KABBALAH GUARANTEE To Have Righteous Child - JEWISH INTIMACY (42)

we are uh back on our weekly sh coming to a close with the series over 40 lectures about Jewish intimacy that have certainly transformed uh many lives and will transform countless more lives uh especially the uh lecture that we're going to speak about tonight that uh has something that uh We've simply never offered before a guarantee a guarantee unlike any other guarantee that you've ever heard in your life uh and uh this is not a guarantee for me personally this is guarantee from the tah itself it's a ancient cabalistic secret that uh you know many people simply don't know exists uh and tonight the ramban is going to Clos it to us tonight's sh is going to be for the and for raim benan San Leana aavid and all of is and all of the righteous noahides especially those that have been learning this series with us lecture after lecture uh week after week week month after month and have uh been trying to do their best to apply all of this to their lives or at least as much of it as they possibly can uh because those of you that are uh simply not taking these matters to Heart are missing out on the ultimate blessings of Kusa uh and this is some of the things we're going to talk about tonight of course from the holy Torah sources some new sources that uh the ramban and have taught us and we'll delve into them one after another to uncover and unfold the most extraordinary secret that you could ever imagine which is the secret to being guaranteed guaranteed to have a righteous son now I don't know how many of you are looking to get married or already married married but it doesn't matter who you are whether you've already had kids or you want to have kids everyone wants a righteous son and as the conversation that I had earlier today and unfortunately one of many conversations like it that I've had over the years with people people that are crying out to a doing everything that uh they know of they've heard of uh that some that makes sense some that don't make sense but they're literally so desperate that they're willing to do anything just to have a kid just to have a kid people literally are willing to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars if not Millions just to have a kid just to have a kid just one kid give me one kid but when they go and they try all of these things uh whether it's the Medical Treatments or even the spiritual aspects of it it doesn't always work it doesn't always work and I've had uh a few times where people have told me they've literally spent a fortune enough to buy a house or two uh just to have a child and it simply failed it just did not work well tonight for those of you with an open mind and open hearts and souls that are receptiv to the holy words of the Torah you're going to get a guarant now this guarantee is not simple this guarantee is not oh you uh you drink this water and it it's all going to work out you're going to have a whole Fleet of kids no doesn't work that way this guarantee doesn't come overnight meaning that it's not like you're just going to make uh one little prayer and the next day the little kid shows up with uh with a bird like they did in the old ctoons many years ago and cartoons was still something that uh you could actually show your kids before they destroyed even that world but this guarantee is certainly possible this guarantee is certainly practical this guarantees certainly something that every single person that has the Merit to watch this lecture or listen to it at some point today or in the future every one of you can do it the question is how desperate are you or better said how much do you really want a kid of course many people have kids but some of them have even told me they regret having kids because those kids were Wicked those kids abandoned them those kids betrayed them those kids betrayed a and in fact one of the things that the sages teach us that uh is really one of the scariest things that you could ever uh hear about and I heard this directly fromel one of the great minds of Our Generation and an extraordinary MIM really one of the founders of the chuva movement over the last five decades he says that aad judges the world measure for measure and he is an expert in the teachings of a Tor especially the M he says unfortunately people there are more students that the Golem has than the maral has because most people are more like the Golem that just want to be robotic and unfortunately empty inside and they're more fascinated by the story of the Golem with true or not true irrelevant then they are fascinated by the holy words of the who is said to have created a Golem the concept of a goem is certainly true we see it in the gar in other places but the point being is says that when a person abandons a he gets multiple levels of punishment and one of them is to have a wicked son now what if the person is a person that is not really uh the most religious but he's not secular this person can very much have a son that abandons the Tor as a will show him that his own abandonment of the Torah is in essence abandonment of Hashem and Hashem wants him to feel feel if you will what he feels when somebody abandons him so having a son is not really the end of all problems we all want to have a child but more importantly we want to have a righteous child a healthy child both spiritually and physically the ran is going to tell us exactly how but not just the way but even a guarantee something that you cannot get anywhere else now over the last several lectures the ramban has taught us the the extraordinary nature of the Holy aot our Patriarchs where it wasn't for nothing that a chose abah ainu abrah ainu who although he was born to a wicked father and mother whether it's ter the Walmart of idolatry or Amala his mother who wasn't exactly too far from that did Cham discovered a made endless sacrifices to show his true loyalty to a perfected himself perfected his mind his soul his body waited for nearly a century to have a child with s and all of the things that he learned throughout all of those decades he implemented all of them in a single act after aadh told them in the Book of Genesis chapter 25 verse 19 that your your wife Sarah will give birth to your son and I will establish my Covenant with him as an Everlasting Covenant for a seed after him once Abraham ainu knew that this next time that he's going to be with his wife could very well be the beginning of am Isel could very well be the continuation of his seed KES could very well be the ultimate salvation he is waited nearly a century for and therefore he knew he can't just have a son it's not like having a puppy where if you don't want it you just sell it to somebody else he wanted to bring a son to the world that was just like him righteous sadik benadik a righteous person son of a righteous person and therefore during the act of intimacy the ramban tells us the secret is where it says that abam begat it means that Abraham fathered were at the moment of unity between Abraham and sahu Aram took all of his thoughts