Veahavta Lere'acha Kamocha - Rav Yakov Zev Smith

the big cover to have us everybody coming to every Sunday today such an important topic I just see the words we here different Shas but I always find the most challenging is for example someone was been attending a Shear of a for years and then he found this year that's better for him he's learning better year but he leaves this year the rub will feel bad the will feel bed and yes we have a problem of when they want to change and they get a better but they're going to drop someone what's it going to be with him the old question if you someone's cold and he closes the window and someone else is hot and he opens the window or puts on the ex some's hot and some are cold in Camp we have a wakes up early in the morning wakes up his roommates and and the questions are really endless but I think the point is it's true you want to have the windows open or you want to changea or you want to or you want to change the shear but what about someone else don't forget the as the sh we quotes in the D said do we need more than that that this is the Cornerstone of but it's more than that we know the with the came to Hill he wanted on one foot told so just this alone gives us a a tremendous sensitivity what we is either it's or it's and the fact that the concludes after you become a partner with so it doesn't you know there's a lot more to say but I think we're very convinced the importance of after but the question is what does it mean is it humanly possible that that that someone could love someone else like he loves himself you know the of our is there is never Mitzvah that's given that we can't do what does it mean the and other in fact the ra is it's it's a it's so what does it mean but the question is much stronger imagine if someone has only one pair of shoes and his friend has no shoes do we say because we after he has to give someone else his own shoes doesn't sound right but how do you know it's not right so we all know it's a gar it's a tragic there are two people in a desert and there's only one jug of water if they share it they both die if one drinks it he will survive the other one will die so says the that said sorry you can't take the water for yourself you have to share it I they both going to die worry about it then but B says you can't the person can't take the water for himself obviously because you can't favor your life over someone else's listen to theor however RAB says the famous now this the refer to you go first so now I ask you a simple question isn't that a St says and the same says and that's the raan second question what is it me himself says but it's not y you know I once years ago I once wanted to learn the so as my we start from the and I to ask you where do you find the say the that if you buy a cheese Dan give half to your friend doesn't say that so there are six inan six in about they're all about how to give a r remember the says the Bas to be very high why you're giving a if you're not considered enough to give it in the most painless way that's a violation of have now that speaks volumes of what it means even to a Russia but what's important for us now asks that you have to choose a Cas of yeah you know why so is asking ra that's why the gar says six garas about how to give because it's not true so here we have a play this is our and the in the beginning of of when before you start every morning you so I'm going to ask you a question so if you did it this morning what did you think what is the is it what's it all about a Mitzvah that's the the and we're not sure what it means so the emphasis on a simple level that's says have means means just like you enjoying people help so be nice to him so it's not a it's not a amount it's an attitude you enjoying people help you so help someone else but my question is so is it literally is it a is so the EM is and this what I saw a number of say you're not to love someone it's not and it's not true but I'll give you a practical M let's say your friend ask you for help this afternoon he needs help he's moving he needs some help now you're busy it's a Sunday off your children home from Yesa and you want to spend time at home what should you do you go first your friend goes first so the way the say imagine what you would expect him to do if you needed the help in other words turn the story around you need the help and you ask your friend to help would you expect him to help on a Sunday Kan when his children home from Yeshiva if the answer is yes then help the other person in other words he you were using in a positive way so it's that's the shear and one of the the early on this he says this and he gives a few examples but what what I thought was very nice he says means V do he writes it in yish the way you would expect someone to treat you you think that's fair you expect it from him good do it to him and he says that you expect someone to do it to you do it to him and I found in you look at they both say the same means do the way you want him to treat you in other words I'll put it this way you probably never forget no there's no to give him your shoes the is is put yourself in his shoes make believe that you're him and and then you'll know what to do now we have Kam as a very doable approach now I think the hez is you know because the real Sak is a person a human being by nature is selfish you know we're b a child's born and only only me in the whole world and that's the the the the of living or has a beautiful if you have time today there so much so much in that person is living me me me like of what value was life you know we live in the me generation I once saw someone wearing a t-shirt I love me now it's better enough people you know think like that but he's not embarrassed but that's but that's the antithesis of but we