Pure Joy! - Rabbi Yaakov Bender

i'd like to speak today about the idea of sim card it's critical in a home no matter what the massive is to try to show simcha at all times not to be down and depressed it's very hard that a person is unemployed let's say and paranasty goes hard which creates can create your own bias problems and other issues very very difficult but i will tell you about my mama my mother shown when my father was nifter we were left literally penniless my mother was a very broken lady she was a holocaust survivor yet she came here and became a major bisharkov teacher maybe the first bashar teacher in america and suddenly she's alone again she was a widow for long and then she was married and a bunch of kids to marry off and it was difficult zero dollars mamish i remember my entire life don't feel bad for me i remember my entire life wearing a brand new shirt a weekday shirt or wear a pair of pants we used to get a suit my father would take us to manhattan to get a nun shot to suit us kids and a pair of shoes was new every year we don't have any money but you know what my mother had a similar crime she had cried herself to sleep at night it's possible and maybe she certainly did that but around us she kept december in the home i remember coming home at night from she were late at night she'd be waiting and be nervous sometimes i came later to come 11 o'clock at night she'd be nervous we were our young girl and was called the police but then we'd sit down and she moves and laugh and talk and she made a similar in the house she didn't let us get down and she herself didn't show that down because simon kasa is highly critical there are some people that are very poor and it's harmonious in them and our job is to help those poor people but they carry it on the sleeve that's not good not good the kids grow up thinking we're poor we have nothing my mother stretched we wanted to have something she stretched with all kinds of possible ways to somehow get us what we wanted so we can have the practice of i remember one time during shiva from my father imagine this being shipped with my father my father's leviathan was on a wednesday shabbos morning we came down the steps and the whole house is ranch ransacked totally destroyed fill it on the floor everything we felt maybe there was a powder on the steps we found and this caused us to sleep through whatever happened during the night we all started crying here we are my father was lifted suddenly on a tuesday night it's not even three four days it's nothing and here we are suddenly the house is destroyed ransacked and we're all crying mother lashon comes down the steps she sees what's going on in her house she says kitten you are never to cry she said to us that's something you could replace with money one day you replace it with money that will get will have it was her house her husband just left him and we had a whole different cook on it that has stayed with me forever by the way we can't let our financial ideas and we think we'll be rich we'll make it like the positive everyone's learning how this with rashid jumped out at me masuka nasa evade sweet is the sleep of the one who works hard in my heart a little bit even if the usher the rich man is satiated he has whatever he needs he doesn't let him sleep we think we'd have a lot of money money does not bring zimcha is assigned et cetera chuck roshi you know why because somebody has lots of businesses while practicing [Music] all night long he's thinking about his businesses and he can't sleep one spoke to a fellow who told me he sleeps with a cell phone under his pillow in case there's a deal coming from china i said that's why you're a nervous wreck you don't sleep that's not going to give you somehow will come when you feel it i have a wife i have children i have a family i go to school friday night i come home with my kids i'm going to sit around the shabbos table we're going to sing smires whatever we have to do to make a simcha in our homes that's the critical critical element to have similar i know it's hard it's easier said than done how do you me compartmentalize i have to sleep by allah sunday afternoon that night i'm dancing by talmud's wedding i've learned i've tried i cover sometimes i have a lot because i have it about sometimes being similar it's very very difficult i know i have it sometimes but i try speaking of the value now it's time for hassan you gotta take care [Music] is the key keep that happiness and joy in your homes don't let other pressures get to you you can't let that happen if you will do that you'll have happy children so freedom of kids who has a freedom with their life will have whatever they want et cetera et cetera et cetera to have real sims in your homes thank you very much for listening [Music] you