Likutei Moharan Shiur with Rav Nachman Fried - Torah 6 The secrets of the intentions of Elul

So first thing is ask me [Music] I'll tell you I'm sure you learned in about you learned about connecting to the and from there whatever you can it can hurt it could only help the talks about specifically but especially when I don't know what I'm saying and I'm I I'm surrendering. So my the way I try to learn and the way I try to learn with others is the first thing is I I try to get into the position of trying to go into not that I'm trying to take something trying to receive something. Even though you would say every time we learn to we're trying to receive but there's receiving from a position of taking and there's receiving from a position of receiving. What is it? Right. So I didn't really learn the I'm looking for something to know on the Pure this week. Something inspiring on the Pure. So I look in this safer I look in this sa I look up according to the para and I want to get something but I'm really taking because I'm not positioning myself. I'm looking for something to because I want to find something I'm passion about this. When we learn to it doesn't make a difference which to we're learning. It's not about the passion. It's about my life. It's about how do I change my life? It's about it's about awareness of of understanding what is it that I'm challenged with? What is it that I'm how how how can I be proactive about not meeting my challenge being differently and then when I do meet my challenge how do I get out of my challenge and if I fail in my challenge what do I do then has all the stages all the stages he goes through all the stages s he gives you medicine proactively how to save yourself from challenges that those type of challenges shouldn't even be challenged or that you could detect the challenge right away. I be able to sideswipe the challenge or if I'm in the challenge, I should be able to be victorious in that challenge. Or if I fail in the challenge, how do I fix it? Is all about fixing. There's almost not a he doesn't talk about a problem and a challenge. He doesn't talk about how to fix the problem. So the first the first verb here is surrender. I am surrendering to this sadic for this moment for this time. And when I do this, I don't know. I I did not look at the Torah before. I've learned this already before in my life, but I I didn't I because I didn't know which to to learn the Hey, I said, you know, I'm coming in together with everybody. We're going to learn the Torah together because the Reb is going to teach us the Torah today as if I never heard the Torah before. I'm going to learn something today together with we are going to learn something together and we're going to be able to apply it in my life today and tomorrow and like you said we're going to it's not just the of the fascination of the but the of how do I apply this how do I internalize this how do I change how do I live my life differently tomorrow than I live my life today so when I say hari masha I'm going to the place of surrender. Reb, talk to me. I know that you're going to talk to me. You always talk to me and I'm opening my brain and I'm opening my heart. help me get close closer to so that's the introduction to [Music] this is a telling it's time time it's time for you to depart cross bring because it's time I told you about this In last week's P we spoke of but now I'm telling you this is the real time. This is the time and this is all in you have it in you have it in in in in the end of the so this is talking about passing over the torch to Yeshua but physically passing over the torch to Yeshua and as you learned in the in the previous starts off with either or a and Then he goes away from the Pik completely until the end and he builds a whole building of different things. And then if you the map of the PI fits in in a different way. It's not just that it fits in. It's a nice ver. But all of a sudden you have a new message in what happened then that's happening now. That's another very important thing is always to understand that even when the Reb talks about sadik he's always talking to you it's not like he's telling you this is just there if if it was we didn't have to give a little for us everything here even when it seems like it's not talking to me it has to be talking so how let's see how this is going to be talking to to This is a very loaded statement. I want to briefly explain it. I would like to try to go through Alf and B just review the map and then start to analyze with your permission since it's just me and you. So Reb says here that you have to minimize your own cover and maximize the cover of Hashem. We're going to talk about this. Believe me, just this statement alone, we could have a whole sh on this sentence. We could stay on this for the whole sh. But I want to progress and try to bring a few points out. Someone who chases he's not going to merit and soon we'll see what is but what will he get? He's going to get what does it say about the honor of king the honor of the king you have to investigate what does it mean everybody is investigates after this person and they ask me who's who is this person. And what is this person said? They get such honor and they they they fight with him on him. They said, "You're not ready for this cover. Look what's going on in the world right now. You can just see right now with Donald Trump, right? Right. You see it's it's on every single type of thing that they could try to find not to this right but someone who runs away from this cover that what does it mean he runs away from the cover the reb is expressing running away from co is being it's minimizing your uncover and to be then real which is the godly coven and then nobody investigates his if he's or if he's not this person says the honor of God is hidden What does it mean? Because