Rabbi Yitzchak Schwartz

the dibulim not only of myself but of all the presenters and all the participants you love they should exactly fit the rats on hashem what we hear what we speak and what we don't do and what we don't speak you yellow sing we're going to speak about pain there's a huge amount of pain in in this building huge amount of pain and we need comfort we need comfort and we need to learn how to deal with it from a perspective of terror there's a lot of wonderful professionals here and they know what they're talking about but it was always my strong viewpoint that we need to seek the remedy for our pain directly from terror the torah brings refore to the goof and to the nephesh the pain that most of us are suffering is isura and nephesh pain of the nephesh and nothing is closer to the terror than the nephesh the entire torah addresses the nephesh as we see in sephiroth when people make a sin commit a sin it says then the shaman never does sin only the nephesh that's the part of the roohnias of our being that's closest to our physical being the roohneys of our neshomer that's closest to our bodies to what we feel to what we sense with our flesh and blood is the nephesh the terrorist i'll start with uh you know the the morris says many times it's as a saying that was a common saying at the time as people say so what do we care what people say she said you know if something becomes accepted and famous and everybody knows it and everybody speaks like that there's something in it for us so in the entire world we know no pain everybody says no pain no gain but if we don't understand what the gain is going to be then the pain is excruciating so there's a big message here but the men know this also but if i ask the women what's the most painful experience you ever had in life it will be what giving birth there's nothing more painful than giving birth and the torah says after a woman gives birth she has to bring a corbin she has to make a sacrifice why because as she's giving birth feeling the excruciating pain of giving birth she takes an oath i'll never i swear i'll never do this again i swear i'll never do this again it's so exclusive i never i never did it but but even though we have can i know a lot of kids but my wife wasn't a screamer and she didn't ever swear but i heard the bed's around the room's around people are screaming and yelling and but she brings a corbin because right after she gives birth first of all she forgets that she took that oath that she swore but then later on she realizes that she swore that she would never give birth again because it was so excruciating it was so painful but she regrets the oath when does she regret the oath when she holds the baby when she calls the baby to her body and sees what the pain produced she regrets having sworn that she'll never give birth again no pain no gain but if we don't know the gain the pain remains excruciating but if we do know the gain yeah while we're going through it it still hurts it still hurts nobody gives birth without pain it still hurts even with epidural it hurts but when we know the purpose of the pain we can bear it we can make sense out of the pain and turn the pain into a gain so i'm going to learn with you but being share with you um you know rabbi rabbi russell and i are friends for close to 50 years and many many uh cases and issues that he deals with we have caruses on so he has of course the professional background which i do not have but i'm an action i'm stubborn about this position that whatever is really good for the nephesh has to come from the torah so we have a wonderful havrusa a wonderful relationship where rabbi russell will bring up the the issue bring up the problem bring up the the conflict and together i'll try and find where in the turret do we have the keys to deal with this situation so i'm going to share with you my thoughts which are not my personal thoughts everything i say is a three-part series everything i say is from the torah and i'll bring you the sources for everything that i say maybe i think into them a little more than other people do on the in this area and i think the insights will be essential are essential for every parent so that's why rabbi russell asked me to come speak here there's three parts if you come just to one part it's like going to the doctor with a major headache and he gives you tylenol and you go home i said wow the tylenol is great takes away my headache so it does work but comes right back it comes right back so you need a deeper study of what is causing the headache and after you find what causes the headache you need to find the remedy of the root cause not just to take away symptoms so the first part of the series which is starting today if if you don't come i'm welcome to go wherever you want and you can hear it afterwards on the video it's being videoed but just a warning and disclaimer this is the tylenol this first session the first session we're going to deal with understanding this understanding our pain on some level what we can do with it immediately the second stage is learning how to accept it understanding why are our children suffering why are our children suffering and why are we suffering with them why do we have to be in such excruciating pain together with with them couldn't i have what they call the autopilot child that sadik is born with the rain and the shome up here in the shaman he just goes from zero to sixty and ten seconds like a car and becomes the tsariki soyuz by the time he's bar mitzvah instead i got this why do we have to suffer we're going to learn how those two elements come together at the crossroads i'm choosing my words carefully we're going to go to the crossroads together where our children's pain and our pain meet and why do they meet there and finally the last stage is okay what do you do with this where do i go where do i go with this so