The Unfathomable Loss Of Vision, Perception & Kindness. Total Personality Of R' Chaim Kanievsky zt"l

[Music] like to welcome everyone tonight share like to welcome everyone who's mature has become a person a man and the shule and the women and there's this nation and all the multitudes are joining us to the phone system and the streaming [Music] eight five one eight six five one or email ist at toshibinet.com tonight we have the cover down with us once again noted margaret or pacer crone schlieter speak about the loss of the god of our daughter of time kanewski's that sounds my coveted corner of my chrome for tonight's joshua [Music] oh wow okay i'd like to take this opportunity to thank my dear friends rebel as a bald and rap simple deutsche having invited me once again to come to speak to all of you here in the boston ambassadorship for egan shirai toyota we've gone through a very very difficult period of two and a half years tremendous tremendous soreness and pain started with covert i hope that nobody suffered death in their families but we all know great sadhikim and wonderful people and families that passed away we know rahman al-aslan so many people were sick ventilators respirators and even today there's still people that are still affected by that illness we had the terrible terrible tragedy in marone sadiq of all ages of all stripes never lost their lives sunday night this past sunday night i was in surfside i spoke at the first yard site so heartbreaking seven shules got together over 400 people you could just feel the pain and all those rabonim that spoke about what it was to live through that gehennam and to lose people that they knew so well from their shules it's just absolutely awful all the yid nebuchad lost their lives in such a sudden terrible way we know rahman al-azlan so many ukrainian yiddin have had to run imagine you have to leave flatbush overnight just take a suitcase and just go to another country where you don't know anybody and you don't know the language just so terrible and then of course the loss of the god ladder the greatest mosmid now generation the greatest yadan of toyota in our generation the one who really protected all of us with his torah and so how do we go through this how do we live through it and i once saw a beautiful expression i was at a shabbaton where a whole group of people rahman al-aslan had suffered the same type of tragedy i don't want to say what it was it's not important but they gave everybody a brochure and on the cover of the brochure was such a brilliant statement and it said like this don't just go through it grow through it and that's such a great lesson in life we all go through difficulties in life don't just go through it but grow through it and that's what a person has to do when rahman al-islam would go through a difficult time certainly like the taurus that we mentioned we can't just go through it you have to think about we'll never know until moshiach comes why do rabbi shalom does these things as only rahmael riedemann could have said after he said by marone he said something so brilliant we know the mission in our voice it says you should know what's on top of you this is so he said something brilliant da you should know ma the 45 the 45 who were lost it's beyond us will never understand it and that's the same thing with all the tourists the ukrainian jews surfside covid only when mashiach comes well we know why these things happen but certainly we have to grow from it we have to live through it and we have to continue on we have to try to figure out what does the rabona shell of them want from us and how do we grow and so i want to share with you something very interesting as we talked about the covenant inspector once said something that is so beautiful and can be a guidepost for every single one of us for the rest of our lives and he said what is the ideal yid supposed to be and he said you could see it in a passage in truma and the possibility is possible and it says like this the proven the wings that were on top of the iron curry dish per se cannot find him lamailla the wings spread upward and then deposit says at the end of the passage there were faces of two little children the faces were towards each other that's what every year has to be per se can defy him lamailla when you're davning and when you're learning it's facing towards kaddish we're trying to get as close as we can through tehran near shamayim and villa through hashem but as great as you are in learning and as great as you are in davening and as great as you are in your shamayim you can never forget the second part of the passage and that's the way the mojave and that's what the total yid is all about it's persecuting the fire lamailla but it's pineal ish and the album says something also fascinating at the beginning of truma and he says every single one of us every single person is supposed to be a walking talking bass amigdas and if you would think about how he says this and how we conduct ourselves we'll see really on what kind of hierarchy we can be and we should be and he says like this your brain your seiko is like the oran kurdish the aaron kaidesh had the luchas in it your brain has terra the thought process so your brain your head is really an ironcladish your heart you can't exist without a heart you can't exist without bread so your heart is the lechem upon him and a misbaya consumes the carbonace and your stomach consumes food so imagine if you would think about it this way that you're a walking talking mishkan you're a walking token based on mikdash here's the orin here's the lechem upon him here's the mizbayach all of a sudden that's a different type of personality it's a different type of acharyas and if we realize that that's really what we are we would talk different we would act different we would drive