Latest Talks Podcast - Ep #36 | Topics: Lehasig Courses | Nice Vs. Real | How To Be More Successful.

Monday morning what do I do about it please and my competition does it make sense to you she's playing with your weak points do you like to have books infinite pages with Zana pilots in communication and Leadership charity Links of WhatsApp problems you sound like a very professional person successful people become more successful foreign real estate professionals servicing Lego Jackson Toms River there are more new construction development The Club at Jackson 21 will total 465 townhouses that's it this vacation of their Mensch yeah by the way I guess she's back massage exactly it is somebody that's well known and uh signed the Yiddish the music business um as far as yeah and [Music] zero complaints but I'm a zero complaints uh I guess was true fair to say okay advice would you dimensions hello [Laughter] um the show is this is amazing business foreign foreign foreign 26 years ago album foreign [Laughter] and I did the same thing many times I made the same mistake by either in your face the whole truth or nothing and I started seeing now that's not the right way there must be a better way foreign [Music] and I made a mistake many times and I approached the appearance and I thought about the face device because I wanted them to see this guy's food and I because bipolar ships that he has real issues and he put him on medication instead of thanking me he blamed you but I realized because I did it too harshly to a new face and people can always handle so much my mind enough to do other ligands of the MS no initially but how you say it how are you diplomatic delivery how how you connect the person the Line Station it's all about communication and today's day and age this ties and what I do today as the most common question that business owners managers ask me visitors or there must be a middle where you have to deal with people communicate assertively pushover and finish driving over other people so these design demos are says it's called communication and be being able to be in a leadership position and to communicate right with people instead mistake then some of the leadership Powers you can easily railroad your own family but there must be a way to do it foreign [Music] successful people with me I want to help people grow so everyone's laughing you guys aren't a therapist no okay I'll have them successful people become more successful who says they need to be more successful they're successful they're already successful I'm saying it was successful my job but I need to be more successful I need to have better communication skills better leadership skills and if I'm the regular person that needs it every regular person needs it and it's communication skills it's just gonna be my job to make sure that people find out that they have a need like every good salesperson was a sales you find a need and you fill it is you'll find out you'll think okay is that all for me is that all for me and I actually remember it's just looking out of the window there is a bag there and I'm thinking to myself uh all right but what what's the future for me as a malamute beautiful I enjoyed it but I'm thinking something like that and it makes me sad just a shiny vision for that time but that's not by the way all right all right because I'm not a therapist and therapy is okay if you I can explain the difference also yeah in therapy you're dealing with your weak side you're dealing with your painful side of the past I need to heal it because it's blocking me from growing guys it's your doctor like uh my muscles to work up so you're in the wrong place you can't just come pill for them there's no treatment for that gold dollar gym my exercise arbitrary treats our business Tech but if you're short on the gym next time go ahead and get some doctor fix your problem came to me with Mr softball so some people don't stomach they are born these gyms full of people and some people because he had a problem he has to go for exercise but the idea is exercise in building up a person is not about fixing him it's focusing on the strong side of the person host muscles let's make it stronger yay the average person is what I call a successful people have the job title is muscles in communication and Leadership and Stress Management time management goals setting visions and self-confidence self-esteem all these types of things you want to open a company they are really successful people they don't know it yet because they don't know the power and by the time they realize it till the training 27 weeks since it's about a nine-month training they come out they say hey I can do it myself and they become millionaires they become powerful people I'm done of course Allison is but they hey they don't know it B even if they know how do I stop how do I do it if you build a person up you should believe in himself and know how to communicate and know how to lead know how to work with teams know how to work with all types of different styles social styles of people all of these types of things to show up on time to service people on time as this to build powerful relationships trusting relationships all of these things failed Academy so if you're a salesperson I had one in English in in BFG he came to me oh shrager posing which is my brother very nice oh wow all right small world Brooklyn Financial Group a life insurance company okay so so egg event in Yeshiva and the quietest kids still and then the organ of course he found his voice he found his power in his one of the most successful people there wow on the top people saying careful you'll never be like him there's only one like him they said that he's found his power he learned how to use develop it is basically was yeah okay lead effect good