the other thing. The other thing is that that I can't control the way uh things make me feel. >> But I can control the way I respond. >> Yes, that's basic Tanya. I can't control the way things make me feel. That's what a banin of the Tanya is. I can't control the fact that I look at the non-cooser sandwich and I salivate. I can't control that. But I can control my behaviors, >> right? >> Are you familiar with Bnee Brown? >> Yeah, I heard of her. I'm not like a big expert in her, >> so Oh, no, you're good. So, >> she has like some TED talks, >> whatever. Well, well, that's that's maybe what put her on the team, but she put out five books before the TED talk, but but she she's big on vulnerability. Yeah. The the healthy way. >> Yeah. Um, and I I I had this question like if the Torah theoretically wants me to have absolute and in Hashem, right? Absolute faith and trust in Hashem that everything is good. Then and and nothing can hurt me then how then at the end of the day, how can you be vulnerable? What can hurt you? Ah, >> but but but then I saw then the rabbit cried on on Jam, >> right? Literally like two seconds after. >> On Jam. >> Yeah. Like on Jam. Yeah. The Yeah. I'm not going to say hot, whatever. But but literally like a second later I saw it and I'm like, "Okay, so clearly I'm full of baloney." But there is something to it because at the end of the day, who do I know in the history of ever that had more and more toughen and knew why everything happened? So it must be that you can have absolute faith and trust in Hashem but still be vulnerable. >> Yeah. >> Um and then whatever do some research and you see that every time he cried, he cried because of our suffering. So that just made me an even >> bigger yacht. But but but that I think so that goes to what then what so so at the end of the day the all the what if if if it just boils down to you can't control the way things make you feel but it's all about how you respond then how do you respond when your body is getting in the way of >> a healthy or or response in general. >> Yeah. Okay. So, I'm gonna I'm gonna decide I'm going to choose to consider this your official question only because I would love >> Yeah, could have done that. You could have could really have, but I would love to have been with you all night and um but I'm being told that our next caller is is waiting. So, I'm going to I I I'm forced to wrap this up. But, listen, you you you've got a free pass. You could call in. You could be a you could be you could become a regular caller if you want. Okay. Um so let's say your body is having a reaction. You're being triggered by Bessel Vanderulk or whatever it is, right? So the question is like where does the free will come in? Where does the brain rules over the heart come in? And and I and I think the answer is unlike the story of Mishimisels who was actually able to override the physiological response. I think that the avoid of Tanya is that you will have the physiological response. You your body will be triggered and yet you write it out. You know, breathe through it. whatever you got to do. Chev alasa, you know, just sit there until you're ready to uh to behave in a rational way. So, I yes, I think discretion is a better part of valor. I think sometimes you got to just wait it out before you're ready to uh before you're ready to make a a move. But don't engage with the don't tuggle, you know, don't wrestle. >> No, you can't. You can't. You can't. You can't. It's impossible. It's not a product of a thought process. And you can't override it with a thought process. No, it's an automatic thing. You didn't talk yourself into it. You can't talk yourself out of it. Like for instance, you can you can take a thought >> and you could proceverate on that thought until you work yourself up into a real state of anxiety. So that's something you talk yourself into it. You talked yourself into it. So you could talk yourself out of it. But then there are other things that it's an automatic response. It's just it's it's a stimulus response. There's nothing you can do about it. It's automatic. You're going to feel it no matter what. The question is, after you feel whatever it is that you're inevitably going to feel, are you capable of waiting until you're in a position to make a good behavioral choice? I think that's really >> I don't know if that answers your question, but at any rate, that's >> that's what I'm going to >> No, no, it's good. I'm good with that. I can I can I can live with that. >> Okay. This has been a blast. I really appreciate >> all your stories >> and uh >> I appreciate your uh support >> my enabling >> and and facil being a listener. >> Okay. Thank you. >> Valdic. All right. We have another caller. Patient caller waiting on the line. Okay. That was Ellie. He outed himself. He already identified that's Ellie. Okay. Thank you. Um All right. So, do we have the next caller on the line? Do we have the next caller? >> Hello. >> Oh, hi. >> Hi. >> How are you? >> Thank God I'm doing well. How are you doing? >> Um, so I have something that's sitting heavy on my heart. I really really would appreciate your wisdom. >> Before I do so, I like to I would like to segue and say it's ironic because um I actually have a daughter who's named after a shear that was given based on a study by Vessa Vander Vanderk. So really came up so much. Yeah, >> that is so ironic. >> Her name her one of her names is Sapier and Sapi has to do with healing trauma and all whatever. I'll send the >> really has to do with healing trauma. >> Yeah, >> I don't know. >> Yeah, there's a sh by Rabbi by Dr. the palists all about um leaving not us appear and the foottool of Hashem's throne >> and seeing it and illuminating parts of the brain by speaking um the whole >> the sapphire brick. >> Yes. >> Under the throne of glory. Yeah. >> Yes. At the end of Anyway. >> Wow. That's cool stuff. Okay. >> It's really cool stuff. Anyway, but so that's my segue. Okay. >> But I'll tell you what's sitting heavy on my heart and maybe you could guide me. I'm almost nervous a little bit, but I'll I'll get choked up during this this call. >> It's an emotional thing. So I'm I'm not going to make jokes about it. >> Yeah. >> Okay. Uh so this is a serious >> Okay. Maybe that's the way the Jews got through everything. >> Maybe we should make jokes. Okay. Maybe make jokes about it. Okay. Fine. But we're talking about something very serious here. Um let's let's let's hear it. >> Okay. So I'm going to start with my tacless question and then I'll build upon it. >> Okay. No problem. The question is when you have a child I'm it's funny I don't cry I'm like getting to when you have a child who has a backstory um how do you is it advisable to share it with the teachers in advance of school >> um at risk that perhaps they'll get like