The Importance of Hakaras Hatov - Rabbi Shlomo Landau

think about the following scenario it's the 1980s and a group of Yeshiva bahram are traveling during summer vacation to a number of cities in Europe they come to Prague and they need a place to stay and they look at the row of fancy hotels the Hilton the Hyatt they can't afford it so they stay in a simple youth hostel it's clean it's comfortable but it's certainly not luxurious fast forward 30 years and one of those bahram comes back he's an established kavir he has money he's got resources of course he's going to stay at one of the five-star hotels but remarkably he decides to stay in the youth hostel and a friend of it says to him what's going on you're never staying at youth hostel have traveled through to many places and you only stay in the most luxurious five-star hotels so I'm going to tell you the truth that when I was a bakar and I traveled to Prague I stayed in this youth hostel and if a car is not tied to them they did provide a clean bed a shower shelter so I'm going to stay in this one star youth hostel you look at them incredulously like what's your husband and we find by avrah mavino whenever vinu travels he's a poor person he stays I'm sure in one star hotels in simple ends and then he becomes fabulously wealthy and Rashi tells us that on the way back avram avinu travels and he stays in exactly the same one star ends he stays in those youth hostels even though he's a multi-millionaire and he could stay in the most luxurious accommodations why because he has a Charizard type even though he paid I'm sure to stay in those accommodations but they were there for him in a time of need they provided Comfort they provided shelter that's the depth of a current sometimes that a person has to have and sometimes it's also almost counter-intuitive it doesn't make sense you have money now why would you stay in such a place but for a person whose whole life is focused on hakara's like the ramban says hakara Satay is the beginning and the purpose of all Mitzvahs like that all good Midas eval from akaras and all negative Minas come from people who are ungrateful are kafuyetaiva when a person is focused on that even themes would perhaps seem irrational to the regular person are understandable hakara satave is where it's at ourselves to be macro type the Revenge them obviously but to the many people in our own lives like our spouses our children our co-workers our friends our family we're constantly getting from them let's have the appropriate our karasa type