all of his Holiness all of his good and put it in his mind in order for that to lead to a holy seed all of the good traits that he's worked on whether it be his generosity his loyalty his zealousness his his fear of hem his love of hem his wisdom his dedication every little bit of good that he has learned as the says that Abraham ainu had 400 chapters to his tractate of aod and the that we have today only has a handful so how could it be that he had so many Within that many different levels of no says the rather than AB knew the truth behind bad character traits that could literally turn into idolatry where a person could literally serve himself his arrogance leads him to break off very valuable relationships with his Rabbi or even his wife our stinginess can cause her to lose oura or get punished severely for the presents and the gifts and salvation that give people's bad character traits are could very well end up becoming aod her infatuation with our car or house his infatuation with his jewelry or his business all of these things can lead to literally becoming idolatry AB ainu took his extraordinary dedic ation to and capsulated into a moment in order to make sure that his son has all of this in him and that's why when he came to the world he was the perfect he was the perfect human being and now the ran tells us this was not the only time in the Torah that we see this in fact he continues and he says in meilu the Book of Ruth The Book of Ruth that is a favorite name among converts to Judaism as everyone identifies with Ruth muavia the great great grandmother of David that was not only blessed to marry a complete sadik Boaz but also longevity to live even past her great-grandson she sat on the throne together next to her grand great grandson schl Ruth is the great grandmother of the Messiah and in the Book of Ruth that we read each year there are many different lessons that we learn whether it's about dedication to Hashem loyalty love of the Torah nees which is self- sacrifice but very few people know this hidden bit of information the ramban is going to tell us today and he says that in me in Chapter 4 Verse 18 it says now these are the generations of parit perit siredon why does it say why what why do I need to know this extra few words now we know that the books of the writings and the prophets are not like the five books of Moses where literally the five books of Moses were the hand of God himself written 974 Generations before the world came into creation where kadh looked into the Tor and therefore created the world whereas the books of the writings and the prophets were by divine revelation they were prophecy theyes so although extraordinarily holy although they were all canonized into the 24 books of the tanak they're not in the same level as the tanak we from the tanak from the from the five books of Moses but we don't pass from Psalms or from Proverbs or from The Book of Ruth but we do use it for which is in essence support for the law there are endless teaching in it so needless to say there are no extra words even there this is all divine revelation this is all prophecy KES if it wasn't written with divine inspiration then it wasn't canonized this is the reason why the some of the uh writings of schl were not canonized into the tanak or Ben was not canonized because although they had wisdom in them they weren't divinely inspired the Book of Ruth was and therefore we know without a shadow of a doubt that there's no extra words here every word is carefully calculated by the Creator and here we see a extensive description of the lineage from perit who's paritz peritz was the son of Yuda in the Book of Genesis when Yuda marries Tamar they have twin children one of them is peritz and from peritz comes the mashia that's how hid the soul of the Messiah throughout the generations by bringing him into the world from generation to generation in unconventional ways but always from this point on through the tribe of Yuda no other tribe can bring the mhia and the Book of Ruth tells us what happened with this parot paron why do we need to know that per it's to inform us that because peret was a complete sadik completely righteous man he also focused his intentions to sire a righteous son like himself and this is the secret of like we saw from his great-grandfather abah like we saw from his grandfather like we saw from his father Yakov or from his grandfather Yakov and his father yudah all of these righteous people had specific moments of Truth in their life Yuda was admitting his guilt even though that was embarrassing yov literally not allowing SE to leave his body until 87 years into this world which brought Ren his first son into the world where when he heard that he's going to be the sacrifice he didn't Flinch and in fact he even told his father to tie him in a certain way with thebat says that told his father to tie him with both of his hands and legs behind his back and from there we learn actually how to treat the animals at the time when a person is traveling with animals not so relevant to most people today but in order to make sure that the animal doesn't suffer but at the same token doesn't run away thear says you're allowed to tie three of its legs but not all four legs likeu had his arm and legs tied together you have to allow the animal to move but not too much cuz then I'll run away told his father tie my arms and legs together behind me so I won't get away ainu had many moment Moment of Truth not withstanding the extraordinary Moment of Truth where he had to literally sacrifice his son or at least he thought until Hashem told him no but this righteousness wasn't just left there we see that this righteousness traveled from generation to Generation all the way until peret came into the world and perit did not stop there perit meaning that peret was a sadik and he father the sadik and this is the reason why the Book of Ruth tells us this information furthermore it says himself also intended to sire a righteous son as himself because he himself was also a sadik and this is the secret of why it says in the Book of Ruth 4 vers verse 19 the very next verse and so forth generation after generation until we get anai S David in chapter 4 verse 22 in the Book of Ruth a righteous son of a righteous father thus we learn that aad the exalted Lord God did not choose his servant David without good reason to just be a king of Israel this is due to the continuous chain of 10 generations of totally righteous men complete sikim one generation after another each one higher than the other in the image of the 10 orders of the world the order of the 10 SPH the holy spheres which is a secet secret measure of the sh of Kuma this is a cabalistic term delting a complete spiritual stature for example the Adon his perfect stature before he sinned and in these T in these t is one of the greatest secrets of the whole lineage of mashiach of David and ultimately the Salvation that we're all looking for in this secret of the spot in which in essence these are the 10 ways of where it's these are the 10 Heavenly