different we would be sensitive in a different way and that's what i want to show tonight i want to show not only the learning and we'll talk of course about the learning because that's exactly what rav khayam was all about but we're going to show the total personality the persecution of the myla and the pneum ishif now shortly after rabhaim was nifter ragam leo ravinovit said something so amazing he said that rabhayan brim one of the tsaddikim of your shalayam once said that he was so happy that for part of his life and it was only a small part of his life because he was born in nineteen twenty two and the chavitz hayen was nifter 11 years later in 1933. so he said about himself from high and brim at least i was able to live under the same kippah sasha mayam under the same dome of heaven that the lived in of course rabbi broom was in your shallow was in europe but it was under the same sky so he said he felt protected he lived under the same keeper every single one of us that's here tonight and that's listening all over the world every one of us should know that we were fortunate that we lived under the same dome of heaven the same keep us hashemiyam as rabbhayam now right after the shiva a few people called in queens and they wanted to have an evening where there would be divre haskara for abhayam and so i prepared some thoughts and that morning i knew that i would be speaking about abhayam that evening to a whole group of people in queens i've spoken about this many many times i'm so mockbridge and i think everybody should be mocked with to say carbonus in the morning and of course i was saying carbon turmeric and at the end when you say the carbon tumid somehow that morning i said a phrase that i say every single day but all of a sudden it had a totally different meaning i never it never struck me this way as it did that morning that the words of my mouth is the name of raphael kanyevsky you have three names and accepted and worthy in front of you and that's the trilla that we begin tonight when we're going to talk now about the today that we were able to live under the same keeper the words that we're going to speak about should be merutza and be more in front of our code now when rob aaron he said a very interesting shot on the famous gomorrah the gomorrah broca's base tells us agra the the reward for giving a hespid is deluye is to make people cry when a person is haas for shalom he has to rashi says laharnam carly has to lift up his voice balochi and the mosbid has to raise his voice shayiv koh hashem so that those that are there at the hespid will cry but rabiran said in a different a dif uh an original shot and he said like this that the word delhi doesn't only mean to cry agra de speder de luye de li is a pale a pail that you draw water from and that's what he said agra de spada when somebody comes to give a hespit or to talk about divre askara dele delluya we have to draw from the life of that person and see what we can learn from it how can we change and how can we grow and that's the purpose of tonight to see how we can change how we can be elevated how we can try and even in a tiny way to be what rabhiyam was all about and to live as he lived his full potential that we should live our full potential now of course he was known as the what does it mean to be the sarah i don't know if you know his regular schedule let me just tell you what he learned every single day every day he learned zoya he learned tillam he learned tanakh takes us almost the whole day just to say this and he learned every day this is what he learned he finished shasbabli every year shots your xiaomi every single year and it's known that he had a say there that it fit in within 12 months so in those years that was a hibiya that he used to write a safer because he had extra time that year but this was his daily regiment it's almost mind-boggling to think that he could do this now how did it happen of course because he had a tremendous tremendous aava satora so how do we gain an ava saturday like that how can we give to our children and ava satora so i want to tell you something fascinating that meant so much to me because i did not know this until after he passed away and i'm going to tell you a very personal story in a moment do you know when he was a little boy two three years old his father at night before he went to sleep he would sing a song with him you know what he sang he sang the names of all the messiatas he didn't think mary had a little lamb he didn't put him to bed with nursery rhymes the stifler sang a song that he made up of all the names of the masektas and that's how he rocked his little child to sleep so of course if you hear that you know you become familiar with all the massacres and you become familiar this is part of how you're going to sleep now i'm going to tell you a personal story i have a son eliezer zundt he lives in passaic today and when he was in the fifth grade in yeshiva there's moisha he had a square khasid as his rabbi rahanash weitzman so i remember was before sukis he had just started this mom you know in september october right before sukis and he comes home he's fifth grade and he says tom my rebbe said we got to know shas they have to sukkas i said what do you mean you got to know shas he said how am i going to learn shas i said what did the rebbe mean he said the rebbe said that we got to know all the messages how am i going to know all the messages it's impossible i said elias that's simple he said what do you mean it's simple i said look i'm going to make up a song for you now i had no idea that sniper did this i said i'm going to make up a song and you'll see in a week you know you know the tune i'm going to use the tune that you know and you'll see you'll be able to learn it he said really i said yeah watch so i took a list i made a