The Importance of Kavod - Rabbi Moshe Don Kestenbaum

we just finished the yantav of purim so i want to share with you a vert about kavod about honor from the gila i think an incredible verb when haman takes mordechai around the town what does he announce so should be done to the man spikaro that the king wants to honor of course we know how mello this is to be done to the man that the king akaresh baruch who wants to honor we find the same language of kakaya with the very same trap and pasha's kisetse when it talks about a man who does not want to do yebum does not want to marry his deceased brother's wife and carry on the family for him so the pussac says that the woman has to say she takes off his shoe and she spits in front of him and she says so should be done to the man the very same trap so should be done to the man cannot be coincidental the same wording the same trap in megillah and parshas say with khalitza what's the connection between the two things i think the connection is as follows the torah is teaching us when we do the right things we follow what hashem wants mordechai does not bow down to oman murakai does what's right it looks like it would cause some problems but no kaka yeah spikar if you do the right things will give you the honor when you're ready to give up your honor when you're ready to sacrifice hashem will take care of you because so should be done to the man that hashem wants to honor when we come to the parish of ebam this person does not want to do the mitzvah maybe it's embarrassing for him to marry this lady whatever the reason is but he's not prepared to forego his own honor or his own interests for the sake of his deceased brother he's not ready to do the khasad of ibam and therefore the woman takes off his shoe which represents i believe a loss of his honor of his status she spits in front of him which certainly is a sign of disgrace and she says so should be done to the man that doesn't want to build that doesn't want to do the hassle of building his brother's house and the lesson the great lesson we learned we learn over here is sure we all like to get honor we all like to look good we all like to feel good but if we want the honor that will give us we have to be focused foremost on doing the right things on giving our honor to shem be ready to sacrifice our own honor our own interests for our karash baruch and nada sparrow who says wants to honor when we do the right things and live our lives the right way thank you very much for listening you