levels 10 ways that AOS who manages the world and these 10 were actually hidden inside D's name now if a person delves into the Torah with superficial reading they're never get going to get to even know any of this needless to say even the basic level of understanding of the to but unfortunately many people think that they could read the tah like a novel of some kind this reminds me of one of the things that always mentions which is a statement in the uh famous scientist unfortunately a heretic but nonetheless a scient that was famous Einstein where he says that there are two things that are endless the size of the universe and the human stupidity and the size of the universe it's only a possibility that it's endless many times people have the secret to life in front of their hands but they waste it because they don't use this tool appropriately and therefore the results that they get are obviously not the results that's supposed to get now when somebody wants to delve into the world of cabala which is the mystical parts of the Torah that means that they have Sanctified themselves or at least that's the prerequisite but when a person has not Sanctified themselves and they still don't even know what it means to sanctify yourself whether it be modesty Holiness and morality Holiness of mind then many times instead of getting the desired results they can actually get more problems now these 10 Generations ofik these 10 specifically these T sikim certainly knew everything that I'm telling you and we see it from their actions because not only were they righteous but calls them righteous a person can think that they're righteous but in sh is not exactly calling them righteous and the rambam is telling us that measured every single person in every generation and decided which one of them is going to continue carrying this extraordinary spark of the soul of the Messiah generation after generation and had to be someone that was a sadik but it couldn't be brought after one generation or two generations or three generations it had to be 10 representing the now this is hidden in the name of David which the ran is telling us that really is it's in the Tor you'll see it it's spelled v which typically would be read as do or dud but yet it's read David where the VAV has a e sound as if it had has also the letter UD where it's Dal vud yud has the gatria numerical value of 10 in essence this UD is hidden within the name of David because David wasn't like anybody else David was representing the 10 Generations of sikim David was also one that merited to have Mal Mal which is having all 10 of these SP now David merited to have this and he himself brought this to his son schl as it says in the book of Chronicles 1 29: 23 where it says and then schlomo sat on the throne of the Lord in the place of his father David meaning that schlomo continued the seed of mashiah so from from peret all the way to David there were 10 levels of sikim of where there was a righteous son of a righteous father now a person that just starts watching this series here perhaps is going to be a little dumbfounded is what what how does this even lead to a secret what do you even talking talking about what does this even have to do with intimacy but this is why just a couple of paragraphs ago the ramban himself told the reader whether it be the original student he wrote this for or anybody that's reading it 750 years later go back to the beginning and review everything we've said in order to understand each and every part of the things we've said and the things we didn't say but you should understand from the things that we've said and know that in order to get to this next chapter in order to get to this next segment in order to in essence understand the ultimate point and be able to accept the guarantee that I'm offering you you have to know what Holiness is where without it none of this would be possible now he's already told us that as much as a person is going to say listen I know that modesty is very important so I behave modestly I dress modestly I eat modestly I drink modestly I have modest ways I even conduct business modestly how can you do all of those things with modesty well if a person dresses modesty it doesn't necessarily mean that they're a modest person one of the examples we have in the Torah is SCH schl that was in a generation that was in Egypt and schom got raped because of her lack of modesty now we know that the lack of of modesty wasn't the way she dressed because the Tora itself testifies that am is did not change their names and she certainly didn't her name was schlomit she still had a Jewish name did not change their language and did not change their dress they were all still dressing modestly but yet schit was the one that got raped because of our lack of modest ways what lack of mod ways she was one of these women that likes to chat and have platonic relationships with the opposite gender so she said hi to all the Egyptians the Egyptian slave masters good morning Mr Egyptian don't whip me today I'll do my job how are you how are your kids with the 16 wives are you sure they're all yours how you doing good good morning thank you if you ever want to have a coffee I'm available for just a chat if you need to get some things out of your off your heart unfortunately many women do this they say listen religious Woman married to a husband I have some kids so what if I have a male friend schlomit had a male friend and the Tora says this is the reason why K allowed her to get raped because although she dressed modestly she covered her hair she covered her body she didn't call herself samanta she didn't call herself Christine her name was schlomit but yet her behavior was Unholy so a person can dress modestly but still not be modest a person could eat kosher food but still be a non- kosher person specifically when it comes to food you know in the old days when someone would eat generally speaking they were very ashamed if let's say some sauce you know spilled off of their sandwich or their fork and you know maybe made a mess on their face or went all over the place today people make videos about stuff like that they eat on camera they eat in front of everybody so he's eating kosher food at the wedding at the bar mitzvah at the party at the sh but the way he eats is unkosher someone could even have lack of modesty in the way they drink instead of having a drink like the grandparents did where you simply drank with some reservation with some class takes a huge bottle of beer or something and just guzzles it down in front of people and then he lets people know how it sounds too perhaps even makes a video about it say people a picture of it what it's a kosher wine the wine may be kosher but you're not a person that doesn't think about Holiness doesn't think about these things he thinks that just because he only drinks kosher beverages he's allowed to go to any bar to enjoy those beverages he says listen I'm religious but what so what if I go to a bar and watch some sports with some friends where does it say in the Torah that I can't