Rav Yehuda Wagshal The Struggling Yeshiva Bachur Identifying the Roots

okay the topic of today's session is discussing the roots of the challenges that and the struggles that I see the buffer faces in today's generation and the truth is we could really break down the different types of struggles into two parts and I'll start maybe with the words that I heard one time be shamed the souther represents al that he was speaking about a virus that people do unfortunately people are Nick shell sometimes innovators and the samurai bizarre cell said that there are certain of areas that the person was over so he has Bemis Paulo he has the davender - marco / Looney / la nube forgive me for this Avera but the sambar ever said that there are certain of errors that a person has to be misspelled on that / la no rather person has to dabble in refine a new because sometimes a person doesn't availa cause he has a Sahara and he was Mitchell and nivara and sometimes a person doesn't have a rot because there's something sick is something in his neshama in his nephesh that needs a reform so for those type of averey's you have to the davon refrain you know I would say we could similarly break down if we discuss the different struggles of the Shiva buckler and I'm talking about you sugar bomb it's very possible that's what I deal with but it's very possible similar things with girls also but if we break down the struggles of each shoe the blocker we could also break it down into two parts there are certain struggles which we could call standard regular struggles that is Shiva baka faces specifically in our generation and we have to look for the proper tools and strategies and methods to be MacIsaac and try to help try to help him help himself face and cope with the struggles that he's dealing with and there's another category in the struggles which is a category of refrain there are certain things that Ramana let's LAN bokram people face certain challenge and the struggles is due to a day only a certain sickness a failing nefesh something sick is in the Shama in his nephesh that really needs therefore the real main topic of course of the Shabbos is of the second part of the struggles that deal with more refining the struggles and the challenges that go that a lot of children a lot of people are going through which is coming the roots of it is they is familiar for this refrain you know that's the real main topic of course of the Shabbos but it was decided to discuss also at least in the beginning some of the regular struggles and I'm not necessarily the Makar the root of them is not a highly the root is not something that easier for the regular standard struggles that a sugar blocker goes through and maybe sometimes by understanding and giving them the kale and the tools had a view that has faced these struggles and these challenges that could avoid and prevent it from leading to the type of struggles and challenges that are referring though that they really need or a fool so that's what we're going to talk about the stand they're never refer I know the very deep refer a new type struggles and challenges rather we'll call the most standard struggles and challenges that you Shiva bhakta might face it's well known that every generation is faced with uniqueness - unique challenges unique gates of hers that in a different generation it might not be an issue at all for example in the early 1900's in America so there was a very big Messiaen of schmira Shabbos if a person had a job and he wouldn't show up on Shabbos that's it some day has to look for a new job again and it was a real Missoni either a job of Parrinello food on my table or Shabbos and it was a real mess Orion for people there was a real problem that was anis Uranus of the early nineteen hundred's in a matter in New York that's not the Derek loud the Messiah in our generation in in Europe pre-war Europe there was a great Messiah a great Sahara in your shiva's of Haskalah it was real a real danger that a buffer especially the smart intellectual doctrine could be wrapped up and from the reform movement from Escala that was the Messiah then amongst other the silliness that's not the noose or urine or the eggs ahora of our generation that's not what we're dealing with but every generation has its unique - its unique challenges what's the Nestorian for a child growing up in our generation what's the new Zion for a Shiva buffer in our generation what's the unique it's ahora and the tsiyon so of course the first thing that will come to everybody's mind what's the unique Messiah and what's the unique Yates are in our generation is the jnanam of kedusha and were children there's so much exposure to so many inappropriate things it's exposure weather just walking down the street its exposure in all different forms of Technology what they're able to see what they have access to what's available and that's kedusha that's a tremendously it's ahora and a tremendous issue of our generation the hallmark a great hallmark of Carla's role was always the kedusha and those walls of kedusha are crumbling in front of our eyes and that's for sure a tremendous Messiaen and a tremendous gates ahora that our youth they're not only are used everyone is dealing with and struggling with but if I could've uncle gave man has been a salient of our dog this messiaen of the door before I'm it's a sham