be stigmatized before they even get through the door without being given any benefit of the doubt. >> Yeah. >> And if you should speak to the teachers how do you do so? And now I guess I'll I'll fill in the gaps. >> Yeah, >> I have a daughter who's amazing. Like she she's really she's really great. She was she was always like the girl that everybody's like, "She's your daughter? She's so nice." She's 7 years old. She was my one kid who I never got phone calls about. Like literally never. >> Last year by the third day of school, >> she didn't have the >> Okay. I mean, right to seven years old without ever having to be having to have the school call. >> I'm saying if you make it to 20 and and the school never called your parents, then that's okay. But whatever. Okay. She made it to seven without ever having >> What I'm saying is in my family like all the kids are ADHD, all the kids have all these different things and they love to pick on them already from the time that they're 2 years old. >> Your kids not standing correctly there. She was the one kid that like I always got knocked on. That's a big deal to make it in your family to make it to 7 years old without school having to call home. >> That's a big deal. Okay, fine. Got it. This that's always piece of information told me even more than anything else you told me so far. Okay, got it. >> The parent teacher conferences always were not. Thank God. It was always like she's very advanc like I I actually once called um many months ago about her and I said that she was advanced and and you joked that many many like mothers always their kids are like very very bright. Yeah. >> Like she she was reading from the time she was like like turning five like she she gets the point very quickly and she actually reminded me of like things that you talk about today because >> she was listening to my phone call in the car with my husband and she guessed what my husband was going to going to say after he expressed the complaint. She's like, "What are you going to say?" But it's going to work out. Like she she gets the point already. Anyway, by the end of the third day of school last year, >> I already was called in. It was it was the third day of first grade. I was already called in for what I call an ambush meeting where I was like, "Mrs. So and so, please get your child to Parah or get them out of this school." And they called me and they said, "How did they handle her last year?" And I said, "You know, they handle her last year. She was fantastic." And they didn't believe me. And they called the the head of the early childhood center and they said, "Why didn't you send in any like notes on this kid? This kid's a psychopath." And she said, "What do you mean?" Like she was like she was a pleasure. She was the girl who always offered her snacks, offered. Now I know there's a big adjustment from pre1a to first grade. You know, there's like >> Mhm. >> especially if you're like out like an ADHD kid who's academically inclined. You have the movement in your day in pre-1 where you don't have that anymore. But she was given no benefit of the doubt. And ultimately I I had shared with you in a call many months ago that like for example the story where like she she went to on the second week of first grade she went to take something from the teacher's desk that she thought belonged to somebody else with the intention of doing hasha. I don't know if it rings any bells to you. It fine if it doesn't but um >> yeah I remember >> she was like yelled at in front of the whole class. I got a phone call back like I got a phone call your child's the only child by the end of the second week of first grade that doesn't know all the class. So meanwhile, um I don't feel like I have any ally in the school. I mean, I've always been extremely respectful. I've never, god forbid, stirred the pot. I've really I don't have any interest in in creating more problems in my life. Sean blesses me with problems. I don't need to look for problems. And I don't I'm not a confrontational person. I've always been extremely respectful. I've always been 10 steps ahead. If ever they've said to get my kid like evaluated, I've always been like, "Oh, she was already evaluated last week." Like really I'm I'm not drive. It's not like I'm driving the car with my eyes closed. >> And now she's telling me that she doesn't Well, she spent a lot. The second semester of first grade was either spent at home or every single day. I got a phone call, please come pick her up or she's not allowed in the class tomorrow. She spent a lot of time in the hallway or at home. >> Um she refused to go to school. Now, we're not talking about, oh, I'm getting at school. I'm like driving late. I'm talking about like not willing to go to school. The teachers were not Dom. They gave her no benefit of the doubt. The teachers were they really were not nice and they really did not have her best interest at heart. They looked for fault. They I believe that like there's there was like narcissism at play like like her personality is really big. Like she would be great on Broadway >> and >> and I and I think that the teacher was intimidated by my daughter's like personality. Yeah. I was nervous to be like and that her co would be like shut out. So basically we got her class assignments for this year and now she's saying she doesn't want to go to school because she knows that you cuz this teacher moved from first grade to second grade and she knows that she was very strict last year and my daughter they kept saying tough love tough love and I kept saying no you're going to break her with tough love and she felt like the authority was on a power trip and I and I kept saying you have to be nice to her. I think I shared this story also last time that like on the first day of school with art class, she made she was a she was a perfectionist. She made a mistake. She asked for a new paper, they said no because if you ask for a new paper, she felt like there was no one like it was all falling on deaf ears. The school did not take initiative with her. There was no behavior plan in place. It was just they really like they would look at her with like disgust. Now we looked into switching schools not it's not really an option for us. I'm I'm really dominant with my whole heart this year. Please God, I should almost take true compassion on us and just make it a really good year and it will be like a tune for what we experience. And I say we because it was really tremendously painful for me as well. I had her home all summer. It was amazing. And the best part of it other than really enjoying being there was that I didn't have to wait for that like the doom of that phone call. >> Um, Mrs. Whatever, please come pick up. I don't want, you know, I got to just go do fun things, go nature trails, whatever