it's three stages one is understanding the second is acceptance through understanding and finally tikkun what i do with it how can i use this i didn't say fix it we have no control over anybody in the world except ourselves and how levi we'd be able to control ourselves there are no guarantees of results on anybody else but ourselves this session and the other two sessions different from many of the sessions are taking place this weekend the shabbos it's about you not about your children it's about you parents what do i need to do with my life where do i need to head with the baggage that i'm carrying with me i have to get past the crossroads have to move on i need direction and that's where we're headed for how to make tikkun means how to deal with it properly productively in a meaningful way so that the gain from the pain outweighs the pain much of some of the things that i'm going to say you know avi abby fischoff is not here right now but abby fischoed has this thing called tp is everybody familiar with that tp he calls it twisted parenting i think there's a a workshop after after shabbos starting sunday or monday tp anybody who hasn't gone to it it's worth going to obvious made remarkable remarkable progress and success in this area of teaching parents how to deal with their situation what's going on in their homes i am going to speak about tt somehow they like roche tables here in this country tt what's tt one thing is tt is twisted torah there's twisted parenting and there's twisted torah i don't mean it like he does twisted torah by twisted parenting is a good thing by him his approach twisted parenting is a good positive thing but twisted tara is poison so some of the things i'm going to say is going to come up in conflict seeming conflict with what you may have heard or may hear out there so i beg your indulgence there's a lot of twisted torah there's a lot of people who present the torah and teach the torah with a twist of their own and it's not true and when i say it's not true let's say a small example if i have a cracker and i put on a peanut butter what broccoli do you make missourinus what about the peanut butter it's a charcoal it's tofil the peanut butter is secondary to the cracker if somebody comes and tell you no you make a chahaco because of the peanut butter it's true the broccoli peanut butter is a charcoal but it doesn't apply here because that's not the issue the peanut butter is not the issue it's the cracker that's the issue there's so much tt out there of taking the tough of the secondary and putting it as the primary that we don't see things straight anymore we're going to talk about that all finally oily mitsubishi if there's time maybe at the end we're going to try to address the issue which is a burning issue in klauso just now these past few days the the horrible situation of that was brought about behind valder's suicide and there's so much confusion uh and so much damage has been done in a matter of days tommy's so old oiling me i know i'll be attacked for what i'll say so i'm not going to say it now so the attack doesn't begin before shabbos okay where there's pain there is not only a gain but where this pain is a plan there is no play pain without plan ain't nobody even stubs his toe without a heavenly decree in heaven they don't make mistakes if you stub your toe somebody is thinking about it in shamayim and deciding now you need to stub your toe if you stick your hand in your pocket you have three quarters in your pocket you have the parking meter you need four quart excuse me you need three quarters you have three quarters in your pocket you need three for the parking meter so you stick your hand in and you got all the three quarters in your hand and as you're pulling your hand out one quarter falls back into your pocket unknowingly and you start putting the quarters in the meter and whoa where's the third one and you get upset oh and you check your pocket again and oh okay there's the third because that's the asurim do you know what that means that means that a bonus loan is in our pocket that's how close he is to us we are micro managed nano managed to the smallest detail there's no pain without plan we've got to get that into our heads and into our hearts there's no pain without plan there's our protest for us there's our parties for our children and everybody else who's affected by it it's with a written exact plan we're going to learn from david melech what do you do with this pain that's what we're going to talk about today what do you do with the pain paint w milk did not have an easy life his family rejected him novi rejected him initially do you know schmoe novi was imagine rehearing kanewski coming in and saying everybody's okay you're out how did that feel hashem had to intervene you missed one ah him kulad meini he's a redhead freckles he can't be a king besides what his brother said about him that he was a monster but the gamora cell tells us something different about so yes he from his very beginning he's in trouble w milk is born from a problematic lineage rule sam mohave it still wasn't settled the issue wasn't settled yet was she allowed to marry into the jewish people wasn't she allowed to marry jew into the jewish people and his brothers who are tamil stank puzzle he's puzzled and many of army saw held his puzzle from the beginning he's he's rejected talk about trauma and then he reaches malhus that didn't come easily he had a friend who turned on him it was the greatest sonic of the times qatar says when he died he was like benjamin it was like he never sinned shaola miller and he turned on davey to kill him have ever any of you ever been to the dead city the desert in the dead sea around there could you survive there more than an hour david had to hide away there for his life again and again he had to run to hudslords he had to run to air it's policed him he had