you're not allowed to investigate and and and and dwell in to this. So in review, there's two types of the honor of kings is a covered that's mean everybody's asking He's not worthy of this honor. And then is a covenant that nobody asks us is telling you. If this is a godly covenant, how do you know now what is and what's the gave a very simple thing? Someone the mission says someone who's right is considered someone who is considered. Now what determines what's considered and so the reb gave us a phrase in the beginning to tell us someone who's seems like it's too he has to be with it. We'll talk about it afterwards. He has to be might with his own covenant and that is someone who is running away from because he doesn't want the cover for himself. He wants only. All he wants is to be [Music] not because you're giving it to the human automatically. >> Oh, so you're asking a question. Good question that you I think this is what you ask me. If I'm being I'm automatically being how could I be without being is it possible? No. So, but the Reb seems to say it's two of now you're asking different questions. What does it mean to be if I don't know? So, different is telling you is not that I don't know. It's it's that when I'm in this now you're could be what you're saying is later on we'll tell you we'll we'll we'll come to to it's a good first of all it's a good deal question is a good question but let's go on the simple surface level without going into depth of it here the tell you is that when I see I am not allowed to be on this cup so it's not that it's host but it is you'll see later that you're right also but let's wait so again that's now let's go to and then we'll come back to the it's impossible to get to this like you said how do I get to the only way for me to get to is through now these are big words these words. Every breath of knows this word. Every single bre knows this word because saying the question gives us tells us saying no. I got a new a whole new remedy, whole new recipe for children. You want to know what is here? His humiliation, his shame. What's the difference between? >> So what does it mean? >> Very good. Is just being quiet. But I'm still angry inside. And I'm still not accepting it. So he accepted it not only. So the question is then why is it it should be should be first and then no that you should hear your and the first thing is right away I'm I even though I don't feel acceptance yet I know it's from you Hashem. I know it's not my wife. I know it's not my children. I know it's not my friend. I know it's not my it's not the environment. I'm I'm I'm feeling shame and humiliation and I know it's coming from you and that is my there's a big question is that means I have to wait. The question is like this in order for me to do I have to wait for you to shame me. How could it be? How could it be? I have to in order for me to do you shame me in order for me to do the says he hears his own shame >> and soon we're going to talk about it there's I want to get to but when a person hears his own shame how do you hear your own shame we're going to talk about it what does it mean to hear your own shame we're going to get to it today now he goes a Let's we're just going to say the word there is no needs. There's no without a what does that mean? Needs a represents and we know is let's just accept it. Okay. Covered. There's no cover without a cover. What does that mean? It's by the way I don't know. First of all, I don't know. I don't pretend to know. I don't know. So I'm going to say it in maybe we could say just something to listen to to be able to satisfy us to go back to but does there is no does not there's no cover without represents is the highest and is the shame of and is means I am ready to exist not I exist I am ready to exist. Says the he's explaining why is I'll explain to you why there's no without and is because is what is chuva chuva is I want to start again. I want to come back to you. I want to return to you. I am ready to exist. That means till now and now I want to do. So means I want to exist. I am not living. So maybe I was existing but I'm not living. I need I am ready prepared to exist and live. So now the reb explain before a person goes he's not really in as if he was not even put into this world he's no there's no because he's better off not being born than being born when a person comes to purify himself to do chuma Then he goes into a new category called which is because till now when he was in he had no and now that he wants a new cha he wants to purify himself now he's saying okay now I'm ready to exist I'm ready to exist because living is only living spiritual if I'm not living spiritual if I'm not living with connection to hashem then I don't then I'm existing I'm not living I I'm alive the animals are also alive but if I want to be in if I want to be present if I want to live the moment not the past and not the future moment they say about where I heard this from he said like this we say the reason in front of me and from behind me what about where I am >> in front of me. How about you protect me from the sun in front of me? What about where I am? Where I am? Doesn't that have a place? >> He said, I don't remember from who he said it from, but he said like this that because we the only has power on the future and on the past to tell you ah you know what you did yesterday. Who are you? And you know tomorrow ah who you fooling tomorrow you think you're going to change it's one day two days three days I'm gonna get you but he has no power in the present. So he's always distracting you with the past and the future but he has no power in the present >> when a person and that's why the is you tell not now >> in an hour okay I'll meet you in let's in an hour in an hour not now what >> he's already >> if you look live in the present you have a power over him in the present the only power he has is that he doesn't let you live in the present. He's always making you live. Do we live in the present? 