Laws Of Lifnei Iver - Rabbi Yakov Zev Smith

he doesn't know what to do or the simple reading like some is don't cause a blind person to trip he's talking even but why is the evil how do you touch the word either in all of our cases we cause some of error he's tackling that blind he's a pretty smart person but when you're giving him a vera he becomes blind he's blinded by the taiva to do an aveira and that's the oldest truth when someone has a taiva and it can't be he's wrong so he justifies it he he's you know he he doesn't see the truth if you look at them now if you know modern hebrew mathura is like the worst accusation i'm a sugarnam when someone is faced with an aveda he's sort of a temporary insanity he's like brain dead he doesn't see the truth and why do i stress this because someone asked me i don't get this whole definite eva he doesn't have error to be good why am i guilty because he's doing an avail so the embassy is of course of course a hundred times it's not an excuse for the other person he doesn't have error he has to pay the price but la maison that's a lithium you have to realize at that point when the person is being given opportunity of era he loses his mind he's an evil he's a mature of and avada he's wrong but giving someone a mixture the max was also wrong look at him i can never look at him like i'm a turf like an evil and that's really a little understanding of listening eve it's not an exclusive other person but you are playing a big role in hijaber but be that as it may we see that naiva is negaya to a yid and even to a guy what's us to him now how do we approach al washiness so let me tell you a mishtan shrees that i mentioned earlier perike mishniv with the mystery says during the the year of shrees inaudible on the fields you now let us sell to another yid any kaylee that's used for plowing why what's he doing with it why is he buying a plow he's probably going to plow which listed the ice but you allowed to sell him the marshall the mystic is an example a mag sickle or a agola a wagon whatever is used only for issa like ploughing the whole killer that's definitely if it could be used for hat it's okay you ought to sell it obviously a wagon could be used for issa but also for had them a sickle the first time explained could be used to cut half gum which is what tantra is but how could i sell him it's elisa suffolk with naiva but the emphasis is even a bigger customer but he says you now let us sell a parachute to another yid and brazil priscilla's makel why is this a makeover because he might check that but we might check that but he might use it to plow it's a parakairasis so here the fire we see with why i have to understand it otherwise why could you sell a pla a plow a a wagon or a parachute and taka the the look in the mystery china one of the first of which is who takes this casual why is that fake of the rise of the humra so maybe attacking the mash moist is that there's no such concept of sleight of the rise to humber by with naiva and the embassies if you look in the chubus of the pineal yeshua that's the zeida of the original of our panel yeshua in in yardaius hitake says but the truth is it's not arriving from this mishna because indeed the rav one of the vishai namtaka asks why is it to sell him a wagon or sell a parakai rashes so he used a very key word that's called talia calle call in other words you have a right to assume that is using the wagon for hatter now what he means to say is a very geshmaku you saw it sophie giving wine giving horror bitter torah even is after the surah giving away again that's not a mixture he could use it to give his children a ride nor was he use it for isa in other words all the case with naiva is you're giving a mixo if it's a clear malach [Applause] it's not a mixture so in other words when there's a tree it's not the mystery in a certain sense it's like throwing pec look and say maybe someone's going to eat before kidneys i mean that's going too far there's got to be a point of accountability you know like we said earlier i give someone an issa and why am i over he doesn't is iva the terrorist is if you give him something that's awesome that's but if it's not issa necessarily we'll you know the buck stops here you say in america accountability so that's the dip shot in talia not because it's suffic because you're not giving a mixture so it's not lycite but there's a different source that we could find regarding the sufficient in the dharma of san marc bays the mar tells the story of ashi had a big forest and he sold the wood to a base avoiding to atoma to a church so venus says what are you doing with naiva you can't help a guy to avoid zara a guy is asked to do available so right so if she responded drive of the wood is not used for avoid desire oh i this is a suffolk why don't we say speak the rise of maybe it is a riot that there's no is south suffolk but again it's not a raya because you look in the ram on that tomorrow the ran says you could be toilet with the hatter no once you have taliyah that's why it's mutton but as i told you earlier yeshua in the maybe it's a form of taliyah will be the hezbollah it's not a maison but before you apply this to myself we have to learn important gemara or two in a a big part of naiva the gemara says an interesting story the amsterdam if you remember this amsterdam from shah she was a pretty big mandoma she was the one that passed in sheila's and she would anyhow she once saw a man hitting his older son so she says i'm gonna we have to put you in here because you're either on the eva now why can you hit your son isn't that part of the so the more it says the possible naive is talking about