Ki Seitze - You Can Do It | Rabbi Dovid Orlofsky

hi this is D lowski welcome to the par and five where in five minutes we try to give you an insight into the par to be able to enhance your shabas we go off to battle against our enemy and as many of the ma point out The zya KES says whenever it says we're going to battle all battles are a archetype for the battle against theor the only reason we need to fight physical Wars is because we need to fight internal Wars if we didn't have to fight internal Wars we wouldn't have to fight external Wars and that's why in beginning of parim M says we weren't supposed to fight any wars we were going to March into itell and all of the enemies would either die or flee but he they will fly away they will die no one will stand before us we did not need any weapons after the of the maragam since we uh defeated ourselves now we had to go and fight a physical battle but you never have to fight a physical battle unless it's a representation of an inner battle so there's a lot of inner battles but the parure starts with the following story what's the following story um you go out to battle and you see a a beautiful uh woman and you are filled with desire for this woman so we say well don't take her here's what you should do take her home let her mourn her parents for 30 days let her take off all her fancy clothing put on simple clothing let her sit in your house and if after that you want to marry her you can marry her whether she needs Gus or not whole discussion and then can Mar is this ideal of course not ideal and that's why the next paraa comes up and talks abouta rebellious son because of you Mar in this woman you took in battle you'll end up with a child who's rebellious because you didn't get married for the right reasons so why does the Torah allow it if it's such a bad thing and the answer is say the Torah was talking to thear if I don't find some way for you to have this woman permitted you will find some way to have her that is not permitted use your imagination yeah there's a way to be able to have this woman without being in a permitted way so we say okay better to do it this way is it the right way to do it no but I'll give you a way because the Bali mus have a keen Insight this is the only time that you find that the Torah tells you of course your y has control over you in a battle when the blood is uh burning inside of you and the Cry of the battle and the you know the horses are thundering and The Clash of sword on Sword and the passions are high you're in a vulnerable state and you might end up making a poor decision so we will give you a way to be able to deal with it if you're smart you'll realize your mistake before it's too late but if not you follow through with it at least we'll let you have so to speak paspali the bread is in your basket there's a way to do this permitted say the Bal you learned from this an important lesson everything else you can do people say well these Mitzvah are too hard obviously not because no other place did the Torah say I understand this is too hard for you so I will give you an exemption you don't have to keep it this is the only place which means everything else you can do and it's a very important Insight because we spend so much time arguing our limitations what we can't do we don't spend enough time arguing what we can do or as I always say as we are in El and the talk about chuva we have to remember that when we make AES and we see where we fallen short just remember that just because I haven't done everything doesn't mean I haven't done anything and although here is an example of something that is outside of my ability that means that everything else is inside of my ability now again where you are holding at this point in your life you have to be realistic change takes time you have to work towards it but eventually you can achieve it if in fact you accept for yourself the fact that I am capable and if I focus on the ability of what I can do so the things that I can't do are the exceptions and that will help us to change become the people we want to be chabas