The Sandek In Halacha - Rabbi Yakov Zev Smith

yes okay [Music] [Applause] welcome everyone to teresa you retire at 718-851-8665 asked me a while ago he was offered to be a sandik and he said i don't know what to do what are you supposed to do what is the significance of it i decided it's a good idea to talk about it because these shadows come up you don't have too much warning especially as we'll see the shylists are sometimes could be very sensitive who goes first father zeda the rav so when you try to learn today of the sandik it's like any other suggy as we'll see because really the sandik in aloha has very early sources the most well-known source of the sandic is the alcatra mighty in tehillim said the pasta cola marina varai i do miss this with his hand he does mitzvahs and we break beard cayenne with his knees with his lap and he oyster sandi so david praised himself that he was doing a sandik obviously santa claus is a very great thing to do but there's an earliest source in the end of parishes so you look at the target you're innocent with the parish joseph was saying that i was either the sandik or the moyo for his anako the question if he did both will soon see you're allowed to do both but definitely joseph seemed to imply that he was the sandik for his enoch but the earliest source and this is the majoris embraces memphis bays el moly mikhail costa f shalom roy but the message says that the urban islam was the sandik foreign was scared to be mal himself and the person was the sandik and that's the emoji david had ramadin who had the help of burial malay so if you have a source in by yosef and david that's certainly a good start to see the khashevas of the sandvik what's the purpose what's the real shivas of the sandic so the another insight is the maril in the manhattan and miele ice aleph where the it's recorded that when the marielle who was a v mini gaskin as when he would be the baalha brace we'll soon see the poi skin use the term bala bris for a sandik when he was the balabris he would go to the mikvah that was his preparation for this hey look at keyboard and he said that the the being the sandik is bigger than the moyo why and this is the key line that may shiraglove the sandwich is even greater than the mile because he becomes a mizbayach and he's like mark the guitarist well susie but what's most important the marielle quoting rabbenu parrots one of the researching them ads since san decoys is a form of couturist that's why there's a minig that it's you only take one santa claus per family because the gemara and yuma that says once occurring that was marked the guitarist once didn't do it a second time why not because since qataris brings us heroes so once you're rich you don't need more share the wealth with someone else let someone else have it so in this short marielle we see a wealth of information first of all the sandik is bigger than the moyu number two the sandik is a school of fashion and number three one per family if you are standing in this family you don't do it a second time and my real concludes since the sandic is so important if it's a monday and third or thursday bris there's only one aliyah the sandik gets it before the male this obviously shows the greatness of a sandik look what we just said a little bit about the sandic he goes to the mikvah he's before the moil now the obvious question is to say the stomach is important is fine but how could it be bigger than the male the miles doing the actual bris of a semiconductor that the maison is doing more because the rather the moisture is doing the mila but the sandik is the the oyster he's he's one of your toefl mit mitzvah nithya mitsuki mara says it's like they're doing the mitzvah it's like messiah yes so in other words as far as the meal is concerned the sandik is doing a little damage doing a lot but one thing that sandik has over the moil and that is that he becomes the mizbaya by holding the baby on his lap he's doing what the what the male doesn't do so the sandik has two miles he's the nitfila is the mitzvah and he's the mizbayach the male is only one and that's why zakhtar sam saifa the sandik precedes the moyal for kibbutum now we could begin to understand what something that we see gadoli israel throughout the divers never refused the santika is to do the hazards travel the country as did the stipela until recently would go would go anywhere to the sun because it's you do it nowhere but never refuse santa claus where is this coming from so if you look at that guy's miami and he'll just be like but there's definitely more to some decoys than just a regular keyboard and that's why there are there and therefore the meaning is to give the soundiq to one of your children and you don't give it a second time there are more and yeah they are a sim and early is very sad in other words the sandiks should always take the offer but more importantly the father the aviation has to go after and get the best sandik possible very unusual lotion but sadiq will soon see what that means is like a bystar he says it's the patron upracklit but be that as it may we see the uniqueness of the sun decoys like maktik kitaris and therefore they knew parrots one of the resharemen there are more quotes this you're only sandik one time per family but the thing is because if you understand that you're only once per family because once you have a series why take it a second time frank to going in his beer are growing see the cotton them valve so why is it one per family it should be one per customer if you are sandik once for friedman family then don't do it ever again because you have your series if the reason one per is per family is because you have a series so why is one per family one per customers up to going in some places that taki is a person only sandik once in his lifetime because once you have the ashirus share with someone else but can you do it that's not the minute of kai and probably could be a sandik dozens of times in a week but the grain has another question