hitting an older son and this is a person hits his older child over the naiva why so the murray explains i'm sorry rashi explains the keep in the goddamn who is already a big boy he's being marshall the son in the terrible aveda of disrespecting parents or mama or mac lover you might probably do you know there's a lot of rashi shema it's mash me even sham is awesome and i'll tell you another gemara another key gemara involvement of hey i'm at if someone loans money to someone else without adam he's ivan eva i did a mix of their eyes i gave alva so rashi says because the person says hey he doesn't have aid him he doesn't have a star i'll deny it and it's it's a plea why we lend money sometimes without adam this is but we see a second source even be sufficient and the third source will soon see also a key gemara in kadusan with bayes where hoona once tore up something in front of his son rabba to see if he's going to get angry he's giving him a test and midos so fragile but what but if he gets angry you bring over on the flavor so tomorrow says he was gone before he did it but otherwise without that fact that it would be the favor so here we see three gemaras ostomy sufficient i we saw the paneer yeshua the ritual says suffic is mutter so to do this right i want to be honest you probably need to share a two to go through the whole holster and all the eon but we have a big agenda but i'll tell you what beautiful cloud beginning of cloud test quotes both rambam and urbana that say the shot in the is in horror the mourinho is when you speak good about someone in front of his soyna because the person will not just sit quietly he might pipe up and say hey what about this and this and that's our backwashing horror frigg wait a minute let's hear that again he might pipe up and say russian horror and therefore the backlash in horror and what about the naiva and the ask from our gomorrahs the gemara that we mentioned in white cotton you die in the morning that says shema is our salsa naiva so why is this case different that the difference is if it's avadai or carvalho vaday or a real suffolk a real suffic is takamoto there's no listener either but the case of brahmacia and the case of maed cotton is carvalho vaday now the mazda but i think he means it like we said if it's only a sophic that he might do an aveda it doesn't qualify to be a mixo so you're not giving a mixol ah he did a terrible aveda that's his problem not mine the isseys in other words above and become and my cotton is curve levadae the case that the sodomite pipe up is only a suffolk suffolk is not with naiva so we're going to say the following taka and then this is it is a beautiful statement again there's more than what i'm telling you but i think i'm comfortable to say and we'll soon see also the mr bureau and simon kuffstein attacker says on a regular sophoglyph naiva it's not awesome i shake it there i saw spank of the rice is shy when this is my system if it's a suffix it's not a mixture of isis now la maison i want to add a little let's say i give someone a situation that is but my mind's on the person doesn't have veil am i evil of naiva absolutely not i didn't have a right there it is that's his problem i didn't i didn't give a mixo well that's the hector the hezbo of esophagus suffolk is not in the scene now before we apply this more specifically i must mention one term that we hear our mo thrown around and that is rush of the yamas which sounds like just give the give them the aveira and let them do an averia and let them die from the aveda now that's misquoted and let me explain the source of this nusakh is a murmur of accommodation that basically someone has growing in his fields aurella or neta revi that's obviously awesome to eat so the question is she put up a sign why are you doing that who's taking you a field without rashoos aganith holly taylor rashford yamas let him eat let him be over suck the gemara if it's that people ought to help themselves put up a sign but in a regular year well you're going to put up a sign don't don't take him out no he's a from mcgoniff he'll steal but not he won't eat the aurora terra should be almost now that is a gemara but it's napshot give him islam you're not giving him anything the word hallie tell you in that context is a shem mushroom it means he's doing it available let him in other words there's no necesitas i didn't give him a mixture i'm growing a tree that's an immigration in the mai perique he says the hezbollah like taylor rush like i told you if he's taking ba issa i might be marching to put up a sign ghana if this is worse don't touch it so it's not like you know let him be over and give him if he's doing it and i'm not doing it in my samir show it's not leicester in other words as every bird in the torah it's the evil is not unreasonable it's not out of control like whatever he does is my problem if i give him a mixture that's a problem with naiva so let's apply it la maison let me start with the common sheila because it's the cause of a lot of aguas nephesh someone comes late to darwin and the last one in of course where is he diving trying to answer by the door so after everybody finishes vanessa dabbing they walk out and they walk by now this is an isak homer in surrendering now that walks into madame transfer based on apostate in the shmuel so the person that stands by the door is evil if naive he's causing people to be mikshall in an issa of walking in front of him as follow now the shibali haleka wanted to reshine him in simmons it does not spell out left naiva but he says when you come to shulate don't do something that's going to cause the ironish of a siebel but i have no doubt he