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[Music] we are back in our Wednesday night of stump the rabbi you guys ask questions will give us the answers um tonight's U will be for a for umak Ben Leora ranit Sarah anat ran Leana B SAR s but saan David Bena Doris butor Leora Abraham Esther bipor AIG but suria Ben Abraham M Sak baa apologize lost the post I remember everybody Stefan Ben Katarina Talia Batar Orit but Elana and um also Sarah B barel and Moshe benim and also for for oshri bis Gabi benis elad benis David Bena Ben Abraham sha Ben faran Mara but Julie Isa but Marsha Samuel Ben Marsha Alexander Ben Marsha ra thank you for all of the supporters the sponsors the different wonderful people that are supporting our work uh it's a uh a blessing to have such amazing people uh and again uh it's um so many different things that we're working on it's uh hard to keep track of all the different wonderful things but each day we have new videos coming up uh being published each day there are new Wars each day there are new uh uh winds and uh different projects lots and lots of things so now last night in our uh we delved a little bit into the rambam uh in in essence uh telling us how there are phys there are physically sick people andm is there are many today with this whole Corona virus and many other viruses that we don't know of uh many people that are getting uh uh vaccines many people that are not getting vaccines uh many people that uh uh the vaccine is the least of their problems because their spiritual issues are much much worse uh point being is that there is a lot going on in the world and uh really the the ultimate good of a is that he's given us a Tora that gives us the solutions gives us the diagnosis uh gives us an understanding of how and what we need to do and um one of the main things that we see as a problem in the world today is that uh the biggest plague that we have in the world today is a plague of ignorance where you have a generation full of ignorant people uh led by many not all but many uh people that choose to keep the generation a ignorant uh either by Mist teachings that are a result of weakness or anxiety or M teachings that are intentional and and thereby heretical and dangerous and really one of the uh things that uh I think that uh caught my eyes uh recently and you know we uh we publicized it recently was a writing by uh the ra vdor Miller ra Vidor Miller really hit this on the nail as he always did but had something out of out of this world of how he understood Society in his time and ours and uh it wasn't that long ago that he was uh in the world among uh among men and teaching us how to be angels and uh one of the things that uh he discussed is different issues in regards to the Holocaust uh what's the truth you know why did uh where was God during the Holocaust cost the famous question and obviously would always answer uh as uh God is the one that did the you know he's the one that pressed the buttons and brought the Holocaust anyone that thinks contrary to that is simply an aicos is a heretic um and um one of the things that you see in the world today and uh also in in the past is that people as a result of their own uh anxiety as a result of their own uh um weakness as a result of their own heretical beliefs as a result of their own emotions could be all could be some uh generally end up falling into the Trap of the Satan and believing something or teaching something worse yet uh that is contrary and antithetical to the tah and one of the things we talked about last night is a uh again another aicos uh uh uh teachings by uh AOS teachings by um uh a rabbi Weinberger and obviously the the others that we've talked about in the past and uh you know people ask me some questions about it after they've watched the sh or you know should we do this should we do that I mean it's a maybe uh there's a different way of doing kiru perhaps uh not everybody has to be fire and brimstone and I think the the Shure itself answered itself but one of the things I want to talk about um is before we go into the questions is number one why do we have to be so um fiery if you will when it comes to the protest against Mings when it comes to the protest uh and the public rebuke of those people that teach things that are antithetical to the tah teach things that are against the Torah if you will in a simple language uh why do we have to be the uh you know the the the one that has to talk about it because I mean for all intents and purposes in the English language uh you're you know fighting alone almost uh there's not many of us that are talking about this uh and even the ones that do talk about uh different uh M teachings and bad teachings that are in the in the public today generally speaking do not mention names uh like we do uh so why is it why is it that we have to do it so first and foremost everyone has to understand is that I don't take a step or make a phone call or or or do anything without instructions for my R without discussions for my uh and uh and these things although they seem sometimes like as if it's off off the cuff it just happened many times these things are things that are built up over a long period of time talked about and discussed over a long period of time before I bring it up to the public and uh generally speaking when we get to the point of making something public it's when it we've gotten to the point where it's we can't not bring it up we can't not bring it up we have to bring it up and the reason why we mention names is because if there is is a general danger to the public then we mentioned things that are General but if there is a specific danger a specific danger then you have to mention the specific danger I can't tell you there's generally bad teachings when I know that there's really more of a specific uh danger uh you can't tell people listen don't take any medicine even though there's only problems with one medicine so you have to be more specific because since we are living in a a generation uh of ignorance a generation of balua a generation of weakness among all communities but nonetheless easy access to T and A lot more people learning T today than they were in previous generations uh so there's good and bad and there's there's ups and downs but nonetheless you have to know how to deal with the generation so because most people don't know what they don't know and most people don't know where the apparent danger is unless you specify it for them and you're really really uh precise with the uh yes and no and this is really one of the original uh debates that my R and I would have constantly you know back and forth of of doing this or doing that and uh not debates like we're disagreeing but nonetheless just trying to figure out what's the best way to deliver the em and uh and many times there are there are things that we see that that are wrong but we don't even really talk about it because we don't want to bring more light to something that's full of darkness when it have when no one really knows about it or it's very little uh people are affected by it really the only times we bring something to the public uh that's more specific is when it is getting to a point where or it has gotten to a point where it's affecting a massive amount of people uh so for example in last night's example the the wine bag uh Burger situation uh I already saw the video when it first came out somebody brought it to my attention and we didn't bring it to you uh we didn't mention it to you and the reason why is because although it was heresy at the time although I discussed it with my r at the time we didn't bring it up because we saw that it didn't really have many hits no one really saw it and because we're basing our uh information only on YouTube and YouTube it only had I don't know like 100 uh views so there's no point of bringing attention to that when there's only 100 views uh so uh the only reason why we had to bring it up yesterday is because we found out that on different channels uh such as Facebook there were several hundred, views uh meaning there were many many many people tens of thousands of people if not hundreds of thousands of people that have been misled uh by this video uh to think that uh God loves everyone God doesn't punish anyone and so on and so forth all this nonsense that he said now so we have to mention things by because there's a specific danger you know you can't just say there's a dead end Street somewhere in the neighborhood you have to be more specific you can't just say there's a general danger in the city you have to tell them where the neighborhood is and even if you could pinpoint the house and the person you have to do it because again people don't know and many times until I mention the names even though I sometimes I try to be General and I try to do things a little bit differently and tell people what to stay away from many times people continue listening to these Heretics until I mention them by name and even then sometimes they insist on insisting listening to them anyway but the point being is is that uh we have to do things precisely directly and uh take the burden of the headaches and the other types of uh uh uh risks that come with it uh simply because again it's for the public good now why do we have to do all of this why doesn't anybody else do it or very few uh well first off it's because it's a very very big headache uh it's it's a constantly uh dealing with people's disagreements especially the fans and the supporters of those other people uh the all types of uh political issues within the uh within the field uh you know other people that uh were your friends disagree with your view and you know sometimes even become uh not your friends or even less uh so the point is it comes with a lot of headaches that uh most people just simply don't want to deal with most people just don't want to deal with and uh I think that is a disservice to the public I think it's very important that public knows what danger they're facing simply because if we don't know what danger we're facing even if we're doing something good it's all going to be ruined by the danger now Miller although he wouldn't necessarily mention names on a regular basis he didn't mention names of aim and Heretics uh from time to time but one of the things they wrote in a uh uh in one of his lectures it's uh uh tape e139 is the whole issue of dealing with amalik and he writes when the on the question of what was the crime of amalik that we are expected to rememberd Miller says Amal committed the crime of crimes it was the crime of destroying Amal the reason why we're commanded by Hashem to not only never forget Amal but to destroy Amal because amal's ultimate goal in life ultimate purpose in its Creation in essence is to cool the crowd down cool people off make sure that they're not afraid of God make sure that they are uh friends with God if you will but definitely not afraid of him uh and at the time at the time says uh all the nations saw the Miracles that made for Amal uh destroyed all of that because while everybody else was afraid of am uh after we left Egypt uh Amal all of a sudden decided to attack us and in essence after everyone else saw that we were attacked the uh he uh everyone else wanted to also fight us as well so says that we have a commandment not to forget Amal which means that we have to keep in mind how great is the crime of those who are going against where instead of keeping the public uh informed of the dangers of going against the Torah of the dangers of desecrating hashem's name instead of doing that they not only don't teach it but they actually teach things that are against it by telling people to just God loves you no matter what mhia will save everyone uh you know every Jew has a share of the world to come and all types of teachings like it or perhaps even worse where they even go against teachers like myself like ra M uh like RAB and others that talk about and actually uh discourage people from listening to this type of teachings so says those who are those that go against it that's who in essence what we're trying to fight against which also includes newspapers also includes people that make fun of the Torah uh also includes writers that are attacking from Jews and ridic ridiculing Jews and Judaism uh this obviously was at the time uh very common in Poland and Russia and and other places in the past uh but in America it's it's grown drastically since the time he wrote this or or said this in a lecture but he said all of these people you should know all of these people that are constantly going against the teachings of are under the curse of amalik and for he says this specifically anybody that comes to destroy is the is the worst of our enemies because that's the number one thing when people know know that Hashem is the king then the world is a happy place and that's why the outmost effort should be invested first of all he says more than anything else toward its gaining an awareness of hasem that the awareness of hem is the first of all wisdom people should be aware of hem they should learn to think about Hashem to see the wisdom of Hashem the kindness of Hashem and then on that basis you can build all the rest all the great achievements of character and happiness in life so in essence what says that this whole mitvah of destroying Amal is not just going against specific Nation uh from adome and and idolatry but rather even someone that could be a nextdoor neighbor a uh a family member a local r a r that that's very uh big in the world as far as popularity is concerned it could be anybody it's in essence anyone that teaches things that are contrary to the foundation of the tah which is teachings of now last night we went over the first in chapter two of what the rambam in essence is telling us is what are these these spiritually ill people and how you can diagnose a person of being spiritual ill simply by them not liking to talk about not liking even not liking AEM and so on and so forth the more they dislike the more they detest it the more spiritually sick they are tonight I want to actually go a little bit further into the other because someone asked a very good question uh you know and we've talked about this in the past but I think it's a it's a uh it's important to go over some things sometimes more than once which is really what is the right way to teach Torah what is the right way to teach Torah but not just to teach Torah but to teach Torah to this generation if you were talking about the generation of mosenu there's really no uh no quals about it mosenu obviously hadem as his teacher as his he knew exactly what he was doing you're not going to need to give advice if you were sitting in one of the classes of the rambam you knew exactly what he was doing so when you when you lived in generations of of of past Generations you saw that teachers did certain things what about a generation like we have right now a generation of uh of ignorance a generation of materialism and so on and so forth how do you deal with those uh with the people of today what actually works well the truth be told is that in order for us to succeed in teaching T we have to number one understand the psychological me the mentality of the generation where they stand but also see if the spoke about them too and of course as you already know or could assume yes they did they did speak about an ignorant generation they did speak about a generation that's full of materialism and so on and in fact the rambam is the one that told us how to do K how to teach Torah and uh ultimately this is one of the foundational principles that we learned from the rambam and teach like the rambam and exactly the way that MOS raenu taught where thear says that when Moser raenu went to ganeden and left this world that the Hashem cried hasem cried over it and the reason why thear says because no one can teach t with the with the fear of Heaven like mosu did so it's a in essence AEM wanted to be