list of all the mercedes i'm not going to sing you the whole song but all of you know the negan and i'm telling you that when he finished us and he knows shots you could ask him any place and one of the first things that he said at that sam which he made in my house he said you know why i was able to learn shas because i wasn't afraid of it because as a child i knew the names of all the masertas now i can tell you that year when he was in the fifth grade my daughter was in seminary and we were going to eritseshiro for sukis because she was in seminary now of course by the time i got to eretz israel on the plane i was sitting next to eliasa he already knew zoraim and maya and in five minutes you're going to know zero in a second you'll see in a second and what i would say is that if you could make up a song or even use this song you'll see you'll learn all the and all your children and grandchildren will name it i have a great grandchild i think he's three and he knows it he can't say it clearly he doesn't speak so clearly but he knows the tune and he knows many of them are certain so my daughter was in seminary at that time and i think the first week after sukkas repetition david happened to ask does anybody know what tamora is and she said yeah it's one of the missionaries in kocher and and and and robert and david almost fainted how could this girl know that tomorrow because she knew the song so i'm just going to sing you the first part of the song and you'll see how easy it is if i say that five times everybody would know it right all you got to do take any song that you want avraham freed motherhood and david whatever song you want and just name the messages teach it to your kids you sing it in the car put it on a on a you know one there's no cds anymore but whatever mp3s however you're going to do it and you'll see you become familiar with it and that's what the stipela did to his son raphael so as a three-year-old he knew all the mercedes and that's how he began getting his great abba satora now at recess what did he do he didn't play punch ball like me and the woolworkers did interpret us right oh you didn't play punch well i did but anyway or basketball or whatever he used to count how many times abaya was in the maseratis he loved svarim now i'm going to tell you something you won't believe this it's amazing many of us certainly here have been to rob haim's house did you ever notice he never ever sat with us back to a safer ever behind him either was a window or a wall yet over thousands of smart i was in the room numerous times never would he sit with us back to say for the safe the swarm were here or here the cover was so incredible i'm not telling you that you can do that not everybody can do that obviously but that's what his love of toyota was if he saw safer upside down he would turn it over right away if a safer was dusty he would clean it he had a total total love of toyota now when he was a little boy when he was four years old he moved from europe became territorial i'm just gonna tell you his birthday because i hope somebody here has his birthday i'll tell you his english and hebrew birthday and if you have that birthday you could feel so lucky he was born january 8th 1928. anybody here born january 8th well maybe somebody who's watching and uh tesla taves tesla tvs anybody tesla of tvs what oh your son's birthday okay maybe he'll be a god you never know it's never too late but anyway but the idea is when he was four years old he came to her chicharron now his mother's brother you know whose mother's brother was the khazai nish now tragically the khazainish had no children and so when this four-year-old genius came to his house trazanish loved him like a child and you could understand how much time he spent learning with him and talking with this little genius now i want to show you something how an autumn goddess thinks we're going to talk in a few minutes how raphael looked at things and we know that hazal tell us that what does that mean the enemy they are the eyes of the community they see certain things that we see but they see them in a different way so watch this how the ghazanish looked at something when he first came tara tushiro from europe he came to bernay brock it was all farm town it was all farms right there was no streets but he lived in a house and it was very dark so they went to the municipality and they said you know this is the god ladder that lives here you've got to make a street light in front of his house khashoggi could fall at night it's not safe so they built a light and they put in a street light right next to the khasanesh's house a few nights later after the light was up somebody came over to the kazanish and said reba no what do you say about the light so he said something so interesting he said i noticed something amazing when i'm down the block and i'm walking towards the light my shadow is very very big but as i get closer and closer to the light my shadow gets smaller when i'm standing next to the light i have no shadow at all and he says you know what that's a remiss too listen things when you're far away from torah the ur hater you think oh i know so much i've got such a big shadow i cover so much ground but the closer and closer you get to that light after you've you realize how little you really know imagine that that's how the hazardous looked at a street light next time he looked at a street light think about that but you could be sure that he told it to his nephew hayam who was 4-5 and growing up in his house that just remember the more you learn the more you're going to realize that you don't know and that's why you could never ever stop learning i said that was part of the abu satyar now i'll tell you something amazing we know one of the greatest yiddin that we have today in claud israel is our abduv