means lifting either if you look in the premier gardens he's caught in aleph he says beferish you dive in a place that people walk by you you're causing now generally the one those that you know last one in are the first ones out so you finish before everybody else does but if you end up having a long schweinster so that's lifting even so davin on the side don't stare at zebra now one thing i want to add a good question you might wonder is wait a second this is a kiddish to me because i'm not being the one that's dominic monaster and that's bothering someone else he's not doing this to their isa he's being causing the empty ivan it's their abortion of of alvaro there arias that there is a golden of art if i give someone a bad advice that's one of the shot in the israel i'm over this other them and i give someone isn't the rabbon on that's the worst advise you to give someone so it's not worse than a to china against and giving an eighth and giving causing someone isn't there is the naivete and that's is worse than the niksha the next shell is doing the rest of the rabbonum and the marshall gets a bargain at the rise of this naive okay now the mice that premier got them in costa rica says no it's taco eva because i guess he also can't be worse than the nixon but all agree being maxed to someone in either bonon is at least with naiva durabanan if not unless their and this explains another one of the keys twice and that is the very challenging issue we once discussed this barrier because it was tape 898 and i'm not going to repeat it but i want to mention one point giving food to someone who will not make a barakah or giving bread to someone who won't wash the tears yoda because he's eating without a bracha he's eating without the tissue diamond i letizia and the broccoli is only the rabonan the point that i want to add is if you look at the mechabis lawson and the ramo they both say the same thing but with one very obvious hillary the don't give someone food unless you shall make a bracha the rama however says don't give someone to bread if you know he won't wash do you notice the nuance it's awesome unless you know for sure that he'll make a bracha awash in other words suffice the flavor is awesome but from the rama and he said that's the the sheet of magnus the iss is if you're certain he won't wash or make a broken but if it's a suffic forgive him so that's the mystery brewer and kuffstein of gimbals you've caught in that's like we said the hezbollah is not on a scene as michel so that's why bedera cloud you want to give a gift to a friar person avoid giving food items give better a judaica book that it might inspire him you want to be of sport and put out latkes in before purim at your workplace they're frying people they're going to take without making a bracha broker you giving marshall someone eating without a broke we once discussed if a person has to give someone to someone a guest comes to his house he has to be a a decent person so if he ate is say i'm gonna make a blessing and please respond or maine i'll include you this type says make a shackle and say it includes all foods because with the ever charcoal is good let's try to avoid this problem if it comes to a sticky situation you have to give him food and you're afraid to even broach the subject of abraham he's a he might be offended based on that basically the israel of naiva is if he doesn't make a bracha you're causing him to do an aveda of iron but what happens if the following scenario imagine this it's a hot summer 98 degree weather and there's a fryo person working painting your house after three hours he finally gathers the courage could i have a drink of water he's not asking for soda just water you say no because you can't you're not going to make your brother that's going to cause a terrible sinners at us so by not giving him the food is a bigger mixture this is a isla bon and this is sin as hadas so you have a guest and you cause a rift you know the jews are very uh domineering and telling what to do you know if it's gonna cause a sinner then that might be itself a form of lipna even okay that was 898 ayan shum moving on to shabbos a very good example of naiva rav maisha in discusses the common question about mailing letters heir of shabbos is that lethal the fact that a guy does it is but there might be a year in the post office that's working there's processing the mail so much says it's only a miata matsi and taka there's no islam but he says maybe it's qaddabi mahmeer but the truth is ramosa seems to say it's mutha because it's a mere chain of matsui today i heard it's even less of a chance of a yid work in the mail and the post office that it was in those days in the post office so this would be a case of a suffix or if i'm based on adorama is to gay is that the inaudib has the right of way so the car that wants to turn in my direction is gonna have to put on the brakes wait for me to go so the question is by me walking i'm causing a driver like the to slam on the brakes and then start the car again so this mirror says that indeed if that's in this huff test ay and aleph if it's a frying that's going to stop and stop because you went into the street that's your problem with naiva so he says better let him go first and then cross the street the hotshot gimmel ahmed raised your testimony of steiman all steined that this is the favor if you wouldn't be he would continue going now the min has austria is he has an interesting china he says wait a minute the truth is that driving is also malay malachi is the rise of the combustion who said cause it's to stop and start is more molecular than going now the emphasis i spoke to people and i