taught with but how much doesm want that how much well the chapter two number one first he says that those who are physically sick the bitter tastes sweet the sweet tastes bitter some of the sick even desire and crave that which is not fit to eat such as Earth and charcoal and hate healthy food such as bread and meat and all depending on how serious the sickness similarly those who are morally ill desire and love bad traits hate the good path and are lazy to follow it depending on how sick they are they find it exceedingly burdensome to do the mitv and he brings Isaiah 5: 20 where he says speak to uh uh Isaiah speaks of such people woe to those who call the bad good and the good bad who take Darkness to be light and light to be Darkness who take bitter to be sweet and Sweet to be bitter and concerning them schl says in Proverbs 2:3 those who leave the upright path to walk in the ways of darkness and what is the remedy for the morally ill they should go to the wise for they are the healers of the Soul they will heal them by teaching them how to acquire proper traits until they return them to the good path in essence the r and we're repeating what we said last night for anyone who already watched last night and anyone who didn't obviously gets the benefit of hearing it again hearing it for the first time uh that in essence there are physically sick people and you could in essence diagnose the level of sickness based on how these people are reacting to what's good for them and versus what's bad for them if they're Desiring the bad obviously they're very very sick the same thing goes when it comes to morals when it comes to spirituality when a person desires what's bad for him when a person desires what Hashem said is forsaken it's prohibited when a person desires what is evil to society then that person is spiritually sick the more he desires what's evil the more he desires lying the more he desires cheating the more he desires adultery the more she desires immodesty the more she desires to to be the center of attention and arrogance the more spiritually sick they are and the solution in essence the uh the uh vaccine for these spiritually ill people the medicine actually for these spiritually ill people is to go to that go going to heal their soul by teaching them M because musar is the specific teachings uh that uh teaches how to acquire proper character traits how to fix your character traits the anger the arrogance the uh the ego the uh stinginess and so on and so forth and return them to a good path so in essence here what is the r I'm really talking about he's talking about what we call today k k to the public K to the masses K to your local Yeshiva K to your aim K to your community K to General cloud is K even to people that are Torah Scholars this is in essence he's referring to is this is how you teach you have to teach them based on the level of their spiritual sickness some will be wise in many things and have weaknesses in few and some will have many weaknesses and very little wisdom in certain things the point is you have to teach people based on where they are and obviously we all know where the generation is at large now the next Al which we did not go over yesterday is where he goes into a little bit more detail and he says how are they to be healed these spiritually sick people we tell them we tell the wrathful man to train himself to feel no reaction if he is beaten or cursed he should follow this course of behavior for a long time until the anger is uprooted from his heart this is one of the most difficult things that a person that is angry will ever experience in his life which is in essence con take coning his anger containing her anger your husband just said something that really really rubs you the wrong way keep it quiet why that's the solution in order for you to cure your spiritual sickness your wife just said something that simply drives you crazy don't respond don't respond stay quiet why that's the Cure that's the cure to your spiritual sickness if you're an angry person now for those who say no no I'm not an angry person I just get angry when people get me angry well that's what makes you an angry person if you were getting angry when no one's making you angry that would make you a mental case you would have to go to a mental institution if you're angry when people making you angry that means you're an angry person the quicker you get angry the more of an angry person you are meaning the more severe your spiritual sickness is but nonetheless everyone gets angry to a certain extent some of us more some of us less but nonetheless writes The Cure is you have to be able to contain your anger the man who is full of Pride should cause himself to experience much disgrace he should sit in the lowliest of places dressed dress in tattered Rags which shame the wearer and the like until the arrogance is uprooted from his heart and he returns to the middle path which is the proper path when he returns to the middle path he should walk in it the rest of his life so he says someone that's arrogant which unfortunately is a epidemic of its own because that's in essence what they teach in society today the more arrogant you are the more successful you'll be in life we just had a president that had an arrogance of its own it should have probably had its own term in the in presidency we uh have a many arrogant celebrities that are teaching the public all types of nonsense we have many arrogant teachers and and other leaders arrogance in essence is running rampant in society and the Raam says that in order to cure this arrogance that a person has to bring much disgrace to himself one of the things that you could actually see that uh not that I recommend to watch TV ever but I remember for my secular days and may Hashem forgive me uh that there was actually a show uh in those days I don't know if it's still around but there was a show called Undercover Boss which this show was a business show where the CEO major executive of a company a founder of a company would pretend to be just a regular Average Joe that just got a job and has some type of documentary being done about him and uh he would go and start working like a regular Joe in the company and he would have a costume of some kind uh changes uh His Image and he would work with the average blue color person in his company cleaning the floor cooking a burger and and getting to meet all of the people that are really powering the company you know it's not the executives that power the company but rather the people that are actually doing uh the grind work that are powering each company and he got to S things that he doesn't see in his day-to-day life simply because when you're in the you know the uh the the sea level position you're an executive of a company uh you're a white color type of worker you don't get to see uh much of the personal experiences of the guy that's making Hamburger or the guy that's cleaning toilets or the guy that's changing mufflers and and and all types of things you get to make decisions based on computer images of numbers and different types of graphs and all types of waste of time meetings and boardrooms and so on so you don't get to see all that stuff you don't get to see the real engine of the company so these Executives that you multi-millionaires in some cases even billionaires will get to see and deal and you know rub shoulders with people they never met met and would never meet in their life that actually work for them and time and time again the show would show how this executive gets humbled by seeing how many difficulties these people go through just to make their salary for the year there that he literally makes in a week just how much difficulty and Agony they deal with in life whether it's marriage issues or parents or kids or financial or medical and so on and so forth he gets to see all the difficulties and how dedicated they are or sometimes how undedicated they are to their work how reliable they are how unreliable they are and many times you'd see these Executives get emotional and humbled not necessarily changing their life per se but at least uh for the show's sake they would uh they would do some nice things for some of those people and uh make certain changes sometimes for the entire company and that's really just a microscopic a uh example of what the ram is actually referring to if you want to deal with arrogance if you want to deal with arrogance you have to come back to earth if you have succeeded in life and you are very very wealthy spend some time in a nursing home spend some time in a homeless shelter spend some time feeding and communicating with people that are needy uh spend some time with people that are not as successful as you uh if you are an arrogant person for different reasons then spend some time uh looking into helping people that don't have necessarily your fortune but quite the opposite and not spend some time by going in there as the uh as the Savior oh yeah I'm going to you know you don't have a house I'm going to buy you a house that's not necessarily going to uh humble you that just actually possibly will fuel your arrogance even further but instead spend some time like them go walk there be there and see how it is uh to deal with their struggles and really to make keep it safe what I'm referring to is listen to them go talk to a few at the nursing home at the shelter uh the next time that the uh poor guy comes to you for it taka invite him into your uh into your uh home and actually give him something to eat and let's you know allow him to speak and listen to him don't just you know give money and Sh away if you have an arrogance issue it's very important for you to do such a thing because because the only way you're going to realize that you are in a different inappropriate world is when you realize that real life is not what you're living you're living an illusion and the same concept goes for everything else if you're are very smart and you're surrounded by a bunch of people that are less than you then don't just you know stand on top of them and say I'm smarter than everybody else hear some of them out and see where they're out see what kind of struggles they're dealing with the point being is is get out of yourself and put yourself in a situation that's the exact opposite because at the very best case scenario it'll humble you to realize the gifts that you have uh at the at the very least it'll make you appreciate uh AEM for all of the gifts that he's given you uh even if it doesn't necessarily humble you but at least it'll make you more uh you know have more gratitude for so that's in essence what the ram is referring to further he says that one should take a similar course with each and other uh trait that he has a person who is swayed in the direction of one of the extreme should move in a direction of the opposite extreme and accustom himself to that for a long time meaning that weak show that they do is not enough it obviously is to be much longer until he has returned to the proper path which is the midpoint meaning you don't necessarily need to expect yourself that within a year of hanging out with uh poor people you're going to become a it's not going to happen but nonetheless if you uh understand that you are not where you're supposed to be you're spiritually sick you're arrogant you're conceited you're uh uh uh Angry you're stingy you're all these different things that all of us know are negative and the way you know what your weaknesses are is in essence what people complain about you if everybody keeps calling you arrogant they can't all be wrong if everybody keeps saying you're stingy they can't all be wrong if everybody stops you know keeps telling you oh no no don't get angry before they start talking to you you know obviously you're an angry person you need to work on that whatever people complain about you that's what you are even though you disagree the whole world can't be wrong and you're right all the time sometimes the whole world is wrong and and you're right but that's not necessarily uh all the time it's not possible so especially when it comes to character traits because everybody's biased ons so what R is ESS saying is that you have to get to a middle point get to a middle middle ground not be where you are right now and don't expect yourself necessarily to become mhu the humblest of all people but get to a middle ground and continue working and building on that Al number three says that the temperament with regard to which man is forbidden to follow the middle path uh is that he should move away from one extreme and adopt the other among these is arrogance that in essence that you know it's a the ra first told us that a person that is a uh has bad traits has to move toward its middle path but there are certain things that he has to be extreme with he has to be extreme and one of them is arrogance if a man is only uh uh I'm sorry it's a uh one of these things that he has to um work on his arrogance yeah his arrogance if a man is only humble he's not following the good path rather he must hold himself lowly in his Spirit very unassuming which says in numbers 12:3 which describes mosenu as a person that's very humble not only humble therefore the sages directed us a person that should hold himself as very very lowly and he declared that whoever is arrogant it's as if he denite God's presence as implied in uh Deuteronomy 8:14 and your heart will be hoty and you will forget God your lord furthermore he says that whoever is arrogant should be placed under the ban of ostracism and this is this applies even a person is somewhat arrogant the ramam says so in essence when it comes to arrogance it's such a detestable trait that a person needs to really be extreme with it and work on it as it's literally as priority number one even if let's say you're stingy work on arrogance and you're arrogant also work on arrogance first why because the less arrogant you are the more generous you'll become if let's say for example you're a uh uh someone that has uh you know short temper but you're arrogant that arrogance is causing the short temper in essence the arrogance is the root of almost practically all evil Shalom says that the arrogance is the primary reason why people get addicted to wasting seed uh because in essence they want to have whatever Pleasures they have whenever they want they don't want Hashem to tell them what to do and when to do they don't want people to tell them what to do and when to do so they're in essence take control of the their own physical pleasures and that's uh what leads to that uh railroad to to to gam uh the next thing that the rambam says that anger is also an exceptionally bad quality um which is very uh similar very uh same Roots as anger and it's fitting and proper that one move away from it and adopt the opposite extreme he should School himself not to become angry even when it's f to be angry if he should wish to arouse fear in his children and his household or within a community if he's the community leader and wishes to be angry at them to motivate them to return to the proper path then he should present an angry front to them to punish them but he should inwardly become this is actually something that you don't see very often uh because it requires years and years of work I remember that one of the trips that I went to is I went to see one of the one of the uh in in one of the most famous M today and uh I was sitting there one of my cousins invited me one of his and I was sitting there and they were learning and so on and a couple of the guys weren't exactly uh uhad let's say that and they did a few things that uh uh that were irritating and uh got up after uh you know stopping himself a few times as far as you know his reading and and teaching he stopped himself a few times and you know these guys uh continued with their misbehavior he uh got up get up you know which shocked everybody and uh started walking away as if he was