and fred de going you tell me that everything is based on san diego he's being ashira's sanding massage i never saw bassandra becoming wealthy people get back to that so zucker going something very unusual you know dominic is giving one son dick per family a minigual pizza voice the minigames that's takishware the source is the safe oh now what sorry now once we hear the the words of us we start to shake because you know as the belt as the topic once said they should have put the assailants into this verb people tremble from the top let's look at this so in sim you the father don't make a sunday for two of your sons unless khashogg one of the sons the first son died early so now we see that it's basically more than rebel parrots and aramawa it's also asvab but from the going it seems that he's not being a parrot it's a music because the mice it should be one per family obviously the husid spells out don't make a sandwich twice for two sons so that's a din in the family but la maisa we're not yet clap don't have that clarity in this suggest fred deny the bihouda in camariere day a sim and pavov i don't understand why do you compare it to ketitus it makes more sense to compare it to a car carbon after all a father brings a a child to me it's like a carbon so zucked the night viewed an exquisite variety he bases it on a yalcut and i want to mention both the berkeley oysters if cotton hay and the siphon and our says because this what he says is the ferris sumatras of an so they left the orlas on the side and it started to rat but the the the islam had from those alloys were a tremendous like the greatest tyrants that the birds have ever had so suck the knights knew that that's why san decoys meal is a form of katyris think about a person takes his child and he makes a surgery the child becomes a high level that's the greatest narca that's the guitarist but even after all this practice i still don't understand the actual premise what's the demian to ketiris katyaris belongs to claudius so therefore it makes sense if you're giving out ashirus so you give to each kyan gets once because the biolum is claustro and no one has a right over and over the other so you share the wealth but taina denied the bihuda santa claus is the father's prerogative it's his right why can he give it whatever he wants so what's shot only one per family how do you limit the fathers do it with his buy list what he wants to do something night to be who the shah does not like to bang the parrots but it's based on even echoed may here a person has madness goon that belongs to him but still the gemara says don't give it to one coin share with others so something right to be hudder that's the shot in the in the islam it's not because of khatiris and ma'ashir wankoyen but you have martinus kuna you have a skus share it with others but at the end of all this he says there's no mccurran for this and against medina's poland where i lived he writes people are not magpied and they give the same sandik twice or three times so then who would explain gives a little more of a meaning into the into the the concept but he said that's not the mini israel now we could add okay very nice so he basically negated the bay new parrots but what about this baby huda verb how could he ignore that so that's not true because in the in his chuvas in in evaneza simon ayan tess proves conclusively that the tabo is only written for his ch for the buddhahost's children and not for clay israel he wasn't as many warrant so therefore the felt that it's it's not nigeria he has the cash on the benefit and that's and this is why you might know people that give the same sandik twice or three times it's based on the noise to be huda and i should add the habitat the gimbal seminar says that that's that's why if i swallow them they're making don't forget it's only around that quotes it's not a machaba so those that give it twice we understand where that's coming from the question is as we know some people are mock but they don't give the same sounding twice and some people have the following minute they don't get the same sounding twice but the raw of the river he gets it all the children where's that all that coming from so here we have a big agenda so i'll just tell you because and he basically says how does the hood was a great person but how does he just ignore avenue parrots and he says the dove in iphone the the minig of poyland was a torius because taco the minigame is to give the same rav twice or three times and the samsaper writes it but also writes this because he says that's that qatar is only one per cayenne but the koi in godo could do it as many times as he wants so the rav the rabbit the russian sheep like the cayenne goddess so the medic always was one per family except for the rav or the recieve or the rebel but people in poland made a mistake they thought he got it let the rob got a lesson getting it again and probably not so they extended the minute from the rav to the simple person but the sam cypher writes emphatically you can't beat her and don't forget we're talking about our venue parrots says as great as my view there was but you can't ignore reshaying more so i want to mention hitachi brings the question of on the menu parrots but he says how could you ask akasha this is divorce as it is wonderful safe there's a lot about sandik there's actually a few pages about silence to say but a lot for me it was very a lot of information in the safe in our machine pay test he says that took samdik more than once his father took something more than once but he says personally i only do it once because i'm scared of you that i won't take it more than once so basically we at least we understand a little bit of mini gesture in fact i should tell you rabbi yoshida and the auras in yuma the end of udaladam at bays he says even a bigger tradition that even ben who peris didn't hold it's awesome to do some decoys twice but rebel parents wanted to highlight and accentuate the greatness of a sandik she said