couldn't get too much of information i needed a mechanic really but the truth is the car every moment the car drives is thousands of combustion stopping and starting who said it's taken more think then again today's cars and many of them when you stop you come to a full stop the engine goes off it goes on again so we could say if indeed there's more molochol and the car stops then you have a problem of naval now we might have tied it that on this we could say holy tale the russian violence i'm going to school i'm going my own business i'm not telling it to stop but then again that's not realistic you're walking in his path he has to stop so then the mixture is by walking when you could stop if you just have over you know vactronis and wait till he drives by you avoid the whole issue so i could understand why this is not how they tailed the russia don't go in this path the question is and what's words when typically is but i'm making a guy stop i'm making a goddamn so that is says that's not a problem that's a dieter then after he doesn't want to run person down maybe he does want him but he doesn't get a ticket that's for sure so he doesn't die to the shay and that's why it's mutton used to come through tell me the story he was working many years ago he's working in a certain company and it was late friday and a long friday and he's speaking to a to a customer in our teacher mad gan and he realized it's waiting in miltok he said it's four o'clock here in america it must be uh eleven o'clock in there it's israel you know it's it's shabbat right because no no i need that tea don't worry don't worry so he was horrified he's talking to him so he hung up the phone a minute later the phone rings he picks it up hello he goes hutzpah he was insulted that's a real defender he's talking to a yid on shabbos even though him is not jobless and that's positive that's the flavor and that's true whether you're talking someone friday when it's in shabbis or matsuya shabbos for you when 38th shabbos any case of talking to a yid on his shabbos is a bonafide with naive more of an issue someone else he wants to put in a automatic light and a security light in his front of his home and the problem is if naiva because an innocent passerby walks by and all of a sudden he lights up the black when he puts a light on so the emma says had he put this light on in his workplace where is roy we have a gemara nadar in my right guardian there's no problem but typically in front of the industrial home which israel this seems to be a real left naval and the only possible justification is in this case the walk the passerby is not doing a mice or putting on the light at most he's what we call him he's walking and totally unaware of what's happening so the shuttle is is there either when you cause someone to be a music in other words when you cause someone khalil to be an ivan a very bizarre gig that's chlorine all the ice cream that that's the naiva one of the many ray is rather is from one of our gemaras which is the gemara which is is very busy and might forget to wash it's the lotion of the resin i it's only a gig there is a mice available is so much an average that needs a carbon so by showing this of naiva the question is miss sasik is a naturalistic everybody knows more darshan the plastic music is no carbon so levite is no carbon maybe there's no left naiva but here we come to that famous que vegas juventus someone asked him can i i see someone about to be mistasted i'll give you example he's about to open a refrigerator does not know there's a light that's going to go on we'll have to stop him says emphatically shalom musasik is a maesta vera but there's no carbon and if someone's about them is sasic stop him because he's doing an available so it's clear light up if i have a refrigerator in my house that the light was left on i can open it if i tell someone would you like to have some soda please take and he's about to be mistaken open the refrigerator by me telling to do that i am overlapping we invited to my salvera less than shy but not so much less that would be misasic has this very question of telling someone to open a refrigerator when the light will go on he doesn't know about it he's talking mustache but it's still a mystery available so here we see another very dramatic example where the marshall is worse than the nixon the niksha is not even over i mean it's it's not an islam it's a it's without an accountability but the marxists now the truth is the same would apply to a automatic light to a uh security light now i know ravaged is make up with security lights but like most places that putting a light on walking by and putting a light on his asa so installing a security light that will cause the yield to be massaging and put it on should be this problem of naiva now a lot was written decades ago rather that was the first was written the price can discuss what they call a hostage item someone that taped reba rav whatever whether it was a shallow shooter's tire or was called nidre they put a tape recorder and the person that was speaking or the person that was davening the caldera was not aware of it and they taped taped the speaking that was done on yom kippur or bishop so the question was is that tape ah savannah because the one that spoke didn't issa now grab that someone says yeah it's a true story i have a copy of tape you like to hear it obviously it wasn't so awesome i know but that's where the shiloh first surfaced and today i heard the child and eshimas i wanted to tape the the receiver shall i show this torah so it's really it seems like it's a benign act because rashiva doesn't know big deal but that's wrong now we thought