really angry and my my cousin uh may hasem protect him and uh and and give a blessing to him and his whole family uh my cousin uh Gabby his name is he uh he's very close to to ra Amos and he followed him no no RAB RAB please don't don't be angry don't be angry and and ra Amos you know as everybody was like shocked because you know for for for ra to get up at such frustration I mean was not not like him so ra turned around and I saw it he looked at uh at my cousin and he smiled at him so I'm almost so so my cousin came back okay so in essence that's that's the example that's the example that he was he was leading is that he has to rebuke the people they're misbehaving they're not paying attention they're wasting time and so on so you can't just sit there and let people just step all over the tah all over your face and all over uh the community and just take advantage but what the r is in essence is saying is that you have to show anger while in reality you're really come when you're in reality you really come this takes a lot of Tora and a lot of humility to get to that point but nonetheless that's the goal that's the goal we should all have the early s just said that anyone that becomes angry is like an idol worshipper uh and the r continues how a uh such behavior is is is detested by hem where whenever one becomes angry if he's a wise man his wisdom leaves him if he's a prophet his prophecy leaves him uh the life of the the angry person is not a real life therefore the have directed us that a person should distance himself from anger and accustom himself not to feel any reaction even to things which provoke anger this is the good path the the Raam writes this is the way of righteousness accept humiliation but do not humiliate others listen when they are ashamed but do not answer do this with love and joy in the suffering as it says in the Book of Judges chapter 5:31 and those who love him are like the sun when it comes out in its strength so here the rambam says that in order for a person to really truly get to a point of eliminating their anger they have to accept things that are unacceptable in society today uh or anytime I mean if somebody shaming you somebody embarrassing you personally making fun of you in essence if you want to overcome this bad trait that you have of being a hotthead of being an angry person and so on then you have to actually accept this humiliation and this is actually why you'll see that you know whether if you read bios of of the and or you read Torah and you see all the different things that happened to mhu and you'll see that many times the people that they helped the most went against them many times people would embarrass them and do all types of things and they didn't react the way you would think they should react with with their power and wrath but rather the opposite when started complaining to mosu telling him listen would you bring us here to this uh to this desert to kill all of us I mean he's saving their life and they're saying that that he's trying to kill them uh they're calling him an adulterer a thief and all types of other names and M what does he say what we're nothing I'm nothing what are you complaining to me for I'm nothing I'm zero go you're complaining your complaints are against hasem instead of telling them you UNG F people you know good people you this you this you that all the things that a person would normally say he accepted the humiliation in essence that's what made mosenu great and that's what make can make you great by knowing that that public embarrassment that uh person shaming you that person making fun of you is AEM testing you and hasem trying to build you to be a better version of yourself although it's unpleasant although it's painful and it's it can make your body feel like you're on fire it's better to have that fire than the fire of G that a person would get if he doesn't do CH well for such things so that's the reality that accepting humiliation uh is a uh and suffering is one of the ways of getting to the point of righteousness again this is the goal each one of us knows exactly where they stand some of us this is completely unacceptable because they're still very spiritually sick some of us are saying you know what maybe I'll give this a try some of us will say you know a little you know p p a little bit little you know a little too much okay let's move on to the next ra says in number four in chapter two says that a person should always cultivate silence and refrain from speaking except with regards to matters of knowledge or things that are necessary for his physical weal this is something that's completely unacceptable to arrogant people completely unacceptable to people that are constantly selling themselves and are looking for attention cons you know unacceptable for people that are immodest and immoral why because generally speaking what they do is they constantly want to be the center of attention and how are you going to be the center of attention without having a big mouth without constantly talking without constantly saying things that uh you know are inappropriate and so on so one of the ways that a person can help themselves by by curing their spiritual illness is teach themselves how to be quiet much more than to speak you know people always admire good speakers oh wow he's a good speaker he's a good speaker that's a good speaker speaker speaker rarely do you see among Society people admiring oh that guy's really quiet generally speaking it's uh it's it's it's it's common knowledge that the guy that's quietest in the room is typically the smartest in the room uh or the dumbest but usually more likely the smartest uh why because people that are very smart are very calculated and they don't speak very much and when a person speaks a lot it's uh it's not always a uh unless they're doing it for a living it's not always a good indication of their intellect many times it actually indicates quite the opposite a person needs to cultivate and and teach themselves how to be quiet how not to as soon as your husband comes home as soon as your husband wakes up as soon as your husband uh is a uh says hello on the telephone he just called you you just the whole laundry list you're giving him of all the problems you've ever had since M it's not a good thing it's not a good trait no no husband wants a wife that just puts a whole faucet of things as soon as he sees her doesn't no husband wants that no human wants that no human wants it imagine you just woke up and somebody just jumps in your face with every problem Under the Sun you call them to say hello and instead of saying hello you're like you know there's my Mak all the all the plagues of Egypt it's you have people need to teach themselves how to first and foremost be quiet a lot more often and second choose their words carefully to the point of like the ram says be very generous with words of wisdom what's words of wisdom Torah or words that are required for your uh physical welfare you know it's a uh if there's something that's physical needed and yes sometimes there are certain people that actually need to speak and spill their hearts in order to feel physically better but that's not exactly a spiritually healthy person point being is that the rambam says that it's a very very good thing to teach yourself silence and also choose your speech uh uh carefully because we're running a little bit out of time I'm going to speed up a little bit similar when speaking about matters of tah knowledge Tor knowledge one uh one's word should be brief but rich in content so it's a uh it's it's very common among you know relatively new speakers uh that they don't really prepare very well and what ends up happening is that in order for them to say a single thing they take 30 minutes and you know I I've seen it sometimes when I meet people I go to different lectures and somebody tells me listen I only have a five minute question or somebody tells me listen I want a phone call phone call and they insist on a phone call it's an emergency only 5 minutes only 5 minutes 45 minutes later it's they're still talking why because they don't choose their words carefully they don't get to the point this is part of the reason of why I generally don't speak on the phone because I know that people waste a lot of time when they're speaking on the phone when they're speaking in person whereas when you're speaking in text messages or in voice notes more time than not people limit the message because they know no one has the patience to listen to this whereas they don't pay attention to this when they're speaking to you in person or on the phone so this is in essence something that a person needs to take into account when they're speaking to other people you have to get to the point immediately especially when it comes to teachings of wisdom teachings of Torah or teaching of something useful in the world you have to get to the point and if you don't know how to get to the point right away don't say it simply don't say it practice it a bunch of times think about it a bunch of times say to yourself by looking yourself in the mirror a bunch of times once you got a r up then do it why because if you don't know what you're saying and it's what you're saying is not uh easily understandable to even a four-year-old then you yourself don't know the information well enough so it's important to minimize your speech and get to the point and if you are longwinded uh like I am make sure that you're saying a lot of new things and not repeating yourself over and over again because when you repeat yourself you're wasting people's time you're wasting your own time and in essence you're showing the opposite of what you're trying to show number five he says silence is a safeguard for wisdom therefore one should not hasten to answer nor speak at length one of the other things he embellishes on this particular point in regards to silence where people typically when you ask them a question they like to answer right away because they think that if you answer right away that means you're h smart and you know the answer and that's not necessarily true it's not necessarily true you have to the certain questions uh need time I uh watched the uh bio about the life of the life of the gador of America David Feinstein Shalom who just recently passed they did a fantastic bio on him highly recommend it for anybody to watch it it's free online uh and uh one of the things that uh was uh unbelievable about R David Feinstein uh was the fact that there were the vast majority of the questions people asked them uh were not just questions about the mid and who did this and who did that but rather questions which are generally speaking very difficult and you have to be very very careful uh answering them because if you don't answer them the right way as his own son ruen Feinstein says you're going to be the one that goes to Gom not the person that is making the mistake because you're the one that's misleading him so you have to be very careful when you're responding to people with questions but David Feinstein was such a genius such a is that many of the questions that he had he would literally answer it instantly taking all of the considerations of the toah into account and answering it in such a simple form that you would think it's just off the cuff but as soon as you gave him your prepared rebuttal he already gives you 500 rebuttals that you didn't even think about that prove his case and he tell shows you how your rebuttal you already thought of it's already part of his calculation but there were there were certain questions where he would say listen I can't answer you now I'll answer you tomorrow why this is a little bit more difficult it has more things that uh have to be considered that are not pure uh yes or no point being is don't be in a hurry to answer people uh just to show that you know things especially when it comes to tah many people do that it's a mistake uh that some of the would uh even um uh re Muke their students or children that would answer questions too quickly because it's saying that that you're playing with the Holy Tor like it's a like it's a ball a game no you can't answer questions that way you have to be very very careful uh and certain before you answer the next says that it person is forbidden to act in a smooth tonged and luring manner meaning don't be one of these Sweet Talkers don't be one of these uh appeasers these kiss UPS to people uh don't be a con man lying to people misleading them I had some people tell me yeah yeah listen anything I want such and such to do I can get them to do it that's not a good uh thing to tell people and that's not a good thing to do uh it's a uh you should know that the most important speaker in history uh is is mhu human history is mhu andu specifically made him uh have a speech and to make sure that we and all of the Heretics of the world would never say oh the only reason why follow because he was a good speaker you know Hashem specifically gave him a speech impediment to make sure that when people heard him they knew exactly that the words that he saying and he's not convincing anybody he's simply telling you what's the truth what God Said and that's it you decide for yourself so it's horrible that people are constantly trying to be salesmen uh and constantly trying to smooth talk their way into all types of things they already have a rebuttal for all types of things that uh uh you know that really uh they should just simply pay the piper they should just simply deal with the problem and stop uh trying to get themselves out of trouble just don't get in trouble in the first place now one of the main things that people get in trouble with is when it comes to stealing it comes to money when it comes to dishonesty in business and otherwise and that's what the rambam continues on where he says a person should not speak one thing outwardly and think otherwise in his heart rather his inner self should be like the self which he knows to the world which he shows to the world what he feels in his heart should be the same as the words on his lips this is the mid this is a real person that has the truth the trait of Truth where what he says is what he feels he doesn't say one thing and feel another but sometimes people take this in the wrong direction when say listen what so what if I curse out so what if I insulted him so what if I embarrassed her in public that's how I feel I say whatever is on my heart you know what I feel is you'll see it no no no that's not a good trait that means you're an animal that means you you should be put in a zoo I'm talking about people being honest in a uh in everything but not in their uh low opinions of society rather uh a uh honest in things that are more material and not just necessarily based on your opinion furthermore he says it's forbidden to deceive people even a non-jew for example one should not sell a gentile the meat of an animal which has not been ritually slaughtered as if it were ritually slaughtered meat so here is one of the biggest things that the Heretics the uh the missionaries uh and and many of the uh people that are anti toah one of the things that they don't know or they know and they don't tell you when they try and insist on insulting the T they keep saying oh yeah the Jewish people are allowed to take advantage of the go because they're terrible because they believe they're slaves because that's there's nothing further from the truth which is exactly what the r is saying we are forbidden to deceive people but he has a special emphasis even a non-jew meaning don't think for a moment that when we're talking about people we're just talking about Jewish people even a non-jew and furthermore he goes to the in other places in the where he talks about that actually being dishonest and deceiving a nonu is worse than actually deceiving a uh Jew uh in any aspect deceiving people in business you uh tell your partner that you're going to do XYZ and you