Laws of Lying in Torah - Rabbi Yakov Zev Smith

at the lie and they cause them to lie that's something that he can never forgive them now this speaks volumes of what it means the sensitivity to Emma's name Amish try to kill him daddy could overlook but for him to have to overlook the MS was such a traumatic experience it couldn't be mindful the communist and the emphasis the more use I thought to learn you see the sensitivity that the Terra Cotta issue that caused all that we're supposed to have - MS do we need more than the fact that the tire by only this lab said neither our secretary cook says them since arm in the beginning of Parekura olive we don't find about other live them tear not just don't do it stay away the sin of a mitzvah i and outlet says that checker is nosov vanilla after the end of a mosque me man oh and that brings Cleland to one's home and then he also points out the lotion of tear do we need more than the gomorian Sanhedrin of sattvic Bay's kalamata love Betty Burris someone that lies kilo I've arrived I desire now lying is a terrible aver no doubt why is that like a boy desire but mom I said is so much past this hollow column I said to this statement because the branch llamas amis is tire is Emma's we are an I'm JMS and how does a person in his right mind even believe that he'll gain from lying if they're banished to him is Emma's so when someone does resort to lying he subscribing to a nail laughter he's following a different God that runs the world because the British limb does not tolerate that must shake it and the embassy that's why I saw the house initiative muna buttock and ology gimbals that urges us we have to talk about Emma's and she or him and finish up on him because there are so many shila's that come up and people I don't have the guidance I guess I could say what what was the clincher that I decided I must talk about the sagir someone told me and he said it very with Mimas he said he's you know the cytosol and bias is lying I said why cuz yeah I'll he says because you get into trouble all right you do something what do you do you lie your way out of it or your wife says do this he say no problem but you don't plan on doing it what's the heads up a lot of life is showing bias so I heard that I realize that's it we have to talk about the importance of Emmis you know it's true as we'll see that in some situations the midst of the lie I'll show lame but it doesn't mean to live a life of shaker but the MS is as we said and it will see more there are numerous kumaras that seem to indicate that there is a hat that Ally I saw the vanished eye and the title is small and his Jubba safe the Simmons chin Sam of Dalit collects 45 different cameras and shots about MS and you'll see some of them taka it's less than M s so our job today is to understand the importance of MS when you allow to deviate from the MS and perhaps most of all if indeed MS is so so important how could they ever be I haven't mean it till I call Skinner mascota as we see it's much it's more it's a mitzvah Lashon eyes mayor shearling we know that Mitsuba Bavaria in a mitzvah you can't do a nivara for a mitzvah the ends don't justify the means we call that a mitzvah Bavaria ain't a Mitzvah so we have to learn today your Gemara involve a messiah of kimmel I'm a days that I believe is packed with information it's a very brief Washtenaw Gomorrah but as well see every word is an important concept sub D Gomorrah and of Mattia Kafka Malamud Bay's vahana trois Mille in these three things a VDI Barnum the Tommy the common are a custom the Machado the Millea that they changed from the truth the mess after Luba pouria ubers Pisa so let's go one word at a time three things you allow to lie first what's the loss to three is that only three is that a gimmick Saroyan care but what is the Russian RVD a VB sounds to be then it's it's rogue yo constant why did the amorous a rabona and if you're now are now allowed to use this header and also the strange choice of Washington machado de deux pas de bourree oh why don't you say you'll out to lie and what are these three things so let's learn Rashi and tasteless and let's learn the sodium sup trashy what does it mean miss Esther someone asks you do you know the miss after and you talking oh it don't say I know it say I don't know it ah it's checker you do know it so throughout she will me this another he to say I know the myself this guy ver you don't want to start up with Guyver stay away from Gaia so instead you'll out to lie and say I don't know it now if you don't know it and you say you know it that's takasaka and guide them but Harry does know it so what's that to say I don't know it another now this needs a has another the tire and neither and gave is a very destructive attitude so what's that to t'lie you're running away from one fire into another fire of Secor but let's move on what's the second muscle put Perea because Arashi has a very distinct shot they asked you or you must I'll miss meet us cup say no outs me us now Pisces s no one has such a question so ty sis if if he's about carry and he's embarrassed he's allowed to lie ok so here we see a second category of Aneta a touts me is like Rashi or he's embarrassed now this also a finish because this is not a question of Gaia this is a question you're embarrassed so what's the heta I think to think that my Shaw says a murder decryption Korea is a NAT is in those famous words that became a very popular in Eagan High you finish lips to me beep yuria pariah actually sup Tamar Shaw chandi tomorrow is it comes for him and the person can drink to get chick up Bobby sleaze embarrassed that he's not chick up he's allowed to say he's chicken act Chicka that's job to hurry up you lot a lie as if you shake now of course it's strange if you can't drink so don't drink who asked you the twink you have to lie so maybe he's embarrassed or maybe he's afraid he's going to misbehave if he does drink but he's past them is not the drink so this way he controls himself but the emesis this is similar to the other kimono if a person's embarrassed he's allowed to lie but it needs a husband the third example we allowed to lie is loose Pisa so Rashi explains a person stayed by someone's house for Shabbos and he had wonderful accommodations and this you know how was his Shabbos how was your stay by that host if you're gonna say it was wonderful so people are gonna go to him more and more and that's gonna cause them loss choiceless quote the famous come on Eric enough Stef Zion if you tell speaking about someone's wonderful hospitality that's a caller because everybody finds out that he's mr. nice guy and they're gonna perform a double line in front of his house so therefore you're allowed to lie and say no it wasn't good these are the three categories we are out to line the septa per year and of season and as we'll see this is quoted and - missed at the end of sim enrage Sam McVeigh's and if you like a ram as I saw the beignet yard on this c'mon Bob Marcia says the three categories is the word MS Aleph is a spacer mem is Miss after and suffice - miss the if you want an earlier source Capricia and the smarts the same Makabe in the end in your equation miss but the end of race a mcveigh's says on the word LF or like on teaching a like a life teach yourself to be a mess LF our life is the Russia Tavis Aspasia ly mode and pariah so here we have a Gomorrah that's keep asking the South America but the big question is what is it supposed to mean why