Gedallia Miller introduces Avi Fishoff

Britta my warmish I'm ashamed I - I might the Phoebus a cloud Ramadani we couldn't believe that we can pull off such event in such a short notice and birth Hashem with the tank and the help of everybody here we were able to pull it off Hashem first I would like to thank love so much Landau that he extended his you say over here beside before Sonia and he booked a sham is willing to come and speak we still remember the warm words that he spoke by our shava tone and we hope he's gonna come again with an extra Vuitton also a round wine became its sham hopefully is on the way he's gonna come speak Andra Bobby he's going to help us over here give us develop Lawson people asked us what cash enough she is it took us a while to figure this thing out that why if we have our organization for the parents they're working with the children what do we need to have the shower tones what is it important what do we add on to what we already have at group so I would like to first give you the mission statement that took us a while to figure out it's to inspire your term power to encourage parents and siblings of struggling children to build everlasting bonds which is basically Nashik sheet of an hour show and to create joy in the hearts in the home and as how he trains us if it's years of life then it's my back Shia sham and that's our ultimate goal in addition to that I was thinking so why do we have to go out to make all these shower tones and everything else I came across a interesting article in the Rebbe and this book from Cassatt kenneth with care said so they want system about of course a toy family said if a child wants to move from a moisten Shiva time to Shiva candle if they should stay another year and then you see where they need him there so the Astra Patna wants this question and he said now we said how the hole can occur we said hollow so the eastern regarding the child is this child a child that needs to have extra special care but they just want to go to a brand name yeshiva to be able to have a new name for shoddy from later on if the answer is that they just want to go to a brownie machine to really stay in DC where they are so he gave an example from hollow he said but it says on our machine oh and it says on Hamas - oh my on our machine now you see by circus you shackled with a load of all over the place back and forth all sides and varnish much thicker now you stay in one place why do you have to have by ownership machine all over as a mr. Shriver mechanic reading so we need to have for us these shava tones to give us his they can do whatever we need to do to give us continuous physical over I want to first thank all the people that helped us make the shava Tony Shabbos and to help these events on the men's side we have gingy and heinous and slimy and without Yankee Goldman doing all the artwork on the women's side we have pearl stroke that's always ready in helping us with the programming and setting up everything and being behind the scenes Malky Rosenberg is working with the women's teams I get T Rosenberg Mindy Markowitz you lay around over working behind the scenes to bring us all the extra stuff for the Chaves together with live your husband and also for the speakers and I would like to thank bossy Goldman for inspiring us at the lash a baton and boorish I'm taking on the responsibility to help us again for the next charlatan it's important to mention that we always looking for places and to see this where we can find a place on Ben Affleck she loved an app show and I came across a very interesting town you in the key terms chapter xxxii when he's talking about this subject that everybody is saying what would the highest achievers imma say who what's with telling rebooting a child of doing something wrong where we find somewhere and casitas that we say obviously saying when objects even outside from the shem tov so I found in the key time wooden chapter xxxii he talks about he summer safe when he says why did you say I mean settle when he's a machete you can be able to be a hearted here but the words inside is unbelievable he said I mean sure I notified a minor kid Yvette's Lloyd in a place where the child is not close to you or a parent or a friend of yours it's not close to you he nails there omma Hill has open her very Metamucil I had an ocean waves a breeze in the carbon Detroiter lyman-alpha the fake metal session where we do so the kinda crew ambition breeze by homage to the Amish but have like a voice I have which says you need to have them but bounds of ropes the bounds of love you know usually carbon the Toyota always a sham perhaps it's committers I have a sir I am the gamma could over my location will I show you have an assumption it emits is noise limits Lahav am kind gum kind and basically we are open tanya that says that what we are doing is a hundred percent the right Mahalo that we should be doing with unconditional love it's not something from the modern loot style of therapists ideas it's written in swirl meditation what I found there interesting is couple weeks ago partially outside we spoke about Levana Rami and the post akin the toyota says important actually it happens to be interesting I wanted a note before was chapter 32 32 his lab and now again chapter 32 and the in garages Josh came lovin by boy Kevin Nash a cliff moon of Illinois so he would ask Tommy I love her you should love and Lymphoma the Torah