it's bigger than a better than the boy and in fact it's so much of a guaranteed spa give it to someone else but not that it's awesome to take it twice but one thing i think we could realize is that it could very well be that even if we hold you can't take it twice but arav has special privileges in fact the these the the perish of the of the buchacha and me on their on he says the icky's don't give it to assambi twice but the rav has it already it's given it's known you give it to the rav i once saw the in the fizz savra bonus it was written explicitly that he's islamic to all the prison so he's not taking it twice it's his so and also so there's definitely a big thought to be making right this is and basically the rav gets it is not a stirrer not to the rebel parrot and not the tavo so now the berkshire we have a little bit of a better understanding of the sounding let's try to apply it first of all what's interesting what someone asked me is why asante can't do it twice and why could a male do this the same family twice why get a massage to all the children now we see it's not a caution it's a special dinner in the sandic being like mark takatiras and the dashirus i'll tell you another interesting shout out and that was not negala maison but it's so important for the understanding could someone use the same cayenne twice for pigeon have been you're probably one wait a minute pigeon i bend twice you can't do that but above the shark he remarries and the second one a second wife has a pet a first bullet so we're wondering i'll say what's the shield we just said as it did in p in in zambic it's not a concern for our opinion i've been for a coyote but raza pill was abner simon sadiq alif light denied to be a that it's not a din in santa claus al-ska tyrus but it's a dinner madness kahuna it makes very good sense you shouldn't give the same coin twice please that's the mountainous kahuna beautiful lighter main who paris is no shyla but light the nibiru is a big shia lab so he says yeah but if you look in the in your descent alif he says that it's only giving madness kunda because pigeon i been is usually one per lifetime no your person gets remarried maybe twice but it's not a christ now again i know it's not so negaya but look how you see enough community between that being no parent is reason and the lady with this reason la meister someone asked me he has has a second child could he give the same sandik twice or not he doesn't know anything about us what would you tell them habal listen will tell him the minigest role is not to give the same sondik twice if dominic in your particular circles is that the rav where shiva does it twice fine but the minute is to find a different sounding for every child what's interesting is yes in other words the father should not take to this the same sounding twice or the sanders shouldn't take down the course twice robin afkamina very passionate let's say the father wants he's not worried about the the tava or or the or the vino parrots but the sounding is it a din in the sandik or the aviya ben is it so here as we always say look back at the source the los angeles paris is in kaiflan los says born of labal bris echoed and that's probably why the the the sherlock in the art show on your day on our simmon he says clearly the issa is on the father and not on the sunday variety says people have asked me to be assandic a second time i said but i was by your first child also he goes i don't want anybody but you thereof and i did it because it's his problem not my problem now i did see that's why the haziness and the stifler were sunday to two or more children it's the father's choice if he's not worried you don't have to worry now there's a say for shivam tomorrow to say for aunt he becomes very with the whole this whole concept and he says you're just looking at the superficial halacha what about the sakanam once you realize that it involves a buddha it might be sakana for the child are you certain what's the the underlying principle here it might be a sakura on the father the the bible under sandic so his feeling he even though he quotes the yacht show it goes to sean natanzen he's more mahmear and will soon see hitachi holes every suffolk is a suffix sakana but la maisa the what the vel does the belt wool many people give the rob the rebber santika is more than once that's based on this you say it's it's the father's choice and also as we said the paid was exempt from this specialism someone asked me who never had a position he said i learned to he was lucky could he give him twice on decoys so the truth is if the only reason would be because he's the rob and it's written in his sovereign abundance that he gets on the curse twice you could clear a that but that's not the echo reason the reason is and certainly that's lobbed after having the position forget the person that's not running around all over the world he's sitting and learning he has great satoru and that's why it's partial that it's loved after he's a raw of an active rover in fact in that comment sensitive question but now he's not lucid he got older he's not the same so he says mccouble that has the same skulls to give that sound even though today he doesn't know what he's doing ah he's not here of not have been an active robonus not a clergy exemption so then entirely and it does this someone asked he wanted to give his father a second time fathers have been passed a year his father was never very sick and he felt so i told him if a rav could take it twice because give your father twice i told them what i think it should be narrower aglain when all of our decisions in life the beautiful lotion of the magician divorum dialed hey oh my god just listen to me um you don't lose you never lose you can't lose you won't lose it's not shy to lose if you do rats on hashem i told him you want to give your father i'll keep it off and it should be a heck of him you think you're the person that oh you gave up twice okay we're gonna do something bad to the child