have to live like used to say we have to turn the into how do you do that that's because the the the the human being is the way the say a person is affected by what he does when someone gives he becomes a giver when someone gives he develops an A A the is have so it's not so much how much you give the I is don't live in the world of me so once you're giving to what you expect to get for yourself you're okay because like says there's no school there's no secrets no shortcuts you give you give you develop the says that that idea also just have a have to give others but I think there's much more to this brilliant you know there's a story that everybody knows we mentioned it earlier in fact in sh with the girl want to so told now there's no doubt about it meant the so the okay so if you think the so say that why did make why do that get to the point the is after I one said and I think it's em H realized you can't tell a GU that because it's not true and you can't do it even the struggled what does it mean it's not so Hill had an idea he's going to make it more practical in the that you know I was once by and there was a full table of people and one person made a joke and everybody laughed it was a funny joke rather but the problem is he made a joke about someone sitting by the table and I was I just witness I went them in private I said by the way I don't know if you notice you realize but you go come on why you chill out I was just joking I know what that means chill out so and I thought realized afterwards he wasn't a bad person but he wasn't thinking you know when will he realize how bad the Ava was when they made a joke about him you know then he understood that how how it's and I understood of I saw bothin the same is a terrible thing but is really a two words if you're not thinking of him made a joke I didn't think oh you're right afterwards maybe but brings so the way to avoid all different get yourself involved do you know how much it hurts so why you doing it to and this say thiss if you notice what leads up to because is really in the in the and that's and we look at the one of on this he says he's learning the is not cuz for that it's not it's it's it's the ticket you look at the that's what he says now these it's not a Ste means V do what you expect him to do to you the say that's that's literal so we have two in [Music] this [Applause] clearly someone asked him when is a person so he said that the is is wonderful but where it's that is regard in thiser now I want to ask you another question let's say a person doesn't have do meaning okay so he decides I have a good idea he goes over to the person has an nice Alum and grabs it and runs away for seven days what you do I learned of course he's wrong why is he wrong ter is POS is when both are equal or the or the or the water is yours in fact then but you can't do an right wait let's go step further we could do better we could do a lot better let's say someone goes over to the the God and holds a gun to his head and he's a serious this person and says God if you don't shoot the biggest in this town I'm going to shoot you what should the do is very P I mean this the this the right wrong this that we all know says that you know that K the why because wait a second we started with a with a with a now you're telling the to get killed and not so if you tell me it's another I'll figure it out tell me it's a the ter only works when there's no a to go shoot someone else to save your life he's doing but we could do even more than that there something quoted bris said even more than that he said we would think if you have such a scenario the biggest the would wanted us to know that every year is so precious that we don't know who's you know we think you know he's a nobody you don't know what the person what's doing and said it has to be a without a now again this speaks volum what it means but my point only is yes it's true but that doesn't legitimize doing an whether it's feeling mean or killing someone so here we have our second shot in it goes on regarding doing and yes is true but you can't do an but there's another point and that's says that he believes that yes is true it's only in gmas but it comes to to even though he's giving up his own time and that's why it's very in there's no now lest you think this is this he discussed the responsibilities of a and he says if a person even though he's learning and his time for learning if someone comes he needs help even though he's losing his own learning because because now the embes you hear this at first and we would think it's almost if for a few dollars shouldn't it be that and indeed it say I can't understand it what must held you know like that famous V they say they ask you be to be would you change BYU because what for the has one and one right if there's only one mitah to be done either you and the other person so you go first the bur will have one Mitzvah you the other person okay and you look at the P he says that he says you want to do a so let the other person do it okay it's but that's why looking at it but it could me which is more does not say you look at the it's clear he says to understand the the of it's always so how you if you do the what's the to give to others that's part of to help someone else we'll soon see a that says this but there are two why it's very that there's no but if you notice the is going on allv or only if the first but if you look at the again it's to me it's Bor in both places is only talking about learning that talking about say before you apply this I'll tell you one more after and it's not a steer to the first and they're all someone told me he says his wife spent so much on clothing it's not fair you know you can't afford it so my first reaction is you got just got married don't you know that that