KI TEITZEI, Scary Sages, Rosh HaShana Prep, Tzniut, BABY NAMES - Stump The Rabbi (176)

teaches about war not just war of flesh and blood but war against the evil inclination that causes us to want things that we're not allowed to have after that we go into the teachings of the sages and find out why a had scary teachings being taught by the sages while we're learning about a sensitive and mature topic that's not for kids but yet it affects every single Jewish couple you must know this after that we go into question questions from the crowd how to prepare for Rana why is there a lion that symbolizes elul why is the Gate of gam so beautiful and why are there Christians in the world even though they're idolatrous according to the Torah and last but not least if you're having a baby and you want to name him and you having problems of who to name him after tonight you're going to learn all about that as well as many other interesting questions that people have enjoy share and be holy we are back here on our Wednesday night stump Rabbi where after you guys will ask me some questions and will give us the answers uh tonight sh is for the for Simon Samson and all of and all the righteous noahides that continue to contribute and uh help us and uh learn with us uh also for anybody that wants to uh be part of our um campaign for rash uh you could just go to the bhas.org bhas.org that's b as in beat H is in Hashem Shas is s h .org over there you can get uh yourself and your family one of the uh personal blessings uh uh there's a few different options or a couple different options over there and uh we will pray for you we only have just a couple of shim uh before we uh go on our trip to uh at that time we'll take a short break before we go back to shim but we have a couple of shim including tonight uh also as a uh a note for everybody uh that is watching the Sho right now the sh tonight uh although it's not the Jewish intimacy series it's going to talk about issues that are mature and it's not meant for children uh so uh the first hour or so when I say the going to talk about a few mature topics so I don't uh recommend it for kids uh of course the adults have to listen to this since simply because at some point or another you're going to encounter some of these issues and needless to say you're going to have to teach this to your kids uh so with that being said we're going to going to start and of course we have now although par starts off you know with the you have a the whole War but we see that this is not necessarily just talking about going to war uh as we actually started in last week Paras uh but rather you know much of the parasa is talking about a spiritual war a war that we have been fighting against the Heretics and heresies of the world uh the wrong mentalities and ideologies out there uh and needless to say any of you that have uh missed out on watching the uh short clip that we uh released this morning about the new religion that Manis fredman is uh created uh if if you haven't watched it you should watch it and if you did watch it you should certainly share it because this is something that is going to baffle you not only because of the uh things that he says but also because of some of the comments made by some of his uh some of his uh victims I should say or maybe uh simply some of his uh uh arra uh uh followers or students or whoever they are employees uh because as you already know and as as R FR said in his uh lecture uh yesterday when he spoke out against Manis fredman uh he uh you know we don't have the multi-million dollar budget uh and the false Fame that he does uh but what we have is and just like said to that was cursing the name of hem David came to him as a young kid and told him you know you have you know you have all of what you have you have whether it's the Shields and the swords and the uh the size and everything else and I have a I have the name of Hashem with me meaning I have a uh the same Hashem that you desecrated and that's in essence the war the war against the wicked is the uh is a war that's in the name of hem but unfortunately there's going to always be uh until mhia comes is always going to be people that completely disregard the honor of hem and you have to understand that you have to understand that this is a part of this current reality that we live in but of course we can't change the world we could certainly help people that want to be helped but we can change what we can change is ourselves because sometimes a person um you know mainly due to lack of knowledge uh is going to have uh little Heretics within him or her uh that is allowing him or her to do things that are against logic against the Torah against their own personal interest but they're addicted to to it and one of the horrible things that could happen to a person is to become addicted to promiscuity uh when a person is uh you know is not aware of the magnitude of the damage that that short-term pleasure brings to him or her uh they uh literally uh by the time they find out many times it's too late it's too late because a lot of damage has already been done and although you're still alive and you can still do chuva and fix your Nish with whatever time you have left in this world uh there's still going to be some damage that uh you can't get rid of whether it's uh having a uh spouse that you don't want to be with or it's having uh you know wayward children or it's simply having other types of uh scars both spiritual and physical scars that uh come as a result of it and one of the things that the parasat tells us is that hates promiscuity in fact even before promiscuity he hates modesty as it says in chapter 23 uh verse number 15 andos over there uh elaborates on it and clarifies it and in essence he's he's telling us that is saying to us and there shall not be seen among you a matter of sin what is this a matter of sin a matter of immorality which also includes things that lead to immorality which is immodesty is nakedness there shall not be nakedness among you uh so when a woman walks around immodest where she's not covering herself properly she's not covering our arms she's not covering our legs and uh what else she's not covering this is something that's going to create a problem for her not just on that particular day but until she does chuva and the Unos elaborates and he says there shall not be seen among you a matter of sin and thus it shall not happen that his word will turn away from doing good for you meaning that all of the blessings that a wants to do for you whether it's to give you better with more we're not talking about how much money you make but rather how much money you keep there are plenty of people that make millions of dollars but they would give every single penny of it away if you would simply give them a good life if you would simply give them a wife that loves them a husband that's loyal to them children that respect them and needless to say less problems but when a person is emodest and a person is viewing emodest things he's benefiting from immodesty in some way or another even if he's selling immodest clothes he is part of the problem she is part of the problem and in essence the biggest uh loss that happens is their own loss because all of the blessings that aosh wants to give you are gone they're simply gone from you and they're put in some type of heavenly uh compartment because Hashem simply can't give them to you because he runs away from you he runs away and all the good that he wants to do for you is simply put away and then the Tor elaborates further of why withholds the blessings from a person that acts immodestly and that's because immodesty leads to immorality and therefore the Torah says in uh verse number 18 just a few verses later is here the Torah tells us a woman from among the daughters of isra shall not be uh promiscuous or they called a prostitute and A man among the sons of Israel shall not be a uh prostitute meaning promiscuous so here the Torah tells us that uh when a man is a with a woman that's not his wife and they're intimate that's considered immorality that's considered as if you are a prostitute uh in fact the uh mentions it in page 54b this is also referring to the lgbtq this is considered immorality this is considered promiscuity now when a when a person brings that type of uh uh uh decree upon themselves where they're desecrating the tah by acting in such a way not only are they bringing upon themselves a situation where their blessings and their uh good in life in this world and the next is withheld from them but they're also bringing upon themselves a dinar dinar means a Heavenly punishment that is the worst of the worst because it also means that part of that punishment is going to be in this world and part of the punishment will be in the next world where a person can die young before the age of uh of 60 some even say before the age of 50 uh or they could live a life where they see their own children die that thear says is the worst punishment that a person can get in this world to live a life where they actually see their children die uh imagine the the mothers and the fathers that are holding their kids with blood in their hands or all types of diseases having to visit the hospital for months and months at a time just to watch your kids die and uh needless to say this is also correct where they're cut off from a they have no share of the world to come so a person that you know is going to act immorally because he wants to have a girlfriend she wants to have a boyfriend this is something that is not only against the toah it's against your best interest and even if a person says yeah listen well I married uh the the girl but she just happens to be not Jewish a Jewish guy marrying a non-jewish woman Shalom or a Jewish woman marrying a uh non-jewish manom according to the Tora there is no such marriage meaning meaning your act every single time that you're together every single day that you are together it's considered an act of immorality even if the law of the land says that you are legally married according to it's an act of immorality it's an act of promiscuity it's as if you are a prostitute so this is the type of stuff that the average person out there doesn't really understand that they're doing to themselves and in fact one of the things that uh we see here is that there are multiple sins involved in it one of them being promiscuity and other of them is also where you know any Jewish woman that's not married is not allowed to go to the mikve and therefore anytime that she is with somebody else she is uh committing multiple s now to get a real understanding of the magnitude of this particular situation and really how it affects every single person even the people that they don't think this affects them because they're already married they're already religious they're already uh following the tah and they think okay fine so if this is what the whole lecture is about then apparently this has nothing to do with me wait until you see what else the Torah says if we go back to the beginning of the Torah beginning of the this we see that this whole Act of immorality of immodesty it doesn't just begin uh here in the middle of the parasha but it actually starts off with last week's parasha but first we're going to start start off with trying to understand what the sages are telling us the par starts off by telling us that when we go out to war when we go out to with to war with our enemies and the on this says don't look at it as a simple literal meaning uh only where uh you're going out to war because the average person is not going to go to war but rather understand this that usually the time that we read this parasa or always when we read this parha is during the month of alul a time that every single person every single Jew must understand that they are at War at all times throughout the entire year but this is the time to rectify all of the mistakes that you've made during that war which war is that that's the spiritual war the spiritual war where you followed your heart instead of following your brain you followed your desires your lusts instead of following what AOS said to you because what happens in as the toora continues and says when you're going out to war and then it starts telling you about things that seem like they have nothing to do with war where and you will see among the captives a woman who is beautiful in appearance and you will desire her and you will take her to yourself for a wife you shall first bring her into the midst of your house and she shall shave her head and let her nails grow so when you talk about War typically as the war is on the news on a daily basis now because of the war of what's happening in Russia and Ukraine as well as some other