Let Your Inner Beauty Shine - Part 1 - Rebbetzin Raquel Kirszenbaum

[Music] [Applause] [Music] what is one of the most important topic for women that no one ever likes to talk about but it's obviously one of the most important topics for women what would you say this is the first time I could say and not I'm so happy okay you know by you say ten no one knows what you're talking about okay but ten right why do women not like to talk about ten it's hard to I think much more than that right how do we perceive ten this is how women perceive ten first of all if I would ask you what is the mitvah of most people would say it means to dress modestly is this what people say yes right by the way it's a mute applied to men also yes or no yes 100% how is it applied to men they also have to dress modestly Behavior also Behavior also for sure but by the way do women think ten is much more applied to them than it is to everyone else yes or no yes every single woman in the world thinks this and why is it that we have to keep ten this is what every single woman thinks because men are the weak people and then if they're going to see us you know what's going to happen they might have these thoughts and I don't know what you know what I think if I should protect myself so that man I I should like cover myself so men don't see me maybe they should be B blind you know it's not my fault I'm so pretty what am I going to do okay whatever but really right sen is not for men if the whole reason why women were giv tenu it's in order to help them to help men right then it shouldn't be a Mitzvah that is for women it should really be a mitzvah for men you should protect your eyes by the way if you're in a place that you don't have to be there's a man you don't have to cover for them because they have an obligation to protect their eyes now one of the problems I've noticed a lot in the Jewish world is that women think that we do this for someone else and therefore you know what happens I don't really want to criticize the religious world but I am sure you've noticed this you know what is one of the questions I always get when I teach why do women wear such beautiful long you know Shadel or whatever you call them wigs aren't they supposed to be modest yes they are supposed to be modest anyways just for your information there's a Mitzvah of covering your hair there it's a Mitzvah of you know being modest they're not the same Mitzvah they should go by hand by hand but they're not the same so even though I'm covering my hair in a maybe not modest way I'm still covering my hair but do women always ask this or women always say oh if she's religious why do you look why does she look so attractive you know I always tell people go outside and look at the world how many of the women that are from or that are religious actually cover their knees actually look modest really be honest not that many right they actually look so much more attractive you know it's pretty hard I see men men check men check them out more than they check check the women that are not modest you know like for real you know why because I think we missed out on what modesty really means and therefore we just do it at a set of rules and we just do it like okay I'm keeping my part but the essence of it what it really means we don't really have it you understand because modesty is much more and I'm going to call it sen because I don't really like the word modesty ten is much more than covering up you could be all covered up and not be tan whatsoever because ten doesn't mean that right therefore now I want to teach it to you in a way that it's completely different you're going to see I'm not even going to mention the word clothing I'm not even going to mention why women have to cover up and you're going to arrive this by yourself you're going to see this by yourself by the way the gar says this is a quote every man and every woman merits to marry someone on their level right this is what it says and then it says like this a righteous man A A man is sadik a righteous man will marry a tanu woman and a wicked man will marry a per a woman that eats Pera that is breached yes this is what the gar is so now there's an obvious question in the gar which most people don't ask but this is how it works if we're saying that every person merits to marry someone on their level yes what would you say is the equal of righteous in a man by a woman what word would you have used what no what word a manit sadik what is a woman sad yes does this make sense s whatever you want to call it what is the equal of a man if a man e a Rasha Wicked why would you say it's the equal by a woman Rasha yes does this make sense you cover you you check my Hebrew right but says no listen to it so interesting a man is righteous by the woman it's called Modesta not righteous meaning for a woman the greatest thing is not to be a righteous woman is to be a tan woman apparently righteousness it's all dependent on a woman on her tan you hear this and if you have notes in it doesn't matter how much mitv you do how much you you know do any of these things you're not a righteous woman Why by the way we know that for a men the main Mitzvah that exists is which one learning T why because for men everything that they do you know if you study you're going to end up doing everything you know what's the equal me for woman the says it opens up every single channel of flow from heaven for you to so much so that we know that when God created hav he created her out of the rib and he said what I'm gonna make you out of the rib so that you should be tanu like the