it's unthinkable now i know that maj is not talking about keep it off specifically but i would say primarily keep it off that the virus them so much cherishes that mitzvah i so want to say for lulu yesterday someone came to have his father was nifty recently and his mother wants he should have been with her and his local sleep volume kipper but he said rasheeva i have to have an ishida i'm keepers so listen try to convince your mother she should let you dive in each evening but if she doesn't buy it dabbing with her and you're not going to lose anything with kibray and he quoted this mattress ain't adam she may ali um and that's why i think it's possible that if a person wants to make a father or a grandfather and he wants to give it a second time don't forget for the whole thing keep it off listen and the truth is as we'll soon see the ivis and the siddha from his loss in his mastermind the ikky is the problem is giving a double sound the choice for personal gain for money for cover look at lotion if you're doing it to get a few extra dollars and ice a gift then don't do it but if you're doing it else keep it over aim there's absolutely nothing to worry about another shiloh that you see again avoid torah how much tillation is a person was a sandic by a certain child and there was a child die nothing to do with the sound that punk the child died now another son was born and the father wants to give the original sounding a second time can he take the same sandik a second time because the first child is no longer alive now we'll talk about someone that's macbeth taking it twice so until today you'll wonder what's the shahidlin we don't give something twice and here the child died is maybe to be more of a reason not to give it to the same sanjika but now it's niflam because for some reason i'll read again very soon [Music] mayhem for some reason said that if the child died you give the same person sandik and that's why i saw in the safety careers have risked one of the earliest foreign he says that la maison even menu parrots would be maida you could give the same sandik because the svara he holds of not giving the same sander twice is santiko is a kapoor well suzy that's why sadiq wanted very much that's cause kapoor is a vinus but obviously there wasn't the full capacity the child died so even by being a parent his might he needs a kapara and give him a second time so lying by and even like tomato parrots the shivam tomorrow again i tell you is very mahmir but in the ba in the end of mem he says that la maiser maybe urbana paris would still be mahmeer and don't play around with this very serious ism so he holds attack it shouldn't be done but at least we could say that most poison might be requested in the forest if the fir the first child died that you could give the sandik of the second child to the same this the sound decoys i'll tell you a donald dove an iphone someone said they have twin boys and he has an autumn goggle and he doesn't know could he give the other goggle for both children so the embassy is that here it's totally the same childhood can you give the same sounding twice but here it's very possible and that's what the milk is allah writes in he says i remember my father isaiah they're both good early israel who never took some decrees for twins maybe because of iron horror and then he says the definition because really you're not supposed to take sandik for two children of the same family but the minig to do it overrides the islam but since twins is allah there's no meaning of taking twins so then he wouldn't take santa cruz twice that's what he writes didn't say for claire cypress i told you earlier you've gotten some base he says that maybe the only capabil parrots was by twins so i would say you know taking santa cruz by twins is a problem somehow even even those that are mako would not do it but then i remember i once heard a story about and some someone came to me at twins and he wanted him with one of them either both or nothing so it didn't sound very not that i want to cover it but your boy is going to get older and the younger brother's going to always feel bad why couldn't i i was an inched away from getting upset for a sunday obviously so but then again i think of shaq relied on ain't adam shamely um he's thinking about the child's future you worry about the aftermarket the next group of questions a little more difficult is when you have a son the question but what are the priorities who gets first the father the schwer the zayd the rov so one thing i will say you have to make a good choice the r zero one of the restaurants is very unusual loss of reason a good to eat you know people say good to eat by me that's a very hush of a title you have to get a good to eat to be the sandik why kadesh mila don't forget he's gonna have to be a shocking with ayo and avi get an appropriate shock and this is what there are more in register a person you should go make sure he has a moil and a balbarist tyoisa toivatsavik he changed the lotion of of the urzua but his larson is unusual a toy that's addict now we think sadiq is bigger what is toiv so both the zoyacabris now to me that's music to my ears because that's really something that we have to hear it's wonderful to be at sadness but he seems to have priority but i want to tell you it's not very s the whole mystery goes and he wonders all of the mitzvahs of alam share the greatness are being admired why the rush and i quote the loss of the garage is a lotion of rama but is not you know you know i have time for i'll work with later that has to precede even a tadika the medicine can help us you would base your dollar when a person is nifty the person asks no what do people say about him kosher haya shamayim and the first one to major said what is costume before hiroshima kosher is being adamant so you have a rama you have a madrid and you have of course as we saw the russian payer but be that as it may it's important to get a proper sandic but your boy said there's another