countries out there uh I think there was a newswire that just came out that Russia just destroyed one of the US ships war is constantly something that people discuss but here we're not talking about the wars of blowing up boats no no we're talking about an act of War here where a person as part of this war he runs into a beautiful woman he's a Jew she's a non-jew he's from the Jewish Nation she's from the Gentile Nation but he sees her and she's absolutely beautiful and he wants to be with her so toat tells you that yes there is a possibility that this is going to happen and in fact you have to know how to deal with it before it does happen because the torat tells us that as long as the soldier desires are she's permitted to him even if she's not beautiful so why does the verse refer to her is beautiful as the page 21b says that in order for to indicate that the Torah permitted her reluctantly meaning aosh didn't really want to permit this non-jewish man woman to the uh to the uh to the Jew even if she converts why because again this is not really supposed to be what your uh you know your goal you're supposed to have a completely different but what can we do that created us with a certain nature which he knows himself and therefore he reluctantly allowed this because due to the Soldier's desire for her beauty his yet his evil inclination is liable to persuade him to take her in violation of the Torah if he does not have a permissible means of doing so and indeed Rashi elaborates here and teaches us that this marriage even if he follows the law meaning he saw her in war she is beautiful he says okay what I'll just convert her it's like today people get they find somebody and then they convince the girl to convert because they want to make their parents happy not necessarily because they're planning on living a religious life so it's a obviously a questionable conversion at best and most likely a nonvalid conversion even if she fools his parents and even if she fools the bed she cannot fool and anyone that converts but does not keep the Torah they're not considered a convert they're considered 100% % a gentile because one of the terms that is a uh one of the laws that's an obligation on any convert whether male or female is that they have to observe the torat if they're not going to observe Shabbat on day one they're simply not considered Jewish and this is one of the things that unfortunately you see from time to time where people converted not really for the sake of hasem but rather for the sake of their desire fulfilling their desire similar to how these soldiers are fulfilling their desire and says the t is mentioning it because in this marriage will end up without producing anything productive or positive and in all likelihood he will end up hating her and he will father from her Wayward and rebellious children which is why the tat places this in three different places so he the to tells you yes there is a way for you to do this but just so you know nothing good will come out of it meaning just because it's allowed doesn't mean you should do it doesn't mean you should do it and that's why there are different things as part of the process to try to see if maybe you could calm down which is one of the things is to make her ugly by shaving her head and having her grow her nails do that for a period of a month because as the says that if there's a a love that's dependent on something meaning it's dependent on the beauty or it's dependent on money that love will not last so if the beauty is really what the one thing that's making the person the soldier desire this woman it's making the uh the young man desire her just imagine for yourself what if she lost her beauty yes I know you're both 16 18 25 years old and you both think you love each other what if tomorrow she lost her eyes she lost one of her eyes she looked like you know one of these strange animals what if she became paraplegic would you still love her would you still want to marry her don't lie to yourself don't lie to yourself and that's in essence what the to is trying to tell this Soldier that's what the to is trying to tell us if you take away the beauty all of a sudden you'll see that the love is gone and that's in essence one of the things that a person needs to know why because it's your yet that's that's convincing you furthermore the Torah says but it shall be that if you will not desire any longer then you shall release her to be on her own and you shall not sell her for money or profit from her because you have Afflicted her so if you are in one of these relationships of into marriage you should know regardless of how many kids you have or want to have all these different things nothing good will ever come out of it as you see you know many times many times it's you know the the celebrities are getting divorces but the most horrific divorces the ones that are the most public obnoxious and most tragic divorces that you see in in the celebrity world as well as in society in general are the divorces of intermarriage one of the mo some of the most horrifying stories that you will ever hear about the Holocaust is about those husbands and wives that were on the line literally to the death camp because their husband or wife that was not Jewish was the one that that told on them to the Nazis these types of things happened and unfortunately are happening and the Torah already promises that this is going to be the outcome where something bad will happen eventually it may not be today you may look like you're a happy couple today going on ski trips and going on different vacations give it time and you'll see that the toraat comes true in your life and you'll regret every single second of it but by then it's going to be already too late to certain extent because the damage is already done you followed your evil inclination but if you decide that you're going to part away don't cause her any damage don't cause him any damage don't take any Revenge why you've already Afflicted them enough meaning you already took enough of their time just because she's not Jewish doesn't necessarily mean you you're allowed to hurt her in anyway let her go move on with her life be nice cordial and move on same Concept in the opposite way your non-jewish boyfriend Muhammad let him move on disconnect the relationship change your phone number move away and that's it move on with your life don't make it a whole long and arduous Battle of his fault she's fault it doesn't need to be that way there's already been enough damage to both people but if you continue and you don't care what the Torah says because you think you love each other the Torah continues and then start talking about if a man will have a wayward and rebellious son who does not heed the word of his father and the word of his mother and they teach him that his conduct is inappropriate but he does not accept the admonishment from them here the toat tells us of one of the most tragic things that can happen to a person that does not listen to the Torah a tragedy that they cannot do anything about because it's already too late which is having horrible kids having horrible kids is not a one-time damage it's not like getting into a car accident and having to pay the insurance it's not like losing some money in the stock market it's not even like getting sick for a little while no having a wayward child is literally a lifelong suffering so much so that even the mid tells us that Leah Le one of our matriarchs one of the things that made her more most proud is her kids and each one of her kids got their name for a certain reason and a mid says why did Leah call her first born sonen like our last name why did she Callen because she said meaning see see my son versus the son of my father-in-law yov who is asav in order to reminder of how much benefit she got from having this son where despite the fact that Ren was a little sh you know he was Troublemaker a little bit like to jump around Break Stuff later on in his life he moved his father's bed still he's nothing in comparison to as is he's wicked horrible so says see that's why see see my son versus my uh father-in-law's son my son he's a little troublemaker but nothing he's he's going to go out of it he's a good kid he's a sadik but isav he's horrible he's the worst my father-in-law I should say not uh yov yov was a husband so here we see that having problems with kids is normal but all depends on the level of problem the level of problem if you're teaching your kids whatever trouble they put you is temporary he jumps on the couch he jumps on the ceiling he jumps on this temporary why as long as you teach him all all of those things will eventually end he'll mature he'll be good she'll mature she'll be good but if there's no Tora in MIT if there's no Holiness in the marriage then whatever you see right now it's only the beginning as it's going to get much worse somebody recently told me that their son came to visit them and instead of the son honoring the parents the whole time during the trip they disrespected the parents in front of their wife in front of their kids they came to their parents and disrespected them the father was doing Kush the son also did Kush as if the father is not there it was better off for the son to fast the whole Shabbat than to disrespect his his father that way it was better off for him to fast which forbidden to fast on Shabbat but it was better off for him to fast the whole Shabbat than to disrespect his father like that again also he did Mi You Did Mi the kids are jumping all over the walls completely disrespecting everybody's space everybody's everything why is all of this happening as a result of lack of Holiness when there's lack of Holiness in the marriage when there's lack of Holiness in the intimate act these are the types of results even if it's a Jewish marriage meaning even if it's a Jew marrying a Jew if there's no Holiness there's not much of a difference between them and the inter marriage couple and when a person has a wayward son that already grows up and completely disregards their parents literally it's a life of curse it's a life of a curse and parents today know exactly what I'm talking about as many of them contact me and ask me for different guidance of what did she do with their kids sometimes there is guidance sometimes there is simply prayers what's the difference if the kid whether it's a boy or girl is learning T and and was brought up into the world with some level of Holiness then guidance is what you need but if the kid was brought up in an inter marriage or in a marriage that has no Shabbat no MIT no T only prayer why because there's nothing else that's going to help you there's nothing else that's going to help you and the prayer is not necessarily for all of it to stop the prayer is simply for you to be able to handle it so the Torah tells us further that following our evil inclination is certainly not going to breed any good fruits now this war that the toai is talking about didn't start here really it didn't start here but rather it started in last week's p where in last week's already gives us warnings where he says when you wage war against your enemies specifying to you that when you're fighting the enemy always know it's an enemy whether it's an enemy from within like an evil inclination or it's an enemy of outside like a heretic Idol worshipper always know that when you're fighting an enemy it's an enemy why because the natural inclination of a Jew is to be merciful if a Jew is no longer merciful that means that they've literally have lost their connection to a unfortunately some people like that exist in the world but need to say the natural inclination of a Jew is to be merciful and because he's merciful he will have mercy on his enemy like some people that watch this Fiasco that's happening in our uh major rebuke against the Heretics out there whether it be menace or the people from or or the others that we've mentioned and people say well why why why does it have to be this way why do you have to talk about it how do you know he didn't do chuva like somebody told me today first of all you should know that if a person publicly desecrates God's name that means that they have to publicly apologize you can't apologize and do chuva privately if if your sin was was public if you said things that are against the Torah privately then you have to fix it privately but if it's public you have to fix it public second the people that are trying to be peacemakers are not realizing that while they're telling you why you rebuking this is not good this is they themselves are are violating no less laws than the Heretics themselves number one supporting a heretic supporting a heretic put you in the same category as them number two you're saying