Shidduchim - Rabbi Elozor Bald

so unfortunately due to this situation here it's israel and the rise of the coroner by pest and was unable to travel but we're going to stick to the same topic of shidduchim and we'll be hearing from those of baldwin torah on the at my cover the corner by ball for tonight's dresser this is a hot topic for me very hot topic for me especially with short notice i'll say some stories i'll say the dance of the door about what they say about him previous generation today's generation and it should be as close to everybody that needs sudokum uh i'm in the parachute so it's a very hard topic boxing i'm married of two children i have a younger sister who's still waiting we're looking for a good shot and have a good sleep today we should help i have a few children in line and whoever wants to call me up they could contact ignacio tairo or call me everton robertson bald 718-972-3437 i'm just doing this i'll tell you soon why we had there once many years ago ramosha mayweather gave a shirt on shidduchim and he said his daughter can't find the [ __ ] and he said names of chatronios one of the ladies that he mentioned the list of names of shaytan is contact him and they made the shadow from this year and one girl was downstairs spoke to a different girl right after she made a shirt so you never know any established especially when you do shidduchim to help somebody else this [ __ ] is a very hard chair for me because it was it's a hurt you'll see so why the stories that i say why and for other people sudukum is a very happy topic they have it easy with their children and some people i have struggle and struggle with it and i'll say a story that happened i'll start with this story it was the borough park we used to have in the stalin and shul in bara park and the popa bizmates where we had the honor to have with us the carlos bergarov used to answer shoot answers in dallas like that one year yamtiv matsuyam we found that he was rushed to the hospital and cancelled on the spot two major shiram we talked about and borrowed about five six hundred people and women's work a thousand people used to come to this who's going to take him over to answer dao kago i don't know anybody that could do that we used to have a rebel skin flatbush nobody that was able to do it iran what's your turn in the bells of dying tomorrow you're giving the shadows and troopers in bara park i ran to rabbi miller the eisenstatter of you're giving the shade following day williamsburg and papa i can't how would i we'll do it differently we're not going to answer ask you on the spot you give us all the shame we gave in the past few months we'll prepare any questions on it you know the topics you just spoke about it fine the diamond did it nabarro park i'm sorry belzodin did it in williamsburg rabbi miller we got him to do in bar park asked him what was the last five six year ma loki he gave he used to give every weekend a show we took down the topics the points we made questions based on those shurim that he gave and it was a fabulous [ __ ] the olim thought that it was the same shield as there was papier to our classical rod but it wasn't there was a person sitting there that lives in cash show in the city cash show and he came here for yamtif and he wanted to see what charles and juventus a market yeshiva and he came he saw about amir the eisenstadter of he's there where he stayed he was sown a spell he thought that he answered the questions like this on the spot he went back to his yeshiva in caso he told rashashima and kashi you know who this instructor if you used to do it on the spot but he this is how it was do you know how he answered the shoulders and he took over in one day's notice unbelievable the cash of a rosh yeshiva said yes if he such a talmud i didn't know then find out if he has a boy he found that he has a boy and the kasha rashashiva had a girl within two weeks for the huston kala so listen what happened here a preschooler became sick i got to the vermillion was hot for him to do what he did he did have status of a shield which was hard for him and they wish to send a casual magazine to come in by mistake to hear over miller because he came to your casket he went back and complimented rosh yeshiva and then they made this shidduch in two weeks how do i know this because the son of rabban miller the eyes of shatturov he's now the nighter of williamsburg told me the story is don't tell my father because uh he's gonna he's gonna have to come give a [ __ ] again so i did tell him he meant the joke sarcastically i told him and i have to eat shrimp he married all of his kids i told him now you come give a [ __ ] maybe eric will find this [ __ ] you never know what do i mean to say bring the story any good thing that a person does when it's hard for him being special from that person and i heard this from jose briesel from you he was a cobbler and a tadic i asked him once for broccoli many years ago before my other children were married he told me to a good azach and be misfollowed do something very good so this week's parties parties there's so many brothers in this week's passion more than almost any pastor that i know you'll have children you have every children right after the end of islam starts akif if you're going to do you're going to learn you'll do mitzvahs you can have everybody ask this question the answer is that your she says but when you go after yourself to help another eid in shidduchim and anything is even the remarkable but a cave you do something that people don't look at don't care about so much it's mitch is that people it's not so important and you make it important and you do it and good kids that means you have shidduchim you marry them often kids and a person doesn't know which mitzvah is going to make it for him to have extra squishy and i could tell you one of the stories we had one of us conor mcgregor around the world we have hundreds of his government that work with the chauvin project and this started many years ago there was one of our scholars from around the world that he came to work thinking shitera and he needed the [ __ ] and then when we started like 25 years ago we have hundreds of thousands that join us from spokane bay yes and you know the physical bias which is such important men ladies worldwide and i told him sarcastically uh possibly you know you're doing so much for taran spark of the show with him why you shall embarass you should be a cousin by now so i told him by the end of the show with him he has to be a carson so he answered me back why i told him last year he did one year we did that only in manchester and then we started also ladies shooting now you're gonna have men and ladies but in the show you're coming across so he tells me why shall i wait and the shout of him the main work is the two months before show of him so i told him you're right right before showing him he became a hustler what's up he did it with the gangster emma's messiest nerfish and the amish the kid i have a go via bala boss wanna develop he's not a big fear but he's about the boss and he's struggling with the [ __ ] of one of his children about her a whole year with [ __ ] and nothing is going and he called me up i spoke to him again and then he tell me calls me one day and he tells me he has a [ __ ] that is speaking now for his was for his son and it's just not going he wants that cheater so much but it's not going he mummy she wants it him and his wife so he says he wants to give me money for tarzan i asked him i didn't want to i asked him i told him not promise you anything but i could doubt him for you i asked him some questions why he likes this girl for his son what the natures and does he like it that's right for some reason it's not going through a month which is not gone and he he from ray of agma snapfish that is waiting already over here with this with his book he says rabbi bald it was in 30 days this my son is a hustler and he i want this girl eighteen thousand dollars faking [ __ ] there and you know