Laws of Thinking - Rabbi Jonathan Rietti

we're gonna start off with the most obvious question who's the real meat who's the real you your body yes or no no is it your clothes obviously not is it your career is it your money your assets who's the real you your soul in what sense is how do we know the real you is your soul and how do we get a grip on what that actually means for those still awake so we're here tonight to talk about reality thinking versus non reality thinking because the real you the real us as we know is really our mind our mind actually is our neshama we're gonna talk about this with a few references your soul your neshama is limited or unlimited how do you know it's unlimited because God said so where did God say your soul is unlimited all right so okay we're gonna start at the beginning it's a good place to start I had a friend actually who went to a psychiatrist and he the doctor asked him you know so tell me know what your issues eyes look I have so many problems I don't know where to start he said well it started beginning oh okay in the beginning I created the heavens and the earth I created the heavens enough I know mine he thought he was God so we're gonna begin at the beginning when a college particle created man what is the description he uses to describe how man is created by eat sashimi okay ma Shem yet some but it's I mean comes from were designed yachts are is designed bara means create the difference between creating and designing is what when you create you create from nothing only a goddess power couldn't really do that but yatza means you take something that already exists and then you form it you shape it transform it this make sense but it's irrational Kim Adam Arthur mean Adama man was created know so created man was designed by a correspond to a far the dust the dirt from the ground so so far the component of man is that he's made from Adama you are made out of all the minerals from the ground the epoch Popov the verse is not finished yet and he blew into his nostrils niche mutt I am a soul and how do you translate Chi in so the King James Bible says life and unfortunately almost all our translations follow so one translator be living soul and let's do this very quickly I am is Lashon yeah kit or a pin is it singular plural plural so what's the correct translation life thank you your soul is called nish mark I am the word high means lives there is no word in Lashon ha'qodesh in Biblical Hebrew for the singular life the work high is an adjective it means our life o avinu high our father is still alive in respect to Yaakov Aveeno OD ourself high yourself is still alive there is no word in national Kaddish for life if there's no word in national Kaddish for life in people people what does that mean about the word that you and I say as life what does that mean if we've got a word in English and there's no equivalent in logic I - and leshawna Kadesh Biblical Hebrew created reality so it's in God's dictionary I am isn't God secretary high means alive there's no singular there's no word for life in logic Kurdish which means what it does not exist there is no such thing as a life Khayyam means lives that means that your soul is a niche not a soul of the tough at the end of the word neshama means its construct which means it belongs to the next word it's a soul of lives every time you come back here that's another life but really it's not just that it's this world it's not the real world allah azza is one life but the real life is Olam haba armas air is called a la marche care it's just a dim yarn it's not real even science agrees that the vast majority of you and I experience is not real your granite countertop at home is solid work well it appears that way but scientifically what will a scientist standing next to you tell you out of this solid rock how much of it is actually matter physical reality and how much of it is made up of empty space and the answer is there's an answer to this depends on what which physical material you take but granite is 99.99999 you've gotta go eight points till you get to the one meaning it's 99.9999% empty space it's point zero one one one point zero zero zero zero zero zero zero zero nice bases later 1% physical matter that means to say that the atoms are moving so fast that you know in our interface with this solid granite experience it is completely solid but in reality in physical reality it's actually mostly 99.999999% empty space this means to say arm has a really is Adam young and it goes way beyond that what you and I see is not real don't trust your eyes that's not me speaking and Curtis bar who warns us luta turu don't follow our a Laval chem your thoughts were get in a few moments they are very a nation don't follow your eyes why not well whose eyes am I supposed to follow whose thoughts am I supposed to follow if I can't trust what I see what am I supposed to trust and the answer is the latter sorry trust that Shem who tells me what reality really is 10 points for gryffindor that was very good do you follow that do you follow so comes along a college Bachmann says please learn my Torah so when you look at the world you'll be looking at it through my eyes so how does God think so I know what to think this making sense because the real us is not our body that's just a colleague that's just a vessel that takes us to where we go but the real us is our mind the word for mind most of the time throughout Tanakh is live live unfortunately because it's miss translated in the King James Bible oh it's popular to translate it as heart but the majority of times the word life is not referring to your heart it's referring to your thinking the proof of that and this this will take from Maharani office whenever you want to know the meaning of any word find it where it first appears in the Torah so the first time that the Torah tells you the word live is in the paragraph pass okay in Bereshit the yarra Shemesh m sake rapid on the negativity of mankind was abundant the coal yes sir and all the design mahashiv 'it was massive amine sorts where did you thinking in your mind the cold hits and mohabbat leap or rock rock all iron all the design of the thoughts of his mind were negative all day long you do your thinking in your mind you don't you thinking in your heart so the correct translation is actually mind shalom america we quote him every single morning in our prayers rabbert mahashiv vote believe ish what are you thinking there are many thoughts in the mind of a person robert mahashiv earth believers that's a Teixeira he took home really God is going to have his