at half star shalita is the most wonderful person who has started deishu and accomplished tremendous all over the world so he wrote that after alpine was nifter that he once asked raphaim for abraham for zikran hathaway to remember he wanted a schooler to remember surabhyam told him two things he said it's not a question of a schoola the first thing is you got a hazard you have to review over and over and over and over there's no shortcuts when it comes to remembering toyota you have to hazard that's the first thing and the second thing is he said it really has to be important to you something that is important to you like la havedo your wife's birthday you're going to remember it or else right so something that really means something to you you're going to remember so if it's important you're going to remember it so has to be important but when i heard what he said about khazra if you have a pencil and paper i want you to write this down because you're going to see something now that is absolutely incredible and every time we go to prague and we've been to europe right many great places we were in ukraine together of course what that's right oh my gosh you're right that's true so you're right 2017. so when i go to prague i always say this word outside the prague shul because not only was the maraud the rov was a rough there and listen to this genius vert from the klayoka and he says like this we all know the gemara in hagigadhaf test summit base that there's no comparison to somebody who learned something a hundred times to 101 times thank you so much thank you good no no no sugar so the kayaker asks why does the commander say 100 101 what's wrong with 99 and 100 or 85 and 86 or 108 109 what's that's 101 why did the gemara pick out 101 watch this it's unbelievable he says like this every time you learn something you're bound to forget it because your mind you know can't remember everything but if you learn it a second time you weaken the kayak of shikha if you learn it a third time you weaken the kayak of shikha again you learn it a fourth time every time you weaken the kayak now watch this if you could write down the word shokak please write it down shin kofres how much is rabbi metzker how much is shin called matria 328 right now what if you learned something 101 times how much is 328 minus 101 the word zohar remember is 227. that's why it's 101 times could you imagine that because shock if you learn something you're going to forget it but every time you learn it it's then you're going to remember it better but if you really want to remember it you'll learn it 101 times it goes from shock to zohar a genius vert from the koyaker now i want to show you now the greatest vert that i ever heard from absolutely the greatest and we are going to see something that is so incredible and that's why the ghazal called the talmud because you and i what i'm going to show you that we've seen it a thousand times we all know the story but where in the world did he get this from now we all know the story that yitzhak wanted to give asa of the bronx right what happened yaakov comes in and he gets the bracha after vegeta you could look it up and pasha's told this if you have a homies in front of you take it out because you won't believe what i'm about to show you and bereishish khafsayen lamidalav and it tells us now that asev comes into the house and he brings food to his father yitzhak and the perfect says like this he brought it to his father take a look at these words anybody notice something interesting about these words mr khan what do you say what's interesting about these words it's a palindrome right you can read it frontwards and backwards whoever thought about that mr lachman right you ever think about that it's a balling drum you can read it like mom pop with you shy aviva race car so first of all that even noticed that it's a palindrome was amazing right that's what they're behind but listen to the lesson that he said the way you treat your parents that's how your children are going to treat you isn't that amazing that's why it says it's a palindrome the way you treat your parents that's how your children are going to treat you now that's what i'm darshand let me show you the lamaisa i had the great horse to visit with his son-in-law his son-in-law is rabbits called kaladesky rabbitshaw kaladesky wrote a safer two volumes he wrote a safe here called the shirt it's stories about sadiq and of course everybody knows i love stories especially about sadiq so i went to visit him and we were talking and he said to me like this he said i want you to know that my father-in-law up high him every single morning every single morning after darling he'd go on to visit his mother every morning sometimes she would make a little breakfast for him they would smooth or whatever he was there for a few minutes and then he went to cairo every single morning when she passed away he stopped coming after the shiva he was walking in the street and he met his father the stipelier so the disciple sees his underprim and he says them in yiddish i also used to enjoy it when you came and rabbi's mouth dropped open he couldn't believe it you know mother likes to schmooze what a father the godlike door wants a schmooze okay even if he's going to schmooze and learning what he's interested in social life you know he wants to also sit and learn no no no i am understood i thought a father wants to have a connection to a child and you know what robusto kaladeski told me from the day that the sniper told that to raphaim the next morning he came to visit him and he didn't miss the next 12 years until the stifler was nifter he understood what it meant for his father vayavi la aviv and he went to visit him now listen to this unfortunately rabhiyam had a sister robertson joshua bartham she was in almona at a