rib is and I'm going to give you a mouth and let it be tan I'm Gonna Give You eyes and let it be tanu says why didn't God say don't look at anything bad with your eyes or don't speak lash with your mouth and apparently it means because when someone hats everything is covered you understand and therefore you want to have this quality when someone has to everything is covered but like now I'm proud of the religious world I mean I didn't really grew up religious but what I see nowadays and I'm no example of anything is that we're really lacking on this you know and the reality of why we're lacking is because we don't really know why we do it and you know what happens each year shatos or whatever you call them wigs are longer skirts are shorter you know each time we're much more into like big things and showing off and I don't know what because we missed the whole idea of what's any new this you know just as every human being has a body and a soul can the body survive without the soul no can the body survive without can the Soul survive without the body no but what is more important what gives life to what the soul yes in every Mitzvah we also have a body and a soul the body is Al the structure how to do it the soul is the understanding the meaning lots of times we have a body but we don't have a soul and you know what happens when you take out the soul out of the body the body will not remain for that much longer so now I want to teach you ten in a completely different way like really you're never going to hear a class like this one right I am not even GNA mention women not even going to mention clothing you're going to arrive at this by yourself I'm going to show you from the Tor where do we find all of these concepts of s and then you're really going to see like where do we see it great so let's start from zero I'm going to give you lots of definitions of ten and then we're going to going to end up at the end great let's start from zero there's a famous Rabbi called ra and he says like this he says before mashia comes our generation is going to be known and we know this this is in the byp you know Whata means anyone Israeli okay don't want to make fun of Israelis but hpah means I could care less what you think okay is this like the quality that represents Our Generation yes you have like the Naked Cowboy in New York People are cuckoo everyone does whatever they want the says and listen to it it says our generation is represented by a lack of morality did anyone ever notice this no morality you go you see the TV the other day I was in the gym I put one channel the f word four times in one sentence no morality you know when I used to like grew up my grandma Le in Vegas so I could go to Vegas all the time I love Vegas you go to all the hotel you know they have like all of this women show but it at least had ex now you go to Vegas no exes okay you understand you ever some magic mic no I didn't see magic mic but you know what I'm talking about crazy so the rabbi said why why do we have so much lack of morality what's going on and he says something crazy deep listen to what he says he says the lack of morality this day and specifically in clothing it's not that we're hot we want to wear shorts or like oh we need Freedom it's much more than that it's a rebellion against the greatest principle in the world you know what's the greatest principle in the world listen to this that man was created in the image of God think about this for one moment if you would realize you're created in the image of God which means like God the King of Kings is your father right and you're pretty much his twin okay would you dress the way you dress would you talk the way you talk would you act the way you act yes or no of course not right you ever saw Queen Elizabeth is she eating potato chips with her hands maybe in her bedroom but not in public why cuz it's not dignified of the Queen she wouldn't do that in public do we realize that we're made in the image of God said the rabbi listen to it cuz it's huge right the lack of morality these days it's a lack of understanding of who we are that we really made in the image of God the greater you think of yourself the more in a more respectful way you're going to behave everyone knows this right the more selfworth you have the more you're going to behave in a way that it's going to project that selfworth because I'm not just too good to behave in a way that's not dignified enough for me you know this is why we lack so much now you know one time okay I'm shy but you close your ears right one time I I have to express this to you because you're really gonna see this this is the way of the world you know I always say that God puts in that TV whenever I go to a gym I watch TV he God puts in the TV whatever I need to see but apart from that you know there was a famous song that existed 12 years ago or something like that we're not judging okay but I know English but I didn't really like knew what he was saying you know it was the year that everyone used to sing like um BL you know that songs and you're like what is this music so there was a a bunch of like very popular songs on those days okay so one of the songs I'm going to sing this to you in a few minutes okay we're not judging but before that I have to give you like a h you know whatever one time I went Safari with my sister I didn't have kids so I go with Safari with my little my sister's kids so I'm very naive you know I think being naive is very cute very naive okay I go to Safari and then you know like I even blush you could see this so so therefore I see