way and that's guaranteed what's his way so what I'm just trying to build a case here for a first understanding that the real us is not our body it's our mind it's our soul and the soul lives forever because it's nitch mark IM it exists in this world and it will continue to exist in the next world that's why when we make the barakah its Sherman s Ray there are many topics in Sumer I said which one topic is repeated than most times anyone anyone here at Amish Montessori so take a quick scan the one item that is repeated five times in Shmona s Rey is that I met him go check it out when we make the baraja Baruch Hashem Mohammed in Mohammed vomiting is it ye hai yeh he will revive the dead or make holy he's doing it now it's in present tense do you hear the question what do you mean you're doing it now Takata meet him hasn't happened yet no no no the main Takata made him that we're looking forward to is after me she comes but the main one is happening all the time every time a person dies what happens to their soul it's elevated and reunites to miss original source and therefore here may I aim a team a shame is constantly bringing life to the soul that is leaving the dead body when it's buried and now it's reunited with a college bar who so let me explain this a little clearer when Hashem says I made you out of two components our farm in our Dhamma the yucca up of nish mark I am two components to ground and soul breathe in to us by Hashem a vehicle it's a it's a metaphor in the lotion of the their ariza --that when you see a glassblower fashioning the shape of the glass at the end of this long tube where is the glass getting its shape from what and the answer is your breath which is coming from your lungs so caveat all so to speak the essence of you your air in your oxygen as you breathe out that is actually fashioning the glass so caviar explains that result when Hashem gives the metaphor of him blowing in the nostrils of man his soul which lives in lives this world and the next forever as many killed Ghulam as many times we have to come back down again that would be another life another life another life says the Ariza then you are helic Elohim Nima Hashem chemicals breathing into you from his essence and that's the language of Yavin and hazael tell us hey let Elohim emails of reference to the neshamah the soul this breathe into you now listen to the curse Adam gets from Hashem when he ate from the tree he got a number of curses one of them was you will return to the ground he are far Arta who may avatar shove you are dust from the ground your soil from the ground and you shall return to the ground the problem with that basu is something is missing what's missing what happened to the soul in the description of man's design and creation there's two components but when you talk about him dying you already talked about the body going back to the earth what about the soul and the obvious answer is you can't destroy the condi goes back to where it came from Akash Morocco oh so reality thinking has to do with recognizing that we are our thoughts our soul is made up of our thoughts who is our teacher I'll take your question coming just a few moments who's our true teacher your answers correct melakartas Babu how do we know he's out true teacher so let me share with you please be mocking me if I quote the Christian Bible do you are you okay with that please forgive me because this is this is what all the time how do we translate Rebbe teacher what's the origin of that the word Rebbe is translated by the christians as rabbi teacher how do we translate Muhammad teacher that's the correct translation according to King James Bible how do we translate the word Mora teacher thank you how do we translate the word minute mechanic teacher or educator does anyone have a question what's your question is your question on the Christian translation or do you think I have a question on Lawson okay - where's your question that the girls born who chose four different names for what you and I call teacher teacher teacher teacher so who's wrong who's wrong the Torah or the translation just be honest obviously the translation how can we have four names for the same thing it's impossible so please be mocking me if I if I quote you am i offending anybody if I base the Torah on on CASL and not the Christian translations am I not I don't want to be accused of breaking the mysterious I'm I'm okay okay so so listen carefully what is the Malamud so says Mitsuda David you'll find this in paragraph game of puzzle half dollar initially on the word you're Leticia you're let her come on the world you let her come when you give birth to a wise person says the matsuda tavad yer lid giving birth is a lotion of Malamud what's a muhammed that we translate or miss translators teacher here's a mullet hokhmah the levitt ahmud he's causing the birth of wisdom in the mind of the student you see contrary to what we usually think as a teacher I'm here to teach students here to learn I'm here to talk student is here to listen I'm here because got the answers student has not got the answers teacher has the information student doesn't have the information that is a one-way street comes along the Torah and it's written the Kailash is written so you cannot it the minyak to read and you know she regime you know the verbs and you know all the prefixes and suffixes all this emotion guess what's going to happen the minute you start reading the Torah you you will be forced to what think and ask questions because the troubles written so it won't make sense the touch of our pair is missing and that's what's that's gonna give you fill in the missing information but the trial itself is written so that the non-jewish world has no access to a Torah the Torah was written so anybody who wants to be part of this has to be part of the missing information the trash about pair you cannot understand a single pass up is not one worse verse in the entire Torah that makes any sense literally it's always written with grammatical inconsistencies lost and sorrows possibly cave indicators are yahood rubbing rubbing rocket inconsistencies in chat constantly and and it forces you to ask questions forces you to think where you gonna get your answers says the Matsuda Muhammad is someone whose bullet you caused the birth of wisdom in the mind of the student how do you do that revenge phlegm in the answer is before you were born and got this knock over here what what were you busy doing inside the womb of your mother learning Torah oh so it's all there already do you know what a shame is called you say every