bit of this is is quite famous so I told them look they don't know that you don't know anyone you're the only one who knows that he resign act like you do know everyone stop hey wave some people foreign remember you gave me the right tip next week what do you say I don't know very good very good game the self-confidence right and you always communicate with that person after a few minutes in the crowd that doesn't exist right you can I love that yeah yeah exactly this is my business how to survive and it happens with the best and the brightest people I feel like I'm interested it happens sometimes I get in a little intimidated about something I don't know what happened a person looked at me a certain way Monroe [Music] foreign so but I Was preparing the stuff Kim seating my line this camera good because none of your business I have a title I'm entitled to be a human being and I teach people don't deny yourself your Humanity they make their own ways yes but you control it I can't control your butterflies no one has to see that you're uncomfortable it's actually Kim finag it's them yeah um foreign foreign so it's the the the that's not successful in actors and in bonus the idea is people really like to connect with each other people are all are social creatures not everyone people some people live in their bags and people is an introvert and I got around the corner then his own balanced introvert and an extrovert enemies introvert intellectual introvert might as well I don't know famous yes well yeah a lot of public people have injured difference is as is the Limelight if he needs the Limelight because that's helping him deliver his message or do his job after no problem but as soon as it's finished when he goes on vacation let's say he's in a quiet place I need some space mentioned you want to be alone you don't you're not looking for the alarm left an extrovert it's the way they think the way they act and the way they talk and they the way they walked because in Glock with dementia if you're a salesperson it's important to know if that person is a very expressive and extrovert quote unquote let's see even express ideas you'll have your privacy here the the actual development of family the neighbors are very uh the the individual hairness is foreign [Music] foreign [Music] hello spoken like a true extrovert the high models introvert kids Thomas is to be quiet it's okay you have a mind of your own you choose yes but it's not like because this could change you're the best extrovert no I'm an introvert I'm a private person I'm not looking for the Limelight but I'm not I have no problem to the past the beginning didn't look for it but other people saw me as a lead so they pulled me up they wanted me to be the part of the vibe part of the uh from the board they wanted me to be part of Canada so at this point part because I invested in myself I have no problem standing up doing what I have to do and talk to people but I'm still an introvert because the nature of the person doesn't change it doesn't change no never changes you can balance yourself you can work with yourself and this is to help people to show people you don't have to be that certain style they mentioned there's a kick on a successful person certain style you don't have to do it in his style learn from him look at successful people learn actually a classic as Ms dick is delivered after such energy learn from it then do your your style people don't learn from people copy others the stochastic clue that for cloudy Soul when you copy somebody else because you sound like a monk you're not a person you are you there's only one version of you make the best of it I'll put the sauce and learn the final successful mentioned look you have Role Models you see people sign Toyota sign avoid cycle students I'm business not anything and learn and become the best version of yourself yeah the in the they they deserved problems as area foreign how should I pretend to be the most successful person the most talkative person the question or because I tell people if you try to do that I full of yourself on the show and you do that for the rest of your life you have to pretend to be something somebody else now don't do that be yourself but still Ahead version of yourself of course I'm an interview but don't do not act like some something that you're not this is a problem expectations it is this but it is exactly I don't have to be like you or what you expect me to be I have to be what I expect myself to be he named the diamond and the schlester sauce trauma [Music] go check my therapist if you need to deal with that trauma not necessarily told the muscles that drama guys you got to deal with that sometimes happens I actually have one of the big therapists here in bar pack a Sacramento I'm not sure if you need that because if you still feel a certain aspect I don't know where to start with you I don't know if you really have a problem or it's building yourself up recognizing your power and building it up wow the introduction is as isn't to mention courses um the guest side courses inside the guest training business training inside against private um private conservations 101 gas stations if I mentioned other couples and business partners can you control yourself can you can you communicate the right way indicates just a problem that fixed National bias most people is a problem with two healthy normal people it's about communication um why do we have to think how about we both write we didn't figure out the sort of separate lives or technical foreign they think it's a Dream It's Illusions they think it's kind of or they say it's hard work but it's the biggest joke tell me it's a hard work to talk to your friends just enjoy talking to the person why is it different at home you have to figure out which is