that's called excessive the Machine car robbery say no the Godot glycerol already revealed years ago that were living in Ephesus the mashita if a college bar who gave such a a strong Messiah in such a difficulty such a it Sahara that so many people are struggling with and dealing with and it's and it's tearing and bothering so many people it has to be away has to be some tools had a deal with it what what are those tools and we all know say no forbidding it and not allowing it that doesn't work in the generation that we're living in so one other to what are we supposed to do my yasser ben volio yeah stuff like it says in the Gemara what are we supposed to do facing the tremendous amount of availability and the pen and and and and and and all the pizza in the walls of kedusha that were facing that call you sir all is facing well what could be what could be the tools to deal with this so i want to say a few ideas that i noticed from my experience dealing with buckram and i think it's a very very important thing this interesting thing i'll start like this it's a very interesting thing i saw once in one of the forum that brought down different area of the film of going that he also even though he lived over 200 years ago but he also spoke about that in the last door before Messiah comes they'll be specific gate Sahara like every generation as it will be its aura of the last door before Messiah comes the dark it first in the Machine car and and what did the Grasse what did the film they're going say what is that yech Sahara you'll be surprised he didn't say kedusha he didn't say technology he didn't say seeing and being involved in inappropriate things he said something else the gross said that the main misogyny needs ahora of the generation before Messiah comes he exa Hara of Devoran bakalyan Varma tell me the one place he also says together with Russian army Taylor means just being about in nothingness instead of learning Bittle tire and not learning which is important significant things being about it nothing that's verbatim and also he says the one place says washing Marah now but a little toy is very important thing Masha Nora of course is a terrible thing but how could the girl if he's speaking about the Missy Amos the challenges of the last dollar before Michelle how could he leave out the most obvious thing that all people are dealing with right here in front of our eyes the anonymous kedusha heck of a girl leave that out so I want to explain something very deep the kimono says that I'm not talking about Lashon Hara for a second the kimono says that Russian hora is a unique availa it's different than other Affairs normal are various that a person does it's because he has enough from it he enjoys it whatever it might be all the layers involve some type of enjoyment the Gomora says emotion horror there's no enjoyment maja the battle Russian what hello does the battle Russian air is no I'm not the Comerica bears it just like the nosh a snake has no ha no from its food it's offered its dirt so awesome and all about a Russian he has no I'm not there's no enjoyment from saying loshon Hara so if there's no enjoyment so why do people say WOW Shannara what's the big thing and Masha Nora's major problem especially in the generation that were living with especially with all the social media Russian era has has taken the turn for the worse over the last 10 years why do people say motion and sometimes feel do feel good about the Russian order that they said but the Gemara says there's no enough in Russian our people don't enjoy it the answer is as follows and here's the point how could the powerful created every single person with a need he has an emotional need but saw your snap she a need to feel good about himself to feel successful a person has a need of thirst to feel good about himself to feel successful to feel much Lea and it's very good that I Shen gave that to us because that's what really motivates us to succeed that motivates us to do something we don't want to feel a failure we don't want to feel a loser we want to feel nicely I want to feel successful so we all have that need a thirst a person is created by nature that is a thirst I want to feel good I want to feel good I want to feel successful let's say you have a person that for whatever reason he doesn't feel it he doesn't feel any success in what he's doing doesn't feel at slava it doesn't feel good about what he's doing so he has this thirst he has this need I must feel successful and it's not coming to any fulfillment he's not filling it up so what does he do such a person is in danger of turning to loshon Hara why Russian hora is a artificial way of feeling good about yourself I have nothing I couldn't find anything that I'm doing to feel good about so I look around by everybody else I'll see his problem I'll see his problem I'll see his problem I'll see her problem I'll emphasize it in my mind not only that I'll talk about it to other people and I'll see their problem as if kylo I don't have it and by then to fill that need a feeling ok about yourself that's the danger of Russian or an empty person needs the same Lashon Hara someone who's full and he feels good about himself he feels great he has no need not only to speak the words of Russian era he has no need to see everyone else's problems why do I see all these other problems and everybody