Connect To Hashem- Rabbi Jesse Horn

i got a phone call on friday from a uh i tell them that a student is going to get married his husband is on sunday and he was torn on the one hand he's excited for and wants to celebrate it but simultaneously after the tragedy in mayron he wasn't sure how he should feel and what he should say and should he address it so he wanted to hear my thoughts a sad thought and reflected for a moment and i shared with him that under the chopa we break a glass to commemorate to remember to remind ourselves of the morning of the basin big dash and part of living a jewish life part of living a life committed to torah that we're supposed to be able to handle a conflict of emotions the difference emotions put together on the one hand in the morning for the basement made this simultaneously it's daffodils who does that but simultaneously he's the one who's getting married and i was thinking that as we move out of a veilus as clydesville moving from log balmer simultaneously moving into availables of this tragic horrific stories and 45 different stories some of people we know and some of people we don't know some people who came from our yeshivas in our world in other worlds sociologically but all part of claudius realm i was thinking thila is certainly a natural response because tafila captures everything when you're happy with that and when you want to say thank you to that and when you're struggling with that you have nowhere else to turn you dive into a base sarah certainly that's a myth and even carbon so carbon you bring when a person sins shall may simply bring to celebrate you bring a carbon toad to say thank you and the common denominator between these carbonos as well as its fetal idea is that when you feel really emotionally supposed to turn to their bonus law when you feel really happy really appreciative really sad really regretful for a sin after naziris and after one gives the birth when there's a central moment in life we're supposed to turn to their bonus moment sometimes that moment is confusion when you're happy he's supposed to share that simple with him when you're sad you're supposed to connect with him sometimes when tragedy strikes there's a sense of confusion and we're supposed to turn to their bonus shalom as well and therefore for all the young hassan who waited till sunday after a black moment to get married for people who are struggling because they lost a family member or friend or know if someone who lost someone i don't know if i have answers i don't know if we're supposed to have answers but perhaps just turning to the reporter connecting as a nation together with him i heard those it's at the hotel's mostly shabbos to try just to connect a beautiful beautiful gesture we should continue connecting feel like when there's a tragedy that strikes when we are confused with emotion we should continue looking to try to connect to the revolution hopefully that will serve as some level of condolence share our symbols with him serve be able to internalize and move forward based on their reaction