it was. And now we're about to start the school year. So the question is, what do I share with her teachers without stigmatizing her? I want them to give her a fair shake. And what if the school already stigmatized her? And the other question is, how do I get her to school? She And also, this is her wholesome religious setting, so to speak. I feel like they're really ruining my child. And you could say, oh, she's only seven. She I I think I said this to you in a different call. I feel like there's a category of um right there's like at risk youth and then there's at risk for being at risk. >> Like she's the at risk for being at risk. Like really bright, understands everything. Her talents are not appreciated in school. She actually is an assistant um counselor in in a kabad day camp this summer on the Fridays cuz they said like I knew that it would be like good for her um close to the person who was in target and had a come help set up Shabas party and bring the kids inside and whatever it was. She needs like leadership position. She's very helpful in the house. I have many younger children. Um but if it's always authority, authority strict strict no love, it will break her because she doesn't like that like why are you in charge of me? Like that's a little bit hard for her. >> Mhm. >> Um and I don't I just don't know how to handle the upcoming school year. Aside from her being so like worried about going back to school and honestly against the idea, I'm also terrified. And I don't I know you would never say this, but it's not that I don't have God's will to faith that it would be good. It's just um the our journey my journey with each of my kids has been very very difficult. But with her in particular, it took me by surprise. I think that was part of what was so hard and that there was no leeway and no one no one believed me that she was once A++. >> Yeah. >> I don't know. I'm done with my question. Okay. Yeah, I hear I hear every word. Um, and I understand why this is painful on many levels. So, my question to you is, it's really actually pretty simple. The qu my question to you is, yeah, it is. Is it absolutely? No, it really is. It really is simple. It's not complicated. >> Um, >> are you prepared to cut your losses when you see there's no one to talk to? What I mean by that? What does that mean? Okay, I'll explain what I mean by that. >> You're asking, should I give the teacher the backstory or will it blow up in my face? And here >> you do have a lot of partnership and say this has been a tough year. Please be easy on her. >> So here here's the deal. There are good people and there are not good people. I don't want to say that they're inherently not good people. But I'm saying like whatever in in their current state they're not they're not people you want to trust too much. Right now >> right how I didn't feel that way. >> Okay. So, here's the thing. Somebody who's a compassionate person doesn't even need to be told the backstory. Somebody who's not a compassionate story, it's not going to help to tell them the backstory. >> What you just said is brilliant. >> Really, >> if they're nice, they're going to be nice always, >> right? >> Makes sense. If they're nice, they're going to be nice always. They don't need to be taught how to be nice. And if you aren't nice, then it's going on deaf ears because you can't change. >> So this this is what I'm saying. When you realize that you have someone to talk to, then you have the ability to fine-tune the approach and make it right for your daughter. But if you see that there's no one to talk to that you everything you say is being deflected or dismissed. >> That's what happened last year. >> Every time that I said you know I you know I understand that you were like you know you punished her today but tomorrow when it happened. Why don't instead you say like instead why don't you say like oh it's good that you did one question. If you can do a second one that would be great. I'm so proud of you for doing one. Not you should have done number two like you know you did number one. >> Right. So the question is if you see that you're in a situation where there's no one to talk to. >> Are you ready to cut your losses? >> What does that actually look like? I understand what the words if they say there's no one to talk to. Then what? >> Well, you told me the summer was nice. >> Yeah, it was beautiful. Thank God. >> So I'm talking about summer all year long. really. Um, you know, it's funny before I joked that before I had kids, I wanted a homeschool and then I had kids. That's the joke. Um, I'm not like counselor, division head, person who makes like, oh, dishes. let's go to the lake and learn about like I try to do things very hands-on and and in theory that it would be very nice but I also kind of want her to have I don't say I want her to be part of the system because I don't need need that but I I want her to have a good taste from religious institutions. >> Stop because >> stop stop [Music] >> I'm stopping. Say that sentence again slowly. >> I want her to have a good taste from religious institutions. >> Let's dwell in silence on the ramifications of that statement. Anything coming up for you? >> This is one of those situations where I'm not sure what the right answer. >> There's no right answer. >> What's coming up to me? >> Yeah. >> I'll tell you what initially came up to me. >> Yeah. >> So, I have called in the past which I referred to or what referenced. I'm think God uh what did you call it? God willing a a coffee cake lady. >> Coffee. the God willing a coffee cake lady. >> Oh, God willing. >> She the God willing coffee cake lady. >> That's me. Hi, it's me. The God. >> And honestly, I'll tell you a little bit what's coming up for me is I don't I'm not so bad, but but we have um I something I really love is in the spice and stir the bubbles cookbook, there's a letter from the Reb about how important like running the home is >> and how like making the food is important. And part of that is coming out for me like it's okay if she's not okay in an institution cuz I can get like the home can give her that. On the other hand, I guess it's coming out for me as like >> well I half agree with that. >> I mean >> I agree with the fact that the pleasant sweet experiences of living Yiddish kite in the home with your mother. I I I agree that's invaluable. It's so powerful >> like mock the ball suit the Jew like that like people don't have a good like I think that that is very important and and the story is told through that >> but what I would say is the part don't agree with was when you then jumped and said so as long as she's got that uh it's okay if I >> but that's the part that I don't agree with either. >> So why'd you say it? But I'm saying but it's hard for me as someone who >> let's on