yeah I know the emotions get in the way for cheating and siblings because we have a lot of responsibilities it's a unique combination with a of matinee and a regular is not in the in their business physically financially and emotionally 24 7. or however long you live all right that that partnership needs the IDF and if you get away with to have a friend for the cancer communication time connect them with time well when the best of getting this you just check out I'll come back later but you can't afford to do that at home but what you need to do is to figure out this and then it's not hard work if it's hard work anyone visited as as the relationship between husband and wife's hard work Shalom bi is his hard work doesn't have children wise in my opinion like some the against human to communicating so this is interesting as Dan category and this is to show affection to to show love to each other it's it's not only about um communication but you can call it communication the relationship communication the deepest the therapist the research the therapist which Step far different building no because it's a different film and those people not necessarily want to build themselves up they have a problem you have a problem if you need to deal with your weak side with your painful side deal with that but it's called a therapist that's a therapist no no what you do I'm a I'm a trainer and a coach to focus on the strong side of the person sometimes the micro therapy is more like therapy um it's called a magular therapy and it's very powerful but it's terrible what's what'sotherapy micro therapy is what is that is a form of working this is communication also yeah I'm a lifelong learner and I should be given the course foreign foreign okay um gets from Viewpoint Academy yeah you put Academy is simple answer School courses devices Viewpoint Academy latest talks plus is a nice service support and the content against the joining in the latest talksplus tab often the YouTube channel of YouTube of foreign foreign talks foreign attracted mentioned was in a leadership position they look at it as they say what are you with oh this is what's needed this is filling in the Gap so go ahead says but right away it was successful HD classes and one of the questions yeah what stops people the most is the fear of rejection is the best they'll reject you but if you if I tell people this if you take out fear of rejection how would your life look like fear of rejection and you know what you don't have to so billions question yeah the answer is foreign [Laughter] [Music] statistical reasons I was magic written is because they don't feel fulfilled against Avengers Financial person bottom line is I became my job on Wall Street desk I found the office Corner windows vart mentioned with the investment fund they'll call as it's as it's desist aligned attract finally is the weather in New York wow then he goes foreign but after six months he wasn't there anymore but try that for a few weeks and that's the saddest thing to do wow that guy goes out of his mind versus the financial advice from Finance yeah Kim stone is I get the doctor clinic my eyes running a company and being an expert in something is not the same thing and yeah he did not enjoy the finance business that's right so with that class the opposite Rob mentioned have initially the financial aspect but I have in the business soon in these types of things foreign the bottom line is you don't find more successful people just because they've read something or they listen to something even though they've resonates with them most things are much hate are aligned forget because they still disconnected you're up against yourself you have a nature you have a habit you finish the image pages with Zana pilot Mr pilot why not well what are you missing all information pink Cloud works you know I still don't know it I don't have the experience training wheels the mysticism have a good day what happens to you to it yeah besides the hanging class yeah yeah foreign how many books do I have zero zero okay unless you mentioned downloading courses and videos let's put it this way correct I always encourage people yeah become a lifelong learner here episode a podcast or the uh because if you're the type of person is all the questions feels the is the greatest problem and the hamisha communities very good question spokesman for the heimsy community this is niceness people are very nice to each other but they mix it up with being real so they're being very nice and drinking fight together inside foreign if you look closely to people between being very nice and then being very aggressive it's very hard to find the middle living demo lines because it's local vaccines if I only go to you and smiled in anybody he asked me to do to borrow you ten thousand dollars and I don't have it guesses so people go from being very nice sure no problem outright aggressive towards each other there's a lot of aggression tremendous powerful aggression all comics in the same place the nicest people that I know the kindest people sometimes are the most aggressive people so this is that you want to help someone yeah foreign I know if someone looks crazy I'm missing part of the story some are crazy but I always have a successful businessman isn't that crazy yeah what's the policy investigation service doesn't make sense first time so I'm going into the store it is yeah I really want to understand you're a successful person how does it make sense to you to give this customer service you know I was looking okay Jeff Bezos doesn't live here yeah so we'll go even local from Amazon why doesn't Jeff Bezos live in your store take a page out of his book all he's all about customer service forget about it and it shines on the platform but at least the customers that that's