factor of the sundeck that has to we have to weigh into the equation here the voice when he and raise some magdalen when he quotes the importance of getting a good sandik he adds a very important factor you have to get the oyster she to put it very bluntly the sandic has a long-term effect on the baby upon mr called the lush of the shinova the sandic lot niched up the sandic is always there for the baby and the sandik's job is eternal he's supposed to put in a spa for the child forever and the bushes that's we have to choose a proper sandik the peliods and era hamila writes you have to choose a sound they can ish toiv because he could be mamshi on the child kedusha believed his future depends on the understanding that's we see from all of us in fact says that's why the sonic is called the balah bris because the end of the day he's doing the most important part of the bris he's giving the kadusa he's giving the future to the baby so now we have to realize tucker that the soundig is playing a very critical role that's why lemaiso we have to make a a proper decision who goes first so the embassy's that the no doubt about it that la maison this the person should not choose a sondik just for any personal benefit that's certain that that what the what the police can say is wrong so la maisa what are the kavanaugh's descending supposed to have so i thought i'll find you know a lot about this the bush says mujeres doesn't explain it says he should be mom but what cavan is the ivis writes about the khan of the child so in that safe i call me shall he say he says to have the child should be at sadiq he should be showing the bristol very important he should have an asham so then his talmud leoman asked when should he have these cavanas before the mila after or during he says all three times of the spirit and i could add the famous ability of who writes that it's a special sasha question when the baby is crying because of the pain of milan of the child that's nemo so you could have carvana starting from before the mela during the meal after and even when the baby's crying after the meal was done already those are the times to have a mind these four carvanes as we said sadik he should he should be uh he should and the fourth one is that he should have now based on this we could understand why in some circles the rashiva the reb of the rav is the sandvik first because obviously he's the most qualified to give the cavanas tom told us the story once someone came to the kazinish and and offered him santa claus and hasn't accepted then unexpectedly the uncle of the aviya ben came from flew from america just for the bris and those days was a big trip and he was expected to be sunday he came from america and those days was further than his today so the father went to the ghazalis and told him you know i know on the coyotes but my uncle came we'll have a different key but he said i can't give up the keyboard it's our problem somebody because this was the ottoman color so this explained i i don't need the covered but it's the travis of the of the nemo i'm worried about the cha i can't be a good vienna there's a similar story that says you know what let the uncle take the shivers and i'll take the sound because because it's it's it's it's a tremendous ha and that's why you'll see in some circles the autumn goddamo is the first priority in santa claus however in many circles that's not done in fact many could do them i have a list of probably a dozen goddard who would not take santa claus unless both the father and the schwer de villanimo had santika isa ready why i what about the great schools of hashball so here by me is posted and borrowed ain't adam shamely um if you have an autumn goddaughter to give it to instead you give it to your father because your father raised you for all these years and worse yet your father might feel insulted i i was there all the years from now he just forgets me and you start bordering christopher solomon aura of emoji that's why many godzilla my soul is will do as much if not more i'll say the story of the khazeen ish was talking about an uncle first but one thing i will say i saw this as a plea because it's a i saw in styman is quoted in the in one say foreign in in in it they both i think it was different stories a little different either but the same idea that there was a friar father who said if you give him some decoy he's the shabbos brisk he'll come for shabbos and on shabbos he won't drive home he's he's going to devour he's going to donate smear shabbos to be sandik but that's it but so both rabbi yahshua have simon paskin that discourse that the father will keep one shabbos is better than any god will be my spirit on the child i saw this inside i want to be clear i saw myself that someone offered that we have been ten thousand dollars if he could give him some decoys instead of the father for some reason this uncle wanted to sign the coins so the father i guess was a little blinded by ten thousand dollars he said you know i would love to give my father but keep it off the aim is michelle of i can't lose ten thousand dollars but he wasn't because we know it's iranian conducion says only losing money in america so a son has to give up ten thousand dollars or more because father goes first so certainly if you're talking about a school that hopefully is compensated by doing the right rats and hashem you don't lose by doing the rats in hashem so now we understand those that give it to the raw of the rabbit that's dominic and certainly the father and the share want that meaning so without a spirit those that give it to the father first because keep it up has the ability to do what any school that what any other school that could do la maison who comes first the father or a share so ishvara is a very important person but again keep it up is their isa and but there's no doubt about it that the father is the first son again the swear is the second sound decrease in some circles the first child goes to the schwere so if that's the