the one hand I think that's tremendously important. On the other hand >> you said I wanted to have a positive taste from religious institutions. >> Correct. >> Okay. I I I I mean to me this is just very obvious that the inverse of that statement is then I would obviously go to great lengths to avoid her having a negative experience with religious institutions. In fact, that would probably be my zero tolerance issue that if I felt she were going to have a negative inst negative experience from a religious institution, that would not be something that I would just tell her to to tough it up and to persist through because that is a formula. You say at risk of being at risk, that's not even at risk of being at risk. that you're even beyond risk when a child is told we're sending you to a place that represents God, represents Torah, represents Judaism, and they're going to traumatize you and disrespect you, but there's nothing we can do about it because we have no choice. Our t our hands are tied. You're beyond risk. It's not risk anymore. That's >> So, we all to go to another school. >> That's religious trauma. We all wanted to go to another school and we tried a very out of the box school that was like only has like eight kids in it and she went there for the day and they she was really like she saw like a day and she was like a star. She she loved it but she didn't want to go there. And then we brought up the idea of going there like permanently she was like like so against it that when we brought her back for a second like interview, she wouldn't even walk in the building. And after an hour of standing with her in the like lobby area, she ended up leaving so I don't know how to even like I know I'm the parent. >> Yeah. >> But >> but if she's so deep and insightful like you claim >> then I think you could explain to her and say listen we got two options on the table. We got the regular school that you feel like >> is normal and you're not stigmatized by going there. It's just okay. Everyone, you know, this is a regular system. But I think you're not going to be treated respectfully this year. Or we have this alternative situation where I think that you will be treated nicely and you're going to have to live with the fact that it's not a normal thing. I would I would give her that choice cuz honestly, if she says, "All right, you know what? I'm accepting. I'm going to go to the the mainstream place and they're going to treat me poorly. Then at least she's a little bit more mentally prepared for it. But if she is being sent >> I wasn't said to her like you don't need to call her like I said to her in other words like >> a lot of things where they like really appreciate you and you're like like you can't tell a kid you don't need to put up with that but they do when you send a child to a school they are forced to put up with whatever treatment they get. So, it's like parents, I'm going to say something very, very like I'm people are going to get mad at me for saying this, but I don't care cuz no one's going to even hear this because it's after an hour and a half of bizarre ranting and Chich and Chong jokes. So, no one's going to even get to this point in the video. Parents send kids to school and out of sight, out of mind. Once I can get them on the bus, thank God, I can breathe a sigh of relief. It's done. I succeeded. Hooray. Everything's fine. That's so not my day. >> So not my day. >> It's not fine. It's not fine that if a child is going to a situation where day in and day out, they feel persecuted. They feel stigmatized not by their peers even, but even but by by the adults that they're supposed to be taken care of by. that that causes real harm on every level. So, you can't tell a kid, so for now, >> I'm going to send you to a place where they're going to mistreat you. But you know what? Don't put up with it. What do you mean don't put up with that? What choice do I have? I'm going to have to put up with it. >> No, I'm saying the opposite though. That I offered her to leave and she didn't run. And I said to her like that there is a better option and she >> Okay, that's what I said. If at least it's a discussion. Now, I'd say it sounds like you're saying you had this discussion already, but I would have it again. >> At least it's a discussion where she can think about it and make a deliberate choice and she can say to you, I'm ready to go into this war zone. Then just by virtue of her making a choice, she will be more mentally prepared for being in that situation. Well, what if I'm in a situation right now where she's made that mental choice, but now she has to like if I proposes and they actually have to get married, >> like now she actually needs to go to school on Wednesday and now she's telling me she won't go. And again, I want to just reiterate. I'm not talking about a kid who's like, "Oh, food's over." Like I'm not a kid who like like she would like go on like a like a hunger strike, you know, like she she like puts her money where her mouth is. She if she says she is doing something, she does it. She said she's not doing something, she's not doing it. She's unwavering and and there's only so much you can combat that. So now she made this decision and now we're registered for this school and now I need to get her on the bus and I don't know. That's why I go back to the original question I asked you which I said, "Are you ready?" What was the what was the expression that I used? >> Uh, >> cut my losses. >> Cut your losses. Yeah, >> cut my losses. >> Yeah, thank you for remembering the idiom that I used. Yes, cut your losses. And that means option three, which is Okay, so there is no school that's the right fit for her this year. And then teacher at home. >> I I I mean I guess that's the logical conclusion. Yeah. >> Interesting. I Okay. I suppose although I'm worried I guess about myself. >> I want to do one more. Go ahead. [Applause] Someone who doesn't have the ability to walk away from the negotiating table will always make a bad deal. Someone who's forced to make a deal will always make a bad deal. The only way you will ever get a good deal is if you're ready to walk away. It's in business. It's in love. By the way, when one person is ready to leave a relationship, if they don't like how they're treated and the other person will never leave no matter what, then that other person, the one who will never leave no matter what, is going to be mistreated. They're inevitably going to be mistreated or they're going to accept treatment that they shouldn't accept. So, it's in business, it's in love, it's in everything. If you can't walk away from the negotiating table, then you lose. So, here's the thing. I think the fact that parents are terrified, terrified of walking away from a school that's not serving their needs. That is a