is there a hectare to lie but one thing is Clark it Slavs Africa these three there is a Gomorrah which that person that I mentioned earlier obviously terribly missed it but the Amarna but Mustafa Muhammad days mood to Leila Adam lashonna is with partially you allowed to deviate from the truth because of Shaolin and in Vienna Azariah from Yosef and the brothers then the Gemara ads of you ain't nothing I'm a mitzvah not only you'll now - it's a mitzvah because the Venezuelan told small in a difficult situation to life now sometimes you hear people say m is a mid sense of a grubbin I've yet to find out Mitzvah but here there's a mitzvah to lie the Gemara system it's it's a lie the mere fact that the replenish them commanded small to lie obviously it's a mitzvah the question is why is the mercy three things what about starfish Allah so twice is above methey ask this question and Tyson explains the three things are included in that case charlie okay so evidently maybe it's darkly showing and three things but that's not true because there's another kumara another category that you allowed to deviate from the truth Exuma is the end of tuft as alien Kate's admirable Affinia color how do you not dance Russia's how do you speak about the custody caller so Bassam I says no say it as it is what can you do kind of say the truth bacillus says no every in custody kala you allowed to say pala Novica Sudha so base on May said that's very nice as being very positive but how do you live is my second tier so she could cash in a little light so what's based Hilo's response and so what are you gonna do if someone bought an item and he asked you how do you like it and you thought you're gonna call us when you saw it so what do you do of course you have to praise him here also when it comes to fussing column no matter what the Casa de Calma really are praise them Colin Arvika sued them and therefore basil--oh concludes become omaha common law or dante deities of other morever simmer so trashy laughs iceless the Iscariot signing in other words don't be so technical just say good things about people now will soon apply this maharloka but here we see another category that allowed to deviate from the truth when it comes to speaking by a suburb ruckus or when somebody asks you how you like my new car no matter how you like it say it's beautiful and grabber this is brought in a Vanessa Simmons a mukasey Fowler and again we'll soon see what to doula myself but it seems it's not only honey class and how could we not mention the well-known medicine malarkey base love how Aaron acarya was all you've Sullivan raided Shola what did he do so it's marble dick the item knows what in Aaron's technique but how detailed it is that the Med judge says he went over the summonses as you know your friend his mom is suicidal he feels so bad the Russian of the madness is he's mamas he's pulling out his hair he's pairing off his skin he's peering at his heart he can't go on knowing that he's under malaika's with you then he went over to the other party told him the same story - lies obviously you'll analyze who Charlotte so I saw the a MacGuffin I'm it's Amidala he says obviously he says that lying for darkish ala miss mutter even though it's not the truth he and it slammed after Hani class because any situation he says there are many riots so it seems that it slammed Africa honey's class it seems that a general head tub when a person's in a sticky situation he's allowed to lie but now the question is even stronger now that it's lab staff kahani class how do you understand this seems to be this this easy pest of you're in trouble to lie so I'm going to tell you what I think is the push attic shop imagine the following scene you're home and suddenly someone breaks through the door help help someone's they ask to me he's gonna kill me so you say quick hide under the bed 13 seconds later someone breaks into the door a seven for person carrying a dagger with blood dripping from his previous victim and he compelled with you point-blank look me in the eye I know you Jewish you don't lie tell me the truth is there a Jew hiding in this house tell me the truth don't lie what are you gonna do say I bet I say the truth he's under the bed then you scallops God this may table what are you gonna do of course you're not gonna say he's yes he's under the bed why not I gotta be honest I am out of the light so is the only hat the Baku of nephesh doesn't sound right the Saudis checker is so evil because it's a terrible massacre dishonesty in business brings Ganesha Kailash m-my Elena lying to another person is the ruination of Mahavira Schechter is the ruination of so and bias and worst of all when a person is not honest with himself when he's living a lie that's the ruination of a Northern Lights my because the Shecky is a terrible massacre but in the above situation telling them that murder of the truth that's the biggest corbin and saying he's not here is a not so look I saw the mr. Miller yo hey look I love the page 94 he has a discussion mal of MS Amaru Shakur and he says when I called NIM Systema so much - maybe the toy will the rats and I Bailey the shekel machination that small club Lee Suk of shell Sarah check on situation basically ms brings to resolution and Schechter is the opposite and I think we could add now crime can have scheme one of his many farm he has a parish on Miss Esther Kusum and I thought I was familiar but there's a little more sex in the background voices are my septic usin Brian wrote a piece on it and an Epirus that he called me tire or Islamic he has a discussion about MS and checker and very basically says that the real is of the rights of CEQA is when you damage the other person I in some potential but I was thinking I bizarre according to that definition if your second saves the other person that's not second if your Emma spawned the other person and that's checker checker is what a person does the opposite of Watson hashem ms is what brings roots in a chef so it's obvious in the situation that the murder is after that near the saying the MS is the biggest checker saying checker is not shot at a checker and estradiol Isis a or the ends justify the means in this situation that's not MS and I saw the Ritz for an hour Gemara new business a few Italian culture amendment made Eric a showing and by me to my secretary and it was when every situation that has I'll advise deviating from the truth that's not the shot you do in a very loose more that's not checker and I think it's very module ik because in both cameras in Bava metzia and in euphemus the maurices motive leshan noise the play darkish Allah but the shine is Mohammed class why don't think amar Singh would - lusaka the terraces because it's not checker when kazow advise us to lie that's not checker and I think a perfect analogy that really highlights the this shot we know Halle by we know more and more but there's a terrible of area called lush in horror the round mrs. Linares master vesterålen but if you're asked for information about a scissor or about hiring a certain worker and you know the work is a gun if becomes high and pasta this pasta you before you have to say stay away from me so ganas I lost in Hara how can you say bad information the turret is posh if in this situation you have to say the truth it's not the issue their eyes too ugly saying the Barack Obama huh it's the midst of their isolation monogamy alpha and this is the very big circuit of Russian horror Latoya