everyone it's looking at the turtles the turtles have so much entage so I go to look at the turtle and I start cracking up so my sister looks at me and she's like Rael do you know what they're doing I'm like are they doing what I think they're doing this is so weird okay okay that Turtles were making babies I have to tell you this it was very uncomfortable I'm not even going to express this to you but have you ever seen this on Discovery Channel he hops on the other one she tries to escape it does not work out okay this is what I thought on Safari now by the way I got so uncomfortable looking at this you know like so uncomfortable and then I started thinking like why was I so uncomfortable so I remember this song then it happens to be I was by my in-laws in Brazil and they go to sleep very early you know like by 7 I'm already at home they're watching TV what am I going to do so I sat there they're changing channels they they end up in MTV I haven't seen this video in 10 years suddenly what comes out the song I've Been Thinking About with the video okay it's called by is is sung by a group called blood hound Gang and everyone have this in mind is dressed up in animal costumes in the video okay have this in mind okay this is the song not judging goes like this you want me baby we're nothing but mama so let's do it like they do on the Discovery Channel you heard that let's again you me baby we nothing but mama so let's do it like they do on that Discovery Channel and then there's a dance which I'm not going to do cuz I'm on TV okay but everyone is dressed up like animals so I'm looking at this and I'm hearing these words and I'm like oh my God is this not the world we're just mammals so do it like they do on the Discovery Channel like the turtles why not why should you be embarrassed there's nothing wrong with being yourself you know this is the natural world is this not what the the world is telling you yes or no we're just more developed animals so why shouldn't you behave like that why should you keep things private why should you have any embarrassment out of anything you know why because we're not animals this is not the way that it works you know we're exactly the opposite of what animals are we're made in the image of God we have a soul and every action we do it's either going to project that Soul or it's going to hide it you know sometimes I go into a place and I look at it and it reminds me of like the first scene of Mean Girls you know like really go into a dining room you'll notice this like people are grabbing food like they're going to starve to it okay there's a day after tomorrow but why are people doing this cuz we only live in order to satisfy our physical needs and therefore we end up behaving like animals even though we really have a soul you know that people ask me all of the time what are some of my favorite Mitzvah and I tell them like really one Mitzvah that really like blows my mind in Judaism is the Mitzvah of intimacy right now one time I'm teaching this and I'm saying like in the Tor some someone's house a couple their house is considered a bet mikdash your room is considered a Kim your bed is the you know like not your room the the act of being intimate with your husband is kak so whenever I teach College groups people always tell me wait you're thinking about having relations that's kakim the holy of holies how could you even like connect physicality that physicality Because by the way could you think of anything that's more physical or physically pleasurable that being intimate can you think of something that's more physically pleasurable than being intimate yes or no no this is the most physical pleasurable thing and this is kesim the holy of holies you ever thought about this the Tora is so complicated because it it's really doesn't make sense you have two people that are totally being physical right and this is the holy of holies says God yes you know why listen to it because the more chances that you have into being an animal into doing things just for physical Pleasures the more that you could make it holy the more that you could have an excuse of saying you know what I'm just doing this for physicality and you're doing this having Holiness in your mind thinking about something great the more special it is by the way you know what's the sign that it is so special and so holy what comes out of having intimate relations a baby could you be more Godly than creating Life by the way what created that life crazy the act of being completely physical with one another says God you know what it means to be human listen to is that you could be doing the most animalistic thing and having the holiest thoughts in mind that's what it means to be human that's what it means to be made in the image of God even when you're being an an animal and by the way you're not being an animal but let's say even when you could be doing something that you could say the whole purpose of it is physicality right that's when you could be saying no I am above that and made in the image of God and your thoughts and your actions and having go God in mind and all of these things you lift it up and this is why by the way I felt uncomfortable when I saw those turtles because I understand there's something holy about this right and it doesn't matter how much the world wants to take it away we know it is Holy you know just one more example of this and then I continue when the Jewish people used to go out to war and by the way you have to have this in mind they used to go out to water for like years months you know there wasn't like shooting