do that well actually it says it in many places you're not allowed to bring yourself to places that are going to Incline you to sin in fact theah 188 written about 800 years ago and also there was in 21 number one also in s 23 number three and 251 and also in first 69 talks about how a person is forbidden to do any type of action that would lead him to improper thoughts where if a person knows that doing such a thing or going to a certain place will lead him to have inappropriate thoughts he is not allowed to do such things now if a improper thought enters a person's mind without him causing it it's not considered a sin he has to just simply think of something else but what if he wants to bring himself to one of of these non kosher places because it's comprised of immorality immodesty L scorning heresy our sages in the page 57b say that if a person has two ways to go to a place one place is the short way but it's comprised of bars and places of immodesty casinos prostitution all types of things that are not exactly ideal for someone that wants to become holy but it's a short way it'll take him five minutes to get to where he needs to get and he says I'll close my eyes but he also has another way and the other way it's as clear as a desert but it's going to take an hour to get to where he needs to get to he doesn't need to close his eyes there's nothing to see but he's going to waste an hour thear says if he takes the short away even if he closes his eyes the whole way doesn't look at one immodest girl doesn't look at one inappropriate thing and shim the bed de of Heaven judges and puskins on this person for that particular act R he is wicked who are you to take risks with the Holy put into you now if he doesn't have another way there's only one path and he must get from point A to point B then certainly he'll be allowed obviously he has to protect his eyes this is unfortunately very common in the world today especially in major cities like New York San Francisco Tel Aviv and unfortunately many other places where you cannot avoid immodesty you need to go from point A to point B for work for meetings for whatever you need but if you have another choice you must take that choice or else Holiness will become your enemy instead of your friend now a person is never allowed to put himself at any type of risk of his where arner in uh the response of is quoted in s 6 number 15 the one who positions himself in such challenges where he loiters at a place that is usually comprised of immodestly dressed women is called he's a wicked person if you know that there's going to be immodest women in this place and you go when you don't have to you should know despite what your mother says about you say you're and K is not gonna be your friend now a person that also wants Kusha wants to be surrounded by holy things so in order to do that they have to consider what they have in their life with the 429 and also the and on page 27 as well as the Taz and as well as the all conclude that one that possesses any material or images that contain a ulry or heretical ideas whether it be books magazines cataloges anything that has immorality in it where one that sees it could be brought to thoughts of heresy idolatry immorality even if you don't look at those books even if you don't look at the magazines if it's in your possession even if you don't look at the pictures you're violating the tah you're violating the that's mentioned in 7 verse 26 do not bring an Abomination into your home if you have an abomination in your house don't expect Kusa to be there too now one that watches videos of Heretics is going to be leted to think of heresy and ask heretical questions those heretical questions don't make themselves up and therefore a person needs to know that seph Chapter 19 Verse number four the page 12b says you shall not turn after your hearts and your eyes is also referring to the prohibition of thinking thoughts of heresy and included in this prohibition is one that directs his mind to thoughts that are contrary to D that could even lead one to heretical thoughts as a 387 says so here we see that one could easily use everything I just said and sanctify his life tonight by removing all of these dangers dangerous thoughts dangerous books magazines whatever dangers is relevant to what we just said or they could just simply discount all of it and ah come on fanatic but if one wants to achieve Holiness they have to take all of this into serious consideration and start demolitioning demolishing these things from their homes their offices their businesses modesty in drinking eating dress dressing is all good but modesty is also required in business if a person deals with inappropriate people on a regular basis don't be surprised if he becomes one of them and the sages are very critical about people that give compliments to people don't deserve them or haven't earned them as the page 62 gives an example where one of the people of the generation died and there was uh someone invited like a speaker invited to give an esped and rman was there nman was a giant kados and as soon as this person this speaker started speaking he started complimenting the person that died he said he was good he was generous he was kind he was uh smart and then he said he wasua he was modest and right away nak stopped stop stop everyone was surprised stopped the HED the guy is there dead say something about himman said how do you know he was T were you in the bathroom with him do you know how he behaves behind closed doors no so why are you saying tanu why you saying he's modest don't you know it's not allowed to lie about somebody after he dies to make it seem like he was more righteous than he was without actual knowledge because then you'll get punished and he will get punished that people are lying about him now if you think this is just a story this is the with chapter 344 first meaning that you can't just think that you could lie your way into righteousness or that people are going to speak about your righteousness and that's going to be to your credit if you're kados that means that aad himself testified kados he is sadik she isik if not doesn't matter who lies about you eventually your shame will be exposed now with all of this being said I mean you think wait so if I'm if I eat more modestly if I drink more modestly if uh I uh do business more modestly I'm not one of these arrogant people flashing my money around that means I'm going to have a holy son not quite in fact the world around you that sees you with better mannerisms at best case scenario we'll say wow he has really good manners look at how he eats look at how she drinks look how reserved they are look how great Their Manners are that's the best case scenario but says the raan as modest as you are in the bathroom in your during your lunch during the time that you're drinking and eating during the time that you are conducting business and communicating with people as much as you're modest over there know that modesty during the time of intimacy is even more important and is even higher level