KLM Sending a Thank-you Note to Hashem with Rabbi Asher Baruch Wegbreit

[Music] welcome back to klm the cavanaugh mitzvos foundation and we're zoho to be in the yubine basin midrash and thanks for joining a few weeks ago i had some seminary students at my shabbos table and really nice women and i asked them the following question i said i said to them why are we here what's the purpose of life that's where they say they said to serve hashem sounds like a great answer i told them that's not correct you might be wondering the way i'm dressed that would say i'm saying that the purpose of life isn't to serve hashem that's a means to the purpose of life the purpose of life is devakis to hashem to it cleave to hashem to have a deep bonded relationship with him that's the purpose guess what serving hashem will take you there but that's the purpose now if the vegas and cleaving is the purpose one of the best things you can do to achieve that the best vehicles to hillem reciting to helen amazing route to hashem although there's something there's like a missing ingredient in our reciting talem that if we just add this gradient into it there's going to be an other level of bonding and and cleaving this is just unimaginable okay so that's what i want to talk about tonight what's this other ingredient we need to add to our tahilum you get a request right someone sends you a text and they say sarah isn't critical our daughter sarah is in critical condition can you please recite it to hillam for her rafish lama we all get those requests we all try to fulfill those requests as well now what happens next broke hashem sarah is better we get a text back and says you can now take sarah off the tahilum list she's recovered thank you everybody and okay good that's what we get i think we should get a different request at that point we should get a request that says hashem sarah has recovered could everyone please join us in reciting to hillary and so we can thank hashem for pulling her through how come we don't see those requests we don't get those requests why not well have you gone up to a vending machine well when you go up to a vending machine what do you do you put in the coin you wait for the can to go down the slot you take the can and you leave has every has anyone ever gone up to the vending machine and said thank you very much you don't okay you don't say uh you're not used to thanking the vending machine right put the coin in you take it in your leaf on some level we treat reciting talent for the needy like a vending machine right we put in our request by reciting it to helen and we wait to receive our you know needs and then it's over now we're not callous i mean everyone i know when they when hashem pulls through and there's a beautiful and yeshua they say barak hashem right you say bro hashem you'll even send out when you say take sarah off the tahillian list you'll say hashem she's recovered but why don't we go the next step why isn't there a request to say to hillam as a thank you note to heal him as a thank you note wouldn't that be beautiful and by the way miss morlatoda is the most incredible thank you note we can offer to hashem so question is why don't we go the extra step and i think it's like we said on some level the reciting a telhilum for one in need is the way we react to a vending machine in the sense that we're focused on the transaction achieving the refurbishment but not the relationship right the relationship is not expressed in our to hellum of thanks okay that's the challenge the question is what's the solution i think the answer is this is your mindset let's we need a mindset change about the hillam about the tahilum for the needy when you're someone he's in we need to look at it of course not like a vending machine we need to look at it as follows a telegram to our parent imagine that you know your your your parents are you know far away and one of your kids god forbid is sick what do you do you say let's say you send them an urgent telegram and you say dad um joseph needs some serious medical care can you please send us some uh funds for this please right so what happens if you um you know please god it works out he sends the money of course you're going to send another telegram afterwards and say dad thank you so much it worked out the care was great the operation was the same thank you so much right okay so imagine this what if we look at the talents we recite into we're sending an urgent telegram to our parent who we love and totally depend upon right we send that to them to hashem right so if we look at it that way of course why not send a telegram back saying thank you so much hashem you saved my child my kid just got engaged thank you right so if we look at it not as a transaction a mere transaction to get what we need but we look it as a telegram to the one we need so of course we're going to send the telegram back thanking hashem great idea right now my dream would be that we could uh you know around the world you start to see tehillim requests afterwards saying thank god they recovered please do us a hesid and and thank hashem we're gonna we're gonna recite to hillary i keep talking about mismo latoda and we're going to speak about it in another class because it's the most magnificent way to thank hashem we'll learn about that next time but wouldn't it be great if there was like