morning in piccata Torah Baruch Hashem ha Melamed Torah liam Oh Israel you are extracting from us the information that was there originally you help us reveal what's already in here you have innate intelligence innate wisdom innate divine connection that's your soul that's your mind literally so you're gonna see in a few months when we're really going with this if this is really true that you are more a mind than anything else and your eyes even your eyes our eyes deceive us all the time I'll prove it to you there's something that's extremely obvious but it so obvious your brain has decided to not pay attention to it even though your eyes can see it and I'll prove it to you I will not manipulate you close your right eye and look down to the bottom right corner with your left eye what do you see what do you notice your nose now close your left eye and with your right eye look down to the left bottom left what do you notice the other side of your nose is that right now open both eyes and look in front of you where's your nose it's still there but you're not paying attention it why not because you don't see with your eyes you see with your mind your mind interprets what you see and even will block out what's literally I can't say in front of your nose because it's even sooner than that oh so you and I don't see with our eyes we see with our mind so if I've got an interpretation that's negative about life about my wife about my kids about my spouse about my house about my health about my wealth I'm a poet and I know it if I'm going to have a negative impression about you my mind will tell me what I'm looking at and if I don't stop thinking negatively about you I will actually file the negative reports my mind has made about your character and there's in the Torah how many Mitzvahed how many men fought in the entire Torah 613 how many of them instruct us what to think how to use our mind how many are Atari ugh it's an important question and the answer is 51 safer car radium one of the mania misses one of the counters of the Mitzvahed gives you the full listing of every part of the body which is done by different mitzvot the one that's done with your mind there are 51 Mitzvahed you know why that's significant I'll tell you why because even though that's only 8% of Terry ugh it's not shall tell you why because today until the shear comes and the actually she is rebuilt the temple and we got all the Mitzvahed of Tom on Terra and all the proper agricultural laws guess how many miss bought apply to us today 279 how many of those apply to women by the way and the answer is to check it out yourselves 270 out of 270 279 Mitzvahed what is the percentage of 51 what it what is 51 out of 250 once it pops me wanted is that right could take a vote if you like we can take a vote your line is everything what you think not just matters it creates your reality but there's two parts to this presentation reality thinking non-reality thinking reality thinking God exists in my life non reality non reality the children aren't going in the way of art we waste them it's useful the finance is such a mess I gave you the best years of my life when I'm blaming other people where's God out of the picture so I'm in non-reality thinking jealousy no talk mud lot it's over there's two myths out there one is Tony don't plan ways to get what the other person has and the other one is control the desire jealousy is in the top 10 literally of their Sarah Cody Brad got it got the top 10 what's it doing there where does jealousy take place in your pinky your elbow your kneecap where's jealousy oh it's in your mind unfortunately thanks to Christianity please be welcome if I'm knocking cuz I'm not here to knock us down I'm just explaining they had an agenda it was very very clever when they when they translated our Torah and King James Bible 1604 through 1611 the four sorry 6064 I believe it was now 47 sorry 47 Cardinals 46 of them were professors and Cardinals they were linguists they were in the three most prestigious universities in the world which were Oxford Cambridge and Westminster of course all in England Harvard n't exist yet it's only about 300 years old you're going back 1604 these 47 Cardinals had 15 criteria conditions of how to translate our Torah based on the Hebrew Bible and such Septuagint the Greek translation and the Latin translation into an English which King James wanted to be the final revised version of the Bible that no church would be allowed to read any other version of so amongst those 15 conditions was that if any word in logic adesh translates into a word that doesn't match Christian dogma what should they do change the word slightly so throughout Tanakh and this one these were not our may hurts him completely because they he knew Latin Greek Biblical Hebrew Mishnah Hebrew there were grammarians they they were extremely precise in the Hebrew grammar so they knew exactly what they were doing when they took words that don't match what it really means but I'll explain the word llave they translate his heart the problem though is that the word live has four meanings throughout Tanakh one is a metaphor it's a muscle like you say catheter Hammad believe young every morning you say the earth congealed became dry and in the depths of the scent of the sea as we went through the answers so there's no lathe in the YUM it's a metaphor it's a Michelle the in the middle it congealed so you use that as a metaphor there's no life there sometimes as we had last week's parasha by Oetker none not yesterday's last week's where mojo Boehner was described Hasini Azhar Harbor where hard labor Jemima the flames on the mountain we're flaming idly Bosh mime till their heart in the skies there are not there's no heart in the skies as Russia explains it means in the midst the talk in the midst of all that noise and the fire and the darkness and the cloud and in midst of all that that's what it means it's simply a metaphor sometimes the word lave means your physical heart like our on a coin parapet impartial tits of a he wore the ocean El Libre on against where his physical heart was and sometimes it can mean an icon of your emotions very rarely verse vast majority of times is referring to your mind your thoughts so once you know that now translate the Torah not according to the Christian Bible lattissima haqiqa bill evolve eka don't hate your brother where in your mind now the word live means mind but says sacred him whenever the word live is doubled over live Arvika or live avec m it's referring to both parts of your mind what are they excellent the Torah tells us that