the whole concept right so give me mention for items of course why can't you just take why can't you sit Jeff basically take a seat see he looks at me looks me up and down to see everything like a lot of people do that because it can be oppressed no because you're trying to be nice foreign the game okay let me ask a question when they throw himself dimension because I said hold on a second the most aggressive toes how about yesterday and you focus on your few troublemakers and deal with them to them you you'll stay stuck in in toys for you I don't know if you say names yeah oh yeah yeah I was in the country with him for I guess 25 years ago on the countries that's developed the Box stops here yeah if I want something done I get it it's going to be done actually no returns so we don't take it back against but be strong and strength damage I lost the Aiden items to bring it back much better customer service so so you find either people yeah or to become very aggressive the hardest thing to do right is the main way all right the idea is you want to be able to deal with people according to this guide food and is now I don't think I don't know about you but I don't I don't like it yeah and I told you before I'm an introvert yes it's definitely not maybe Hill will enjoy it yeah what am I doing have I walked into the mic grape juice [Laughter] should I say what most people most people would have said sure no problem and they would be so insulted yeah I can take it and a little hint when a person says I can take it stay away they can't yeah right so or well died but here's the thing confidence so I don't have I have enough confidence to tell you I don't like it wow I don't have to be a better person or a stronger person because you want me to be like in this situation yeah no no my could be it's true that are more sensitive cancer is a normal thing to do I don't like it is and you should be able to be also nice why are you Mr Nice Guy Steve Jobs because if you want to be nice sell ice cream yeah something like that look like that's the Quan the business myself your job is to be to tell people no why do bad things happen to good people you know why why did they became good right right so if the guns and measure is a is a mask a mask a smiling mask and if if it doesn't work for you you be a kind person a guitar match be a real kind person is it all depends versus git the measures get then it's good for me and for you then that's called nice but some people would say you're a selfish guy whatever you didn't want to do what I wanted you to do let me ask you a question is selfish not bad it's selfish or negative word so do I follow the selfishness band you know what then if you're not losing if you finish drinking your bottled water and you're like kennels down nice amounts that's called selfish but if I need it still no that's not selfish that's selfish and healthy selfishness I should look out for myself so you can't be honest with yourself and with others because you have one measure it's gonna look nice if I always say yes at the end of the day the saddest part is those people always say yes they extend themselves as I expect mentions I take it again when they need something no one is here why not because you don't realize something van Heist is if I can't tell you no I didn't tell you yes you took it from me like a chef store keep this next Tuesday he's not thankful this is those are the hardest people to deal with they're manipulating people and there's a lot of manipulation between people and some people even expected I had to become a link a charity link how would you love game for them I don't know why because guys personal object Guilt Trip a guilt trip yeah kill them I want to hear this I'm sorry this man Guilt Trip right that's good and hello I'm here to tell you there's a healthy way of doing it in a non-healthy way of doing it okay charity Links of WhatsApp other of texts yeah exactly the idea of it's a beautiful way a beautiful idea it's a journey attack of millions the problem is if I send it to you foreign can you say no because if you can't say no it's time problems is entitled to manipulate you right now foreign but just to say the same thing again and again and also manipulation usually even this is the town There's the idea I got manipulated the problem is but you let yourself your partner in a crime this is my invention during the day that's it a few half a year later dealing yeah for what's something I wanted yeah so okay sure you don't have to just interesting it sounds like you're upset at me did I do something to you yeah okay so you don't have to give if you don't want to this is you understand this is helping somebody is not a deal but you don't want it's not gonna make her break it for me if you get to the gas stations says who sounds like you sounds like in his therapy like we will say those as a BPD I respect my wishes if you don't respect your wishes I will let you know to respect it is stay in your lane and let me let me let me be all right you know the advertising papers yeah don't we have a ties foreign I got so upset window tinting and lights etc for cars businesses of things and it's designs don't do it you're not right that's his decision don't make decisions somebody else nice people passive people why not to speak up instead Mike I'm supplying them into this is hello hello I'm sure you didn't mean anything I want to inform you you used my language designs don't do it to me anymore foreign main entrance [Music] disease that we came up with myself on the back and I said hey you did a good job yeah wow so it happens this is something very important yeah this is and some people will like you some people like him yeah and then they think together many times this is a problem the other voice it's a it's kind of moves