to act like a messure then he finally gets married and he has nachas yeah all nachas he had absolutely tried to kill him unsuccessfully amnon and thomas wasn't a great story either what did well do with all that so the gomorrah says like this please i believe the words the time writes that the words of the torah itself are a fool in this say for shmir he quotes verbatim many things that are written already in the rambam in rabbina you know says why does he quote their language because the language of the resharing all the more so abdominal the gemura the mishna they themselves are they have spiritual content in the words so bear with me i'll explain everything the gamora and broca says ruse my ruse why is it what kind of name is this ruse the bjorgens says like this she's saw she was married she merited ruth merited the yo to me menu david she married to be the great great grandmother of david and that's alluded to in her name is connected with the word rover rover means to after you're very thirsty and you drink and you feel completely refreshed that's rover there was nobody who was marave who quenched the thirst of a kurdish borgo to hear his praises from his children more than david miller ruth is the root ruse her inner name is the ability to sing praises to hashem that's why her name is zeus melania minalon what does that got to do with her name that gamora says so she called the ruse how do you know because she was ruth she would give birth to something somebody dobby rover who's marava akrishboro who satiates the the the desire because to be praised and have songs sung to him more than david why does the name have to do with it the main name is meaningful the name is exceedingly meaningful let's put that aside for a moment now the commerce is like this um let's learn something else about david melech besides the fact that he knew how to praise hashem better than anybody else who preceded him what do we know about him says there's nothing more painful more excruciating more traumatizing more frightening than problems with your children at home the house is not the family is not functioning properly part of it is out of control it's not going in the right direction the ship is sinking the house is filled with pain and strife milhema's gogumogog palestine pales in comparison with the pain of parents who have kips kids in pain we do learn we learn this from david melech went through such pain that it pales the intensity of strife and struggle of melchimer's gogomogo what's going on by the way it's the on coming to mashiach where does meshiah come from david melech the gemara is teaching us something here through david miller teaching us dear parents mommies and tati's this is not new it's not new it's important enough that we should write about it in the gemura taobus robertson shalom relied on the fact that there are still some people who know how to think i would try and understand this more on a little bit deeper level to teach parents who are going through this and it starts in the beginning creation other marisha didn't have knackers from kind did he lost his favorite son right so it starts from the very beginning beat zoba and tell the bonnie why do we forget that do we forget that oda marishan was cursed with death does anybody here think we're not going to die someday if so there's good therapists here you can see nobody thinks we're going to not die it's it's axelra in the bria but in the same sailor is beat sovereign tell the bunnings that's arguable burning the same zegra there is no such thing as raising children without pain but we're talking about a new level of pain a deeper level of pain tar boost you know what taobao is like yeah in the laboratories these petri dishes right petri dishes they're sticking in a little virus covert or whatever it is and the thing grows over and the top is popping off that's taboo's walk there's so much rod there's so much pain in my home from my children it's popping out of the seams go go mogog you're going through milk hemis time times two times three times four you know what that brings moshiach and that's what we're going to learn in the last session i i'm not trying to be you know just uh i don't like just stop talking i like that i can cover whatever i say in this room we're bringing machia with these children we're bringing mashiach these children are helping us bring mashiach the problem is we don't know what mashiach is we don't know who it is nobody knows who it is but we know enough to be able to say that there's a bit of mashiach in every single one of us and until all the parts of mashiach come together he's not coming to accelerate it's worse than it's more painful than muhammad's goku mogul meaning it's going to produce more than milk as gokumogo muhammad's goku mogu is just the final the final piece that has to happen to bring machia the big piece is what we're doing as long as we get it right we must remember as in dealing with pain that we have to do it with simpler i used to say in the house in my house the kids would sometimes get in a fight together they screamed or whatever i said i said please you can scream titsaku you can scream can you just scream with two conditions scream quietly and with a smile on your face there is such a thing as pain with simcha it's it's ironic but we have to be able to do it with simchen the only way we can do it but simply bear the pain basement maybe the emotional of the childbirth is the most appropriate one but men find it hard to connect to that um is the coming of the pains of bringing mashiach but also when we understand when we understand what's happening and what the plan is we can embrace it even though it hurts so ignore goes on to say the following when dovey was running away from his son ab shalom and if he stopped for a moment he was going to get slaughtered he was going to get killed not as if he's going to get