and that's it you go out you take a little tocas with you and then you never see your wife okay when they used to go out to war they had to take a bunch of things with them for war okay one of the was that every all of the men needed to take with them into war a shovel okay this is what they had to take so now if you don't think it is funny let me tell you why they had to take a shovel so that when they would be in the middle of war and they did the Necessities okay then they would take the shovel and cover it with Earth so now let me ask you something this is men do men even care about you know all of these cleaning N Things okay man don't get offended I'm just saying like really they don't get they don't care right you're in the middle of War could there be something where you're being most animalistic or like survival Instinct that in the middle of war is there any case that you have more no you're in the middle of War you have to stop and cover number two you hear this says God yes cuz you are higher you can't just make it in the middle and in the middle of where where you're allowing all of your animalistic instincts to come out says God remember you're not an animal remember you're a human being remember you're amazing remember you're made in the image of God now again let me ask you this question if we would always have in mind that we're made in the image of God and again I don't do this all the time because sometimes I also want to be free and like like go right but how would I behave and by the way would I feel it as a burden that I have to weigh behave in such a special way do I feel it as a the burden I don't think Kate Middleton feels a burden of dressing the way she does because that's what expresses that she's royalty would you feel it as a burden you know Queen Elizabeth I read somewhere that when she got crowned her crown weighted weigh I think 37 pounds 37 and she had to wear this in her head for like an hour and a half to two hours okay imagine like a fisherman is coming and he's wearing one of these like whatever hats and he tells her do you want to exchange with say yes no 37 lbs that's like carrying a 40-year-old on your head why wouldn't you exchange it because it's the sign of Glory it's a sign of respect It's The Sign of my greatness I would never exchange it with someone else you understand and therefore when I understand all of these things yes it is weight but it's weight I want to carry it's weight that it's beautiful this is why let me give you the first definition of t yeah I'm gonna give you lots of them but the first one right what is sort of he says it in a certain way or what what is a Jewish woman right and he says like this Su Bim a fence of roses okay a Jewish woman she's a fence of roses not only the Jewish woman but the Jewish people we offends of roses so our rabbis ask imagine you're standing in front of somewhere and the place is protected by a fence of roses is that a good fence would you ever protect like the Mona Lisa or like something very expensive with a fence of roses is a fence of roses hard to breach yes or no no is it hard to destroy no so now let me ask you a question and think very well of your answer I'm standing in front of a fence of roses right what is the only thing keeping me from stepping and breaching and breaking this fence what's the only thing keeping me from doing it the Thorns no you could wear gloves you could wear boots what is the only thing it's beautiful a fence of roses listen to it it's strength relies on its beauty have you ever gone to a CET there's a whole park outside where he has all the Roses right would you ever want to step on it you know what you would do when you see something so beautiful you want to like protect it not only do you not want to break it you want to protect it s rabbis the greatness of a fence of roses relies in its beauty it is so beautiful how can you destroy it you hear this you know in Panama I don't know where it is where you come from but like when you go to a barit or whatever you have like a table of desserts anyone syan here okay so they make like Marci pan with like every shape and color and apricot okay so really in Panama we have events every week so it's okay but like when you see this for the first time people just take it home to like show their children you want to eat it no they have like miniature wedding cakes and this and that I mean they taste good so I do eat them but the point is if I would only see them one time would I eat it of course not it is so pretty you know when something is so pretty you don't want to destroy it like the great you get so much pleasure out of just looking at it right like you can't imagine how it would be if it would be destroyed if you would understand how beautiful you are you understand this you would not only never breach it you would protect it with everything that it is because I am just that beautiful and by way I treat I deal a lot with girls you know when girls fall lowly and they do all of these things when they feel like trash when you consider yourself that amazing you don't behave in many ways you know like when I was growing up you know I wasn't Sanu I didn't dress modestly or anything but for me I never thought I needed religion to teach me this I just thought it's a thing of principles you know like self respect self where is that these days and the idea is we don't understand we're made in the image of God we don't understand the beauty that we have you know there's a very big question that you always have to ask yourself in Judaism is it dignified is it dignified