they've said the comments to me every and it worked at dalvin because i wouldn't um say i had stories that this what i mean he's not a great idea he really meant it and it was hard for him but he just wanted us extra anything a person does any mitzvah we don't even know what kind of mitses could could produce what kind of squish him unbelievable but kindness muslim so my even many years later could be a skeleton person i had a story my my father-in-law is hunt when he was a child six years old this is a story over 70 years ago he was in the boston shul in williamsburg and there the mikvah was right near the shul and the children used to run around to chase the kids and they chased him into the mikveh they were hiding and he fell into the water with his two hands outside the water and there was nobody there one kid screamed in the bismarck help nobody with darwin and a kid screaming and one lte dried out and pulled him out of the mix and saved him his ears was listening to try to help somebody a child a child call him hey somebody here nobody listened he ran out and he saved him he schlepped him out of the mikvah and he saved his life my son-in-law when they got married was talking hey he's the ainical of that person that saved my father-in-law which means that seventy years ago by saving this boy he saved himself a shidduch for his or anaker his uranical son married my daughter my daughter and this [ __ ] happened sometimes you could do a good thing and 70 years later you see the fruit so when it comes to shidduchim this is a very hot topic we have to look for atheists how to make sudah the first thing is gulois if that's the easiest thing to rampant said brought in the kala too says to say capital of 121 so in the same place mata isha mata toiv if you find your wife you found good for ya girat simma hashem and with that you do the wrath hashem and hashem is also happy with you that's base and the next plastic initially you test udalid a house and a fortune is a urushi from parents or machem isha mascalas from maybe she got a wife that's masliach you say those two and then you put your own personal filler to fire the civic organ for yourself for children but if you look in the torah we have almost i'm a foolish ghouler in the homicide in the torah see what's the positive right before that before you went out to the field of darwin that's high sorrow of dallas he went to bring a shidduch for his father he went to bring hagar favre as he brought hakufa ramavino his shader came to him this is my foolish emposic he darwin but it said we're foolish when someone does the [ __ ] for somebody else is this ghoula for [ __ ] of himself now there are many people that have shidduchim they're very easy in life because sometimes mommy she says i know my father but one of the kids is shidduchim he was sitting in his shoe in scottish even months until 10 o'clock at night learning they made a girl there some girl to win a prize for something that's a darker thing and he was older the oldest person in the show and so they asked him to take out the girl that day they were speaking sleesh durham for his daughter he was oyster in the first and the second seven o'clock three hours before before the girl another [ __ ] that came and called up kaufman he wasn't he was busy with the first and second so he didn't even go into register in his mind it came three hours later to the girl he took out the name he took out the name kaufman she says three hours ago they called me with kaufman i took out the girl let me look into it i can just ignore it and that was the [ __ ] that happened sometimes it comes easy but most of the time not you can't rely on it you know the chatroom try to convince you as they try to convince me that you know maybe this is about [ __ ] you're pushing away what hashem sent you you know so i want to ask my rebel rebels they're stalling forever i asked him he says yeah if hashem sends a [ __ ] that's rashed right so what how am i supposed to look at it yes it says it's bashar that they shall send it to you but you have to be mavara very well if it's good for you it doesn't you can't mix the two things but shared and what you have to do then there are some people that should go very hard and this is i want to tell you we have to know that that's how it goes the medishiraban passage brings a story that was a queen that asked me after what does hashem do all day he created the world six days what does he do so he says he's mazavik zevog and mashab is making what's the big deal i can also make shidduchim i have a thousand slaves take a thousand boys a thousand girls match them up and that's what she did the next morning they come one slave his eye was busted one foot was broken one all different breaking scene the bad medici says and and she comes oh yeah you see you're so right i think he asked him what happened i don't want her and she said i don't want him they were beating each other the whole night so he's a hundred percent right there a [ __ ] and the medic says that the abhishek is like a christian and abhishek does about quran for some people they make it happy and some people they unfortunately make it sad and then in the mandate finishes there are certain zero game that come easy and suits the vulgar that come hard with the [ __ ] that came to this is what the medici writes that are two types of people now we have to understand that people have a lot of hardships in shidduchim and sometimes they work in a [ __ ] and it's almost going and it's going and it doesn't work and therefore i want to say some physique there too came to our palm to complain he went through [ __ ] that was almost finished and just dropped sora palm told him the same thing happened to eliezer almost eliezer protest he saw the whole creatures of there he went down to get to get rid of her and he saw that the water came up to her he saw that he found exactly how about the bear and everything that he thought happened and still elijah said like this if you don't want to get come the s mean a little spoiled i'll go to right or to the left what do you mean you you saw a practice you're giving this up he just told him you don't want fine i'll go to right now to the left says palm if it happens this is also asgard protest and don't turn over the world there's other girls eliasment is growth by ishmael this other nice light you don't turn over the world hasidim in talk 521 writes unbelievable that if someone made up with you to make a shadow and then he embarrassed you and he dropped the commander reuben that he should sing cause could be if since he married the other one that means bashar that he should marry the other one could be if he would marry you then you would have to go through tsar and die or get or saurus so hashem did this happen don't be angry don't even show him a bad face because he called us and many times people are tested and we people don't know how to act and then they came to the he should say what to do is right they should make the [ __ ] and then other side started screaming you know and then they said no i see the girl is right and he sent away the bakr later they came back no we changed our mind back we wanted and he wanted very much that baker and they dropped the [ __ ] they stopped it didn't go a while later came back and the cavaliers sent his wife with the daughter to go make this to go try again to make the [ __ ] and then one day it just says mazato my daughter became my color they tell him how do you know rokhakat she says in all of others she gave up their will for your will when hashem made that i shouldn't have the cheddar i said you're burning i wanted this [ __ ] so much but you don't want i want what you want and i was i gave up my whole mind that they changed back the mind that was they were my battle dish mine to us so we don't know we have to be mavato our dust to whatever hashem gives us and it's very painful sometimes there's a tremendous physique because sometimes we are tested with the kodeshwar we test us with such patients we