Ellis now really that description is a misnomer when you ever had to say lesson or it's not Russian horror Latoya Ellis it's not lust at heart it's the midst of their isolation without down Rijeka but I guess there's no other word to say what is the emotion tied with Ellis but when someone says like America Ellis he should really say in the mercantilism underpin limits of their I slay salmon at the Maratha so it's not the shot you'll loudest a lush in her in this situation it's not lost in her and I think the same is true when you have a situation of CEQA Latoya Ellis it's not checker you know think think the redness of the three things your data why is the word Emma's as the banished guy says because in those situation that's the embassy so it's not the shot that you allow to lie here the Rutzen Hashem that's the MS and with the mayor of fact that caviar for a thousand times but I am was miss shocker Medina venice' County like you know impartial by everything more it says is the biggest ride that's not checking so let me be very clear Scheck air is still intolerable no rep times are kind of relevance told us the COS Danish could not say the word check it out of his mouth cuz him the word shekel was nivel pet like one goggle said 99% ms is still checker that's the truth check astern a steve-o a saver like Governor Miller said is still true and we still have to live with our secretary but in a situation that hazael advised us to that's not checker that's ms however i we had more time to speak about the importance of ms let me tell you one more part i think says it all it's interesting that the others had their defining moment of greatness of Rome had his nakedness here Scott yes the Cadiz akkada our bank of Comaneci an atmosphere a cave and parses tall days s what was their cage of yucca where did yak I show his his ultimate greatness in his lifetime - sorry Bianca said it often if Lou Babiak that Yakov Aveeno was the epitome of MS Keith in a mostly awkward yakov hated shaker with every fiber of us exist and yet the archive of all the others had the nationís of saying ii he was before you have to say shack up with the brough ice and he a civic or whatever and then he had to live chief loved one and then they told a salami to us - IRRI and amar learns you allowed to lie when you have to and then which them he also was involved but you want to get involved but fee aqua the biggest ordeal the most traumatic experience the occasion see Ackroyd was the actor line that's how difficult it was but that's the resolution I'll do it I'm grow master chef his own son that was the ultimate akkada yok I had to lie when that was the rats in a sham and for him it was almost unbearable but that's the attitude that we all need it should be an akkada when we have to deviate from the truth no I heard this woman Annika love of classical Levenstein they once asked in Damascus one of the great leaders shall I'm a very good friend of his it's taken as a basic step and Pascal said I can't be masked with him so the yes my inaccurate which friend of his he says you're right I really should but I just heard from from cooks Lords one of his nd cook wasn't one if - suddenly I'm afraid when I get up to make a head spit on this autumn goggle I'm gonna cry a little bit my own side if will knit falsa threatened I don't want to cry for spheres people think always crying about advise against really is a nickel you know a sensitivity foul to tread and how much foul severity so let me just quote to you what I saw the oil from a sermon and the Pyrrhic test you know here we're gonna talk a whole about lying but we have to have equal timing which you can have but at least we should know that we have to be careful and even when there's a hectare to think it over because remember swass MST cane law odd kms yeah go TP alibi we should have the sensitivity that we need and now we can learn the suger when indeed you're allowed to deviate from the truth the aside is as we said Shakur is anti resolution and MSS resolution we did not read redefine the word Ms you know the word redefine is wreaks havoc in Claudia Schrom we defined it the MS is rotzinger shem and therefore we can understand behind eClass miele now grata I should mention the rift in my sector Bava metzia wonders there's honey glass and is also Mitzvah Lashon is medaka Shalom what's the fill it is up the rift that when it comes to Sholem its amidst with the light theme our attacker postions bahama class is a resistor so that would be the filler in categories but the truth is one thing it seems Clark whether it's a mitzvah or a heta the only time it's multi to lie is if it's the only last resort if you could reflect the question without lying that's much better I swear the artists tsadikim in the end of showers eka he quotes out of him are you allowed a lie but he said but you know it's much better to do somebody else to you do you know the mass after so and you thought you know it well why don't you see something like why do you think I know the mass after I know the mass Esther isn't that a better way of doing it you avoid Guyver and you don't have to lie I finished the mass after that's myself to finish me I know but no the Emmis is this attitude is the be Pharisee c'mon otherwise aplia Tiki Kumari the you marry says in Sanhedrin that side exile after view may was an issue ms and he moves to a city pushed up that no one lied and no one died prematurely it's a good sugar he bloomed in one day his wife was combing her hair and someone came to the door where's your wife home and afternoon we felt it was lacking obviously was lacking in sneers to say she's quickly washing her hair so he said she's not home the next day two of us chose one IFTA and that would cause an opera in the city no one died in the city prematurely so they came to investigate they says what happened here you must have lied so he told him the story you know I why but I try I don't want to say she's washing I guess I said she's not home so they told them nicely please find a different house different city to live in you can't live in our city so it's aplia he lied the Clara outs Gnaeus that's poor you why was he punished the turrets probably is he could have said something a little more powerful I'm sorry she's not available why did he have to lie and I thought I mean it was an answer but why did he have to lie point-blank and I saw the Ibis Kamat says the same you say he could have he says and a Phenom II that it was a darkish all I'm but he could have said a different lawsuit I think he meant to say person he could have said she's not home and the emesis if you think about the analogy that we draw draw draw from from the case of russian harlot a ellis it's so module ik because the carpet how you said even in a situation that it's a mitzvah is emotion Hara let's say some receive out of sugar and taka the buffer has big saucer anus you will add a say lush in her but better would be just to say something like you know I know you I know the box it's not for you the Cubs high in Cold Stream over P Delta unnie and say hey junior olive in other words you have to accomplish something so do it but avoid saying lesson art the same is true here you have a way of avoiding outright checkered it should burn in your summer but he shot good i need i remember once there was a bucket SP deshyla his parents insisted that he plays ball three hours every afternoon during the summer which is unreasonable so I spoke to her palms in front