out come on and decide for example yeah right but this is this it's never gonna happen but but the driver's on the point as as the cause foreign I'm gonna exactly the idea of your success is not only what you're selling how are you doing it so the water to the how the system on how you're operating and the way the the product was the focused on the focus of quantity and focus on quality and booster folks and visit the testers and when you hire somebody who knows exactly to follow the the process that you have builds the person that's your company it's the topics was the lens those you know self-confident self-esteem people skills communication skills name in the business industry competition you have a method for that of course because Stress Management and Stress Management emotions because stress is part of life foreign everything is a stressful event so you're teaching them to manage it not to eliminate it manage it if you eliminate it the stress elimination the only time you eliminate is done but as long as you live there's always going to be stress whatever you want in life and you get it stress wow problems atheism whatever it is right so so definitely many times because plans them on self-control doesn't know how how that works self-control how do I control myself meaning avengersville to prove it to me in hotel in Manhattan okay let me ask you a question is then you believe but you're running you don't know how that works very good wow some people run their whole lives they're so tired of running you gotta face yourself sit down I got some problems who's guide for once again in the background there's a lot this these come from whatever life looks like looked like so basically is also foreign you're missing by the time you left that she had a job also says somebody told me once yeah let me tell you something about myself even a truck driver a local company though nice good job um the idea is is to take whatever you have if you're frustrated to guide me then maybe something is wrong wow so visualize.com thank you for reminding us the average person whatever he wants but it could die to play to your strengths look back look back um you don't want to be in a place because then you're not growing burgers who here is not replaceable none of you are replaceable unfortunately most of you are awesome which people do up in some most places amnestic no human being is Replacements [Music] they said enough enough for this yeah um I think I feel I don't got to Viewpoint shopping so I can get numbers a guy guy guy uh yeah what happened in real estate yeah do something else do something you're good at wow because the buildings once you're success where do you have some skills with the cases of bonuses go and develop it make something of it people look at three things yeah of it foreign foreign [Music] attracted because this is but I need to work if I don't work I can die from Hunger well you would obviously do something you're good at it and you enjoy doing it you're good at it and you have a passion no find that thing and figure out because you do need it you can't live without it but don't look at the motivation you'll never be of namah Guild because let's say in the economy goes goes bad really say is bad or something Davis the skills for them won't find a way around it because they don't have the skills and it would it wouldn't be able to I can't do foreign though so is that is there anything wrong with these are eight times as long as I don't do it yeah I will focus on what I'm good at good you should you're good right I'll invest in you or when I want money from Real Estate how does the person eat you sure so we have a number eight four four lahasig l-e-h-a-s-i-g um and people reach out come on the essentially it's a it's a it's a thing the financial part from the business hire I'm interested finance my higher end is an expert basically this is the team to delegate them if you want a company do you know what's going on he didn't like it it's fulfilled the company existed challenge by the way yeah delegate the deepest for me sir wow okay and then the size is the CEO of businesses [Music] if you do the right thing family work together how's my wife can work together is the trust much more powerful Father and Son work together brothers sisters work together I don't know why the problem with the presentable foreign one is personal one is professional can you handle that without violating this the Arabs do businesses but do not expect foreign you know what foreign exactly what happens if it doesn't work out what's the exit strategy that is so much foreign but for the right reasons for the wrong reasons a person that's lacking communication skills can easily become a tough person a person who's failed time leadership skills becomes easily a dictator the most dictators that I knows leadership then the best dimension the Idol's Dimension The Idler I mean it is it's very easy to hate that person people around you of the Americas have a lot of towns up there it's probably because you don't know how to lead Communications because you're in a position to lead as a father as a business owner outside whatever one position is lead lead with kindness lead with passion lead with compassion and learn how to lead the simplest example is not so tough sessions I understand and you know this is because you know he's bound to make some accidents it might be the best person in the world but it makes Excellence invest in yourself learn leadership skills and you realize it's the easiest thing because most of us are good people we want to do the right thing we want to please tell but you gotta know how to lead them without oppressing them it was a pleasure wow thank you so much and let us enjoy the episode give a like subscribe and join latest talks Plus thank you