big part of why children have terrible school experiences. And that if you're ready to walk >> Well, I'm not clarified of it, though. Well, >> I am ready to walk. She's not ready to walk. I'm I'm I'm my whole body out the door. >> Okay. >> I mean, there's a little bit more to it than that. Also, >> so then you're okay if you're ready. >> And there also needs to be a place to receive you, meaning she's already stigmatized, so it was hard to get her into one school. There was another woman wanted to take her, but the was >> But it's going to be hard to get. Yes. Yes. all. But you're you're you're you're coming from a family where everybody you said she was the world record breaker that she got to seven years old before the school called about her. >> So all of your kids are going to be a challenge. >> Do you understand that? >> I know. Don't think too highly of me. >> Did you? No. It's the nature of school. It's bizarre. The whole school thing is bizarre. A hundred years ago, nobody went to school. The whole thing is artificial and and against nature. And now we're forced into this situation where we basically have to look, school is only good for about 5% of kids. About 5% of kids who do well in school that it's actually totally beneficial to them because it suits their personality. Everybody else, it's like literally like it's this marathon. It's this gauntlet. It's running the gauntlet, you know, like the punishment, like the medieval torture. They're running the gauntlet. You're running through like there's two lines. There's a line of people on either side of you and they've got clubs and chains and whips and they're hitting you and you got to make it through the gauntlet. You got to get to the other side. >> That's what schooling is for like the vast majority of children. It's running the gauntlet. It's like, can I make it to the other side without being destroyed? Anyways, I'm going to delete this whole this whole episode cuz I just I'm not not in the mood to deal with the backlash from everyone's going to I heard you say on YouTube that school is like getting beaten with a chain. >> No, I didn't say that. I said for 90% of children. >> I think so. I think chain. So I you know I'll tell you what I think I think that so many people relate to that the 95% of people listening to your show that are 95% relate to that experience whether it was socially or academically. So I I think I think it made sense. I I'm just trying to balance between like there's another level to this. It's not just school into itself. It's not just math. Like I said, it's the religious experience. >> I want her to feel like appreciated and like she belongs, >> right? >> And that's what that's what ultimately terrifies me. That's false show like >> Yeah, that's what I'm saying. >> That we're making problems that don't need to be. >> Right. That's what I'm saying. >> That's our biggest thing. >> Right. So, if like I said, if you have someone to talk to, meaning if whoever is her teacher this year actually is compassionate, then you'll know. and then it'll be you'll be able to survive this year in school. But if you find >> that's the question that made obvious. >> Yeah. >> Based on my original question of should I call should I should I call them before? Should I not call them? What you're saying is that let the school year start. If they're nice, it won't even be necessary and if they're not nice, that's the point of even talking to them. So I shouldn't talk at all. >> Yeah. Basically, >> right now I want to tell you something. It Um, I mean, this is such a sad thing to have to teach you because basically it's me passing on my cynicism to you, but I'm going to I'm going to tell you something. Most people cannot be trusted with personal information. Um, the >> I didn't hear what you said. Most people cannot be trusted. >> Cannot be trusted with personal information. >> Okay. Um yeah, the previous caller was talking about Bnee Brown and uh vulnerability. Okay. Anyways, most people are not worthy of being vulnerable in front of. In fact, most people will weaponize your vulnerability. And you know, if if if you feel like you're tough enough to handle that, that's your prerogative. But you're not allowed to do that to your child. You're not allowed to share your child's vulnerabilities with someone who may weaponize it. >> So, what I'm saying is >> that's what I'm so scared of. >> Well, then you got your answer right there. >> But what if they shared it amongst themselves? Like there's a new administrator. What if the old administrators went over her and said, "Watch out for this one. She's a real toffee." >> You'll find out. You'll find out within a week. >> Ding for me. >> Yeah. Okay. We'll dive in for you. Jeez, I'm so scared. I wish I wasn't this scared. >> Yeah. Well, nothing to be afraid of. You're going to go through it and whatever happens happens and you'll deal you'll deal with it. Whatever happens, you'll deal with it. You're going to be okay. >> I just always have to deal with so much. It's not I I guess like this I have to deal with it with all of my kids. It's not like there's ever a dull moment. And that's like I can't just focus on her. I have to focus on everybody. And because of her, other kids fell through the cracks last year. Like I had a baby and I wasn't even able to feed her because I had to keep going to the principal's office. >> Yeah. >> So I will I will deal with it. It's just not easy. And >> Yep. It's tough already. >> Yep. Yeah, it is not easy, but you will deal with it. [Music] All these people are so eager for school to start. >> I know. >> And I'm like, and I laugh and I laugh at them. Like, you're so lucky. Like, like, you put your kid on the bus and you see them at home at 4:30. >> In all fairness, a lot of these people who are eager for school to start are clueless about what their child's experience of school is and and don't want to be clued in. I'll take that, I guess, as a compliment to myself. Thank you. >> Yes, you should. You should. Yes, you should take as a compliment. It is a compliment. Yes. Okay. >> I just want I also just want them to know that I'm really trying. As much as they call me and they tell me I needed they send my money for me with professionals, I'm really trying. And I just I wish that it was it was seen that she's also trying even when she's struggling. She if she's biting her tongue for an hour, it's an hour that she bit her tongue and that's that's a a you know that's uh whatever. Anyway, I'm show you another call is so >> y Okay, listen. It's going to be good. It's going to be good. It's all going to be good. >> And it has to be good. So, >> yeah. Okay. Lots of >> Thank you very much. >> Okay. My pleasure. >> I'm in. I'm in. I'm in. I mean, >> okay. >> The phones are a right. >> That's right. Well, that's true, too. Yes. Yeah. But I'm not wishing any agra on you. So, I mean, I'm not wishing any tyra on you. You could have the agra without me. Okay, good. >> Yeah, you can have the agra without. >> Okay. >> Thank you. >> Be well. Okay. >> Thank you very much. Have a good father. >> Yeah. Good chas. Okay. >> All right. Wow. That's intense stuff. I don't know. I'm probably going to delete this whole episode. First half of it is me doing that uh stream of consciousness with Ellie and the second half of it is me comparing schools to being whipped with a chain. [Music] Yeah. Calling to the calling show. Okay. Do we have any more callers? I just got a text from you. 