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Life-Lessons from Reb Yoel Kahan for his first Yahrtzeit, 6 Menachem Av - 3 personal stories
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this is a special
clip i'm making for
my maschia's
yard site his first yard site
i have
yoyo
there's so much to say
and yet there's so little to say
but
one
must
share
what they learned
and what they saw
and
bar hashem i was i merited
not only learning from him
but i spent
many hours talking with him privately in
his house
i observed him during his sodas he
invited me many times home
this house for the shabbos meals and
jumped up meals
and
i'm a funnel and it's not about me
but at the same time
when a person merits to something
they need to give back i'm giving back i
hope
that you listeners will take
my words
like you hear him from rapio himself
i'm not going to give you his biography
now i've written that
i'm coming out with another book this
coming month hashem
hello
this month next month
with more anecdotes stories and life
lessons for every person
not just the philosopher and the thinker
but everyone
i encourage you to to read it
because it will benefit
not just yourselves
but the wives the men the children the
teenagers
particularly those
young people boys and girls men and
women
who are seeking and asking and dealing
with all kinds of issues today
ebio's wisdom
is
eternal really
and yes he was a hussed
and he was born in russia and he learned
to
narcissism 1950
all true
but
siddhis
and living like a hosted
is eternal
the message is eternal so rabbi
open yourself up
and even if you're not a husset or you
don't want to be a hostage and even if
you're a miss nugget
well that ebba says and teaches us
there's no miss not them today even if
you're a litvak
or you're sephardic or your modern
orthodox
trust me
the teachings that ebio shared
is for the world for the entire world
so just a few a few stories anecdotes
that i recall that are important one is
elena
we all know eleno
lay newly shopped
right the conclusion of the
service
the morning afternoon and evening
service
everyone rises and everyone chants
together or everyone said
eleno
rabiot told me once that he noticed that
the rebbe
would take longer
to say eleno than many than most other
parts of davenink
the average speed for the rest of
davening was like the rest of the
congregation
when it came to eleno
the congregation and the baldfield the
the cantor the cousin
had to wait for the but to to finish and
then he concluded out loud the end of
elena
and the oil said to me you know why
it's because in elena it says
to make the world an inhabitant place
for you god almighty
and if you else said to do that takes a
lot more time
to study to learn to philosophize
to laugh to cry
it's much quicker
but to make a change in the world
in your own world and in the world at
large that takes a long time
that ever lived it
when he said eleno he was going through
the experience of asake
and the lesson for us
as rabbi shared with me is we need to do
to do the same thing and that's why it
took him more time
i thought that was
brilliant and very important
because it's easy to talk it's easy to
philosophize it's easy to cry it's easy
to laugh
but to do something real in the concrete
world
action is loudest and most important
that's where
many times we get stuck and the same is
true within ourselves to make a change
in some
character trait
it's a lot of hard work that's one
important
teaching that my rebbe
my teacher my mashpia
taught me personally and i share it with
all of you
another thing and i might have said it
before but it's worth repeating is
i was driving him to an event that i had
made in muncie
at the time i was involved with the
chabad yeshiva
and in honor of high elo the baal shem
tov and alta rebe's birthday
i made an event and i brought together
some rabbonim
from the community rabbis
i picked up ruby oil at his house
and we drove together as i'm driving on
the palisades
and i'm driving and being careful not to
get a ticket not the speed and all that
he says to me favors kumasi why are they
coming
and i say to him like what are you
talking about i didn't say those words
that's what i was thinking i said
was maintained
i said in respectful way to him what are
you referring to
and he says favors comment the alex see
them so 770
mutamos
why is everyone coming to 770 for
marriage israel from france from brazil
from argentina from all
over for the holidays for rosh hashanah
to be in 770. it's after gable thomas
implying that ebb has passed away what
are they coming for
the rabbit's not blowing schaefer
and this was a rhetorical question and
then he says without letting me answer
or not that i had what to answer
and he says well they come in
say and da they're coming here
that'll say vasen because they
know the
is their address
here is the address
770 is the address
my friends
770 is the address for all eden
not to exclude the castle
and not to exclude
robheim kenowski's
caver
and the
gave her and the um and and the sadiq
is
of course not
but
770 is the address
it reminds me of what i heard from
a diane here in the community in borough
park
who told me he was a talmud he was a
student in lakewood
and it was a fabrian i think cinco
special
ramayana
he turned to a hundred two hundred
people in the room in the in the sukkah
and he said to him
heaven
if you think
i want you to come to 770
and i want you to become lubavitch i