of our sponsor you know as long as he plays and he's relaxing it's fine what'd she tell his parents he could tell him that he played three hours they open this doesn't ligand I said what did that mean he could say but nazar Gilligan I understood that was a sensitivity you know it was Tim shekels naval pet so three out of it but don't say leg and you're that alive but don't lie that's the attitude you take that attitude you won't slip further and you're looking to safer to see them it's it's clear dick wanted to be shiny tough soft rage Sam McAuliffe if they ask you did you learn them assess them you lattice la llamada t but if you're an ich MS that doesn't say Secor you can't lie so what do you do instead yeah flee game but var in my failure change the subject so again he's not arguing on the Gemara but it's a sensitivity if you have a situation try to use your creativity you know some people you know use their imagination to lie use your imagination to avoid lying and you see how careful has al walk when you have a head not to abuse it thus able to see them in seeming tough carve of has the following question someone asks you for a loan now you know his definition of loan is a donation you're not gonna see the money again but you don't want to say I'm not giving you the money that I'm not gonna see it again so are you allowed to say I don't have money is up the set we would think of course you're louder you don't want to Barris the fellow doctor say obscene you know you're not online i the Gemara that we learned our case show lame that's only something in the past something happened you'll that alive to get out of trouble but to lie Allahabad in the future there's no Hector now this is a famous village of the safer to see them that much has been written to understand if it's Barca shell and what's difference the past or the future so there are many caches on it in fact the mugging of ROM and the mr. burr and Arab and Simon Kaufman love discussed this finished and they asked the kasha under safer to see them and mr. Berg lies with Sir Ian so we could say it's not a La Jolla miser but that Sh gopher is vital to say if I see them was concerned if you're lying about the future you'll end up saying solemn by is all about lying promise your wife you'll do it don't do it do trouble and get out of it he was mommy's worried about this type of mascara and this of course is a problem a person that will take check in his hands he will just live with checker and taka they'd be safer to see the most worried about that but a but a person has to know you can't lie unless this really ahead them now problems are kind of reference told me when he was a buckler there was some in his class who lied regularly say once the protein is you know you know I'm gonna lie so the fella says listen to me the commercial an ally of DARPA Sheldon if I say the truth I'm at at peace with myself and it wasn't joking you know that's what this say focus Edom was worried about a person that finds the Gemara bits to the light he'll use it as a way of life but Lamesa Lamesa the signal see them felt in our how I bought now we are Mako when need be if someone asks you for a loan and you know you're not gonna get back the money you could say I have no money the Cubs I used to be when such a situation he was mascius money and then he said I don't have money okay so the point is not the safe I see them how La Jolla mice up but the smearer that we have to have I'll give another example the amps are slamming the end of the six pair of in your Varmus but Africa should of a shoe back right you'll add a lie occasionally but not regularly and like I am in the tubas the thousand Shuba slave Khayyam Gaelic Aleph simmon Assam oh hey he says that's a is very sure because the mercies honey class media VD rub on and it seems it was victorious so again it's not the crius or not but there has to be a certain protection to lie regularly is dangerous packets muster if need be but how could the person take this blank check and lie regularly so again it's the same facts he didn't finish about a ball beyond slams kiddush about rodillas both of them you could be muff outlaw in Halawa if it's Takimoto but both are concerned about this worry a person will abuse the head in fact it's very Mustafa that the Russian ivy be reborn on is the head is only for opponent and aymara to give him the head tub he'll totally distort it so it seems mean I obey we have to realize we'll work with what walking on a tightrope meter a fraud checker is aimed of a mostly men who the ruination of everything but in situations that you are certain that it's mutter then it's not checker then evade the opponent now let's discuss more practically am I try to organize it based on the game or someone asks you do you know this myself and you know it very well again the answer it like this is like the office tsadikim says why do you think I know the Gemara mean I'll revive you I'm KFC knows the Gemara not me are you finishing shot sir soon say could say yeah I'm trying I mean it's very difficult but you know when someone could avoid saying something that Guyver a bother you should do that I'll tell you interesting how are you see the sensitivity that has all had there's a mr. na based out of tense verb of Mattia pace IANA bidets tsadikim they say my act and they do a lot but to us that's a wonderful Milo the question is why isn't it checkered you're saying a little you're doing a lot so the terrace is another you don't want to brag also I guess you'll make the guests feel comfortable when you say just just take a drink and you'll give him Masuda them around me Prague on that kumari cesspool park aeri tsadikim mm ah at last a harbor is the protection from Shechem what's gonna be that if he can't give you a lot something comes up he doesn't want to commit himself and lie but what's noteworthy the safer to see them in sim and tough soft Ginyard bays he says sagnik i'm amythest a hurry but be careful don't say I'm just going to give you a cup of water sucks a vaccine good that's checking don't say that say take a drink so even in the goddness of mmm I must say hard day be careful how you word it how you phrase it just take one bite and you give them whole Souter that's a lie you better say a powerful lesson just eat something and then give them a full sudha another see me now you obey in the godless of my heart be careful how you phrase it I'll give you an another example in Shaba staffer Lama would you learn through my top lip the SR panchal mishaela so then he got into a whole muscle smooth and then a lamentable days he comes back and regarded the style that I asked you the sack is like this so the cash is wait a minute they asked him asylum and then he said that I asked you so Rashi says a few words there another time come light he said I asked you even though you asked me but he didn't want to show I'm mr. know-it-all you ask me Silas so he employed there heta of another that's probably included in the Santa I'll tell you of my s'appelle that I'm a young I can't get over it Abdullah Jung guys want Victor Lee is Chilean I was a going oiler and he said Mary digger solution who's afraid of coming together so what could he do here we go into a room and say the kiddush and then he would say is a heretic feathers I don't know what's the biggest stylist that he did this or he thought of it to say I heard it I heard of myself this way it's not as feathers and it wasn't mine that's massage I'll tell you