not to rebuke by rebuking me you're rebuking the rebuker so in essence what you're doing is you're telling you're rebuking me not to rebuke while you yourself are doing exactly what you're saying not to do and certainly you're not doing it on the other side you're not telling or any of the other Heretics to to do anything to change their ways to do Chua lastly one of the great mik the great sages that we had over the last few hundred years even he said one of the things we learn from the sages is that when you see somebody that is merciful on the wicked you're also going to see them very vicious on the righteous meaning they're acting merciful by saying listen there should be peace there should be Unity give it time and you'll see how they don't have that same level of Peacemaker mentality when it comes to the righteous people them they'll never give them the benefit of the doubt and he says that's one of the signs of the he doesn't look like he's an because he doesn't say all the heretical things that the bigger Sinners are doing but don't think for a moment that he's your friend he's still your enemy he's still your enemy and because he's your enemy always know that he's your enemy now when somebody's ignorant and they simply want to be educated that doesn't make them your enemy that certainly is a uh there's room to improve there you could certainly help these people but when somebody's defending the Heretics and the heresies that's your enemy the same way as the heretic himself the same goes when somebody has an evil inclination a desire a desire to do thing that is forbidden something that's against the toah he wants to go into an inter marriage promiscuous relationship she wants to go into an inter marriage promiscuous relationship and they don't realize what they're doing to themselves so the Torah tells us when you wage your war against your enemies know it's your enemy that desire that you have in you that's going against the toat that is your enemy don't have mercy on it if you do have mercy on it you're simply a lost cause if you give yourself even a little bit of room for error you will make the error as AOS says to the if you leave an opening the will enter into the house even if it's a small opening furthermore the Tora says in last week's par in order to win this war you have to have the right tools first if you have a good relationship protect it with under all costs meaning you have a kosher wife you have a kosher husband Torah says and who is the man who has bet Tred a woman and has not taken her as a wife let him go and return to his house lest he be killed in the war and another man will take her this we can say is referring to some of you young people that have found somebody you went on a few good people you want to get married but your parents are telling you listen we want to have a big party and we want your grandma and your grandpa to come from the end of the world so we have to have this wedding in six months from now in nine months from now in a year and a half from now don't listen to anybody get yourself a wedding ASAP ASAP get 10 people go to a wedding a month after the you you finished you agreed to get married get married as soon as possible do not delay The Wedding by six months or by a year needless to say longer why you're putting yourself in a situation where you are now at risk greater than you were when you were single before you met them and one of those risk is simply put somebody else will take her no but she says she likes me she loves me today even more so somebody else can take you and it doesn't have to be another girl could simply be the and you could start thinking that it's okay to sin just because you're going to get married anyway that's a mistake that person says yeah but I'm scared to tell my parents I don't want to cause an argument and that's what to says next who is the man who is fearful and of broken heart let him go and return to his house and let him not break the hearts of his brothers like his own heart you cannot fight a war if you're a scaredy-cat if you're a coward you've already lost the battle you don't want to fight your evil inclination you want to Simply fulfill your lust you've already lost the war just pretty much prepare yourself a penth house and G why that's how your life is going to be in order to win the spiritual war you have to be even stronger than someone fighting a physical War or else you're going to end up fulfilling every lust that you possibly have even if it's not for your own benefit but simply for the sake of pleasing others you cannot be a coward when it comes to the wars of hem and if you do follow what the Tora says the Tor says and they shall serve you who is they says when is happy with what you're doing even your enemies will come and say I'm sorry all of those people that called you fanatic you're too religious give it time all of them will come and serve you ask you for blessings ask you for guidance how did you do it you guys look so happy I wish my husband was that way yeah but just two years ago you were making fun of me that my dress was too long just three years ago you're making fun of me that instead of going to watch the ball game I was learning to just two years ago you remember oh you don't remember oh wow now you need a blessing what what do you need a blessing for okay he gave a blessing why when is happy with what you're doing even your enemies will come and ask you for an apology and those that hate you you shall eat their booty of those who hate you meaning you will get whatever blessing they were supposed to get you'll get it you try to help a few people do CH try to tell them listen watch this film watch this film G watch this film hasem took back his millions no I'm not really interested in uh this level of religiosity we have different beliefs uh you know my my my belief system is a little bit more lenient guess what you tried to help this person they don't want to do whatever section of that designated for them comes to you it comes to you which means that when you help or at least try to help people and you try to do kiru in any way shape or form whether it's supporting it with money or time or abilities you win regardless now one of the things that the Tor then says in is that it now goes from all these issues of women War enemies then it tells the am is about when you beege a city you get to a certain place to wage war and Conquer it don't destroy the tree by raising an axe upon it for from it you will eat and you shall not cut it down then it says only a tree which you know that there's no food there that one you can destroy and cut down says a jeude that has aik he's the tree if he has fruits he teaches to Tor he has don't get into a fight with him get whatever benefit you can get get as much to as you possibly get even if what he says you don't like he says the truth you follow but if it's just a regular person doesn't really care about anything doesn't care about God he has no fruits to offer that one you could destroy the relationship but when it's when it's sadik you need that relationship why do you need that relationship and here comes the adult topic many times people think that the sages whether it's be the sages of or the sages of the or anybody spoke like unfortunately many people speak today like the false prophets of today of course not everybody speaks that way but even the ones that don't speak with the heresy coming out of their teeth when you bring them some words of truth about how the Torah considers a Jew that's a shabat an idol worshipper or someone that's part of this lgbtq openly should not be part of your community in any way shape or form and you should definitely not host them in your house these types of attitudes people say no this is not friendly and you tell them listen but what they're doing is against the Tora you cannot give the first even if he's a you cannot have him think that it's perfectly fine to be someone that desecrates the to and doesn't even believe in AA no but we want to be friendly we want to be welcoming your Rabbi is scary that's not how the Tora is T is not scary and they'll tell you the ways of the toah is the ways of Peace what did the sages think about scaring us what do they think about that talud talks about it talks about it and the rambam they also talk about it it gives us many examples we're going to look at one comes up a question in a mish page 14b it says when it talks about a woman that's nid a Jewish woman that's nid she has a menstrating time we know that it's forbidden we know it's forbidden for a husband to be with her certainly if he's not a husband he's forbidden from being with her but what if he's a husband he's forbidding from being with her one of the sages said if that's your question I'm going throw a rock at you because this is a simple manner that even little kids know he goes no no that's not my question it's not my question meaning don't waste my time what are you saying here he says what is the positive commandment concerning the nid for which the and qu are liable for to a special Corban offering it's the Commandment that applies in the following case where if one cohabited with a woman who was tah meaning she was not n and she said to him I've become Tam and he withdrew immediately he's therefore liable for K because his exit is as pleasurable to him as his entry what are we saying here what is the saying here saying a guy with his wife she is pure they're together intimately while they're at the India act she realizes she just got her period he's inside she tells him honey I'm the says if he pulls out right away he has just like he was with a woman that's n death penalty why he enjoyed it oh what are you going to do what are you going to do how do we know this is the I'm sorry hey everything I just said again same thing like the he was with his his wife his own wife she was pure but she became toand in the middle he doesn't know what the is so I can't be with he's liable to death penalty why he enjoyed it that microsc that he enjoyed death penalty the over there says he should be scared and petrified on the sin that came upon him and he should not even if he escaped it without sinning which we'll discuss in a moment he shouldn't rely on this that he didn't sin why because this came into his hands how he almost literally got a how should he what says about how he's avoid this this death penalty he has to stop let the member die and then exit and therefore there's no joy that's how he avoids death penalty and the says even if he avoided this death penalty he still should be petrified that he almost got a death penalty from heaven but Heaven can kill you tomorrow or next week or like somebody told me just uh yesterday that they were riding their bike and all of a sudden a deer came out of nowhere and ran them over I say that's a death penalty that's the equivalent of a death penalty you're lucky you're not dead because usually it's actually a death penalty but that's the equivalent of a death penalty maybe you violated Shabbat wasted seed whatever you that's the equivalent that's AEM loves you and he gave you a death penalty without actually killing you and that's the equivalent the deer running him over is the equivalent of skila which is death penalty of stoning ra says he should be petrified why the death penalty Came Upon him he should only rely on his own actions to fix it and if he made the mistake because he didn't know he didn't know he's not allowed to exit while still erected he must fast for 40 days they don't need to be consecutive says theama but every week he has to fast two days Monday and Thursday and on the night of the fast he's not allowed to drink wine or eat meat but if he can't fast then he has to give money in replacement of the fast of these 40 fast based on how much money he has if he's wealthy he must give a lot and he has to be stringent on this meaning be very generous with what he gives and anyone that is stringent with this much Merit will come upon his way the woman on the other hand does not need to do any chuva but the husband does meaning lack of knowledge on this Al could literally acquire a person death penalty once a month and he thinks he's religious so when the two sages started talking about it the sage that was asked says both you and me have the same problem meaning we have to find the answer to this what do we do we now go and enter the world of the chapter 2 number five says the same exact thing with further elaboration what is the positive commandment about a menstruating woman Amarin Rin said keep the children away from their impurities Aban sent to ask Shimon Ben from where is the warning for one that's having conjugal relations with an impure woman he wanted to throw a stone after him