99% of the people we do not live in the present moment. We're either worried about tomorrow or we're we're fed about something that happened yesterday. But living in the present, we don't have. But if a person is able to live in that present moment and and accept the present moment whatever he's going to go through in the present moment that's that's I will exist is I exist but is I ready to exist now is in the is before the forgot how I think this is not my forte but I but is before the bri is in the and and I forgot maybe I don't remember is in the future I think you had it in that remember when a person knows that everything that goes through happens there is for his goods. That means he's able to say on something tragic says today we make a good and dynam to see that the things that are tragic and bad are really not bad >> cuz there is no bad Even the most horrible thing that we look at horror and tragic the is not that when we see the view from the internal view when we able to that's what das is when you see the view from an internal view you see that there's no nothing there's nothing only we're looking from the external view so the external view we have a okay so going back to the Power of Havaya is the power of present. Shouva is I am ready to become present. I'm not present yet but I am ready to become present because till now I was not I was not present. And when I was not present, I had no reason to be existing to to live in the world. But now that I have so I know that is the of which is the highest place of the of this place of this place of of I want to exist is the highest place. Why? Even though it's a crown means a crown, it's a lot of waiting which is of tell us if someone comes to be himself they help him and says how do they help him someone who comes to buy uh pimmonics you You know what is they tell him wait it's like a very good smelling uh fruit and and they say he comes to buy it and they say one second wait a minute let me go get it for you. So you see that like the tells us there's a le wait for me a little bit and I will I don't know we have to look at the T but I think it means and I will show you. In other words, we're learning from the Reb is telling us this Madre of Chuva which is which is which is this place of I am ready to exist. This is of course chuva comes with patience you a person can decide and he can he can make the decision that from now on I'm not I'm going to be about cha but it takes time. It's a process. It's not something that just the decision happens in a second. I know some of them are heavy but the of it the bringing yourself into that is a process because you have a lot of baggage to uncover says the but before the person then this this is not you don't he doesn't have the ability to see this part of I am ready to exist it's because it's still in he doesn't he's not able to see this place because he didn't do any kind of preparation to ex to live in this world and look at the the the aristic the the star the backwards pronunciation of is you know there are many ways to say hashem's name all the names of one of the ways is called why because I always go back to the previous letter so if it's alf and then hey y right ea so al so I'm writing out alf Alf. So I'm always going back to the previous letters. That's called. So if you spell out and you calculate it all together, it's 44. That's that's 44. And that's the of going back. That's why it's called the of is what's hidden. The isis that are hidden behind al the is that are hidden behind it. That is the the ISIS of of Alf that is called that's 44. I'm sorry. Now let's go back to the what is what's the doubt here tell us is says by when when when I think learn I think learns from that she didn't want to be mouthing Yehudo and tell him that it was your child that I'm carrying so he that is not whoever this belongs to cuz she didn't want to be says over there person it's he's considered why a person gets embarrassed what color does he turn the that's so is like the says I'm not sure what the puzzing I have to look up the puzz look it up the next week I will have looked it up because the blood that's in the the chamber of the left chamber of my heart which the left chamber of my heart that is the place where the lives Like the tells us the and the left part is the part of the which is the so when the blood is still in there the is he's got me years and years 56 years he's got me in his trap he has me sucked into his place so the the blood I have bad blood that's streaming through circulating through my body. So now the is sending me they are here to help me even though I am not in cha right now. What's the ticket? How do I how do how do I get out of this trap of this blood says you remember D and D are the same letters just different right? So you should change into which you said before is accepted that he should be from the people who listen to their shame and they don't answer. And he should not be on the fact that he was shamed his shame. And when he's this acceptance to the he takes his pain and shame to the that the will take all the things away from him. All the like says and If you're going to accept to which means you're going to take your pain to the say my shame is from you. My shame is not from them. This is you that shame. This is you that wants me because you're doing it as a gift to me. You're giving me humiliation as a gift. I want to tell you I forgot who which of one bre and he said if we would know maybe the reb could be it's a secret from the I don't remember where I heard it but if we would know the the the value of shame we'd be begging for more shame because the shame is healing shame is when we take shame and we accept shame