lose our patients years of hardship we've got people go through and then i want to say a vort of the uh one of the relevant person is ready to kill himself or hashem if a person is ready even to kill himself hashem wouldn't even i i thank hashem even uh something that happened he's even already ready to kill himself so what's that either sometimes the person has a rook needs to get pain it's even more hard on the person than the gospel they campaign you have a casual or tainan under a bunny slime bursham why don't we want to get married i want to do you rocks i want to build the initiative i want to feel terrorist right of course and you don't let me i'm trying very hard for us to sim cautiously crazy amsterdam it's very hard so we have to understand why is it very hard what is it so different so the maralim explains i'm saying the point two points why he explains the medish the abushi created the world in six days and now he's doing shidduchim what is he doing now with shidduchim what is he doing why only him he says because the whole nature of the world repeats itself hashem repeats the same nature but a shidduch is a new thing just like he created other mahava he has to create a new entity of a hustle and a color to understand each other to build together home there's not just a repeat of having a baby this is a new entity that's why i called this bokeh's mazam exhibit every day that's one shot a second shot is even stronger that nature-wise in tava islam a man and a woman they think differently they actively they understand differently it's asian age issues ancient age only the union k uni bishop's name hold the rookhv the spiritual part holds that there should be shaolin between each of esha and therefore i need mazavik is avogan every single day because without the abish they're holding that marriage it would not last that's what the morale explains so zevok is a real big thing but used to say the original that the reason why it's very hard is because the abhishe and shamim they know what a big symbol is when the [ __ ] happens you know how many generations could come out from this [ __ ] like come out from the sugar so it's such a big thing the it's a heart of fights and fights and wants to stop every [ __ ] that will shanora any way he can i'll stop a [ __ ] whatever he could they'll try to stop his [ __ ] because it's such a big thing and my father from my father was under heard he set over from rabbi bender bianca benzer shiva his zeder my father heard it from his father who was bender who heard from his father that the reason why it's so hard is because the ableism could be put sometimes one in shaman europe one of shaman china go bring them together they're so different they don't that's why it's kosher is yamcha so no matter why it's so hard we have to know what we got to do about it not just to sit quietly and it's hard we got to make shidduchim so what do you do about it so i went to khan kenowski and one of my childhoods that i asked him the ultimate american what are we going to do about it you want to change what it says it's very hard september what should we do we have to have doesn't finish you gotta keep on dabbing by the end of the works then i went to harvard with shivapanovic i used to ask them hundreds of questions and he said a different thing what's the problem with how do we get moving he says a person has to take away his own personal interest which means when a person comes to schedule there's a lot of things that every person is not the same as other people men hogging money issues place where you live a lot of details all these things that people think they need and they feel they need that causes a lot of strife to hold back many shidduchim and a person goes and says rabbi islam i want to do a [ __ ] because that's the eurozone that he created me to do a [ __ ] i have to have good kids to who kaiser that he go with their focus what's good for the boy what's good for the girl that helps then i went to her ab unless time is that's all he was very sharp and he screamed and he says he doesn't want him he doesn't want him it doesn't pass the cover to me all covered people have to look what's good for the kids and then the people that are unknown they're happy they found a partner in life they're happy they could build a home the kids are happy they don't need everything they don't really know everything so we have these three answers jeff kramkanevsky ms paulo zine and mikhail de take away own interests personal protect that you need that you think you need and here and the diamond guy them but i want to speak about another few issues there's a shaman khali story that's going on that we have to talk about the first thing is what we could do together as a kalau a quality stroke then i'll talk about what you could do pratt the palaioits who is a safari of hundreds of years ago mokubu is safe on every topic everybody uses paleoids he writes in the section of zivak he writes a person should be very careful to do good research on a shidduch and check through his crayon to know how good she is and what's her nature that's the word he writes mativa matova what's how good she is and how bad she is how good she is and what's her nature because it's not a clothes it's not a talent or a record you just take off and change when you want you have to really do very good research and this we all know that we have to do research but today's time you're allowed to ask whatever you want fashion you have to ask you have to and you want to ask if you tell somebody i'm asking you in today's time people are not ready to work as they used to do 30 40 years ago and therefore it might come in the bottom one and make the prenuptial all the the people should sign that if anything happens they should go to the young not the court there shouldn't be any such initiatives or obama or pushing it in all the neighbors it might become a norm through our asking of ellie goldbaum he is the one that started it the whole tishabha program and that about it why is all that because we it's so hot for us people are hard to work and children you have to find out the nature of the boy and the girl and try to make it as easy as possible that they shouldn't come to maklakis and that's why yolanda asked and you have to ask but what do you have to ask you have to know we're talking about good boys and good boys we're not talking about troublemakers which one known nature is if it's a variable if if it's cold-blooded however what type it's it should be similar as much similar as possible and after all they're asking me to while it's filling but talking because nobody knows even if their mom is like a peer how it's gonna work out later it's we we can't know such a thing we need anyways but that's all about the person that asks but about the person that answers it's a cheverus you have to know what allowed to say how to say and i'm going to speak to you about it this is a very touchy subject today many people are going to hate what i say and many people are going to love what i say but it has to be said in regions cloud tests so you were involved in the end of the base says you only let us say what does his renaissance mean he says upper courses if they are upper courses second one base prizes if the house is preaches you can't let that and the third one about a sickness a real sickness and in a real sickness even in that he puts conditions when he atlanta say it that you sure about it you shouldn't say it more than what it is and you have no inside sin on that person you have no pain against them you're saying it truly ellis and if you can't avoid to do it in a different way like by not saying it thinking i want to say it even and if you're going to kill him by that by saying it everybody's not even a ghana he speaks about there even a gun if he stole once maybe he'd get better if the whole the ball boss tell the whole shot he's again a volcano for life you know i'm going to say just to make at the ellis foreign to kill somebody's life what a bosnian couldn't