Kedoshim - Love Your Neighbor

you're listening to the weekly parchment podcast with Ari Gold wag recorded with Hashem is never ending assistance in Rome a pitch I'm Israel 57 79 2019 this week's parsha if you're outside of Israel is part of the kid ocean for inside of Israel it's and more we're gonna speak about precious kid ocean in our passion says via half dollar Erica come up with a classic statement of the Torah which rebbi akiva so many years later quoted and it's world-famous you shall love your neighbor like yourself so if they show you an amazing beautiful piece from a prime Friedlander and we're not gonna be able to go through the whole piece it's an extended piece but at least to gather some of the interesting points that he mentions I'd like to share with you right now this is yatta-ankou Monica came in China sham he points out an amazing thing then when we read the verse it says you should love your neighbor like yourself why because I'm a Shem what is that the widest Hashem when he when he refers to the Mitzvah of loving your neighbor as yourself why does he speak about the fact that we are to love our neighbor because Hashem Hashem what is the idea let's see this question in Sevilla absolutely how come oh honey I'm mitsue you say this became a Tyra is the foundational mitzvah when it comes to fulfilling the Torah Sharia Kiva he grimaces a cacao butter we find arabic Eva says that this is a foundational principle it's one of the most general important all-encompassing principles of the Torah Aaron Locklear madhu had Sarah merciful America cvilikas Oh Anya Shem the Torah says you should keep this this law you should love your neighbor as yourself why Kenya sham because I'm a sham what is the idea of that how Ramos was over there a common kind of my Sonicare have on a cycle other mysticism it's where the people fulfill because we understand something that's understood it's it makes sense Shanaya sure mr. Lovett azula's it's something which is appropriate incorrect to love other people mr. Shafi laboum asylum Doug limbo this is a commandment which even the nations of the world except upon themselves and they feel out there that they're important that it's important she'll on qiyam has say they're an order for that to be proper order in the world here's skin shekel echoed like you've gotta say maybe I really do have a such a knee that note that they have they have been Misaki and they've set it up such that one person needs make sure to pay attention to the needs of other people to love another person via Sheffield a woman should see what mr. Saroj system awesome there are those who say there are this even nations who this is like the the main thing for them Alvis azula's loving others unconditional love alma mater omits Avila Cayman submit so lemme kasha sake of our egg is moving him but the Torah when it tells us that we have an obligation to keep this commandment of loving our neighbor it says an ear Shem do because I'm God which is a statement which says don't just do it because you understand it but rather also there's an aspect of this mitzvah which requires you to fulfill even though you don't understand I want to see what that means Turkish oh that's a like a misciagna Shem you came out mr. Shekhar attention this Mitzvah needs to be fulfilled because it's the will of Hashem the will of God let me shower I shall be no no Xavier my high voice to the comments but so not just because a person feels like it's an appropriate thing to do acaba MS he says like this that the truth is in Kakuma mitzvah be righted an emotion love mary meeker Havana's a sake of a racial adam on the lowest level of fulfillment of this commandment on the lowest level of loving your neighbor as yourself so there's an aspect of doing it right based on our intellect because it's something that we feel that it's the right thing to do Simon when Jacob became a missile of associated Kimiko but there's a deeper level and that is loving someone else as oneself right that is a level which is not per se attainable if we just go with our intellect we just go with our emotions so if I'm and rakish ultimate aim is how Mitzvah rat came in China Shem this is a mitzvah that can only be fulfilled at its deepest level because God has commanded it this idea she captain's the veena made somebody because this was a command of the creator okay so if an aspect of loving loving someone else that's something we understand we need to love others but to love someone else as myself to consider another person part of me of an extension of myself that is a deeper level because all our arts they just say but my social nori Shibboleth nihilo very interesting he gives a beautiful touch beautiful explanation of the the story with Hillel on the gear right we know this story meant where many people know the story particularly non-jew came to Hillel and he said a big adrenaline shake I recycle I made his already hot as he said I want you to convert me to Judaism and teach me the entire Torah while standing on one foot okay so in other ways he wanted an encapsulation of the entire Torah Arlo hillo so Hillel said to him a spin on the mitzvot you have to learn em oh he didn't say them you should love your neighbor as yourself but rather he said to him dialog Sonny that which you despise high relative it don't do to your friend Zoe Carter Akula this is the essence of the entire Torah either TV show who zilgram or the rest of the tour is just an explanation or an expansion on this concept go out and study the Torah okay so that's what he said to him the hiram so recline points out okay feeling I might do our lie helo it's like Lala got about turbid swoosh Lilly's why did he say it in a negative way that what you don't like don't do to your friend my fishes son we left I still have your alarm on the collection of possibly I'll come up why don't use the language of the verse which says you shall love your neighbor like yourself came shakeela right to the londes get away at the one who Kimiko