very young age and when her mother passed away she moved in with her father the stipeler so every morning when raphael went to visit the stipler he would see his sister she lived there and even after um um the stifler was nifter he still went to visit her sister for years afterwards they were very very tight with family very close with family with all their children grandchildren and great-grandchildren family was very important to raphaim and tis reverson i want to show you a different thing about a story that i heard from people that were there when it happened there was a fellow a wealthy guy who lived in rene brock who would come every day right in the middle of lunch in ponovich and he would learn with his son after the kid at lunch they would learn for an hour or two in the part of his yeshiva he was able to get away from his business and he would learn every day with his son one day he comes in as he comes in every day and he sees there's a whole tumor and people are avoiding him like he he knows something is wrong you know you get that feeling and he goes over he says where's my son i don't see my son is everybody okay and they said your son was just taken to the hospital he was hit by a bus he says what are you talking about he said it just happened a few minutes ago how solo came and they rushed him to the hospital we didn't know where to reach you this was before cell phones and of course the guy ran to the hospital and he found out that the kid was crossing the street and i busted him and mamash anes it was a very very high bus and he was just flat on the ground so he was injured but the doctors told him that he's gonna make it he was in the emergency room and he was there with his son and of course he stayed overnight and the doctor said the way he was hit you're so lucky that he's alive because if it would have been a little bit different than a different angle you know hashem so now he was so grateful so a day or two later when he was with his son and he couldn't leave his son he sent somebody to rabhaim kanievsky and he said look i want to do something for kodesh i'm so grateful that my son's life was saved what could i do listen to what abhiyam said rabhiyam said the abhisheka gave you life what is life by us he said what you have to do is hashem gave you life you have to give life to another person you know you give life every yeshiva has boys that are falling by the wayside they can't keep up with the shear so they need a private tutor you should hire a tutor for one of the boys in ponovich that needs some khizukan learning so that he'll be able to keep up with this year and when the guy heard this and the neighborhood almost collapsed you know why because last week the week before the accident somebody asked them to pay for a tutor for somebody in the yeshiva and this guy was a wealthy guy so he said of course i'll do it and that day of the accident the first check was due imagine that that day of the accident a rabbi burl was the one who told me the story he was there in ponovich when it happened because he paid for that tutor and he gave that kid crying that's exactly what abhayan was saying he got life he should give life and he gave life and that's what happened and i'll tell you diok that raphaim said that was absolutely fabulous you should all be holy because i'm holy ki kardashian noticed when it says kardashian to you it's missing above but when it says it's the same possible you test positive base why by hashem it says kudoshim and by us it says kedation we should be called ish but it's khasir but by hashem kikodesh it's evolved he said it's obvious because hashem could be totally kedusha so there's no letter missing ki kordeshkov shin but we'll never be totally kedusha so therefore the vote is missing what a great deal because it sounds like you know robzero would say it or like rashi would say what a dioc it's unbelievable how raphaim thought now the last 37 years of his life people came nonstop and of course we all many of us certainly were there i was certainly there a few times i asked him a few shilots and bruce mila and other things and but he he never looked at it as a bother now of course we all saw that he had his index card and he would look down you know on the gomorrah and he was going down that if he noticed somebody was there he would look up answer to shiloh and he would go right back to his learning and he never looked at seeing people as a bother and somebody once asked him why do you do that learning is more than anything else in your life why would you spend so much time seeing people and you know what he said one never knows and what's josie is alive rabhaim said maybe i'm alive only in this course that i help people you know we're all very busy especially in new york right it's a very very hectic type of life and many times we don't have time for other people and we rationalize you know because we're busy doing good things but you know something rabheim was doing better things than we would ever do his learning his learning was holding up the world but yet he said maybe i'm alive only in the source of helping people and that's what i mean that we have to be doila omaska we have to learn from him we have to learn to care for other people there's no question that we're busy and there's no question that he was the greatest mosmid but somehow he had time for everybody and that's something that we have to learn from him now rafam once said rafam once said that many many people make a mistake when it comes to talking about kedushem shamayim many people if you would ask them what's the key to shame shamayim you say well if a guy sees that he does something good so they say whoa this is a great nation these are good people that's true that is the key to shashem but that's not the ike the main kiddish hashem is that other