killed and if sheldon would have done it had it not been for the fact that he got stuck in a tree so dobby's running away and it's there's a pair of gimbal into healing this should become the perictelium of kesha napshi perigimo you could you could stick that in after you say the whole thing correctly mismo the dobby in fact the gemara is running away he's in he's in what uh rabbi russell was talking about he's in flight and fright he can't freeze because he's got to run and he's got in his head time and space in his heart to sing mismo le dub effect the gemara david what should we have been doing at that moment lamentations how was he able to sing so come on understands we have a question on that if we say to him well it says martial amount over doing what is this like it's like a person who's got a debt he borrowed a lot of money before covert i don't know he borrowed a lot of money and he doesn't know how he's going to pay it back and he keeps seeing the lender his life is miserable who ought save martial or the government irs comes you maximum the irs comes right your million dollars to the government so what do you do you you fly to fright i don't know you run to brazil you get really anxious you get really nervous your tremendous attention and you get sad you get depressed because you don't know how you're going to deal what how am i going to deal with this but after he pays off somehow he got a good friend of this and he was able to pay off or cut a deal with irs after he paid so much he was happy you're going to have kips you're going to have schwerkeit with your children you're going to suffer from them they're going to be right of you but he didn't say his children he said he didn't know where it was going to come from dobby was going through life i don't know how many years went by or months how long it was i don't know but of course who warned him ahead of time you're going to be in trouble from your own house he lived with that okay oh yeah when david heard that he was worried shema ever do who the lord is alive maybe the zero of hashem that i'm going to have trouble from my home is going to come from a servant or a momser that works in the house to have a bad nature and they'll come and try and kill me and how are you going to deal with it he doesn't know who it is he doesn't know where the arrow is going to come from well that's a legitimate fear but he didn't go crazy but he wasn't happy but when he saw shalom is out to kill him he's chasing his son is chasing him he was happy oh shalom is chasing me he's singing he's happy what was so good i can explain you think i'm going to say without explaining so the martial assassin what do you mean what was there to be happy about absolutely was really going to kill him and dobby didn't know the happy ending and then it wasn't happy ending but he didn't know he was going to be saved so let me explain to you first what the ben yoda the benny shai explains are praises when a person is in a situation of din din it's a restriction of khasid difficulty it's bitterness it's pain it's deen when a person person's in that situation the advice of our sages who learned it from david miller in the sword is to sing praises to hashem you know what that does it's called hamptokus hadinim you sweeten the dean sweden is not the right translation but i'm talking as you fix the deen you fix it so that the deen which is restricting a restriction of hesed and blessing and goodness open it up because you know what's in the middle of that deen you know what's at the root of deen the root of dean is hesed and when a person sees the good in the bad he blows the cover of the demon you can't hide anymore represent that you're inside of that thing you're the neshama of dean is hesed and in the time at a time of deen if a person looks at and sees the nakuda that's in the deen the deen is miss battle it disappears that's hamtaka saddinim which the baal shem top speaks about at length zariza of course beforehand speaks about it less at length says the bani shri that when a person is going through soras and that's what duffy was doing here it's not a time to cry and say kinos if we cry and say kinos at the time of difficulty and pain we're increasing the deen but when we find the question in the deen when we recognize acknowledge and speak out there's hesed in this deen it breaks the deen because that's what the rabbanisham wants the rebellion wants praises as we mentioned before lama's ruth her name is that she would have a son who would teach us this this unbelievable message it's a sword who knew it better than ruth by the way she didn't have an easy life read mcgill's rules you know what i'm talking about she was certain to have a son he taught us to be the dining when you're in saores it's the time to say to hilim but not as a nebucha not as a mourner not as somebody who's in pain probably helps also but it's a tylenol if you want to be mamtik the deen find the nakuta saches that's in the dean adobe miller founded i didn't know all these all this time i'm running around thinking the arrow is going to come from my mom's or in avid kevin that is up strolling but when he thought since his own son he saw some there's a hazard why because it's not the derrick of a son to kill his father ah there's akasha he really didn't intend to kill him he really did intend to kill him and he was going to kill him we'll deal with that soon but the minute david miller said misma le david with simho and not kin of the derby he was mom dick the dean and he didn't get killed absolutely was going to kill him how was he saved because he sang it still was frightening he was still in pain it's his son out to kill him so tehillim works at times and the banished crisis even more the best time to praise hashem the most powerful and meaningful time to praise hashem and to heal him or any other way you can say it but especially