know that you're not you're a liar you're going to get punished from hasem uh you tell your customer that you're going to do this this and that and you don't you're a liar you're going to get punished from Hashem you know you're on a way to an appointment you're at least an hour away and you know it but you tell the guy no no I'll be there in 5 minutes because you don't want them to run away you're a liar you'll get punished by hasem you tell your wife no no I just uh it was traffic it was traffic I I didn't uh and in reality you you were out with the guys going to one of these pubs and making all types of sins you're a Li and you get punished by hasem you are not allowed to lie you're not allowed to lie there are white lies for the sake of Peace but that's the vast majority of lies are not white lies but rather black and black as tar and that's the one thing that a person needs to know you have to run away from lies that's why the in the Tor says from a thing of Lies run away from stay away from not just don't do it stay away from it why because when it comes to lies Hashem says don't just not make the sin stay away from anything remotely close to it because it's the opposite of me he says it's the opposite of the signature of hem is em and when you lie you're antithetical to God himself you're the opposite of God himself so a person needs to to only allow truth to be in his life only truth to come out of his mouth only truth to be in his business even if that means that you're going to lose or looks like you're going to lose short term you have to tell the truth many times people lie to the government for unemployment benefits for medical benefits for all types of social benefits figuring yeah the government has a lot of money they waste it anyway let me just take advantage no you're a liar you're going to get punished you're not allowed to lie to anyone not allowed not allowed to lie simple it's it's it's it's a horrible thing and the ramban emphas gives several examples and then he says the following it is forbidden to utter a single word of deception or fraud again it's forbidden to utter a single word of deception or fraud if you know something to be false you're not even allowed to say it to your spouse to your partner to your uh children to to to to anyone not all to lie either don't say anything or say the truth but just so you know not saying anything is not always a good solution sometimes not saying anything is in essence implying the the falsehood so rather one should have only truthful speech the ram says a proper spirit and a heart pure from all deceit and trickery one should neither be constantly laughing and a gesture nor sad and depressed but happy as a SES uh declared justing and light-headedness accustomed one to loudness person likes to make fun of things jok stir all that stuff for sure he ends up wasting seed could become an adulterer could become all types of immorality crimes why it's not a good trait to be a jokester and make fun of everything there's a time to laugh a time to tell a joke and it's a time to be serious person that's constantly looking to be the standup Comm Medan that's it it's a reality why because he's not taking anything serious into account and uh until it's too late and a lot of people get hurt on the way so a person needs to stay away from that he should also not be greedy rushing for wealth and possessions nor lazy and an idol or from work laziness is one of the critical tools of the Satan in order to get a person to sin and greediness is one of the main tools Satan uses in order to destroy the Persona of the Jewish people in the public eye presenting them as greedy people uh even when they're not point being is being greedy constantly chasing money constantly making money and possessions as the priority in life even if that means you're going to step on your co-workers it's going to step on your company the company that gave you that built you that helped you you're going to go and compete against them you're going to go to the competitor no matter what business is business type of mentality kill will be killed mentality you are rash and hasem will punish you well I'm just ambitious no no ambitious does not require you to be greedy ambition and greed do not necessarily have to go together you could be ambitious without being greedy you could be simply good at what you do without telling the whole world that they're bad you could be good at what you do without lying about the competition you could even help the competition and still be successful point being is that a person needs to know in order to serve Hashem the right way a person has to eliminate these types of traits eliminate these types of traits rather he should be a good goodly eye and limit his business Endeavors so that he may occupy himself with Torah study he should be happy with the little which he has person has to be happy have a good eye when he sees other people succeed let him succeed don't be one of these people with a bad eye only wants yourself to succeed and everybody else to be poor you have to be happy when you see other people succeed even more so you have to limit your business to the point where you're giving yourself enough time to learn to if you don't learn to you're going to be R by default you're not going to be resurrected with the dead person who doesn't learn toat will not be resurrected with the dead and most likely not going to go anywhere near Heaven why because you can't be righteous without learning to so it's a whatever hasem decides to give you know that this is what you deserve you would have gotten it whether you were greedy or not the greedy guy doesn't get more because he's greedy he wouldn't have gotten it even if he was righteous in fact he probably would have gotten more if he was righteous he would have had blessing with the money but when a person's greedy he thinks that he is winning he's beating the man and therefore he has but in reality he doesn't realize he was supposed to get it already from sham Hashem was going to give it to him anyway with actual blessing but instead he's getting the same amount of money but less blessing which means that that million two million $5 million that he made instead of being spent on good things going to be spent on IRS on tax on medical bills on lawsuits on all types of problems a person should not be quarrelsome or of envious temperament full of desires not pursue honor as our sage just said Envy desire and honor remove a man from the life of this world this is one of the things that is a uh unfortunately a common thing people like to fight with people especially when they think they know more than somebody else even in the Torah world even even the B chuva world the conversion World a guy just learned about Tah just learned something in the tah and all of a sudden he wants to yell at everybody because he thinks nobody knows what they're talking about take it easy take it easy you just started learning six months ago a year ago you don't have to start rebuking the whole world you have to make sure that you know what you're doing and I promise you 6 months into it a year into it a few years into it you still don't know what you're doing still don't know what you're doing so you have to be very very careful with what you're doing you have to know how to do certain things don't spend any time envying other people any blessing that they have is theirs it's not yours his car is his car his house is his house her husband is her husband her his wife is his wife don't envy other people oh his company is his company it's not yours don't envy other people just pray to Hashem for you to have blessing as well but nonetheless don't ever Envy other people and don't seek honor don't do things just to get attention to ramb says why it's a terrible thing it's a terrible thing so terrible to the point that if a person is an envious person a Desiring person or a person that looks for Cav he simply will lose his why he will make so many sins so many sins that the ram even emphasizes it on the next uh chapter chapter three number one he'll make so many sins and he'll go on the wrong path for so long that he won't even realize he's in the wrong path until it's too late now the conclusion of all of this is the following all of this teaching seemed like it was simple not uh overly difficult not uh killing anyone so why does it why isn't every Shure this way why can't we just have every should just tell people do this don't do this and simple why do you have to talk about gome Gom Gom punishment why even during this sh we mentioned a few time you get punished why what's what is that because the very same rambam who taught countless people T who to this day people learn his T non-stop anyone that want to have a remote chance of being a kosher Jew that has that knows that knows what he's talking about has to learn R he taught us how to do K because he himself did K and he writes in he tells us exactly how to do kiru but not only how to do kiru how not to do he says the following in chapter 10 number five and six he says the following anyone who occupies himself with the Torah in order to receive reward or in order to protect himself from punishment is considered as one who is not occupied for the sake of God meaning if you're only doing the mitv you keep Shabbat you keep this you keep that just because you you don't want to go to gay you're not doing it for the sake of God you're doing it for yourself doesn't make you R but nonetheless you're not doing it at the highest level and then he continues and he says in contrast anyone who occupies himself with it not because of fear nor to receive a reward but rather because of his love for Hashem of the entire hem the the master of of of the world who commanded it that person is occupying himself for God's sake so you have the servitude of hem in essence divided into two one is in essence doesn't want to serve hem for uh for because he loves him but rather because he doesn't want to go to G the other one because he loves him of course you cannot get to love without fearing but nonetheless he says one is doing it not for the sake of hem he's doing it to save himself the other one is doing for the sake of hem so Al is not finished nevertheless nevertheless the ra says the sages said page 50b page 22b page 105a and many many other places the sages declared the r says a person should always occupy himself with the Torah even when it's not for God's sake for out of the service which is not intended for God's sake will come service that is intended for God's sake so the second part of this says that even if you're not serving hasem because you love him you just met him you just discovered Shabbat a week ago you just discovered what wasting seed is and how bad it is three minutes ago you don't even realize you should still serve hem because you're afraid of punishment why if you continue serving hem because you're afraid of him you will eventually serve hem because you love him and then he says the atomic bomb last part of this first part of the Al and he says therefore one who teaches children women and most of the common people again therefore one who teaches children women and most of the common people in so many words one who teaches Torah today one should teach them to serve God out of fear and in order to receive a reward what to serve God out of fear and in order to receive a reward yes that's what the rabam is saying and he continues as their knowledge grows and their wisdom increases this secret should be revealed to them slowly bit by bit and they should become accustomed to this concept gradually until they grasp it and know it and begin serving God out of of love you cannot teach people to love God on day one or even day 365 or even day five years you have to get people to that point how teaching them all of the basics of fearing God fearing God fearing God fearing God and by the way you do this you're gonna get good stuff too by the way why that's what the r from Moses Moses Moses meaning Moses meaning ra there was nobody like Moses the r is telling us clearly this is how you do kiru you have to teach people with fear why because that's where they are the general public the people that are not tell me the the people that are not you know the teachers El the people that are not the scholars themselves they need to learn how to fear God that's how they need to learn because if they fear God eventually they'll love him if they don't fear God they'll never love him you can never skip the step you can't go straight to to to to loving God as the ram just simply explained to us and then he says this for those who are a little bit stubborn we want more clarity next Al says this it's well known and a clear matter that the love of God will not become attached within a person's heart until he becomes obsessed with it at all times as is fitting leaving all things of the world except for this this was implied by the command in Deuteronomy 6:5 love God your Lord with all of your heart and all of your soul so a person can never get to a point of loving God until he's practically abandoned all materialism and everything else he cares less about nothing other than loving God now some of these uh uh lunatics think no no I love God on day one I love God on day one that's why the rest of the ramban goes to death where he says one can only love God as an outgrowth of the knowledge with which he knows him the nature of one's love depends on the nature of one's knowledge a small amount of knowledge arouses a lesser love a greater amount of knowledge arouses a Greater Love Therefore it's necessary for a person to seclude himself in order to understand and conceive wisdom and Concepts which make his creator known to him according to the potential which man possesses to understand and comprehend as we ac explained in so here the rambam clarifies further for those people that think they could skip the teachings of he's in so many words he's saying it's not possible to ever love God without knowing him it's not possible to know him and not fear Him not possible the only way a person will ever love AEM is if he has an immense amount of knowledge of who God is how do you know who God is you learn an enormous amount of toah the more toah you learn the more you'll fear God the more you'll fear God the more you'll end up loving him but to get to love right away is not the way of the it's not the way of the it's not the way of anyone other than people that are either Heretics or kups that want to please the public anyone that wants to learn how to do kiru has to look at what actually works what actually works and who's going to tell you what actually works better than the rambam you think you know better than the rambam your brother thinks he knows better than the rambam your sister thinks he knows better than the rambam your teacher thinks he knows better than the rambam you're all going to go to a special place one day but it's not going to be G eded why the ram knows a lot more than anybody else he knows more than the entire world we live in today combined why any will tell you that you just look at his work you look at what he wrote look what he said the ra is the foundation Foundation one of the foundational teachings of Judaism there's no such thing as ignoring the rambam's opinion no such thing point being the ra told us exactly yes you got to do yes you got to tell people to stop being angry stop doing this stop doing that stop stop stop stop stop but the foundation of all of that stop and all of that yes and all of that no has to be the teachings of a fear of God why without the fear of God there is no Judaism there is no Torah there is nothing there is nothing and that's why it is important to learn about on a regular basis to remind ourselves that yes we one day want to get to a point where we love Hashem but not because we just decided we love Hashem because we think that we understand what we're talking about but rather