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Likkutei Torah Inyan Krias Shema #4: Is Self Love a Jewish Thing?
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Good morning. Welcome everybody.
So we're on the fourth year of the
mimer.
We're middle of
the last and third chapter of the mimer.
So if you go to you go to vasan page 24
the first column. We're close to the top
of the column. In the Hebrew it's dyb
column three. Yudbay column three.
We started gimmel last time. So we're
holding page 24. The first column. You
see in the Hebrew it's ud column 3. Youb
column 3.
Okay, today's is dedicated by the
Mandel family.
That's Mosha's wife's family in honor of
their dear mother and mother-in-law,
Mrs. Khani Mandel, on the occasion of
her birthday, Masletov. You know it was
the Shvig's birthday,
>> huh? yesterday. Okay. Tazian,
huh? Or the English?
>> Okay. Mazlev on her birthday. Beyond her
dedication to her family, Mrs. Mandel's
warmth has touched countless lives
through her work as a birth doula, a
life coach, end of life doula, guiding,
supporting, uplifting, inspiring
people at life's most profound and
extraordinary moments. So, her family
dedicates this in her honor. May bless
her with
many years of happiness, health,
prosperity filled with good health and
continued nas and strength to carry on
her remarkable impact on so many for
many years to come. Amen. And you should
have nas from your mother-in-law and
your mother-in-law should have nas from
you and all of us should have nakas from
our mothers-in-law and they should have
nakas from us. And uh yeah, Mrs. Mandel
comes to our shabas morning class and is
a very special person together with her
husband and her beautiful family. So
happy birthday and all of the blessings.
Thank you. Thank you very much.
Okay.
So I hope to finish the mid today. I'll
be traveling. So the going to be taking
a break as I wrote. We'll be resuming
the week of September 2nd.
Okay. Don't stop learning during the
next few weeks for shalom.
So
>> very good. Very good. Good. Good. That's
said. Yeah. The fish in the water. Huh.
Yeah. Good.
>> The flame needs to burn on its own,
right?
even when the match is not there.
[Music]
Okay. So, I'm not going to give a
summation of the mimer because you know
what happens with my summations.
But I'm just going to say what we
learned in the beginning of of P gimmel
after peric alf which focused on
the whole idea of sedalos
the entire structure of the cosmos from
the highest to the lowest the most
sublime to the most physical
and peric bay went on to discuss how all
of has an and then there's something
called
like we say in the Morning. Dav
explained the whole idea of and not
to the author of
Hashem himself the
and
what we call of which saturates every
aspect of the world but completely
everything is in the womb of Hashem and
therefore doesn't
constitute any concealment or
distraction from that and he spoke that
that's the
which brings to
we explain at length what means you
could love not with all your heart
because the soul has many layers
people love war novels as he says they
love war stories and they love economic
analysis if they're in business but it
doesn't touch them the way their own
life touches them and in that itself is
deeper and deeper and deeper until you
touched with what you called
a love
and that's what means and this
you can't force
this is something that touches a person
in their core so the entire heart space
opens up that's the word
means that your entire heart space opens
up your entire all the way to the
deepest deepest space such a thing you
can't fake take you can impose and you
can't do through force
even lower levels you can't do through
force emotions you can't force certainly
not a place of where the entire heart
space opens up but in this of that comes
from the
this was the whole length what means
this opens up the
Um because it's it's it touches the
person in their totality and in every
aspect and the person is fully there.
There's the relationship is fully fully
in in intact because nothing can block
it. As he said there's no there's no
islopus.
He said that's essentially the whole
doning is a preparation for
that the shouldn't just be a word. It
should be a lengthy. What does it mean?
lengthy an all-encompassing experience
could be
means that the fills you up completely.
It's it becomes
it's prolonged until it it encompasses
it fills it saturates it penetrates the
person
and that's
love
that the love is a completely different
type of love
and the the explained that
that the the whole
isan for that you go through and he
explained how the whole works with the
from the all the way down to heaven and
earth
and when the person really appreciates
it they can emotionally
appreciate this question and that is
every moment I have energy every moment
I have a mental capacity what am I going
to invest it in am I going to invest it
in something that is its entire reality
is based on concealment
more concealment more concealment more
concealment more concealment or I want
to be present I want to touch the
texture of reality itself which is the
had a and he said that when a person
really gets this meditates on it
appreciates it understands it and lets
it fill his or her system so he says
This was the end of Bicov.
Do I want to live in a place of
concealment? Do I want to attach myself
to a reality that's essentially a
concealment of reality and that's where
I want to live? or to live in the with
an open heart in the openness of space
of the ultimate reality.
And Gibly asked a big question. And if
so, why is it that the
were not
long especially not
sobb explained that this all has to do
with spiritual sensitivity
said
which means with one knot am I knotted
am I bounded am I connected to Hashem
so he says the was nitpas. It was
grasped in their heart
through a small hisbanus one time and it
was like a peg like a nail that's
etched. You know, you nail it. It was
nailed in the heart and they didn't
budge
and from this grow out their entire life
and all of their learning.
So, it's not about time, it's not about
words, it's not about text, it's about
how open, how fertile you are to, so to
speak, get it. Because this is like a a
secret. It's a secret. It's not
something that's tangible. It's not
something you could preach about. This
experience is talking about is not
something you could lecture about. It's
not like if you heard three hours, you
got it. And if you heard 10 hours, you
got it more. And if you heard it 30
hours, you mamish mastered it. And if
you heard it for 10,000 hours, like in
every sport, now you're the dish master.
You can hear it for 10,000 hours, for 30
hours, for 10 hours, for three hours,
ungarnished. And sometimes 30 seconds
boom because it's not we're not talking
about the data of it. Information is
good. That's all that's all. It's like
the map.
But the nuda the the experience of it to
be able to have that serenity, that
calmness, that trust. It's the frequency
of trust that connects to the frequency
of love that connects to the frequency
of surrender where you're viscerally in
the womb of Hashem. Not intellectually
like we always talk about but viscerally
like it's like your body feels it
in the in the in in the most
>> nerve endings.
>> Your nerve ending. Exactly. All the
nerve endings feel it. Yeah. There's no
urgency. There's a very very deep
regulation
also. There's no transactional
relationships over there. It's not like
I'll hear for you and you'll be here for
me and it's like scoring points. It's
complete complete presence and it's very
very authentic and very very humble. So
he says the
they had such a sensitivity to this that
momentarily they had they were there
that they can go into that frequency of
reality right preum so to speak very
very swiftly and he gives an example he
says when you start learning guru with a
child huh
yeah
in bay tradition was even in bay sheni
did but there was mainly and the
ofrishna and then later with generations
more things were added. So he says
that's exactly what it has to do with
and he gives the example of a child.
This was at last point. A child was
starting to learn Gmorra
at a young age. The concepts are so
foreign. The way of thinking is so
foreign
that the main a of the teacher at that
point is to be able to usher in this
child to a new way of thinking about
reality. The analysis, the dissecting.
He says even the cases are foreign to
him. He doesn't live in the world of
disputes and fights about money. You
know, if you're learning these makas
about civil disputes, whether it's
partners or neighbors or mazikim,
somebody damaged, he doesn't live in
that world. He's not he's not etched in
that. He's not he didn't grow up in a
law firm where these cases are coming
every day. And now the question is what
Gamora has to say about it. So the whole
world has to be introduced and he says
and a good teacher gives more and more
and more examples visuals and examples
and metaphors and he says malitz
different words and different ways to
bring it to life.
The same child you know 15 20 years
later the same it could take him a few
moments he right away
why is it because you have to open him
up to a new world. So it takes much more
time. You need much more vis
visualizations. You need much more
examples. You need to bring down to
down. He says you have to bring a malam
down to down events. Like sometimes
they'll make a play, you know, of of of
an actual disputing, right? These kids
are represent this side and that. What's
the point of it?
The point is to make it real, to be able
to make it visceral, to make it to make
it tangible.
He says
because he's so far from the whole of
the and all the facts even the what goes
on in the world to be able to appreciate
this. So this is an example he's saying
of different types of dvening also. So
dava the person who's much far from it
needs much more. They need more
initiation. They need more examples.
They need more relevant metaphors. Why?