of modesty not so much so that you become a closed door and your wife or husband doesn't even know if you exist but modesty in the time of intimacy is absolutely required how does this translate into Behavior we'll put it this way some time ago maybe six seven years ago a report came out in the news scared a lot of people they said that there was some hotels in ER is that had some hidden cameras in the rooms now of course some of the guests were religious Jews they were very concerned about this oh what's going to be maybe they're going to publicize these pictures these videos it was an outcry someone came to raim my own dear R said what do you think of this and raim says well I also went to hotels sometimes for Shabbat sometimes for holidays different events and I'm not worried even the hotels they're talking about they were found with the cameras I'm still not worried do you know why I'm not worried and the the person that asked said no I don't know he says because anyone that follows the Torah and sanctifies himself doesn't have to worry about being caught immodest because even at the moment of the most immodest moment which is the moment of intimacy there is still a highest level of modesty where no camera would even know what's under the sheets because whatever you're doing you're covered the two the the husband and the wife are of course not covered under the sheets but they are twoo are covered by the sheets why because modesty means not just modesty outside when you go to the supermarket or you go to work modesty is also at the moment of unity and if someone follows the to it doesn't matter if there's a 100 cameras there it won't make a difference won't make a difference in the bathroom it won't make a difference in the bedroom another example of this would be where one time someone told me that they were very concerned because they got an email from some hacker and the hacker told them in this long letter I saw that they have hacked into their computer and they have caught them doing inappropriate things and if they don't send them some these pictures and videos that they have and there's no way that you can undo it because they already have control of your computer of your phone of your whatever you have in it's connected to electronics and if you try to call the authorities they're going to publicize it and it'll be irreparable damage just make sure that you send this money to this particular Bitcoin account count and I won't expose you now the rabbi or the the person said what do I do I told them uh well it depends says what would you do I said what would I do what do you mean if that happened to me he said yeah I said I would just delete the message and just go on to the next one what do you mean what if he exposes I said if it's a pictures of me he said yeah I said let him record 24 hours a day he's never going to catch me with doing anything inappropriate so he can have the camera now he could have it after he could have it in the morning he can have it at night I'm trying to be kados I'm not worried about what what he's finding anything he's not going to find anything there's nothing to find I'm not doing anything that I'm afraid the world will ever see so go ahead if you want I'll send you an email to give you access if that makes you feel good maybe it's going to help you do chuva you on the other hand I don't know what you do so if you are following the sh you're protecting your breach you're protecting your eyes you're trying to be kados then you could be just like me and I could be just like you and both of us are not worried about this email but if you are ignoring the sh and you just tell me listen Rabbi I love you but you don't actually follow anything that the rabbi is saying then I'm sorry to tell you my dear friend you are in deep deep trouble you are in deep trouble why who knows what he has except you you know what you has why you're the one that did it perhaps he didn't expect that answer because he thought maybe everybody can be caught doing something inappropriate and he's right that anybody can be caught doing something inappropriate if they don't follow the Torah to become kados but if a person wants to be kados it's not about what people say it's about what a says so if you are modest in your ways of eating and drinking and business and your mannerisms the best case scenario people are going to say wow he such a Class Act look how good his manners are but if you are modest in your behavior and you sanctify yourself you protect your bre you protect your eyes then himself will say look at my dear son look at my dear daughter sadik sadik they are the holy nation and guess what that's a lot more valuable than what anybody in the world would say because that's a and if he says it you know it's true to bring a holy likeu into the world is not just sending him to the right school and giving him a good education perhaps even not spoiling him no if you want to bring a holy n of a righteous kid into the world the preparation says Abraham ainu starts before the kid comes into the world you have to start by sanctifying yourself now if the kid is already here then obvious viously the education the it all is applicable but if you're still trying to bring kids into the world prepare now before the kid arrives sanctify yourself before the kid arrives because says in in 25 number 12 you're not supposed to use your intimate act as just simply a relief like some animal you you're not allowed to have intimacy just for the sake of let me just get some relief you're not a a horse a Seuss you can't just be a light-minded animal in fact says in in40 number eight that when one is intimate they must have the OD Heaven the of Heaven the awe of Heaven from his majesty the awe of Heaven from from Simply punishment both now of course everyone in their level if you're at the lowest level at the very least acknowledge the fact that a is watching don't act like an animal don't treat your wife for a husband like some piece of meat trying to elevate yourself even if you can't be like Abraham ainu do you know why because if Abraham ainu did not prepare before the act of unity if SAR menu did not prepare before the act of unity then would have never come to the world we wouldn't have have we wouldn't have our forefathers or even our nation when a person is Mindless about different aspects of the Torah they don't realize how far this gets it's a domino effect in fact when the ramban is telling us the modesty is at the highest level is during intimacy he's not just saying it's just intimacy it's everywhere why everywhere because we have a rule and the rule is best explained by the R about 800 years ago now he mentions this rule many times inph in one of the places is in mitvah number 15 or 16 I should say Mitzvah number 16 which is in regards toban P you would think what does Corban P have to do with modesty what doesb P have to do with anything we're talking about well anyone that has learned to for long enough or at the very least has learned with us for some time knows that everything is connected