Is It Right to Borrow Money for a Lavish Wedding?

another online question from an anonymous questioner my wife and I are trying I'm not sure this is really a philosophical question but is the question anyway my wife and I are trying to maintain a wedding expense budget but we heard that a wedding a budget for their weddings for their kids weddings and they heard that other people go into debt to marry off their children why are there not important more than not firm rules on this important life cycle firm rules I'm not sure you know we I guess Beyond common sense why aren't there halachas that mandate that people can spend more than they could afford on things well I'll put it this way uh to borrow money is not a terrible thing in itself as long as you avoid to pay it back if you can't don't worry you're going to pay back from then you have no right to borrow so those people if they put themselves in debt to make a wedding for the children then they should not make a big wedding should make this moment they have no way to pay back if they borrow the money now and they expect we're living in a very boring society today who doesn't borrow money today everybody's credit cards and so on that was so uh because many people use them too much and they and they can't crawl out of it after a while the very dangerous Society we live in today people borrowing the borrowing of credit cards are more to build it up so easy to use a credit card we're paying it back it's not as easy as using it in the first place so my point is we should not borrow money if we cannot pay it back and if we can't make it for our children a big wedding to make a small wedding we cannot afford it if we can have the money left please don't have a cash flow even rich people borrow money a lot from the bank and it's not considered anything wrong with it because they have what to back it up with collateral it's paid back with or if somebody has a good job and they can pay back after a few months whatever they can pay back so there's nothing about borrowing the money if you don't have to it shouldn't but if you know you'll pay it back so if you want to make a nice wedding for your children to make them feel good and like everybody else is making a nice wedding it shouldn't be elaborate too much out of a out of what everybody else is doing but if you're able to afford it and part of affording it means you can borrow money and pay it back there's nothing wrong with that but everybody has to even I don't say laws to govern certain things you have to make the laws for everything a lot of things the pharah wants us to use our intellect use our cycle what should we do not do we have to have a lot for everything we have enough flaws in the Torah for us to to keep certain things to tell it gives us a certain latitude for us to uh to use our common sense and uh know that if it comes to spending money for Shabbos for instance and or different things and we uh and we're overdoing it they're not able to pay back our debts then we have to on our own limit what we're doing and limit our expenses using our common sense