he told him are you asking me something that the children recite every day in synagogue where it says in the Book of Leviticus 18: 19 to woman in a separation of our impurity you shall not come near or uncover her nakedness he answered him no no no that's not my problem my problem is rather if he was having conjugal relations with an impure woman is he is liable I know but what if he's having them with a pure woman meaning his wife and she says to him I became impure if he separates immediately he's liable to KET just like the Tam B says as a side note it says so he told him I and you have the same problem let us go and learn and they went out and heard what the voice voice of one of the T who said the follows who said the following if lying a man if lying a man will lie with her in the Book of Leviticus chap 15: 24 based on this verse not only that if he was having conjugal relations with the impure woman is he liable if he was doing it with the pure one with his wife and she says to him I became impure and he separates immedately he's liable so what should he do R says R in the name of sh said he shall cool down and if he does not cool down says for him I have reading don't come near because closeness is separation then ra una in the name of R ABA says those who say be close to yourself do not touch me for I Sanctified you that's an in the book of Isaiah chapter 65:5 so then comes and finalizes the whole thing up to now we have the two sages first telling us a question question it's in every Jewish household it happens not every month hopefully not every year but it happens and a person that does not know the law here could literally get death penalty on a regular basis and even if he didn't get it he should cry to that this came so close and they say listen this this affects all of us so what should he do he should let it die down calm down says he should imagine that a sword is cutting his flesh and is member to Pieces what yeah he should imagine that a sword just came down from heaven and is starting to cut his member into pieces and the rest of his body that's his response so then they say whoa what is everybody like so no no that's why we say let him have his fingertips and smash him into a wall or the floor and cool down what does all of this mean the sages said if he understands the predicament that he's in where he is one SE away from a death penalty he would understand that there's literally a Heavenly sword that's cutting him to pieces because if he violates it that's what's going to happen to him in Gom they're going to cut him to little pieces so then the sages said but but is everybody raber what does it mean everybody R he say what if he doesn't have the fear of Heaven of raber and he can't bring himself to think especially while he's in the act about a sword cutting him to pieces he's right now in Cloud Nine he says Ah so for that person that doesn't have fear of heaven we have a practical simple way take his hands smash him into the ground you know inflict some pain on your hands that'll die out the arousal and then you can leave why it's better that you understand the truth that you literally are two seconds away from getting a de and G that's going to last for eternity it's better but if you can't you can't bring yourself there at the very least don't sin don't do it take your hand smash them into the ground or whatever is going to the Wall cause some pain enough to let everything die out and then exit what do we learn from this aside from a very important Al for every Jewish marriage number one ignorance of the law does not absolve you from the crime you not knowing is not going to help you if you go up to Sham oh I didn't know I'm not allowed to do that okay tell them that in the seventh chamber the six chamber or whatever chamber they decide for you ignorance of the law does not absolve you from the crime not in the law of the land and needless to say not in the law of God as the says an accidental sin that's a result of lack of study Tor is considered a purposeful sin why because you purposefully did not study T number two what do we learn from this the that a person needs to have needs to be upon him or her at all times even during the most intimate times and even more so during the intimate times as we learned from our Jewish intimacy series fear of Heaven is not just in business or just in a synagogue it's at all times number three the sages were not afraid to instill fear in their students because they knew that the yet that we go to war with every single day will appear in every single Corner that we allow him and even the ones we don't want him in and that's why kadosh says when you go out to war not war when you're living here in Florida or you're living in New York or you're living in Australia in a nice three-story house 5,000 square ft and there's five cars in your in your parking lot no when you go out to war during the most intimate times when you go out to war in business when you go out to war in the kitchen when you go out to war in your 24 hours a day and the evil inclination comes and tells you do something that's against God go in into a promiscuous relationship go steal money go with the woman you're not allowed to be with go and do things even with your own wife that you're forbidden to do the evil inclination is going to come to you in every single way and therefore the sages knew that you're going to be at War if you're alive you're at War and if you want to go to heaven you need to know this you need to know not just just that you're at War you need to know how to fight the war and fighting the war requires a person to be afraid of losing if you're not afraid of losing you're a very dangerous person because a person that is afraid of losing knows what he has to lose a person with no fear is a dangerous person a terrorist and this is why the Heretics constantly preach lack of fear of God they don't want to fear God because they want the freedom to sin as much as they want and justify it and rationalize it however they want this is a critical information for every single Jew to know and even non-jew that although the laws of nidah don't apply to non-jews needless to say fear of Heaven applies to all of mankind a person that's not afraid of God is a person that doesn't believe in God and if a person wants to have a good life here with good kids with good everything needs to know who's giving it to him but if you're not aware of who's giving you everything and you're praying to some dead man that died 20000 years ago or you're praying to some Rabbi that died 30 years ago or you're praying to some false cult that you created in your own mind you're in serious trouble you're almost A's cause and the only reason I say almost is because you're still alive you still have time to change but it all starts with following our holy sages that told us don't be scared to get scared from the Torah be scared if you're not scared because it's the most extraordinary time where the average person completely allows himself to lose all focus and literally lose himself and act literally like a beast you the Jew you must be most focused you must be most afraid because that's going to be the one tool that's going to help you avoid a death penalty both in this world and the next will give each and every single one of us a clear path or at the very least a path of obstacles we have the strength the wherewithal and a desire to overcome with that being said you guys can now ask some questions I'm sure that the questions are going to be a little different than usual if it's based on the topic we talked about and if it's notm will answer as well if one has a daughter and she knows the tah and we've been teaching her and she still disobeys what happens well it all depends on what level of disobey it also depends on how old she is if she's a young little kid 3 4 5 6 7 8 years old and certainly you need to discipline her not give her a uh the presents that she gets from time to time not give her the uh uh the things that she wants you know you could uh do all types of things and as far as a uh if you're if it's something that's you know crossed the line and you're going to spank the kid and obviously it should never be something that you do out of anger or for the sake of hurting the kid but rather just simply to shock him uh if it's an older kid that's already a teenager at that point point it's uh you know it's it's you have to you know try to help them by teaching them M or having them learn M because at that point there's not much discipline that could come from the parents you know so it all depends on when and how old and even the gender can we speak in regards to the laws of R I have several lectures about that already online and since Rai is in a several weeks it's not the time see let me see free stuff thanks people stuck yeah I'm looking for the questions a lot of comments but questions is what I'm looking for uh okay yeah your dad is an Iraqi Jew result of question is do you follow the what is the sin Unforgivable on the day of judgment uh well no sin is forgivable on the day of judgment if the day of judgment you're talking about is after a person dies Hashem does not forgive and let go of the sins every sin that a person makes they will have to pay for every mitvah Every Good Deed that they do they'll also get paid for but first they have to pay for the sins so a person should never think that just because they did good things in their life that makes all of their sins okay also there's no such Accounting in sh the Torah tells us clearly that judges the fair judgment where we get reward for the uh for the good and punished for the bad they don't exchange each other it's not like in the uh debits and credits in a in your bank account okay so if a person does good things he gives charity he helps people he's generally a cordial and nice person all that's great but if he desecrates Shabbat but that's not going to help them in the bedine of Heaven the uh the the punishment that he will get for that is going to be as severe as it gets so it all depends on the type of sin but every single sin has to be paid for every single one from uh from the beginning to the end from what you think is a small sin to the ones that you know are big sins every sin has to be paid for there is no exception okay let's see you guys are asking any more questions or oh where does a person pay for it well it depends there is a uh I have many lectures and films about this stuff uh okay so the says that the reward for a uh for a mitvah is another Mitzvah and the uh reward for a sin is another sin what does that mean that means the rambam elaborates on it and says that the reward if a person does a good deed then the reward that he gets in this world is the opportunity is the opportunity to do another good deed so if let's say for example he is charitable and he gives money for then is going to give him even more money so he can make that mitvah again if he got married Hashem can give him a reward of giving him kids too and so on and so forth whatever Mitzvah that he does Hashem will give him an opportunity to do another Mitzvah on the other hand if a person makes a sin then hm will give him an opportunity to make another sin he went to a meeting with somebody he's not allowed to meet Hashem will make that uh meeting a meaning that could help him make even more sense why is that the case because the reward the Heavenly reward or the Heavenly punishment is too big for this world which means that everything that you get in this world whether it is a monetary material benefit or otherwise is simply to enable you to do more good so when a person gets money more money he just won the lotto let's say that's not a reward for a good deed that he made but rather it's a uh it's to enable the person to make more Good Deeds because if he really did something good for example let's say he helped somebody do chva or he kept Shabbat you know wants to reward him all of the good in this world that happened to every single person since the beginning of time until the end of time is not enough to reward you for even the smallest good act that you did so hem reserves all of that reward for for heaven where over there it's an unlimited place and he can give you an unlimited reward for each and every single mitvah that you have something that our human mind cannot quantify on the other hand when a person desecrates the name of God by sinning either wasting seed being promiscuous eating non kosher adultery murder theft and so on and so forth the reason why he gets an opportunity to make even more sins is because punishing him for that sin in this world is insufficient it's insufficient because when he desecrated the Name of the King of Kings there's not enough