tells us that Logan was benching his children Alvia was tells us to try the bench our children ate of Shabbos and found the makar in saponin saponin said the very interesting words and would like to read it directly from the text they would a Tyson says the Sephardic where Omni LT abit has had his caliber an item I'm Nam sip a beta slogans of a noise of low high - a beta so a Vashi al wound up with all the nav show the the sofa Croatia total yard service killers tailor the camera would have calmly boggy tarakanov in the fashion of Sheen which is interesting now I'll explain and translate basically this opponent tells us that when a father even if it's a notion like love and benches his children they're able to be - the brokers will have Hakeem so anybody handle all the things they're not Troy to bench their children they're not a rabbit yet so they're not any person and he mother and he follows the benches the children have a court patella mother Kim and it's believed sofa he says and what's interesting is has Comey bar Vito - option by who does it say about had an hour sheet by Yitzhak Rivini so we see from that that the strongest form of benching the children is a father or mother benching their own children I know the time is late I have a whole book of things to say but I think I taking up too much time as it is so I would like to conclude basically to let people know we're looking forward to a beautiful Chavez and we hope you all of you can make medicham and addition to that we gave a special emotion tonight if somebody would like to sponsor another couple which is very important for us and we'd like to have a tax deduction year-end we will upgrade their room to the next level if they can sponsor another couple at this time I'd like to call up put up a V to be able to loose the next speaker thank you very much thank you Paul for coming I think it's pretty amazing that while everybody is busy that last week Gedaliah what was on his mind hobbie we got to do something for the parents we got to go ahead and give them a good time not just another group but a little chill and some food and some time to just relax is that a beautiful thing it's unbelievable so Battaglia decides to do something and the team springs into action and they get there just unbelievable the whole team slay me and Hendrick and gingi and all the women who are involved and it's just really beautiful I think it's a testimony to what you're all about the have a sister all that you have is unbelievable caring about other people and just it's very inspiring to me the cruel Arab had told me of art and he told me to share it with the eylem I was waiting for the right opportunity I think now is the right time the gomorian Shabbos Tov core memory foam and base says night till autumn Aspen knowing the heaven be ugly let's say there's a kid and he's holding a an Evan Stone Iraq which is mocked so a person is allowed to go ahead and take his son even though the Sun is holding something Moksa the Gemara says I'm a debater beyond a bit Teaneck she Ashley got Guin a loveth we're not just talking about going over to a kid and picking him up why are you picking up the kid he's playing with his stone why'd he have to pick him up so the kumara explains why can you pick him up because we're talking about a child that has got Guin yearning for his father and that's why he's allowed to pick up the child who's holding the stone even though you're not normally now how to do that because he now Anna pick up something which is connected to something Musa but if the child has got Guin Delavan yearning for his father little kid is saying I want you to pick me up you pick him up Rashi explains the tynix she has like a gloom shell of if she Himalaya Leno Nicola if you're not gonna take him he's gonna get sick Valletta me too till till shall I be a dime - mocking Sakana so there's a Halawa that says that you now let it carry something without your hands but that Aloha is not in the case of Sakana so all of a sudden Rashi takes this to a whole new level well well that's happening here as a kid is saying taffy taffy picked me up and Rashi says wait if you're not going to pick the kid who is yearning for a connection he's yearning for his father well the Sun is a new word Nicola anybody ever go to a hospital and see somebody who's sick and you say what's his sickness he was you know longing for his father his father didn't pick him up what kind of sickness is that and brow she takes it the next to the next level yet allah the muhkam ii he says really hear me do till till a beard I am the mark and Sakana what's the second owner says Rashi I forgot the laughs OCONUS nephesh gomorrah even though there's no cyclist nefesh he's not gonna die physically ellis icon is clearly there's a secona that he'll get sick what kind of a sickness not a physical illness an emotional illness I think really that the rebus showed us Kamara is showing us probably one of the earliest times that we see that has out and the Taira care if somebody's gonna have an emotional pain and recognizes that a child who has needs and we're not gonna pick them up because the tire doesn't let because we're now allowed to pick up something connected till Tischler via diam and the tire says hang on for that that is through that we're gonna take that off why because it's dangerous it's dangerous it can cause a child to have a macula and that sickness can cause him to be in Sakana