Not because they're closer to it. On the
contrary, she says that's the difference
and their davine could be extremely
swift because they were there. It was
very easy to get there. There was no
there was no traffic. So you get to your
destination very fast. But he says
put it
to be able to viscerally to be able to
reorient reorient. Yeah. That that which
I intuitively see or feel could just be
a coping mechanism and a distraction and
a way of going into a place of stress
and anxiety of control and detaching the
energy from its source. A person has to
be able to be open to this and it needs
training. It's it's how to look at
things. It's how to feel about things
because intuitively
you know our infantile the mushel is so
important because it's really about an
infantile nervous system right what Dr.
is talking here about he's giving a mush
of a child learning a new thing and he's
giving a mushel for the whole of of of
e. It's really our nervous system
responds to what it knows viscerally.
It learned how to respond to life from a
place where it can be protected. Yeah.
That's what everybody's nervous system
does. When it meets somebody, when it
encounters anything, it just responds to
what it knows of how to keep itself safe
and comfortable at that moment. whatever
that looks like. And that's where
stress, that's what stress is, that's
what anxiety is, that's what fear is,
that's what discomfort is, right? That's
what trying to please or numbing or
freezing or or becoming overwhelmed or
avoiding and all these things.
The nervous system says, "Don't stay
with an open heart. It's dangerous." You
don't with swords and knives and and and
sharp words. You don't do that. You
know, you you wear you wear a
bulletproof vest. you wear the right
gear. If you have to be defensive,
that's always a good method to be
defensive. If you could be smarter is
even better. So you could be successful,
you know, and that's how it operates the
world from a very very protected,
sheltered place. And we become so used
to it, you don't even challenge it. You
don't even challenge it. So the nervous
system is still infantile. It could be a
53 year old man, but the nervous system
is that of a 2-year-old. And the
2-year-old that learned to be in that
space. And as I explained, as we
explained last year two sh ago, nobody's
ever ever going to surrender completely
if they don't feel safe. It's just
impossible. That's not how God made us.
The whole point of our nervous system is
not to surrender when you're not safe.
The whole point of the amygdala is it's
like a fire alarm. When there's a fire,
it screams. It makes it makes you
miserable until you shut off the alarm,
right? Because that's its job. That's
its job. This is not safe. There's a
fire. There's smoke. With the smoke,
there's fire. This is not a safe place.
It's screaming. That's its job. Now you
say, "Surrender." No, no, I'm not. I'm
not going to surrender. You could bypass
it, but that's not surrender. That's not
You'll right away feel you're bypassing
it. It's a tortured surrender. Surrender
only comes when all the pieces come
together.
That's why this is such an important
communication to be able to help your
whole
come back to the source, right? You
can't bypass. That's the whole point.
You want to you have to bring back your
whole what's your whole
it's basically your entire uh your
entire structure from head to toe from
your all the way down to the to the nail
on your toe. That's your from your own
to your own. That's your
the whole is based on as he explained
the whole thing from beginning to end is
the interface right that was the whole
idea and we all have within us that
deeper part the rat that's higher than
but if my entire feels unsafe
it can't open itself up to that it will
remain a a big big it's like a in the
mikvah the water will not get there.
Sorry, I don't let you come in there. My
job is to create a and a not to let the
water come in, not to let that flow come
in. That was the main the main the main
says that's why they created more dingal
made more ding not to make a bigger
burden but to understand that people
need more energy, mental space, time,
resources to be able to go into this
space every single day because it's not
a one-time thing. You're there and
you're there because the world slept you
out of it. That's what means means that
we got slept out of that oneness of
that.
We do become defined
doesn't become defined but we when we're
not in that presence of we do become
defined and reduced and and and filtered
and structured and then sometimes
completely restricted to the point of
where there is complete concealment.
That was basically did I give a good
okay
I tried
I don't mean to myself I mean to the to
the
okay so let's now see further we're on
24 one two three one two three four five
six seven
those who didn't hear the previous shim
I will suggest that you should listen to
the previous shim because it's extremely
extremely fundament all every m is
fundamental but this is an extremely
since we're learning this mimer. So now
this is extremely fundamental mimer not
just first of all in understanding but
also the relationship between
understanding and feeling of everything
that teaches and all the this is
extremely fundamental and as I said in
the beginning that he said this actually
to a specific person so that's why it
could be he explained things also with
more elaboration
>> huh yeah
>> one more intimately yeah you could see
one two three four five six seven lines
from the top on 24
>> even if you listen Listen
again.
>> Okay. If you listen, it's to listen
again. Yeah.
Yeah. So,
and that's why they were later and also
the two beforeh which again didn't exist
in the beginning because blessings come
later. So, that only comes later. Why
did they do all this?
is that should be
it should be yours. What does it mean
yours? It dwells in you. It's revealed.
What does it mean revealed in you? It's
yours. Your heart experiences it.
>> It's not just an idea that's above you
or inside of you, but this really
becomes part of you.
And this is also that this is the
preparation of Dining which is so to
speak the ability for a person to be
able to tune into this deeper frequency
and isal
appreciating that everything is the name
like we spoke at length what the name
means. Malus is all the name
and that's what makes
and then to be able to bring that name
back to the source and these are the
words
he says is
the word is and represents three words
right
and they're all in that word because
is that's present
is was with a in the beginning is it
turns H into future when you put a in
the beginning. So the H becomes which
means it will be. So h was ha is that's
what the v is h it is now present tense
and y is future tense has a combination
of all these three words you have hey y
and you have and inv
so you have and
what is why is this so important because
it represents this reality that that's
beyond time how can was is and will be
in be in one word doesn't work in one
you know either you were there or you're
there now or you're going to be there
now you can't have I was and I will be
in the same moment in the same
experience that's all in the freak in
the realm of time in the realm of time
you can't but
time is also created the beginning is
also created so in
in it's so therefore it also synthesizes
and integrates
so this should be au what's aashalonu
So you're not just saying two names.
You're saying this, if I could say this
consciousness or this truth of should
become my truth. It should become it
should be my God. This is like it says
in when you think about it's your energy
is
our energy, our frequency, our
what should that be? It should be. How
can beuo? That's not how my
consciousness rolls. There was, there
is, and there will be. Everything is in
time. We can't work outside of time. So
that's when you say that should be
there's only one way I can experience
it. Complete surrender. That's what
means creates, right?
The way people translate bit always say
this is self-nullification
means unification. So which one is it?
Are you nullified or are you one? It's
the same thing over here. Surrender
makes you you have you can't have
without. The only thing that stops this
oneness is the separation. The sense of
separateness, the sense of ego. And ego
doesn't necessarily mean arrogance. As
we said, ego could sometimes be fear,
insecurity. That's sometimes ego. Ego
basically means that you're really
separate. And therefore, you have to
protect that separateness. That's what
all ego is. Protecting your vision of
self as separate from Hashem. That's
probably the best definition of ego ever
given. Protecting your vision of self as
separate from Hashem and busy protecting
it. And some I can invest 90 years in
protecting it and actually doing a
pretty good job at least for the people.
But of course, you know yourself that
you're you're there's a torture there
because you're dissonance. You're not
connected. you're not connected with
reality. You you you created, you know,
like in in in business what they call a
Ponzi scheme, right? We all know what a
Ponzi scheme is. Unfortunately, a lot of
people have been uh um manipulated. What
is that? You have a huge huge stock
portfolio. People are giving you a lot
of money. You're telling them on paper
that they're getting back, I don't know,
20%, 30%, 60%. 100% 200% and nothing is
true. No, nothing is true. So people are
investing and investing, investing, but
it's like pouring m water in a cup that
has a hole because nothing nothing is
true. So how many more lies do you have
to say to hold up something that's not
true? How much more mental work and
energy do you need in order to give
reality to something that doesn't have
reality? You have to be really a genius.
You have to be creative
>> and it's exhausting because it's 24/7.
It's like holding up a ball in the air,
fighting gravity. So you could throw up
a ball, but if it has to be in the ear
24/7, it's exhausting, right? Every time
it lands, you have to do it again. You
can't you can't have that's what it
means. It's literally it's I think a
very good mush. Holding up the ego is
literally like holding up a ball in the
air 24/7. You know how much mental space
you need for that? No, you are in the
air. I'm not. I belong on the ground.
No, you belong in the air.
Right. And you you're like fooling the
ball like you don't belong on the
ground. you belong in the air. So it's
like it's it's it's it's it's defying
reality and it's it's it's the person
going to that space.
BL is letting go of that completely
letting go of that. On one hand it looks
like the hardest thing but really
becomes the easiest thing because you're
in flow. The ball is not fighting
reality anymore. It's in flow. Let it
just land. It's happy. It'll be happy.
Let it be. Doesn't have to be anywhere
else. Doesn't have to be anywhere else.