do so the satanist i'm brings from the biggest dining bells of shama grosso let's roll he writes one of the biggest theorem of the hundred are about him he is the biggest one of this he writes that midos me this person has a media bad media you're not let us say why is that another say we're not talking about here that someone fights with the whole yeshiva or girl that fights with the whole school you're going to find out anyways that i'm talking normal nature one person is more excited one person gets sometimes angry one person is more stingy one normal nature meters that we all have you're not allowed to say why two reasons number one is because you saw many shiva but usually they when they become a host they get more serious or girl they work on the meters and the husband works with the husband they both work on the meters this is normal meters second of all i'll i'm explaining what he says because ryan writes if one fool the other he says he's giving him a million dollars but he's not giving nothing now ara mahoten is also fooling a little once this fooling a little inside you know how to say one to another you know what i say so if he has a bad meeting she has a bad man you know what she has so once this these two meat is involved you can't say it so again we're not talking about extreme and even that if you have to say something it's not worse than a highly that the time writes someone that's sick rahman islam your ladder only state with certain conditions one you don't say more to you sure about it and you have no insight usually the people that know about it have some reason why they're saying the bad of them and you can't avoid it the different way and and you're not going to kill them by that coach can be this a person's now that is saying a person this guy is not a he writes these words if he's not married you should have got the money you're not going to find who's going to want to marry this boy he's dumb he's stupid when you leave such a thing out of a boy nobody's going to want to marry him you know i want to say that to me misha boy you say it to me mr boycott speaks about it you killed the booker it gets known that it's a tiny misha boy now if you're saying it nature wise you know he's average bachelor he is he's elohim so you're not saying it in a negative way i'm talking about it comes down a negative way and the reason is because i'm writes in regards base hey that you're only allowed to stay with the ls to take away the hesic to take away the benefit but you can't go say it and the same time give somebody else a big a big bad raw rabbit then you're not going to say it because you're killing the next guy now there's not any sperm that i saw on rashonora on shidduchim itself that some swarm that bring in the uh and they say the own i'll say it own suvarus at best and then madame they compare won't have time to other than they want to learn from and i'll explain where they get it from the time has the cooldown of dollar dude that our father is allowed to tell a child don't go near this person he sees a child that's getting close to a person schmoozing with him become his friend and this person is a kaisen and this person is a don't go with him because he's a kaisen says you're allowed to tell your student please i see you're getting close to him don't become his friend not good because it is explaining why he telling him because he is so here they try to interpret to bring it also into shidduchim as well what kind of comparison is that even being an hour to tell a child why only if he's not going to listen to you in other make it more and you know if you have a sinner and if you if you're killed the person everything start will know that he's a kaizen who says you want to say it and that's exactly why the time by shidduchim when he speaks about shidduchim says only these three things the latter say upper courses preaches and highly some me this is highly in today's time you know about that but so a person can't ask himself a child you tell him privately but by shidduchim you know what happens but shidduchim today there are thousands of boys and girls in arabic because people are badminding them when they are with good boys and girls a private tell me that's a song he sees getting close to him and tell them probably you tell them oh this this i heard this and he tells him it's a mitzvah the taliban and all the shaytan fighters before you know this like this and there are thousands like that today i therefore oh he said very good but written by apam hargo ish sometimes they know me in bed they just today you can ask 10 people good information you could be middle of the [ __ ] the shotgun spent hours and days the parents been come one guy yeah this guy you went like that you killed the sugar finished you killed him for life about everything's bashed but these people did it they're they're showing like it says hashem the yeshivas today they do have programs barbara 45 they bring every year somebody to teach the book on how to talk how to express something and some schools have it but false i heard from many parents that people kill the kids once you're done we have to put and think about it think about ourselves then that's the nature of the world you go around you ask and you understand but one person says you know i heard this is not this anything you say is stingy is this whatever you say like i saw him once getting angry i saw him not coming in time you killed the shedder you killed it that's the way the world works today unfortunately people drop it she looking right away so even though we need a mooner but a person has to be very careful about it and therefore the coffee time writes if you don't know what to do rather say i can't give you a answer because i don't know him well enough now i want to speak something that's even more painful the very the uh just like we have a problem with friends and girls and friends of people that you have 10 friends they'll say very good that one had a running with a girl or one boy or a run or a boy say bad we have great milandum great milandos great mahankhos great principles malala manalos rabbeim shashiva's beautiful we have to give their life to them but the same thing happens in yeshivas and in schools you can ask five teachers and get great information but you ask this one teacher and you'll get bad information why because she hadn't run with the student now let's look at the issue every shiva 50 60 70 percent could follow the schedule of yeshiva but there are 30 percent or more that are not into this schedule in the box of the yeshiva 20 percent above the level issue but they learn more things they do no schedule and 20 percent less than the level achievement so what happens a rebbe had a running with a student or a teacher or masjid or a kid and what he commented he came late he shiva he didn't do everything that i wanted from him he didn't always listen he wanted to trouble me shiva this is awesome maybe this book became better since when it happened maybe her meda is the girl you know what the girl that maybe she has something else similar and who says this has to do with the [ __ ] if you came late or or you pressed them and made them pain and that's why he he could listen to you as to a heart fan maybe these bhagavad-girls will be the best wives and husbands of responsibility for home and these husbands will be the best of their wives they're more gaming they're more capable the same like i said the teachers one teacher that didn't know how to control the class most teachers are very good they'll speak very well she didn't follow the class and she says that she had a whole year from her agm staff to teacher so she now she's saying it and she's holding herself back but she's saying it this is not one of the three things that covers crime says you're allowed to say this is not a boy or a girl that should fight with older friends all the friends love this girl all the friends love this boy he never hurt anybody he's great with everybody this moment made it very hard for him