women spend on clothing but I told him you forgot so for us that we we're sensitive to what it means this is a double first of all it's not just and more than yourself not only it's equal to me more than me because that's the cover he so that to spend more on your wife's then your own oh so then I was thinking could be that's the that's when is literal don't forget you know when we say in writes in a letter that it should be like we could do better I was thinking and this probably could be carved to the you say you send some invitation what does mean wife you know it's all over friend wife whatever it is could be is like and therefore regarding a wife then literally we all know the learns of how careful we have to be with with a wife once once said he said the only time that is by your wife so he said not say if you're gonna you'll divorce her because then that's not going to happen you'll be happily married but you're not going to be to the end degree that's a that's a that's a problem like we said the be with her wife I say ah this sounds that made up means a friend I'll tell you but I don't mean any comparison but listen to this one of he asked a question is how to give a is that he said yes and I quote his yes he's learning so whether it's or and I don't mean compare the two but you see the has different maybe and again all the it's not a and you know velt the first thing the first focus is how do you treat your maybe May maybe it's because that's what is all about but let's what we learned apply this first of all all agree is probably the is what you expect someone to do to you probably or maybe certainly this more there is no so now let's apply this to the various Shas first of all let's start with a simple sh two people are on a deserted island and they only have and one has a Kaz mat and that's all they have should it be a nice guy and give it to the other person in that CH no that that's B this is a clearcut case of now you have to give it to the other person doesn't make sense but again is only talking about only talking about wouldn't be now there's an earlier Source he says that but typically you go first and Mitzvah you go first if you have only one up to do a Mitzvah don't give it away you have to keep it for yourself and we'll soon see the in says this as well let's say someone very much wants to but he doesn't have an opportunity and pun's walking and someone just a chicken oh he runs over grabs a bit bit of offer and grabs the Mitzvah says what you do right or wrong terribly wrong in fact the says pay Bays he has to pay a hefty why there like we said doesn't legitimize doing but I'll tell you somebody and this is because it's the sensitivity that a God has to have to see through you know the that we sometimes it blinds us people you know they they need a surgery they need to get it to a doctor and they have to wait 6 months so they use protect he writes it out and someone calls the kids said they have an appointment next week for the surgery so somebody is it right what what does that mean you got an appointment do you think the doctor gave up his vacation for you no no no what happened someone called and said and they they bumped someone else for 6 months is it right you bump someone because you need a surgery maybe it's maybe that's the he says what do you mean that's to push someone off from his surgery that's an a he says and that's not he says if the other person needs not want to do that so with this Clarity in to take someone else's that could be a suff protect you doesn't give you a to bump someone you know more people are waiting online waiting for a parking spot or waiting to pull in and someone grabs it no that's a g of I mean that's that's missing the point A lot has been written you know you learn how much you have to pay but what's is there to be that's all pay big deal I'm a rich person I don't mind paying some say say say being even a simple expression of no one wants your money they want you not to not to be maik next question is more of a tricky question have it in the Yesa and the camp you have a room you have a room with b and one B is always that early bird he likes to wake up talks to learn which is wonderful but he's waking up his roommates they can't fall asleep and you know he's saying and they're saying what about us so he says if it's the D to wake up at that time you know whatever for get a little before you allow to wake up and the room says why don't you wake me up I want to I like to come of the AL you know you to wake up but let's say he wakes up not you not to wake up find a different room today they have these vibrating alarm clocks that wake you up with that noise but you can't use the Mitzvah to hurt someone you know I always say they should have a room of early birds waking up early in the morning but the problem is it's not very popular room you as you know it's not easy getting up early but one thing I will say that the I is the same is true people learn late at night they come in and they wake up their roommates when they go to sleep that's an a oh that a b you know you know but as once said if you take a pearl and throw it in someone's face it hurts P could hurt next question about the wi summer it happens all year whether it's opening the window or closing it or putting on the ex or closing it so it's you know most want it closed some want it open or vice versa so the EM is it's are both parties and no one owns the air condition no one owns the so this is a beautiful in P PID he quotes a salant that says that even a could be during the winter and even a be during the summer it's totally in what it is with the time of the year winter windows are closed summer windows are open very respectfully says it's to understand why is it toally in in winter and summer he proves it from