musasik is an issa that would be left naiva and it's possible the only thing is you want to say maybe if it's recording anyhow so differences it's recording nothing or his voice but there is some increase in current and it's not even besides the history but it's definitely lacking in in yesterday's shiva the raw of the and you set up a thing that is talking into a tape on shabbos it's just unthinkable has this very shyla and he says that le meister this would be an emerson message but it's still oscar because there's an issue of by massage and he says and it's also a nicolaite because the person that's speaking doesn't mind the copy of the tape during the week i mean of course so this is another example of a massage that is the eva it should be possible the person needs a waiter to hire waiter for a simran and the way a friar that lives far from the shul he's going to drive to the show that's a real difference now you'll say i died enough i didn't tell him he could walk he could stay over over shabbos in a neighborhood there is no by a goyish enough by a yid there's no such heter and again usually we encourage people to take either ship workers you destroyed it shabbos to take a friar worker is fraught with problems of naiva he might drive my duma is in the in the shoe or the catering hall i've either a yid is better than a girl you gotta be cautious also but again to have a fry away you have to be careful it shouldn't be lifted either i know for my sister how you someone was going from here to muncie and it was a lot of traffic and he made a calculation if he ever gets to muncie on time the driver's gonna have to drive back and to fry a driver so basically by continuing going he's gonna make the driver drive back and drive he's not staying in monsieur shoppers trust me so he's told the driver get off the nearest exit drop me off i'll pay you the full fear and go home and keep shabbos now the embassy sounds like a grace at sitkis but the emperor says maybe that's too big fit cause you pull him to muncie five minutes before this man what are you thinking what's he gonna do staying in muncie he's not staying in muncie so he's gonna drive back so that lamisa is is a form of the snaive i mean that's lobbed after such an extreme case a person that needs a car he has to go to uh locally he calls a car service a friar person pulls up drops more five minutes before his man foiled by coming i got i got to my destination before shabbos and what about the driver so this is a form of naive because you called him he has to drive back now also there's another problem you have to realize and a terrible message is being sent unintentionally you know it was saying we're going to throw stones if you uh shabbas but if i need you i'll turn a blind eye i'm not going to look at you drop me off and do what you want let me do what you want i if it bothers you it sends a message that we really don't care what you do unless it spares me if it helps me you know i'm i'm i'll overlook it so that's a hill could do shot you know if we we cause someone to do it and we just overlook it be very very careful and that i saw attack of the aurora sea and the bays tazzaya and zion and the shabbos bashabas they both write the daily oil or masria they warned about this you call it question there it's rolled it's madison a lot of people a lot of the drivers are frying just made it with this man and what about the driver so that's the form of naive um a sticky question a person needed a doctor who should he call a from a doctor or friar doctor so we impulsively call the fryer doctor but that's not true the fryer doctor the more the more than he needs the former doctor will keep shabbos and getting amidst them but took a step further la maison there's only a friar doctor available and you need him but he's going to end up writing a report and doing this and doing that can i take him if i know he should do more than because nephesh so about he can tell him don't do it but he's not going to listen to zalman and that shmir ashabi says russia in what he does you told him not to he has a very into santeria he says let's say a person owes me money okay so he has to pay he doesn't want to pay he says you know what if you're going to make me pay i'm going to be makhara from agape i'm warning you right now i'm going to do it if you make me pay me from a goddess so can i let them exploit me or could i say pay up you got to pay me or has nothing muscle a person puts in an alarm system in his house to protect his house now what happens if his he's a schlemazel and a guy a friar ghana comes to his house and the bell starts to ring and the police start to come so there's no evil so maybe don't put alarm system maybe i'll be a friar ghanif no throw this more common but there is there's got to be a point that you know atkan this is how taylor russia and that's the truth sometimes it's just not our fault and that's one of them you tell the doctor what he does on his own it's not my business but what's my dick the the price game had this narrative swirl now again this is i'm talking about in a legitimate situation when kadali oil demanded that they make half ghana because of smear shabbos and that's going to do it on shabbos now why on shabbos do you have to go through to know why but it has to be done on chavez somebody this isn't the chubbus hey look out of mem dalit what about this naiva you're making afghanistan there's hundreds of police and press and reporters coming to watch the and to be care and then to monitor the situation what about the final so he says i am a real discipline that says when you're doing your mitzvah whatever happens is not your responsibility now