it's healing We're going to explain to I hope I don't know if we're going to get to that today, but that is come to a m where my heart is that's going to minimize the dam in the left chamber of the heart. They say so that's how you merit that when you are that's how you so you see that so just a quick review Is it possible that he should not have >> possible not to answer? Let me tell you, let me just tell you the first place to uh to start working on the >> your wife. Your wife is constantly humiliating. >> She doesn't she doesn't need it. >> She I said this. Let me tell you like this. Let me explain. the the the woman is a mab, right? And you're the mashia. That's the man is the mashia. The woman is the mab. What is the what what am I supposed to give the the woman? Spiritual, emotional, and physical. Those are the three components. I am obligated. You're obligated. We when we took that because that's just me. We took on ourselves to provide. What are we providing? We're providing for them physically food, clothing, and we're also providing for them emotional. And we're also providing them spiritual. We're giving them spirituality, emotional and physical, if you want to call it a different thing. What up? One second. Let's just start with just take it for for a thing and we can go into dissect each thing. >> So the woman knows that she's supposed to be receiving three components. >> Come home your wife. >> If she's not receiving one of them, any one of them doesn't make a difference. What >> she's not happy tomorrow >> and she feels void. >> She does not express herself. If she's a good woman, she suppresses it and she's not happy her whole life. If she's a bad woman or or could be the opposite, she's acting out and and and and you don't know what's flying. She's always hanging her hook on a coat on the wrong hook because she's going to say, "You you didn't do this. I did do this." But she but you know what you didn't do. She's not she's not using the story. She's telling you that I'm not getting something from you and she knows the alarm. The alarm goes on. Boom boom boom boom boom boom. The alarm goes on. I am not received. So what do we do? We defend. What do we do? We defend. Especially let's what you're talking of on a good I didn't do what she's saying >> what is not a solution >> we defend first thing is what do we do not what are we supposed to do first thing is what do we do we defend we defend ourselves and we say the more you defend she doesn't want to be stupid because you're saying this I didn't do this and you found what if you found your way out like we all are to find our way out still not happy you were right but you lost the fight you won the war and you lost you won the battle you lost the war because the end she's not happy she's not convinced you didn't change her you didn't convince her because she know 100% you're not doing your job and your job is to provide for me all these three things so if she acts Right, >> which I'm sure every one of us knows. Every woman acts out. Every woman at some point acts out and we accept humiliation. Why do we accept humiliation? Because you understand that I'm talking like big words like as if I know this. I don't have it. Believe me, I'm working on this every single day. But the is talking through her and it's not her that's humiliating me but that's humiliating me through her and I understand that this humiliation is actually for my benefit because the reason why I need this humiliation is because I was not and I want to do cha and in order for me to do cha I need to let go like the ra says I need to get rid of this urge of the of each person's urge of whatever thing that I'm running to. And we're all addicts and we're all running to something to be able to escape to even even we're escaping. We're escaping because we don't want to sit there and accept the humiliation. The humiliation is a gift. >> No, I'm saying big words. I wish I could be doing what I'm saying. But that's what it comes out from that every now is that you should be able to hear it from yourself. What does it mean to hear it from yourself? How long do we have by the way? >> Two more minutes. So, so let me finish like this. There is there are two B's and there are two U's and there are two U's. This needs a bigger B of maybe next week we'll we'll go into there's the real me and there's the pretend me and we're fighting with each other. What's the real me? The real me is my mom that wants to serve. The pretend me is my ego. All the things that conditioned me and layered me and developed me and the people that when I see you and when you see me and when I see you, who do we see? We're seeing this pretend person that in the pretend person there is some real person in that in that pretend person. If I start recognizing that my ego is my enemy and not my friend. And what is ego? Ego is edge God out. Is I'm I'm pushing God. It's me. Here is the place which means what about me? What about me? There's always a what about me? Yes, this Hashem. Hashem is here. Hashem is there. Hashem is truly ever. But what about me? There's still I had today I was driving and a car tried to cut me off. You're going to show me I I I blocked him. Why? Why? I don't even know the guy. Why? cuz he wanted me mash bill me and I wasn't ready to accept him. Afterwards, I went to his I said, "Boy, I'm so sick. I don't even know the person. This is I'm gonna my ego is so big. My ego is so big that I can't accept that a a driver was a school bus driver. I can't a lady mean something to me that I I couldn't I'm not ready to accept my humiliation. I'm not ready. I start recognizing my humiliation. night. I should start seeing myself the other me. This me that's ugly angry little child me that doesn't want to give in to the lady that that that tried to cut me off. This ugly me I accept it. Accept it.