we love hem because we fear Him to such an extent that it's no longer just a punishment but rather the fear of hurting the relationship we are well aware of the punishment we are well versed of the punishment there's no question about the punishment but even more so we fall in love with hem because we've gone to a complete knowledge complete knowledge of what we need to fear and as a result of our learning T and fulfilling his MIT and now hasem has opened up our heart to start feeling feeling love for him but that takes many many years and may not happen to people in their entire lifetime as says he wished es that even the during his day couple hundred years ago served theem from from from fear of hem he says I wish would people would serve him why fear he says the love of God is not relevant to most people it's not relevant to most people most people are simply not going to get there ever even if they work on they won't get there ever why love of God is a very very high level at best case scenario a person could hope for a combination of love and fear of God no such thing as just loving God really for the overwhelming majority of people in the world today and even in previous generations like the generation of so a person that thinks he's only going to love God without talking about without talking about punishment is delusional he's not a scholar he's not Aid he's delusional he's what we call a a drunk and that's from the ram himself with that being said we've uh given you a little bit of food for thought let's take a drink and then take some questions okay let's see uh are Gentiles allowed to kill on my luck and if so what type I'm not really sure what you mean killing on ack uh but no no one's really allowed to kill uh so yeah it's one of the seven no hide Lodge now it's the murder so no oh to kill amalik uh if it's an act of War yes but if it's a just an individual uh that you think is AMC uh no it it will be violation of the law of the land so no but uh if it's a legal according to the government you live in then yes but uh I don't believe it's legal anywhere okay saah is asking how to give rebuke the right way and how to make sure to have more uh to give the rebuke the right way I have a couple of lectures about uh rebuke as part of the series of thean uh the series was a exceptional series I learned a lot from it and uh there's a couple of lectures in there that talk about rebuking and how to do it uh but in short first and foremost the whole purpose of rebuking is because you care about a person if you don't care about a person do not rebuke them because it's not a rebuke it's just criticism rebuke and its uh at its core is a show of love for a person uh and a care of a person and uh if you don't care about the person and you don't love the person and you're not afraid that this person is hurting themselves then don't rebuke them so first and foremost to know that you have to obviously know as far as more is self-sacrificed it's one of the only things that a person cannot be taught you cannot be taught I cannot tell you to do self-sacrifice is a choice is a choice uh among our own team uh we have talks about that of different projects that we have and different things and uh some of the conversations that I've had with rabim and and other important members of team hasem as I always tell them I cannot tell you to go and make a sacrifice you have to choose you have to choose I can't tell you to go make the sacrifice go do a job it's one thing but to go make a sacrifice which is above and beyond it's that's not something that you can teach and that's not even something that you you can tell people to do uh on a regular basis you could simply tell people that yes values so much so that the last chapter says the only way that a person will ever acquire T is by self-sacrifice by if a person wants to get to GED if a person wants to succeed if a person wants to be righteous they have to be uh uh uh used to uh making self-sacrifice on a regular basis but uh to teach it is not something that's possible simply because again everybody has their own uh uh uh choice to make you know that there's a sacrifice available to you you have to decide whether to make that sacrifice and how do you decide making that sacrifice you have to uh look at the the greater good that's that's above you is your desire greater than God uh than God's commandment and even if it's not necessarily an obligation is God's uh content with the unhappiness with the world and his people more important than your uh well-being in so many words so a person is uh that that makes a lot of self-sacrifice is a person that is slowly but surely becoming selfless they do not want anything for themselves uh as time goes on they want less and less of the material world and care more about others than they care about themselves uh so neish is again like I said it's a personal choice uh highly recommended but if you if somebody wants to become somebody in the eyes of God but again it's not like something that uh you can give a Shure to people about uh or even advice of how to do it because everybody has their own ways and opportunities of how to make it some people uh can make major self-sacrifice by being very generous with their money uh some people will be has to be very generous with their time or or other things but uh it's very important to know that the ultimate self-sacrifice uh that Hashem is uh desires is people that sacrific themselves for the sake of his people to help his people do chuat to help his people get closer and closer to that's whyu was chosen uh to be mosenu because he is the one that uh and only that was willing to to die for the sake of am uh and it's one of the things that hem desires more than anything else so much so that in the new SE the new SE by our dear y the from Jerusalem uh that our organization published recently uh uh the C we just publici publicized it on our website it's available on our website to download for free uh I also have some uh hard copies that are available for anyone that wants and is fluent in Hebrew obviously uh he writes he writes he brings uh this in his book where he says that if we look at history we see that am got punished several times throughout history uh but uh the zor Bak says that uh those who toil in Torah those who to in t that uh there is a uh even uh when when there is a disaster coming when is a decree in sh that's coming uh there is permission there's permission from Heaven to uh to attack the people hasem commands the Satan to avoid his household's children even if the entire city is destroyed but on the other hand says 6A it says that in a time of Destruction with his permission from hasem for the Destroyer for the Satan to destroy a city he doesn't decipher between a sadik and rash so how could the contradict the zor how could the zor contradict the meaning on one hand it says that when a time of disaster there is a uh there's permission for the Satan to kill the the righteous and the Wicked the Holocaust righteous and wicked there is a program righteous and Wicked on the other handar says no there's actually times where hasem says that even if you're going to destroy the entire city don't touch this righteous person don't touch him so brings source of one of the previous generation one of the survivors of the Holocaust um I'm sorry many much longer than that that's not the same one so brings he says a extraordinary he says that the Zar is referring to household children not just what's household children household children are people that are not only because they toil in but also because they're they do they help aem's children come back and therefore hasem considers them household children and not just children the are surely his children the nation is surely his children there's obviously some that he's closer to than others because they're more righteous versus The Wicked but there are some that are called household children that get special protection from Heaven even if the Destroyer is allowed to destroy they get a special protection and who is that it's those people that do kiru and those people that do kiru toil in Torah or support Torah with their money with their time with their efforts and skills bottom line is you want to be a household child and protected from the war of goou Magog that's coming you have to do kiru on a regular basis with your money or or your time or your efforts whatever it is if you have money you're a business person make sure that at least 10% of your money is going on a regular basis to its KY that's actually effective and I would say at least because I wouldn't uh I wouldn't uh be uh so certain of myself that saying 10% is enough because there's so much problems out there the more money you make the higher the percentage it should be and evenes may not be enough for some people so you can say wait but aren isn't it say don't donate more than 20% of your salary yes the do say don't donate more than 20% of your salary but that's for general purposes for homeless people for uh public needs and so on but it comes for the say you could donate 100% of your money 100% of your money you could donate obviously don't make yourself poor but nonetheless you're allowed to donate 100% of your money for kuir that's how important it is that's how a person is going to show their self sacrifice for something that's beyond them for the sake of the people for the sake of hm's children and therefore become a household child of not just the child which a child in itself is obviously great but if you could become a household child just simply by writing a few checks or you could become a household Child by simply giving a few speeches or household Child by uh sharing lectures on a regular basis and arranging events and making K making publicizing T real t a priority number one in your life to become a household child has never been easier and highly highly highly recommended uh zalo is asking uh uh Facebook has blocked me from being able to share the Shu uh okay so for anyone that's blocked by Facebook to share the Shure what you should do is something very simple take the uh uh browser link of the uh lecture itself you know wherever you're watching the lecture has a link take that link copy and paste it on your page therefore you're it's the same thing as sharing that's that's what you should do um let's see what another question question if one stole in the past and wants to do cha can you do can he just anonymously anonymously mail to the store of the money in an envelope without explaining that he stole from them no he cannot do it unless that store is owned by the same owner and he is the one that's going to receive the check so if you have let's say you stole from a deli and that Deli has the same uh same owner for the last 30 years as it is today he's the only owner he's the only one that takes the mail he's the only one that has you know uh uh the financial control of the company and yeah you can send a check anonymously without telling them what you did but in most cases that's not the case either the owners change or the owners have employees that could take the mail and take the money with it or there's multiple owners it's a major corporation it's a Walgreens it's a uh it's a Walmart it's a Macy's it's a very big company where if you send a check to the corporate headquarters that check may end up in one of the employees Pockets instead of the company pockets and your money has been stolen and you still did not do chuva so uh you have to uh be more direct and you have to give it to the owner but if giving it to the owner would put you at risk legal risk where you can go to jail or you can get into trouble of some kind uh then you do not need to put yourself at risk what you should do is donate the money towards a public cause that they could potentially benefit from uh if they are let's say uh in your community they live by you and there is let's say a community event that you know they attend then you could donate towards that if uh they uh uh uh they have any type of uh things that you know they're involved in but if you don't know what they're involved in you don't don't know well or anything like that the best thing uh that you should do is donate it to its kiru because kiru the whole world benefits from CU is something the whole world benefits from and uh make it a uh uh in in your mind make it a record of it that this the money is for their Merit their Merit uh you're donating the money and uh thereby you it's as if you return the money but again that's only if you cannot return the money to its owner either because you cannot find them anymore after you've exerted effort they've either died or they've left and you have no idea where they are or uh giving it to the owner would get you into uh trouble uh legally and so on so it's uh that way you could uh uh don't need to get yourself into trouble you could just simply donate the money to kiru I actually have a couple of tomim that uh have done that that have donated to kiru and uh because it was such a large debt in one particular case uh there was one guy that uh you know I guess stole uh a lot of money I think it was like maybe like $50,000 or something like that and uh you know his luck is not exactly uh he's not rich he doesn't have the money that he had back then he not only stole the money but he uh lost uh all the money after anyway so he has a sin and he doesn't have the blessing at all so he says what should I do I mean I can't can't give back $50,000 so what do I do I said give whatever you can you know whatever you make give uh give whatever you can and it's not part of your M because it's stolen money so you can't count it as part of your M so he gives I think he gives like like 100 bucks 150 bucks a month something like that cuz it's literally like a uh a large amount of money for him these days unfortunately so he gives whatever he gives a couple hundred bucks 100 bucks whatever it is uh on a regular basis but little by little uh he's uh wiping off more and more of the debt and I am certain that he's going to get more blessing and more panasa as a result of it I've had others that uh have done more I've had others that say no forget it I'm not going to do anything you know you have all types of people the more serious a person is about doing chuva the more spiritually healthy are the easier it is for them to do chuva for things that are difficult such as stolen money uh stolen money is a very very common thing uh that many people have on their hands and choose to ignore figuring they give enough takaka that's going to wipe it out your takaka is not going to wipe it out you have to specifically intend for the money to be returned for the sake of stolen money if it's not possible to return it to its owner itself but if it is possible to return it to the owner you have have to return it to the owner no matter what you have to return it to the owner you don't necessarily need to uh explain to them what you did and uh if you let's say for example you stole from a an old friend a classmate a teacher a uh business partner whatever a bunch of money and uh you want to R return the money but you don't want them to know it's you and so on and so forth you could just take you know the money in cash put it in a uh place that you know only they would get it uh and uh and uh leave it there leave it there that's it just right them a note this is a gift or something whatever you want to write and that's it but you have to obviously make sure that they get it because if they don't get it then you didn't do jat you didn't do cha so it's dangerous to to to do things anonymously sometimes it's better to uh get embarrassed uh as a result of it because that embarrassment is actually part of your chuva is part of your Chua so to getting embarrassed is is a part of admitting that you've done wrong is part of the Chua uh and uh it's I remember uh for you know years ago I uh when I first started doing Chu I realized