suffering in this world world to give a person for for him to pay for that sin and therefore there are worlds that were created designated for reward and Punishment in regards to punishment in regards to reward there is the G there's the lower heaven and then there's the upper Heaven lower Heaven is great the high uh the upper Heaven is the greatest and then there's also Allah but right now as of now people the the righteous people are either in one of the other that I mentioned the lower heaven or upper Heaven Ora happens after the end of the world and over there each one has seven Chambers and you know endless reward for a different good things that a person did but he cannot get any of it until he's clean spiritually cleaned from the sins that he's made now if he made minor sins and he was overly righteous then a spiritual clean meaning that he's going to get is going to be minimal but if he made big sins he desecrated Shabbat he stole he raped he killed he did all of these horrible things uh or even if he just did uh he just didn't keep Shabbat his whole life or even if he was promiscuous his whole life but otherwise he was okay these are Big sins which for them there is huge punishment so the first place is that a person starts getting their punishment is what's called which is the beatings of the Grave okay what happens to a person in the grave after they die and is is not just them going to sleep anyone that wants to know the details can watch my film called kib that's CH h i b u t h a k v r you go on my YouTube channel or my uh my app which is be it's what it's called you type in you'll see the scariest movie that you've ever seen in your life if a person Wast seed he's promiscuous either with himself with others he's not she's not sh she's not modest watch the film and you'll understand what's going to happen to you now that's if a person was promiscuous after they finish their sentence in that could last thousands of years cuz again you're going to a world that has no time after they finish their they will have to go to a different place called The in the last says is simply gives your soul in the control of horrible awful destructive angels that slingshot the soul from one end of the universe to the other while destroying it and and and and causing it the worst infliction that beyond your imagination and that sentence could literally be a million years it could be 5 days it could be million years depending on the damage if you want to know more information about that I have a lecture for four hours discussing that there's also a book called where he talks about it as well and many other books let's say he finished he finished kaf now he still has some sins he wasted seed or he desecrated Shabbat or he committed adultery all the types of things he has to go to Gom Gom has seven Chambers each chamber is worse than the next seventh chamber whoever gets in doesn't come out what does mean doesn't come out doesn't come out literally until the soul is eventually destru destroyed which takes many many many millions of years so now to a person that's new to Torah this seems completely ridiculous unimaginable that's doesn't make any sense watch the film Gom g e h i n n oom g.org or you can just go to my channel and type in Gom or you'll see it actually if you're a first time visitor you'll see that film over there and you will understand after watching a film of 3 hours almost which includes scientific research as well as different documentaries as well as 10 72 Torah sources from a across the spectrum of the Torah which includes the the T the uh [Music] the every part of the Torah we covered all of it has included 172 sources we had thousands but you know to keep it under three hours we had to limit it to that over there a person has different judgments he wants to know she wants to know what's what's going to happen to her if she continues walking around immodest she continues using foul language she continues acting like an animal over there will give you details of what's going to happen so as far as sins being forgiven there is no forgiveness in the next World forgiveness is the fact that you're still alive here and therefore you're getting an opportunity to do chuva to say I'm sorry to stop the sin to cry over it that you've done it and to commit to never doing it again and if the test comes you pass the test you don't repeat the crime and if you want to truly clean it up completely help other people also stop the sin that's similar to yours so if you are promiscuous if you are IM modest if you are desecrating Shabbat if you were intermarried whatever you were doing that's a against the T and most of us have a whole list of things that we used to do or still do try to get other people to do chv and most people can't do it themselves so they have to have the help of people like myself which unfortunately there are not many in the world help them so the key is to know that anyone that thinks that Hashem is simply going to just let go of the sins that you've made it simply does not know anything about toah the good good news is that hasem has Mercy while you're still alive and while you're still alive you're able to do chuva you're able to say I'm sorry to hem you're able to change your ways and will help you as it says in the book of Deuteronomy in chapter 4 if you look for me you will find me but only if you look for me with all of your uh uh heart and soul meaning if you're looking for the truth will help you find it but don't think that for a second that it's supposed to be easy and even that it's supposed to come to you naturally it takes effort it takes sacrifice you'll have opportunities to make different sins you have to overcome them you have to overcome them and if you do you'll have endless reward as great as the Wrath and the punishment is the reward that hm gives the sikim the righteous people is is 500 fold so whatever you see on a scary side magnified by 500 at least and that's the reward that you will get for following what Hashem says and that's the beauty is that you have not only an extraordinary reward in the next world but living a life of tat in this world is the best life many people think that they're going to get a good life by following their evil inclination and being promiscuous and and and looking at things that they're not supposed to and saying things they're not supposed to and taking stuff that they're not supposed to and doing all types they think that that's the best thing but in reality the people that continue following their desires and going against hem end up living the most miserable life they're depressed they're addicted to drugs they're they're uh uh uh they're they're suicidal many times they get divorces they have horrible kids horrible marriage horrible lives even if they have millions and trillions of dollars they would literally give it all up for a single day of a decent life and I could assure you that if you go to any and you compare the richest man in the world's life to his life the's life is much better even with difficulties that everybody has because that's part of the world the's life is much better so again it's a it's a a person that's never lived it it doesn't make sense to them it's like trying to tell a person that's was born blind what the color blue looks like he has no concept of what you're talking about you could tell him yeah blue it looks like green and a little bit of purple and he has no idea what you're talking about he's blind he can't see so a person that has never lived a life of Torah for you to give them the the illustration of what how good life is even in this world of following the Tor it's impossible for that person to truly see it and even if they start doing it it's impossible for them to truly understand the benefits of it until they do it for a while while because the benefits continue to grow when you first start doing cha you thinking okay so at least I'm doing something different it's fun to take off once a week for Shabbat eat some food be with the family learn to it's interesting but that's not even the beginning of the benefits you start seeing the benefits more and more as you do it for longer as you get older as you see what kind of kids you have what kind of family you have what kind of Peace you have in your house what kind of blessings you have what kind of Miracles you have and literally you start seeing your life as the world continues as well you move forward the world stays the same or gets worse and goes backward you get blessings the world around you you see is literally getting curses and to a person that's going on a straight path in the way of hem it's a clear as day but a person that's not doing it it seems like imagination so that's why again I try to give you guys a somewhat of an illustration of some of these things but the reality is that the best vision is for people that actually see it already that already live it why you're not allowed to say hashem's name if you're not daving uh because said in the Ten Commandments do not use my my name in vain which means that don't just use his name the same way they use your friend's name or your wife your husband's name where you just say it superficially uh you have to say his name with specific intentions specific thoughts uh and a certain level of respect and honor because is everywhere so just a uh let's just compare it to a uh a king of Flesh and Blood not that God has any body or likeness of a body but we get many analogies from the sages that use king of flesh and blood in order to get an understanding if you had a king of Flesh and Blood and let's say for example this king of flesh and blood is a king that's uh not politically correct he's a king that is good to his friends and uh wrathful to his enemies and you see him from afar you see him from afar and he's you know going on his horses and his carriage and everybody says yeah your highness your highness your highness okay fine no problem but what if he was standing in a park and you came back from behind him you said King he turns around and he said then hey what's up man and he walk away you think you'll survive those 24 hours no why because you just disrespected the king a million times even more so when you say the name of Hashem when we say the name of Hashem without it being part of reading scripture of the Torah or without it being praying to him and you're just saying it just because then that means that you don't understand who you're calling you don't understand the Majesty the the awe that you're supposed to have for him the fact that he every breath that you take it's only because he allowed you every breath that you take that you're able to breathe every time that's only because he allowed you to live another second every blood vessel that's traveling through your veins and doesn't clot and kill you on the spot it's only because he allowed that blood vein that blood vessel to go through do you know that you have more wiring in your brain than all of the wiring that you have in the entire universe and each one of those tiny little wires in your brain has blood going through it if one of those blood cells one just one tiny one that you barely can see with the naked eye if one of them just decides you know what I don't want to go anymore that's it I'm on strike I'm not going anymore you know what happens on the spot you die on the spot do you know why that blood vessel continues to go and you're able to see me now and hear me now and function now it's because allows it to happen allows it to happen so the beautiful part of is that he allows us he allows us to live he us to enjoy but he gives us instructions of how to do it on the other hand if a person doesn't understand who's giving him the air in his lungs and the the the blood vessels and everything else that's a person that does not know who the king is and what the king does that's a person that obviously deserves whatever that's coming to them how do we prepare for rosashana now as far as the laws of r that we'll discuss another time but we have lectures for that but the Bigg preparation that a person needs to do right now is what we're doing which is learning tah with a purpose of fixing ourselves fixing our character traits fixing our flaws this is the month of alul in the month of elul which is the month that precedes Rashana it's known as a month where anyone that cares about their relationship with God is going to take something upon themselves to make themselves a better better servant of God before that Judgment Day as the says that there are four judgment days the one Judgment Day that where AEM judges everything is Rashana he judges the Jews he judges the Gentiles he judges all of creation that's when he decides whether somebody's going to live