the Torah is the central nervous system to all of creation everything is connected just like your nervous system is connected to every part of your body the t is connected to everything inph he wres as follows after telling us about the mitvah of not breaking a bone of theban p and this is in commemoration of taking us out of Egypt he says as follows do not think my son to challenge my words and say what purpose is there in Hashem bless be he commanding us to perform all of these me v as a remembrance of the miracle of The Exodus why with one remembrance alone the matter of the miraculous Exodus can be brought to our attention so that it's not forgotten from our Offspring for it's not out of wisdom that you would challenge me on this rather it's a childish thinking that would influence you to speak in such a manner in essence he's saying why does Hashem constantly tell us that everything is a reminder of The Exodus just tell us one time won't forget it the says if you have that kind of an attitude will you think there's maybe an unnecessary mitvah an unnecessary act in Judaism spiritually speaking you're a child why my son if you have an understanding listen to this and incline your ear and hear this and I will instruct you for your benefit and know it to be true that a man is affected in accordance with his actions and his heart and thoughts constantly follow the deeds in which he is occupied whether good or evil to such an extent where even if someone who is entirely Wicked rash where every product of his thoughts of his heart is always evil if it would happen that his soul would be aroused and he would start to place his efforts and activity in the study of tah and doing mitv until now everything he thought of not just did everything he thought of was horrible evil but now he says you know what let me give this Torah thing a try from now on I'm going to learn tah and I'm going to do but not for the sake of heaven I'm just going to do it like a robot even if not for the sake of heaven but he follows the Torah he learns and he does everything that it says the result would be that he would immediately turn towards the good path and if he would continue on this path through the strength of his deeds he would eventually destroy the evil inclination that's within himself this is because of that rule that the hearts of men are drawn after their actions on the other hand if a person is entirely righteous and his heart is straight and perfect he loves the Tora and the MIT even if such a person could be led astray by the way of negative actions if he were to constantly engage in false conduct he keep shabat but he goes to the bars with his friends to watch the Super Bowl he keeps kosher but he likes to hang out around the Poker Club to watch his friends gamble he learns Torah but he gets involved in a business of lending money with interest if you were constantly engaged in false conduct even if he went to Yesa his whole life even if he learns to every day even if he keeps the mitv if he were constantly engag in the false conduct you may say by way of example that the king coerced them and appointed him to a wicked trade and then the truth is that in all of his act if it's all of his activity constantly in all day was in that trade over time he would eventually Retreat from his righteous ways of his heart and become an entirely Wicked individual for the matter is known and true that every man is affected in accordance with his actions meaning that although in the beginning he's keeping but he goes to the bar he watches the Super Bowl he goes and he hangs out at the Poker Club he gets involved in these businesses says listen I need to make money guaranteed over time he becomes a rash why in the beginning he'll say listen I'm just doing it for money listen I'm just doing it with pre pressure listen I'm just doing it I'm just keeping them company he can say listen I'm not going to fall eventually he goes there by himself eventually watches the sports by himself eventually plays poker by himself eventually he's the one that's doing awful deals why his actions will ultimately change his heart and this is the secret says the behind what the sages have taught us in the page 23b that desired to give us to confirm Merit upon he gave us the and in abundance why did he give us so many mitv why did he give us such a big Torah so as to preoccupy all of our thoughts through the mitv and that all of our activities should be focused on fulfilling the mitv in order to bestow goodness upon us in our ultimate end for through the good action in which we engage we are affected to become good and we thereby Merit an eternal life in so many words the reason why the sages say that a Jew that has a will not come to sin in those days people would wearin all day why because if you're constantly occupied with MIT you're not going to fall into the traps of the Satan but if you allow yourself to go to these places allow yourself to befriend these people allow yourself to act in these ways that are forbidden it's only a matter of time before you become one of the wicked people even if you start off Ultra righteous so therefore the ramban is warning us about all of these things why is he warning us all of these things because he says you can achieve Holiness by first cleaning house cleaning your actions you clean your actions ultimately you'll end up being able to clean your mind you clean your actions ultimately you'll be able to understand and remember the toah that you're learning you clean your actions you'll be able to replace them with good actions now what happens when you replace them with good actions says the the ultimate message to anyone alive today and wants to bring a child to the world and not just any child but a righteous child examine well the secrets of which we've incorporated into these chapters and if you will go on the path which I have made you aware of I will guarantee you that you will sire a sadik son who will sanctify a kad's name may God in his Mercy open our eyes and yours to the light of his Torah and enable us to achieve the secrets of his Torah and bring into this world Sons prepared to rever him and serve him may it be his will and we shall say Amen here the ramban tells us the ultimate message is the ultimate guarantee many people are familiar with the guarantee of the ramb the ramb in chapter 4 number 20 he says that if you follow his recipe for good health you'll have longevity you'll have good health you'll never get sick but few Among Us are familiar with the with the guarantee of the the danan the cabalist the ran here the ran gives us a guarantee in the name of a Tor that if you follow the teachings of this book if you follow the teachings of this series and you sanctify yourself you're guaranteed to have a righteous son that will sanctify K's name is anyone out there foolish enough to ignore this guarantee is anyone out there not inspired to change their life today is anyone out there discrediting this in any way shape or form who Among Us has such big shoulders to discredit such a big guarantee