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so many years ago maybe 30 years ago i
decided that
in general that anyone who asked me a
question
i have to treat them like my own kid and
sometimes girls are very upset about my
answer i had this one girl that was much
older and she was going out with sketch
she really liked him and um they went
out to this to this um bar not a bar or
whatever you know for drinks whatever
although it's called windows of the
world it's in um on the marriott it goes
around very slowly it's a good dating
place
and she came back and she said well i
think something happened last night it
bothered me i'm like what happened
she said um
we bought we he ordered two sodas
two diet cokes whatever and it was
twelve dollars each
it's a lot and he was like what when he
got the bill the the stu the weight just
came over he said it's 12 each
he said what
plus tax 26 dollars for tooth what
so he didn't tip her you know on the
bottom it says tip he's supposed to give
he wrote zero
and he gave it back to gave it back to
credit his credit card with the with the
slip and she said excuse me the um did
you forget the tip he says 25 i'm not
tipping
and she made a face and she went back
into the wherever they go and
she said is that like a big deal brother
wallstein
like i really like him and she's an
older girl
i'm like
i am going to blow this up and i'm
really sorry
no over my dead body would i let my
daughter marry this guy
i would break it right now what what i'm
like two things just happened one he
made a huge kill hashem
sitting there with a yama guy taking out
his father's credit card right
this girl's a waitress probably trying
to go through college they don't get
paid they only make tips
like where have you been on the cavero
so you tip her four dollars this thing's
a twenty dollar bill this four dollars a
tip if you're using as far as credit
card anyway so you went he wasn't
worried about
hashem
jews cheap all that stuff what you can
tell her friends
and on top of that
like he has no appreciation for for the
waitress i said you're going to become
his waitress one day
you're going to cook for him and doing
everything and she he's going to say
like that's your job
like i don't owe you any thanks
she's like i don't know he's not really
like that i'm like
listen to me
go ask another rabbi if you're asking me
over
over there's nothing to talk about
and she broke it up
so
sometimes people don't like what i
answer but i have to i have to
i feel very much that hashem's question
anyone in china any teacher any
principal
a lot of people are going to be in a lot
of trouble
a lot of people in a lot of trouble
john's going to ask
did you treat my daughters
like they were yours
and if the answer is yes
oh you're going to sit in grenade in the
highest place if your answer is no trap
door's going to open you're going to be
barbecued
like why you t why are you treating my
children differently than your own
children
so i made up 30 years ago maybe more
with rabbi gumly all that
any kid i deal with in china
that's my daughter
for that moment that's why i do it i'm
not giving her my my bank account but
for that question that's my daughter
that's responsibility that anyone in
china
has to take or don't do it and i i spoke
about this in a
in the torah masora convention
and i said guys if you're a rebbe or
principal
and you're not doing that quit
what do you need it for go make money
and i walked out and this one rebbe
walked followed me to the car he said
hey walstein
i'm out
i'm done i'm not teaching anyone after
you said that i am not teaching anyone i
am not taking that responsibility and i
said you're the one guy that should keep
the job if it bothers you that much
you're the guy that needs to keep that
job
it's responsibility when you work with
people
i asked i had a group of therapists i
asked them from religious therapists i
spoke to i'm like so you do therapy you
help people yeah i said like how many of
those people you know their hebrew name
and their mother's hebrew name and at
night they went through trauma they're
depressed they're anxious they're
cutting they're not eating whatever it
is so they're not doing very well how
many of them you say to helen for
before you go to sleep at night how many
of them are in your in your healing book
how many of them are in your center you
say money yesterday they were looking at
me like i was from mars like i'm a
therapist i'm like no
i'm like no if someone comes to you and
you're trying to help them
and they have to be like your child
would you say to him for your child this
girl's traumatized she's not eating
she's she's cutting she like like if
that was your child would you not dab it
would you not go to sadiq
they're like whoa
and a lot of them took their names and
they and they died for them
very big responsibility
to deal with hashem's children
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