a mass movement if everybody starts uh also reciting thank you note salem's right the thing is i'm not optimistic that will happen right away why and this is something everyone knows when you're requested to do something extra the first thing you think is my schedule is so filled right most people don't have the bandwidth to add new things to their schedule so i'm not going to promote at this moment that you know make sure you uh you know you have a refresher channel make sure recite uh coofia go ahead you'll be so thankful if you do but that's not my recommendation i think i have an angle for us that we can put into practice immediately oh and and it's going to be quite simple every day you pray every day you recite pazuki to zimmer what's in the middle psukitazimra what tillam is it's like two away from ashrae miss moralitoda right there it is so here's the solution why we're doing we're dominating any way we're reciting it that anyway why don't we just do the following let's have in mind when we recite that and that this is an opportunity to thank hashem for all the reforeshleimas we've had we've requested the shidduchim the it's a great place on a date you can do it on a regular daily basis you can we can start to catch up because the balance of our talent crying out for help way outweighs our uh our to him with the especial goal of saying thank you hashem right i think that's a great practice so right now we're going to review this dynamic we need to shift our mindset we're going to review this and then we're going to add of course cavanaugh mitzvos to hilum let's review what we just discussed so we can take our telum and go from crisis to gratitude in other words for sure you must call out to hashem in times of need and that's a great vehicle to cleave to hashem and create to vegas however we need to shift our mindset see this no more vending machine right don't look at tahilam as something that you put in requests to get the result merely right don't we have to go from vending machine to telegram western union by the way this is what we want to do when there's crisis when there's trouble you want to look at it i'm sending a telegram to my parent who loves me and has the capability to take care of me and help me and i'm begging them for help and if we look at it that we just sent a telegram we told the parent who loves us and is concerned about the ones we're praying for we want to what do we want to do afterwards we want to thank them for what for their support it's only natural if you don't look at it as a as a vending machine and you look at it as a telegram here's the result you'll thank hashem and that's the missing ingredient that we can put into our talent to have complete devacus he's our loving parent in times of need and he's our parent that we want to express our appreciation and gratitude towards okay as i mentioned the reason i'm focused so much on having kevana for the myths as we do is because the difference the ramifications of adding that intention before you do the mitzvah cannot be fathom i'm gonna have to continue to give metaphors to try to get it across so with that in mind we just talked about utilizing ms moore the soda that we say in tsuki-zimmer every morning as a place to stop and thank hashem right and to catch up a little to all our prayers that are asking and now we can really focus in on thanking now that's a big mitzvah because we learned in a previous class that thanking hashem is a torah commandment there's a torah commandment to to remember hashem's kindnesses so if it's a torah commandment we want to have that in mind so here's what i suggest i call it the the new mismo the toda kavanagh plan all right it's a two second kavanagh plan i don't think that's a lot to ask for here's all you need to do second number one the first second before you recite miss muller toda you have in mind i'm reciting mismo the toda in order to thank hashem for all the yeshuas and help he's given me that's one second if you think it is a one second second one more second second number two you feel genuine gratitude while you're reciting it because another thing we stress here is the one thing hashem wants from you more than anything is your heart rahman alibaba boy so second number one have in mind the mitzvah of reciting mismola toda for the purpose of fulfilling the commandment to thank hashem and number two when you recite it feel feel it feel genuine appreciation and affection that's all you need to do those two seconds i just have one more suggestion if if you'll just maybe maybe even pause your video and get a sitter all right get a sitter that has chakras okay this is something you don't want to forget because we say this is the missing ingredient in the vegas and i can just tell you if you add those two seconds it's like i'll try to let's say five dollars versus 500 billion it means so much when you intend to do the mitzvah before you do it and when you add your heart so what i suggest you do with your sitter is annotate just put a little put a star put a t for thanks you know put a little heart you know whatever it needs to remind yourself kavanagh for the midst of thanking hashem and feeling genuine gratitude giving hashem our heart please god we should um express so much thanks that hashem feels that he doesn't need to put us in situations to cry out in trouble [Music] is