and he didn't understand him and he and and he killed the should look him too what a hot spur i went to rap diamonds that sound many times and i asked him how come this hurts huth batman and teachers so he tells me a manal and a rebbe that has self-respect that means acts like urushimayum and with good meters there's no hotspot now i don't know if in today's time it's like that because kids are growing up very well today this is 20 years ago he told me but i'm just saying it to the point and i once went to time and asked him a question about shidduchim that there's a sickness if i'm allowed to say the sickness now what happened a student came to the raving says rebbe i have a private thing you have to tell your sickness that's what the student said and but i don't want you to tell anybody i'm just telling you because you're my regular like a file i trust you so we asked up simon and he's into shidduchim the rabbi asked could he could i um tell out now i'm passionate you have to say maybe late in the game but you have to somehow get it to see if you can work it out but he asked me i told him i don't know so he understood it i asked raphstein as i found hundreds of questions hundreds i never had what i had but this question he paused for two three minutes he didn't know what to answer here it's los angeles you're killing the talmud but here you it's a sickness but he entrusted you and he said it wasn't such a big sickness you have to say even he i just learned the lesson he said like he doesn't like his that's what he this is a student you send a student to school this is how you would speak on your son or your daughter if a rebbe and there's a small issue and i supposed to know the book and says i don't know the bachelor should destroy the hobby off well the rebbe says you know he didn't always listen what i said what teacher says if i've told you this you know i'm going to say this he did true with him then and maybe you pressed him like um he said maybe you two are in this talmud and like the beshoi gig many friends and many european and teachers that don't know that rabbi said we all have to know the christ that's laying on us we can always see what we call a teacher or a friend or a rebbe how he gives over the information with a good heart like he says ah he's such a hostile booker he says he's mindless what he has you bring out his good natures that he has but every small thing that you say and you kill a [ __ ] you're a little higher it's both ways you can't kill the girl and the boy but that's only a thing is that a real serious thing you need a real big love to tell you what you're allowed to do or not and who knows how much sorrows in today's time men and ladies are suffering for generations because they killed tens or hundreds of shidduchim and i'm afraid to say this but i have to say it and say if i can see them at 504 writes the following yehuda and joseph about you the joseph he writes why did you that have the lotion you could be the largener i brought it special because you shouldn't say i made it up dalit why was you have all thesaurus with tamar valamin he had the mashiach from parrots and zoro gilgal available was supposed to be you with his wife he had to go through the whole busy business in the torah why did it happen to him you know why because by 30 years old you chase you sent him to mitra and yoda you you'll be joining us with tomorrow i have parents as well everybody will say what you would look what happened to you busy business what he had because he held back years of [ __ ] until 30 years old he said now let's think about that he did it he was the one that tried to save yourself don't kill him just send them a try yes but he should have saved him totally and he didn't and in dover the miller who was the enemy he could respond to being king much younger he became king by the age of 30 because yehuda you held up yourself until 30 your annual david will help them look at those age 30. how do they run we don't know what people are doing try themselves so what should we do those that spoke and killed hundreds of if you see a boy and girl that someone asked you information about him about a cheddar and you see this boring girl is not not married you have to be honest maybe you didn't give a good impression to the [ __ ] and that's why you're still sitting so now there's tens of thousands of boys and girls sitting with chidorum and most of them are spoken sudoku and people have to give a big dim vaccine on efforts for that so what should we do i'll give you answer ho shaya navi right in the beginning of triosa has a similar story the abisha told hashem kalali's role sint or shayna he says so take a definition change the nation hashem says yeah that's what you're saying about claudia's role okay howie shane now you get married with a zorina you got married to zarina half kid's mom zero suffering from saying you don't know if you're a kid he had three kids he had three children he tells them now give or get i can't give up get i have three children from her how could i do that so i hashem to the general what you can give a ghetto a zoina which the three kids you don't know if your kids are not and i should drop claudius wrong so shayna we realized that he did our veda and he said boys i'm dominating so hashem says i don't read the darkening darwin for claudius wrong benched him you spoke bad about christ now speak good about them so shayna we start speaking good about christopher finding all the good he wanted to break break the shidduch of christ what he got what's the sir speaker anybody that was asked information for that for somebody and he's not yet a hustler of color please go speak god and try to help find this [ __ ] that is the tikkun data now i know uh why [ __ ] you have good fruit and good kids and because mata isha matsutov what we see here the eights is that we have to be very careful how we talk and my quran again is not he shouldn't talk we have to do much research because if not if you don't find out what nature they have nobody's going to do but you have to learn how to explain how to say he's miles history and if you're sure that he still has that big concern that he once had and he doesn't see it because of sinner that he has in him that he has on his talmud or teacher and a student and you know this will kill the house for sure then he should ask garof mumbra to see and if a guy calls you for that information you tell him oh a minute i have an important phone call i'll get back to you soon and then you go call her up and he called him back and you i want her to schmooze from the baba forever and the bob of whatever i love this sentence the way he said it and i remembered it he spoke about it she bought him the people shall do so he said ali india you how he said it all our bahrain are great boys the uh good boys and the even better boys you see the way you could talk the way anything that you could give out the miles and if you have a hassan anything you say hassan you know you have to know if you'll have to say it yeah everything depends how you say it what the attitude did you say let's say a guy is slumpy you don't say slumpy this guy's a slump no he's a sheepish type you know you could say he's not so don't make it worse than it is he's stingy he's not a spender he doesn't like to waste money every explain the nature well people are entitled to know what they're getting but not in a negative way this is one eight so we have to work on shimmers in the schools and the houses not to kill shidduchim then we'll have allah the next day the girls were dancing in the weingarten and the the bahama came they found the shidduchim and what gomorrah said the missionary says each one each girl beg take me please take me those who had ye said take me the amazings have good ears those that had money say take me our money those who were nice they take me i'm beautiful those they were not so nice they said take me but give me a lot of money and gold and silver will become nice this is what they did and the boys