else and then more than that the need to share it with other people also what why is that that's because one who's empty inside needs to find this artificial way of filling himself up also that's what the grow that's what the filmer going really meant maybe in the depth that be ixora of our generation is the ixora he put on one of the things he born was no Shannara it's not just the same russian and that's terrible but the exact are a better generation of the messiaen of our generation is the feeling of detachment the feeling of emptiness the lack of fulfillment that we get from our Yiddish night there could be many many people that are doing the motions very well they could be deafening there to be learning I'm talking about those that are in your Shiva deafening and learning but they're disconnected they're not feeling and they doing the feat Sonja's externally they do emotions but the creamiest is running on empty and when the previous is running on empty were in a problem because they're gonna search and look for something else to fill that need that need a feeling okay about themselves and that sometimes could be Russian ARA together with that he's also what the group called forum to tailor the forum battalion and especially the Nestorian that we was thinking about before of the unum of kedusha of tithe of inappropriate things that that's a major problem in the generation it's not a it's a hora only of Taizo it's not just the union of ty bad either and have to go do that that's not just what it is it's something much deeper somebody who feels unaccomplished inside of himself he feels empty is running on empty inside of himself he's gonna search to try to fill himself up on something for one person it might be by knocking everyone else so I feel like something and by other people it will turn to other artificial things of filming themselves up and making them feel good and that's the inappropriate things that they might turn to the main lake Sahara the main Messiah in the main struggle I wouldn't identify as a struggle of taifa that's maybe what brings them there but that's not the main thing the main thing is the running on empty if you would have a person that felt close to what he's doing he felt accomplished from what he's doing he felt full from what he's doing he already has the tools that are necessary to withstand the tremendous Messiaen that surround him someone who's running on empty and he's offered something right in front of his face with a click of a button with just walking down the street something that could give him that momentary artificial feeling of good so Maya had been Veloster what could he do but if we're able to instill in ourselves and in our children a feeling of accomplishment they're full and they're accomplished max Leah and the satisfied with themselves it's still not easy there's still things going on around them but they already have the tools they have the kaylynn to be miss smoother to deal with it at the Galen they're full they don't have that thirst of just filling themselves up on nothing whether it's drug bakalyan the eco problem of all the taifa around us is that the forum became a problem filling yourself up on nothing instead of being full on what a person really needs to be full of his anishka destroyer and his mitzvahs his dad for me that really has the potential of filling us up and giving us the ability to fight against the Smithsonian and stand up to the Smithsonian and this v8 Sahara that's the union of the Nestorian of our door so if one identify and I'm gonna speak about it more the roots of what our buff from what our children and sometimes us also are struggling with is the feeling of connection the feeling of cominius so many people are doing the acts doing the motion but they're lacking the panini's advocate so Gnaeus without the penis they have the bit disconnected from what they're doing and because of that they have no tools to deal with everything that's going on so what's unique about this generation I think is this disconnect and I see it so many times by Baccarin you could have a block around talking about Bach about doing the right thing they're learning their deafening and they're doing the right thing they wanna do the right thing but they're they're disconnected very often that's the interesting thing I remember when I was a banya Sheva 30 or 35 years ago so different kinds of pogrom they were somber whom they have a really great boyfriend they weren't good they died properly they did good things and they that's all they did they wouldn't be caught ever going to a movie and things like that the boys weren't so good and they would go they would go through things that are inappropriate it was two classes and there's something that I've seen years not just me you could have a book that sits and learns three started a three star birthday he learns and he's serious about his learning and he learns well and he becomes the nominee but after all of those three started he'll go back to wherever he is and I'll do things that are inappropriate the same Bachmann's doing the good things are doing those things that are inappropriate afterwards as far as I know when I was younger that was not so common the ones who were doing and I mean everyone always had things that they had to deal with but that that would be kalo my schita that's the way I my