yiddish should be impressed with you that other yiddin should say you know i want to darwin like that man i want a darwin like his kids diving next to him i want my kids to dive next to me the way he learns the way he dovens the way he treats his wife the way he does it the way he's involved in the show that's what i want to be like and that's what our palm writes why because it says israel and now i want to read you the safer on that passage that possible is telling us just remember the e.k.k the shame shamayim is to inspire other yidden this is how tzadikimar listen to the safer shaheenum has bited them they don't just go off in a corner and learn by themselves and keep away from everybody they're involved with people over libra and in their heart of course they are connected to hashem the yasakane if somebody just goes off in the corner and he's learning himself and he's got nothing to do with anybody else hashem that's a hashem you think you're learning and you have nothing to do with anybody you think you're a big sadiq you're not it's a because he knows how to learn he can't have anything to do with other people that ain't gonna say there's no greater question you gotta be involved there's time for everything and you'll find a time to learn but if somebody needs you you got to be there can't just be locking yourself up on the corner that's not what ralph heim did for the last 37 years of his life he saw everybody now at night before he went to sleep he had a great memory obviously he would say to him for all the people that came to him that day could you imagine that all the finster taurus that people would talk to him about he had a memory and his children would say that he would darwin he would say and then by the next morning he forgot who they were he had selective memory he remembered all the service for that day at night he would dive in and then the next morning he couldn't even remember them and many times his children said that lebron would say to people you've got to dive in so the children said did they dive in every day no you've got to have an extra you have to have a say there and tell him if a person has service it's not enough just to dominate the regulation you have to dive in more have a say there and tell them and dive in extra that's what i'm saying now it's very interesting he never ever refused to be sondik it says in mepharsham and says in sworn in that soundic if you're a sondik it's a school of fashirus so in benebra could you imagine i mean i can't imagine happening in any place else but in bernie rock there were times when he was a sondik 10 times a day 10 times a day now only once in my life did i have a bris where he was sondik i'm very close to the grainerman family and the kannefsky's kanewski's are related to the grandemoons and a friend of mine had a baby and he knew i was coming to actually searle and he said to me if you get off the plane and you come straight to nayrock you'll be able to do the bris we'll have her up raphael there and you'll be able to do the breasts now of course i should have hired a photographer but i didn't and i regret it till this day but i will tell you this you know when you're a mile you've got to hold the sondex hands because you gotta adjust them you know he should hold the baby correctly you know just to touch his hands his fluffy hands you know and and just to move his hands around the baby's legs it was such a thrill it was a tremendous government and i'm so grateful that i was able to do it even once but i want to tell you a great story about this you see one day there was a couple energy israel and brene brock who didn't have children for many many years and they found out that raphael was going to be a sondik in a place called kiyashimona and kia shimona is three hours away from rene brock so they this couple who had no children they went to raphaim and they said when you come back from kiryat would you mind having your driver take you to a city called shunam now shunam is an arab city but sunam the isha namas is buried there and it's written in swarm that alisha who had given the isha namaz abraham she had a child that those who darwin in shunam it's a school for children so this couple who didn't have children said we'll meet you there we won't go to the bris we'll go up to sunam but when you come back down from kiyoshima do you mind diverting the driver to come to shunam and we could all differ together so my wife and i should be able to have children rohan thinks about it he says okay i'll meet you there fine he does he's sounded by the bris and he has the driver take him to shunam he gets out of the car there are two busloads of couples who don't have children two busloads raphael walks out of the car and he looks around and he says to this guy what in the world is going on here he didn't use that expression but that's when he bent right like what's going on here like how did this happen i thought i was just meeting you he said rebel please excuse me i must have told a few people and word got out and everybody in bernabe brock who doesn't have children they all got on the buses and they we got two buses of people here some five years ten years six year whatever and they all they want to dhamma together with with the reb with the rover and it's robertson sir up high made two rows you know the women on this side the men on this side they said well all that together and then after about 15 minutes he said everybody should step back and him and his rebels were going to above it alone now i have a niece her name is hana la dollinger she works in the maine high yeshua hospital in the um obstetrics department in maniashua and she told me it's unbelievable that nine and ten and eleven months after this incident there was so many older couples who never had children that were having children