some of these things and there was uh couple of people that uh I uh you know I I did uh something wrong too not I didn't steal from them or anything like that but you know we got into altercations and uh I shared my opinion about them they shared their opinion about me they tortured me I tortured them and so on and so forth but Torah told you know teaches us that we have to uh uh fix uh whatever we can fix so I I had a couple of people that I wrote them letters because there was no uh nothing else that needed to be done but I wrote them letters uh apologizing for my behavior and uh that's it you know a whole extensive thing I prayed for them uh and and so on so it's it's something that you need to do something that you need to do and yeah I'm sure that uh at least in two cases they took the letter they read it they laughed at me and uh probably ripped it up and threw in the garbage or framed it to make fun of me every single time they read it and to show it to their friends but it's not I don't care doesn't make a difference to me I did my share I apologized about something that I did wrong whether they like me or don't like me is not really necessarily my business uh but the point being is that each person needs to understand that getting embarrassed getting shamed is in essence part of Chua part of chuva uh for certain things so sometimes a person will prefer to remain a sinner Thief rather than getting embarrassed I actually had a person that came to me told me about a situation like this where she stole a bunch of money from some former employees that she had and she wanted to return it but she knows that if she tells her that she uh that she took the money it'll be embarrassing and our parents are going to find out and everybody's going to find out and this is going to find out and that's going to find out I said okay well you know say uh then uh just take the money and leave it in uh and a place that she's the only one she's going to get no but I'm scared she's not going to get it I said okay so just go give it what can I tell you no no but isn't there any other way can I just give it to you I said no you can't give it to me you know who the person is you have access to them you have to give it to them you cannot give it to me as much as I would like to accept your your your takaka to to help people do chuva I cannot accept it and make you think that you're doing chuva you're not doing chuva you know who the person is you have access to them you have to get yeah but I'll get embarrassed I said embarrassed no embarrass you have to go give it to them what can I tell you no no no I'm just going to do it what she do she ended up giving it to some other Rabbi okay give it to some other Rabbi pretend like you did chuva and reality arrive at sh you know getting burned for for a serious amount of time because you didn't do cha you know it's it's again it's it's important for people to know that just because you give money it's St it's not an automatic cha you have to do cha the right way and uh hopefully do CH and give money to people that are you know telling you the truth and not just you know uh quick to take your money quick to take your money people that quick to take your money are uh not usually very good at helping you do chuba uh next question let's see one says how come said in 32: 24 at the calf emerged making it sound like it emerged by himself can you explain the real meaning uh very good question it's actually one of my favorite questions to answer because it goes into the midash it goes into parts of the Tor that people like to make fun of but you'll see from this story that without this mid the verse does not make sense why because how could a calf a golden calf nonetheless emerge from the fire by self what is it walk what does have superpowers what does it have there answer is yes it does and that's what the midash says to us in commentary by the who brings the uh uh it's practically it's a it's a treasure chest of different mid and different commentary on the Tora by Shalom from about 300 years ago where he goes into in this he says that in that time of there was a decree from to destroy these even as babies so uh he allowed par to take these babies these Jewish babies and allowed par to kill them slaughter them to get their blood uh and bathe in it every day or to take these babies and put them in replacement of the stones uh because their parents did not uh meet a quota of uh of putting setting a certain amount of stones and when mosenu saw that these babies were getting crushed by the Stones uh alive he couldn't take it and he asked hem to save him and hasm says no you can't save them because they're evil their evil that's what they deserve butu in his human heart KES says at least let me save one at least let me save one so um hasem saids if you want to save one save one go ahead you have free choice you can save one so M who saved one of the babies and he named them mikah mikah after the word of Li to crush and this baby grew up and grew up and uh followed M mosu around now after the whole plagues and everything else uh mosenu wanted to fulfill the promise that the ancestors made which is to uh take the uh tomb of yadik who used to be the visoy of Egypt uh to take the tomb and bring it with them to is the problem was that uh uh no one knew where the tomb was except a person that was alive at the time because the Egyptians were hiding it so mosenu had to find somebody that was alive at the time and he found a woman that was named sah Sak Sak the daughter of Aer which was the niece of yadik and she was blessed by yobu to uh to live a long life she ended up being one of the woman that never died she went to ganeden with her clothes on and she lived for hundreds and hundreds of years beforehand and anyway was the only one that was alive at the time of yusik as well as at the time of mosenu and uh she told mosenu where the tomb of yusf sadik was she said it's hidden inside the Nile because the Egyptians in essence worship it and and are afraid to lose it because YF brought them a lot of blessing so mosu went to the Nile River and he uh took the uh a piece of metal on one side of it he uh inscribed the name of a 72 letter name of a and on the other side he wrote a verse describing the uh yadik which is uh bull so he wrote a verse saying Al rise bull rise so before he threw it into the water he said he spoke to the of he says I am here to deliver on the promise of my forefathers to take your bones and bury them in is but you have to take yourself out of the river or I'm leaving you here he threw the mate in he threw the piece of metal in with hashem's name engraved on it on one side and Al rise bull rise which was the symbol of yusf sadik and he threw it into the water and the tomb rose out of the water mhu took this tomb without realizing that this little Mika young boy jumped into the water because he was following him and hiding in the bushes jumped into the water and grabbed this mate and kept it for himself took this tomb with is we left Egypt we got to mount saai mosenu went up to mount saai and this week's par this week's par it says that is made a mistake what was the mistake is miscalculated the amount of time that uh mosenu is going to be in Mount saai by 6 hours by six hours they did not realize that M was going to be there they ended up falling for the Trap of the Satan long story short they uh as this week's and this is said in chapter 32 verse number one that the people saw that had delayed Andes don't Sayes delayed rather say beses which is spelled the same way which which means in six he's delayed by six hours so the people fell for the Trap Of Satan they had anxiety they had lack of patience which is a terrible trait and uh they ended up thinking that Moshe died when the Satan came and showed him a uh illusion that as if Moshe was being buried and they thought that they needed a middleman to communicate to God so they wanted to build a mishan they wanted to build a middleman they wanted to do something to to connect to God since they don't haveu anymore they weren't thinking that the golden calf was actually godom they simply want thought that they needed a middleman to connect to God so they came to who to her in English and told him Builder something her said no they killed him then they went to aronen aronen his brother-in-law and the brother ofu told build us something and Aon knew that they were wrong about the calculation with the six hours he knew that is eventually going to come back but he also knew that they were so fanatic at that time being misled by the am by the uh false teachers of the time that uh if he doesn't do something they're going to kill him too and if they kill a Coen in a Nai and the same day then there's not going to be no Chua for them so instead of allowing them to self-destruct permanently he said okay okay fine no just give me all your gold he figured it's going to be hard for people to give the gold but to his surprise the was very strong and each person started literally taking the earrings off of the ears and bracelets and everything they took everything and they started giving them all the men the women didn't give so they gave him all the stuff but he figured okay anyway to to burn all of this melted and build into something it's going to take days not just hours days it's going to take just to melt it takes a few hours it's not like today when you go to 47th Street and every uh office uh practically has their own uh gold uh machine to to melt gold in a matter of uh minutes no those days you have to use real fire which takes time to build up to make it that fiery to to melt gold but to his surprise after he threw all of the gold into the fire back comes that rotten child named mikah and mik did not have gold but he had the m the m ofu that piece of metal that mosenu inscribed hashem's holy name on it and he threw it into the fire the same fire that had the gold of the nation and what did the M say again it said on one side it said aem's name on the other side it said Al Al rise bull rise and what emerged from the fire a bull as soon as the mate hit the gold the mate gave the gold life it gave life the name of a gave the gold life and the gold in essence came together as you see from the latter verses when Aon talks to Moshe Moshe is rebuking him why did you do it why do you hate the people he says no no the whole thing emerged by itself how did it emerge by itself and he tells him the whole story of how he you know this mate was in there and in essence the gold was just in there burning and suddenly a uh the gold formed into a combined melted and uh uh formed into a bull and that bull spoke saying I am God that took you out of Egypt that's what the bull said when it came out of the gold hence the reason why the people thought it was God people started worshiping it initially they intended for it to be a middleman for hem uh which that's part of the reason of why 13 principles of faith we do not have middlemen like the Christians and the uh uh the uh the other religions but aside from that that bull in essence was a Satan was Act of a Satan where it literally spoke because it had a Holiness uh affected uh so that's that's an Essence why it says that rise bull rise but no one uh should ever get confused to think that the generation of knowledge wanted to worship a different God even for a second none of them wanted to worship a different God they misled by the false teachers misled by the they were misled like people are being misled today and they made a mistake as a result of it and one thing led to another domino effect because they thought like the uh messianics teach you they thought you need a middleman they thought you need help to connect to hem they thought like some uh fake tell you that you need uh the their rebi or uh they teaching specifically as the only way to connect to God or some tells you that you need special water to connect to God none of that stuff is true you only need the Torah to connect to you want to connect to you need Torah without Torah you're not connecting to why Torah tells you who is what he wants from you and so on but even if a person never learned T in their entire life they can still have a concept of who but to serve a you need the Torah that's it there's no middle man there's no middle man it's just a teachings from hasem himself the more you learn T the more you start seeing the world from hashem's perspective and realizing what your ultimate purpose is and what the ultimate good that Hashem wants for you and the world is the more you learn Torah the more you see the world from hashem's perspective but when you have anxiety lead your life when you had uh anxiety being taught by when you have a all types of false teachings being taught by the amalik uh people of today whether they're Jew or Gentile then what ends up happening we end up worshiping Idols we end up worshiping uh uh rabbis we end up worshiping Idols we end up worshiping money we end up worshiping everything but God everything but God so it's important to know that story is a uh extraordinary story of uh of one domino effect leading to the other where you have is meaning well but ending up bad because they did not follow what the said had they followed What the said which is to uh listen to what her said and listen to what M who said listen to what said listen to the they would have never sinned with the golden calf because they were listening to the they ended up serving an idol and until this day we are suffering because of this emerged golden calf that unfortunately is still around till this day so question thank you for asking it it's one of my favorite questions thank you Joseph what happened to geden after the sin of Adam and Eve was it transported to the spiritual world did it stay on Earth is the gun Eden Adam and Eve were in uh where theim go after they pass very good question the uh rash says that there are two gedin and there's two Gom says the same thing also the uh um there's a physical geden or Heaven in English and there's a spiritual Heaven there's a physical um Gom hell and there's a spiritual Gom uh the physical ones are in this world on planet Earth not in Mars not in Pluto but they're on planet Earth the spiritual ones are in the upper worlds now the uh physical ones are limited in size and also in time they're material So eventually they'll be destroyed and the Eternal one will be the permanent one uh but nonetheless the physical one does exist it is the very same one that were in and thear says that they uh there was a person that found it found ganeden it's obviously hidden in the world in plain sight but nonetheless hidden and there are special angels as theph says the uh the Turning sword is one of the S the angels that guards the Gate of ganeden so no one's allowed to enter but there was a man that uh got to it and found it found got to the gate and wanted to uh get in and obviously was rejected and uh when he asked can I at least have some type of memorabilia that I saw this the angel found itth appropriate to give the person a eye an eye an eye of a human an eye of something in a box he said here you go now you can tell people you saw it and that's what he had he's had to leave then or else get killed but nonetheless there was a person that got to ganeden the angels do not have any concept of mercy and maybe their humor is a little bit off according to us but that's what the story says and I believe there's some other stories of different people that saw the physical geden uh there's also a story of uh Yeshua lehua Le the says the the Satan showed him geden and he jumped into it and uh swore that he would never leave and uh Hashem heard the complaints of the Satan saying he doesn't want to leave he swore soem says let's look at every single word that he ever said during his life if he ever lied one time then we have to break a swear after checking all of the words that rhua LE ever said it was confirmed that he never