Wow says the rebel the rebus said that the truth is that deep down every single child has a deep longing to be held close and hugged and loved and cherished and accepted and supported by his father and mother and even the angry and rebellious children are really deep down longing and yearning to be held close by their parents there is no therapist in the world that can heal the child as much as his mother and fathers hugs and their ever continued that's the message of the Gemara if you have a child holding something which is Moog though something is not supposed to hold something that we don't hold of like an iPhone like drugs or even worse he's holding in the muscle the Mishna says he's holding a stone a stone is something that's a dangerous weapon he could hurt somebody he could throw it at somebody or if he is stoned the parent should pick him up this means to raise him up to build his self-esteem to lift him up hold him close to you otherwise the rejection of not being held is malicious Akana I think that's really what your parents are doing with tremendous tremendous dedication tremendous Macias nefesh I think I have a little bit of a bird's-eye view of what's going on in each of your lives and the mysterious nefesh that you have is just unbelievable people cannot fathom people cannot imagine people cannot believe than of immense gravity I cannot believe what your parents are doing to save their children the dedication to go out of your comfort zones the dedication to go out of you know spending money that you have to collect to save your kids and to hug them now we know that this gamar is true we know that there are kids whose sickness comes from that their yearning the yearning for love they're dying for acceptance the psych wards are full of those kids and you parents are saving your kids from that boolean Hara we've never put a kid in a psych ward because of the tension with parents that's something remarkable how many kids do we have that when you came to me had illnesses diagnosed mental illnesses from anxiety depression bipolar how does that disappear into three years time what's going on here so I think that we have to look up at the good eylem who understand what highly nefesh is when I was by regression Adelstein SH lethal Sangha zoned and I told him what about the kids that are suffering from : F fish which is emotional psychological illness and right away his first thing that he told me was yeah if the kid feels a hunch contacted konglish come mama of course he's gonna be emotionally he'll the kid feels I don't have a mother I don't have a father now why do they feel like that because they're acting out something pushes them the act rebellious the act defiant and the normal parenting is well if you can act that way you're not gonna have mommy and daddy that causes a lot maybe even most of the mental illness that we're seeing all of a sudden Jewish kids who grew up in our homes are in the psych wards are mentally ill hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of kids I get calls almost every day it breaks my heart yeah the kid was you know it was diagnosed for this and diagnosed for that and so therefore you know we told them you have to behave and he couldn't behave so we call the police and I tell and showroom so we see and we know more than anybody that the dedication of parents is everything you are the respirator as long as the respirator is connected and you don't let anything cause it to disconnect there's always hope I want to give you home and really you could only talk privately over here just among friends hope just this week hope his family from Canada that came to me six years ago with a child see the show boy who was so off the dorama not just a little you know so after them addicted to terrible things plus addicted to drugs selling selling drugs all kinds of bad stuff mahalo everything when the parents of course you know so it's a brothel they came to me and mark Hashem I showed them what our McAuliffe is all about they said well until now we were advised by the therapist and by the psychologist about a psychiatrist thing by there I said okay it's your choice but that didn't work so they started doing TP at that time five six years ago there was someone in the community one of the father's friends who befriended dis boy and he saw how messed up he is totally messed up he was buying drugs selling drugs doing J was terrible fast forward with tremendously after - nya that we've seen so many times the boy became from the boys clean became stable and he put together his life in such a level he's so careless he goes to the mixer every day he learns in it he's gonna go to a yard air Kyle he's a tremendous not hostes parents he says mommy taught me I'm ready for shidduchim I don't want to marry somebody who's messed up I was messed up but I'm not anymore I want to be sitting and learning entitled for 20 years and I want a girl who doesn't have any taste from the street I want to have a pure girl an innocent girl and he's talking and talking about what he wants and the parents are thinking wow you're nuts what normal girl would ever want to marry you with your history the AVA schtick could do anything and I think it comes from the dedication of the parents it's mama unbelievable cracking of like you al Bunyan came to Rosh Hashanah lately this kid was in sure and this father's friend who remembered this kid from a few years ago someone in