So that's what means how does it become
how does it become mine through
on this says this week's next week's par
you're children of here again he uses
the word which invar is always
very
what does this idea
have an expression a child is a son. A
child is k from the word is the leg the
knees or the leg of the avu of the
father. What does that mean? What does
it mean? A child is davu is the leg of
the father.
Well, so literally you'll say he's an
extension of the father. Um he continues
the father's way after the father passes
away. You know he kyra like he continues
that path. That's
but says there's something much deeper
here.
The idea of
is think about the legs relationship.
The leg or the foot is leg or foot. The
relationship of the leg and the head.
What's the relationship? The
relationship of the is complete unity.
There's a b means. What's b here mean?
the regul is nullified. The ro wants to
destroy it. That's not what a head is.
If a head wants to destroy its legs,
yeah, then you should call 911 on that
head because that's a very sick head.
How do you know your head is not sick?
It wants to protect its leg. It wants to
protect. That's what a head does. A good
brain, what is it thinking about 247?
How to crush the rest of the body. How
to destroy the how to be matal the body.
That's what a head wants to do. I want
to destroy my heart. I want to destroy
my kidneys. I want to destroy my liver.
I want to let's start with the legs.
Let's start destroying the legs. That's
not what a brain does. A healthy brain
says no. What do I want? I want my leg
to be the healthiest, the most optimal,
the most functional. So what's the regal
is but it's so important. What's the but
it means that the regal is not separate
from the it's completely one identity.
It's not like oh I have two parts to me.
I have my head. I have my it's one. It's
one organism and they're constantly
working together and there's no
separateness between them.
>> Yeah. Yeah. And what's the job's job is
to bring them all into coherence, right?
What what what does a brain do every
single moment? It's it's it's it's
unbelievable muscle because what does a
brain really do? The brain is aware of
every single cell in the body. And you
know how many cells there are? There are
approximately 60 trillion cells in your
body. Not 60 million. Even you ever have
of 60 million things in one moment? Try
to in your mind how many things can you
think about one moment? Okay, so your
wife can think about 30,000 things in a
moment, but most men it's usually three
and that's already too much.
>> But even women who are quintessential
multitaskers, not 60 trillion cells,
sorry. So who created this brain?
That's where people think, you know, the
brain just randomly just randomly
emerged, but it could hold of 60
trillion cells and what everybody needs
and it's making millions of decisions
according to the needs of everybody.
It's it's beyond that's what we say
every day.
It's the biggest pel biology. It's the
biggest big not just biology anyudiology
too. It's it's a mafly.
The moment you start studying the body
like atheism becomes a stickle joke
and and what's the function every body
should be able to get what it needs
according to its understanding of course
and if there's a little cut somewhere I
don't know if you know you get a little
scr suddenly billions billions and
billions and billions of blood cells
start running towards the wound to be
able like like
but not over there you have 20 people
Here you have billions, billions,
billions of cells running over to start
avoiding affect infection, avoiding
bacteria and protect whatever it's
fascinating and that's because you think
you got a little scratch. No, no, no.
The whole system is upended.
This is what a rush does. So when you
say the whole goof is bleed to the r,
that's why the head can can do it
because they're not busy looking at the
head and saying who made you boss you
idiot. We never elected you
democratically.
Nobody does that. And if your body
starts doing that, go to the hospital
very fast, right? Because there is a
sense we're not in competition. The head
is not here to manipulate a goof. The
head is is the goof. It's not two
separate things. The word is just human
language. It's really one unified
integrated organism. That is complete.
That's what a healthy person means. And
the regal is executing the head.
Everybody is just executing. Everybody's
just channeling the vision of the brain
literally. And everybody channels it in
their own way.
This is what the whole Yiddish is. This
is what we talk about when we speak
about Hashem. That's what that's what
he's going to say. This is all emotion.
And he says very interesting.
What happens if the brain has a message
for the leg? You know what? This is
going to be a procedure that's going to
be painful. Means to cause it pain for
you need a medical procedure. And here
he's going to give the famous medical
procedure that in these days in the
1700s, this was 1805, was very very
common and very very well known.
I don't know if you know about it, but
it's interesting.
If somebody has damaged his leg through
frostbite.
So the medical treatment at that time
was
to rub the leg with snow.
Means to rub it in snow because it was
very very cold. So somehow the snow
would help it.
And if the leg was scorched by fire,
the medicine was to actually warm it
with hot water in a in a hot bath in a
hot bath in a hot tub.
It's a very painful remedy.
It's very painful.
So here's my question. The leg is the
one going into this snow or going into
this hot bath. The reg is not marggo
doesn't have all the of all the medical
data of what the scientists and doctors
are saying. It's the
but nonetheless it never happens that
says sorry I'm the boss. You don't tell
me what to do. You want to put your head
in hot water. Gag is into hate. You want
me to go into the cold shower? You want
me to go into the snow? You want me to
go into this hot bath? Sorry, you could
do it. Oh, you don't want to do it. You
want the leg to do it. So, the D starts
explaining
I'm not narcissistic. I want to heal. I
want to heal you. The D says, "Sorry, I
don't I don't have any proof. I mean,
it's a humorous conversation. It doesn't
happen." Why? The answer is because the
regal and the are one.
Of course, the head feels the pain and
of course the head feels what has to be
done. And the regular is I'm just here.
I'm here with you. There's no
separation. Even though physically
they're so separate, physically they
have a different function, a different
chemistry, but that's
this is what it means. You're a child of
God.
Can you see yourself as the leg with the
head?
on this state of consciousness. Now you
could finally say the word. What'su? Our
God. Ours. It's mine. What makes it
yours? You owned him. You bought God.
You made him. You say, "This is my cup
of coffee. This is my tissue. Don't take
it." Yeah. This is my house. It's my
car. It's my watch. It's my jacket.
Okay. I paid for it. What makes God your
God? You owned him. You made him. You
you I understand that made God so they
belong to him. What do we say? Mine.
What's why is he mine? He's also yours.
Ours. What's the idea?
So he says, listen to this.
If you're one person, you could say
about all your limbs, mine hunt, mine
fuss, mine nose, mine cup. Right? If I
look at your nose and I say, "Oh, it's
my nose."
No, no. Something is off. It's called
the violation of boundaries. Your nose
is not my nose. My nose, I could say my
nose. That's not abusive. It's my nose.
It's my eyes. It's my head. On the
contrary, it's tender. You hope a person
could look at their whole body and say
it's my body. But if I come to your nose
and your stomach and I say it's my
stomach, we all understand that that's
inappropriate.
You when people start pinching
children's cheeks, you know, you're so
cute. You're so cute. They're like,
"Leave me alone. It's not your cheek."
But but if it's an you could say,
"The head belongs to the leg and the leg
belongs to the head." Why? Because it's
one person. You're
You say, "But you have a head and a leg.
A head and a leg are not two things.
There's one organism that's completely
unified and there's a central nervous
system that connects it all. There's not
one element in any part of the reg
that's not connected to the rish and
that's exactly how the person lives and
if that would be interrupted life could
was not life would not be possible
because there's literally wires like
what mish wires that connect every
nikuda and therefore the rish knows
everything that's happening everywhere
in the body and it could respond to it
both it can initiate and it could
respond how because it's constant
communication and again this is beyond
comprehension of how much communication
there is you know how many nerves we
have you know how many nerve endings we
have. It's it's it's it's beyond. And
everyone is sending messages constantly.
They're not sleeping. They don't go to
sleep. 2 in the morning, 4 in the
morning, 1 in the morning. They're busy
sending the R is responding whole time.
And it's not intellectual data. It's
it's it's it's it's energetically and
chemically exactly what needs to be done
and how it should respond and what to do
and what not to do. So of course, you
could look at your leg and say it's
mine. And the leg could look at the and
say, "Ah, it's mine. Mine cup, mine
force." They could say they could say
that on each other so to speak if we
would give them words
on another person who's separate. You
can't say he's mine. He says because
metaphorically people say you know
but mish to say
no you have to you have to respect the
integrity of separateness. That's part
that's part of of the human condition.
We could be connected. We could be
friends. We could be family. But you
can't say there's a there's a
difference. And and and it's important
to understand that there's a certain
privacy, there's certain boundaries,
etc.