our sages don't throw guarantees around hence the reason people are only familiar with one guarantee of the rambam but if somebody has learned this along with us over the last year and a half and little by little has Sanctified themselves Sanctified their behavior and whatever they haven't they were reminded of today modesty in the behavior leads to sanctity being reserved in the way we eat communicate drink go to the bathroom will ultimately help you being reserved and modest and holy in the act of intimacy but the ultimate reward of achieving Holiness and intimacy is that it no longer matters what the doctors say what the scientists say what human nature says what statistics say what the birth certificate says it no no long matter matters why the ran says I have enough knowledge of not only this information but what it leads to it has led to abah bringing it is Led bringing yov it led yov bring in the 12 tribes all 12im it led to parit bringing it led toon bringing Ram all the way to boas eventually to isai who's one of the four people that thear says that never sinned even once in his life who fathered David a who fathered and from them comes the pure of the mashia you too can do this you too can follow in the footsteps of theim now of course with every extraordinary Discovery there must be a test and anyone that knows this history of the ramban knows that one of the Ran's children not only fell off the D but converted to Christianity now before you lose your mind hear the story behind the ramban himself having a son that went to Christianity the seph describes this extraordinary story of the ramban himself when he found that his son not only left Judaism but went to Christianity the very same religion that the ramban sacrificed his life to fight against with the debate in Barcelona but when his son left when his son abandoned the ramban cried hysterically not over his son as much as he cried over the fact that he thought that this would mean that his Torah teachings were false that what he wrote here is a mistake because he knows that when he was with his wife he was kadosh he is the one that wrote this how could it be that his own son would do this when his righteous wife saw the ramban cry and she asked him why and he told her I don't understand where I made the mistake how could it be I studied my whole life I dedicated my whole life to the Torah how could it be that I wrote false words she said my dear husband look at this she held a little pouch in her handan says what is that she says this is a story for you she said years ago I went to the mikve on the night that I was pure but after the mikve I was attacked by some General and he raped me he raped me and from there came that son that just left meaning that it's not your son that son came from the Idol worshipper filth that raped me and the proof of that is because while he was doing his animalistic act and I was defending myself I bit his thumb off and I kept it I kept his thumb and his thumb is in this pouch and she shows the pouch which the ramban opens and sees a human thumb that is obviously aged and she says if you want to confirm the story you can he is the main General leading the king's Army and you will notice that he wears a glove on one of his hands to hide the missing thumb the ramban had connections to the king and one day when the king himself found out about the ramban's son abandoning Judaism and going to Christianity he asked the ramban what do you think of it and the ramban told him the story and he says if you'd like to prove it your highness you can you have a general he's your main General go ask him why he wears a glove and when he takes off his glove and shows you that he's missing a thumb ask him to tell you why he's missing a thumb and the king of course fascinated by the story no less than you are calls his General who is close by and asks him why do you wear a glove on only one hand and a general says it's because and he takes off the glove and he shows that he's missing a thumb says because I'm missing this thumb why are you missing this thumb it's because because a long time ago I raped some Jewish woman and she bit my thumb off the King was so fascinated that he knew that every word of the Raman said was 100% true not just during that conversation but even in the tah itself that boy that abandoned Judaism didn't come from a holy seed of the ramban it came from a filth of some idolator hence the reason of why that happened but you my dear viewers friends students or whatever you want to call yourself you have the opportunity to sanctify yourself the women can sanctify themselves and the men can sanctify themselves each in their corresponding behaviors and and possibilities you could sanctify yourself in every aspect of your life not allowing your eyes to travel wherever the Satan wants them to not allowing your hands to touch whatever they desire to not allowing your body to be public property and not treating yourself like you're some cow that could walk around naked without anything to consider you could sanctify yourself in the way that you behave above and beyond just the mitv that you're already used to that you already have accustomed yourself to you could sanctify yourself in the way you eat and not just what you eat you could sanctify yourself in the way you drink and not just what you drink you could sanctify yourself in the places you go to but also the places you don't go to the people you talk to and the people you don't the people you deal with and the people you don't don't you could literally sanctify yourself in every aspect of your life and as much as you do there do even more in the most holy act that you have in your life which is the act of intimacy between you and your spouse if you can clear your minds during a day you could certainly clear your minds of Filth at night your minds can be full of holiness your minds can be solely focused on your spouse on the love and appreciation and even the Holiness of your spouse and what you're doing there and not some careless mindless instinctive act the reward for all of this is not only an extraordinary life of kadus but also something that you could literally call a miracle whether it's open or not is whether you'll tell everybody about it after it happens I recommend you tell everybody after it happens because when you sanctify kosh's name he tends to give you another miracle see all of these so-called fanatic teachings are the key to the ultimate blessings they're not easy not to hear not to do but the ramban gives us an extraordinary amount of Hope and encouragement by telling us this is not a recommendation a suggestion and hopefully things work out if you do this sh will vouch for you to make sure that a takes one of the special in a place called goof in sh and puts it together with your seed and her egg and bring a holy child to the world this is as good as it gets doesn't cost anything other than your time effort and complete dedication to now this Series has been revolutionary not just for us but really for the world of tah there is no