the community he bumped into him and he was shocked this is you how are you what's doing and he schmooze with him and schmoozed and schmoozed and he went I release from Kaylin he went out of his mind for this boy and he said to him I want you to be my son-in-law that's what he said and the kids like okay what you call the father said I want our kids to get married I know my daughter I know I see your son what a hero what God was Sodom to go from that to where he is today such strength of character that's what I want is my son-in-law then he had to go home and break it to his daughter I was thinking about the Gemara reaction in Amish luggage right your sluggish was a band robber at Obon and he's a basically attacking or bi can under be it for nun says to him if you'll do chuhwa I'll let you marry my sister I want to be at that table by their supper mmm hey sis I got some good news and bad news you're getting married here's a lot of potential anyway so the father couldn't believe this what's happening anyway said the father goes home and he tells his daughter listen I want you to go on a date with his boy and I want to tell you about and tells wall of his Milas and she says Oh sounds very good yeah he may have had a little bit of a history he did a little bit of drugs nothing major a couple of years cocaine he sold drugs for living so you know we know he can be a good businessman one day and he starts talking about the history and the girl is toughy what he crazy why would I want to go out with a guy like that he's just go out they went out the first date went well the second date went better and the third date went better the Houseman is in a few weeks the girl had no history we're not all going to be ziko to every miracle but there's somebody here in the room who has a brother who was part of TP six years ago seven years ago and this week last week got engaged to a girl also amazing no history never off the Dara this boy I knew seven years ago he came to home sweet home and he didn't get in do you know what you have to be like to not get into home sweet home he was not with us he was a total coke addict and those days wasn't so much heroin around he was gone he was looking at the floor he weighed like 90 pounds he wasn't there this boy today is shy matera mitzvahs he's a little boy he's married a regular air little girl and we have lots on both sides from the girls and the boys a lot to be thankful for the point is not that okay sign up here and this is going to happen to all of you the point is that you can never give up hope [Applause] there was a boy who came to home sweet home ten years ago there was a boy who came to home sweet home 10 years ago from 13 he went off the darica Borough Park boy by 17 he was already in a few psych wards a few rehabs and he shmatte he was Christian he read he was finished with that phase but Hashem yeah tattoos and movement home sweet home I was at his house and a two years ago in a terrace of rum where he married a girl who's a friend of Mines daughter was in the class of the girl no history it's unbelievable I met the father a few months ago they just had a baby boy rehearse under doing great so I just want to tell you we have to do ours we have to go in a mahalo that can work barkhaa sham we have over 85 TP kids today gosh I'm a tiger winces and that's not what we're all about cuz when you come to me we just first want them to be alive I think you need to be alive to be sure matter missus right alive happy clean safe successful stable you smoke leave my vag Michelle so the average is all healthy that every single person should be like that to see miracles miracles you deserve it just for your mysterious nefesh just for what you're doing at the very least at the very least your mama's standing up against the world to save your child and she decided to we'll see a lot of you to shock us from your kids it's my pleasure and honor and covenant and all other nice words to introduce our speaker of shown by lambda ho hang on I just have one thing to say I believe that the children life is the is the mechanic of our generation that's why I sent my three boys and I would have sent my one girl to the yeshiva and I always say that really Mindy was raised by you because of the three boys around what can I say Shalom Knight is exactly become a trio Fenelon are familiar when now is exactly what their home life is all about every child needs their own kennel whether it's a kid in yeshiva it's a kid in this school in that school and they're ever there's a Shiva if Shania has that unbelievable ability to get into the mind of every single child when it comes to our children our Kipps if Shania has been with us from the beginning as a tremendous physics or me personally and I'm thinking back when parents started coming to me and it was about one o'clock in the morning and I'm sitting with Sabrina Alton and I hardly had any experience and I reached for the Batphone I reached for the red phone the emergency said something like can you come about a half an hour later about 1:30 rabbit's an SD came she'll let the Shiva came in I remember when you opened up the doors on home sweet home with your charm on your Becca sure I felt like the just the room became flooded with light the room became flooded with hope and you helped save those people and so many other people that you give constant physical so it's a big comment for us to ask you to say a few words [Applause]