the moral discipline is a kiddish niffler but i'll mention in consciousness but the problem is that the hegemon was misunder with the leadership girls and they were mice and fish so they stopped making the hassan on wednesday frank de gemara tells the to girls that it's not your favorite characters so let them get married to keep the takanas kazaal fragi beshou lay disconnect what do you mean okay it's not your vajava but she's being marshalled the hegemine a guy in a gimmick morris of zlus so it's with naiva so i could be sure they if you're doing you're you're mitzvah i can't escape and they don't have error there's no left naiva where they get this because we have to discuss that at a different time when that applies but the bayan of hell that's what's negaya for afghanistan does say that regarding afghanistan you do what the daily israel will tell you to do what they do if they come he'll tell the russian yamas the big question is when you have a person puts a vending machine or a laundromat he has that people own real estate their own apartment buildings and they have to you have to supply for your tenants they put washes and dries in the basement what do you do if you have yiddish people fryer that buy things in the machine or make make laundry on shabbos or yamcha of course is that lefner either so the good news is if it's roive akum so then it's mutton that's a fairy sigmar i it comes that's not my business that's not a mixture of salmon he says an interesting finish and he says that even if it's roy of israel why the narrative this is very common but he says a vending machine like a para hirashis like we said earlier i could power that you could do what you want you could do a festival a vending machine that you could buy during the week not on travis you could make lunch during the week now the truth is this is a big kridish because par kharesha shadows you could always use it finished but a vending machine you could use it for issa and fajeta this had a stereo who said that's considered a talia that only used it better it's not true because shabbos is cool but his is that since it could can be used only during the week and not on shabbos that would be a form of clear but la meister when you have roy v israel it's taco without abstinence the price can say it's awesome because it's really israel okay you want to find stardom that if it's a if you could buy something elsewhere so it's no longer if the nahara that's a different sugya but if it's roy visrell it's taka an issue to leave a machine open when this roy views throw should not be done on shabbat so yum difficult that's naiva the website is much more of an issue with because there it's open to the world but again the same basic principle applies that if indeed it's clientele israel you have a head to based on the gemara if a yet comes nebucha that's his problem the question is someone has la master he sells judaica jewish gifts and on on a website so that's probably roy visro and then a konami that's the same problem like we mentioned like upstairs almond you have his head of it's like a part of harasses but if you know it's royvie's throw and shabbos yamtiv is enabling a year to do navera that's a victory okay you know closing a website is is a big job but it's take a mention uh gevalde kiddush hashem the b h company that closes on shabbos when applicable moving on to your idea it's possible selling avoid desire to a yid or to a guy he's lifting ava no child about it that's the gemara that we mentioned in base grad effort to sell of our desire for it is another is that's much worse and that's hanover selling crosses the the ice cream assumed is enough associated with avoiding zara that shouldn't be sold to a yield or to a guy some are makers only get a symbol but we assume but there are cloud across considered of our desire the a very challenging question which now is negay in many different instances is regarding both parents or mechanics when you have to discipline a child or a talmud and you're afraid that he's not going to be happy with that discipline and he will react in a bad way what's the shaiva this is one of our gemara's in my cotton daffy design says clearly that if someone hits a child and the child will hit back pardon me that's the flavor on the front of the father he has to put him and this is but what's interesting is that the gemara says that's what the that the positive naiva is talking about hitting a child there was a plea with me how did the government that's the positives talking about so i want to hear the david nifla why the inconsistency is talking to the ish and the avid and the image so talking to the sun respect your parents talking to their father and mother don't hit an older son because he might hit back ish is a big boy don't hit a big voice and hit back so to me it came out at this goddamn that the passage ish of tyrol is also saying on issa the rise of naiva ah the eva got a costume dabber that's what i think but anyhow this is gives a lot of pause to children or tell me them a person could be do try trying to mechanic his son or talmud and he gets an average of naiva i will say okay so boys so i'll hit my girls no no no diva costume because with your son you have to teach him to learn and you have to hit him i'm all or your son is you know a little more scared of you not so scared of you like a girl or he says a girl is usually gets married earlier so it's not your problem or they don't hit back as much as boys but who are dinbas number one also it's lavdafra son the although kill them and a letter says it's in talmud the same thing they have he's gonna react in a bad way also it's it's even if you're mechanic