To be able to say it's mine, you have to
be mish. So says to be able to say God
is mine. This is this is it. This is in
this is what a looks like. It's mine.
very emotional the whole how does Hashem
call himself
I'm yours I'm your God what do you mean
I'm yours I don't tell you my nose is
yours I don't say that it's not yours I
don't want it to be yours
if I come to a doctor I want the doctor
to help me with my nose it's not is
right. It's a very important idea. As
much as we're connected and we
appreciate each other, there's also
boundaries. Everybody understands that
if I'm going to start cleaning your nose
for you, you know what happens, right?
Unless a person is sick and they need
that help and that's also part of
respect. So when Hashem says and the
whole that's the name, I am yours.
You're mine and I'm yours. What is that?
So he says
why
this is
like a child when it's still in the womb
of the mother so to speak
it's
the only thing is there's
means that the way we emerge in the
world is with a separate consciousness
that goes through the whole evolution of
the whole is explaining from the highest
mountains
to the lowest spaces of reality and in
that process of there is perceived
separateness
and therefore longing
where you deep deep down the deepest
deepest pain of the person is deep down
that we miss Hashem.
That's the deepest pain.
And because that's the deepest pain,
confronting that pain is the direct
vista to bliss. Because the moment you
recognize that's your deepest pain, you
know what you're looking for. And the
moment you know what you're looking for,
you can actually look for it
and heal it and repair it. And therefore
in that in that very experience lay the
bliss for two reasons. First of all, you
know what your pain is so you're not
distracting yourself with looking for
things that are not going to satisfy you
because you know what you're looking
for. And second of all, you can actually
find out how to help that separation,
how to unite.
>> Yeah.
So that's what he says. So So what so
what is what does hashem really mean?
Actus hashem doesn't just mean God is
one. God is infinite. God is big. Of
course, but what does it really mean? It
means he's mine.
It means I'm his. It means that we're
really, really one.
That's what bit looks like. That's what
the frequency of bitta looks like. The
frequency of bit is that you let go any
sense of separateness.
which is what the body does naturally.
And that's what a healthy body does.
There's such deep communication and
oneness between the head and the leg.
They're just they're they're one.
They're not sitting and getting angry at
each other and competing with each other
like you don't take away my covenant and
who are you to control my the word
control doesn't come in here anymore. If
your leg feels that your brain is
controlling it like a tyrant, like a
dictator,
callsah.
If your heart like turns to who do you
think you are? I'm not pumping now.
We It's all funny because we That's what
death means. You know, that's exactly
what death is. Death is what's death?
Death is when the goof tells the nama
it's time to uh time for a get. It's
time to separate a little bit. Okay. The
nisha says I hear you. That's the
opposite of life. What is the definition
of life? That the nish and the goof are
completely one and that every part of
the goof is one. The and the regular are
completely one. So when you say the isle
the isle to the what does that mean? It
means that the wants to nullify it. But
means on the contrary that's how it
could be a leg. Imagine a leg turns to
the head and says I don't I have I don't
want any connection to you. You could
cut me off. I'm going my own way. The
head says no problem. I respect you. You
cut off the leg. What what happens to
the leg?
>> Becomes a piece of potato. It becomes a
piece of meat. Piece of meat and just
decomposes. Right? So the ble to the
gives it life. That's what BL means. BL
doesn't mean
you separate. You you lose your
independence and you become nullified to
a dictator. BL means you're actually
alive. You're part of the system. You're
part of a brilliant organism and you
have a major role there. And the more
you're connected and the more you're
nullified to that organ, the more you're
alive. The moment you say, "I'm not
interested in this. I have my own story.
I'm my own." Cut it off. It's a dead
It's not a leg anymore. It's a dead
piece of meat. And in a few days, it
will be eaten by the vultures.
Now, no vulture comes close to you. So,
brie
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is. So, it means being in reality, not
being an illusion. He says, "No, who are
you? I'm not part of a heart. I'm not
part of a head. I'm my own story. That's
what means.
>> Huh?
>> What?
>> Yeah. That's what it means. That's what
a desire is. That's what all ego is.
That's what all ego is. It's the leg
turning to the head and saying, "Who are
who told you? I don't need tyrants in my
life. I have my own way. I'm a smart
guy. I did it my own way. Cut me off. If
you don't cut me off, I'll cut myself
off." Or it's exactly what a leaf turns
to a tree and tells the tree, "Who do
you think you are to dictate that I
should be connected to you? I have a
life. I want to go to New Zealand. I
don't want to be in my too religious.
I'm going to New Zealand." So the the
leaf turns to the tree and says, "Cut me
off. If not, I'll cut myself off." The
tree says,"
which means
good luck. And you know the end of the
story, right? They cut over the leaf.
And you know where the leaf is now? It's
in the bottom of my sewage system on the
corner. On the way to New Zealand, it
fell into the sewage and it's draining
over there. And in a few days, it's
already black and brown. In a few days,
it's we're going to say
when the Gomorra says
when they're alive, what does that mean?
It's not a a mysterious thing. When
you're a wicked person, even when you're
alive, you're dead cuz you're going to
get it's literal.
You could be a dead man walking.
You're walking, you're alive. You may be
making a lot of rash or money, whatever
it is, but you you're dead. You know
when you feel dead, even when you're
alive, everybody knows the feeling.
You're dead. Why am I dead? Cuz I'm not
in flow. Cuz I'm not in BL. The only way
to be in flow, to be alive. What does it
mean to be alive? To be alive means
there's an organism. I have my organism,
but the whole universe is an organism
and we're all part of it. The moment I
say I'm not, I'm a dead man walking.
That's it. I am. Physically, I may not
see it, but emotionally it's like
there's a dissonance. You're you're
you're not part of the heartbeat of
life. There's one heartbeat. There's
only one heartbeat.
You don't have a 100 hearts in you.
There's one heartbeat. There's one
brain. Nobody has nine brains. Doesn't
work that way. There's one brain and
heartbeat to the universe. It's one
super oranism. To be in flow means
you're part of it. I'm the arm, you're
the leg, you're the kidney, you're the
heart. Everyone has their own a say
everybody's a
interesting
I think the Mishna says what happens
when they execute somebody let's say who
murdered or raar the death penalties the
time of the san when there was still
death penalties. This is you know before
uh before they stopped it which was
already before the they stopped it
already. So so so D says when when they
when they're executed when they're
giving the death penalty to the person
let's say a murder whatever it is. So he
says what does the do them? So he says
criesani
means I have such a terrible headache
like my head is spitt spitt splitting
migrate orani my arm is is like is
horren it's horrendously painful what's
the idea so the mafar explained and
other explain
that every every person is a a of the
it's a limb of
So when it's going through this process
even though it's for the it's it's the
itself
and this is the person who's being
executed that means even a Russia
they're not they're not really separate
the question is in your consciousness
how is it in your consciousness that's
the so
is a shift of consciousness it's letting
go of any version of self and identity
outside of being in perfect flow and a
conduit for the infinity that's just
flowing through me. And that's where a
person's calmness comes from. That's
where I let go. I'm not in control. If
not, I have to be small, safe, and in
perceived control here. I let go of that
and I go into reality.
And of course from this comes the
deepest creativity of people because the
word creativity comes from the word
creator. When you're a channel for the
creator his creativity could come
through you the moment I interrupt
myself. Ask a leg to be creative when
it's detached from the brain. Let's see
how creative your leg can be. So when
physically it doesn't work the leg is
dead psychologically we could fool
ourselves. That's the panzai scheme of
in this world of is where you could fool
yourself that you're being creative.
But it's not even 1% of your real
creativity. It's dead creativity.
And the deeper and the more unity you go
to, the more alive you are, the more
creative you are. That's why the only
real sort the only the only way you
could really be alive is through
complete b. And the deepest ble, the
more life. It's like it's like the
healthier the leg is, the more one the
leg is with the rest of the body, the
more alive it is. It runs faster.
There's more adrenaline. The blood is
circulating better. That's all the same
thing. What does it mean? The blood is
circulating better. What does blood
circulation mean? Blood circulation
means that there's one system. That's
what it means. The blood is going if you
if you separate the heart from the from
the leg, it's all over, right? It's one
system.
And
this is what Hashem means. If Hashem
means anything outside of this, it's a
it's a fake god. It's deities. It's it's
this is what it is. It's a space where I
don't know what it is, but it's
something that you want to surrender to
24/7. If you don't want to surrender it
24/7, you have a misunderstanding of
what Jewish theology is. We're comparing
God to some other forms of of of
deities, you know, Roman emperors,
powerful kings, Kaiser, Zars. That has
nothing to do with this. It's
You're right.
>> You're right.