another place it's toally in Roy versus m so that's really one thing we will say that a factor to say I need it and it's hurting someone else that that's not doesn't legitimize and plus don't forget that this should be a very strong doesn't only mean if you someone else it means if you give in if you you forgo was on a campaign literally whenever he spoke he spoke about being m and he said because he know he and so much because people not and he said these words and I quot I never saw a that loses so someone heard my and he took a picture of Simon when he was M he looked ancient must been 101 years old and he put next to it that words and he gave it out and his people put on the refrigerator it's a wonderful now one years of experience so you know it's hard to Ping about Windows and and and air conditioner but I guarantee you if someone T his hat and he doesn't open the window because someone else is cold his daving will be much more effective that that's a daving that Mar Will Cherish he's doing it with the the the scho of being speak and I'm almost afraid to say it why promise so much you're going to have be oh all doors are open for such a person so again you know this of being in these cases windows and air conditionings whatever it is person that goes with with with the in he's he has two daughters and the older one isra taking a time and the younger on to start first but the the feel bad in other words says we don't like is awesome that's where most place can go but you can hurt the older sister's feelings so said first of all it's not terrible ban a lot of people take the time you know they take their time it takes longer and he says that you can't tell someone who's more than someone else not to be if the young one find how could you prevent the young one cuz the older one and he writes that I don't see any Isa you're not do anything and he says so I guess in this case it would be where the ill feelings maybe are un unjustifiable even though men men the older girl will feel bad but says you can't stop someone like someone becomes a a opens a business and he's more than than than his competitor so he should go out of business he's hurting his competitor it's a world that you know you do your best now I know it's a but that says at the end question someone has a relative who needs has a very severe medical crisis and needs a lot of money and they ask him to go help you know raise funds and he's a you know he doesn't want to go collecting say but your friend your relative or friend whatever needs money it's but I'm embarrassed has even a bigger and he says that to save someone's life if it's a biz for you and he says just like says is also limited to and if a person has to undergo he's is extremely critical of that even a person's personal so is very understandable so again if it's a medical crisis a person has to overcome The Bu you know the SAT would send his G to collect money they I'll give you all the money no no I want you to go collect you know it's a training in in maybe that's why there's a greater for collecting than giving because it's harder but whatever the case is this is an example of it's not an example of someone asked me he was asked to learn for for relative but am I going to lose my first I told me know a you doesn't live that way you know you learn but I also told him again I might be wrong but I I don't believe if you learn for you lose you know the the oldest we say this all the time the just listen to me you never ever ever lose by doing the you can't you won't lose by doing the so learn I don't believe anybody will lose an because of that of doing a mitvah you know maybe the is like you know they say maybe like you light one from the other so the first doesn't L it just spreading it but again I don't think there's any problem here of when you learn like like you doing forus a challenging question is let's say someone wants a Mitzvah to do a Mitzvah let he wants to be a mo for a certain baby and someone else is also going for that Ma can you be aggressive you know call up the uh aen how how you how's the baby I I'll come over just look at the baby just if you want to no no I don't mean anything particular but I'll look at the baby just to check you know be a little pushy to get the mitzah not an A but aggressive so here we come to a big in the in the UT he quotes a that says that there were two people in jail or in a midv and they only have one Kaz what should they do so he says call the all which in English means fight it out so he says it can be if it belongs to one of them how can you fight it out that that's called so he says there's no doubt about it he's talking about that it's he whatever the case is and two are in the same island with this with this kazas so he says then oh then if it belongs to nobody so you know go the extra mile but listen to his words he says I I know says so why can I even fight when it's his that's an A but then he had the following of course you go first so if you're not doing then and he adds we say that so he's learn that and but then he adds and listen to this when R when when when Boaz wanted to do the mits with r but there was someone before him the so he told him he stressed so he quot this the sh quotes from I couldn't get a hold of that but it's that wanted to do this special Mitzvah but he was he was second place online so he wanted to scare off the Goyle he didn't do an a he didn't lie he didn't he didn't give him a bad he just stressed so the person will have second thoughts so he says even though you can't take from someone else to do a Mitzvah that's mitah but applied in this case he didn't do an a he didn't say don't do it that's he just did a smart approach and he said that's the that with the with the he saw anyhow so he did it in a way that it wasn't an A so