or die that's when he decides how much money you're going to make or lose that's when he decides whether you're going to get married or stay alone that's when he decides whether you're going to have kids or not have kids that's when he decides everything so a person knows that they're about to go to not just a court case but the court case of all court cases where it's going to be decided your fate it's going to be decided on that day usually when people go to court they get scared they get scared they don't want to lose they don't want to lose money they don't want to lose their freedom so what do they do they prepare they research they do stuff in order to be to present themselves the best possible way even more so when you're about to go to your court case your judgment day of rash you have to prepare ahead of time if a person prepares for a court case that could mean that if he loses he's going to get death penalty but if he only starts preparing for it a day before obviously everyone agrees that he deserves to die because he's an idiot if you were able to to prepare already a month before prepare a month before your life is on the line our life is on the line right now many people talk about oh yeah you know technology has helped us with Advanced medicine and the average age and lifetime now is uh you know is growing and people are are getting older average uh person is living to almost 80 years old now yeah that's just average but you do realize that the vast majority of people that you're going to know in your life are never going to hit 80 years old in fact most of them are going to die young tragic deaths accidents sickness is tragedies that's that's real life real life is most people that you know that's how they're going to die they're not going to get to 80 years old so a person needs to know that this judgment day of of of life and death that's coming up so it behooves you to prepare for it to the best of your ability and if you know that the King of Kings what does he want from you he wants you to be holy he wants you to stop sinning stop being immodest stop being promiscuous stop violating Shabbat stop stop stealing stop being mean stop being obnoxious Stop scaring people for no reason just because you enjoy it uh you know stop being uh uh rude to your parents stop uh doing everything that he says don't do stop doing all those things or at the very least as much of it as you can handle how do you stop whatever Torah you're learning right now look learn more if you're not learning tah learn as much as possible ASAP every day if you are learning whatever you're learning learn more if you're learning for a half hour a day learn for an hour you're learning for an hour a day learn for an hour and a half two hours I have one has been watching my sh for years already got inspired a week ago because of the big event that we have coming up in is he took upon himself to learn the tal B in one year like the Tom we have in Israel already for a week straight every day he tells me I completed my seven deim today I completed my seven deim today in a single week he completed 49 theim most people don't complete 49 theim in an entire year why he got inspired he got inspired to do more to do better even though he was already good he was already learning he was already doing he want to do more another tell me that I have took upon himself he never learned a he's relatively new he's only a few years about but he says but I can learn a mish I'm going to learn the Mish in a whole year how do I do it I gave him the entire structure how you have to learn 14 plim per week two per day and you'll complete the entire mishna a per is not one mishna a per you know each peric averages between five to nine Mish every day you have to do twoim youim every day seven days a week 14 per week do that for a whole year you finish the entire sh of the mishna you show up to heaven with the the the you show up with all of these good things in your hand you're showing up with a fortune but what can we do that we can't finish that all in the month what can we do that we can't finish that all in the month what do we do start something start something start learning more do something take something upon yourself at least show that you want show that you're going to try at least okay maybe I can't do all of that right now but I can at least study more now I can study an hour now I can study two hours now I can do something everybody can do something if you're a woman you're not modest first thing you need to do is start becoming modest don't worry about learning Tua start becoming modest certainly you're not going to become modest unless unless you learn T but don't make learning T your fixing because as long as you're not modest learning T is not going to help you the point of learning toah is to do good to follow hem if you're learning to and still doing bad a dead animal is better than you that's what the says so this is one of the ways and primary ways for a person to prepare for rash to do more than whatever you're doing and do better what does lion have to do with aul so the sages taught us a lion is in essence symbolic of the Salvation of the king of kings but also a lion the word lion AR is the acronym for the four major days that are coming up one of them that we have the alif is symbolic for the month of Al Al is symbolic of r UD is symbolic of yum Kip and he is symbolic OFA why all of those and notk kanuka I don't know whatever because you have these are the most critical points that you need to consider at all times El is already telling you from Heaven you have a month to get to the Judgment Day prepare well every day you need to prepare do something that's El you have a whole month to prepare for that big Judgment Day R that's the Judgment Day whatever you did is going to count that day obviously you have to pray you have to know that is judging you good news is that even if the Judgment that you got on that day is not exactly what you want you have a opportunity to appeal which is on yum Kip yum Kip that's the day of appeal whatever we got on R we can appeal in essence to sweeten our decree of what's going to happen in the next year if somebody got Shalom a decree to get sick instead of getting sick Hashem could take person's money or delay it or do a million and a half other things that he has he has no limitations whatever the decree that you got in R you could Appeal on yip that's when the judgment is finalized and sealed that's when it's finalized and sealed hence the reason why it's customary for Jews to learn to the entire night of the entire night not go to sleep learn the entire night to sweeten the decree last chance so a person that has this in their mind is a person that is going to certainly get the best possible uh outcome person that ignores it or prioritizes everything else instead all we can say is uh you know why did hasem make the entrance of geham beautiful the gates of geham there's different parts so you have to understand but the although the gates can be beautiful it's not beautiful to go there says that there was a righteous person a sadik that made a minor sin they made a minor sin and the uh they judged them in heaven they told them listen you have to either go to geham for three days or you have to come back and reincarnate come back to this world live a whole life in order to fix this one sin he says no who knows if if I go back to a whole life then maybe I'll sin even more no no let me just go to Gom for three days they said okay fine so two giant Angels came down and started taking them and as he's getting closer and closer to gam it's getting hot and he's starting to suffer and he's not even there yet so much so that he started crying out to Hashem said please please I don't want I don't want let change I'll go back to the world so although the gate may look pretty don't think for a second that it's pleasurable but why is it why why is something like this pretty why is it beautiful because just because this is a place of punishment there's also a benefit to it where not everybody goes to gam forever some people only go for a short period of time because they have minor sins but they still need to remove that spiritual filth off of their n so gam allows them to in essence remove it it's horrible but it's still for a short period of time in order for those people to be taken out and put into heaven now lastly thinks of everything and one of the things that a person can understand is that the punishment for people that go to geham is decreed on them not on anyone that's outside so there's no reason of making the Gate of gam ugly and disgusting because the people that are on the inside that belong in gam won't uh won't suffer from that cuz they're inside the only one that will suffer from the ugly gate will be the ones that are on the outside so why bring them any suffering that they don't deserve where do we learn this type of principle from yadik yadik was sold by his brothers after they threw him into a hole that had no water but it had snakes and scorpions in it after that the brothers sold him and uh on the way the these Merchants bought him and the Torah says that these Merchants had beautiful uh smelling uh things there why most of the merchants in those days that would travel sold things like tar that smelled terrible but made sure that the merchants that bought yourf had perfumes why because if he had tar had something smelling terrible then he would suffer extra and that Hashem did not want him to suffer extra he needed to go and be sold and become the eventually the visoy of Egypt but there was no reason for him to suffer through the process of going there so Hashem made even the journey beautiful same concept here Hashem is not going to have a gate that's ugly where the people that don't deserve it are going to suffer from it next why was it hot then because that it's hot what do you mean why is it hot because the geham is hot there there's two parts of geham there's the geham of fire there's gam of of uh of ice it's it's hot just because the gate is not ugly it's not doesn't mean that it's a place that you should go and visit why are you guys against every race and religion uh we're not against every race in religion uh we are for our Torah and our truth and our Torah and our truth includes anyone that wants to follow our Torah and our truth which if that means that person is coming from from different races welcome in Judaism unlike any other uh uh religion in the world we welcome everybody so if somebody comes from a middle eastern background or a uh a uh africanamerican background or a uh Canadian background or Chinese background or Indian background or Iraqi background or whatever background they're coming in it's irrelevant what matters in Judaism is whether you're following the Torah or not now as far as being against other religions it's not about being against other religions it's about understanding what our purpose in the world is our purpose in the world is to please God and to do everything he said and if somebody out there is getting all the benefits that God is giving them life and and and a uh and sustenance but at the same time instead of praising God and following God they're following some Idol they're following some human being that died 2,000 years ago or some false prophet or something like that that's not going to be someone that we are going to be big fans of because they are desre in the name of our God on a regular basis but the good news is is that actually in this week's par in it's actually the one verse that saves the Christians of the world uh unlike the nations of the past and it actually gives you guys it was a that I had today that gives you a little bit of an understanding of why there are still Christians in the world yet the other nations are not meaning you have the uh the Babylonians the uh the the Spaniards the uh uh not Spaniard the the Assyrians the Romans the Greeks all of these nations of the past they're gone but made sure uh that uh the you know good part of the world is going to have a it's it's going to be Christians and uh and Muslims not because it's allowed to be a Christian or to be a Muslim but rather because the nations of the past were uh not just Idol worshippers uh and enemies of the Tora but many of them were part of Nations that were forbidden from converting even if they wanted to be like Moab and mo the moabites and the midianites and so on so in this week's par tells us I'll tell you guys the exact verse so you guys know from now on second here we go yeah Soh tells us that uh these moabites these midianites they are never allowed to become part of am but the uh do not reject the for he is your brother so the sages explained to us is that even though the