The word Why Why don't you like the word
relationship? What's What What do you
>> Yeah, you're right. We use the word
relationship with Hashem, but it's a
very limited term because relationship
is really two people have a
relationship. And here it's not two
people.
>> Two identities.
>> It could be two identities. It's really
one. It's deeper than a relationship.
You're right. And that's why And that's
why your connection with God, your with
Hashem always needs to precede your
relationship with others, even with your
spouse and with your children.
People think it's the other way. It's
not the other way. The the best
marriages and relationships with a with
a wife or a husband or children or
anybody else, but I'm saying family,
even the closest, is all based on your
relationship with Hashem.
is you feed off.
>> Of course,
>> because because if not, then I need my
wife to give me the validation. I need
my kids to give me their validation.
>> Now, good luck. So, that means you're
waiting for your wife to be in the mood
that she can give you all the validation
you need. First of all, you have too
much insecurity for her to heal it.
That's number one. Cuz she got her own
insecurity to deal with. Okay? So,
that's number one. Huh?
>> That's the basics.
>> That's the basics. First of all, she
simply doesn't have in her bank account
enough to heal your insecurity and her
insecurity, right?
Plus dealing with her mother or
whatever. I'm just joking, but you get
the point. Number two, even if she does
at those moments, you need a real ace
ruten for that. And that ace rutson
maybe will come twice a year.
So, we become very, it becomes very
transactional. It's like, so based on
your mood, that's how much I could show
up as a man or as a woman. It's this is
it's negate to everybody. We're not
picking on men here. I could show up as
a man or as a father, as a friend based
on on so it's like very transactional.
It's like a it's like it's like a
business. If you have money to give me,
so now I could be here. If not, we're
we're canceling the appointment. That's
not how real relationships work. But if
you have a relationship with Hashem
or as says, it's not a relationship.
It's
what does mean? meaning like the leg and
the head.
You're mine
and I'm yours and that's why you're mine
cuz I'm yours.
So now you're filled in your deepest
space. Now you could be a leader. Now
you can give. Now you can show up. If
somebody is struggling, I could be there
for them.
If they're in a space where they can
give me tremendous feedback. Okay. So
it's the cherry on the cake. It's a
cherry on the cake. You came home and
your second half says to you amazing
things that fill your heart with with
such delight. So you have a cherry on
the cake
and enjoy it. It's not going to last.
I'm just joking. Hopefully it last.
Hopefully it lasts.
>> Symbiotic is a good word. Yeah.
Symbiotic.
Yo
>> beautifully. So that creativity is when
the energy of creator flows through.
>> Yeah. Exactly.
>> But it requires us also. Imagine
>> of course
>> two architects. There is a kitchen
architect and software. Let's say we
battle ourselves completely. We close
our eyes. We unify with suddenly I get a
kitchen design.
It's not not it's not the right channel.
So in order for us to basically receive
that of course
tuned in if we're not tuned in I get the
wrong creativity.
>> Ble means tuned in. Ble doesn't mean
shut down. It means the opposite. It
means open up. B means I open up not I
shut down. BL doesn't mean kill me. I
shut down. I go into depression and I'm
but that's not bit. That's the biggest
of
depression I don't mean to say this
because I know how we suffer from it.
Depression is the biggest avoid.
Depression is much bigger than
arrogance.
>> Of course.
I'm not blaming anyone because
depression is a very serious. We have to
understand depression is a state of
avoid.
Putting yourself down is the biggest of
a des.
It's like somebody coming to a doctor
and saying, "I hate my stomach. I hate
my legs. I hate my hands. Cut them all
off. destroy them. I need I need to be a
good person and therefore we're leaving
my brain. Cut every other part out. What
happens?
There's no brain without a body. The
whole function of the brain is to be
there for the body. The moment the
person starts putting themselves down,
it's like telling God, you know, the
brain is good, everything else is
rotten. Cut it all out.
>> That's emotional suicide.
>> Emotional, that's what emotional
amputation means. And self-loathing and
self-hate is really hate of God. What's
really saying here? Somebody once asked
me you you talk about selflove where
does any source in for self love.
I said you say it three times a day.
He's like wherea
oh liberal Titus love your god. It
became selflove right
because what what's hashem? Hashem is
some detached big big bully in the sky
who tells you by the way if you don't
love me I'm gonna kill you which you
know how much love people have when they
get threatened to love right
>> I love right now you have a mitzvah to
love me with all your heart with all
your soul with all my and if not no rain
you're dead you're finished I'll kill
you I'll destroy you
I wonder how much love comes after this
tell me but everybody is scared to say
Because if you say the truth, God will
really strike you down. So the whole
things the whole Yiddish becomes forced
tortured emotions. So how could people
have open hearts? Of course they're
closed down. Especially Ell is coming.
Let's not talk about that.
We're not going to get into the ll
energy, right? The used to say alifu. It
says alifu alim. Alim literally means
you know fake gods. So,
you know, don't go to all the people who
suddenly are into lim.
Yeah.
Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. He nailed it. He
nailed it.
It's like we could still barbecue, go to
the mountains, go to concerts, have fun.
Once l comes, boom, depression. You're
going to die.
It's it's a very I'm not blaming
anybody. The gullus has been long and a
relationship with Hashem takes constant
surrender. But the real point here is
the ultimate pK of selflove. It's real
self- love. What do you think self-
loveve means? My tie. I mean I like my
tie but I'm not in love with my tie.
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If you really want to, you can have it.
Right. What's I love my watch. I should
love the my nose. I mean I I don't know
if I should say I like my nose. I don't
like my nose. I know noses are very
sensitive for Jews
means love yourself. Who are you? So
that's what this is saying literally
says it. What's like if somebody says I
like myself which what your kidneys you
like your liver your spleen what do you
like? Your chest, your heart, your
torso, your vagus nerve, your spine,
your vertebrae. I like me. What's me?
What's me? Vu van. Answer is me is me.
When you realize hashem is el
it's yours. I mean it's yours. What
makes it yours? You owned him. You
created him. So that's why the whole
title he's saying that's what he's
trying to say. Stop separating. We are
one consciousness. You are the
consciousness of God. But it's like
real.
>> Yeah. And that's what we spoke about in
the previous when
what does it mean to viscerally
experience yourself in the womb of God?
This is what is describing here. What
does it feel like if if your body would
feel it? If my body your body would feel
it, not preaching. It wouldn't be a sh
wouldn't be rabbi why why giving a shia
if you would actually feel physically in
your body that you are subsumed in the
womb of hashem physically and not not
intellectually not on paper because we
have how it works and
because the nervous system didn't get
those memos
but if you could viscerally experience
that what would life feel like what
would your relationships feel like with
yourself with others
The answer to that is there's a complete
complete regulation and safety and
calmness in the deepest place. There's
also not an iota of arrogance there
because the moment you're there you know
that you're just a channel. It does not
there's not even it's it's not an isan
it it's not like you're not fighting
with anybody.
You're not fighting a healthy leg is not
fighting the rest of the body. You're
not fighting. You know, if you ever did
a good workout for a few hours or you
ran or whatever, like you really and
then what what does your body feel like
right after that, right? You know the
feeling. Yeah. You go mountain climbing.
What does it feel like after? There's
just like a uh what's the word? Um a
lightness that encompasses the whole
body, right? Like everybody is just
together. It's like ah that's what it
feels like to be normal. That's what Oh,
that's what it feels like to be normal.
>> You don't feel
>> you actually stop feeling. Yeah. It's
not like you're not feeling. I'm not.
When you start feeling your pinky, it's
because there's a there's a wound. You
feel your leg cuz there's a wound. You
feel you actually don't feel. You're
like in a in a there clarity. You're
like so light because you're just in
flow. You're literally in flow. There's
an energy that you flow. And then you'll
see the thoughts that come to you after
are the most creative thoughts. You'll
always see that.
They're like normal thoughts. They're
like, "Wow, they're interesting
thoughts." Even the feelings that show
up. the problem is an hour later or two
hours later or the next day, you know,
we're back to uh back to the Danishes.
But those who maintain, so that's what
he's saying. That's what davenining is.
It's maintaining. It's like if you're
going mountain climbing every single
morning, right? Why do people do this?
You know, the people do the ice plunges.
What do they want to maintain a certain
state of consciousness? That's the state
of consciousness because it's very easy
to be taken away from it. It's very
easy. You know, you just need one text
on your phone to uproot this entire
state of consciousness. Just one text it
takes
>> after skiing. When you take your boots
off, you feel like no gravity.