him is during times when it's the toughest who's the mom take the deen for absolutely died didn't come out good for the upshot well in a way it did because if he'd have also murder on his accounting that he had to give another mammoth would be a lot worse but the i'm talking was redove that he didn't get killed says the villenegon you know why david was the mayor of was a tremendous knew a lot better than all the psychologists and therapists and they don't know they were born together with knew that soras when he realized it's absolute that the novi who told him he didn't make him it's his own son there's going to be end to this it's not and then it's not ever it's not going to go on forever so explains the vulnerability he the simcha the milk was when he realized his sound okay with the sun it ends it comes to comes to closure in there with inevitable it'll never finish until he's dead until he's dead ah absolutely really did want to kill him but when dobby was marked it did come to an end because david was mum ticked that didn't when he sang shoes with his brothers to hashem he changed the zelda so couldn't hit him it turned to herself that's what i said i'm talking didn't help directly for absolutely help for him he was going to get killed it's it toby took care of him after he died he says absolutely absolutely show me seven times he said he prayed for him he mentioned his name and he took him out and he hit him right away went to my boy absolutely i don't know if he would have gone too long about otherwise he was not a nice guy and you know what david was he made mistakes because i'll say he made mistakes in raising him and he made mistakes in raising amnon it doesn't matter we all make mistakes there's no perfect parent all the marishin and khaba didn't get it right they made mistakes also everybody makes mistakes the zora coder says that the last message to clause his father is criticized he wasn't at home his father wasn't at home his father was an autumn goblin everybody makes mistakes but that's part of the plan that's part of the plan to make mistakes beats over until de we're living in fantasy in la la land if we think we can raise kids without mistakes if we think we can raise families without pain you're living in la la it's like thinking that you won't die it's all part of the same exactly but you could be mom take the deen you can praise hashem yes borah for these stories that you don't know maybe yet what's in it praise hashem anyway the thing something's going to get better in your life something he may die not classroom marcus but something's going to get better it could be both incomplete it could be misbata completely there's another thing we learned from david melo this is an extremely important piece dobby namely was like the person who borrowed money the gemara says didn't know where he's going to pay from and when he figured out where he's going to pay from soma he was happy but that wasn't the case because he taught us with his kids now what should he be feeling right now david before midnight absolutely he should be feeling horrible about his son never he's a kip a kid in pain what's david's focus though his focus was what is my avoid this hashem he didn't think for a moment how he's going to fix up shalom maybe david understood there's no way to fix up shalom but it wasn't his focus as i said in the beginning of the session we are going to learn what we need to do for ourselves for claudius for the world for the rabbinish loylam the point where our children intersect that mission is the topic of what we're discussing we need to work on our understanding what is our avoidance hashem david understood when now he sees it's absolutely his son chasing after him he understood my job now is to praise hashem by the way he wasn't thinking in his mind when he said that capital to heal him uh saved me from my son it's just an introduction mismo ledovi has nothing to do with his son he's praising hashem whatever you say praise hashem there's another important nikuda so let's just be misagon for a moment there is no pain without a plan and all pain is decreed ahead of time and the root of all this pain that everybody's going through in cloudy soil now with the taurus with the children is beats often tell thee bonnie no different than beyonce thomas some have more pain some have less pain and don't think for a moment that because you don't see somebody else that you know in this conference that he shouldn't be here the worst cases don't come he's telling me five more minutes are you ashley's or he's gone okay another important like what to do with pain that rizal says that before you darwin when do we darven we died for our needs cordon showed me saturday's philosophy after you've said that paris is al-qaeda sorry after achieving you need everyone should and some sedum it's printed before we dive into what we need we're macabre on ourselves which is a huge part of the last session what does that really mean how can we be making that but here at this point kiyali daise when we dive in you down for your children whoever you're diving for we wanted feel it to be miss cabo to be accepted to be answered it's the best way to do that is to be metabo on yourself beforehand mitzvah after aha this is the exact question of the reason we lost the clue let me call twitter when you do that your tv becomes part of this a megateth feeler of all of clowning soul together it's one twiller but if you don't say if you're not makable on yourself mitzvah after i'll come off before you dive in so your tv is a nook slipper it comes in as the guy who came late to this year or to the party or to the casino but if you curl yourself you include yourself with love for every yid you feel it becomes a million times bigger six hundred thousand times or whatever the number is the touhou la lois la malo velaz that trilo now for sure will