minute that's dominic but basically the father goes first the second time the case goes to the share the only question is let's say that you the person has the the ban has a father and has a zadeh who gets the first son because his father or his grandfather so the what's the shia lab and that's why taka even though there is some say is there isa but akiba is first so the aviation has to do with and give it to the father but once the father gets it he has to do his and give it over to the zeder because he has his faith keep it up but the son that's not his business you give it to your father what the father and if the father wants to keep it for himself don't say a word it's not your business you'll give it to the father and the father does what he wants a tricky question is after the father had it and now it's the second santa cruz who gets it the zeder the v aviv or the schwer so this i was all flustered because past this in it up and that's why it passed this it makes sense that the zeta goes first he says now i know he's coming from because you look back in the sheet is the going has this kadima so the the priorities are different but revive if you hold that of as more than then it makes sense to say that goes first the only thing is you have to realize that the schwere is watching the first baby goes to their side second baby up again to their side so you have to make sure that you're not causing your majoricus maybe give the name the other side or be revised them explain to them but just to ignore them of course is not a good idea a very practical answer in any situation is give the other person because don't forget father involves the wife also so once she gets involved she'll convince her husband that's a much better better keeper to get fatter than somebody why because i'm involved what do you mean so once you get higher on board then you can work things out a little easier a very painful question which unfortunately is common today with the air of clay soil bali chuva but one of the questions that is unavoidable when they have a child and the grandfather they are v aviv one sound because he doesn't know anything else about either this guy but santa claus now what do you do now is there keep it off by an avid roster it's against you but maybe he's not a rush he's a tennis ball but then again what kind of spock can a a zaid a friar person give and there's always the fact oh he became religious and he forgot all about me you know so this is something a lot has been written about but one thing i will say that there is a question which i didn't find before is there's no doubt about it the samick has a very positive impact on the child but is it also true that a bad time that has a negative impact is it like a contagious disease whatever the person is the child becomes is it something like an affection who said a bad time he has a badass but a bad sandik just doesn't have a good hot spot but where do you see there's something bad about assandic that we don't find now if that's true i'm not sure but if that's true so then a a a an inappropriate sandic is a lost opportunity of a skus of a schooler bashasta mila this is why i saw many goodalia paiskim say that if the irreligious father can be satisfied and tell him well i'm going to give you qatar together with you with your wife with a mama or whatever however you comfort her but you'll be together and you know really in our circles we give it to the rabbi whatever whatever story that you make and they'll go for it fine but if it's a question of hashem if it's causing hard feelings you know i raise you all these years i helped you become religious often they say so if it's a question of or immaculate of a vimo you probably should give the father some decoys and again there's no bad influence hopefully it's just a positive incidence lost and the stress of keyboard of will be claimed for the child and the father that he won't lose by doing the right thing now what some people have have done that when you give tucker the fire person is on the course but someone else happens to be in the right place in the right time of course it's all pre-planned and right by the shasta of the mila he sticks his hand and holds the baby inadvertently of course or holds the feet of the baby and he does the real santa claus so the father's in all the pictures and he's happy but the real son like the real bala brist would be that person now if you do that you have to be very careful because i know the story of male told me once that someone did this and the father realized and now it became war forget it it wasn't the key but it was a bizarre so you have to do it right but also something i wondered about and i found this in one of the high end ticket posts and discussed this if there's the zeder who was so proud of his accomplishment he gave a special gift because he was the sandik and now it wasn't the sandic really maybe it's us you know you know he he gave you a present because he was sandik and la maison you worked out a system he's not santik so i saw bias of libman's language under charles one of his troopers he writes that he doesn't want this sandi he wants you know to be uh you know in all the pictures and he's a center of attraction he got what he wants you got what you want and it's okay basically you have to be heirlock don't forget you know geneva's dash you can't do something of such kadushi with something lacking of emis so try to do it in a way that it won't be a bizarre into the father of course and also try to do it as arabic as possible another point i wanted to mention the question of isaidah in other words the avia benzaida there is a special nitin allah to try to give your zeida santiko is because your zaid is the altizate of the baby there is a lekka joisha in your day um 52. he seems to say that there's a there's a kabbalah he writes when someone's a sandic for his or a nicole it's a special skus so basically when when possible try to give that alto zay this and the kois and of course the