what Allahu Alem Isum you know we learned already about crazy miss Berg and Vanessa now this are Italian and then of topic of sama hey soon after speaking about a self-imposed tiny someone's macavity nice as a Jew ver so macabre ones you if you brag about it to others you get punished because guy verb is terrible Fred the Tarzan mother never Amin mr. burger quotes it and let's say someone asked you point-blank I know that you're not eating breakfast literally lunch are you fasting today tell me the truth dr. Todd you allowed to say no I'm not fasting even though you are fasting is a lie he quotes our Gemara and Bubba Maciek of development days miss Esther its loved Afghanistan learning Anubis and Onaga now of course if you could avoid it say no no I'm just I'm on a diet I saw the Nazira Shimshon that and that muhabba says best to avoid lying but if it comes to it you're out actually allowed to lie to maintain Anubis I had a more ethical are you allowed to let's say you're a person writes an article or a safer and he wants to keep another can he write a false name in other words if he writes anonymously that's not check with crime printed is safe or anonymously if he writes a name with quotation marks that indicates a pen name nope but if he writes a wrong name a wrong address just check him is that Mota so obviously that would be our Kumar that's Messiah now of course the Hector is not writing because there's no Hector to write Chekov isn't this a fever second so the Hector would be miss Esther and raise their Pella the Benesch Harry wrote that she would say for the whiff of Leo's Ralph Colin there was another safer that assigned Tesco Cooksley and that's the safe but Tyrell is small but it's clear that he wrote that safer with a pen name Cresskill Coakley I imagine he wanted it to be Tyrell is small that's why I called the Terrell is small he didn't put it in the Roth pollen and he wrote it with a pen name so if he did it obviously it's justifiable why is it mother that's an acceptable it happens a person has nails Fela and you have to go and you know where you going where you going so again this is the head to of Perea you're out to lie and say I'm going shopping if it's F&A gaya to lay low in a person's in a place and the mikveh is going to make for leaving were you going a father you can't say where he's going so that would be included in the head of Perea a sticky question you're learning with a child some sensitive issues are you allowed to distort the chat to maintain sneers so I saw both Rabbi Yosef and mr. manzelmann or quoted as saying in our other store tighter so I wonder what about the health of Perea they had Tufts Mia's so could be posh it the Amish laymen got vakama the famous I'm just layman but become a pair of Dalit semen test rights United the store Toya and he says it's it's Harville yahoo famous story in the Gemara but basically terror is a mess and you can't touch Tyra wrongly even if it is the crook Nappers that's the Critias of yams alignment so could be that's the heritage you can't tie to a word and Tai Chi Minh wrongly but it could be more posted I think that's the Emmis of shot you don't have to say wrong shot or right shot our children have been learning for the iris a sensitive words and they don't know what they're talking about and they lived happily ever after if you don't know how to do it ask any skills we're happy how to teach a a child a sensitive words and it happened it's done it happens it goes it works so we're back to the original year sight that if you could avoid lying then you could get keeps Gnaeus without violating checker a what person had wonderful accommodations someone asks you how was it so I saw a moisture in the Dib race and see if carton Amidala from the artist says what are you gonna say hue treated you like a king you're gonna say he treated me terribly what kind of option is that that's right so our math lesson heart so much says what the alarm means was Pisa is say I didn't end up staying by him but let's say people know you stayed by him so you could say you know something I had my own food I didn't eat his food I don't know how his food was okay the truth is the best ate sir you know what people do today regularly how was it okay yes sir how was the camp okay then you're not gonna cause a person problems that would be the best way of avoiding you know lavish praise no but but I want to mention one thing that the truth is to say it was terrible in a situation that otherwise will harm the ball a bus is not a bad option because the Gemara says praising the Bala bus is also less than horrible that's the look Chloe Allah Claudia hush of light come time says excessive pray that gets the person in trouble is also lesson her so saying bad as watching her saying good as lost should Hara so these when you say bad the person won't be harmed that's probably the posture shot with the Gemara means a very important concept is the gomorian supers and that is praising another person so we pass kin in a Vanessa Simmons a my face he found like base hello you allowed to say Kawa Novica sued them even though it's not the truth the question is Beshara is taina I attest with my secretary hug so I'll tell you fauna VM miss na Bluebird signorina hood the Taz of an art the morale and a Kumar I'm sorry miles in the SIP Emma stand up Eric I'll lift the presser on earth and the Michoud and Kubus all say what I think is the peshitta tire up shot in the Gemara and basically if the Hudson chose that color obviously she found Shane in his eyes so who cares what the truth is he's not asking if you want to marry her he married already the question is how do you describe the color to the costed sup the Taz as long as she found pain in his eye that was important and that's the shot-caller Novica Sudha in other words Alta Maria and Liz makea the finally gave would you think this negate that the first or an English beauty is in the eyes of the beholder so it's not a second you have to tell them what he has to hear his decision was a good one because he made that decision that's definitely the positive self there is a difference add a little more I guess a little more practical if it becomes standard that every speech is wonderful costs and wonderful kala it no longer means anything and it's no longer second you can make a speech and you say by the way who is the fussing I don't even know the fussing but this is the this is the speech you know so it's not checking its standard I think the task means to say the words pursued that no longer has too much meaning but either case it's important to understand this that pain is a subjective word I'll give you another muscle you see someone coming towards you and he say why is he wearing his younger brothers suit and he comes says I bought a new suit how do you like it what did he do then so the parrot is color Novica student if he chose that suit obviously likes it I you think that it's a mecha toys Santa gaya that's when basil--oh says persons boy to Mecca to get about your personal preference if he bought it then praise now if lamai sits it's unacceptable it's a mistake and he could still return it so you could tell them a nice way I think you do a little better but if it's no longer Nigeria to returning it that is kalinovka Sudha for him it's nice forget about your taste the asite is those words of the Gemara the oil may died some of the Marathas Emma Bria sera she says very clever words last Eisler ich ich carat Serena it's all about