sent said a single word of lie a single deception a single word of dishonesty and because of that his mouth was kados was holy and could his words could not be broken and he was allowed to stay in ganeden and remain in ganeden and be one of the 10 people that entered ganeden alive uh so that's another part of thear another places and I'm sure there are many other places but the point is is that that is a physical geden uh there's also physical Gom which the says there are three entrances to Gom one in the ocean one in Yus and one in the desert the one in the desert is where kak and his followers are and there are several stories uh even from recent Generations uh that the and other talk about in their saying that uh they knew people or themselves were uh brought to a place where uh they heard the screams they heard the screams of korak and his followers in the desert there are some Arabs that uh know the place well and they show people where it is don't ask me where it is I'm not a tour guide but nonetheless the place does exist and the people that went there one that went there specifically he wrote about it in his SE and uh he says that as you get closer and closer to the place uh the the ground gets so hot to the and the place gets so hot that it's simply uh un uh unbearable unbearable but you hear the screams you hear clearly you hear the words AEM is AIT mosu is AIT which is what K and his followers are screaming till this day and all of the people that go to that GOM are screaming constantly while they're getting punished uh but the point being is that there is a physical place for Gom and says there are three entrances to it as I said the sea meaning the ocean the uh uh which thear says one of theik Saw uh there's also the desert and also in yush also in I believe there is another that said that he knew where the place was in but did not disclose it to others for fear of of for their own well-being but nonetheless that is a physical G there is a physical gum but of course there is a spiritual one uh that also exists much bigger the says the spiritual Gom has no size the physical ganeden is 60 times the size of Earth 60 times the size of Earth but the uh spiritual Gom has no size why does it not have size because more and more people go there than people that go to to G and thereby continues to grow uh so uh it's a uh it's a place unfortunately that many people go to May Hashem have mercy on us and allow us to learn his truth to the point where we fall in love with him and do Chua and never enter and never have any of our students followers and supporters enter it even for a moment amen Charlie how do sick people in and out of Hospital know what is expected of them obligations as far as daily prayer Shabbat holidays are there any books regarding Al for the elderly is sick or some exempt uh yes uh in short surely there are books uh about this issue people that are suffering and so on in so many words anything that you can do even if it's difficult for you you are judged for it anything that's beyond your reach you're not judged for it so for example if somebody has a uh uh person that they know has a uh simply is an incapable person is autistic to the point of not even being able to comprehend and communicate that person is not being judged at all in fact it's say that that person is likely a very righteous soul that is doing its last tikun before going to heaven permanently uh but that person is not being judged for Shabbat or anything else because they're completely incapable on other hand there are certain people that are autistic sants uh where they're very capable in certain aspects and are incapable in others they will be judged based on the things they are capable of doing and comprehending and they will not be judged on things that they cannot comprehend so if a person knows the difference between right and wrong they will be judged based on that person does not know the difference between right and wrong they will not be judged so of course Hashem is merciful but at the same token he doesn't just let things go just because something is hard for you or something's hard for somebody else if a person person is a uh uh let's say for example is very very poor Hashem is not going to judge him for not being generous with his Stak obviously because you didn't bless him with money but he will still judge him for observing Shabbat or honoring Shabbat and even having on Shabbat why because he can still do all of those things without being rich uh person that is not exactly the most intelligent person on planet Earth and in fact is quite stupid his IQ is very very low Hashem is not going to judge him uh why he wasn't the the the one that wrote all the for the year 5781 he won't judge him for that but rather he will judge him of why he didn't study tah anyway why it doesn't matter that whether you understand it or you don't understand it whether you're the biggest or you're not the biggest either way you have time and you can study Tor so you know the difference between right and wrong but instead of studying to you chose to play video games chose to play video games you get punished for it chose to study T even if you didn't understand but nonetheless you fulfilled aem's will by studying T you will get rewarded for it the same way that the gets rewarded for studying his tah the capabilities of a person is decided by AEM the actions of a person are decided by the man so everything that a person can do they need to do whether it's Shabbat or it's holidays or it's uh anything else if they can't do it simply impossible for them to it then they won't be judged for it uh you know but if a person is uh only going to be able to observe mitv through struggle they need to know that Hashem wants them to do the mitv and he wants them to do it through the struggle uh one book I would recommend for people to everybody to read one of my very dear students G gifted it to me uh many years ago and it's one of the best gifts I ever got it's a book called to remain a Jew to remain a Jew by zil shalom it was a giant giant giant Tes I wish I could just simply kiss his feet just one time uh amazing amazing he read his life story and the the the the personal Holocaust he was going through uh fighting against the uhia of of of Russians that were killing Jews for being religious going to uh the uh the the the jails over there the Siberia where you pretty much if you entered you're not coming out surviving it and doing doing every single he would make candles inside he would sacrifice his life for every single Mitzvah what does that show us it shows us that struggle is not an excuse for not doing if hasem put you in a situation where you can do the Mitzvah but it's only through struggle it simply means that that's your tun AEM wants the Mitzvah expects the mitvah and wants it this way and that's not easy but still an obligation but if somebody is incapable of doing it uh because of either physical or financial uh uh ability then obviously that's they're not judge for they're not what they can't do but every one of us deep inside knows what we can and what we can't do the book name is like I said to remain a Jew very very good book Le were Tamar and Y punished for the first time they were together even though Tamar saw through prophecy that she had to be with him to bring the mhia and hasem orchestrated it that way so the Satan wouldn't intervene coming to the mashiah at the end of the was with a man that wasn't a husband by seducing him and you was with a woman he thought was a prostitute uh so no the uh the the the relationship between was not only orchestrated by a but was actually allowed it was permissible it was embarrassing but nonetheless it was allowed why was it allowed first and foremost yah was considered a king and a king is allowed to have 18 wives and also to have mid servants uh pish and and things of that nature so he was per per perfectly allowed to uh to be with uh with uh with her uh and she was uh commanded to be with him because she knew he was the king uh so there was no uh nothing nothing wrong with it it was KES kashim uh even though it looked like it wasn't which is every single story that has to do with the Messiah is a odd story that looks uh impure but when you look inside it you see it it's KES it's pure as pure just like for example their grandson great great grandson descendant of David uh you know his relationship with um with B looked like it was not Kosher but thear says anyone that says thatav sinned is wrong DAV did not sin and anyone's going to bring the verse in whatav says oh yeah I sinned and so on that's only because that uh David was being judged on his level but it wasn't a sin from the Tor he was allowed to be with Beva she was permissible she was not married because it was the custom of the day to give the wives a get a retroactive get when you go to war uh and therefore Beva was a uh uh a single woman and Dav was a king that was allowed to have more than one wife point being is that he didn't sin although it looked like it sinned and he suffered for it a lot he lost a child he was insulted for it multiple times by the heads of the S were insulting him because they were even though they had big positions point being is that a uh the acts with when it comes to mashiah hasem makes it look unusual in order to fight the ramban and for to fight the uh the Satan Satan that's what happens when you read while you talk uh next question the rambam says that evil spirits don't exist anymore but I also remember learning that there is more to this statement than just a simple meaning what is the meaning behind this so the rambam is referring to specific evil spirits and not all evil spirits and he's also specifically talking about spirits uh these specific Spirits in is not in the entire world this is a mistake that people think that the r doesn't believe in shedim he doesn't believe in uh angels and so on and so forth uh this is completely misconstrued by people uh and incorrect ramb obviously quotes thear countless times andar has many many places where it talks about demons and spirits and so on and the only time that the uh Ramba mentions this specific issue of not believing is that he's specifically talking about a specific type of demon and also in and if you can look into has a whole section about demons and so on and it talks about how there are three different types of demons this way and there's another several types of demons that way some demons are completely Spirit some of them are half man half Spirit some of them are uh actually human beings uh in in the demons but in the image of human beings where they eat and sleep and even procreate uh point being is there are different types of uh Spirits there are evil spirits there's mazikin there's Angels there is whole world civilization of all types of spirits there's a specific one that the rambam was referring to and not everything like some stupid people think uh and I called them stupid because usually those people that think the rambam was against mysticism and didn't believe that uh uh this existed usually are uh people that are anti- mysticism and anti pretty much Torah uh in the name of the Torah or their own version of the Torah so they publicize it and they write articles about it but it's complete foolishness uh and and misunderstanding of the basics of tah or the teachings of the rambam shalom uh we're almost done we're a little bit over let's see oh glad you liked it Jack that's a uh I think you were the one that asked me about uh the the rum today I'm mistaken uh Moshe uh if a family has just enough money to pay for their basic necessities each month and they have a marriage coming up in a few months how should they go about dealing with their financial situation take a loan ask for charity or sponsor uh tell the other family who is already paying for more than half of the wedding their financial situation so that they uh can maybe help out more or try to find a sponsor which would bring a lot of Shame on the groom and his family uh so the uh I says it's best for a person to uh ask for a loan than to ask for a charity uh so it's better for them to take a loan and uh pay for the wedding and then pay for the loan over a period of time uh rather than asking for uh charity I know that there's uh countless campaigns on the internet of people asking for money for weddings um I mean and countless people do raise money on the internet for for weddings and other things uh but like you said If a person uh is going to be embarrassed by it then doing that to them is a uh is a sin it's not a Mitzvah you know you uh they put the groom or the bride a picture or a video of them begging people for money and pretty much for uh a long time everybody that uh sees that video is going to look at them as uh as lesser and so on it's not a good uh thing I mean it's uh it's it's definitely not something that everybody can deal with uh and dealing with Charity in general is very very difficult I mean it's extremely humbling to deal with Charity so it's not for everybody to collect charity even if it's for other people even if it's for other people uh I can tell you personally my own test I mean it's a uh just being in the world of uh of of kiru and living on a miracle practically every single month and uh collecting uh you know running the organization of collecting St from people uh it's not a was never an easy thing it's still not an easy thing because you know it's a coming from where I came from being in a business world making uh uh millions and millions of dollars and now having to uh respond to people where tell oh listen can you uh do me a favor can you change my uh my monthly contribution to bem from $18 a month to $20 a month and you actually have to like take that seriously and go do it that took a lot of uh humility and a lot of uh you know destroying my ego to get to that point it wasn't an easy thing you know it's usually what I would tell people $18 how about this I'll give you $18 and you just leave me alone you know so that that was that was where I came from I wasn't used to collecting I was the guy giving changed things uh and we uh we were more charitable today than ever before and we are part of our organization is to help a lot of people uh that are seriously needy and so on uh and I don't uh I don't have anything missing B for my life provides and even if it's a uh in you know people have uh a lot to say about what they want to say does what he does and we have a life full of blessings but those blessings didn't come with uh so easily there was a lot of uh you know crushing of the ego destroying of the ego and which is uh in the process on a regular basis that needs to happen for a person not everybody's ready for it especially young people that are you know probably 18 19 20 22 years old getting married or 25 years old not all of them are ready to get their egoo crushed on uh collecting money for their wedding so having a campaign publicizing their face uh saying that collecting money for takaka is not for everybody uh especially if the family is uh uh well presented in uh really a fictitious way nonetheless but nonetheless well presented in the community as if they have money and now the world finds out they don't have any money this could also create a very big problem uh where the other family uh will uh get gunshot and not want to uh have the uh their son or daughter marry uh your family member because they figured that you have money they uh you don't have any money they have money maybe you get something else and that's unfortunately how things are so rather than put the marriage at risk and the reputation at risk and embarrassment and so on I would recommend taking a loan and let hem bless you that you'll pay for it over time that's what I recommend if uh if a person uh uh you know wants to do something else then you know they can do whatever they want but if you ask my opinion that's what it is how do you stay away from a mean