Hashem wants me to love him behold the valve occur with all your thoughts lave means mind or thought live bakka means all your thoughts which are all your thoughts so because I'll tell us its last mission in bra code Barrett para para get a pair of tests sorry pet ha ha ha hey missionary vishna it's a record-high yetzer Tov the Hyatt Sara so there two types of thinking there's positive and this negative yetzer Tov literally means a designer a Yid star is a designer via tiara is a negative designer so you and I each of us have in our mind there are two ways to design our lives some people look at marriage as a battle some look at it as a challenge some look at it as hey I'm really growing from this very difficult and others are actually blissfully happy can you believe that no but that was not meant as a joke is just pure Hume okay no mind so comes along the Terron tells me the whole of Africa means with all your thoughts which thoughts your good and your negative so when you see something that you shouldn't look at how do you love Hashem with that and the answer is by switching the thought to a good thought and Hashem says you did that because you love me when a person gets angry and then controls their anger and switches it to an apology appreciation admiration kind words less accusations less blaming that's taking the it Sahara the negative thinking which the Christian Bible translates as the evil inclination that's not what it says yet sir says the Zohar on part benefit when Hashem created man he designed him for Yeats irish-american a farm in Adama yet sir is miss spelt with two years there's no misspellings in the Torah Britta's miss spelt you know you don't spell yet sir he'd start with to you it's only one so why does the Torah do it with two years and the answer is there are no mistakes in the Torah it did it deliberately to force you to sink and ask a question what are the two years you don't need to you it's in the words are so answers the trash moped when must have been wrote that word he asked her shame revolution alum why am I writing two years for it sir so I am said oh because there's two painters - designers inside your mind there's a good designer year to Tov and a esraa a negative designer you get to choose the pictures you hang on the walls of your mind you get to choose the meaning of those pictures on the walls of your mind you get to choose what life is you get to choose what marriage is what children are you get to choose what your impression of yourself is you get to choose everything it's all in your mind to be more precise likutey my run from rebbe nachman of breslov interim tests in the first tale akov of look at the run interim test actually says yet sir it's this negates rim the hit Sahara Hema Mohammed wrote the ayats had told him a moksha but to avert this is really spelled out the it sort of is what your thing when you're thinking good reality the it is thinking negative non reality jealousy is what reality or non reality why is it non reality why why and it's negative why is jealousy non reality what's the what's the reasoning because if shame exists reality thinking and he knows everything and it's true that I say every morning shower Sally cold turkey he's already provide his past tense already provided all my needs then what you've got doesn't belong to me and if I want something I should work for it and if I don't get it obviously I don't need it so that's called reality thinking non-reality thinking is every time I look I see oh I wish I had a wife like him I wish I had a husband like her I wish I had his intelligence I wish I had her looks I wish I looks I wish I had his figure her figure and listen if it motivates us to change ourselves that's permitted and that's positive jealousy you can use jealousy to your advantage because the hate citavi its are how I think negatively or positively is not dependent on you the shape of your body or how much money you have that I don't or the size of your home that's bigger than mine it's dependent on what am I thinking how do I interpret what you've got and if I open your intelligence as hurting me I will have a choice to either be hurt and resent you for your superior intelligence better marks in class or more let at the end of your name in your career or I will turn the jealousy into let me work on myself let me read more books let me become more curious let me try and harder so that I can develop my mind like he has like she has so jealousy is not intrinsically negative but our Shem listen very carefully if I tell you don't eat that put drink that poison obviously it's predicated on you having the ability to avoid it is that right so every single law I said every single don't in the Torah is actually a vote of confidence when God says don't be jealous what's he really saying I designed you with the ability to not be jealous hey it might not be easy I might have a very difficult background where I was put down and compared all the time to my brothers and sisters and therefore jealousy comes very easy for me but nevertheless God says hey if I told you you can control it that means you can I've designed you with a mind that can control itself sinner hatred where does that place take place your pinky your elbow your kneecap wears sinner notice not attack you can't bill bar better don't hate your brother in your thoughts because if I don't stop thinking negative about you what's going to happen and this is where it gets really bad news if I don't control my jealousy if I don't control my hatred look Tito or don't bear a grudge what's that mean Rashi tells us natira means guarding don't God negative judgments about other people and remember what they said or did negatively against you because that creates resentment and if I go to bed resenting you tonight guess who's not sleeping a good night you or me I'm suffering Anna Shem says Lotito don't hold a grudge don't bear a grudge don't remember negative things people did or said against me and where where do I have to work on that oh that's my mind that's my thinking so she was giving me a vote of confidence that I can control my interpretation of dad mom brother sister-in-law friends neighbor boss who's really not nice at all sometimes it unappreciative and very demanding and over micromanaging drives me nuts and college Baku says don't go to sleep with it if you want the myths of talk a car where you ask them my friend Lamar see Takako why did you do that or why did you say that and give them a chance to apologize or explain that's a separate Mitzvah but the Mitzvah the Lotito means don't hold