retain azula's forget about yourself he's asking about himself so work with his case with his preference and I want to mention because I think it's a short people don't understand this this is a tremendous tool in sin of a tremendous hot sloth in sinner whether it's children grandchildren tell me them spouses there's a tremendous hot slaughter that's called a compliment whether it's deserving or not but that's part of kala Novica Sudha you paint the picture the child is good you talk how good he is he'll probably end up being good if you say you're no good so life is a self-fulfilling prophecy and once this the mother of a Muslim to be Finkel D legendary must give me the mirror sir Shiva why she was like this such a child such an outstanding child yet so many masseur many did so much apply so said I don't know but one thing I tell you I always complimented him because life is a self-fulfilling prophecy and when you paint the picture of a child or a Talmud that he's good he'll live up to that standard and homicide a brother once told me says you know this one Kenyon is called Kazakh this man and that's an attitude a sin if you go with a stranger hunt you know you're tough but there's a better Canyon the cool first is mashita you drug the Talmud towards you and then Harbaugh lift them up the machines are huggable combination works better than hosaka that that's a smooth for itself but it's an MS if you pick up the child if you lift up the child and you say you know you're such a good boy why'd you do that it doesn't pass for you that does one this now is he a good boy not yet but that's Kalin Arvika sued them that's that's the MS that's been punished x ms you know i say it that's the i jizz out toy fast let's pena smacker - laughs awesome vr Becca so we tie it means don't give most of people let's give muscle to a car comes official ah no it's the same person don't talk to the let's and the person the bed of the person - looks awesome appeals to the harkaman the person say you're a good person why would you do that don't say you're a nobody cause I'll be a nobody you know I fail to hear zombies ever like see solovki don't lift up the flat too much just focus on the good of the inherent good of another yeet that's a fossa that's building a person you know this is an important way of getting the best of the other person it works a shell and bias also you say you know good help then help you know good we say you are good this doesn't stem don't want to live up to that attitude this a unbelievable halawet partial economizer and you're a deus Shindou love ma'am see foul if mitzvah gorilla hospitals amaze the hospital makes karate but I still AHA flick be suave I see me dying how lucky are now allowed to exaggerate the next words of the chef/owner of mascara me destroy vise oh my stephen bank sass you laddie a little bit rock sugar yeah flick now this is very confusing and now that'll I you'll add a head but don't lie break the ties Miley's check your mood malyshev guitar bagel Adlai a little bit a little wise mut the hustler solemn sup the beer case of a dolphin if lo we always underestimate another person we think is a seventy but it's really an 85 when you're myseif fast you're not really exaggerating you're ending up with the Amazon with the person is because we don't see myself any other mist I remain ain't Suffolk's up typical ice if that is more to the person than you see so by adding a little bit you're ending up with the real picture of what the person is now that's true way later in a hospital that's true in life as well we see a child that we see in a spouse we see a relative we see a worker a boss whatever it is but we don't see the real person and if you're gonna more generous in your assessment and your appraisal in your compliments that is the truth however I believe we should hear this more and more that using the color of compliments even if it's not well deserved at this time but that's gonna bring out what you want to see now of course when somebody asks you information about a sugar you feel a little more specific and a little more literal because you know saying ahead spit on amazed if they graduated is this go fella no one's gonna be harmed but saying this person is a rash give a hug when he's not that might harm the other party so you have to you say ho but the icky is understand that compliments are a very important tool in a slow facade question someone is having a very hard time in Panozzo and you want to push it Lehmann ask him him sir there are hats you know family say you know what I'm also going through very difficult times but it's not true you're doing well in business are you allowed to lie to give someone the Karma so razor pellets not my too stealthy first him being arrived Magoo Mora afternoon the inner door iam the maurices are yo a nervy I'm sorry epic Evo got married to Calais Basque Albus Evora and he was an irony forever young and someone came to his house I need some straw who is who was it the mice things are Yellin avi but it was a regular person officially sober Kiba says you see you think we're better off this fell doesn't mean I've straw so the questions had another yo line in didn't eat straw I alia was no longer living car so some of the old lame ace so from dad tomorrow you see you later' make up a story them someone else question I allowed to exaggerate you know people you say there was a ton of food by there by that kiddush I learned the ton is 2,000 pounds is there a ton of food by that condition you know coming more and more the concept of exaggerations so the emesis although it doesn't seem right but you can say it's wrong because the Gemara says in Holland a static on the base Deborah Terry Bausch in Hawaii Deborah Caramba Russian envoy Debruyne aviable Russian envoy and what is Russian envoy dr. Rashi Russian head you sure ain't my dog dick bit Varro who might see me paved over Shane a valet she she is having the shaker Ella why doc so again I don't fully understand why taco aren't we more but doc dick isn't that really we were worthy of making a word a word but certainly if hazael said we find an attorney allowed to use exaggerations the murder gives examples so we can't say it's a kept and I think it's the same you cite when someone says if there was a ton of food he means a lot of food you know Mac to summon he's a pair mopping Margolies right so why don't you go with the Box in front of his when he's speaking and put it down and catch all the pearls Terrace it doesn't mean you literally so it's a way of talking so words have no meaning there I told you a million times don't exaggerate people say that there you go it's just a way of talking but the mice up of course when a person that's morbid Arctica but that's certainly more accurate but one thing i think is possible when someone lies and then a while later bother i was just joking that's not a joke that's a lie and clubs cry massage Thomas says it's my Farish he says the sunrise is late and I was just joking it's still a second I remember I was still a young bucket and I had a friend of mine whose father was a northern god finally say don't say I'm joking say I'm lying it's true say you're joking you feel as listener okay you want to be alarmed in if you say a lawyer and Toyota they did we say I'm joking maybe you could be tracked but to make a story and then every track that's not a Guzman that's a lie I'm one of my babes on the refuse to say Mileva net site starting a flat see affluent