you're doing a mitzvah it's true but look what's happening it's not working obviously if it's causing the flavor and the rhythm on that gemard may caught and says the pharish even if you're hitting him with mitzvah but it's not working wake up it's not working also it's lava daftka that this is only if the sun hits back physically the seven says he's going to curse you the ritual on that gemara says yasra is connected but we see that this is the sun will hit back any inappropriate response is a violation of ish of terror i the suh says the isa is niger to a son of 22 years old or 24 that's true but neither our children today believe in zwieza mcdemon and they at a younger age they respond negatively and the ritzvah again the beginnings of quotes i call it a younger child that that responds with hutzpah is the same with naiva and today i would children have to wait for 22 24 and all the place can say laughed after that age and this is an issue so i would like to ask so the embassy is the first step is if it's not working stop and someone told me a story he knows personally he came to the snipers now my son has been over on essen and laven on a daily basis it was harvard what do you mean i tell them i tell them he doesn't listen so disciples says what's with you don't tell him you know it's not working if it's not working stop you know if we forget there's a year a day a race ma'am you attest us don't be i'm posing don't be domineering and don't tell what to do he's not listening if it's not working then you got to find a different alternative but it's not just it's not working it's backfiring it's the naiva and a lot to say but we'll think of a different time but as a nissan career ellis was an adolescent he writes very strongly about this you have to be careful today the children are not as as responsive as they supposed to be when they give them muslim he says you talk to an older child you get involved with his a married child's life that's mama's the favor he's not going to hit back but he's going to get angry he's going to you know say bad things so that's for different moves but if it's not working so not only it's not working it's with naiva so the only ray of hope that i see is number one if the child might listen once you reduce it to a suffix suffocating or which is more probable when the child is too young to appreciate and his response is a childish response so you know you hit you hit a two-year-old he hits you back right without a favor there is a kinder serve response so at some age you have to discipline a child but there's no doubt about it we have to stress this more and more that hitting or disciplining a child that it's not working besides that it's not working and just causing a terrible rift between parent and child is also the flavor on those lines i want to mention also you ask a question to a child or talmud and he's so scared to say the truth he's going to lie no that's the flavor of others no question about it they say them raise time gives a muscle you see two people whispering and you say what do you do what did you say he says don't do that because he's going to lie to you and you're idle of naiva that's the flavor the only thing i did see a govaldig has the following sheila someone owes you money and he denies it so you're making him make a smooth but you know he's going to make a shura shove are you allowed to tell makersville because you owe me the money he says yes i left naiva so he doesn't spell but he says but on this we say holy taylor rashford yamas and don't forget that there's a concept of din sahar if if if every ganeth and every inch lamari knows that he's going to hide behind his this problem so then he could get exploiting every entire and there goes dinah tyre there has to be a certain sense of mishpot so he's going to hide behind this then the whole system won't work so that's the exceptional case but basically the cloud is don't ask a child something doesn't have to lie someone just told me a story in a school they sent out a questionnaire and ninety percent of the children admitted that they were lying could they afraid to write the truth so i had to give out such a question there and your mom's the favor the question that someone asked me had a nebuchad in his work there was a ganeth and it was crisis one of the eden so he wanted to make a setup he'll put some money in a certain room and tell the that worker to go there to do some work there and he'll spot the money and if he's a god if we'll take it he'll know that's the ghana the problem is lift naive so the title is small let's talk zion he has this child and he says that's the gemara in kedushin that we mentioned he was testing his son to see if they get angry and what does gamara say lift naive that's with naiva someone gave wine to another to drink a lift eva without a picture of his but the nazi was clumsy and dropped the wine and he didn't drink it was the master of only eva i made up the story but it's amazing but i saw the the ad in in islam if you gave him isa mirsha but never happened the israel so he says him this is an isa because the terrorist says and he brings it right from the camaro that will appreciate my cotton daffodil zion that as soon as amsterdam saw this fellow hitting his son she gave him i didn't hit back yet also the market that we mentioned says he said you're overlooking why how do you know he's doing aveira and also above him hey you'll lend money to someone you know deny on the spot the terrorist is making hillary the maison mixture is awesome i would almost give him mushrooms like a mesis even though the person didn't buy into 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