make have an impact and will bring benefit if it's not will be after ahmed if you don't include yourself as one part one integral part of a big family that's one then your twitter comes in as an individual's feeling maybe it gets answered maybe not ubifrat especially ah that every single person who's in this situation that i am in at the very least i'm a couple on myself that we are all one we are one nishama all of us we're going to the same top we're one shama we are together and since we're one we have to dive in for each other and so was miyaza dariza when he took his khabur and they closed themselves in because there was a mageifa there was covet and he died from it he said this is going to work they went into isolation with all this town medium he told them this is going to work unless there's much lages if there'll be one mach lakers and it was tough as we know to be all in isolation with all those people and all those children and all those difficulties that there shouldn't be one much like he said you should know i warned them again again there can never be much locus there was a macholicus between two women about the laundry who knows what and he died the reason we paid for it the point is that arisa wasn't just talking now because what he saw in champion he did see in chemic but he knew what was happening in at his own dalai damas if we work together as one when we dab and we dove in as one when we say to heal and we say tell them as one and we're trying to be markish in our hearts that thriller is a thriller which is assured to reach the right place and to bring benefit and so bismuth i recommend should be the para with the capital t but hey iud as we say of of the question of parents who come to keshinashi and davening for each other doesn't necessarily have to mean the names you don't have to be like the guy in the show you in particular like teresa says if you're part of a khabur that's working on something and we are a chabura that's working on something we are together and one and those three lists come together come combined together and make a huge impact in china the next piece which if he doesn't come in again we'll get started why do our children suffer why are they suffering i'll give a little bit of introduction we'll go into more depth later on nothing happens as we said before in creation without a plan the kedusha of the koi ingot was destined for one person the coin goto on one day yamaki pouring after him there's other madregas of kadusa a regular kohen the lower level levy he can't go into the kurdish kudos and he'll never be a coin never and there's a lower level he's royal so we'll never be a lady and never be a kohen and there's also there's there's hundreds if not thousands if not hundreds of thousands of madregas of kedusha you can replace the word caduceus with neshama there are hundreds of thousands of types of neshama some are kurdish kardashian like the coin god if neither name won a generation others like the banay naveem they're like the karnim yeshivas you can go live working on orbanian terror bale musa working they're the konim part of the levine but there's madregas of kadusa of the shamas of the shamas that are in the mud they fell into the mud from the beginning of creation what is neshama and sham is a spark of divinity sparked from rabbi himself put into this world he blew into this world many levels in the shamas so many different levels even down to the bluta into the mud they're not less holy and eventually come back to the very top but in the meantime they're in the mud and somebody else has to pull them out they can't come out on their own they cannot come out of the blood of the of the mud on their own and when they're mothers all sorts of other things that live in the mud germs and worms and mazikin and they don't want to let go those in the showers if they already got one they're not letting go easily says there is all those in the shamans are only going to come out they're going to go through as we say they're going to go through hell to get out of there but there's no way that lower in the shomas can get out of the pluto out of the mud unless somebody above them reaches out i'm not telling you hashikofa now this is the dna of the world this is how the rebellion created the world lower levels of nishaman nitsoytso sakitoshois but the ballet the talmida the balchampton spoke about it at length denitotine nitotsis what are they talking about they're talking about neshomas neshamas that's some kind of sparkle from a lighter they're talking about neshoma's kadaishas or parts of neshama's kadoshas that need to be redeemed and the rabonshim gave every neshomer and here's the key gave everything to shoma he's not serious he's not coming back is he um as long as he talks we go on derbasham gave every neshama it's fascinating but i i don't want to say things just because they're fascinating this is la maisa hello every one of us let's bring it really down me every person is the shama i'm so frightened of that guy in the back that is it he said measure bush that came with a big sign stop stop signs um every neshama has the capacity to reach much higher than its inherent capability you know when you feel that nilan yom kippur wow what a spiritual high on yom kippur the next day you're already back to your uh you're real madriga when i was at yeshiva baker learning yeshua negev before i learned by rap scheinberg so we had a very massive rosh yeshiva also there in israel he called us into his room to his house after yom kippur right after yom kippur he go to any yeshiva today what happens right after you'll get banished all the boys are packed already and they're gone by 10 o'clock at night they're all at home he called us all in shira aleph we were first here in yeshiva and he said i know how you guys feel wow what an experience yom kippur was the ila the the vegas and hashem and