are descendants of asav who was the brother of yov and technically they went to war against isra just like the uh midianites and the moabites and technically logically they should also be rejected and never be allowed to be Jewish who has a clear verse in here telling us no don't reject him completely he's your brother meaning that although they went against you the same as the moabites and the midianites they're still descendant from your brother and therefore if they want to come and convert they are allowed so from here we understand that the reason why allowed the Christians to to exist in the world today is because that gives them still an opportunity to abandon their false Faith their idolators faith and convert to Judaism and in fact there's more conversions to Judaism today than any other time in history now most of the people that convert are from Christian faith because they realize that what they have been taught by their parents and their their grandparents is falsehood and they come to Judaism but here we have in the Torah tells us that you know even though technically they were enemies of us uh in the in the uh time of mosenu still since there is this link in ancestry there is a still permission for them to become a uh to become Jews and in fact some of our sages uh came from uh the likees came from the OS uh needless to say as well and many others some of the most righteous people that ever lived came from the uh from adom uh that does not mean that if they stay adome they will uh uh they'll be uh they'll be okay they won't be uh because if you somebody worships an idol and somebody thinks that God is three instead of one uh then certainly this is a person who does not understand the very basics of what God is where he says here Israel Hashem is your god Hashem is one what does it mean Hashem is one he's one and not three and not two and not anything else so and there's nothing else but him so when the New Testament divides God into three it doesn't matter how you put it it's still three and therefore that is a idolatrous needless to say when they humanized God and turned him into some human being uh that uh died and then somehow their entire religion is being uh uh is founded on the uh testimony of a prostitute uh that uh says she saw his grave being empty this is you know literally a mockery of God to think that he's go that God is going to give his holy Torah to is in front of millions of people and then he is going to replace it based on the testimony of a prostitute like anyone that actually un like thinks about this realize how stupid this is like on one hand God gave us Torah the climatic event of all of history that both uh uh Jews and Gentiles believe regardless of whether they're Muslims or Buddhists or or or or or they are uh um Christians Catholics everyone understands that mount sa happened the climatic event of all of history Mount Sai is in front of millions of people God speaks to all of them and this never happened before never happened again no religion ever says that God spoke to even two of them two people at a time needless to say two millions so this climatic event that everybody agrees on everybody believes in somehow God replaced this whole thing with what in the according to the Christians with the testimony of a prostitute and according to the Muslims with some illiterate guy that was in the middle of a desert like anyone that thinks about this logically realizes this cannot be this simply cannot be if you are going to change things and let's say make a new testament or make a Quran at the very least it would be a second mount saai a huge event millions of people but that's the thing the yet the evil inclination makes people not think with their mind but rather think with their heart which leads them to their lusts it's convenient for them to be Christians and Catholics because they're not obligated to do anything because some guy died for them so if they murder if they rape if they're pedophiles if they steal if they commit adultery no worry he died for you you don't have to change just don't do it again oh he did it again all right don't worry about it he died for you oh he killed again don't worry about it you believe in him okay he died for you like there's no end to the stupidity here there's no end but that's the thing so if a person understands the gift that God gave him that he gave him OPP an opportunity an Open Door unlike any other nation that you could convert to Judaism or to very least be a righteous nohide and abandon the false Faith then certainly you you realize that gave you a present and you're taking advantage of it if a person doesn't then whatever judgment they get they deserve M many let's see overboard see two curls the sides it's like say where not sure what you're talking about okay uh let's see I'm Jewish but I wear pants as a girl because I'm more modern like there's different types no my dear there's no such thing as different types there's either righteous or Wicked there's either right or wrong in fact your question is right in time why because your answer is in this week's par wanted you to ask this question or bring it up during the exact Paras the exact Torah portion that talks about it just to show you how Divine the Torah is you have 34,800 letters but yet you asked the question that has to do with this week's Torah portion where in the Holy [Music] Torah may his name be praised chapter 22 verse number five says says says to you my dear daughter the Garb of a man shall not be on a woman and a man shall not wear the Garment of a woman for anyone who does is an Abomination to hasem your God here kadh says you're not allowed to wear pants if you're a woman why it's considered C it's considered the Garment of a man so there's no such thing as I'm more modern than therefore I'm allowed to wear pants there's no such thing why because says no your ABA in says no says no you think yes okay so you know you have a verse in the Torah that you asked at the same exact time that wanted to give you the answer if that's that Divine what is okay the Tik Tock questions have run out I see only uh only comments let's go with some Facebook my friends at Facebook what do you guys got see okay comments comments oh in qu hold second here we go take question can a woman serve as a MH at a grocery store at a restaurant should be a concern if there is no woman can serve as a MH as long as she knows the laws knows what to do there's no problem uh the righteous no hides who go to heaven study tah too uh while they have to study the things that apply to them uh when we wake up what is the correct order for saying mod washing prayer please also is it true that if I wake up in the middle of the night that we must spiritually wash our hands otherwise the tumai is on us we go to the musroom okay so in regards to waking up in the morning a person wakes up in the morning first thing they need to do is say thank you for returning my for having in me to that today is the day that I could do CH this wasn't a literal translation this was an interpretation but you're saying thank youm for bringing back your after you say the next thing you need to do is to wash your hands unless you cannot hold it in you have to go and relieve yourself then you can go and relieve yourself try not to touch your member uh and uh but needless to say go to the bathroom Rel yourself after that you do the that you do is a uh exchanged one one with a take some type of uh Nan uh if you don't have a nan cup a cup a bowl something and you pour a little on the right uh to cover your entire hand on the left then again on the right then again on the left then again on the right then again on the left if you want to be stringent like the Ben you do four after that you do a blessing of after you do then you do the blessing of for relieving yourself if you didn't go to the bathroom yet and you didn't di first you do with the blessing then you go to the bathroom relieve yourself then you do the blessing for the bathroom after that immediately after that don't go to business don't go read the newspaper after that immediately you need to do morning blessings whether you're a male or a female you have to do the morning blessings morning blessings have to be done and then you start your day where if you're a man you go to the synagogue to go pray if you don't have a synagogue or that's local to you or your synagogue local to you is run by Heretics like Manis fredman then you pray in at home uh and over there you have to pray first thing in the morning you're not allowed to eat uh if you're a man you're not allowed to eat until until you pray you're allowed to drink coffeee or tea or water or any other drink but you're not allowed to uh uh eat until you pray and put on to filling if you're a woman you don't have an obligation to uh pray first thing in the morning uh but if you can especially if you're a single woman then you should uh at the very least a woman has to do a once per day once per day if she's praying says she's not obligated to do all the so there's a even if she pray sh she doesn't have to do the whole sh like male like like her husband does but needless to say a woman should pray at the very least the morning blessings if she could also do the in the morning that's a great start to the day after that you could eat you go to work uh and so on uh as far as if you wake up in the middle of the night and uh you need to relieve yourself you need go to releve yourself and you wash your hands without a blessing no blessing is necessary but you uh wash your hands but if you are waking up in the middle of the night to stay up then you need to do a uh so let say again it all depends on uh you know whether you're waking up to go or you're waking up to you know to uh go back to sleep if a person used to have difficulties observing certain mitv but is now accustom and enjoys them is their reward diminished because of the concept according to their pain reward uh yes and no I mean it's a certainly the more difficult the mitvah is the more reward they're going to get but certainly once the person overcomes their difficulties the reward is not going to be lessened before he died and does he gain any marriage for having as a son yes the says says that did but since he did not fix everything he had to be reincarnated and he reincarnated as job uh he reincarnated as job which was a righteous person but still had to endure a certain amount of suffering enormous suffering in this world instead of going to gam and that was the G of and they get it from a verse that uh ter said the same thing to his wife uh that uh that job said to his wife is it allowed to shave the mustache part of the face with a razor since it's not uh a corner uh yeah technically you're allowed to shave the mustache with a razor uh there's no problem but you could also use uh cream if you really uh want to or you could use a buzzer but you can use the razor on the mustache I don't recommend a razor on a mustache or anywhere simply because a person could forget for a moment and shave something else but uh either way if they if they must they can but just the mustache not the uh other uh points on your face which is here here uh here here in the one here um how does it know how do for wasting seed well the first thing that a person needs to do is to stop that's the first thing uh second thing that the person needs to do is to uh apologize for the mistakes that they've made to commit to not sinning and uh certainly if they could help other people stop that is a major Maj benefit if they could uh give uh sta for somebody that's helping people uh do CH for it that's also a big thing uh but uh certainly uh stopping the sin is the biggest in a time of udah why was The Prost why the prostitution was not forbidden but after yes uh well time of Yuda that was before we got the uh the Torah officially we got the Torah officially at Mount sa uh so there was certain things that were allowed at the time of yobu and yob that were not allowed after for example at the time of yob you were allowed to marry sisters as yob himself married sisters uh and uh but after uh we got the Tora we're not allowed to marry sisters anymore so certain things that were allowed to do before uh Mount saai that were not allowed after uh if a Jew owns and lives in a home and there is a known break in a sewer line okay uh on the property and the water will leak into the ground by turning on the faucet if a Jew owns and lives in a home and there is a known break in a sewer line uh on the property and the water will leak into the ground by turning on the faucet is this a violation of Shabbat no this is grma you're not uh uh when you turn on the the faucet of water you're not doing it for the sake of uh watering