>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Those who go
skiing, they take their boots away like
there's no gravity. Suddenly there's
just a certain lightness that comes in.
And the truth is we need that
synchronization of the body and the
soul.
So the real experience of Hashem is
always this an experience of such
regulation. If it's like right away
urgency, I have to get it done. The
moment you feel like you're controlling
things, you're out of the system.
I have to control. And if I don't do and
it's right away desperation, who you
lost touch, you lost touch with Hashemi.
This is Hashem's world for real. And we
are all in his womb. And we're all
channeling an amazing energy that only
we could channel. And by the way, in
this in this experience, there is love
and boundaries that work perfectly
together. There is love because
everybody is one. There's also
boundaries just like the body has
boundaries. The leg never decides that
it should do what the heart does. And
the nose never thinks it should do what
the ear does. Why? They're all one, but
they're also all separate in a beautiful
way.
Because if I do what you're doing, it's
not oneness.
It means I'm actually trying to take
away something from you. There's
something you have that I don't have.
That means I'm not connected. The leg
doesn't think the heart has more. It's
not jealous. Did your feet ever get
jealous of your hands?
Did your hands ever get jealous of your
chest? Doesn't work that way. Did your
eyes get jealous of your nose? Like
doesn't why not? So it's like funny. Why
should they get jealous? They're like
one that's really what it's like. That's
that's that's this whole that's
>> Yeah.
So says the line starts with
so we have to recognize. So you say so
why does nobody feel it? Why is this not
intuitive? The answer is because there's
yeah
means that Hashem's energy comes down in
a way that it can be perceived that I am
an ego that I am separate. That's what
it is. That's what this world is. The
tree is a tree. The squirrel is a
squirrel. The beer is a beer. And I am I
and you are you. And now let's be
transactional. If you give me money,
I'll be your whatever. That's how it
starts working
in also in here in these relationships.
Nothing is transactional. It's not like
a business. It's not like I'm showing up
with an agenda. There's never an agenda
here. You know how you know how
liberating that is when you don't have
agendas? Anybody knows how liberating
that is? Most people don't realize,
right? When there's no agenda in a
relationship, really no agenda. And this
is and it's this is all very real. In
other words, the moment it's we're
trying to impress somebody with this,
it's the fakest. It's nauseating energy.
Now, the moment you start feeling this,
even once a day for five minutes, you're
never going to want to go back to the
other reality because it's nauseating.
It's like literally I come to the most
beautiful gourmet meal with the most
healthy food and instead I go to the
garbage and I'm eating excrement from
dogs. Like that's literally what you're
substituting this for. We we do it
because we don't know what this food is.
And it seems like the excrement is going
to get me much further. I'm going to get
if transactional if I could if I could
manipulate the people I it's like a fast
high like a fast literally like a fast
high for five fast five minutes I'm
going to feel good but but what is that
what that's at the price of what that's
at the price of of reality and therefore
five minutes later you need another
compliment agenda isn't the agenda
is
>> there's no agenda in terms of of of a
hidden agenda of of of manipul
population of exploitation even subtle.
>> Yeah. You just you're in flow. It's like
does my leg have an agenda? It doesn't
have an agenda. Like my hand has an
agenda if it's what it agenda is to live
with the brain. It doesn't have an
agenda.
And therefore you you can't you can't
deprive it. You can't you can't like the
criticism doesn't destroy it and
compliments don't make it. Like if you
talk to my hand now, you say, "By the
way, you're doing very well by this
shia. You know, you picked up exactly
when you had to." Right? What's the hand
gonna tell you? Okay. Thank you. Thank
right. And if you tell the hand, by the
way, you were supposed to go to the
right when you spoke and instead you
went to the left like
agent.
>> Well, one second. So, so the hand will
say, "Okay, I'll try to fix it for next
year." Right? You see how simple that
was? You want to try? You could
compliment my hand. You know why?
Because our hands don't have egos.
They're like, "Okay, thank you." So you
say, "Next time I tell a story, I should
go like this." Okay, thank you. That
wasn't interesting.
And when you say the hand, you did very
well. Okay, I'm happy that I could I
could that I inspired you. But like, you
see, that's the end of the story. The
hand doesn't now go home and
regurgitate. He criticized me. Oh my
god. Oh my. You criticize me? Oh my god.
You think I'm worth anything? Okay,
let's go to therapy. You think I'm worth
anything? by the shear, right? It's all
a joke. But the mind, oh, the mind, you
give it criticism. Oh my god. For three
weeks later, I did this.
Poor mind.
>> Huh?
One of my memories that left a deep
impact on me was I was a kid and with
sometimes for hours
I remember like it could be seven six
hours, seven hours and it was long deep
deep talks. It wasn't uh a two-hour sh.
It was like seven, eight hours. Okay. I
mean there were nonunim in between and
there was a mime and there was a raum
and sh and it was very intense
you know he was a real genius and he was
it was expressed in these fabangans and
then the reba would finish
and I was just a memory and he finished
and usually was it was a long shab
afterwards or might have afterwards
and he would stand up and go to the and
start maid
and as he was ding maid It looked like
he never said a word for the last seven
hours and nobody gave feedback. And I
would ask myself, do you like I would
think to myself, do you want feedback?
Do you want to hear from anybody what
they heard, what it was like? Right?
Like how do you shift over, you know,
like it was literally 20 seconds later
they started ado
like you looked at a person was like in
his whole world.
It was s it was it left such an impact
on me like I did I did what I was
supposed to do I tried to be a channel
it's finished there's no new aid
you know very often when we're in an ego
space we're like feeding off the old
stuff you know and for two hours later
like could you tell me more could you
tell me more could you tell me more
and that's a human need I mean it's an
ego need it makes sense I'm not you know
we we like validation but like that
being completely in flow
you knife and also I'm going to give a
metaphor maybe it's not so appropriate
but I think it's a very good metaphor
right your body is in perfect shape
amazing and you're doing well and it's
galding and then suddenly you have to go
to the bathroom
and suddenly your body is doing
something very different it's channeling
not such gushmaka things I never heard
anybody come to therapy and say I am so
embarrassed
five minutes earlier I was sitting and
davening with my kapat my hit my gum
with my talis talis And then 5 minutes
later, I don't want to tell you what I
was doing. Somehow I never heard anybody
have a crisis with that. You know why?
Cuz the body is doing exactly what it's
supposed to doing. Now it's channeling
beautiful stuff and now it's channeling
other stuff. That's called being in
flow. You don't take it personal. Now
you needed some dirt to go through. So
what it has to go out
once said you know people say
is 247 what about in the bathroom so say
where is there a greater than in the
bathroom where you're being the from the
where's that's the whole the whole is to
to separate the from the t
I'll call upon him so this is the idea
of
the the relationship of the all the of
the there's a bit there's a that's what
means constantly
it's
you you're not loving God in heaven
you're loving your God what do you mean
your God what does mean my God I own him
yeah of course you own him you're him
he's you do I own my leg if own means in
the bank I don't own it but owning in
the terms of course it's mine. It can't
be more mine than there's nothing that's
more mine. What is more mine than your
goof? What is more yours? Your house?
No, that's the banks.
The only thing that we have is our goof.
I mean, as long as I mean, God has it.
But that that's who we are.
Okay.
So now the says
peace now.
So what's the
that is
and that's what does mean? It doesn't
stop.
It's in every moment and every
experience like we said it's higher than
and therefore
what you love what you want is he's
touching va from the word like wanting
you should want that this should be
yours you should be able to be in flow
of infinite consciousness
you understand vaha what do you want to
love in life not everybody that
that should be that's the deepest desire
in life.
That's what you really that's what
everybody's really looking for.
Everybody's looking for one thing that
should be. And if you have that, you
have everything. And if you don't have
that, you got nothing.
Mark my words. If you have that,
you have everything. And if you don't
have that, you got nothing. All you have
is distractions. Maybe good ones. Maybe
good ones. But you don't have anything.
You don't have anything real. It plots
uses. It plots uses like this.
We have enough distractions that people
are sophisticated enough not to get
bored. But deep down there's a certain
pain. And there's a reason for it.
Because really the one there's only one
in life that what's
should be should be yours.
It should be mine. Who am I? Infinite
consciousness having a finite
experience.
>> That's the only ava that people are
looking for.
>> You say what are you talking about?
That's not what people are looking for.
I never saw people put this on their
resume.
