Kinus HaShluchim: Intimacy among Chasidim 1985, Inclusion not exclusion & Layman are Shluchim- RCD

a good night of Shabas. It's the head of Shabasim that Reb's army is here for Shabas over 6,000 who've come from all over the world for this Shabasim. So I reflect back to my first kinashim which was 1985 and um it was uh a very powerful one and I want to just make uh just a few nodis one point is I remember Thursday night first of all first of all there were only about 70 80 of us that's it That's my recollection. So it was more of an intimate group. Mostly [clears throat] were from the United States if not all. I don't I don't recall. I think maybe the world not just United States. I don't know. I don't remember if it started then or after. Anyway, the point is that um I remember the rebad shad from California in the west coast poer posner of the yeshiva and in Pittsburgh and futafas they led a Thursday night faban and this um I think it was I think it was at uh not 770 the 781 the next build the building over that attaches to 770 upstairs. So it was was more on the small side of and more intimate and that stands out. In other words, the point today we have over 6,000. It's like beyond, right? [snorts] And this is galdic. We have to never lose sight of the fact that the whole idea of the is to be together to find an intimate time of of conversation of upbringing of pouring a heart out one to the other etc. So that's one point. The other thing is that the Reb the started with the Reb officially on Shabas Shabas. That's why it was Shabas because the Reb was hit or miss either or he did it. In my days in the uh the 70s and into the 80s it was pretty much twice a month and it wasn't every single Shabas. So but Shabas was every Shabas. So this was this was [clears throat] we already had and test and then so it was a month of all light illumination and the Reb spoke I remember one time it could be was in tough that year 1985 about the the the three the three categories of this is based on a on a teaching in in Kazal and the gum but more importantly more importantly but more elaborately force of angel abuse of angel was a uh a go I think he was a and um he explains what is the the gh what is the condition of a for a male is the sender and the is the emissary the one who's being sent is the only like the long hand of the sender is the more than the hand of the sender but he he has his he's lost in a sense his individuality to the sender or does he have both virtues. On one hand, he has individuality and the other hand he's totally subservient to the sender. And the conclusion, my recollection is that the the the power of the is that the mash, the sender, the ultimate emissary is that he represents and is the sender. Even though it's two different bodies, two different people, but in spirit he becomes totally transformed by the sander. And in thinking about this, I think there's an very important lesson for us and for the and theim and all the guests and the lay people that are here. The mishak is here not to exclude the but to include the there are times when things get difficult between a mash and ach. There are times when people don't see eye to eye. There are times when positions need to be changed. It's all good. It's all fine. And that is the responsibility of the sender the mashak to delegate and place the in their right position and their in the right but not to throw him out and exclude him and you know and this is something that we need to emphasize again and again otherwise there's a breakdown between and if there's no there's no male if there's no mal there's No. So how do the two how do the two co coexist? The answer is that the sub there is subservience complete subservience from the to the and at the same time there's a subservience from the male TO THE BECAUSE HASHEM WANTS IT to be that way. How and how is that? By inclusion not exclusion. Finding the right position. And I had discussions along these lines with Rabiel and he said that this this was the right the right attitude. The right attitude is not the male can do whatever he wants. That's it's it's a that's a a terrible mistake that the Michelle has the merit to implement what GOD WANTS OF HIM WHICH IS INCLUSION. How to include you f it's up to you Michelle. out of include but unless someone is a detriment to the overall mission to the to the point where it causes a desecration of God's name a desecration of whatever and even there theb said in you go to you go to rabbis you go to azdon everyone in their community should have azdon and theb didn't say ex except he didn't say that and hashem there were they opened up I think the meas opened up the rabad and um and today there's more of that so that was [clears throat] the message that the rebba gave us after the rabbit passed away pashes through I believe I think it was again that you should go to in each in each in each community and by [clears throat] the way didn't say he didn't say he said why because the end decides and so need to go to I know Rabb from Miami [clears throat and cough] for years when there were disputes between and things like that he didn't want to he didn't he says I'm I'm not going to make the final decision. Let Rabon do it. Then we set up Vadim and and Raonim to to deal with these issues. Which is much healthier than taking the responsibility on your shoulders to to to ask someone or to to accept someone whatever the case whatever the issue is at hand. And that's another important idea that I wanted to share for this. Finally, it's really tremendous uh sim to to walk in around Ken Heights these days and um to be their shabas to just just to see what's going on, you know, for someone like myself who who was at Kinus in 1985 with 7080 and now to see 6,000 we can you can barely get into 770. It's so packed. It's like it's it's and everyone can be a even if you don't officially have the badge or the title. The idea of is to help go and find another ye to help another ye from a not yet makes no difference. The Reb did not put a a boundary that you can't do if you're not listed in the you know list of you can and you should you want to be listed it's a you can do it fine but for whatever reason if you can't whatever reason there's no reason to feel second tier and I and and there reminds me someone already who passed away he was an older and he was onikas once and and many years ago and then he had and then he left. A lot of details but and I interviewed him and he said how how and he and he cried and he said how when it comes the week this weekend he gets very sad because he sees hashem how the army has grown and grown and grown from from a a little colonel and he for whatever reason it didn't work out. I'm not going into the details. The point is that if it doesn't work out to be an official, no problem. Continue doing your as a business person, as a lay person. I'm telling you, in the Reb's books and in Hashem's eyes, it's the same. It's the same. You're serving, you're serving, you're serving, you're helping Eden. So I I I really want people to know this to really know to really know this and to and to understand that this is it's not just hearsay to make you feel good. Okay? I've studied this. I've discussed it. I wrote about this. This is the emis. And don't let anyone else tell you otherwise because it's coming from not the good side. in the from the good side. Every Eid, every lab that opens their home and has a class and invites people and reaches out and makes a tal and talks to another ye about and here yesterday I was showing my grandson a little burrow park. I walk into the big bish in there and right away people stop me. Oh, I saw the video and I read this and then there's a truth that is where stops and he's discussing with you and you're talking to him about an in you're taking away your time from your from your uh own pleasure right and and and spending time with another Eid. So the whole consciousness has to change the attitude of what it means to be on. You can live in Kanay, you can live in Borough Park, you can live in Muny, you could live in Lakewood, you can live in bed, you can live. If your attitude is you're doing that each and every one of us should remember the way it was and the way it is today with over 6,000 and we should only go with aus and with this we will conquer the world. Msiach will come. The rebel will return and it'll be only sim by all yeden. Good chapters.