rule number one he's saying is you can't do an AA you can't grab mat that's Matula but rule number two is when it's he go the extra mile be aggressive within the limits of you can't do is it's but it wasn't and it wasn't and I saw in the in the the on the has three ious that to do a Mitzvah you allow to be aggressive as long as it's not an a now of course there might be a thin line but as that's why he says be careful so I was thinking that applies to our case as well if the father had a baby he not another Mo not anybody if you want the go for it you could use any ways that you could do it it's like a business deal points to famous story of was traveling and he forgot the bench so he says I left the a golden y behind so they they went back so said why did he say he has to go back for Bening because they wouldn't go back but oh they went back so what do have it wasn't a she what do to have mean either a gold y or it means a Mitzvah so he says to get a MIT you all to say yeah but more than that no so that would be the answer to our question that you're allowed to Taka go after a Mitzvah you want to be a be aggressive and I taka found afterwards in a big says even if some another Mo was already interested in theah so there might be isue but not in this case the in told adds a bit and he says because as was so y felt I can't I can't leave the with because he's going to abuse it and I found in which if someone has a if Russ has a you're allowed to fool him to get it back because you keep it in the Russ's hand he's going to abuse use it now we we don't have this exact but in there's a similar if you know someone stole something you allow to buy it at a cheap price and fool them at a cheap price CU he won't give it to you otherwise because you're getting back what's not really his that's a little different but the P use this whole this whole idea let's say there's a a a reform Sho that's nothing more than a social club and a that's laying and all this activity is going on in front of the so do whatever you can to be who's and they apply this and and so that's the only one case you could use a little bit beyond just because there's a pig of the someone wanted an EST and the wouldn't sell it him because he has exclusive customers so he oh he says I'm buying this my my my rashash Nowa he doesn't give his rashash but he pays a fair price that's a na CU you you're not buying for but not for na that's a so you have to be careful when to apply it listen to that's more challenging than it seems two people are on a desert island and they only have a little one only has a little bit of oil he could light Mahin but his friend has nothing if he gives his friend something he will not do Mahin what go who goes first so we would say to give up my for him he's an is no a I'm not taking his but where's the you can become the Mitzvah perfectly and he'll do the same why not think of someone else and this seems to be the from the beginning has this very he says even if he means eight days of not having but let someone else have the Mitzvah as well so I saw asked why is it so it's mine I want to do the he's an O why should I give it off him what about he says I will say maybe because is different because and if you light yourself there one if you give it to him so there two P so you gain more like there can be the in the end of listen to this someone has an you know to everything's but that's special and it's friend has nothing but here has the catch this that has the is going in a city that that he have an estg there so he could use someone else's or the sh's estg his friend is living alone and there's no EST at all so says give your and you use the I don't know how many people would say that today but that's so what do you see from here that even if it's not you have to give it why I guess sweet the also help him out has a sh someone had a minute he lit a big n a big handle for a whole shot shabas it burned the whole night that was shab and someone get right for shabas I don't have any any for for shabas help me he says cut part of yours and give it to him you'll get Mitzvah and he'll get a Mitzvah see that's part of yes that's it's hard to know what he means but he says if someone has two and he can eat both of them or give one to someone else give it to someone else why and it seems that he could have one for the first night and one for the second night but give it to someone else and you both have the D of tonight now it's hard to understand because what about tomorrow night there means I have to give this very and also discusses and brings but it shows what it means a child that comes up unfortunately gets a little sticky when there are two yard s two people have yard site and on Monday and Thursday only one Aliyah was only one amid now we're talking they both equal both have yite not just one as on the one as both on the parents yite so what do you do you know is Not Practical and stop fighting you on a busy Monday and Thursday there's a third and that's this is based on expression says there wasn't enough of to go around so the you know people they retracted the pardon me they grabed it comes a Mitzvah don't fight for which Mitzvah Mitzvah any Mitzvah wow that's a maybe it's you know you know we we we hope there ever that give the bur the the the the that's the son of he discusses this he was a big don't forget and he says because you you you can't fight for a mitvah because a is is not the fight you know the whole ra what goes first why writes this very sh he says if by giving in that's the for your father but sometimes means to they say once gave up the for someone else someone says you know you're you want to be aad it's fine what about the your parents the art site goes my my father has a bigger because I gave in and that's what the P are saying the