They want a nice wife. They want a nice
job. They want a nice this, they want a
nice that, they want. What you really
want is
>> the ultimate
course we are the agency of so we don't
have our own agenda.
>> Of course,
>> of course.
>> It's not that the agenda is wrong or bad
in a way.
>> No, of course it's the deepest agenda.
When I say not having any agenda, I mean
not having an agenda that hijacks you.
Not having an agenda that hijacks your
character, turns you into a a pathetic,
impoverished robot.
Practical. If I have an agenda in a
relationship with somebody that I want
to get you to agree with me so you could
do something for me, what just happened?
I think I was a success story, right?
Really? I'm a failure story cuz I
sacrificed.
>> Yeah. I I I I I feel like the best I can
do in this world is manipulate
situations to conform to what I think I
want at the moment. It's it's a pathetic
version of myself.
That's what really the point is. I
really think that's who I am. That's and
that's only my that's my worth. My only
worth of how I can get things my way is
through manipulating you or through
impressing you or through this.
I don't really trust my being. I don't
really trust that I'm in the safest
place possible. I don't have to
manipulate anybody.
My heartbeat has everything. You see
that? You feeling the energetic
difference or not?
Huh? You feeling the energetic
difference? It's not really words. This
is nothing to do with words. Anything
I'm saying here, it's the moment. It's
even with your spouse, with family. The
moment is like, you know, you're
thinking ahead and what do I say? It's
it's really a pathetic version of me.
Like, you know, I think basically that's
the best I can do in life. The best I
can do in life is I'm smart. I could
manipulate systems. Okay, fine. It's
like God looking at himself in the
mirror and saying, "You think I can
manipulate systems?" Okay. I mean, if
that's who you are, fine. I mean, okay.
>> That's We do that all the time.
>> I know we do it all the time. Oh, no.
We're always manipulating our kids.
>> Manipulates him. But, uh, you know, you
know that he's to use this word stupid.
He's going to do the mistakes. So you
try to basically
basically navigating
is different than manipulating.
Navigating means
right I'm trying to tune in to the needs
of my child how I can be there for them
but with a completely open heart. The
moment parents will stop manipulating
their kids our kids will be normal.
>> Everybody is busy manipulating their
kids and the kids are know it.
Manipulation.
>> Of course, manipulation means the best
thing that can happen between us is us.
The best thing that can happen between
us is us. The best thing that can happen
between us is already happening if we're
open to it. Manipulation means no. We
need certain results to make this work.
>> Expectations, of course.
>> Yeah.
Now asks the obvious question
is this really to me or is this
so he says
listen to these words
a person shouldn't come and say this is
too far for me
this is nothing to do with me nice
leg head I'm not there you're there good
I'm happy for you.
That's why continues.
In the beginning you say at the end you
say
I am your God who took you out of what's
that idea
is a metaphor for the exact opposite is
it's the naked land. It's a land of
promiscuity where everything is
transactional, where everything is about
manipulation, where everything is about
using you, where there is a tyrant and a
dictator
and we weren't there as tourists. We
became duk. We became entrenched in the
50 gates of impurity
took us out
and in 50 days after the 50th day, they
received
and they were elevated so deeply.
until what they experienced is
became I became yours. I became yours to
you. What does it mean to you? It means
that your consciousness, your experience
is
So you see how the P goes. You're
telling me it's not to you. So let me
tell you there was a people that was
entrenched in which is all a metaphor
for this. It's the loop of living in
restrictions and living in separation
and living in ego and I took them out
and in 50 days you see a whole new
people. So what's the conclusion?
It's with you too.
So therefore, what's the end? Those are
the last three words. And therefore, the
conclusion is you too. You too with
everything going on all my and but
you're
it means my thoughts and my emotions.
I'm in a loop of this and that and this
mess and this expectation and this
impurity and this t and this fear and
this anxiety. Okay.
All of it was a mim. Thank you. Welcome
to the club. Thank you. That's such an
important piece because till now it's
very idealistic. But what am I doing
with everything else inside of me?
Right? It's very nice. The leg and the
head, you're in one. You're flow. You
have no agenda. Nobody has agendas
anymore. We're all pure. We're all just
channels for infinity. Okay. Now, let's
look a little deeper. What's going on?
So that's why he finishes Krishna. You
have to understand that this is the holy
site of mit. And that's why Mitsim is
such a fundamental idea. Why are we
always talking about it? It's like, you
know, some news happened since Mits, you
know, haven't you heard of George
Washington? Haven't you heard of of
Biden? Haven't you heard of of Trump?
Like, we're still busy with Mitsam. But
we're always going to be busy with Mim
because Mitsam is the daily
consciousness that there's no such a
thing that I'm stuck in a paradigm of
restrictiveness. in a paradigm of
concealment where I'm a victim of that.
It exists. I have to acknowledge it. I
need to be able to learn how to
extricate myself from it. But that's
with real surrender. I can give it up to
God and allow all those pieces
to be part of my experience of mit.
The should have ended right here.
Beautiful
says, "No,
this is not the
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you're in flow. Everybody's in flow.
We're channels and experientially it's
it's it's pure bliss. It's pure bliss.
But there's a whole world that has to be
changed."
So that's why he says right away the
next piece is
yeah this is the
why did you need this this separation
going into come out the answer is
to be able to communicate to be able to
reveal godliness as he's going to
explain in our world through
mitzvah.
So it's not just a person goes into a
place of love and now I'm a channel
which is completely completely nullified
in the source and therefore a pure
channel for love which is an incredible
foundation.
But he's saying really the tlas is now
to come down not to be afraid of that to
come down and engage. Exactly.
In other words, to bring that truth of
flow into the world. And that's
essentially what mitzvah are. Why
mitzvah are called 248 organs of the
king in the
why limbs? What does it mean? The limbs
of hashem limbs are all channels for the
soul. In the eye, you have the power of
vision. When a person holds onto their
eye or pulls their eye, so to speak,
it's not just the eye, the whole power
of vision you're taking with you.
When you turn your eyes physically, your
kayak is turning. When a person is
shleing your arm, right? It's not just
physical meat. There's the nephesh
inside of it. So why is a mitzvah called
a limb? The mala a mitzvah could look
like a technical act but essentially
what you're doing is you're accessing
the limb of the king mean the limb of
the king the anif is inside of it
just like when somebody takes you by
your body they're taking your soul yeah
they can't hold on to a soul you can't
hold on to vision you can't hold on to a
mind but you can hold on to the head
that contains the brain and the mind and
when you when you when you're holding on
to that head what are you hugging you're
not just hugging a physical skull
you're hugging the internal
consciousness inside of So mitzvah are
called
why an because when you take an a you're
accessing everything that's inside that
limb. Every limb is a channel for the
soul and every limb is a different
channel for the soul. So every mitzvah
is channeling pure infinity.
That's what it is. But how? Through a
limb. Through a very physical
defined structure like the soul. There's
no way of holding on to the soul. But
there's a way of holding on to
somebody's hand.
And we know what that feeling is. If
somebody is feeling lonely, somebody is
feeling down, you hold on to their hand,
you give them a hug. What did you do?
There's a comfort there. Why? What? You
just touched their neck. Where did you
comfort them? The answer is you didn't
just touch their neck. You touched their
soul. The way I could touch your soul is
through a hug on your body. I can hold
on to your hand and shake your hand or
embrace your hand. It's not your hand.
The aver is channeling something of the
person's energy,
right? Right? The goof again the g and
the nephesh are seamlessly one. And
therefore you say
you're saying something very powerful
here. He's saying that a mitzvah don't
think a mitzvah I'm putting on fillain.
I'm putting on sitas. I'm giving
saddaka. I'm lighting a candle. I'm
putting on a muza. I'm helping a donkey
that's crouching on whatever the mitzvah
is. It's an a mala.
You're actually holding on. You're
accessing a gil of that's being
channeled through this a. It's a whole
different
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you hear
it's a flow. You're accessing
and every limb is something else. If I
touch your leg, it's one relationship. I
may caress your leg. If I caress your
arm, it's a different element of the
soul. And the head, every a is
channeling a different nuda of the soul.
Every mitzvah is channeling but in its
own way
but it begins with with love
says in spirit generates spirit. So once
I surrender my separateness
to Hashem. So now the opposite happens
that the mitzvah he now accesses like my
love to you brings out your love to me
right my surrender to the oneness
creates the reciprocal approach so
that's what he says to this is through
the love
it's when I give my heart to you so you
take in my soul and my spirit
generally Mitzvah represent love and
kindness. It says this five levels of
five fingers
through.