life I learned to be started and I do what I want and night more benna's Manon or other times i do i do what i want them also and the thing two things could coexist that wasn't so common a while ago what changed I think and also more than that the Messiah sharp says and it speaks about a lot of smaran that is a very important you saw which is called happiness Murasaki Sonia the missile session says that usually who are the people that keep the toy and keep the mitzvahs with Jesus with the Shmack with enjoyment other people who have inside of them a very strong desire and a fire in their heart towards Telemachus those are the people that are doing it and the fire inside his heart will cause him to do the dodging again the learning and the Missis with Bhishma can enjoy it but the seal session says it could go the opposite way also if a person in his heart is not ignited his heart is dull his heart is not so into it if he would do the pool eye socket sinus he would do the l word outside actions with patient with the schmuck with fire there will also ignite the fire in his heart v Aeneas is Maury the premiership speaks at a lot of times so how could it be how could you have a buffer that's learning three star min there and this is unfortunately common not not everybody of course this is one of that said he came through through but there is a common thing of a person who could be doing the right thing he's doing it sannyas so why isn't it more resistant amias one is it ignite a fire in his heart and help him not helping be unlit in the tsiyon when it comes to the night when it comes to Manas man the answer is because it's true it's sonia's is my rapini meais that's it fear is a penis if there's a penis if there's a connected to me meais towards what you're doing but it's not in fire then what you do will ignite it that spark and put it on fire but if there is no spark if everything I'm doing is fit so nice if all I'm doing is free time is all I'm doing is just because that's what you know that's what you gotta do otherwise I'll be in trouble otherwise my hippie will be angry on the mice appearance will be hanging up just doing because I wanna have to do and I had no spark of penis so the fix on us has nothing to do a person see Sonia's could be my worst enemy as if he had the connection he has the base connection then it's more than a person on fire will take the spark and ignite it on fire but a lot of people now are even missing that spark and it's all Caecilius that's what it is I've spoken this about in public to bokram in yeshiva many times and then all just nodding their head the bottom a lot of times feel even though they're doing the right thing but there are a lot of people that feel the lack of me is the lack of that spark of genius so what do we do if that's identifying the issue the disconnect the emptiness that not fulfillment and what we're doing so what's the answer what's the eights I had to how do we deal with that I want to say over a very very interesting thing that I saw brought down the shame I'm not going to measure Stambaugh ashleeta Masha stambha was is uh is a great great grandson of the film agoing and he spoke out a Cibola that he has about a story a famous story that happened with the grub the Vilma going and it's time that were crying no kind of illusion er as is well known he is the father of the issue the system that we have now in the world yeshiva system is based on what reliable ocean are set up and before they decided to open his first yeshiva in vulajin he went to his Rebbe the grub and he asked him permission could I open his shoe he wanted to open his Sheba with a dormitory and and you should feel like we know it today and the girl refused and he said no you can't open eeschema it's not the way to do it and then time left they didn't open issue but it came back two year later and he again answered the gruff and the way it goes is the grub cried by the conversation with the prime vulajin he cried and then he agreed on a prime open his issue is she must pollution what happened over there one year he said no came back he cried and then he'd agreed what happened so there's different versions but much she said that he has a coppola and his family that what happened was like this before a client promotion to opened is his Shiva involution so how was the red be in town but there was no your Shiva's managed to Assam maybe but the system wasn't like it was what was it now it was in every city and every town in Europe it was a rough and they're abundant then were very very big for me to comment and if it would be a child wherever he lived that was capable to be a Talmud and become great in his learning they would send his parents would send them to learn by that rough learned by that rough very Shiva where would the children stay we were the tummy them stay in the house of the rough and he would they would eat by the meals of that road and they would live with him as part of the family and the mirror they would also spend the day learning Torah with him also and that's the way the third was cast on from ready to Talmud it wasn't an institution of the Shiva he was in the framework of the family lives me together with her up eating with her up living with the rub like the rugs children like the rabies children and through that he gave over the time the girl said if you open in the