Italy there's an inflation of titles you know today our Guardian is nobody you know today everybody's the Rajskub Mahajan they say our chakras inspire fast enough I hope an emphasis up or fashion Zechs nya gonna man Claudia so another going this map so again it's probably the same Heather like the Guzman but if you want to see about titles I would advise you take a look in the in that gamma of to us or tequila acre he says when you print my sperm please don't put any titles he says my in my lifetime I couldn't be sable them he says reborn costumey Ultima offer he says either it's a vodka NOFA for the rider for the receiver either it's Guyver or sinner cinema doesn't get enough covet he says but I couldn't be cyfle it keep those titles out I made a cabal of and I get a Shia I cover over the akadama I don't me read this in Irish guys so obviously a sensitive person can't be so evil a lack of MS but again you know this is a world of titles so I rather Guardian means nothing rash Kiba is also almost nothing today so whatever it means it means a person is you see someone's being resolved on a certain Hollow Club and you want to give emphasis to the severity could you say you should know it's a bit fairy sure how long Johanna when it's really not so this is a Mogan of rum and Coughlin who involves Heath cotton BAE's he quotes to gomorrah's and even the now Lapham circum Co few days did you lie to do that and I kinda want to add then Shabbos cooked s love and the Shabbos cuff alignment test you see two other is that if a person will not follow walk unless you make it into a de Farish Gemara your lattice a tooth fairy Sycamore I it's not such a great very secure Maura but again the purpose is to achieve ruts and Hashem then that's acceptable what do you do if someone says I heard plain he spoke about me tell me what did he say so the perfect situation of miss Shannon with me dr. solemn septic Alzheimer Heelys a love kiss if you could change the subject avoid lying outright do that but if need being you could say he said nothing bad about you in the house crimes lesson is you could say a Shakir pip-pip the terrorist is positive that's a legume or a donkey show someone suggests a shidduch and not only it's not a having me know you're insulted about the author but you don't want to tell them that so it allowed us say I'm busy that you're loud - I'm busy Gregor finding a better shooter than this one but that would be a good head tube that something is not necessarily an outright lie but that we made our case show them someone offers you food and you don't either like it or you don't trust the Contras so raise I felt this is another Gomorrah this is an air balloon gimble number days if your shoe was given food that was burnt and he said I ate already today now am I still wasn't true but he didn't want to bear us the host so today we have ways of doing it you know you could say I'm not hungry or you could say the food is half full of a fella somebody tells the food half --lo fella you're referring to the half of the fella in the taco or like I'm play six I in athletics but you know I'm a bust of a dumb so I'm placing zero somewhere all these concern I'm on a diet they said earlier that parent didn't want to eat a certain food he says that my doctor doesn't allow it who is his doctor the romba because I'm in tough cooks on my face if cotton ama bob says no fair is allowed to lie if need be it's all the same you soit if you're doing it for an objective a good objective that's not lying I'll give another example someone is very much Lea and he wants to downplay his that's lawful he wants to lie about his money or whatever it is it that Slava so this is basically a ton human bias luck gimel jockeys have a yield leash are become more I had much more than that but he wanted a downplay here that's local there's a mob of dhikr I'm more than interesting either and Moses is quoted in hillcrist Tyra but there are more is also you see an indication of our Schuyler a woman had three early pregnancies and she was worried at that it was because of an eye on her so she wanted to say to me Ani so she's Tom a she's not expecting so the thousand-yard they'e cooked by hey gimble quotes this that it's not like she's shabby and I shoulda FIFA the surah so she's not coming but it didn't occur to there are more than a little eye and say Mellie when she's not timaya because apparently if you're avoiding something evil you'll now to lie it's probably the same you say and last but not least what I think is probably the most important a local of my so let me tell you a Gomorrah that was worth the whole just for this commode this is a good morning you've all must have some of de mohamed BAE's Rav never had a wife not time a bad wife but that was Miami mothers whatever he wanted she did the opposite he wanted south chicken for supper she made fish and this one arms to them obviously a long time but he got used to it one day he noticed that she's getting better he's asked for fish and she got fish so yes this unclear what happened to your mother like you know what happened she's given what I want he said there was nothing due to mother it's me because I was conveying the message what you want and I realized that something's going wrong you say fish and she makes chicken I decided when you say you want fish I tell a cop he wants chicken so she made fish Sagamore sir Rob says mamas you have a son that outsmarts his father wonderful idea but you don't do that and he quotes the pasta can of a limb dual The Shining that bear shaker odd count lost another more so the question is obvious why did Rav suffer terribly he could have lied and said I want fish when he really wanted chicken and if it's taka Auster the dough so why do you say I'll tell the son I could do it but you can do it too I mean your father's not a like and if it is taka a shaker why did he quote the pasta Klem do the song that they're checking out the possibility of cook so to me what I think is the hollow Coulomb ice the me Erie says you allow the wide dark a shallow but that's only if otherwise a Horton become out of this Rob got used to getting what he didn't want that's what the Miri says you know the means to say rob was able to live with the wife that's my mother's but the thought that his son is doing something less than honest that Roth couldn't bear in other words it wasn't second it was therapy Sholem and that's around said it's mutton and it's not Shechem and that's why you quote the plastic Linda didn't called the boss my secretary but the concern was I'm training my child to do something that's less than honest even though it's not - but - that to me is the biggest aspire this Rob was able to live with the wife that was Miami mothers but the thought that his child is getting a lack of Kenneth in defensive pivot e - MS was unbearable this is something we have to hear over and over the way we mechanic our children in ms or shaker you know a father tells this child who's calling up tell him I'm at home that's a limb do this item that very second you go on a holiday trip on the 8th is here price tell the man you're 7 or 1/2 years old that's limb do the shinin that bear a second that's a horrible clinical but we have to live limitless item that bear ms brav sensitivity is a local oh my sir this law cut his rights and shout osseous he's dialed their offense there he met a old spider she heed that if you give him all the money in the world he could not lie and I once asked him