a grudge over here leti calm don't take revenge but where's that start o planning how to get back at you how to you got me I'll get you back but much worse lordy calm don't take revenge where's that start it's controlling the mind is this clear there are so many mitzvot of the mind bit said ich ich put on me TECA what does that mean you saw someone do something wrong and it's possible in your creative imagination to select an interpretation that puts them in a positive light which of the two does the Torah ask you to select what you heard and saw or start exploring your creative imagination and come up with any story you can put them into a good light which of those two does it draw asked us to do look for the good and if I can't find any what would I say to God God and say look if I told you but santak teach bottom attacker which has several meanings one is for judges in court that's one of the meanings of that Mitzvah that I have to be righteous in how I judge them so you don't get to sit down while this guy stands up and you don't get to have less time than he does to speak it's got to be equal but there's another explanation which is this it's also the same Mitzvah but zeddicus but America is the source for Harvey done it Khalid Amla coughs a hood and that reply of refers to all of us who are also judges because you and I are judging every waking moment of our lives we're judging ourselves with judging God were charging the world with judging our husbands our wives our children our careers our boss our co-workers our neighbors our neighborhoods our leadership where our community where instantly making judgments making decisions and God is telling me please be in control of my mind because if I don't stop thinking negative I'll end up feeling it in my heart Oh No if my heart the icon of emotions gets controlled by jealousy hatred resentment interpreting you negatively instead of positively but surjective barometer car what's going to happen to my emotions they become angry bitter frustrated resentful and now what might happen is guess who becomes in control of the real me me or my emotions that's dangerous when my emotions take place that's really dangerous but the good news is this your emotions are completely helpless without your thoughts and the reason why I caught a sparkle there are several reasons why did I Shem allow the word Lev to have more than one meaning the simplest answer is most of the time you and I are not paying attention to what we're thinking but you know what's much more obvious what we're feeling so if I say I'm feeling very frustrated by now or very angry what am I really saying what am i revealing I'm revealing I've got angry thoughts frustrating thoughts do you understand the reason why a sham wants the word Lev to mean both my thinking and my emotion is because he wants me to understand that my emotions are clues they're very big clothes for me to understand me this one frequently angry what does that say about what's going on in my mind frequently with a person I frequently get angry with I'm thinking negative about that person is this making sense so a Shem gave us the emotion in order to reveal to ourselves what we're thinking because the moment we caught then my emotions are not triggered by you behave by the market by the snow on my party and the rain on my party and it's not really my boss that I'm angry it's my thoughts about my boss about the weather and therefore do I have to wait till it stops raining snowing boss stop lacking appreciation and micromanaging or can I change my mind and when we change our mind what happens over here it switches immediately do you follow this and therefore the word lave has to be both there's other reasons rabbi a victim mil who talks about this many times on his tapes many times the word lave correctly translates as mind thinking he he translates hava Tolliver but he avoids the the translation that weave is classical based on the Christian translation of lave he doesn't translate it duties of the of the heart he calls it duties of the mind because that's what it means do you follow the vast it's not just the vast majorities more than 9 times out of 10 it means that the word lave is there to help us understand the connection between our emotions and our thinking and it's very liberating because if I really realize hey it's not my husband it's not my wife it's not my children it's not the finances and it's not the health it's my mind if I change my mind about health and start paying more attention to eating more healthy drinking more sensibly exercising taking care of my body because I've changed my mindset about who my body is guess what will happen I will feel differently towards junk food smoking drinking the wrong drinks our feelings are controlled by our mind and the more we analyze our feelings being triggered by other people and circumstances and background and then try and analyze and tear upon another layer of where the pain comes from without recognizing that in one second we can change the entire essence of who we are I'll prove it to you sure honey look code of Jewish law similar my pet I believe it is section 38 in a Vanessa I'm gonna embellish it slightly but the halacha is you know someone is a russia he's he's got a hudsucker he's a known to be a wicked person i'm gonna give you a scenario which is not what it's describing but it will help you understand what it's referring to when it's closed him a russia you see someone filling a ham cheese sandwich on right at the end of Yom Kippur and in last seconds of Yom Kippur without a barakah of course he takes a bite and he swallows the last bite just as Yom Kippur goes out you saw him in front of your eyes grill that's a melaka itself cheese and him too is saw him that's possible olive and ham is also trait and he grills it together so it's real bitch'll between the two and now it takes a bite swallows it in the last second that they he swallowed he takes out a ring he puts it on the finger of a lady next to him and says hurry up Mika definitely behold you are betrothed to me a lot on condition Shawn eats a dick then I am a righteous individual says Rebecca vaguer the correct gear sir is Shawn it's a big Gomorrah I'm completely righteous once the halacha makuta Shetty is it a valid marriage yes or no interesting yes it is what's the reasoning schürrle perhaps here to Shu verbally poor in the moment between swallowing and saying you are betrothed to me on condition I'm a completely righteous individual he had a thought in his mind he her teshuva Billy Boy oh really and therefore Miku - yet it's