that's and basically I also saw someone and a few years later someone else donated and it turned into he says you want a for your brother then retract there's a whether you have the or not that's irrelevant when a person's that is the greatest and now we could say and that is the question of could I drop if I get better could I stop going to when I could get better or I learn better at home so the EM will might say this is there is but it's not true in the same CH where he takes exception he says although but I pasin that a person has to give up and he writes this clearly on his man a ten of his time to help others and he brings pray had AAL that he had to explain him 400 times he couldn't get a a better tal pray the that's obligation to share his t with others and Raa says that a person has to give up of his time now if you think that's tough in he brings again the and he says if someone is m in his time too much he quotes and says it's wrong to think only about yourself you won't lose you'll only gain by giving of your time to others and he quotes the famous not just like we need more than ra Feinstein that wasn't only the but he was the m and he gave his life for isn't that but the point is that's part of you know they're very much motivated to and it's wonderful but you have to hear that part of that is living like a ye there's no doubt about it that that it's not a Ste because that is when the person gives you know has beautiful what's the what's the in it say plus it if you hire a worker and he's extremely devoted you're going to rehire him and you're going to expand his obligations right because you trust him every person in this world on a mission he's given time and he's given money what are you going to do with your time and money if you share with others then oh I I could trust you you're you're someone that I would like to work with so if it works by by by m I believe works with and you'll see it's the spells it out rich and a poor meat the made them both what's says the a rich person in T is approached by a poor person help me I I can't do it on my own if he says no I'm too busy the burn will make the poor poor and Rich and the rich poor now the question is why why is he punished say what do you mean you're not faithful I don't trust you but let's say the rich helps the poor they both going to what's the it's not it's not a school it's p it a person is given talents money time to share if you're trustworthy you'll get a renewed contract B a and that's why it's so important to hear this that a person has to give now I must mention he says that now is the time to said and I quot so someone that has a future has to know the how important it is Shing in in realizing his future but basically is true but now we could approach the sticky sh of dropping changing when it's the other person's going to lose so I'm not talking about he's doing it for for any other reason but P it for his learning so rap told me when I asked him says but if you have any suff that maybe you'll with this one the and will guarantee the because like you know like says if you don't cry on that will be now this is hard to give but if the other person will fall apart you're talking about if you're falling apart so sometimes you have to give a person ultimatum listen we have to we have to start changing a little bit I I can't go on like this a person has to do with a tremendous sensitivity because it might be for you but for for the other person also but has to be make it a serious sh again a person has his own ask someone else stopping to go to a when the rub feel bed is also you know it's a on both ends but I always tell people the best thing is you you tell the r listen I know I I I enjoy the very much but now it works at better for my learning give him a gift write it in something inscribe I learned so many years from you if you do with a sensitivity then it makes it easier it's not just you're just discarding someone else but the ick is to remember you know people say but I heard stories that there was capus and people lost you know I don't know you know say look what happened to her but basically it has to be done with tremendous sensitivity and again if you do it with a heart you say listen my schedule will changed I love the year it was very appreciate then it makes it much easier to be to understand and let me leave you with one more ver I guess a very very real way we just L and it's interesting there are two people and but you look at the end of the par and all of a sudden there's a world of a difference T became the Baba of Mia and went down in infam me the biggest rant what happened ter is both with SH but the question is when something went wrong what now decided the ends don't justify the means and does not apply to and she was willing to go to the ends to not to hurt someone that is a r that the um tells us like we said you're not going to lose you're burn you're being burnt at the Stak don't worry look what happened to decided I'm taking the Law with my own hands she broke the rules oh once you broke the rules then it's all over so B it's it's a very sensitive question all these questions but I I'll leave you with it's feel that the that we should always say when we have these shist I saw the writes this he wants to do the right thing will give you wants whoever wants to leave make the SEC quickly there's no doubt about it oura is the cloud the is an attitude what you expect him to do do do to him do that to do to you do to him the second shot is that the in the in the that has to be we said a thir shot I think is that regarding there but the fact that there are six how to give to Russ speaks is a but it doesn't legitimize doing AAS because that's the that's wrong my applies even by because 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