how did you get this he said my father and our house when someone did something wrong if you admit it you got rewarded if you lied you got punished terribly and my father was mcian EMS can Ava al Tim Kerr and I were there he was Austin became limb duel - item that bear ms he trained his children and we just didn't sign with one more thought I went to her palm remember it was pesach tough since al mahalla a few months ago he was lifter he was very sick Dennis and I can't sleep at night but I'm thinking a lot about my mother and I made a judgment before he told me this that the story had happened at least 80 plus years earlier and he's thinking about a story 80 plus he what kind of story is it listen to the story his father was a Robin a little shtetl and litsa and he happened to be in America for a certain reason and a lady from the city asked his mother Rebbetzin farm you know about bouncing drugs in America I have an uncle uncle in America and we need money let the rub go to my uncle uncle in America and get money for us sir pom told me his mother thought was a very silly request how do you find uncle yong-chol in America no like you think is a little hold or walk so he she ignored it a few weeks later this woman punk was sitting Shiva for a relative and Rebbetzin power went to Menachem avila and the woman saw from the distance jump up the rabbits in rabbit sentence get out of it you saved us we got money from Uncle Yong chol palm from him my mother was in a dilemma like never before she did not think to get credit because she didn't contact uncle uncle but is it the right time now to say I didn't do anything this is a base although she said I don't know what to do but I couldn't tolerate second I couldn't hear words that were not honest so I said I'm sorry I don't get any credit I did nothing to get the money a palm told me my mother call your man thought back to that did I do the right thing or not maybe I should have done it but I couldn't hear a word that's less than M s so I was thinking he's thinking about this 80-plus years later why was her palm the muster of M s because his mother was limb do - I named that bear ms Agatha tug T wolf maybe you should tell like to thank our mistress for the wonderful Emma's Dickey sheer raw voice I shall shell us as you all know the school of hundreds of girls that don't have a home and don't have a school and riding embarked backbone Hashem they're becoming you this Shimomura's with divers with good debaters that making our campaign older a bonham in town it started their palms had a lot of older bottom a asking everybody contributed for the school shall shellye's this is hot solace in a fortress mom-ish we have a hundred dollars to go to raffle of a hundred thousand dollars and then he goes matching people give him money for this in the next twenty six hours dodge a big big hood please everybody take partners shall shell us and the fortune is no mames to Bischoff at this time tonight my dr. Geetha doilies get a palace there's no biggest host on that and giving for either Shekinah laughter be elevating this climate is America America Lazaro is this his royal the figures here Berlin telemetry shamanic office material to Riyadh a tannish [Applause] [Music] my voice that please help shadows in the hallway there's a raffle everybody buy raffle a source of healthy eating chicken de tes commences [Music] Smith my shrimp wasn't brisk you have to get out of the country [Music] with me my pleasure grew up near Bristol never tell Oh [Music] thank you [Music] both sigh damages that we're gonna get to seek him now from Smith on the tear just five minutes know that one of these situs of your this guide is msu ft moistened necklace will be a mess we have a title SMS we have a bracelet MMS and deviating from the MMS is of I desire but we do see there are situations based on the gomorian by mercy of hummus Zubaz and other places that there are times that we could say something that's not the perfect truth but the basic law is that ms means rasa Hashem and shaker is Corbin of Roxana Shem so when a person finds that he has to say what's less than the truth that's not shaker that's Emma's it's not a la feria Schmo it's not Esther day Hawaii says say it's like Russian harlot ALS that's not lush in Horeb this is CEQA but ALS that's not really shaken but basically that would explain why R&R kyon went to extremes to bring shelling that explains the why the Russian of the Mishnah in sorry the Gemara I should say of Michonne abit abura or isn't does not say shaker because you allowed to be mashanda but it's not really shaker and therefore since it is with great reluctance that we have to deviate from the truth if you could avoid it by deflecting the question making a joke I know the Miss Esther that's required if there's I had to do it but we saw there are some sheets as you can to I Allahabad you can't lie as a Regulus now even though we don't pass him like that but the message is it can't become a way of life you can't justify wrongdoing by relying on the emergency hatch of lying mr my advice a Harbor is another but say it carefully just eat a little bit don't say eat just one bite or one cup of water that's lying my math is not lying it's another you're not supposed to brag about your fasting and if you're s point-blank you ought to say no I'm not fasting even though you are writing with a pen name is okay too hard to try to conceal lela lela or Lena is also okay there's no other choice learning with the child just brush over the sensitive words how was your host you could say okay or you could send rather if if need be when there's no problem of hurting someone else you'll have to say the truth but when there's a shots that people will coach the person's house so just make downplay the person's benevolence complimenting is a very effective tool in cinah in men of Mahavira use it properly the custom color the feign Emeka is the pain it's not checkered but use compliments generously it brings very good results it's not lying it's really what the person is supposed to be if someone asks you how do you like my suit if you can still return it so you could tell them the truth but if not then just realize it's good for him and it's not negating what you your particular preferences take off that is the same way why fast laughs awesome talk good about the person and lifts the person like Cecil Lafayette but building highlight the person's goodness if has to allowed to be myseif in chaos because that's really the true person we always underestimate a persons godless an exaggeration a lotion avoid is not lying it's understood it's almost like that's the meaning of the words a ton is a lot the inflation of titles is has become part of our way of talking though but basically it should not be you know used in a way that might harm someone else if somebody asks you what did he say about me and you no way of getting out of causing my hawaika gelada line said he said nothing bad about you if someone wants to give you food you're not hungry you don't want to eat it you don't trust the caches of the taste you can see I'm not hungry I'm Flay shakes I'm on a diet the doctor doesn't let you allow to downplay your assets or your bra and even by lying because you're avoiding i inherit or kenan and the extra extreme importance of Chanukah bonham we have to focus on limb dilution and i bear ms avoid saying things that might mislead our child about our tremendous sensitivity of ms canaveral timko [Music]