each team of users coming tachycardia Seiko so he explains it beautifully it says that the hilum he wanted to explain to the gear the idea that he's teaching that what is the essence of the Torah it's the concept of loving your neighbor so he wanted him to understand on an intellectual level on the most basic level an emotional level we all understand that we shouldn't do to somebody else so we don't like that's something that anybody can understand but that's the lowest level that's before Annie hm yeah how come Oh Annie a sham you should love your neighbor as yourself I am God that's a higher level right this lowest level is don't do something that you don't like to somebody else that's something which is emotionally intellectually makes sense I wanna shop cycle she'll go Yoko Levine even the mind of a person who's coming to convert to Judaism may not be as sharpened through Talmud study let us say so it's something that even such a person cannot miss a home even Shekar Lia's who KBC jae-hak cobra that people understand intellectually that this has to be the law is the rules of social interactions that shamash arab feel I'll toss this little America if it's not good for you don't do to somebody else yahaha caches gaya and afterwards when he becomes a gear when he converts you love me you'll - someone Drake is a good boy yeah then he will learn the higher level Shh became is for zou with sura gu v s-- which is involved in this commandment in a positive fashion not just a negative fashion the artillery I'll come over love your neighbor as yourself now how is our Shan eekum bokum Amish to love somebody else like yourself literally Zak Varney's Kamiel Ivana's a se ho this is something that's beyond what we normally understand kiyomatsu civic america redwoods idea fulfilling the commandment of loving somebody else like yourself by rabbis to makea me cook their Rat King jr. sham there are many times was only possible to reach such a level of loving someone else like ourselves that's only possible to do we know Seamus commanded us to do this rakesh love him but he says that we need to understand in Schliemann some in Soviet law how comical a visa come my car came in sham Seva if it's true like we're saying that the perfection was mitzvah the higher level the the lofty level of this Mitzvah is to love others like ourselves because God has commanded us Obama specifically wreckage ain't no may even say this is something that we wouldn't per se understand with our intellect and with our emotions kills a car battle Oracle Kamiya houses called loving your friend then if I only love somebody else because God commanded me to love them there's something missing in my sincerity something missing in my love I'm them however whitish limas have my lovely kima missus because Hadassah Chicago Manish ma right we have this principle we've discussed previously that there's an aspect of doing the commandments fulfilling the commandments whatever God says we are going to do right we will do oh we're gonna find out we accept it upon ourselves we've committed to it already soon we'll find out what that entails but learn each times we have on a societal which means that we don't sometimes we engage our intellect yes we need to understand things but there are certain things that we need to do or many things that we need to do which mean I may not per se understand from Kamaka my missus Shamu who Sauvignon ahijah vacillate but if that's the case if this is something that we do because we're told to and it's not something we may understand emotionally or intellectually so how do you apply that to a myths to like love love is something which you know it's something that I feel something had to feel already MS I mean I may even should start obviously Shanee the truth is that the person is not emotionally connected to the fact that he needs to love somebody else all right okay mr. Schine CV only loves the person because God has commanded him to let me connect sir Sava so what kind of love is that that's not true love I love somebody because you told me to love them I don't really feel that way that's not true love so how do we understand this Allah Jabir should be clarified see Vanya Shem sort of attack at Slate Suresh so rim climbing explains that it must be that somehow by fulfilling the commandment by Hashem saying you shall love your neighbor as yourself I am assuring your God now you're to do this up now that you're obligated to love a person even when you wouldn't have normally done so this requires us to develop a true love for another person even though we might not have truly loved them without the command so we need to understand what does that mean dr. FATA sidus i rakish like you miss Rizo she i said i saw me that Ava's azula's which needs to develop and it's possible clearly the Torah is telling us to do this it's possible to develop a true love for somebody else even though we wouldn't have ordinarily felt that way a circle of our lovara finally their car is up oh of course we need to explain how does one come to such a recognition how does one indeed come to truly love somebody else and he won't have naturally felt that way for toward boyish lovin furthermore we need to understand harine instead of you know my mrs. Ava's Hashem we find I'm actually gonna skip this point I'm just probably on a skip okay now so we're gonna go now to the next part where he speaks about he brings an amazing mattress very beautiful interesting magician the measure says like this listen carefully darjah Casa La Paz except a safer told us autumn the verse tells us in Genesis chapter 5 verse 1 this is the book of the generations of man behind bar like a modem on a day that God created man but muscle akima so God created him in the image of God ok so the verse says something the the language of the verse needs explanation and that's why whenever you have am a Jewish and I've heard so many times to my master Shiva many times the mattress even though it seems to be wondrous but