for me is it in my level and again the greater you consider them yourself the more rules that come with that greatness because those rules is exactly what's going to protect the greatness and now I don't even need to make a f a metal fence I don't even need a bronze P if it's so beautiful I don't want to destroy it because I know it's so beautiful so number one what's an a a rose a fence made out of roses whatever senties how beautiful are you what is it beautiful how do you protect that beauty what does it means to you am I made in the image of God what does that means let me bring it to our next level right it goes like this wrote like this right sh is the wisest person that ever existed we don't have a board but he says like this I'm G to translate it means like this in those that are there is wisdom again in those that arean there is wisdom question does he mention women does he mention clothing no right what does it say if you're T you have wisdom apparently what what does it implies listen to it that wisdom that a it's a container for wisdom yes is this what it's saying the it's a container for wisdom yes yes so that means that if I want to be wise I need to dress up like a nerd no that's not what it's saying what is it saying so now I'm going to tell you something that sounds a little funny but it really it's very deep okay let's say you have a baby okay do we like naked babies yes if you have a baby what does everyone loves about the babies why would you say our number three you know top three parts of a baby that you love touching what thighs what else arms arms really oh yeah I like the hands but yeah what else cheeks what else neck okay you don't get to talk now I'm joking but fine give her all the next right what do people like you know cheeks the tushi does everyone love the tushi I love tushi my baby Ko poop I clean her and then I give her a little bite okay I know why you're thinking you know what you're going to bite your babies tushi too even after she pooped okay but what is the point right we love babies okay naked they're better by the way does everyone loves chubby babies okay if they grow up to be chubby bam you'll never get married okay but when you're little you want them to be we call them the Micheline babies you know what I'm talking about the ones that look like the tires okay not me because I'm traumatized you know but like you wanted to e CH something to grab like a skinny baby now let's say they're two years old right are you still that obsess with their tushi yes or no h two years old you like their tushi but not that upset let's just say I'm not going to kiss her tushi after she poops okay also cuz her poop is going to smell that much worse but apart from that not going to do it when they're five are you that obsessed with them physically no if they're changing in front of you and they're not your kid is like okay this is weird here I could see all your parts when they're 20 are you that obsessed heck no you know not even your husband you know what I'm saying like private okay when there's 60 do you want to see them naked it would call it disgusting it would even call the police it's illegal right now why is it so disgusting and don't tell me because they're old CU some old people work out you know and they look good okay why is it so disgusting now listen to my question one second it's so deep what is that transition Point okay that makes said that a baby The More Physical they are the more you like them and you just all like physically okay and as they grow up you stop liking it you feel like uncomfortable you even think it's disgusting yeah right what is the transition Point Mar yeah as a baby the baby is pure innocent it's pure why is it pure innocence because um stting his life as s it is pretty blank but why is that what does that has to do with Ching the body think about this for one moment but it is pure but why is it pure why listen to why a baby doesn't have a a baby hasn't developed his soul and therefore the purity of the baby comes actually from the fact that he has no idea he's a soul because he hasn't develop that yet and therefore what do you think of him he's a body and therefore what makes sense the more me the baby is the cuter it is because really a baby it's a body they haven't developed a soul yet and therefore for them to not relate to their soul it's okay because they're really a body their purity comes from lack of understanding of what they are and who they are and therefore there's no way of behavior because you don't know but now as they grow up do you expect them to relate to their to their soul much more than they relate to our body yes so much so that by the time you're 60 if you're dressed or undressed it's just like hello you should know better you're not a body you're a soul and the fact that you're just projecting yourself as a soul as a body and not as a soul that really bothers me you hear that therefore what does says wise in those that are there's wisdom because ten it's a container for wisdom let me say this to you in different ways life it is not about what you know it is about how do I act according to what do I know I'll say this again it is not about what you know it's about how do I act according to that which I know because I could know a lot but no one is going to see that my knowledge should affect my behavior right and if I behave in a way that doesn't reflect what I know then really I don't know anything you know there was one time and by the way again this is the way of the world you know someone was talking to aristotles okay aristal whatever