Shiva your institutionalizing the mysterious attire the toy I can't be given over that way the tire has to be given over that the relationship between a rabbit and a Talmud gives like the relationship of a father and a son machine anthem of an ephah a cuz i'll tell us that talmidim are also called bunin if you stick the tummy then into institution called the yeshiva and you give Shigure and you teach them Tyra where's the button you teach in the Turner where's the bunin the derrick of Messina Saturn has to be mission anthem the Vanessa a little maiden and that's the way it was then the Talmud came and he Manish leaves with the Rebbe he was part of the Reddy's life the Rebbe was totally part of his life all the time and that's the way he grew and he grew and Tyler and the girl wasn't masking to open eeschema that way and he sent him away now pine came back a year later and what happened this is rubbish I said rapine told him that true but the dilma going said is true but there's a danger if we're not going to take action now it's not happening but the Roma going saw as the ideal way of nefarious a failure is not happening and and less people are sending tell me them to learn by the rebus and there's a danger that the tower will be forgotten and this is what has to be done Ishida has to be opened when the grower that he cried that's what he was crying about he was crying about this change that's about to take place instead of the tire being given over in that framework as machine anthem live Anelka it's gonna become more institutionalized and from that he cried but no choice a slash a slash and my favorite thing a circle and agree that should open issue of illusion that's what a mission and I should leave to smoke out his Kabbalah he's in the soya I what happened with her kind if true the sheep is now a more institutionalized snap the Talmud living by the Rebbe but when a Talmud is living by a Rebbe like his son so then the Talmud is not just learning someone else's Tyra I'll say one more time Tyra first it says in the pus akin to Helen key in Bucyrus hashem website Hoover say Rosa yeah give young man from Layla the post success first came between us at Chemeketa site a person should want to learn is that Shem who visa rostral yeah government mother Leila Rashi says it some cuts out when a first person first starts learning he's learning Tyler /m Misha or Melba when he invest time and effort into it and toil it becomes ty recite it becomes his own tire it sounds like Hassan are telling us there's something lacking in terror accession it's not good enough to learn Cyrus I said yes to learn you are Tyra what's wrong with Twitter session what could be great in the toilet session I'm learning a sham story what is happening Moira the terrace is because it's extremist a sham it's not you in order for a person to connect and have the player fill his continious fill himself of success villain self with feeling accomplished for himself the person has to be try raw soy a person feels success from his own things he doesn't feel the success from other people's things if all these learning is Taurus Hashem it's a beautiful thing but it's not mine what does that to do with me I'm getting a mitzvah I'm getting scar very nice but it's not gonna fill my need my first of filling myself with my own success and that's why it has to be keen beside recession Leslie was a wrestler yoga my m'lila it has to be you or Tyra when before the institutionalization of your shiva's the Tyra was tiger outside it was my life I'm living with this Rabi I'm eating by a stable he's taking care of me like his children and I'm learning with him this is Calle no this is my red B's life this is my life it's all about me it's not just Twitter session it's me and because of that people were more successful the group cried that once the yeshiva is institutionalized like always people discuss is this book or good the Shiva is the good for the Shiva it's not good for this ship it damages the Shiva it became an entity in and of itself called via Shiva but the real the real focus has to be on the person kimba's a recession crimson to say Russell Yagyu lillah it can't be just a recession we can't be just playing outside Shiva it has to be clear uh sorry yeah Gary another Lyla when it's yours then you'll start viewing the pious and the successfulness that a person has from history and from a Jewish kite it's all the same thing there is a beautiful thing that I saw Pro down from the Zara Kurdish the Sawyer says that when Adam Aveeno wanted to bury his wife sorrow so he decided to bury our Marisa Mikayla the Sawyer says why we choose Marisa Mikayla because he saw a light coming out of Marisa Mikayla he saw a light and he realized this is the place that's ROI for true sorrow you saw that light and the seller asked a very interesting question why didn't ever see that light desire says if ever would have seen that light he never would have sold the Morrison of Fela why why didn't he see the light so desire says because the Morrison of Taylor even though physically Efrain was severe at that point but it was really a maken that was destined for Adam of he knew it was out of a Venus place and the seller says ain't heard of her miss gala ella la bailiff the true beauty of something is only revealed to its owner Adam Levine who was destined to own Marisa Mikayla he