came out twice a year hamish asaba and kippur why these two days because these two days were killed israel the mesa mid but the people stopped dying in the midbrain above the last fifteen thousand of the six hundred thousand stayed alive became a yomtiv and that's when they did it and if you think about it above till when the world was created this 40 days so that was the creation of the world that's the connection and from the shelter you keep it also 40 days that the rochester that's the connection but what does it say the rambam says it starts what how did they go out and dance princess all the girls in the vine got out of the city and all the boys came and they made a lot of shidduchim how did they do it you know who asked the kasha the droshu said the holy sadiq talbot until they get right here for this minute it could be that's what would happen to them which means in the time of the mishna they had already ate sir every boy and girl had at least twice two dates a year every boy they came they went and they made a lot of [ __ ] how did they live it there was no choice but in our times there are tens of thousands of boys and girls and thousands don't even get a chance at once i know a good one who made such a thing that's nothing that's beautiful we need every week every neighborhood all types of groups with chatham but sneezing right boys say this is the biggest problem in classroom today we have all organizations partial organizations the biggest we raise six seven millions of dollars charity you put all organizations on one side and on the other side shidduchim it covers everything you have tens of thousands of boys and girls don't have kids they become sick and depressed they need mental health high lifeline they're born it has everything in there ah people get sick and they die because of it there are tens of thousands of boys and girls in each of them donkey killers like mike hill is one of them they have three four kids each parent are waiting for them just piling up what's needed we need all the organizations are helping fashion all the hundreds of shautrana we have a two percent of what what needs to be done two percent not even three percent we have to train thousands of chatroom professionally push it how much time does taking [ __ ] about you but your kids some kids took days weeks months right each shot on him talking talking now if you have a hundred childhood for tens of thousands of kids if one child takes hours and days and weeks you this condom can't handle it they get cold the whole day they can't everybody's new-ish finish we have to create buildings in each neighborhood with hundreds of men hundreds of women full-time workers with chatham that people should be able to come dignified here's my child and five people should surround his parents what does he need what does she need i need this understand and helpful what should yidhi shibakram and girls do that they want to beat music and they can't go in the look to find a [ __ ] in the street what should they do they're sitting home and crying a buddy should i'm with the terms wet where are we now the biggest giveaway most of them some have problems that they don't fifty thousand dollars get me a [ __ ] hundred thousands get me a [ __ ] ten phone calls get new but what should the regular people do what should they do we need our recognition we need some billionaires to come here change the world with thousands of children now there are some dollars that are uh are really happening most didn't happen i'm asking i know i look at these things differently than other people's eyes it's a catastrophe in cloud israel the baba varov made this his baby project everybody should give me hundreds of thousands of dollars i want money anybody makes the [ __ ] five thousand dollars older ten thousand dollars does something just started now he's working on copying it nobody else did that he's trying to make it feasible to have panasonic are working day and night and most of the time they can't make a [ __ ] of course you have these girls or these are banned they don't know and they kill this and you need to train them professionally today many people get frustrated just get emails whatever i have in the email uh i have this girl take it look it up waste the whole day call everybody else make everybody crazy you know what this boy is you know what this girl is but meanwhile till we have such change in cholesterol everybody has to make in this black five men weekly meetings five ladies weekly meetings every street every show every shiva every coast goal we have to show appreciation that they're doing the helicopter and how much cervantes they need because they work so hard for all of us and the zadies and bob is too many of them retire they have hours every day they have opportunity for the anakur they can't mix him but they can help calling shahanam they could do a lot and everybody should think what to say see them writes chapter 504 how much pain did you have when you were looking for siddha for yourself when you were getting older you were hoping people will do for you and now your own kids and your own friends are going through the same pain but we forgot this is a here that every parent has to do i once came to my rabbit to stone him i was mewish i told him i gave up what you have to do you have to give them nice clothing you got to give the money you got to do this but what can we do what can we do it's very important to have to talk about this besides everybody has the kabbalist and rohnias to work on themselves and help others for sudoku and have the talk and all that i want to talk about establish very important there's a tremendous mistake in the indian of establishment and i'll explain there's a contradiction between having betohan or make believe batakin and istandas which says many people think they have taken in one thing they go to the marketplace and one thing they have to talk about so they contradicted themselves with the problem the gomorrah asked the question with russian takashi here we know 40 days before and then you say it's kosher like chris yamsev why is it so hard harlequin sounds like it's the hardest thing you have to jump in with monsieur snapfish just like jumping into the amsterdam you got to do a tremendous established work very hard because it was like crazy amsterdam right and all of it says the gamora has taken soit and the gamora zotero the vagrant the vichaini and we don't know the shot [ __ ] mark who's the seventh shot in the show in marie's you're gonna die you'll take away the [ __ ] that's what the commerce says and therefore the barbershop arrives from this gamora you see that you have to tremendously shadows because maybe somebody's downloading he's not it can't just be doing a shadowless and the illness of rhyme the karaoke rights and mohammed shallam involved the same thing that even though it's tall enough of the hebrew m he writes the following question how come yaakov avina worked so hard for shidduch seven years and seven years why he didn't know what's examined me do you know that they call him why do you work so hard you could see what happened by nelson navi he means by nassar he was that there was nothing of he said in the videos that [ __ ] will be king after david but still nasa navi did every style that's possible to make island king that nobody should rob the kingdom from government hey you see even if it doesn't reverse hashem promises still you could take it away and he worked very hard this is what this writes that a person has to do start with strongest atlas what's up shots i saw a barbra and malaka beginning of malakami rights two answers even when hashem says is always untonight on a condition it doesn't always mean it's going to happen therefore you could change it a second reason he writes that even hashem promises it has to come bad so sometimes you got to do a tremendous establish and i say 386 rights many can go through hardship so if everybody anybody's going through a hardship he's in good company he says sometimes