you call him right and we know that he was very like deep thinker ethics G I don't know what philosopher so one time someone asked him because we know that the Greek sages were very immoral you follow Greek history they used to go around with boys I don't know what like very moral so one time someone asked aristes aristes if you teach so much about ethics and moral how could you behave in such an immoral way you know what he answers it's going to sound funny but he's not he says what if I teach math I should behave like a triangle you know what he's saying what I teach and who I am not the same thing is this the way of the world one thing outside one thing inside Judaism is your outside should reflect your inside and your inside should AFF affect your outside but now let me ask you one more question why is the person that it's asking aristes this why do you care let him do whatever he wants because if you're that great you should behave that great and if not you're really not that great right if you see your teacher you know like poking his nose Okay does everyone pokes their nose yes you do okay but if you see your teacher doing it would you be like this is horrible yes why cuz he's your teacher he should know better you know how you know this look at it in the other side if you see a child with a disability in a bus poking their nose do you judge them no okay maybe you don't want to touch them because they just spoke their noes but do you judge them no because what would you say because they don't what they don't know know any better yes what's the other side of that if they don't know any better they for they're not judge that means that when I know better I should do better yes or no if I know better I should do better this is why let me give you an idea the Tora says quote intellect is Shame Shame is intellect again intellect is Shame Shame is intellect you know what shame is again it's understanding of who I am and what rules come with that shame is not like I'm shy shame is not like hello if someone would catch me poking my nose it's not dignified of me how could I do this it is not about what you know it's about how do you act according to what you know right now if you have a mom like this don't say it out loud because you don't want to but you know when you have those moms that look really really good and they dress exactly like their daughters except they're 20 years apart you know what I'm talking about and then the guys I'm like oh my God your mom is so hot okay you're all women does anyone wants to hear that their mom is hot yes or no never would you be embarrassed very embarrassed you want your mom to be pretty yes but not hot because that means someone looked at her in a way that wasn't right now by the way again if your mom does look so good why why can't she dress like that you know like moms nowaday you know like they're 60 years old and wear leggings what the heck like are like tights you know like don't wear that do we all have issues with this now that you're now that you're young don't do this when you're 60 why do we have issues with this she looks good let her wear whatever she wants why do we have issues with this cuz she's a mom never she should behave like a mom and when you're dressed in that way you're not portraying yourself in that way right if you know like when I started teaching I was very very young so I teach here in NE which is a very important place you know whatever but I was like 24 so I've been having an identity crisis still since then okay because I'm like important teacher but then I'm like a little kid you know so like whatever one time I was going to a wedding I I I didn't used to go to wedding so much because I didn't know if I should sit on the teacher table or the student's table okay but the point is one time I went to a wedding and I was like you know like picking up a dress okay I I like follow rules of modesty but uh it was a dress that was a color that wasn't not modest but it wasn't the most modest it was like Peach for me not like Peach like there like Peach you know so like I'm looking at this dress I want to wear now it doesn't fit me so I don't have the question anymore the point this I'm taking out this dress and suddenly I realized hello you have a big job now you're like a teacher in you know like whatever I think it's a little hard to like fit in with this job at my age but whatever so then I stopped and I said is this dress dignified for what you're representing right now and then I realized no it's completely modest but it doesn't go with my job description you understand is this all of Life by the way yes or no yes you want to portray yourself now by the way right I'm going to tell you something very important I'm not talking so much about clothing I'm still here but listen to it our sages teach right quote man is the glory of God the glory of man is his clothing you hear this I'll say this again our rabbis teach us quote man is the glory of God the glory of man is his clothing what does this means this means a a question man is for God what clothing is for man yes beautiful now what does this mean what does it means that we're the glory of God yes and now you're going to understand all the concept of like k whatever whatever it is the greatest thing the greatest everything it's God yes but because he's so great are we able to understand God yes or no no because there's no point of reference we cannot understand God yes this is part of like the principles of Faith how do we understand god let's say right obviously not comparing but let's say I never met Picasso