want you to become chabad
wrong we have enough habadniks in crown
heights
770. we don't need more but
if you want to see a yiddish
if you want to see a real god-fearing
person
who's genuine
come see the rapper
and i think of that as when the bureau
said to be dou is that address
here is the address
this is the point
the logistics where are you gonna dive
in upstairs downstairs and the rep is
room in this to the right to the left
those are
mamish
ancillary
tougher shepherd toefl
wherever your soul be inspired that's
where you'll die
anyone that make puts a script you must
have in here and not hear has it all
wrong
does that dress
and that's why even after gimbal thomas
with the rebbe's holy body holy holy
body
passed on and it's buried at the oil
the shoe 770 is where he diving for so
many years and when he taught tyra and
if i bring with us et cetera and
everything is there
that's why they're coming and i thought
that's a very important lesson that the
vl shared
and i share it with you
another
message
and experience
can i say this because shalom bias today
is a big topic
and dealing with teenagers and
speakers including chabad speakers
philosophies
that the schools are at fault yeshiva is
our fault
let's not blame anyone let's blame
ourselves we
are at fault meaning
it's not even about fault we're not
connecting we're not connecting
there's no question
that when children and teenagers see
that their parents
are
on the right page
it makes the greatest impact on them
and they want to continue in that path
maybe not to the same degree
but they know that this is their place
they know this is their home they know
their parents
they could talk to
and this is what we need to create and
abiola
shared this with me as well
in the following story
so a good friend of mine years ago
who was
very acidic and knowledgeable and
everything else
decided to trim his beard
i was very bothered by it
and i approached the bureau this was
after i was married this was probably in
the late 80s
and i said to rabbi i'd like to chastise
him
i really want to give it to him because
he knows better
we grew up and we ate from the same
bowl of kasha in time
in the yeshiva
and if you'll turn to me he said though
don't say a word
just
speak positive and be mercative
i listened
today the young the person has a whole
family and as a grandfather you see
these children and grandchildren
but it was an eye-opener
here's abyokon
who represents
siddhis
and comes from where he comes from
and he tells
i am dolphin
excuse the expression shut your mouth
put yourself at the side
and even though this is your best a good
friend
don't say anything negative
how exactly to translate that
talk to your spouses
to your masb
and to your
torah-oriented counselors
and i emphasize torah-oriented
counselors
but one thing's for sure
that
what abiol taught me at that time as a
uh
as a 30 year old band
that
today
we need positivity
to
to deal with people
it doesn't mean to say that we should
accept every stus every stupidity
and all that
everything there are parameters and
there's guidelines we understand that
and we know that
we're talking about in your house in
your heart of hearts
find love and i mean love in the title
way of love
to your own son and daughter
like you would for the stranger outside
who you embrace him or her
and bring them in even though they're
not dressed sneezed modestly
and they're they don't have a yarmulke
and they took their beard off on and on
and on and on and on
and i'll say even more even some of the
new
foolish things and
that are happening today
and in our own communities let's let's
call a spade a spade
they also need to be embraced
again i don't mean to say that you're
allowed to give them an alia
and
but in concept
a jew
is connected to hashem
if they display
a severing of that
connection
we need to work harder
to
show them love and genuine love not
fake love
you know oh i'm putting up with you i
tolerate you
no
i really love you i really care for you
it's hard
believe me it's very hard
but this is the ms and this is what i
learned for you
and
in other instances i saw this with him
with people around this table
or people who told me about their
experiences
one person was living with
a non-jew
and and if y'all knew about it
so he and he tells he invited him and he
said stay in my basement
he didn't say because i want you to
break up from your jewish non-jewish
girlfriend he didn't say that
and he started to learn with him and
give him and feed him
and you know learn with him in the sense
that's at the meals and seeing the goon
and the person had a knack from the
goonie
and today is a full-fledged lubavitcher
husset
so i've shared three different
ideas with you today
in memory of his first
yard site which is tonight tomorrow
valve menachem
and
it's wonderful to see
the
swarm the books that are coming out
based on his teachings
the
sharing of information
in podcasts like a friend of mine
probably winner in in australia just put
up
teachings that he's been doing every
week on podcasts online and you could
definitely and should listen to it
and other
people worldwide
that are sharing the message
so in this course in this merit
made in the summer
of
arav
mahmood
the rebbe and lived with it and taught
us how to love and connect ourselves
with the rabbi
will have trius him and will all be
zaika to have the banyan base amigdas
before tish above and celebrate
mashiach's birth on this above
the court of mamish um in kenya herod