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I think uh you heard the genuine I don't know. I don't know what to call it. The the heartache of a of a Jewish mother. That was a beautiful dedication and thank you for the donation. Generous donation. Ellie says it was me, the sprinkler. You were the sprinkler. Check the donations. Okay, I'll check the donations. Check your driveway. Hay and checking the donations. Oh, Mia, $5 double to be 10. Thank you. That's awesome. Yeah, Mia, I recognize the name there because you're writing in the chat right now. Um, Gavaldic, thank you. Okay. And also, Tobias, $50. I always love your talks. Thank you for all you do. Okay, that's awesome. And then Ellie, next year in Tahiti, I got a treaty with Tahiti because I own a percent. Today I was on Instagram. [Music] Oh my gosh. Okay, hold on a second. Today, one second. One second. One second. Yeah. Hello. You're on You're You know how it's etiquette to tell someone you're on speakerphone? If you're in the car and you say you're on speakerphone, you're on YouTube live right now. Yellow. Hello. You're on YouTube live. I don't hear you. Hold on a second. I don't hear you. What's going on? Let me just make sure that the Bluetooth is working. I don't know why I don't hear you. Should hear you. I don't know. I don't should hear you. Hello. Hello. Hello. I don't know. Try again. I'm going to hang up. Try again. Okay. Ellie says, "Next year in Tahiti." That is a reference to the antipities by Hashem. We've spoken about that before. Spoken about that. Uh let's just take one more look and then I got to go. I'm tired. I'm so tired. So tired. Okay. No. Nothing but more. Okay. Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, children of all ages. What's up? One second. [Music] Hello. Why do I not hear you? One second. One second. One second. Okay. Hello. >> Hi, Rabbit. >> You know that you're on YouTube live right now. >> Okay. Thank you for telling me. >> Okay. All right. I'm very tired. And you said all just text me. He said, "End the show. You're tired." because he knows I'm tired and I'm sloppy. So, I'm going to do this quickly. Yes, sir. How could I help you, sir? >> So, was that Ellie? >> Yes, Ellie. Yes. >> Yeah, it was great. I liked it. The whole >> You liked it? I thought it was fun. I thought he was a lot of fun. I got some comments. >> I got some negative comments in the chat, but I think those were just jealous people. >> Yeah. Always have those types. >> Yeah. >> But that was good. It was great. >> Yeah. So, I'm calling about two things. U I'll just You can choose which one you want to respond to. No connection. I'm watching the YouTube live. I read through the description. It says if you have a top, please email info forwards.org, which I did >> and we will give you the call number. I didn't get it. Fine. Okay. >> And it says period. I Googled it. known already like >> said the screenshot I'm like what could that mean a hoot >> so what's that number one >> yes >> a hoot what is a hoot >> is that a typo is that liberates >> okay so I'm going to tell you a little bit not everything but it was not a typo and it was spelled exactly as a hoot is spelled a h o o t some people spell it so you know what it I want the to know. >> Okay. You want the to know. All right. >> Yeah. So that's correct. You pronounced it perfectly actually. [Music] >> Yes. >> And then the second question is and it's a real question. Um I know I don't know exactly. I never learned this before. Maybe I did see this so I don't remember. I know the Reb spoke about something to be very sensitive about non-cosher animals like not showing them and not you know especially so like you know a wolf a beer anything not kosher obviously a kazer that's okay that even you know but I think even like a wolf a beer and a donkey things that are not kosher animals we're very careful not to show it and I saw someone on x.com he has a handle Math Yan. >> Yeah. >> And he writes he's like basically I'm not going to say word for word >> one of those Twitter lates him. >> Yes. And he had brought up a good point. He's like you have Zevul. These are all wolf the beer. These are names of Jewish children in Hebrew and Yiddish. Like Ary is is a lion. Lab in Yiddish is lion. These are usually paired together. She could have any parents be like, "Please don't give any stuffies of trace animals to my son. Are you saved do?" >> Yeah. >> So, and I thought that was a valid point. It actually got me thinking and then it triggered like hang on. I know that we do have like on a paras in many shows you'll see like two lions you know in the vilar even there's a lion >> and uh yeah so so I'm just wondering like what's up with that like kosher not kosher but we put >> okay so first of all I just want to tease a little bit here that it is >> in office we do say by the Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Right. Like like the war in Israel was was was Yeah. [Music] Yeah. >> Yeah. Specifically compared to animals that was of I believe.org5785 explains how going the extra mile is she says sure is not about the 10 par 11 par double the price of 10 it's it's like it says in verses 14 and 15 >> very good >> which by the way you can still download forwards.org575 5785. You can download the study companion or I can actually send it which I sent by the way Rabbit. >> Yeah. >> Um so you know I manage your WhatsApp account. >> Okay. >> On a monthly basis and I don't mean to plug but I posted if anybody wants a hard copy feel free to message me. I sent out today 20 in the mail. So it cost me a $125 and they decided to say I'm that was my little stop and they sent out to about uh uh 20 people 25 people I don't remember exactly 20 people about 25 I did it they're going to get it in the next two three days most of them actually were even in New York there was one international >> international was 250 >> London >> the guy's like oh I'm happy to pay for it here's my tati's number you could could get my bank. He has my money. You could get the money from him. And uh so I was like, "You don't have to." And I was like, "It's okay, but if you want his I