okay you know who's Picasso good how would I understand Picasso by getting to see what his paintings because what your Creations are an expression of yourself does that make sense great now I cannot ever get to know God does that make sense ever but my question is okay okay if I would want to understand God's greatness right and and be unlimited and the everything about God what would I have to understand from God his Creations yes because his Creations is expressing what God is in a certain sense to a maximum of my ability to understand it yes now if I would really want to know how good Picasso is which painting should I check his most famous painting yes if I really want to understand as much as I can guard what should I check his greatest creation what's the greatest creation God ever made human beings we're like a body with a soul and we're functioning we're it's crazy right we are the glory of God now specifically we the Jewish people because we're the ambassadors of God in this world right this is why we have such a big mitv which pretty much means the world doesn't really know God but judges God through whichever way you behave does this make sense do we all do this you look at someone Rel I and you're like this is the way you act and you're form okay by the way religious people are not perfect they're just trying but they're not perfect but why do they have such a bigger you know responsibility cuz you're supposedly representing God in a bigger way CU you're more you right now what is that D saying something huge I cannot get to know God but I could get to know about God through looking at his Creations what is the greatest creation of God man if I get to to see man if I get to understand man I could see what what God is this is why you know by the way we're all into children and all these thing because if you ever think about it if I make cookies and each one comes out exactly the same that's like wow that's amazing how did you do it you ever thought about this why do religious people like having so many children really you're only obligated to have two right why do religious people have so many kids because each single person is so unique and to create a 100 unique people not big deal to create a million unique people to create s billion unique people that's like wow and then for the more children you have the more you're expressing God's greatness in this world because really how do you make that many cookies and okay obviously no cookies but like they all look different what man is for god listen to this is what clothing is for man why can you get to know someone else just by meeting them yes or no no but you know what you could get to know what they're expressing let me ask you a question what is the first thing you get to see in a person and understand them through that thing they're clothing yes or no now by the way I know what you're thinking you shouldn't judge people on the outside but do we all do that of course we do you know why we judge people the T never says you shouldn't judge it says to judge favorably you know why the T never says you shouldn't judge because how can you define what's right and wrong without judging what's right and wrong we have to judge it just just tells you parameters on how to judge but do we all judge yes yes can you always make up a new first impression no if I ever look at you can I understand you no but what do I understand from you the clothing by the way this is why everyone is so much into fashion does that make sense because what it's fashion I'm expressing myself right so now the question is if you know that what you're putting out there is what people are going to see so first of all why do you choose to put out there something that people you don't want people to see right that's the first question second of all this is how you're going to portray yourself this is what people are going to look from you this is your glory the way you dress ex and you're going to see this from my class right the way you're dressed it's expressing how you look at yourself because this is what I'm choosing to put out you know if I have a jewelry store what do I put out on the display window something that expresses my kind of jewelry if I have a restaurant what do I put out you understand now what is the thing right and I'm going to tell you something really interesting by the way again what I choose to put outside this is what people are going to see now do I judge yes do you judge yes should we not judge that's a different question but the question is do we judge yes so if you know you're going to be judged by what you put outside then why don't you choose better what you're going to put outside you know this is what people are going to see and by the way the whole question is why are you choosing to express express yourself in such a way by the way let me tell you something even greater you know there's a famous saying I don't know who said it but probably he must have been someone Chinese because they're wise you know he said like this quote people act the way they think people think of them you heard that I'm GNA say it again people act the way they think people think of them everyone got this you don't act the way you want you don't act the way you think people want you to act listen to it you act the way you think people are thinking you should act yes by the way now according to what we said what is it that we show of ourselves some people are looking at us through that what we're wearing does that make sense now let's say you go partying what do you wear something good and sexy yes