Chesky Kauftheil introduces Avi Fishoff

as mentioned this is not my first Shabbat own in fact right here at this podium we have another organization that's run now in two weeks is going to be the number two tent sabaton kind of truly involved with many other chaperones as well but I must say that never in my entire life and all the organizations that were involved with and Chava Tom's in place that we went and met with people I've never experienced anything like I experienced these shops it was a completely new kind of feeling oh is it emotional and powerful and heartbreaking and inspiring and positive and painful it was like such a mix of emotions and feelings generally when I come to Shabbat on we look to get the greatest speakers and in this Shabbos you know we had such amazing amazing evolving speakers and I'm always humbled by the speakers that we bring as you were the Shabbos but this time there was something much more I was humbled much more by the participants than by the speakers [Applause] [Music] what an amazing group of people on an amazing group of heroes amazing group of parents that taken upon themselves they're going under the guidance of the indefatigable amazing leader our Vegas please come up with [Applause] I've been working with obvious for many years but should we have many Maestas before this and I think probably about 15 years ago I was working with Albion home sweet home we speak a lot on the phone we give each other physic I've never actually experienced the people we always talk about the challenges that he's dealing with and you know I once mentioned avi that while this whole concept of TP and kepala G is something that he mastered in fact he's I think the only master pathologist I believe I said you know I don't think you invented it actually though I think what obvious managed to do is to tap into the mythos and on huggers because it's both with himself what we experience what we look at how I could develop the deals with us how could his work with deals with colleagues roll with the patient with the house it was a chess set with the Rothman anybody's learn tournament divider at the first piece in terms of area where it talks about how we're supposed to be emulating actors both know Smithers Maharaja not our Father Adam there he talks about how during the time that a person does a varus he can't exist without the construction you can't exist a lot of it was for one second so could the brokers actually powering us in the time that we're doing the various them mamas topology so as I was sitting here Shabbos thinking of some of the things that that I was witnessing and thinking of how and talking some couples and just experiencing tremendous hope and tremendous pain and all that and thinking what Abby Himself is going through how he was dedicated himself not to a career many people would make a career out of this I help people this is not Abby's career he's the Lone Ranger out there the one guy I don't I can't even think I've been trying to think of somebody else who is like this that for no financial recompense for no financial money and I getting paid for difficult challenges that they must lose nice of sleep at home I can't even imagine how you sleep with all the things that I heard over here to be out there and to do this this kind of amazing amazing work it's just something that's that's I think that's your Fitbit diary and the truth is by the way we need to have him anymore looking at what was going on over here this week and talking to some of the people and seeing how much everybody that's here is basically something that's physically met with are being spent the time with them and how many more people there must be outside on the street probably thousands more they're going through the same thing and don't even have the opportunity or don't know or have the fear or have the stigma or don't have the clarity from that's Tyra to say okay let's go and do it and do this because they're not even sure you know exact what Abby's doing so one of the things I've been doing is talking to her but I'm talking to be done explaining to them something that you all know that Abby does not make a move without last time something is not necessarily know [Applause] so what really really impressed me as I listened to all the dresses over here and listening and talking Tavia again again is how are we brought in the third partner at the table into discussion so many people in therapists when people are dealing with these issues are dealing with the issue themselves but without me you really realize that a father and a mother are sitting at the table with a cutter sparkling with the third partner it's it's incredible again I'm involved in the organization I'm involved with a lot of therapy issues and a lot of mental health issues and this is the only place where I could evolve is mentioned in every second sentence it's all how could the drunken Irishman see the Sholem and different Tyra's and different different Siddiq human different masses to different oh I was out scheme two times it's an incredible thing how much I don't know if everybody realizes that when you're in it then you're like mom is dealing with it just listening to everything is just incredible this was not a mental health meeting about what to do with our children's challenges this is a custom Sabaton how do we fulfill but I could as well once I said work is what he wants us to that wants to do with our children how do we find that something that's broken that something that's wrong in here because if it is worldly anything rocket burger chicken embryo so he's not just happening with us I was talking to a couple over here I was trying to explain this there we were having a discussion and suddenly it hit me I said you know just pace up two weeks ago what happened over there leading them in with trying they're a lovely observer deserve a holier diverges and in terrible situation that this woman wants to bring them out what does he do in order to get them excited it is what it is all kind of awesome cool listen man and and and and you know the floors and and presents and business are young and after that they still complaining the curious Yarmuth and then this business a young and then this next part is moral and the complaining again what about the well I guess what he ended up dealing with a bunch of moody temperamental challenged even that were just not in the place yet where they were able to have the Thira and it occurred to me as I was talking to this couple before I said literally what avi is doing is what I could disburse was doing when it person is in pain when person is challenged when a person has something that's really really missing they're not above here and if it is brought this whole of work with us is that we should be boys of tides know the person's not a bubble here is not in the game so children just like lie so at that point we're not bothered with here until the control he gave them gifts and miss him and give again and again and took their complaints again and luckily gave them nothing we gave at the end by the way it was an interesting thing I mentioned so the guy asked so did it work I said it's an interesting thing if you look at the power sure after after the Mogollon and that mission dorothy gang they went through all kinds of ups and downs after that you suddenly the plastic jumps 38 years and right 38 years to where much of an is talking about you see about