said, "Here's my my info. You could just have your Tati, you know, send the money." And then he's like, "No, I have this other things I need to talk to him about first." It seemed like there was a lot of trauma there. So I just deleted it and I said, "Never mind. It's all good. I'm happy you got it and you'll get it soon and enjoy." Anyways, my point is the animals are the kosher, non-cooser. It seems like on one hand they play a role in Judaism. On the other hand, it seems like it was like, "Yeah, don't show." >> So, I was about to say I wanted to tease a little something >> which is there's I >> We're not going to talk more about the hoop because we revealed part of it and that's enough to reveal for now. >> For now. >> Correct. You You've revealed the pronunciation of it. By the way, it's like the the the Kangaldo saying the sham shyim kipper. Eventually they had to stop doing it because people were misusing it. So you revealed how to properly pronounce a h o t and I hope it won't be misused by people who have um the wrong intentions. So your question I just want to tease this for a second that there's a possibility I heard a rumor of a shir maybe starting after uh >> starting from bious I spoke I spoke on it >> okay in English now okay so here here we go we're looking. Um we are on if you want to follow if you have home page 309. Okay. This is 1983. Correct. Okay. So interesting. Is it in Yiddish or in Hebrew? Sounds like it's going to be Hebrew. And then it says Now is the place to mention something that we heard from the it's also brought in. Yeah, this is talking about magazines and newspapers. Uh They have pictures that are meant to attract people or children. And for whatever reason, for many reasons, many of these pictures, these images are images of animals. Right. >> That would be like that would be like if I would include a picture of in in the study companion available at soulwords.org/7. >> Correct. >> I have the PDF. I I pulled it up. It's most appropriate that we should only use uh illustrations and pictures of animals and wild animals that are >> see number one and and birds and and uh and fish sea life that is okay and a Jew and especially a Jewish child has to anguate in holding things, >> right? Used to accustomed to, right? >> Okay. Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. We need to do number one because that really gets to the heart of the issue right there in the very beginning. Okay. >> Can you share the PDF on your screen? >> What? >> Can you share the PDF on the on your screen so the student could follow? >> I could put it in the Oh, could I share it? >> No, no, no, >> no. the way you do it at the sour house. >> No, I can't do that. Um, I don't know. You all, is there any way to share it here? I don't think so. I don't think I can. >> I don't think I could share it here. >> Okay, Umashino, let's do number one. Okay, let's go through it. Let's unpack it. >> That's why, by the way, the sword's house has features which you do not have in your garage. >> Correct. Okay. >> Yeah. But I was really following along anyway. >> Yes. And you'll take you'll make a clip later. test of the safe potato and this that we find in many in many. >> This is a question. In other words, it's a question and a person might challenge you just said you just said when you're putting out >> right and this ah you may ask why do you see exactly like I just asked animals such as a lion and and and and eagles on the par of kadesh and on the mal >> and on the crown of a safe potato. >> Yeah. Which I believe the Reb by the way a deer is kosher. No >> deer is kosher. Yeah. >> Yes. I believe on the wanted a deer the reason for this is what's we just now said is it's that's it's the reason for that is to remind people as a as a visual reference that and do serving in general has to be like and and it's taken from the end of >> Yeah. So the that's the reason for it says okay but still how does that fit with just now saying are not go ahead >> perhaps we can say I'm going to blow it up a little bit because it's hard hold on I got to blow it up trying to make it bigger perhaps we could that it's similar to the Marava what not the Makova tank the Makava the um chariot the chariot of uh Yzko it's the vision actually that is uh the haftra of >> which of corresponds to uh matra. Why? Because it's a gile of course a high level of revelation. Um there was a chariot. This is the image. It's not a real chariot. Doesn't exist anywhere but it's in the image in the vision of the prophet. You saw the chariot and on the chariot there was the face of a lion, the face of a of an eagle. Although you know that's I don't want to get into a whole side discussion but uh you know that the zoo rabbi Sliffkin and >> so he says the neureer is a vulture >> that's what he said doesn't matter point is whether it's an eagle or a vulture it's not kosher okay so you could say perhaps it's like the marova where it has a lion it has a eagle and then there's a little star, little asterisk, and you go to the bottom of the page. Should we do the asterisk now or should we come back to it? Let's go back. So if you look in the alter where in the section of my migill actually it's in many places [Music] why is why is there a lion in a an eagle or a vulture on the prophetic vision of the chariot? is saying that um how do we break this up? Yeah. Okay. That in its I think that's what it's saying. That in its shish and its spiritual root above it's very very lofty. And this is what this explains. And then when it comes down, it comes down very low asusimat regarding. Okay. So first of all, regarding the images of these impure animals, some of it is to invoke the principles that we say that you're supposed to be like these animals. You should be strong like a lion and swift like an eagle and all that. And and the and the reason is because these animals represent the marava. So animals that are in the marava have a certain spiritual um virtue to them that we're supposed to emulate. And what about on the images of the flags of the tribes pediculty all of these uh images were connected to the personality. I don't know if you'd say the personality of a shvet but you know >> characteristics >> characteristics beautiful characteristics of the shvet italics and because they had these properties they had to have they had to have this had to have that particular >> what you say so you say the ones of the and basically is an exception Or >> bottom line, are we allowed to Is that what it's saying? >> Yeah, that's what it's saying. No, by the way, is D >> exception. >> Okay, >> exception, but it sounds like he's giving a reason. >> Let's do the >> asterisk. Let's do the asterisk. Okay. [Music] [Applause] Uh, bas ya. >> Yeah. Yeah. I see this. This is not this is not this is not for 11:37 Eastern