If we look at the beginning of Yeah.
Five times the word light, five times
the word water
is connected to light and water.
Water represents the mitzvah which are
five kindness. That's why it says five
times like the water which irrigates the
trees and the water comes down into a
lower place from a higher place
but the of the water is five times light
also which is the which is the is
kindness and is the love beyond the
kindness. So every mitzvah is an
accessing of that and that
and then the continues.
So now let's see just understand what
the last piece if you look at the first
parish of Krishna you know we say it so
many times we take it for granted but
really we should ponder because this is
what he's going to reveal here the
secret the first part the first parish
of it looks like a disjointed of a lot
of things thrown in
okay God is one
you should love him fine done God is one
you should love him suddenly we start
talking about
All these words that I'm commanding you
should be on your heart. Teach it to
your child. Speak about it when your
house, when you're walking, when you're
going, when you're lying, when you're
standing up. Okay, done. Suddenly, boom.
Now,
so a bunch of things. Boom. That's the
first par of volume is already the next
par. But this is the first parish of
par.
Is there a thematic flow or it's just
let me put in another mitzvah? I mean he
could have put in chaas already while
you're at it mean he could have put
other mitzvah he could have put in I
mean there's a lot of mitzvah
is there a thematic flow so that's the
whole here that's why the started
so he says let's understand what's
happening here okay
this refers which is called
is called mikra
Why is it called?
So everybody learns because you read it.
Because you read. He says no.
He says to says make trumpets.
The trumpets should be there for you to
call the congregation. It's of the
trumpets. You blow the trumpets and it
was a way of calling summoning everybody
to come together. They all came together
to hear you. So what's wiser called
mikra?
The whole constitutes Hashem's names.
The Ramban says in his introduction that
the whole is really Hashem's names.
So
it's a way of calling him calling him by
his name. When you call, what happens?
He turns around.
I want to spend time with you.
You're calling out a name. I want to be
with you. Mikra is what? It's
essentially you're calling out God. Or
as puts it,
>> that's why it's called you're not just
reading from the book from the
it's a relationship. I'm calling out to
you and that's very deep. I want to hear
what you have to say. I want you come
talk to me, spend time with me,
communicate with me, give me your
energy. That's really what Mikra is
because Mikra is really God's names. If
you learn Tanakh, as much as you
understand it, there's an infinite
mystery to it and every letter is
particular
because it's really besides the stories,
it's really his names. And that's why
every word is so because it's it's a
name like a name. You don't spell a name
wrongly.
The main idea is the comprehension.
You're not so in words.
Even an amarit who can't doesn't
understand a word you can still give
them an ali and they have to make a
if you don't understand what you're
learning you're not supposed to make
because it's not a mitzvah it's not a
mitzvah of I mean it's it's a holy words
the mitzvah of
understanding even on a basic level but
even it says
even a person who doesn't understand a
word people get alias in they don't even
know Hebrew. They don't even know what
means. Why they make it's of the answer
is the words themselves have it's like a
name. It's like a name. I don't have to
analyze what's in the name. It's it's
God's name. That's
>> what about Zor? Some people think about
the same idea of Zor. Like in Morocco
they used to learn Zor when they were
kids. They was saying words they don't
understand until they became old and
then they could
>> Right. Yeah. Yeah. That's what it says.
And then you have
you should teach it to your children
is more from below going up
because in the main thing is
understanding comprehension. In other
words, how much it impacts you. It's
about my capacity.
Sometimes you're learning the the
language of the Mishna. There's a
language of there's a language of the
language of interesting he says all this
the language is not so what's the
comprehension it's all
and they all use different words
sometimes the same the is not so
and when you comprehend something now
you're lifted up from lower to higher
is God so to speak speaking to
And that's why the words are so
important because it's his words.
They're like infinite words
one word in we don't have that
extraordinary meticulous. Of course
every word is and holy but it's a
different level because the main focus
is the the understanding the your your
process.
It's his process that I'm being open to.
I'm just listening.
It's your name. I'm calling out to you.
He's like, he's calling out to me. What
do you have to say?
It says when Elazar came to ask her for
water, right? So it says she went down
to the well
She filled up her jug and she came up
and she irrigated
explains in another
is the 24 books of
Rifka had the capacity
from the infinite wellspring of divine
wisdom. She filled up the
of and she gives it to which ultimately
comes and it all starts with
it says
your windows are going to be made of
it's a type of gem a type of diamond
is two times
one is and one is the explanation
That's
so this is all in itself
that's
primarily it's a bigish usually he say
it's the same thing he says no here it
says
these words these words no other words
that's
and then
teach it is from the word and you have
to explain it and understand it.
That's
now comes
says that the whole is compared to it
says we say in the par.
So we learn out from here that the whole
is compared to the whole that women are
from
you learn from and the whole is compared
to why is the whole compared to there's
so many other mitzvah the answer is
what's
really is taking God's oneness and
bringing it down to the most physical
reality.
What's
you take parchment? You take ink which
is the most physical substance from an
animal. What does an animal have with
but if you use the human brain for
fillin that's not fillain
it's a strange thing right? We again we
take fillin for granted but if you ever
put on fillain on an airplane you know
somewhere in Kentucky where they're not
used to it you'll see that fillain
doesn't look so normal
what is it really you're taking
where does where is supposed to live in
your brain in your heart in your soul in
your consciousness in your in your and
what are you doing you're taking the
parish is and you're writing it down on
parchment ink so it has to be written
with and then what do you do with it you
put it on your arm, you put it on your
head.
How is that going to do it? It's a the
whole is an experience. The holian is an
emotional, intellectual, spiritual
experience. That's not the mitzvah of
fillin. If a person wants to meditate
on, it's a nice thing. The whole is
about that, but it's not the mitzvah of
the mitzvah is as physical and brute as
you can get. And it's you're taking
animal hide, right? You're forming it
into parchment. You're taking physical
ink from herbs. You're writing down
these parad. And then you have to tie it
on your on your muscle of your arm and
on your head. And that's the mitzvah of
filling. Says now we understand.
The whole of mitzvah is to access to
reveal the oneness that the of should be
revealed viscerally physically.
For example, talis or any other mitzvah.
The real idea is that the which is where
should it be revealed in either in the
body in the parchment in the wool in the
trumus and the mistress in the money in
the candle in the kala whatever you want
to touch whatever all the mitzvah are
touching something usually physical
right that's what you're doing the wine
the food any what is it to beem there so
this is now the whole theme of now we
see how does start
that's the basis beyond the what's the
result emotionally
that was the till the end till the last
piece almost the last piece that's the
result of so stop here that's what he
says the is not just the that the person
is in that state of even though that's
and that's the foundation the main thing
is the in the world through mitzvah and
here you have two stages
That's in that itself you have
one is one is but both it's
communication it's actually learning
information it's not anymore everybody
knows that being in in complete flow in
a sense of oneness is not an
intellectual experience learning is
understanding and learning it's
information so what is that about is
that detachment no it's called ham see
what He's really explaining to you is
the whole structure of yiddishkite. It's
just we went to the last and we forgot
the whole but the whole structure of
Yiddish is that a person doesn't live in
this space all day right it's
what is that really it's bringing out
the into civil disputes into
intellectual ideas whether you're
learning
that's all it's bringing it down into
the real world you open up you open up
you open
Suddenly you're dealing with animals.
You're dealing with idolatry. You're
dealing with disputes. You're dealing
with very physical stuff. But what are
you teaching? You're teaching God's
perspective on these things.
Now comes the last piece of
all still in your mind. It's in the
book. Now comes in the physical.
I want all this to be on your physical
hand. to be on your physical hand in
parchment
to be on the physical doorpost. What do
you need? What's have with the physical
doorpost?
No, no, no, no, no. There's a doorpost
and there's a physical doorpost. There's
a cow and there's a physical cow and
that cow has hide an epidermis and
there's ink and that's where the hashem
should come out
and that's ultimately the end of kishma.
Have a beautiful day.
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Yeah, that's that's a huge you don't
just stop. Beautiful
is the foundation. But he says then
comes the main thing is bring it down.
bring it down into the world into the
world of of of gashmi. Not into the
world that doesn't exist.
The world doesn't exist. There's no
fillin. There's no tits. There's no
muza. Right?
That's why you can't only learn. You
have to learn nigla. You have to learn a
lot of nigla because that's
the foundation. Huh. the red line.
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>> Hold on.
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>> Huh?
>> I'll show you.
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Oh, gavaldic.