people are michael that that should happen of course that's a very big skills for the baby as well a real challenge with all the police can discuss because in our times it's it's it's common if the grandfather is not not irreligious he's a guy either the mother married a guy or it's a guy and he wants to be sandik so the divi malkiel and khalid payvob says that's you know non-negotiable vivid the sondik is about her bris so if the sandic is a guy then you shouldn't do the mila because you're missing part of the bris don't forget he's called the balbaris and this is basically what he says that you can't give a guy son decoys the only thing is if the guy insists so you have a concern here because again in ramon in all of tests i'm sorry enraged mouth steve tess writes you have to respect gare has to respect his guys your father because otherwise he look he became jewish and look what you look what julia missus he just ignores me so you have to be very careful that he shouldn't be mavasa this want to be sandik but then again he can't do it vasnam in achuva inhaling test writes you simon ray jude you can't give a guy santa claus and explain to him according to our laws we don't do it just like there's the laws for non-jews you don't take jews into your you know services it just we don't mix so try to explain it but that should be a line that we don't cross an interesting question someone asked me he's a via ben could i be a sandik anything wrong with me being sandik so the embassy if you learn the how luck is you'll see that he should be the first sandik really make the dinner explain because really there is on the father tamale his son and that's why there is some younger light that learned mila to be able to make the mila but then again don't forget you know i heard from robbie told me i saw fathers making brisk meals on their sons and the boy was knocked him out so you know you have a hitler but you don't have the mitzvah you have to know what you're doing this was not happy about this he told rashford who wanted to make his own meal he says let me see when your child gets old if you learn with them day and night we send them to yeshiva that you don't worry about mitzvah boy but myself you have to know that we have a key of meal on our child so that's why i think the palaioits and eric miller writes that the avia bench should be a sandik because this way he will be part of the oil that he's the different malkiel writes this emphatically that since since this time the sunday is the part of the baalha bris he's active part of the mila he when possible should be the actual santik as well graduate is another practical situation that the the father should be the sandik they asked him who his son dick was so he said my father the stipend but there was so much during my empress right because that's why he was sondik there was so many my father know who to give first so he took it for himself so basically besides mitsuboi at times it could be a little of a shalom shalom issue but one thing i will say that the sondik is playing a more of a prominent role than we realize the only problem with the father being the the sandik is you're supposed to make the brachial and he says he's standing and he's sitting okay but that's not market as we know it's a different chair but they were the goddamn right that is should not the moral should not be the same the golden one yet some safer and many dollars also was sami i the premier guns they shouldn't do it there it says but if you want to do the both mitzvah and you end up doing the mitzvah of me making the brochure sitting it's not market so just like the san diego does the same mitzvah the father can make magnesa even though he's sitting as far as the the actual procedure the most important thing of a sandvik is to help the moyo the moyle tells you what to do listen to him don't outsmart the moyo hold your feet together hold the baby's feet down and please if you're not very excited about what watching blood don't take the key but i saw moyle writes that he was once by a by mila the father by during the the the sunday had a heart attack during the mila and dropped the baby he doesn't write what else happened but it's not positive if you can't tolerate the sight of blood the don't be a mild don't be astantic i mean the mariel writes that the song should go to mikvah before the actual meelam the moisture writes it's not necessary but i want to mention that of those that have that minute to go to mikvy before the actual sound decoys the poise kim say the sounding should wear big day shabbos in fact in a veilus in shinsatak isle of bays even an oval if he's sounding because lara would be the shabbos during the mila and it's actually a yum tea from the entire day there are sheathes that hold that the sundeck has an islamology the entire day that's not our minig but one thing i will tell you mr burun kuflam al-sifkotten writes that the sandik patters did siba from from tachman by chakras before the milan but after the meal he doesn't say but the siba does so obviously it's a yumtha for him the entire day the minute is that a santa cruz at palace of course he's wearing a talos anyhow but the kid is let's say it's an afternoon mila or as the shahruchuvas is on tishiba by chakras it is a mila the sondik puts the talos on the stipula and this arkansas being a gimbal here and the zeitgeist says it also that the somehow the minute they put a little bit of the talus over the baby's head to cover the baby's head the both shock and the end of race that the sandik should be wearing twilight during the bris mila because filling is an ice like mila and that's why many many san diego are takamak but they have to fill in on by some khasid them i saw this in the torah and the israelis say they'd have to take off that's filling because once you have the oyster mila you don't need the ice such villain but obviously the shah and the rum held it's not a serum because they eat has the ice mela and bris meal is together with the ice melon