Standard Time call. I see the the next thing says in the med over here there's there's there's different things which are connected with a mouse. I think that was referring to Mickey Mouse. Not joking. >> So there's Mickey Mouse. There's also a lameo had Mendel the mouse and Mendle and and Aluo actually was going bankrupt and they came to the Rebea and the Reb gave them money from Americas to be able to continue. >> I heard about that to >> Yeah. >> publish a Torah. >> Yeah. And then they had Mendle the M. >> I think they I think they even I actually asked them about it. I once had a meeting with them. I was trying to get them to sell my visualizing terror projects. Yeah. >> So he mentioned about the square the round. He just pointed it out. So like it triggered the I told him the story. I said is it true that the reb? So he said listen I haven't been around since then. I think it was Robert Clyde but he said listen the from Satar also once gave I'm pretty sure he said that. So he said I'm not surprised if the gave money to to then for sure the was a bigger if I remember correctly did not this is not the start so uh speak >> we're still live right now >> we're still live >> yeah I have to behave Yeah. >> Yes. I see I see it's actually quite the says also that uh uh people had their their signatures the stamps had had even animal has to do with parenting in general. >> It's a very interesting thing that yes that many of the which of course is the birthday of the Reb the fifth. Many of theans have an a lengthy exposition on principles of of education. >> Seamless parenting. Interesting. >> Yes, it's a very common theme parenting. >> Don't you have a parenting course of a child? >> Yes, I do have a parenting course. We had over 2,000 satisfied mothers and fathers who have been through the parenting course. And you're not putting it into a book yet, huh? >> No, not yet. >> Not yet. >> Got to milk it before you can. That makes sense. Yeah. Yeah. >> The reality is the book would be very different. This is an immersive experience. It's a six week course. >> I know you have interactive interactive. Yeah, >> it's a whole thing. >> I heard you're making interactive now in person at the Solar Center. >> Well, nobody knows that yet, but you just revealed it that we are going to do inerson. We're going to explore the possibility of an in-person option. >> That's going to be a premium though. >> That's Yeah, it's a high ticket item. We're going to have a separate I mean we did this online and for sure we'll do it in person as well. Separate men's and women's groups. >> So this this actually looks like a type of I would want this like a very fundamental I mean like you know very famous thing about >> Yeah. >> about kosher animals. >> We have to do it properly. >> Gota do it right. We gota do prepare it properly. pull up all the sources. Wouldn't that be nice? Pulling up the sources. You could pull up the >> Yeah, >> split screens. Show make a whole hand. Yeah, we could do that. Evergreen. I like that. >> That would be evergreen, by the way. >> It would. Of course. It's a very fundamental with shots like this. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. Take a like really lay it out nice. >> Yeah. >> Maybe we should do that for the baby. 60 in 60 years actually. Yeah, it is a whole other >> a lot of people don't realize that uh yeah the hag was really the deba's first safer >> and yeah as you mentioned 60 years >> not 60 years 80 years >> 80 years right was the first safer touch >> but that that's the taking from the freedom >> was more right right >> so >> even though there was a lot of in that officially as well >> yes Yes, >> I think commented I think commented about it also >> and people don't realize the depth of >> it's not just from letters it's it's there's a lot of depth >> right yeah >> we revealed parenting we revealed the weekly um a little bit of a hoot >> yeah discuss a different time Um, okay. Okay. Parenting weekly. What else? Any programs coming up with the Sward's house? >> I don't think >> I saw your status today. You had you had a nice group. A nice group. >> Group. Akan, Ohio. We had a nice group from Akran, Ohio. Yeah. Barashem. >> Yeah. Um, >> post that picture on Instagram so we could see. >> Yeah. And I tagged uh Misha Sankin who was the rabbi who brought them. [Music] Oh my goodness. I'm really wiped out and I got to learn Rambam still. >> Yeah. >> Okay. >> Yeah, that's actually okay. No, no. Thank you for taking the call. >> Yeah, we'll we'll properly do the Sikha sometime. We really should. I think it's like it's evergreen. >> It's evergreen. >> I can imagine. I think I would imagine also the hair probably has a nice uh >> nice uh >> call Yasi and ask him if he has something. >> Sure. I'm sure he has something on it. >> Yeah. But we should do something great. >> Great stuff. Yeah. >> Yeah. Okay. I'm going to >> Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I look forward to to the next uh next good stuff coming up. Thank you for doing this on a weekly basis. >> My pleasure. >> And by the way, the campaign I see your mom is almost there. >> Almost done. We're almost done. We're almost done. >> About 10,000 left. >> 10,000. That's it. That's it. Yeah. Not even. I 581. Well, before we leave, let's just do the math real quick. I'm just going to do my little calculator here. One second. >> Yeah. This morning, you sent out an email. broke it down basically like different strategies how how to reach the goal. >> 581 >> 330 - 600,000 is 18. Okay. Divided by 2. Okay. We need $9,335. That's it. >> 9,000 >> 9,335. 9335. 9335. We're just 9. We're we're we're in four digits now. We used to be in five digits. Now we're in four digits. >> So if we divide that into let's say $36. So you need 259 people. But if you do it over certain amount. Okay. You have a whole email class. I explained everything. Okay. >> All right. I'm do it. >> All right. Thanks for the call. >> Thank you. Thank you. play this book. >> What a beautiful call. Such a nice call. Someone's writing in the chat, "Hi, Rabbit. Big fan. I always learn a lot from you. It drives me a little crazy that there are many tangents from callers. If someone calls in, I wish they'd get to the point. I don't have patience." So, I just want to share something with you. Usually, the call-in show is like people call in with like deep issues and I like try to cut to the heart of it. I didn't do that pretty well sometimes. with Hashem's help tonight. I just wanted to kind of just I don't know, just chat. So, it was a little bit looser. I hope that's okay. It's just a little bit loose this time. Just, you know, having fun. Just having fun. Hope that's okay. Okay. Um, we're going to end the stream. Thank you everyone. Don't forget charity.comst charity.comrst. See? [Music]