one after the other she told me she had a neighbor didn't have children for six or seven years she had a child she's got eight kids today this woman and she told my niece hanoidangi that she went to raphaim to say thank you now i know my review of david cohen and many many others say that some robot and feel bad that you come from and then when things happen you know you don't come to say thank you so this lady the the neighbor of my niece went up high to say thank you you know what he told her you're the 13th couple from those two buses that have kids 13 couples could you imagine that was the coyote to drop high mad because he cared and that's how they able to listen to him now this is absolutely incredible in autumn of 2001 raphaim had a stroke and he was paralyzed he couldn't move his hands he couldn't move his fingers and the therapist also happened to be in money yeshua was working with him you're not going to believe this now he was working with him trying to get his fingers to stop moving again and he was doing therapy and then he realized that now replying could start writing again slowly but he would be able to move his fingers so he told raphaim which he told every single patient of his please write something gave him a piece of paper and rob hayem wrote you computer that's what he wrote you can program ishmael means salvation should come from heaven so the therapist said robert you got to explain something to me i've been doing this 30 years every single person without fail when you ask them to write something after they haven't written in a while after a stroke what's the first thing you think they write what would you write your name right they would sign their name he says robert why didn't you sign your name everybody signs the name he says refreshing gomorrah says gomorrah he says yeah the good morning tsubasa says you know i want to sign your name on an empty piece of paper because the guy could write on top of it i owe you twenty thousand dollars and you signed it imagine that so after a stroke that's the first thing he's thinking about that gamora that didn't show that you can't write your name on an empty piece of paper that's amazing that's how rebryan was thinking now here's the best story my favorite story about raphael we'll see the paneer isha it's unbelievable this was many years ago when he was still able to walk easily and it was a month of tishrei and he went with his son-in-law to buy a lulu so he comes into a store in bernay brock and the guy who's selling the love him out of highland he gives him a beautiful olive roheim looks at it no not this one so he says uh okay second one no not the second one the third one yeah this one will take and he pays for it and he leaves the store with a son-in-law a guy comes running out of the store and he says to the son-in-law i don't believe what i just saw he said what do you mean he says you know how long it takes me to get a will of an hour and a half your father-in-law was in the store 15 minutes and he got a wolf hashem must love him how did that happen he says come with me the guy takes him with raphaim and the son-in-law they come to the chorus bomb they walk up the stairs to the house they come to the table where alheim learns there are 25 little of him on the table he says what is this listen to what he said he said raphael knows that everybody watches every single thing that he does and he knows that if he walks into a store to buy a little of and he doesn't buy a little of their no one is going to buy a lullaby anymore why because they're going to say right heim went in to buy a lululemon he couldn't find one i'm going to find one so every store he goes into he buys at least one rule of imagine that every store he went into he bought at least one little when he's got 25 now it takes him three hours to pick out the right one who thinks about that if somebody goes in to buy a pseudo woman goes in to buy a dress and they don't have what you want it's their problem it's not your problem no turn up high it's his problem because people might not buy from that proprietor from that guy who owns the love and destroying him and they're not going to buy that's the sensitivity of raphaim now we know there's a video you could see it of how he would say how she his wife said the brachas for him every morning they were very very close he never ate without her she never ate without him so he's sitting by his tender she's standing on this side she's saying the bronchus and you could hear after every bracha you know he says amane but what was fascinating to me she didn't say shallow sunny of it she said shallow sunny shiva and he didn't correct her obviously that he felt that that was okay and some people told me that in this radishes to the durham the women also they don't say but they say now she was nifter on a shabbos she was niftan sukkus khalam sukis and of course you can't make a leviathan chavez so everybody was sitting around the house and all the children grandchildren and the great-grandchildren they all came in to talk to the zeta and so everybody was sitting around and one of the grandchildren asked this question zeda what would you say was the best middah of the baba and that's a great question to see how raphaim touched up his wife so there were people there that were positive that he was going to say that was the greatest meetha why because every girl that came in for a shidduch she would always say that they should learn to allah has a day of shame but that's not what he said he didn't say that was her greatest meetha some people thought that he would say her sneeze now we all know of course that she was very mocked in sneers that she would talk to everybody about that as well and so therefore they thought that but that's not what he said the third thing was obviously cheryl they thought