going in there to so what happened was 38 years not us how could this work had tremendous in my house for 38 years after going through all the TP all the these twisted parenting that it had to go through to take the even from being of of dementia hoodlums for hundreds of years and just break them out of there to fix those broken pipes or to fix the broken pane and get them to a certain level there's 38 years we don't hear anything because even were sitting unfairly learning tire giving master that is about 30 it is in the mid but you don't have worried about that it's all beautiful something that I wish on every single person in this room America shall have tremendous give all the additional matters to me children peace and tranquility in your home medicine and that's what Ivy's doing I'll be packaged that for the cert 31st for the 21st century he went ahead and said okay what's going on over here what what's wrong with this child how do we find what's broken how do we fix that how do we keep on moving in forward till he becomes to the place we can actually be a bobble here and then hopefully don't make good choices in their lives so I'm very very happy and I'm thankful to the drug that I could be part of this and I could help out of it I was thinking for a title and I'll keep out this is a good name for a V but I was thinking something else I what would he could be called in a Russian card issuer and I thought he'd be called the pellets he's at Amanda speller to me I don't you know most people again we look from how they you don't get it he's in Pella shopping this guy that's working for no money helping college so night and day to a.m. you can call him you it's total pellet to me and he's won the biggest year at some of today's dollar you have people calling from every corner of the globe are calling having the biggest dog was over when they old all else fails to do up saying am I on Flatbush and and end up calling avi and I personally have gone to tremendous Cthulhu and they were said to me tested optimism flashes fizzles out of it it works what he's doing work recruitment before mentioned behalf to a graphical method and it should remain from from my bitumen why did you see the reactor why doesn't it say I have to did so have to something in songs you know why single area because in the world reacted Israel something it does bad to you should posed to love the person is doing something bad to you why I have to why would you love song to do that something bad to you Ania Shan nobody does anything bad to anybody no kid is making any challenges parents just on his own and the I shall even they bursted I'm behind it that you should behind every single thing it's the only place like this you could talk later you can't have this discussion of the mental health only here can you say that Ania sure maybe she's behind that with every single person when you love your child and Charles doing something bad it's not the child themselves there's something else going on there as well and talk to the peleas which I think Ivy is a failure is mentioned with several assistants so he's up above those of FA says who's what are they talking about the assistance of he were talking about song that's nice too you know obviously enough to tell me not to hate song it's nice to me I love many but since the vessel is somebody that's doing really not good things and you're not allowed to hate the system he said forget about your own child and I just want to say the Russian because it's unbelievable it is exactly what whatever does sir attitude oil of a housemother robber lot said my shoulders should play orientates every arrest where does it come the bad thing you have to have tremendous karma what Abby has done over all these years is develop a book a dwelling book of Kabbalah of Kozma understanding the nephesh understanding what's bothering a Yiddish and summer.i I can to help thinking once if you could do this in the I shall probably wouldn't work keep out you wouldn't work in the general public this is all nephesh legal things so we happen to be standing right now in a very very amazingly auspicious time and I think we know it says in the enough Tyrus that the cuts are panini to be on the Shabbos be going to see per se something it says actually I was partial subscribers then the base I make their minister tarun many doors together but the the the panini want the one that goes inside is open on Shabbos under stylish this summer says the cuts up enemy is the inside previous all of us have be inside us vehicle kindly mouth all of us want size apparent side the children having us tremendously meanness and now this Shabbos is one strange few times that you have Shabbos and two days of responders where it's open its open a tremendous opportunity to reach inside and to be able to access name yes and my brother to all of you and all of us first will be measured that we ourselves should be able to access our inner powerful beautiful economy mouth which all we ought to see tremendous tremendous leadership use intimate leadership not as for my children like the observation of the children sitting over here and these are the next generation these are the people that can be leading the next generation and all of this should be done and be able to be in honor of the one your third the lone ranger that for very oddly enough without any problems in self profession without any financial backing without anything has gotten out there and and created a base like this of literally hundreds of people some Amish Iran it's much astounding so I'd like to give Ali and his replies in Brava as well that they should be able to have between themselves either after the show umber Reyes simcha and Mathias and / NASA and exactly where pronounced comes from not only has time to work but wherever it's coming from it should just come to Sheva so you should be able to continue your work over here and avi you should know that you're Tom Needham and your family has actually put together a little book of testimonials and stories that they wanted me to present to you and I have it right here and I'd love if you please come and I'd love to give that to you it's a book of ten years a time to celebrate dedication devotion and personal stories of 250 pages of family [Applause] in tribute to our officials man he'd monitored mafia miracle-worker father of all of our families for inspiring each of us to inspire ourselves on daily basis so he could rise to our challenges with heart and our fathers hadass with connection and conviction for pushing us to stretch ourselves beyond earthly kosis to fulfill our divine potential as people as parents and as providers of pure Ahava sister all for teaching us to be true to the Torah and to our task it of now should share banoffee shape and to try and and our ticking of building our homes and our vice and devices Russia with boundless Ahava cannot be nyama Choma became a love in Master Yoda's trial to tissue banana be ischial classical voters boroughs with a carbonyl Venus mastermind with a simcha Nahas Kyra theorem the Shanghai Michelin with deepest appreciation heartfelt gratitude and soul deep occurs at times you're keeping family [Applause] in addition to that I was just handed a handwritten two handwritten books 200 engines that were written today or much of shabbos here at this shop at home were handwritten I parasitoids from the men separately and from the women to Harvey [Applause]