a valid marriage and if they don't want to stay married then you need a real divorce do you follow them now let me share with you how does God look at the world positive negative somewhere in between what's called reality thinking we already know anger is not reality jealousy is not reality thinking having a grudge against a person I'm out of reality it's not just I'm out of reality I'm not living because every moment I'm angry at the world Hashem people my life my party I'm angry with my children my siblings I'm losing in that moment who I really am I'm a mind that's supposed to be paying attention to God's reality and the more I'm in tune with his reality the more we are aligned with the real world what's the real world it's all in embarrass it's any clues you want of how we are just looking better at the end of each day of creation except one Hashem gives a report well he gives a report at the end of each day but there was one he'd missed out the full report at the end of each day by RFM key 12 now if God says something's good that must be pretty good do you agree I'm if I give a headshot it's relative but God gives the hex oh my gosh do you agree them and probably everyone should accept that Hexter to agree says he said it's good do you agree yes or no now that's good the world's not finished what's good the earth appeared on the third day the fourth day the Sun Moon and stars they're put in their locations the fifth day all the birds and insects the sixth day all the animals and then man himself right at the end and at the end of each day except for the second day when the waters will split if something is meant to be together and it split where it's not meant to be then Jim said I can't say that's time so but he made up for it by saying time twice on the third day but but what was so good if God is saying it's good he's saying he's thinking it's good yeah listen I'll ask you like this have you anyone got teenagers anyone here got teenagers so appreciate why some animals eat their young but as pure humans not reflection on reality whatsoever so let's say you go into a teenage room oh my gosh you know your room so you know what you want to be able to use my car Saturday night Sunday then you got six hours to make your room completely tidy that's it six hours that's it you come in one hour later and you look at the room oh my gosh what a mess it's much worse than when we started you come in an hour later and you give your book this is crazy it's just total chaos here third hour you come in and you start noticing oh it's a pile of dirty linen here a pile of books and they start noticing Oh things are starting to be put in their place and by the end of it then you realize oh there was a process then until it switched from complete chaos to starting to look tidy and eventually be tidy I would easily fall into the trap of thinking it's not good so God comes along and about his own unfinished job says it's good really yes process is good now watch this when was man-made six-day which hour of the sixth day did Marat sanhedrin darf lammott had page 38 to check it out the party was created in the third hour his body was taken from different continents so that wherever it would be buried that ground would accept him because it it contributed to his body so it's part of that land literally fourth hour nice Rock burnish muttered in the fourth hour god injected in him he is neshama fifth hour on net but I'm a barrel of he stood on his feet standing is always a metaphor for independence that's where the English expression he can stand on his own two feet in the pendants 6-hour he names all the elements in creation all the animals he gives them names he had that alien Hashem had given Adam a mind where did he get his mind from Hashem himself so he had such a perfect mind he could see which OTO which letters Hashem had to pronounce to create every element in creation and he was able to identify what the names of every single element every single animal seventh hour he married cover eight hour she gave birth to kine and sari and to CAI pebble and no kind and his twin sister ninth hour he gets at Savoy he gets her a command don't eat from the tree ten hour he ate from the tree eleventh hour Hashem sits in judgment 12 hour expelled from Canada at the end of the twelfth hour just like at the end of every other day God sits down so to speak to give his final report Bojana hashem saw it all that he had made vahini he needs a various both inborn worth here the christians got a right means behold now what is behold name behold means pay attention now every letter word in the Torah requires me to pay attention but when rebelling on the marks the universe actually worked in his Torah he lay please pay attention that means oh my gosh there's something extra special that's being communicated a message I must not miss out on Hashem saw all that he had made Vahine a pay extra attention Tov night it's exceedingly good replenish excuse me Adam just ate from the tree set back the tikkun olam fixing the world as we now know almost 6,000 years so good what's a good chance and a question then send question this is his report at the end of 12 seconds maybe minutes after Anton blew it he was only given one silver and she was given to the first one was eat from all the trees they call eights had gone from every tree in the garden uncle tell please eat enjoy Wow focus on the gird oh mesa tossed over ah oh by the way the tree which is in the middle of the garden Tiber ah that's the only one you can't eat from thousands and thousands if not tens of thousand one hundred thousands of trees in Connaughton please focus on enjoy mate Nicole eats again please take every single one enjoy this beautiful world and he blew it that's so good can you say that what's operations answer please don't look at the world through your eyes is a much bigger picture you see I gave our time the ability to change how long does it take to change one second he'd already offered Adam a chance to change when he asked him why are you embarrassed about being naked oh did you eat from the tree I asked you not to eat from and that's why you're feeling embarrassed now why did I shame asking a question why why why didn't you stop him straight away what was he inviting him to do teshuva says the manager gotta check it out Marisa God Ahura she quotes it many times the madrugada on that parcel tells us that had art said one word catotti I made a mistake what would a shames response be he would have been local him makyla by the West very strong language makyla is lush and Makkah which means a