the ground outside you're doing it for the sake of your hand the fact that something else happens to it is not of your concern it's not your to your benefit uh and there are many different laws that actually rely on such things that make certain things permissible and not sins uh is there any tor Source behind the fact that people Nam their children after deceased living parents or is it something uh people started purely for uh respect of the uh parent uh torosaurus I mean there's a couple of places that we see that uh uh people are discuss naming one of the first place we see it is with Y Tamar y uh we see there that uh the or you know the naming of children is uh typically it's a uh the parents take turns some you know once it's the mom then it's the father then it's the mom again then it's the father there's no obligation to have turns but usually it's they you know if let's say the mom has different preference than the father uh you know it's usually they take turns with the naming and typically it's the uh uh the mother is the first one that names the kid uh but again there's no obligation there uh as far as uh people naming their kids after uh deceased people yeah the sages say that when the in sh and also in that one of the reasons why uh people name kids after people that have died and not people that are alive is because the uh if somebody uh that they are naming them uh died uh and they're righteous they died a righteous person then they uh and but they still have to rectify something and they have to reincarnate when you name the kid after them let's say for examp example somebody named Abraham that was a righteous person died and you want to name your kid after Abraham you name your kid after abah and there's a good chance that Hashem is going to put Abraham that died your great great grandfather in this kid's body meaning it's a Reincarnation of him to Reincarnation of him uh and uh so that n comes back to the world in that kid in that body this is also the reason why writes in never name your kids after Wicked people meaning if you're going to name your kid after somebody it should only be righteous people it should never be uh somebody that's wicked even if it's your father or your mother that that died if they were Wicked if they were not observant of Shabbat if they were not tell if they were not big you know if they were not following the entire T never name your kid after them why because again like I said there is a good chance that the soul will reincarnate and and writes his own own personal Horror Story about what happened to him where before he learned this before he learned this uh he uh there was one time that a uh uh one family member died and uh several people during that year including him and his wife had a CH had a child had a child that year and everybody named that kid after this person that died who was a wicked person who was a wicked person and uh and the first two kids died they named them after this this uh I don't know this guy that died let's just call him I don't know let's call him Nimrod I don't remember the name that he mentioned in there I don't even know if he mentioned a name they called him after name is Nimrod and the kid died shortly after like a month later or a week later died when's son uh was born he was name he named him this uh this name and Raya sat down and he had a vision where he saw the soul of this wicked uh relative of his go into the body go into the body kill it at the Brit mil and come out and then he writes he writes literally he writes with tears that's when I learned that when you name somebody after somebody Wicked you're opening a door for them to go into that uh child's body and if that Wicked person deserves a death penalty that's when they do it they you know they they die as that kid they die as that kid they get a death penalty which they that pays one part of their bill you obviously are the one that suffers out of it and uh so he says never ever name your kids after Wicked people and he says that the next year they had another they had another child because that you know that child died they had another child and that person before the came to in a dream and told him name him after me and told him I'll never name him after you he goes no name him after me have to I'll get angry he says if it's the last uh uh thing I'll ever do I will never name him after you and I'll publicize that nobody will ever name their kids after Wicked people now that I know what it does so he says no but I won't kill him he try to Li him didn't fall for it and that's literally in uh it's all in Hebrew it's called so again as far as naming the kids after righteous people very good idea many times people name uh their kids after righteous people that um are from the tanak like we did in in my family uh but sometimes people you know have righteous people in their family but if you have uh pressure from your family that uh about naming your kid after somebody that just died if they're a wicked person never do it but if let's say you can't handle the pressure see if that name that they have is a is a name of a righteous person in the Torah so for example if you have let's say a uh an ancestor that's named Abraham but he was not a righteous person he was not following the Torah and the whole family wants you to name this guy your kid Abraham and you can't handle the pressure what you do is you can tell them yeah you know we're GNA name him abam but in your mind in your wife's mind is your name abah afteru not R ancestor that you have let them think whatever they want to think as far as you're naming them after R you're not you're naming after it's better to tell them your name in after that coincidentally is also the name of this ancestor but because that it's good to stay away from lies but uh the point is is that uh but if the name that is uh uh this person that you have in your family is not righteous or wasn't righteous uh is not in a tah or it's in a tah but it's only like a wicked person like n or or something like that or I don't know some other strange name of a wicked person in to there's no permission whatsoever to ever name him like that uh that's a never a good idea uh but there are some names that uh are of both Wicked people and righteous people like for example Ishmael there's Ishmael that was righteous and there's RAB Ishmael uh there's a uh there's Alexander MD there's uh you know the Alexander the Great and there's also R Alexander so there's some people some names that have uh you know the uh uh good and bad and if it's good and bad then you can obviously think about the good when you're naming them after the kid but naming is uh is a problem for some people uh you know for me uh you know uh What uh what I always tell people is that if the person is living uh you should not name uh your kids after anyone that's living because like I said earlier the S just say that it's possible for the soul of a person to go into them so if you're naming them let's say for example after your father and your father is alive it's there's there's some sages that say that you could be taking the life of your father meaning your father's life was supposed to be let's say 80 years he's now 60 you gave his name to your son because you want to do your you know be nice to your father for a half a day what you're not realizing that it's very very possible that your son just took 10 20 years out of your father's life and your father could die so never name your kid after someone that's living after they're living Never After people that have died only righteous people and if there's a problem like we said earlier uh you know find a uh righteous person in with that name uh that's that's a good idea and uh and if all fails uh and uh then simply find the name in the toah of a righteous person just name him after that and let everybody scream and yell as much as they want if they want to have the privilege of naming somebody tell them to have another son um my cousin's husband is very close with his brother okay therefore they always rent a large house in Florida during a vacation time and they go together the two families my cousin our husband and their kids and her brother-in-law with his family their parents come too is this allowed to go on a vacation together yeah there's no problem of going on a vacation together as long as they're going to a kosher place and they're doing kosher things if you're talking about if they're living in the same house as long as everybody has their own separate rooms their own separate quarters and there's no is of where you know you're brother stays alone in the house with his uh uh you know somebody that's not his wife uh you know like the other guy's wife you know that would be a problem but if they're you know if they're all next to their sleeping in their own quarters and their own rooms and there's no issues of immorality no no problem but uh again it's it depends depends K it's too General to know the details to to answer with details uh the righteous Gentiles have both G Eden and the world to come what type of sins cause a gentile Eternal Gom as far as uh you know them having Gan edin yes but uh their Gan edin is very limited it's not like it's not it's Nota like the Jews it's not even ganeden like the Jews it's the lower level of ganeden um and uh more details will probably make people upset so I'll refrain from telling you the rest of the details uh what should one do with the eggs or fledging after sending away uh the mother bird what should he do with them um keep him or you could put him back but if he puts him back the mother was not going to take him but he could keep him um how does a wayward son do CH uh do they have a chance if they were deemed such if it's at the time of the tah uh they were wayward son and it was already decreed by the bed they would get death penalty the has a whole segment about the Wayward Sun uh but if they were decreed Wayward Sun at a specific time then they would get death penalty I Raa you are my saor why do I feel like I'm trying so much and I still don't feel fulfilled uh whatever you're trying do more the uh the way the way that a person gets the the sweetness of the Tora is by toiling over it if you're toiling and it's you're not getting it then you have to toil more toil more do it more and it takes time it's not uh it's not drugs that uh as soon as you put something in your system you get some fake uh feeling it's uh something that you have to earn the Torah is like a woman you know if if she's a respectable honorable woman uh she's not simply going to uh uh show you everything and give you everything uh on day one only only uh you know people that don't value themselves do such things uh the Torah is only going to allow you to enjoy uh the the pleasing sweetness of Torah if you really show that you love the Torah with deeds and as well with learning her okay let's see okay we answered that okay let's see we have you go I need a Hebrew name for my son who is born in January obviously we are doing AIT uh the uh say that the U parents get a partial n 160th of a 160th of a prop prophecy after a child is born with a name that's already uh in essence um fit for that baby from from heaven uh so usually you know Parents try to prepare with a baby name before the kid is born but that's really just uh for not it's a waste of time because you can prepare let's say a list of a 100 names narrow it down to five names and you have five names and then the baby is born and all of a sudden you you don't like these five names you don't like these five names and all of a sudden a name that you didn't even think about not out of the five and not even out of the hundred comes out and it's perfect fit for that perfect fit and that's the name from that's a partial n that's a partial prophecy and it happens to parents especially ones that are close to hem and it happens to us we had a uh uh each kid we uh we gave him a name from from the Tora but uh one of our kids uh we had a completely different plan of uh the name that we're going to give the kid but as soon as he was born all of a sudden not me or my wife had this this name was gone and I all a I came up with this different names like we never even thought about this name until now and as we saw him grow up we see like this literally is the each one of them is the perfect name perfect name for that person it's like the name fits the personality so the key is to pray a lot to do do do a lot of good things and you're gonna feel the different messages from sh of speaking through your throat thank you very much for watching for learning for doing all the wonderful things that we're doing together anyone that wants to support and help us 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