you're shyam everything goes easy but sometimes sadiq him have have a very hard time specifically in shidduchim and he writes so therefore a person even though it's my shirt you need tremendous restless now that some soil writes in simon hey you don't make a shakiano on marriage of a woman even though it's a mitzvah kadush in the syrian you have to make on the clothing all the gifts but in that you don't make why so he says different than the whole world what everybody thinks what we think everything hashem gives you is directly from hashem a [ __ ] even though it's called out hashem wants you to pick so it comes out that when you get this [ __ ] this time because you did it the opposite of people think some soy should be similar now when it comes to panasonic it comes to edo drink did you ever go uh is this the bread that hashem wants to come on my table did he send it to me this is uh the cup of water hashem sent this cup of water to me exactly to me now or maybe if not the kappa what hashem sent me maybe not a drink it's not not the right one when it comes to everything panaso you don't have what to eat you'll go get you're fasting two days what are you gonna do you'll get food plus it you don't need money when it comes to shidduchim just when it when it's supposed to be our status like the samsung says everybody sits and says i don't know maybe hashem didn't send it to me maybe you know maybe i don't know if it's my [ __ ] i don't know mine i don't know i don't know if the [ __ ] we where do we mix the status with patokan this is a clown goggle in you need filler and you need the strawless it's not regular startlist you need to do perfect estradales when yaakov avinu went to fighters war with aesop he did muhammad he did twilla and he did dorian you know what kind of gift he gave 550 behemoths he made a make more space between each one he should feel good about himself you know what kind of and they wish to promise them still there's two demons fellas doubtless and he has evidence of wrong he went for the [ __ ] what kind of struggles he went through you know how much chistadas do you need why did he have to go to rivka why did he make this whole spiel why did he go down there why it says in rashi and the pasha's veyra assumed there was a kedasya truck what happened hashem tells avram mavino you know who yitzhak shayta is rifkar three years old that's yeshida so ramaville knew exactly the name of the [ __ ] so why did he have to go make this whole establish this whole thing i answered my review and he told me once he told me because how then should it happen you could be you know hashem promise hashem says this the [ __ ] but it has to be but there are so how much status do you have to do asked my rebbe the kalina rebbe bismuth left till you find the shedder mitzvah to marry of your children and yourself till you find work by day and by night and the gemara says your daughter got older even your slave you should be shocked so i'm not the only one that's saying it with eyes of ghazal it's look at divorce this is a more ridiculous life it's different than the whole world but the state and pediatrics i'm giving you the address and he says it many times and it's safer he says it's examiners so why should i do shout outs is that the three types of xaris the three types of people there's some people whatever he's gonna do will make money or get this [ __ ] that's gonna go easiest by shut my shirt it's gonna go again no matter what it's going to go good that's one there's some people always go the tourists they'll struggle palaces but there are some people that it depends like the barbanal depends if we'll do a very strong established then i'll get a [ __ ] if not not therefore everybody has to be cautious everyone has to behoove that he's from the third group the holy spirit whatever you can you should do and you should do whatever you can to have a good cheddar this is a however he writes the opposite people sit at home and it's gonna be it's kosher accuracy i'm sorry and i know it's hot i feel i have the same problem it's very hard but the the question is the attitude how do you go to it the bhagavatam has a lot of them on it and it's and he writes to one person he gives a muslim he says there's two ways how to go to one way is you know yeah i'll listen i'll see if it's good or not and then i'll investigate it says you push it off you push over yeah this is not so good this is good it's in the listening mode but there's another way i have to make now a shidduch and as soon as possible and the question is how i'm going to do it to this person i think you're doing the first way that's we have all your problems you have to leave in it you have to be in it you have to think about i'm making a shitake now that attitude you have to go to another thing chile brought in also attitude how you go to it many people the way they listen to [ __ ] is it's probably the [ __ ] that is not uh pasik but the storm it doesn't make sense it's probably not the right shader but you know i can't push it away for nothing i have to have a good reason to push it away so be my variant suck the bombshell but it's the opposite way you have to go there with but hashem is for sure gonna send me a good shake or something that's good for me and then maybe this might be the one and therefore i have to look into it and then because they can be talking and like that the abstract will help mamela every father mother zayders and bobbers we have to work on the shidduchim hours a day till we get this thousands of shahranam around to help us out we have to be creative and i'll tell you a simple answer many people have a list of the 10 20 shattrath and you call them and they ignore you because you know they tried already and they gave up and you gave up and you finished let me tell you a simple trick what i did and it works i find a friend that has also a boy who needs the [ __ ] like i was under the [ __ ] and he has a son i tell them who would the chautronomy use he gives me six names and telephone numbers can i call them and say that i know you the university yeah hello are they both calling oh i know you should finish i don't know he knows me everybody knows me and telling me so yeah i'm gonna work on you then my daughter who is your friend's mother using fresh acronym there are hundreds of chatranim so don't stay stuck with the 1020s autonomy you have look for hundreds of new ones but work there are never so many people getting older i remember they used to consult with me with shidduchim and i told them i would hazak them as much as i can there's such that such shower i told them sometimes he was here snapfish you have to be increased jumps you got to look a bit like a british time said you got to look away at the at the thing that aegon interested no one could be done anybody but they couldn't be misguided by themselves but time is moving on and some of them that i know are already nifty they went without anything i once had a battleship but they called me up at the shayvin project she was crying on her phone she said i'm an older girl will i ever be able to become the mitchells of notion and what i ever have quits she was calling me on the phone time is moving they need our kids we have to help the older bachmann all the girls we have to encourage them they need physique they need advice but our boys say give me a few minutes i want to talk directly to them to the elder bark i'm an elder girl i want to talk to them have something to tell them i want to tell you never to give up i'll explain you why and i'll explain you how to me this is a lesson for life for everybody not just for the older bro but i want to talk to you directly from eden right a big fear became poor the two green that became poor they have two different attitudes one guy says you know i lost my money i gotta face reality i gotta see whatever's in life and that's it hashem will help he'll help me i'll go buy lottery tickets i'll try to look for a job in the paper i'll dabble in the extra tank till them