race it's gone there's no record but what did he do I assure the woman who's he blaming a silly Taramati that you gift it to stand by me who's he blaming he's blaming a Shem for the gift that was given to him instead of taking responsibility and saying one word so Shem says I'll deal with you later turns the cover and asked her why did you eat from the tree what was he hoping she would say I made a mistake but instead she blamed the snake dissuaded me it's in that context a college park oh I could never say these words the Gemara in in avodah Zarah fatima tells us he was called a co FET of Adam was called Affairs the original from the English word cover coffee means to deny the good of marriage deny the good of a partner that was created to partner with him oh and he took that gift Natasha is a lotion of myrtana Hashanah Tata Amati the gift you gave to stand by me he was coffee tov that ticked God off but here's what's really interesting had harvest said one word catotti says the net regatta Hashem would have been more hell he would have forgiven both of them not just cover both of them that's the power she had take one second so our same answers don't get stuck with what you see and what you read there's a much bigger picture man can change in a moment teshuva takes a second even if I fall again in the gain again it doesn't mean my too sure but before doesn't count it counts every single time and what's really interesting and this is quite astonishing is who gets more points the one who doesn't do any mistakes or the guy who does mistakes again and again and again and again and keeps doing teshuva guess who gets more points now don't don't get carried away with this but but the answer is live from sorrow Agra if someone has an addiction ask for solemn and out but it's up down in out in out he's looking shouldn't and he he pulls himself away and then falls a few days later and does whatever he does up down up down in out in out don't give up start again says God don't worry I created man with the ability to change did you follow so in God's mind he wants us to realize he's telling us focus on all the beautiful world oh I gave you one civilly okay but the vast majority is enjoy this world and even when man makes a mistake and blows it and sets us back we're here fixing we we die because of Adam he brought death to the world and as Jem says no I want you to know the world is exceedingly good and has I'll tell us when must have been said about love when you said tough but now you're saying tough my odd what's the mod that could probably add to you 12 you must be perfect so how much what's my referring to if it's your time it's got to be perfect already you know God on set is unbelievable it's the magistrate rubber on that path look not already just referring to the yet Sahara it looks really good negative thinking really why why because when we turn ourselves around are we weak or stronger you get into a conflict with your wife with your husband and you make Shalom and you talk it through fight it through and afterwards what happens oh you're stronger get more mature more admiring more understanding more listening more empathic more giving more sensitive more grateful Oh the yet Sahara is very good not good very good death the more the meds rubber adds on death is very good you stirring it's very good really what I mean is so is very good suffering is good no it's very good what are you talking about when do I really appreciate my body parts anyone been on a skiing trip and broke their leg or had an arm in the sling and set themselves I can't wait til I get out of hospital I can't wait I'm out of this cast I'm gonna I'm gonna be so happy being mobile again like I was before I'll be a different person so sometimes it wears off but the purpose of the negative is to appreciate the positive I don't take it for granted oh the worst thing we think is death it's not true it's not true because if we really believe that life is this world and the next death is only a short vacation of their body but when we reunite how long will that be for Oh forever that's God's thinking that's called reality thinking that's why we do 1 7 days 30 days a year for parent but beyond that Hashem says don't more and more because then that's giving the impression that you're never gonna see them again don't say never don't say I'll never see them I'll miss you forever don't say that it's not true that's not reality thinking we're going to be reunited and it's coming soon hold on tight reality thinking is what enables us to take control of our minds and therefore our emotions our reality thinking enables us to let go of resentment reality thinking allows us to reduce the complaining and anger and frustration and accusing and the denying and excusing and replace it with gratitude which is the reason were truly created gratitude yahoodi the essence of which is Hadar which means grateful and also means literally because video means to admit I owe you that's why gratitude and admitting are the same cherish inhalation okay - there's much more to be said on the subject but if you look at all the mitzvah'd of the Torah which have to do with your mind eruption mind where's that take place Alva - an artist well it's all thoughts in the mind where after a wreck a car marker if you are being commanded to love your neighbor friend Macha like yourself that's telling you two very important messages then your friend is love April there are parts qualities virtues in their character in their behavior that God says you can love otherwise I wouldn't come on Jim and if he's also telling me I should love them like I love myself what's he commanding me to do love me I'm a mitzvah to love myself who's the real me I should love oh that selam aleykum we were created in His image the neshamah in us is a hillock Ellicott my mouth fromage am himself is inside of us and that is told three times that were created but selam aleykum chapter 1 verse 26 27 and chapter 9 verse 6 we're reminded three times though the real us is not our body the real us is our mind and the more we nurture happiness which is gratitude and the more we nurture kindness thinking of the kindness I owe you and you've done for me and therefore feel grateful towards gratitude is what feeds happiness if I'm grateful I'm gonna be happy when I'm angry frustrated jealous upset resentful guess what I'm what emotion I'm going to experience unhappiness unhappiness is not an emotion the emotion we call unhappiness or depression is because what I'm feeding with my thoughts and if I do that not for a minute or an hour or for