now it fills the second iso cytosphere but be that as it may it's villain is worn one thing i will say what i think the minute is if there's an afternoon brisk and the the sonic is not wearing filling anyhow the minute is not to put on just for the just for the the meal itself the most poison seem to hold that if there's only one alias in monday or thursday brisk you give the aliyah to the sandik there are those that hold that the moyo gets it but again you offer kayaks from the then the moyu the khilish that i saw in the churras shy and tanyana simon curb bait and that's i think the minig that benching you give them oil first and this is based on a gemara brochis when someone made the previous necessarily so he gets the benching now since the male made the the first bronchus he then benches i once gave another hush to be santa by my son's bris and he gave the baby a gift i had many other son they call him that was i didn't get a gift so i was wondering so i learned the sugar i found that it's based on a magician because the same measures said that bernie sanders was a sounding favorite venue the person gave a rama gift not a stretchy like my son got from that goblet he got eretz his throat and that's why the motions of cain and one of the shrine and i saw this writes it in in test dalit that the minute is that the sandic gives a gift to the baby you will soon see why that's not done and really what's fascinating is a little bit of history explains a lot of the san dicoyous we had a concert that it says that sounded supposed to get rich we don't see something becoming rich question why is ebala bris he's just holding the baby a third kasha is la maisa the ramos says that the sander should drink the wine from the bris why is he making drinking the wine so rabbi yankev and emma yaakov and i found earlier says this as well but in simon raystam r176 he says that the minig was that the sandik helped pay the course of the birth and the brismila because they lived in terrible poverty they didn't have what to eat and they posted parmesan stopped having children because of the absorption cost of the milan so the sandik was the gewehr who under wrote the cost of the of the brismila and the sudan he says that's why you'll look both in in your in tasmania and you're there it says the sander could use my money to become a sambic and when you learn that now you wonder what's going on you have to have to give my money to become a sandic the terrorists he paid for the right source of the birth and the bris dr bianchi he's the bowel brisk literally because he paid for the bris therefore he drinks the wine because it's his wine but most importantly he says why is this a school of serious because he gave sadaqa bishop today the santa is ashamed he doesn't do anything well he doesn't do anything why is he get tashiras so all of the mystery of the sanding is because the sandy paid the cost of the birth and all the meal oh so then i saw another side why does the sandy give a gift to the baby because he got so much of serious no be a mention a little cursor toy but today that he doesn't get a serious anyhow there's nothing to to give a gift for maybe that would explain why you don't get a gift from most santa claus but one thing i will say they asked raphael in this question he said you are the most popular sondik in this world he is a few years of probably a dozen a day and you don't even own your own house he rents an apartment he said it's because bullets are the father only wants gash me as hashiris so he's a mesogna he doesn't get time to curse anyhow but it's a lot of truth to that this disciple was also asked what happened to uh shivers he goes what do you mean i wrote kill the sake and i have a son that's a means great so basically the ashirus is not really a stero to the whole concept it's in it's a different type of ashiris just a few more points i wanted to mention during a veilus could someone be assandic so the embassy says why not forget we saw in pastors of their mother in in in shinsai that it's inappropriate because since qataris and and santa cruz is very similar it says the fairish that an orville is not marked the kotorius because you have to sit in a chair for santa claus and an oval should not be sitting on a chair so that's why i think the poi skim assumed that a a a an oval should avoid being ascending but in ramallah we see my first that it was done on adult mila today we have baleechuva and gerim is there a sandik opportunity when adult mila to make the bris easier to do let him hold the nimble i can't say rachael let him hold the nimble's hand and give him and then he becomes the baal hybris he's making the the bris more possible and ah a beautiful shot to think about someone wants the biggest goddess to be the sandvik and he's masking but he has three other bristol and he first would come at 11 o'clock what goes first being having a prominent moyo a bambamin in sandic i mean or is reasonable like demon limits this and don't forget it's reasonable it's not an algae din we learn it from brahmavinu so they asked him this question and that's safer and basically said that if it's going to lay the brisk for a long time about you have to make a reason and bam is in the city ivettes it says the fairest sorry hassan dick leo is lovely bash grammar employee boy miyad if he's late my meeting so basically i have to realize that assandic has to be on time and i swear told me he remembers in this shell in the late i think was the early 50s something whatever came to be sandik and he came a little late somebody asked him but what about uh we asked my friend he said who said how long he took but basically the sounding has to be biz and that's the ikkatsura mitzvah i if you can't get the great sound that you lose disgust my demon is the biggest ghost i got to talk to you all [Music] in williamsburg two hours late so he said he's coming bald baltha specialist he says i stayed in the mission twice 851-8651 or email to isd ishibanet.com me [Music] all right