you're so you're so much now and you know tomorrow you're going to feel differently so our min again in the shiva is nobody goes home and mother young kipper and many walk out issues you lose it so we stayed that was the minute again yeshiva motion keeper today there's no no issue with that i don't have any issue with that stay in yom kippur stay motivated yeshiva what 12 more hours of feeling the kadusha and the ila it's going to go tomorrow doesn't matter 12 hours is worth it it's worth it we can reach my dreams and conditions are way beyond our capability but we can also reach levels of ureada way below our capability and that's how the revenge from hard wired hashamas anybody thinks he's different come speak to me privately you're living in la la land ah autumn goddess deutsch can turn into and gomu russia gomo can turn into a stadium how is that possible because every new shoma has the turbo turbo up and turbo down and that's why we all experience elias and euredus there's no such thing as living in this world without elias and you read this and if there are elias and you read this you know what i call that it's a it's a fluid state i'll give you another word instability instability every neshoba is instable it's inherent in who we are why can't you do dude just do no the shamans don't just do they're unstable they're unstable every new shoma well that means we've got to be always on the guard but also creates confusion but it's also a great gift because you know who's never never experiences instability he scares me every time yaakov would you stop opening the door i keep i keep worrying you're part of the police force here okay he's still talking all right so it's okay you could open it close as many times you want oh now they got it yeah you really are from the police right okay yeah we have to talk afterwards in any event because the shummers are unstable they're fluid you know the body is 80 percent water what's the difference in water and other substances it's fluid it has no boundaries you can never figure out where it's going to go once we're sure it'll go it's going to go down on its own it's going to go down you want it to go up you got heated up you have to intervene in that event it's a great gift because otherwise we'd be mallochi oh that sounds good why didn't i just get a kid who's a mallard why not why am i not a male that's a good question right why why didn't the budget that he has some surfaces he has malochim he has hundreds and thousands of hundreds of thousands of malware we're not alone in the universe as the saying goes we are not alone do we does judaism believe in extraterrestrial life yes most life is extraterrestrial we're at the bottom we're at the bottom but the belgium didn't create it the bottom doesn't mean bad just that's where we are we're the body but if we would be mallorching imagine ourselves as malachi let's just imagine he'll we forget the wings for a moment but imagine yourself as a malach nothing ever changes you do exactly what you're supposed to do with precision every single day you will never be greater and you'll never fall down it sounds to me like ghinam it sounds to me like you know it's no way what kind of what kind of purpose does a male have you'd like me to speak about that quickly i'll quickly answer because they serve us they're here for us and well let's leave that exactly what they do have a loan from it but they have no ability to get higher than where they are all the time in rare cases they can fall like the ones who came into this world to to tell abramovino that he's going to just destroy dom and they say he says we're going to destroy the town and they were punished and they had to stay as human beings for forget how many years long time and they sinned but apart from that they're always the same they there's in self-awareness that's the question i would have anticipated do they have self-awareness i don't know i asked once a very big mccouble about that i don't know i don't know the answer to that i know a little bit about swarm regulation i don't know the answer to that and i asked a few more of them they did not answer it either i believe they do have self-awareness they know that they're talking that they're what their job is in the world and they do it the precision never change but it's i don't want that job i don't want that job i want a job where i have free will i want a job where i can make mistakes and i can only have free will make mistakes if there's instability which creates confusion do you get that is that people understand that without confusion which is the absolute unescapable uh effect of of uh the uns the unstable nature of a nashoma that it can go way up and go way down that creates confusion and where there's confusion there's free will where there's no confusion there is no free will one of my kids once the little kid looked at the shabbos candles up wow that's fascinating and he wanted to grab it so he stuck his finger straight into the fire and he was so fascinated he didn't take it out he never did it again if you'd ask him the second thing please put your finger in the in the fire oh you're crazy because there's no confusion anymore he didn't know he didn't know what a fire can do to him but many of you are absolutely sure there's no more free will it's gone so we have to thank the rebellion for an instability for uncertainty for confusion because without it we cannot have free will and if we don't have free will but at the same time not an angel you know what happens to us we end up like paro who lost his free will or terrible sinners who lose their free will as the rambam delineates and he'll true 24 things that can cause a person to lose his free will he can't do true anymore of them is by the way which connects which i said i would speak about at a later time i think we have to end here because he looks like he may be from