because you want people to consider you sexy right this is why you want people to look now by the way you could check this out in all of the movies I'll give you an example you know when you have like a girl that doesn't have so much self-confidence she's not that pretty so she's always shy and like whatever and then suddenly it's her sister's wedding and she has like all of the makeup in the world and upd doing like a gorgeous dress have you ever seen her walk you know like when she goes in she's like suddenly like self-confidence what the heck happened I don't know you know what happened she thinks people are thinking oh my God you look so good and therefore how is she acting I look good does that make sense is that true you ever saw Anastasia I love Anastasia life it's a road and I want to keep going okay we're not going to sing but if you ever saw Anastasia all of the time that she was dressed as a tboy she act exactly as a tboy then she went to this like Gala right by the way and then she was like going to an opera what was it I don't like Opera you know how she goes to Dimitri she stands like this why I look respectful and therefore you have to treat me with respect does the clothing that we wear affect how we act yes or no if you're going to a very important job interview do you dress in a very serious way yes why cuz why would you say I want them to take me who says you're serious anyways ah but they're thinking I'm serious and therefore I'm going to behave in a serious way yes or no yes or no by the way you could see this with everything you could see this where hairstyle clothing when you want to look elegant and you could see this again most people wear an updo you ever noticed this when people want to look formal they don't wear their hair down like wild and updo cuz you want to look well put together you know I saw this video on Facebook like a 100 Years of fashion in two minutes anyone saw this I'm not teaching you about a hair covering so we don't have time but if you ever notice this each generation is defined by the hairstyle of that Generation by the way what's the hairstyle of this generation just think about it for one moment you know what's the hairstyle of this generation long and Wild by the way this never happened before if you if you notice nowadays everyone let their hair gr very long and it's just like like whatever by the way you know which other generation had very wild hair and just think about what that generation represented which one which generation had very wild hair the hippies no or the afro I don't know what you want to call it what was that generation about breaking rules you know just think about this for one moment I even have a whole de which I don't have time to teach you but if you ever look at Disney movies okay all of the Disney Princesses the way they're dressed and specifically their hairstyle has to do exactly with their personality out of every single Disney princess which one would you say was the most modest the most like you know like in inner Cinderella Cinderella even more than Cinderella but Cinderella is number two Snow White very short hair then you have Cinderella but then she like Breaks the Rules a little bit so her hair grows right then what do you get Ariel Jasmine check this out who was the most wild of all of the princesses came out two years ago who saw this movie no another one maybe you didn't see that one cuz it wasn't so good anyone so brave how how was her hair to red on like all over the place why she was so rebellious you know I was one time thinking about this and I'm like wow whoever this fine it's amazing how they designed the the Disney character according to our personality amazing you know and you know at the moment they break through ever so Ariel she like has a hair and or whatever and then when she goes into a water it's like I want to be free then the hair go exactly a moment why because this is this is how we're portraying ourselves this is what affects us so by the way not only am I choosing to express myself through my clothing yes but the clothing and how I put myself outside that's going to affect my inside it's why in Judaism we always say fake it till you make it no it's not being a hypocrite it's understanding that your outside affects you because you act the way you think people think of you you understand and therefore right now we have to like sort of uh wrap up way what are we saying this is what we're saying till now right modesty defense of roses is recognizing my beauty the more I know the more I should act according to what I know if I don't act according to what I know that I don't really know anything if you're better you should behave better you should be expressing that greatness that you have in yourself but now sometimes I think I'm good but I'm not expressing that and guess what no one is going to perceive that you understand and therefore anyways I haven't said anything about clothing yet but this is what I want you to understand sen it's a sense of Shame Shame means how great am I you know shame means there's always someone that's watching me you know the Tora says that when Adam and Hava were in the Garden of Eden both of them were naked and they were not embarrassed why were they not embarrassed because they didn't knew they were naked and therefore if I know I'm naked shouldn't I be embarrassed yes or no 100% because if I know intellect is Shame Shame is intellect it's not what I know it's how do I act according to a way that I know right so I'll continue with this next time any questions till now okay thank you [Music]