saw something beautiful in Marisa McKay lease on a slant ever it was an outsider he couldn't see it the cloud it's the same thing if you learnt IRA of you keep mitzvos or if you're you - guy is 20s a shame or Tyra sorry Shiva try us already but it's not yours you'll never see the beauty and if you don't see the beauty it will fill your inner Plinius they will always remain as something something distant imported but distant from me such a person has the danger of remaining empty and like we explained before an empty person looks for other things to fill himself up so the job what I feel of a Rebbe and a parent is even though yes now you Shiva's are institutionalized but a person has to find the way that the town but the child feels the Tyra is Tyra site it's his Tyra it's not just the Rebbe starting a sham story even the parents Tyra it has to be tire size Charles Toya and sometimes through the way that the learning the Gemara is learnt in the Shiva's people connect tuned and they get very involved sometimes you have a very very common problem that the debtor Colima what will call that's being taught in your service there is a percentage of Bufferin that they can't connect to it that way that it's being told that Lum does that depth doesn't talk to them properly sometimes it's because there's not enough personal attention to explain it properly and sometimes it doesn't just talk to them it doesn't talk to them Manish like it talks to other people because of that they feel empty a Rebbe and if not the Rebbe the parent has the job of showing the Talmud this is something that is Shayan to you even if the the whole depth that you're learning in your Shiva is not exactly your style but you know the Gemara should taste this you know something that's kaval big that's tremendous showing that's also taro say sometimes he feels like an outsider because he doesn't feel that he's connecting to what the Ashima is exactly offering we have the job as a Rebbe and parents if the red is not doing the job to help show the child and we can connect and make it tell us a and it's not just about the learning it's with all different parts of you disguise whether it's Shabbos whether it's down to me whether young employees in other mitzvahs Toyo sign it's our toy it's the child's toy up and that's able - give him the Kalin of fighting and dealing with all of the accessories around him I want to mention another point that as parents we're all able to do what a child sees in the home that is growing up what is really really important to our family what's our family Peale's a part of the family what's really really important to our family he knows yeah his parents for sure about shemish endoderm it says keep all the business but what's really important sometimes you can have a family that were planning a vacation with planning a trip and we're talking about it for weeks and months before and making all the plans all the money that's being spent and everything and plans are talking about and it's great nothing was anything wrong with that but obviously if we're spending so much time talking about that that's important to our family if we would talk about things in Yiddish light that way also not just yeah I thought the matter ah I put the mats in this place something I want to bake it I went to watch the baking or it observe it and and you see that you the children see that your best toy interest money talking about it this is important this is a major topic of ala family an ethnic I'm talking about even before the learning in s3 and that's maybe but necessary whatever the shoe game necessary took it even look at it and I use it if a person is involved in is that's where'd you go forget I went to this place I don't like it exactly I brought it to a rope to check it he said I forget 100 and it's a whole topic I spent extra money I was gonna spend this amount I saw this beautiful one I decided to spend even more if that's the talk in the home so the child identifies himself this is important this is not just telling us I shan't have to be yolks in my Mitzvah and I'll do it have to be 8c my learning I'll go do it this is this is ours this is our project this is my father's Brad is my mother's project this is ours this is our family's thing that's not just a recession that's to yourself next is a new such a person is able to connect to this way in a way of previous and the way of depth a way of filling himself up a feeling and good about himself so I think if if we wanna identify the root of the tremendous machinist that our youth and our adults are also faced with the tremendous machinist the root of the issue is not just either the root of the issue is disconnect is emptiness if a person will feel connected and full and satisfied and must live with what he's doing in his Yiddish guy he right away has the tools of dealing with the tremendousness illness that he's bombarded with all the time he has to feel that me me estoy rasoi his old tire inaudible miss gana el Allah bailiff and that is the job of a Rebbe in in lieu of the Rebbe a parent has to see to it whether it's in the learning itself whether it's in the Yiddish Mike himself in the whole picture of years guys this is ours once it's ours it becomes part of the penis in a governess got out of the bailiff and that gives the tools to deal with the struggles and challenges of our day