Making Plan B the Best Plan for You - Rabbi Avi Schneider

it's custom my family for the last uh year or so recent custom that um when one of my children goes to a camp where there's certain activities they're not used to quite yet namely your rappelling or snappling whatever you want to call it um and i get a little nervous as you can imagine to be expected someone comes into a situation an environment new friends camp and they don't know how to do part of the activities so the last time this took place i took my uh my daughters my twin daughters um to a practice repelling session so me and the two of them went up north and we worked on we had a hired private instructor a private uh tour guide and he gave us a run down the uh down the mountain uh and taught us how to uh you know gave us one experience of repelling which allowed them the next time they did it in camp to be more confident and uh and capable this uh this coming summer my son who just got bar mitzvah is going to be having a silver experience so we decided to do to run it back again as they tell me them would say uh so again my two older daughters myself and my two youngest children including which was my son who was going to be actually doing this in camp got together to uh take a trip up north again to go through a practice of uh of rappelling to to go on a mountain uh and to repel off it a little it's not too far off it but a little bit often to allow him to get the experience of what it felt like but if i'm going there repelling's not my thing either i don't like jumping off mountains or leading up behind uh a cliff personally um but i figured you know what it's a father's job but while i'm there i'm going to try to take an experience also that i want to do so my son the bar mitzvah boy who's going to be also doing the repelling the summer time i said you know what let's wake up four in the morning 4 30 in the morning let's go um let's go to mayron we're staying overnight at spot um this is this whole thing was happening up north anyway so let's go to mayron together for vaseken uh it'll be a real exciting day to spend our time looking forward to the most that experience over the course of this trip um sure enough i got my alarm for about four 4 20 in the morning and uh about 4 10 one of my daughters comes in and she's not feeling well um and she knows herself well she knows she gets migrant headaches and she's uh she's experiencing the beginning of my headache and she says i'm feeling very nauseous i'm feeling very sick i need you to help me so look at my watch i think i'd pull it off still so i get my son in the car with my son let's go driving around trying to find some medicine as you imagine even though it spots an exciting place at 4 00 15 in the morning it's a little less exciting not much going on there people are not in the streets at that point in time i'm going from place to place i went to a gas station i found someone on the street and and either way i look at my watch and realizing i can't pull this off think to myself um you know what if i run to my room quickly it's 15 minutes away david come right back she won the difference anyways but of course she would i knew she would because she called me three times in the interim period saying please i need you to help me find medicine so that when i realized i'm not going to be able to make them everywhere and i went in the street and finally i passed through them walked out of the house and i said by the chance to have neurofin which is the israeli version of advil um and the guy who stands his pocket plastic bag at three and a half pills i didn't ask any questions he said it's aquamobile which is like tylenol took it gave him a little money for paying him for his eyes his kindness and the medication brought it back to my daughter and i was very frustrated not with her of course she was doing what she's supposed to do which is reach out to a parent in need and have the parent hopefully help them they'll get my son to have a secret meeting close to us and it's not but i realized my daughter and tender needs as you can imagine was very frustrating for me because i had this whole plan for me the most exciting part was davning vasekhan and material and shimbar guys camera is so exciting for me i realized i was stuck and i couldn't do it and uh at first i was like you know what we're not gonna even dive in now i found my menu eventually so it wasn't a big deal with that area but um i felt i felt down you know this opportunity had a real religious experience for me and i i lost it i missed it then it dawned on me because brooke did not want me to have this experience whatever reason i have no idea why but it wasn't meant to be and in life very often we plan on things we want things to happen we hope they happen and we're supposed to which wasn't planned for supposed to hope but we're equally supposed to be okay with an outcome that's not what we hoped because the other day because who runs the world and if you wanted me to have the experience that i wanted to have which i felt it closer to him and he would give me that experience but he didn't want me to have that for whatever reason might be and when i realized that it's okay you know what this is what i need to do right now that gave me a whole different perspective on the situation i was able to accept it with a lady all in my full heart in life you should always plan and hope for the best and and do things to bring that outcome out at the end of the day because with other plans in mind we should be just excited to accept this mission that shemba sent us on and to allow us to believe shawling accept whatever russia has in mind for us hopefully our goals should be realized and if not our leave should be showing