he would say about her avas israel that's not what she said that's not what he said about his robertson he said you know what the greatest media that she had savlonis savlonis means patience he said do you know how many women would come to her every day and not all of them were 100 we know that and they would cry to her and she would doffing with them and she would cry with them and she had patience with them and that's the media that we have to learn patience patience even with those people that are not exactly like we are and you know we all have patience for our friends and close family members but there's a lot of people that get on our nerves and you know it's normal right either at home or in the workplace but that was the meter that robhaim spoke about his wife having patience savlonis and i'll tell you an amazing thing do you know there's a tremendous time with hohem in baro park his name is raph shmuel david friedman it was very very close to abraham he was there many many times he gave numerous has paid them on him he's written many many many tomorrow he figured out and that since sheishas he made voracious there was no god all ever that wrote as many letters as raphaim did he's positive now of course our crimes letters were one word f shar mutter us many many times only one word my own son of rum from waterbury has 15 letters from him and in those 15 letters they are shy list that i entered 50 different child list you had to keep a heisman one two three four and then you would write it and then send them that piece of paper and he would answer each isla mutter user or whatever it was but somebody once asked them why do you answer all these letters listen to what okay i'm said he said i'm not a resheba i don't have anything with them where am i going to get to meet them so when i write the letters and these people follow my stock they become my tell me them that's why i have told me them now i'll tell you an amazing thing do you know that he would have somebody open the letters for him and give them to him in a certain order now you know which letters he answered first if somebody wrote that they were a coin they got first answer the ones who got the second answer were the levian and you know who got the third answer you wouldn't believe anybody whose name was jacob israel he felt i was keeping off to his father because his father the stipelo was called jacob israel and say therefore mama that's what he did now i remember that i asked him this shyla and again i'm not saying anybody should pass in this again you know he prosecuted it for me and you know in the situation that i asked him and i'll tell you in a second but it does happen and if it does happen in your family or you know anybody of course you have to ask your of they're usually possible for you but it happens numerous times that a baby is born and he can't have a bris for whatever reason either he's not well or there's other problems but now the bristol is going to be laid for two or three weeks so what do you do can you give the child a name or should you give the child a name so rabbi bianco kaminetsky told me personally that don't give a name don't give a name that's what bianca kaminsky told me and i asked the rest of jiva why so again only cadayla think this way he said once you give a child a name it's no longer a pressing issue for the baby to have a bris because he's got a name so what's going to happen is they're not going to push the doctor right away you know let's do the brits at the earliest time because the kid's got a name already so don't give a name and that'll be a pressure that's what i back up told me that don't give a name and so they'll have the wrist as soon as possible raphael told me that you don't give a name yet but you could call them whatever you want but you could change it by the time that you have the bris so if let's say you called him yossi for whatever reason because he didn't want to go without a name and you don't want to call him yingla for six months but at the bris you still have the opportunity to change it because if it only becomes official by viacora shimobi israel he did not say that you should have an aliyah and give the baby a name hold off giving a name wait till the bris you could call him whatever you want and then at the bris that's when it becomes official now the steipler his father also never refused to be sondik so somebody once went to the stippler and said you know you were astonished by so many prison and it's the school of ashiras where's your ashiras so disciples said that's the ashirus and that's the final lesson there's nothing greater than our children there's nothing greater investment in our time and our effort than our children and that's what we have to learn from rabbi and his robertson were very very close to their children if he had a seder with any of his children and grandchildren and somebody wanted to make a seder with them at that time he wouldn't do it because the children and the family came first that was the vallevelo of and that's what we have to learn tonight there's no question that the iker barabhayan was certainly the learning the shots that he finished with but we can never forget the paneer michelle davis should help in this close of the halogen sadiq that all of us should undertake some of the medias that we heard about so it should be exclusive and it's just for all of us thank you [Music] please please shame here you can [Music] eight five one eight six five one email ist at yeshivaana.com scheduled next week's shirum are on some of the tables throughout the basement please take the opportunity to be mistaken the big head source of the ignition retire summer program but used to one of the pushka trays that i throw out for sure now shakata everyone for coming 10 o'clock [Music] yada [Music] good [Music]