harvest that amazing rights this goodyear 99 is not going to come back again unless there's an s you say but there's a different guy that was like van he lost all his money i am a veer i am agrees trying to talk to himself to tell himself i am a giver and i'm not going to let myself no and he's you remember i look for jump i'm agree he puts him into his head i'm excited i'm not letting myself be poor and he runs from job to chop to find the biggest job in closings and he doesn't give up everything with dolphins he says tell him what's the docker but he i am a great i'm not going to let myself he goes like that for months and most of the time he catches himself back harvest the medium speaks with this martial favorite hashem there's two attitudes now this is hashem but i want to tell you boys and girls that the a bistro loves you and you you're struggling with nissan sakayam if you go and say i'm and i'm gonna find the shidduch you know so many years passed by i'm getting older i gave up hope then you're like this great that you know we're lying and he said maybe something will change and i will maybe a travel attacker change we can do some growings happen we've been talking especially until them but you have to go like the second year i am becoming a cousin muscle tough i am becoming a color how am i going to do it i'm going to run to shut him i'm going to go and turn over the world i'll go to the meetings i'll have today i'll go out until i'll become a costume until i become a color that's the attitude you have to give and the more i want to tell you the al shikha khal deshiraj impasses vayetze look it up khaftes tazhan utress by leia he says we all have to learn from leia imeno i'm i'm thinking over your time because it's so important leia had so much hardship but by the end she got everything got half the schwarzenegger she got kahuna maurice everything leia got what happened to teach us that when he cried leia naraka she was crying and darwin hashem you know five things went against her that's what the ultra writes one everybody said yaakov and aesop jacob is the younger one he gets rochon and asap gets leia rojo was a beauty so for sure that goes to yaakov yakova third reason the fourth reason yaakov did yakov he did everything in his power to get rocco and not lay he told love on [ __ ] everything he did and that sadiq and then he did establish whatever he can nothing worked and the ultra says rocco was the real bazooka of yarkov in shema not leia leo was not his zook leo was extra the civic was rocco in shamayim came leia i have nothing i will be tears to give you yak with the big topic you wouldn't punish them with guys in shamayian that they should nick is wrong and not me but british if i'm crying i want to have she wants him i don't care if he doesn't like me i'm going to do your rats and i want to bring jerry's the guy he's wrong takes you more than everybody with power of filler that you should get your mamas have either she can to have what a year they should have thriller we all have to do tremendous establish and together with that the token and filler and we're going to have to make all the girls even if they can't go to chatham take five girls together make a group take your pain and use it to do something with it go to five go to the shop with five girls you'll see how she'll take care of it make a group group of ten older girls with ten shaquanam do something repaying the same with all the boys this is a tremendous tremendous hus one year he says there is a struggle with finding a shader the same server called the bachelor in it says i want to ask you for favor i know it's hard for you i know but i'm asking you if i favor the rebbe take this is how am i going to manage she has no money the family has the money i'll give vince on a broker but do me a favor this is take it you'll do the biggest mitzvah getting married and the talmud listened and there's some safer ran into called ninja and he said now i have what with the comedy i'm kipper i made this now i have what they come to him kippah banished him to rip all the gazers and make rakhima for kaiser that boy said the world is turning over and i said alright last time i spoke here the clioqa that says in pasha because he said that all the fallings are happening because of roshanara and now we understand tens of thousands should look i'm just being knocked out anybody no there's this you know you know what your lad is saying how you just know how to say you know how they're going to take it we need scrutin for the amber den the biggest horse is to make sure dorham to help people help yourself help your kids happy and it could help your friends help your neighbors in this course that you gonna do and help to help you crucible bring face up i want to conclude one story one more story i said it's because because you're gonna get physique i'll say it in short and we'll conclude with that there was once about there i got hurt first hand his father was struggling and having a [ __ ] then he married she didn't have any kids for 10 years there are obama told him that he's trying to forget he didn't want to give a gift he waited till 20 years he still didn't have kids he waited 23 years 24 years and that she was nifta without kids he was alta buch in the 40s 45. he didn't have a [ __ ] he he he was lost in life we're meeting but he had a lot of money he ran to the coastal one day and he cried and cried and cried and poured out his heart he cried i eat in the backstorm i wash it out to him and he tells him what are you crying about maybe you need help he says look i'm 45. and he should have a [ __ ] he had his wife for 23 years and she died and he had no nothing left from him went home yet he was the only of heaven he had no money and those times they did it he had a daughter 17 years old he called him up afterwards he sent the messenger i want to make a [ __ ] of my daughter because this guy was a giver 17 year old daughter 45 years old made a [ __ ] with the haste of torreira from the castle then waited one two three years invited didn't have kids he went up slumped his villa [ __ ] hey they got slump cameras to make big voice and after winter mcqueen's to answer 23 years he lost his first wife he died with my decoys and they got the [ __ ] but after three is still no kids what is it gonna be told him either some people don't have everything either money or children this is a kapoor the guilt but i want children so he was a soy the schwartz he was a soy and he tells him how can i save my money till i lose it so that i told him you could use half a hasset half for machinery for mahfuz fardham they didn't have gamaks and then for money the kitsam i said he had half half he he gave for him half we did he bought like a machinery to do hazard with eventually all the money got stolen and all the machinery taken away from him because the government came people gave him mushrooms they gave him a nervous they gave him rings they gave him watches and it was stolen so the police almost arrested him he says not me they gave me a mousekin i gave them a loan money so but andy lost all his money he had 12 kids and this is many years ago by now he has over a thousand eight o'clock my boy said this yet was struggling 45 he did not give up he went one hey there by the coils leia was crying without a castle and she got everything let us darven but don't forget to do strong professionally established as much as we can till we get you done for all of our kids and anika and all our friends and this is five one eight six five one or email ist your stevenette dot com the scout woman for coming dinner of the industry tyra 19th annual dinner will be in a few weeks on august 18th the great opportunity to show you how curious akara sato you've taken sure and helped with uh meru base of about this time throughout the year by putting ad in the journal in honor of rabbanim bushiro mu and joy et cetera calling ignara 718-851-8651 or email ist yeshivani.com or take one of the flyers on the table near the door