a day or for a week or month but for years yes I could get myself clinically down depressed but really it starts with who is riding this horse is the horse taking the rider for right or is the rider actually controlling the horse and you and I we could guess who it is but really you're not you can't be certain the mind is the writer the horse is the body the mind is the writer the horse are the emotions who's in control who do we want to have be in control jealousy is not real gratitude is for everything you've given me and when we say God I'm grateful and for everything give me guess what he's warm more willing to do sign a bigger check and give me more cuz they're not be more grateful really oh okay he's enjoying his healing that's the Archaea that's true wealth but listen carefully there are three meanings inhale core I'm happy with my lot as some marital coin is authorities on Gaelic but it could also mean says the never time has some he'll follow is a simple logic but the ultimate simcha is a Sameer but I'm happy with hey look he has given to the world to me to my friends oh really happiness is not what happens to us happiness is a choice I make to notice the good that's in my life in my wife in my children in my home in my health in my wealth happiness is not our body happiness is not even our health it helps a lot but happiness ultimately is what am I thinking what am i focusing on what am i paying attention to the good in myself and in you and in you and the beautiful world you've created and the more we do that the more we experience the emotion we call happiness but really the emotional happiness is the product of what I'm thinking happy thinking good thoughts equals a good life happy thinking equals a happy life I'll close on top in another you can't get better than him here he is lined up with his brothers no he's not lined up Shmuel Hanavi doesn't doesn't get any nerve work with all the brothers sons of yishai and so he asked is there any up anyone else says here that I do have another son but I didn't think to line him up because we're not sure about his legitimacy so Suffolk where these among that's that really unbelievable so he was completely objective how old is diving a medic at that age 29 he's called in from the fields and what's small enough is he's a Navi what's his first impression of domina Melek oh my gosh he's red-faced redhead oh my gosh who a dummy a dummy means he's got all the traits outwardly of a sob what is a sham say to Shmuel Hanavi your Navi what are you doing looking at the outside Szechuan says a coach party Shmuel Hanavi since malala's parroted zine past exam by your male Shmuel Oh Tibet Elma a who don't look his appears what you're seeing with your eyes then go become a saw don't look at the height of now he's referring sorry to Eliav who was extremely handsome very tall keen are still I I've rejected him kylo assure you I are done when a person's looking that's not what they're seeing Giada Mira Ellen I am a person looks with his eyes Vashem you are alive I've of burnished em looks at their thoughts because that's the real person and what what's governor Malik who Adame in yatha a nyam with beautiful eyes but I've ruddy and he sees good the Avena Malik was someone who was accused of stealing from someone in Bethlehem he was brought to bed in and he was convicted it was not true he was innocent do you know what he did he paid in full and the first thing he did was ask Hashem to be Markel him that the person who was accusing him should not be punished because he was innocently punished that's what was going through his mind he had a beautiful eyes what beautiful eyes mean he looks at the good inside other people and assumes it Donna Malik was able to carry that throughout his if you look at all the bus took him that talked about his interaction with Scholl and other people his own confidence who wanted to kill Shaw and he wouldn't let them know don't you know who he is he's Hashem ski ashamed made him King well Shem wants me to get the kingdom he's anointed me for he'll do it but I'm not gonna take it away Colossians ready the other Miller who's looking at the world with the eyes of Hashem the world is good people are good people make mistakes they can do teshuva there are a shame who can do teshuvah so this is only talking in basic principles of how the mind works I close and I truly mean it must look it where's that start that you wanna like me I don't like what you think or the way you behave or your way you want the rule to be or the community to be order leadership to be it's all about my complaining that's really what Mac like it if it starts up here how long does it take to change as long as it takes for me to realize where's my muffler kit coming from it's coming from what I'm thinking as much as I'm fired up against you or the sin I have against you it's really it's not coming from here it starts here and the moment I realize that I can stop it over here but if I let this my emotions take over my mind I'm in big trouble because now every time I look in what doesn't make it makes no difference how good you are my emotions will rule my thoughts and I'll be so easily triggered without realizing it's not my emotions it's my thoughts that I'm allowing to continue but the moment I know I'm in control and I don't have to blame I can change the only person I was created to change and if I'm a big bummer lookit I have a lot of sinner and I change whoa the fun Sarah Audra according to the difficulty is the compensation oh so we're here to change our minds we're here to nurture ourselves we're here to mine our minds we're here to dig to the good that's already in there because Hashem is Mohammed or Alawi so he is helping us extract the neshamah which is already in us the good that's already in us the connection we fill to other people and when we change ourselves the world changes in response to a different us in there's a hood in the merit of us knowing that thinking is the most important part of who I am and that when I come up to sham I am the only part that I bring is not my body it's my mind and the complete accumulation of all my thoughts not my emotions or my thoughts that I had during my lifetime and our Shem will judge us based on worried analyst were we grateful did we turn around that anger not did we never get angry did we get angry gets a table told me art your servant of God Sherman's not worried about the y8 Sahara he tells us now you can turn it around it's all in my choices of what I'm going to think in the school of that may was okay to have much simpler lives on men