it's closer to the simple words of the passive then the chat or the simple understanding them or though what we usually think is a simple understanding the the the words themselves there are words here that need explanation Manish will give us a shot give us an idea which we wouldn't have thought of as being a push-up shop it says here this is the book the generations of man on the day that God created and what is that what is this book of the generations of men on this day that God created him so measure solely who's been as I I'm heir but as I says Zess Seifert oldest autumn is a cloud Gautama Tyra he says an amazing thing there's a general principle in the Torah which has to do with the Book of Allah Mary shown this is a special book that was shown to the first man when God created him and as we'll see man was shown other my reason the first man was shown all of the progeny that would come from him all of the generations that would precede doradora man he goes each generation and its leaders other my rease-jones so every single person was going to come out of him and this is a general principle this is a foundational all-inclusive principle we'll see what that means beaky buying their buquebus says something which seems to be not related which is what we've been talking about until now but doesn't seem to be related to this particular verse he says we all have to learn huh come on cozy girl Bottari loving your neighbor as yourself this is the general principle of the tour the all-inclusive aspect of the tour light time our Heil Venus Bizet sees bazooka very mean person shouldn't say look that person insulted me let him be insulted alongside me let me insult him back Heil Venus colotti since I've been cursed this Kali me let him be cursed with me no half-dollar ever come o clock this is where we hear the first the beginnings of the hazards understanding what does it mean what's a deeper level that we wouldn't have thought not only how chemical means love your neighbor as yourself you should consider him as yourself and therefore just like it let's say a person would have a child or somebody who's very close to my student he loves very much who loves loves like himself so the level if he would be insulted by that person he wouldn't want to get you want to get in the company wouldn't want to get revenge on that person because he feels so close to that person might be upset but he wouldn't want to cause him embarrassment or cause him to be or curse him every keeper says that's how we need to feel about all other people that's the kimono I need to love another person like myself I'm Repton kumara pen kuma ends off the message with a third thing of third point I must cease Akane die Lamia time advisor be the most lucky massage amazing thing he says if you indeed insult somebody who's insulted you you should know that you're that the person that did this thing to you this negative thing to you that you're now insulting in return he was created in the the most of a Sherman the image of God so a person needs to keep in mind that if someone insults me if someone's done something wrong to me but he's created in the image of God and I need to focus on the fact that he is created in the image of God and not get him back and not take revenge on that person amazing thing okay so those are the three different concepts the three different aspects which seem to be unrelated want us to do with the book Adam saw of all the different people that would would exist throughout time one has to do with the fact that you have a general principle which is I need to love others history a kiva never of time kuma who says we need to focus on the fact that others are created in the image of God okay so what's the idea here nothin's I saw Peter hey you saw me Cedric I'm feeling that we can understand this bass in the words of the roshaniya of the Talmud in the Dharan practice allaha Dalek Steve Lacey Kevin Lacey turban aha hey Kavita the verse says excuse me there we are not to take revenge on other people so how do we do this hey Michelle Michelle economy Oh Hollis Gabrielle Rick choice of shalil in Cumberland lint or Gomorrah ass how is it possible for a person a person has you know undergone some kind of difficulty some kind of challenge he's been hurt by somebody else how do I not hold it against them how do I not get revenge and the tour expects me there's a deeper level not just that I can't get revenge Lucy Coe him and I also can't Lacey Turner says I can't even hold it in my heart I can't even have inside of my heart a negative feeling toward that person so how is it possible to overcome those natural feelings or a confucian case of Aram Kyle so based on that which there are my right Sammy Sosa charm and the commie Mitsuko Reuben Adam revenge is so sweet for people half official I mean - you're - in been Akuma cyclamen even though a person knows that getting revenge doesn't get him anything yeah the issue is talking about is a avila hurt us sorry what if I get back at him he takes away from the pain that I received that I've been I've endured Oh cognitive I shall Adam this is the nature of a person cashier mid sorry my sigh I could go by when somebody insults a person or somebody hurts the person who writes oh the kind of Santa coming out that he wants to get revenge you guys should see what I love delights eternity I feel believe it's a much more difficult thing not to hate someone in their heart not to hold the anger against the person because you're men okay if it's with Loretta Sheila let's say I ask my neighbor to borrow a certain certain thing I want to borrow your garden hoe and he didn't he wouldn't lend it to me Lamar by the baggage man okay vets and now the next day comes to me and he says can I borrow your pitchfork when I say I want to say no no I won't say no I won't get him back and say no but I'll say to him you know I'm gonna give it to you not like you gave me yesterday right that's all sir it's forbidden come also the last ship sigh Steven - thinking inside of one's heart is forbidden she waits for him and me to think that I am better than the person look I didn't get them back Nikki talking it's obvious can all autumn should be there call her I get sugar kazakh it's like how can how can entire expect that of us it sounds impossible sounds too difficult to be able to fulfill rain loudly Sasaki 12 iveco if ever let's officially listen I off you'll believe the Torah says don't eat your friend in your in your heart how can I turn expect that of me it's impossible AAHA chuva then he says that the answer is you have a terrific America that somehow through the ideal fulfillment of the obligation of loving our neighbor as ourselves it's possible to overcome this may take Ava's Kaveri because if a person truly loves somebody else I have a true love for the other person love means like completely identifying if you like that person is a piece of me I don't feel like we're two different people I feel like we're one person and just like when I do something wrong myself I don't get upset at myself I'm glad you'll get upset I don't hate myself I don't get revenge of myself but rather I patience with myself so - it's possible through the mess we have to Lorraine Coco Myka that's the clogger notes in an all-encompassing Mitzvah that's what explains the athletic America includes so many other outcroppings of it because if I properly can fulfill the after Larry Kokomo ha somehow somehow if I can get to that level of loving another person like myself which is not a natural thing which is not something that I understand intellectually and know intellectually and emotionally what do you mean he hurt me I'm gonna hurt him back laugh laura larae Kokomo the Mantis was a deeper level that and tells that it's possible the Tori's telling us that it's possible to be able to love another person like ourselves and therefore I won't want to get them back I won't hold on to the latina believe the anger at the other person the resentment okay so I can't we're running out of time here but I'll just give you a summation of what he says just to wrap it up and he says that there are three different aspects of this and that really comes back to the measures that we quoted with ben azzai rebbi akiva and rapped on kuma because how do I get myself to feel or how what are the ways one of the techniques that it's possible to get myself to feel that love for another person Turner says I Amish M want you to love another person how do I do that how do I go beyond my natural to my natural emotional feelings my natural intellectual feelings and go and love another person so there are three different ways that he says and those are enumerated truly in this Bryce the first is to recognize that throughout all of the generations we are all other my reach them when Hashem showed him that book some showed in the book the safer tones autumn Shan was showing him all people all of humanity throughout all of the generations and saying that all these people will serve me the purpose of man autumn Irish on the purpose of the Jewish people who did it continue the yield the purpose of animation what what are we here to do we are here to serve Hashem and so to the degree that I can feel like I am part of a greater whole serving Hashem serving God and not just that but I'm part of generations of Jews who are serving God or involved in coming close to Hashem bringing the world to a state of perfection to the degree that I can feel that I can recognize that in the other person yes he may have wronged me but that other person also is a part of this team we're all part of one team we're all part of the many generations trying to service I'm trying to bring the world to a greater service of God that's one way the after Loretta Michael rebbi akiva is also a certain aspect of that it's not speaking on the intergenerational level but he's speaking on this generational level in Sandy Hook and Michael means anya shem we are all here to serve God Hashem is saying I am a son you should love your friend why and it's all here we're here to serve Hashem we're all in this together try to serve God the last aspect that he mentions is the third one which is the demos the Mozilla Kim each and every person was maybe selam aleykum in the image of Hashem which means that there are certain aspects of God the way that God interacts with us tears - such immense compassion on us there is there's different meters there's different character traits that I Shem employs when he interacts with humanity and those positive attributes Hashem placed within each and every single person right so if I can focus on the positives of the other person and see the goodness in him even though he's done something wrong to me you have to learn how much I can come to that true love of another person so those are the three aspects and that's the sum up and that's the concept I want to bless you and I'm like I want you to I want to ask you to please bless me so we should help us that we should be Zeca to develop not just the simple level of loving somebody else or not doing wrong to somebody else but a deeper level of recognition that we can indeed love all those around us we are all part of a greater goal we are all part of the service of mission we all part of the nation of a Shem shem should help us to be able to do that should help us to recognize truly this is another important point he doesn't mention it but it's also important to understand that everything that happens to us ultimately is from a Shem and is for our greater good and all of those who come and do anything wrong to us who couldn't have happen unless a sham had decreed that that's an important point as well not part of what we were speaking about some should help us to recognize that as well thank you so much for listening have a wonderful Shabbos this podcast was made possible through the gracious donations of listeners like you for more podcasts like this please visit www.carmensognonvi.com/newsletter [Music]