I'm surrounded by them I wish I could help them but from my understanding I'm not allowed to there's a lot in my neighborhood the best way to uh stay away from meim people that mislead people like Christian missionaries uh and uh teach things that are against the tah the best way to do it is like the rambam says you have to move you have to move to a place that does not have them and if you cannot find a place that does not have them move to the desert what does it mean move to the desert you could either literally move to the desert or you could simply just not leave your house and never associate with any of those people you uh wake up in the morning you go to work you do your work you go back home if you could work out of the house it's even better uh order groceries instead of go to the supermarket literally become a little bit of a Hermit just not to associate with those people I don't think it's necessary to get to that extent I think people can uh uh occupy themselves and stay away from people without going to extremes but nonetheless there is no permission to associate with people that are missionaries uh which we also call as meim people that are anti T and and not out of ignorance but rather out of knowledge uh but if people are uh you know secular and anti- tah because of ignorance they don't know anything uh then the best thing to do is to share Torah with them indirectly indirectly meaning instead of you talking you let us talk by giving them one of our C DS or giving them one of our USBS or giving them one of our lectures which actually reminds me uh starting tonight there is a new special on the website for anyone that cares about and wants to do kiru but is not uh succeeding or is not able to give people CDs so we told you we already have two USBS we have two USBS we have a USB that has the tuna breit uh series of lectures about uh almost 80 lectures or so as well as a bunch of movies including my my my life story and so on so you have uh you know dozens of hours of to I think it's something 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or you can give somebody a gift that's going to give him forever because it's uh it's something physical tangible and you can buy the uh uh USBS and starting tonight it's going to be if you buy two we're going to give you two for free so in essence we're 50/50 Partners if you buy one you're not getting one free but if you buy two you get two free why because if you buy two that means you want to do kiru if you want to do kiru I want to do kiru and we do K together so you buy two you get two free and uh you can do it so where you can buy let's say for example two uh um um you could buy two two you can do whatever mix and match you want bottom line is you buy two you get two free and uh this is our investment into your K our partnership into your K so when if you want to help people my recommendation is to give them those USBS or the CDs uh and uh and give them a opportunity to see the truth from a different vessel that's not you if you directly go and you're the one that tries to help people many many times they will reject it because they will feel like you're criticizing them but if you're giving them a teachings where somebody else is teaching the public many times people accept it in a very positive way in a way where they say wow thank you for caring about me last question for the night I have a friend who tells other kids with uh who tells other kids with wasting seed issues that they should not do it on Sunday Monday Wednesday Friday and Shabbat for example but the that the other way the other days Tuesday and Thursday they do it he says otherwise they are very addicted and he's seen this help them very much to diminish their desire he is the kind of person who will be receptive to M but only if I have specific sources to prove it what he's doing is wrong please give me multiple sources uh to prove him that this is not uh the proper thing to do to tell people that there is a um uh there is a permission to make a sin is wrong is wrong you're not allowed to tell people that they're allowed to waste seed once a week or even once a month to do that is wrong it is against the 13 principles of Faith where it says the toah will never change no matter the generation same T got the same that we have today to say that you're allowed to waste seed which calls the biggest sin in the the says that there's no CH for it meaning that does not help you do CH for it to call to say to people it's allowed to do it once in a while even once a week once a month once a year is 100% against the tah uh and if he does it in public with people it's also which the says that uh his suffering that he will get for will only begin after he dies unless he does chat which suffering will be in this world but nonetheless it's a very big problem but if he tells people don't weigh seed don't weigh seed if you're going to weigh seed anyway weigh seed less don't weigh seed you know that the guy is addicted don't waste seed it's at least if you're gonna you do it what you do it every day okay try to uh not do it a few times a week try not do it a few times a week and uh go down little by little that is not a uh uh uh something that you necessarily teach the public to do do less do less do less but it does have a source of t where it talks about a uh the different sins and if he does this and or that sin in essence the whole point of the teaching in there where is talking about how it is still beneficial to have people sin less even if they're going to sin anyway but at least they'll sin less because Hashem will punish them for each individual sin so there is a benefit in teaching them not to sin uh or at least to sin less but doesn't mean that it absolves them from the sin they're still going to get punished they're still going to go to Gom and he has to tell them that there is no permission for you to do it if you do it even one time a year you will go to G and you will get punished unless you do true up for it but to stop 100% cold turkey is very very difficult for most people so the you know so if if you can if you don't have the strength to do it the spiritual and physical strength to do it at least start by cutting down cutting down do less and less and less and less and L less learn more and more and more T learn especially about this specific topic and over time you will eventually stop cold turkey 100% but to tell people that they're allowed to sin even one time is a countless countless list of sins it's it's disagreeing it's what are many sins never allowed tell them they're allowed to do it but to say to sin less that's not necessarily A Bad Thing and in fact for that specific sin in most cases is the only way to get people to stop most people can't handle stopping right way I have more experience in this field than probably most people in the world uh that are public speakers in English for sure uh and I deal with countless countless people and I could tell you I deal with yes shead breast secular people ashkanazi Safari yemenite anything you want from all over the world all four corners of the world from Australia from America from Israel from uh uh Bangladesh from Canada people from all over the world contact me about my sh about t regular basis I have messages from people Mas thanking me and praising me all types of Praises that are only deserved to Hashem but the point being I just had to recorded just the other day that uh yes B telling me how I'm saving his entire community of all the b in his in his Yesa all the b in yes being saved by the right after I got a big huge Rabbi from uh one of the most religious places in America telling me that he thinks I'm the mashiah joking but he says you're the mhia you're you're a mashiah I said why say you're saving entire shot with your teachings anyone that listens to it stops he says the problem is not not enough people are listen to it because not enough know about it we need to do more more and more so it's reality is it's not just them teaching it sometimes these kids these men these people contact me personally for specific advice uh and uh I give it to them and guide them and many times uh they are people that are very well-versed in the tah in other places but simply uh did not know enough about the magnitude of the sin and became addicted to it by the time they found out it is terrible and to get out of this addiction is not so easy just like drugs and just like any other addiction it's not uh possible POS always for everyone uh to uh to have the strength to uh eliminate it right away so it needs to be in stages now you never tell them that it's allowed to do it even a single time you're never allowed to tell people it's allowed to do it a single time but you know that their reality is that for them at this stage they could only go down in stages you know if they were doing it every single day cut it to uh once a week cut it to twice a week cut it as as much as possible you got to push them you got to push them sometimes to do it less less less and less and keep telling them the truth that they have to uh get out of this and I have a few kids that uh have a um uh fall back into it and they say oh listen you know I still keep Shabbat I still do other things it's not so bad right I no no it's not so bad if you don't mind being in Gom for eternity oh Rabbi why you so extreme it's not extreme it's not extreme I give you the sources you can read the books yourself ah no I know the Books Okay so what do you want for my life I I told you the books I told you the places what do you want so I thought that maybe you'll be uh you'll what do you want me give you a Pat in the back because you wasted seed because you desecrated hm's name with your with your breit you're ruining your n what what do you want me to do you it's not allowed okay but I fell I said okay you fell fell it's fine fell fell I understand fell everybody falls at some point with something but to to make it okay that's a problem it's never okay never okay we pick up ourselves we get up we do it and then so in essence again to tell people tell people that that they uh to do to to do chuva in stages is necessary necessary and even recommended for some sins specifically when it comes to G like like wasting seed that's a the rambam even writes that it's the most difficult thing to do chuva for because it's both a physical and a spiritual uh ilet uh and and an addiction but the point being is so to tell people to to do chuva you have to to to to certain reality that some people have to do chuva in stages reality it's a reality not everybody some people could do it cold turkey I have several students that did it cold turkey and B they're successful and doing a lot of things and usually those are the biggest Miracles usually those are the people that succeed the most but nonetheless a uh I have some people like that and they succeed in a very big way but the point being is is that it's not easy for them it's not easy for them it's a big M it's a big sacrifice but they do it and hasm blesses those people in a very very big way same thing with ladies that uh immediately literally overnight throw out all burn all of her IM modest clothes and uh change the her entire wardrobe become modest overnight become a tadika overnight those people usually get the biggest amount of blessings and kadus in their life and miracles and so on I've seen it time and time again so to tell them that they have to do Chua you have to they tell them that there's a reality they may have to do certain things certain parts of CHA in stages is a reality but to tell them that they're allowed to sin is 100% forbidden in all cases never allowed to tell anybody that they're allowed to sin never allowed to tell anybody they're allowed to sin so if he's telling people that they're allowed to sin he is making a mistake of all mistakes but if he's telling them that they just simply need to do chuva in by diminishing their Desire by going in steps then he's doing what the talks about and other do and I myself do tell people to get out of it because it's a reality simply a reality uh you can't uh you can't expect people to uh change their life in one second uh it's uh in certain aspects because they have they have certain addictions desires and so on okay I'm a little bit tired and I think that we've covered a lot of ground today the questions today were absolutely spectacular I appreciate them I enjoy this sh quite a bit uh hopefully you enjoy the sh and learned from the sh as much as I did uh again reminder anyone that wants to uh buy the uh USBS on the website uh starting now it's two for two uh two uh four for the price of two you buy two you get two free uh that's our investment to your community uh remember we have a uh campaign for the Yeshiva for the tuna movie uh the tunit movie will be posted within the next couple of weeks if everything continues to go as it's going uh so uh anyone that wants to invest in it now to help us Market it to help us do uh the biggest Kem in in the history of of of of movies of of Torah movies uh once to be part of it this is where to invest your money uh if uh it's it's anyone that understands this project literally uh would would sell a lung for it that's what I'm try trying to tell you it's there's nothing else that's more valuable than this thing it's a uh it's a very very big movie it'll have a huge impact BM and uh those investors those investors are uh are smart those investors are smart especially the ones that are sacrificing a lot to make those Investments uh you know more substantial than they would normally uh again I don't want to missell it everyone has to have to have their own uh their own judgment their own uh uh calculations but um if if anyone was uh knew how significant it was and how much uh good was going to come out of the movie of my personal life how much would you have invested in it if I told you that that movie cost us about $150,000 just to get it out to the market would you've invested $150,000 after knowing that you have tens and tens of thousands of B cha from it for one B Chua you should invest $100 million one not not 10,000 for one if I told you it cost $150,000 for that movie $150,000 for that movie and you have tens of thousands of Torah and science only knows how many B it has countless countless B it's still getting to this day it's even on our channel it's in his channel and people are still watching it we're giving us CDs out till this day people are literally getting CD players just to watch that movie how many has made from that movie Torah and science if if somebody would told you you could invest $1 $200,000 into that movie to get literally an endless amount of bich from it would you do it you you literally sell your house for it why because this movie and I'm not saying this for business I'm not taking a penny out of this this movie is bigger than all of them why it's today it's today it's the ton of the generation it's the uh what shim told us is what's going to be the T of the generation and it's anyone with eyes and ears knows it is the tun of the generation it's t and it's the same uh an even better production than the movie of my personal life than any other movie out there it's something out of this world people that invest into this movie are literally buying themselves and I'm not talking about you just throw a few hundred bucks at it when you have a few hundred thousand in the stock market people that are generous with it are going to literally buy themselves in a very big way even if you put up a few $100 into it you're still getting a big mitvah but everybody has to realize this is an opportunity of a lifetime that I don't think is going to be available uh again at least not anytime soon not the same opportunity if ever simply because it's the first movie of its kind it's something that I believe is uh from my experience making over 150 movies by now uh and seeing countless 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