series like it even though this book has been in print for nearly 800 years the world around us is ashamed of talking about Jewish intimacy what it really is and how holy it is but is not ashamed about talking about perversions and immorality when the two really should be the opposite part of the tun of this generation is the tun of morality the more of you that take this to Heart the more we can Enlighten the world with more holiness and more opportunities to sanctify K's name until this time we didn't really know how powerful this series would be but when you see message after message from people that even just took on bits and pieces of what they've learned thus far but they're really trying hard and already what blessings they're getting what amazing changes they're seeing you're truly seeing literally a kad's hand in this world involved with every single person's life if he wants to sanctify himself if she wants to sanctify herself this should encourage every single man to get married sooner rather than later simply to have an opportunity to sanctify himself this should encourage every woman that's not married to get married sooner rather than later just to sanctify themselves if you're not married it's because of you not because of others less picky less demanding pray to hasem do what you need to do in order to make make you a good vessel and certainly a will provide many times people tell me listen I've been looking for someone for a long time but then when you find out some more details you realize yeah of course you didn't find anybody because anyone that found you ran away from you the way that you behave the way that you act the way that you demand why would anybody want to marry you if a person starts thinking of things from the perspective of the ramban which is marriage is not for the sake of just having somebody to sleep next to marriage is not just for the sake of sharing bills marriage is not just for the sake of having a bunch of children running around marriage is an opportunity to reach the highest level of sanctity and servitude of a marriage is an opportunity to make make yourself holy marriage is an opportunity of all opportunities if a person starts to look at things from that perspective they start changing things and even if you haven't found anybody yet you could already start with sanctifying yourself today in the new addition of the right trans ation of thees also added a special prayer that the ramban wrote that a couple should pray before their act of intimacy it's highly recommended he wrote it both in the original Hebrew as well as in translation to English and this R is what we'll finish off the series with so you'd know so you'd see so you'd have these tools available to you we've learned from the ramban over the last year and a half but really we've already been learning from him for many years with other places with other series The get ramban times that we learned about the afterlife the ramban has been our Rabbi for many years but now the ramban has given us a tool of all tools and if that wasn't enough he even gave us a special prayer that you're not going to find in your average Sido a prayer that's going to help you not just say something before your intimate not just get your mind together beyond the Instinct but in fact this prayer is truly a reminder of everything we spoke about in this series where the ran talks about all the things that we talked about sanctifying your souls sanctifying your thoughts your feelings your mind clothing yourself with a good spirit good intentions all the different things we talked about for the last year and a half he put in this prayer I read this prayer for you once but I highly recommend that you buy the book you can get it from Amazon you can get it from Ben Israel website he told me that he's carrying it and I believe there's a few others that are carrying this book but it's a fantastic translation if you don't have it already this is the picture of it it also has other things that Jakob included including the translation of the debate that the ramban had against Christianity in Barcelona as well as some other prayers of the ramban pictures of the uh place that he lived the sh but honestly if it was just for thees it would be enough it was for thees and this prayer it's even more than enough everything else is extra credit but more than anything else is not just getting this book and just putting it on the Shelf telling people you own it it's living living this prayer and the ran says as follows May It Be Your Will creator of all the worlds righteous in all generations for the sake of Your Great Name That emerges from the verse Hashem has been mindful of us he will bless that you give me holy seed desirable and decent good and beautiful correct and accepted and worthy of living and existing without iniquity and guilt and bless me with your name and bless my house with sons and I will know peace in my Abode and draw through my seed and all the Wellsprings of Israel and purify my body and sanctify my soul and my thoughts and my intellect and my mind and the rest of my feelings such that I will be strong and strive and clothe myself in your pure good spirit and benevolent in the intentions of my supplication so that I will complete your will and you will complete my seed such that it will be built and live and be designed and do with the truth with truth and honesty and we'll continue with you and stand in the place of his success and prepare all my Pleasures in order to complete and maintain and make it tasteful with Grace and with Grace and with strength with health and with courage and strength and strength with Valor and have mercy upon him and making him and fabricating his tissue and shaping him in his dressing and good presentation in the constitution of his being in whatever he does and produces in his soul and his spirit in his higher Essence soul in his innermost being and his appearance and there shall not be in him nor in any of his limbs any harm nor deficiency nor injury nor incident nor disease nor sickness nor pain nor sorrow no injury nor malady he should never be sick nor infirm and he will not he will lack no good all the days of his life and bless me and my house and my seed in everything that completes our mind and our intellect and our feelings to do all Deeds for your will and bless us with the blessings of Heaven above the blessings of the depth that dwell below and with your blessings the house of your servant will be blessed forever amen Eternal Master sah this is what a husband and a wife should read to waken their heart and purify their Souls before the act of intimacy and the students of the also recommended to read Psalm number 23 in addition to that but since that's readily available to all of you you can read it on your own I truly wish that this Series has affected you as much as it affected me because it teaches us how holy our Torah is our clear A's instructions are and truly how extraordinary the reward is in this world and the next 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